heartbroken and alone
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- čas přidán 15. 10. 2021
- a letter for you,
things haven't been easy this past month.
I think the main thing that I've been trying to overcome is the feeling of loneliness - in both my life and my work now.
The nights are the hardest, you can stay distracted during the daytime, but as soon as you lay in bed you have to face yourself and it's been the scariest thing ever.
as I'm writing this, I've been in Montana with some friends for over a week. It's been the best experience that has come at the right time. However, it only begs the question of what happens after this. You can only run from that feeling of loneliness for so long.
I'm still struggling,
the healing process is not linear,
there is no easy conclusion,
the pain is still there
and that is normal.
This is a video about my own human experiences and emotions that have been circulating my mind in the past few months.
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Thank you so much for all the support on this video
One year later update on your mental health regarding this?
Your valnerability is inspiring. What a beautiful story
this comment.
max is here
Oh you 😃 here
I love both your and Simon’s content. You both remind me of each other and you both inspire me. Thank you for making your videos.
The hardest part isnt loosing them, its seeing how another one won her, how he makes her happy and how theyre doing everything we used to do. Love can bring you the most joy and the most pain and i hope youll find yourself again simon.
Love, a stranger
Hurts a lot
@@bhaveshkapoor6906 hurts like a bitch but hey we heal eventually
Truly spoken my brother
it really is, especially if you're the reason you arent together anymore. it really hurts if you urself arent happy and still missing them, even more if they find that person sooner than you did, or than you could heal. It kinda makes you think that you didnt mean as much to them as much as you thought you did, if that makes any sense. whoever reads this and is going through a breakup or something really tough. Its gonna be okay :) i know it will, because i said so, you got this, i believe in you. - love, a stranger on the internet
My guy preaching a little too accurate.
i relate SO much to this part 8:00
its been over a month since i broke up with my boyfriend (fiance?), i cut all ties with him and blocked him everywhere for the sake of my mental health, i just couldn't stand seeing him with somebody "new" while i was grieving the relationship.
as much as i hate him for what he did, i just keep remembering what it was, i miss telling him everything about my day and asking him about his day, having long talks throughout the night, all those bad times where we supported each other...
3 years which we've been together, and now its gone. As much as it hurts to not have my favourite person anymore, the thing that comforts me its that i'll be fine over time and that i'll be a better version of myself.
Don't be like me and squander your time, just living aimlessly and working like everybody else. That's not being a better version of yourself, or moving on either. You have to face the pain, let it amplify to 11 from the exposure, and make an actual plan of activities/goals for ACTUALLY making yourself better.
I'm 28 and I'm going through what you're dealing with, simply by reconnecting with a 15 YEAR old flame who has become successful and has moved on ages ago. I stagnated for 10 years, and was never a healthy teenager to begin with prior to that. This year has been the most painful process in improving myself (mentally), and I'm not even halfway there. I've lost 42 pounds and need 10 more. I need to build muscle. I need to stop wanting to desire "better" jobs that pay more but just take more of my time and because everybody else looks socially superior compared to me, especially since I was never the academic type. I have a decent paying job now that can reap me benefits if I eliminate my stupid consumer debt, and I can even move up to a decent pay if I take more responsibility later. I want to learn to sing. I want to start a vlog and channel in general. I want to diversify my earnings if that ever produces money, too.
Meanwhile, through all that planning...I am dealing with the intense regret of my last 18 years, and improving yourself is so painful because it involves facing your lost time, potential and current body dysmorphia. You may never feel enough even when you're better than a month ago, but you have to bite through it, and hope the angels don't give up on you.
this is so freaking good dude
Holy shit my 3rd fav Asian person
a friend like u is rare, mainly cause this generation is all over the place and finding someone as wholesome and chill as you is basically like winning a lottery nowadays, have a safe life simon I hope you find your way.
OMG i’m so glad I stumbled across your channel. I’ve been looking for chiller, more aunthentic youtubers who don’t scream at me to buy merch 😅 your channel is so refreshing!
Glad you're here! :') appreciate it
Went through a really hard breakup and really needed to watch this. Thank you for helping and showing the absolute beauty of everything, I struggle with the bitterness of being left behind and the pain of not wanting to be angry at them but ultimately I just want to be loved again. I’m happy to know the feelings you conveyed in this video shows that I’m truly not alone
We're all going through it bro it's the most human experience. Learn from it and love deeper going forward. We're going to move on and we're going to be happy forget being bitter be kind always 💪
simon, i feel like i am lonely right now too, my friends all have their own lives but i dont really know my own life. i try to make new hobbies and be busy but in the end, like you said i always feel like im waiting for someone to text me, even though i know my friends are there. im glad i watched this and i will forever continue trying to understand life and deal with feelings. also ur singing is great!
This was comforting and such a reminder that healing takes time and it’s up to us to do so at our own pace. I’m in the process of moving on from a sort of breakup myself and have been going through the motions of well- all the emotions. Hope you and many others in the same situation find inner peace in time, because we all deserve it 😌
*your voice so soothing simon :)
LONELINESS IS A SOCIAL PAIN BUT LISTEN YOU OUT THERE YOU ARE GOING TO BE OKAY . BELIEVE IN YOURSELF & FOCUS ON YOURSELF . GOD IS WATCHING YOU .
Try journaling it helps. It won't completely remove that feeling of loneliness, but it definitely helps in the transition. It's one of my "be your own best friend" activities that I do to just let it all out.
Man I only found your channel last night and you have helped shape my life so much. You have no idea the impact you have on others thank you for doing what you do
As a single i can tell you, I personally write stuff rather than telling someone. 🙃
These videos help me so much. Thank you for making me feel like I am not on my own
I can relate so much. Thank you for this I really needed this video !
This video is amazing! Thank you for sharing. I am too going through a healing process
The EDITING is SO GOOD!!!!!!
I adore your channel and its content! Keep up the great work Simon
ur videos are always so inspiring! thank you for making me feel like im not alone
Your videos are so inspiring whoa love your content :)
loving your videos!! I just started watching one ep yesterday and now I find myself binge watching the rest. been wanting to do that solo roadtrip for a while but not have the privilege to do so. but your videos make me feel like I'm at the same moment as yours! thank you!
really enjoyed watching this !! Thank you for the inspiration and the feels. Can relate right now to similar things you talked about going through in this video
Please make more of this, it's very inspiring.
I love how real this is. This channel always expresses my thoughts and feeling so well
you are so wholesome
this was beautifully inspiring, really makes me sure that everything will always get to a point where it’s okay again
Found you today and subbed. Going through a breakup as well and feeling so lost. But embracing your emotions is the most important to healing. Learning to love yourself again and work on becoming a better version of yourself daily is key. Keep up the much needed content!
love the editing and u're such a sympathetic person 🚀 all the love 💌!
Simon, you’re doing amazing. Your reasons to smile series on Tik Tok was one of the things that kept me going last year.. thank you. Life is still really hard, but I’m more hopeful now.
Don’t forget, you have so much time. You have time to process, time to heal, time to grow, and time to exist just as you are. Sometimes avoidance is my knee jerk reaction to things that are hard to process, but it always comes out in other ways if I don’t take time to process and maybe talk it out with someone. Yes, it’s important to be comfortable with yourself, but we exist on this earth with other humans for a reason. I hope you have real friends, and that you guys can both lean on each other when one of you lacks strength. If you don’t, I promise that if you keep searching, you WILL find some.. I rlly didn’t think I would. But it happened :,)
I don’t personally think that being comfortable with yourself as an individual means to have to be happy by yourself all the time.. It just means that you don’t forget your worth, or who you are even in a group of people.
Life must be so hard for you right now, I’m sorry. Sometimes life sucks and there’s no way around it >:O
But I hope you can start to feel better. Take your time. Keep it wholesome :,)
this was amazing thank you so much
I love the up beat song it got me up and dancing and feeling hopeful and happy
I love these videos they make me cry happy tears (sometimes sad tears)
Just discovered you and gotta say, I'm very grateful I did. Very nice to see a wholesome guy just letting himself out there it's very motivating
i really understand you! Keep trying! You are loved!
Thank you for this video it helped me a lot.
Thank you for the advice! I came from Max recommending to watch ur video!
I love this video so much, and we really appreciate how vulnerable you've had to be in showing both the good and the bad. Thank you Simon ❤
wholesome vibes!!
i just saw your channel a week ago...and you are changing my life in a better way...and this video, mahn i am also going through the same situation and hope you had gone out of this right now
thankyou simon!!
the way you make me feel 1000x better
You're so inspiring. You don't have to always be like that, you can be lonely. It takes a lot of courage to talk about your feelings to someone, especially the crazy social media. I hope you realise that a smile like yours is a worth lot more than you think. Just be your beautiful self.
Just found your channel and instantly felt a deep connection. Thank you so much for such inspiring words making me alive again❤️
your videos are super inspirational and relaxing to watch. it's amazing how you did something instead of being curled up in bed all day after a breakup (which is okay too), and I know you'll move through this and come out of the situation stronger :)
I love your content❤️ I’ve been feeling depressed and having a hard time coping. You somehow came up and you helped me so much. Thank you for giving me hope ❤️
Found your channel yesterday and watched few of your vids. And to be honest seeing you being so vulnerable I can relate to you so much. Life isn't easy and in the platform of number and high value content, you're just trying to show a part of your life and treating it as a healing process and a memorable way to look back into life as all. These thought of young simon will always stay on the internet. Just willing to leave a permanent mark in this world through this vids even when you won't be there. You really showed me a way to show my mental state and thoughts to as many people as possible by making vids that matches the emotion (without being clingy to 1-2 person). I am an oppressive person and i learned from you to let go emotions that are in my head and the world wont be cruel as much as i thought it would if i do so. I appreciate you and I understand you. Have a good day simon.
i have been in the same stage as he is rn for about a year and ive been just starting to get used to it eventually, and now i just realized i never nowadays tell anyone or anything about my feelings, not even talking to myself about them. ive just learned its better to keep them locked in inside of me so i dont have to drag other people down with my problems. much love to you, simon
these videos are saving me right now
you probably wont even see this, but ive been going thru it recently, and ive been journaling my progress. i discovered your channel and the amount of similarities in our observations is incredible and it gives me hope. Its inspiring. Thanks for doing what you do
Your story is beautiful,I too am currently going through a one year break up myself and its been nearly two to three months since but i still find myself in a similar place and the healing process takes a while and a whole lot of patience, Keep up the great content and keep it wholesome.💜
I’ve found comfort in your account. Tysm
This video triggered too many emotions. The authenticity is incredible. I hope I can be as real as you are someday.
Thank you bro. You may not know it but you actually saved me from depression with your videos from the past. I owe my recovery to you bro. You are the man! 😁
I love you Simon ♥️ and even though you don't know me but you saved my life so tysm for that
The starting quote alone is amazing ❤
Went over all your videos and I'm loving it. More contents like this, please!
I just got out of a relationship that I thought would go for ever. You're helping me get through it. Thank you Simon
You got this Simon. It may seem like you haven’t progressed in forever but that is the best progress you can made. Just give it time. We love you and support you.
Hey. idk if youre going to see this but, second time ive come here in the past three months? (but second heartbreak which both times i came here) and its really easy and helpful to get lost into your videos and what you say help block these feelings. im glad youre doing this. thank you for helping me.
End part is totally relatable, 100%
I feel the pain man
It really hurts
Really.
You’re going thru a tough time and so am I but you’re literally someone I look up to, probably a few years older then you lol but you more about life then most adults. Respect
So beautiful, so relatable, so touching. Inspirational.
hey man every thing about your videos seem so relatable to me for some reason Maybe because I’m In a same Situation or maybe I also just get out of my relationship. But every thing about your videos it so relatable and so inspiring and the same moment
thank you so much for your existence 🤍
I was soo much sad today.. and then i found your videos whike searching comforting video.. thank u soo much.. i hope you will be happy💕
Been going through the same, we’ll get through it bro. Love you.
Your videos help so much. I genuinely thankyou for these videos. Im tearing up in my bed at 12:20 in the morning because all these feelings I have shoved so far down for her are now being able to scratch the surface, so I really love you bro and appreciate these videos sm
new favorite channel 🖤 it’s 1:17 am and I’m on my 3rd video of yours and each has made me feel something. I’m a artist that lives in the middle of no where and idk why but dude I jus relate to you. Long comment but it’s so cool to see your dreams coming true!
I’ve been on my fair share of solo trips. The highs even out the lows, for me at least. My last video was about being lonely actually. I didn’t feel like talking to the camera so I just captured what was in front of me. Kinda like a symbol of looking forward. The feeling of loneliness always passes and it makes you appreciate the good times more 🤙
went through a breakup a few days ago. it’s not easy, 2 years down the drain and breaking up 3 days before their birthday.
it’s so painful, the bitterness left behind, the lies of them telling me that they loved me, sleepless, cold nights. but i want to love again. i don’t want to be alone
You're not alone
7 months later and I hope.. you’re okay now :) or at least, to some extent if you aren’t fully. Going through a breakup isn’t fun.. it rlly
Isn’t, especially 3 days from their bday for you. Love is so weird, it can make you feel so much joy yet so much pain at times. Idk who u are or where ur at in life rn, but I hope ur okay :)
I want a bet that one dislike is from the ex cause there is no way someone would not like this very inspiring video its just amazing how hes doing this for all of us
I'm Brazilian, I'm learning English, I liked your channel, and I hope to grow in my learning while I accompany you on your travels.
I was already in love with these shots and the rawness of these voice recordings .. and then you played mgk at the end ❤️ i have those thoughts too of feeling lonely at times even though you have people you can reach out to. Hope you’re doing alright these days
❤❤❤
You are loved ❤️
Thank you for sharing this 🤍
You’re so loved.
literally speechless by this vid
the dominic fike made this video 20x better already. love the content man
This was beautiful :”)
Hope that you are feeling better ❤
you win my heart man you said exactly what i feel . It's been 2 month for breakup from a 3 year beautiful relationship atleast it was beautiful for me . We share every small stupid things and now having no one feels like shit . There is this heaviness in my heart which in not going away it's like i can't breath properly and most of the time pretending to be ok but I am not . So true that we can't escape the healing process. I feel the very well now . I hope one day I will learn how to live without her . There is a line which says " It like you feel my lungs with beautiful flowers , it is beautiful but now I can't breath " :)
bro!
i wanna thank you so much for your courege and utter frankness for man! I really appreciate this and respect every moment you shared with us publicly🙏🏿
As a woman like me hears this truth and frankness of feeling and loneliness i don’t see much for man. But for me it creates a huge healing for me
You are such wonderful human being, Simon , you are sooo rediant
I can’t wait to see you grow and flourish in out world ✨.
I really love you Simon Kim♥️
THE QUALITY AND THE CONTENT IS AMAZING
much love janet :)
I hope you are feeling better and taking this time to focus on yourself and mental health love you so much Simon
Thanks Christine
Your so strong I don’t know how I could heal from a 3 year relationship ours lasted for 2 months and I thought that he was my forever person and I found someone who finally got me and when it ended and he lost feelings I didn’t know where to go and I’m still trying to heal. You inspire me so much ❤️
Simon your so inspiring!
i love your editing, your music choices and everything! i ordered a bracelet
Much love - appreciate that so much :)
Found you from valspire. Staying for the aesthetic and the music taste
Amazing video homie
No matter what Simon, just know you don’t have to go through it alone man… because God is there for you too, always
keep doing what ur doing sk, love u bro.
Your channel name suits your videos so much!
This video deserves more views
This is so good
This deserves millions of wiews
Thank you Simon
you're unique person!
i know you are not going to see this but, thank you for this video i cant say it helped on a large scale because i forget things very fast at the moment. but it helped in the moment. i see myself a lot in this video. and thanks for making such good content and being real and a good person. we need more of you in the world.
maybe a weird question: can we call or contact? it would be nice to talk to you. if you dont want to i understand. again thank you for this channel.
Love the montell fish in the intro
this is so good