I love my kids but I hate being a mother
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- čas přidán 2. 07. 2024
- My kids are absolutely amazing, I have a pre-teen who is creative and inquisitive, and my toddler, man she amazes me every day. They are both smart, beautiful and so loveable. I love them to death, but I do not like motherhood.
Thank you for sharing this...I am in my late 20s and have decided to not have any children and people always try to pressure me into doing it. Including men that I have dated attempted to trap me without a ring in the picture. I have been able to protect myself from the regret of having any children and watching these types of videos help to remind me that I have made the best decision for myself.
I am so glad you have stuck to your guns. Take your time babe, you are not missing out on much.
Heavy on trying to trap us with a kid but don’t even offer a ring!! I don’t want kids either but all the guys are all like but they would be cute! Cute? Oh because most of the heavy stuff would be on me, no sir leave me alone
@ymarrero23 thank you for that💖💖💖and I’m sending lots of love and peace to you and your baby. You are more than a baby momma. Idc what society labels people
I made the same decision!
That’s right don’t let these guys change your life, they get you pregnant an then move on 🤔 you stuck with his shitty kid, then when you meet a guy you truly like you got baggage miss Tiffany stay cute an live life 😤🔥💯🤤
I feel like women in general don’t talk about A LOT of things realistically. Growing up with a single mother, I was responsible for helping with my younger siblings. Because of this, I got to experience the day to day of what it would be like to raise children. As an adult, I didn’t aspire to have children because I understood what it entailed. I almost fell into the fantasy of motherhood with my ex before our marriage abruptly and fortunately ended. Motherhood is very selfless and I don’t think many realize that before becoming a parent.
Same ! I still take care of my sister still till this day. And I can tell you even at 18 they will need help. She has a job, in school , & soon to be ceo. I told her until she is set I’m not having kids. I think as women we are more aware vs our parents to make better decisions for us.
You are dragged if you talk honestly. So you keep it to yourself and seek the comforts of CZcams videos, chat rooms, and blogs to vent🤷🏽♀️
You are absolutely right you can't be selfish with another human being depending on you unless you have family to help or give the child or children up.
I relate to this so much im the oldest sibling of 5 kids and I was a mom at 13 :/
Totally agree.
I had this chat with a friend of mine who’s expecting. She was like “I feel like people glamourise motherhood and no one actually speaks about the sucky side of it. How is it that no one ever says motherhood sucks, how is it that all/most women LOVE this journey so much? Is it the reality of it or women feel the pressure to love it because that’s what the society requires them do?”
I think it's a bit of both babe. Society requires us to glamourize it. It's really not everything it seems to be
OMG!!! I’m currently pregnant (I planned it) and I can’t believe how rough the journey is. Now that I’m complaining, everyone is talking about oh yeah that’s the tough phase and yeah these are the other horrible things that can happen. Why do we glamorize this “natural” process in life??? It’s tough! It shouldn’t be normal.
I feel guilty to admit it. Maybe it is because we know not all women can carry. My sister can't have any more and she really wants more.
I love my children but
I literally feel bad that I do not enjoy pregnancy or motherhood.
Hi if you feel like having a chat or doing. A quick question. Procasting about. Motherhood
That will. Be 😎
Take care love you
Yes you are correct it's the pressure.Im sure my mother never loved motherhood because she would not have told me on my 44th birthday that my birth was the worst day of her life and this is not even targeting me and I truly don't feel attacked and understood she was speaking her truth although no child should have to hear that.remember I have my own children who are adults themselves so yes kurough this is a thing and at lest you are now opening a can of worms with this topic
I had one baby and sat my ass tf down.
Same my son finna be 9 years old this summer Learn my lesson the first time
Amen !
🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂 come on!
Girl I thought I was sat down but my dumb ass had 2nd 13yrs apart SMH I hate it here.
Misery loves company. There are some mothers out there that love being moms but a lot of them just got caught up trying to fit in. I grew up seeing a lot of single mothers struggle to raise their children. I knew at a very young age , children would not be in my future unless an amazing man came into my life . I give you props for being honest .
@A J just how it sounds, you don’t know what trying to fit in means smh lol
@Stamped Adventures crazy thing is sum so call friends try to ostracize you for no wanting kids. We all don't have to be the same.
This is a very honest video. I'm a young single mom as well. Everyday after having my child I realize why God meant for marriage first and then sex after. Sex is for pleasure but it's ultimately for reproduction. Yes, people may get divorced and become single parents later down the line, but I think the chances are far less likely if you truly know a person before unlocking that new experience. As a single parent we have to think of finances, keeping a roof over our head, school, career , AND raising the children. All of this burden was never meant to be on a single parent.
Yes and thats what it is ..a burden. Im also a single parent my BD does what he want when he wants and I shoulder everything SMH and its so stressful. God didnt want it to be like this. Thats why you either get married or stay single and i wwish i remained single at times. Still love my kids though but they are hard. I have no help and it gets really real.
@@sixteen.candles.4644 it's crazy how the dads just act so nonchalant and us mothers take on all the heavy lifting. Plus it takes a village and I only live near my mother who still works full time. It's definitely a struggle
👋 if you. Feel. Like having. A chat?
Can share experiences. And tips
Thanks
@@simplysony7308 yes that would be goof
What are you. Day rutin?
Do a video what you do any hobbies?
It's inspired n important to have a live wih out th e kids.
Do you have a babysitter?
I feel you. I’m a mom of 1 child, I love him to bits, I also enjoy being his mother. What I do know for sure is that he is enough for me. It would take a lot for me to consider having another one. Motherhood is exhausting and I don’t think I have enough energy to pour in to another child. It took me all 5 years to start thinking of myself again. I’m overweight, overwhelmed and out of style 😂.
Motherhood is a lot mommy and we don't get to complain enough 😒
I was right there with you. I ended up with a surprise baby nearly a decade after my first. I am so devastated. And I can't say it out loud without a mountain of judgement. I'm hate giving up my career. I hate the risk to myself. I'm so, so sad and depressed 😔
Whew I felt that last statement. Same sis.
Oh man those three O’s is where it’s at! Can completely relate
Motherhood has it happy moments but the Flipp side of it, no woman is equipped to go through that journey alone it's meant for the man to be in place & play his role as well, woman now a days are up under more stress then ever, it start to produce high cortisol level in the body which cause weight gain & so on...So my prayers goes out to all mothers with no help just remember to carve out time & take care of one self as well✨
Respect to all the mothers out there. Motherhood looks hard.
Im here to tell you that it is hard.
@@sixteen.candles.4644 No lies told sis
@@AS-so8dh it’s actually hard.I hate been a mother .single mother
@@orejobz9533 I hope things get better for you.
It's one of the hardest things a woman will do.
Currently feeling like this. My baby is 5 months and her father is present and helps a lot but I still don’t like being a mother. I thought that I would love it because I’ve always pictured myself as a Mom. I feel bad to say it but it’s true. I hope my feelings change because I’m starting to feel extremely depressed by it and I don’t have anyone to share it with. So thank you for posting this video!
You just have post partum depression that all you’ll be fine
If you have the resources, I would recommend looking into a therapist that specializes in postpartum depression.
If you are in the US please ask your pediatrician or obgyn for help on who to contact. Also, get your thyroid levels check. Having a baby can throw your endocrine system off and low oevels can contribute to suicide and depression. Doctors don't think to check if something is physically wrong sometimes.
Wow
👋 girl
If you feel like talking lets chat
Take care
It’s sad that you had to keep repeating that you love your kids so ur words are not misconstrued 💔
Yoh Pammy, when I posted it on Facebook a few months ago, the comments said I don't love my kids and I shouldn't have had them 💔
I feel you! I haven’t had a break in 12 years! I just feel depleted in every way! I have no help, no family, no friends. Just me and my son and he at the stage where he wants to talk back all the time! Just stressing me tf out!
Not sure if you already have done this but maybe try putting him in activities and get him a male mentor.
Story of my life
Is allowing your son to go with his father an option?
Hi girl feel like having. A chatt?
Would you be interested in a procasting motherhood.
Share. Experience and so on.
Take care love 😍
Same with my 8 yr old on top of her mental health issues. 😔 I’m tired asf doing everything alone.
I go back and forth so much with the idea of marriage and children. I’m 31 soooo I have no kids or no husband. But omgggggg I feel such a sense of peace and relaxation when it come to just the solitude I have when I’m with myself. Sometimes I feel guilty because all of my peers have kids and marriages but here I am and I feel absolutely fine. I was depressed when having toxic relationships and I’m just getting to the point of feeling fine in my life. I know I do have that maternal instinct however I know that motherhood is ALOT of work. I’m not sure if I am willing or even capable of keeping up when I know my mental health will decline so rapidly if I was a mother. I’m just trying to make sure I make the right choices for myself in the long run. I’m not even worried about what others or society thinks at this point 😂
I am 32 and man I love love love my niece and nephew. I video call them everyday and I enjoy them. I would hate being their mom. It’s good to accept that you don’t want or aren’t ready for kids even in your 30s
Don't give away your freedom girl lol. Stay put wherever you are. Don't give into any temptation of having children whatsoever. Flap your wings and be free please
@@Thoughtsbyme-ts4jz I love my nieces and nephews and misses them often. But I'm reminded all the time why I love my solitude and peace when I go around them and after a day of so, lol
Good for you girl..do you.youbknow what we need women like you who choose not to have their own but have a maternal instinct maybe you'll be a mother to your friends children and that's ok...I hope you find closure...dont be pressured by society they are not going to be there when there's trouble
I'm 27 and it definitely crosses my mind...I'm just NOW getting my career going and still have a ways to go... self care and self love is needed for sooo many women right now.. for now enjoy life, love, laugh and have fun on the journey 💜
It's funny how this topic is made a taboo when so many people feel this way. Thank you for allowing yourself to be vulnerable enough to share.
Pay attention who are the people that want to indoctrinate women into giving birth when there are barely any resources out there to sustain such a taxing job
Exactly
I'm 25 and I don't want kids at all. I set a goal for myself to just focus on my life being childfree. I wanna travel. But its hard finding a husband who doesn't want kids. Women benefit very little from motherhood tbh.
This generation is just crazy selfish
You're not alone there hey. I'm 24 and I've made a conscious decision not to have kids. Dating is a struggle because every guy I meet wants to get married and have children. Mina I want to get married and enjoy life with my spouse. Now when I meet a man, the first thing I tell him is that I don't want children. Then he will decide if he still wants to pursue me or not.
Yeah, I agree with you & I'm 27. Little to no benefits in mothering humans.
Yeah there arent many benefits seeing as you can die during child birth, your body wont be the same, your man can cheat during or after pregnancy and he can always leave you stuck with the kid.
IDK, @@sixteen.candles.4644 a partner cheating is just that - a show of his character.
Ask yourself why you want to have kids. Is it because society expects you to, or do you have any other reason? Are you financially prepared? Are you mentally prepared?Do you know yourself well enough? Are you patient? Are you compassionate? Are you ready for sleepless nights? Are you prepared for the changes your body will go through? Are you doing it for the outward appearance? Do you have a supportive partner? Are you trying to keep someone? Do you assume that they arrival would be a main source of happiness? Are you doing it out of boredom? If you are not sure, you are probably not ready. Some people have unwanted kids and treat them like trash.
That is an excellent question that many need to answer. I have never had a desire for kids and I’m 36, not married. I always thought I would have kids IF I got married because it was expected but that is not a good reason. And finding a suitable partner these days is incredibly difficult. A lot of men are not suitable partners at all!
Wow this comment is everything, the bitter truth 👏💯
I think it all comes down to the “village”. It takes a community, a covenant to raise children. We don’t have a lot of that anymore. In our modern world, women are expected to work, have babies, stay in shape, take care and keep a man, while looking pretty. We’re also expected to not complain or cry about it. I have two young kids and I can completely relate to this. Growing up as an only child, with two parents who are hands off and emotionally, and physically disconnected I get this. Your tired all the time, crying because your misunderstood, overwhelmed, and drained. I CAN relate to this all!
SN: I think the women who “love” motherhood, are women who have a lot of help! Help is a privilege.
AMEN!!
Yes! It takes a village. Not having help makes motherhood so stressful! We live in a society that is anti-family.
@@Geometry.dash-player768
Exactly!
They probably have a two parent household along with 2 income household,and probably a car and also not having to pay for everything alone!
I hate being a single mother and single in general because I want a husband and I want to date!
I need another person to pour into me!
I feel so ugly,tired,drained,depressed, and very stressed!
I don't have friends that I can depend on or friends I can trust!
I have been exploited my whole life and it sucks because I realized I've been a sucker for love and friends!
Most golddiggers have better outcomes when it comes to dating, marriage, and kids because they choose what's best for themselves!
AMEN!
I’m 39 years old and I’m married. We’ve been together for 13 years and we don’t have kids. I was stuck babysitting my siblings when I was younger and I was over the kid thing and after a forced abortion from my parents at 17. The pregnancy and what happens to your mind and body after, I barely made it through.
My husband wants kids but it’s more of a fairytale idea. He has a kid but because of custody issues with the mother he never really got to experience being a full time parent. I already know he’s not built for dealing with it 24 hours a day. He doesn’t know what he’s getting into. I am willing to go for a surrogate but I refuse to go through pregnancy again.
I have lost more than a few friends after they have their babies they get on my nerves. They are either pressuring me to have kids, criticizing me because I don’t have kids, or become extremely jealous that I can do what I want and I don’t have kids. And further more most if not all become single within the 1st 3 years after having kids even if they were married. Husband or not, I know it’s all bs which why I can’t bring myself to do it.
Don't have kids if you don't want to sis, not even by surrogate. Men say they want kids and then dump all the labor on you. It's a trap.
Why is it we refuse to live and let live? Just as you don’t like people pushing children on to you, some probably don’t want your “freedom” that you think they want. I’m sure there are downsides to having kids and downsides to never having kids- this life is not a utopia. I wish we could just respect each others’ views and life decisions.
@@omowhanre Notice how I said "Don't have kids IF you don't want to". Who is pushing what?
Hi enjoy your life do not study ppl you are not missing anything being a mother being a mother is not enjoyment it is a mental task right now I am dealing with migraines headache because of my kids
My mom convinced me to have my kid when I was 18, she sold me a huge dream of helping me, and talked about how bad it is to have an abortion. The father passed away. Now Im doing it on my own. I’m 27 and she has the NERVE to ask for more grandkids. Nope! Not if my kids don’t have a village. Stop trying to set me up for failure
This one is genuine and my condolences for your lost.
Do me one favour though read these comments and pay attention to who sound different from you. It may be subtle but it’s a lot of significance. Find a good objectively positive tribe and not subjective babble
Same here my mom convinced me to have my son when I was 20 and considering having an abortion. I love my son but I really wish I would've went through with it and not took my mother's advice. Raising him without any family or friends is really hard and quite depressing at times.
@@brit2669 only thing I’ll say is “women” .... fake ass (as non biological ) sisters would fight for each other. 90% of us come from baby mamas so what that mean 🤣
@@brit2669 moms would really do it wouldn’t they lmqo
Motherhood is mostly hard when you are trying to be a good one because it’s easy to be a neglectful parent. Never hesitate to speak your truth. Make time for that bath, girl.
Motherhood can be overwhelming sometimes but I love being a mother. It's one of the things I can honestly say that I'm good at. I feel bad that so many mothers are feeling this way. Prayers for you all .
yes it's a 24/7 role FOR REAL...but I'm like you, I love being a mother as well...I think I took to the role well...couldn't see my life without being one. It does help that I have a husband who is a present father as well.
I would agree I love being a mother
I resonate more with the woman in the video when it comes to motherhood, but this is what I try to explain to people who don’t seem to understand when I say I love my kids to death but motherhood doesn’t fulfill me. Like you, there are many women who genuinely enjoy being a mother and are really good at it..it’s like their niche/purpose in life. And then there are others like me. But honestly I envy women who actually enjoy it and are good at it because part of me wishes I was more like that. Have honestly tried but it’s more like putting on a mask and faking it. One thing I can say is I do enjoy quality moments/conversations with my kids and try to make the most out of those moments.
My friend has a supportive and present husband, a community of her in laws and her family but motherhood has left her emotionally and mentally exhausted to the point where her body has taken strain and landed her in hospital and she had needed therapy. So I support mothers who are honest about how exhausted it is. My other friend ebrh has a night nurse but isn't coping with the emotional demands. Hugs to you my love
I am so sorry to your friend, 💔.
Motherhood is only beautiful when the Father is around, they go hand in hand, the Father and Mother balance each other out when they're both engaged in the raring of the Children.
Seems like there's more than two people necessary in the house. She needs an additional person.
@@sydneyepps5513 she needs a Father for the children ideally she needs the childs father, to share with the loving on the children, each one of them loving the child builds and grows a healthy child and an environment of loving competition that brings out the joy of motherhood.
That’s only if they father is attentive to both her and the child. There’s a lot of married women who say they feel like nothing more than a roommate, sex toy, and a nanny.
Love dies in marriages w kids. Most men only prioritize their own discomfort & go to find ways to live their lives as if they don’t have responsibilities. Then leave women to lose their minds by doing everything alone.
@@pm0913 this is why communication is the key to any relationship, a lot of people choose mates based on superficial qualities and when they fail they blame everybody but their self, this happens to both men and women, we have to start picking better people to be fathers and mothers or live with the consequences of our decisions.
Exactly. Not just the father but a village bc it is stressful.
I feel your pain. I also don't think it's motherhood you hate. I think you may hate *single* motherhood. This is understandable because that was never God's intended plan. Women were not designed nor built to carry such a tremendous load.
I have to disagree, I have many friends and family members who are married and they are still exhausted. Not everybody has the same limits and not everything is for everyone
Yesss I feel the same I miss my old life of being alone only worrying about me being a single mom is soooo hard I get depressed sometimes motherhood is insane nobody talks about this im glad you did
Exactly
Thank you for sharing this with us, and yes, your feelings are very valid. I didn't admit to myself that I hated being a mom until last summer when my 4 year old son went up to visit his dad for a few months. I felt such relief and such freedom that I hadn't felt in years. I love my son, but up until I had him I never experienced depression, anxiety, and an overall sense of misery like I do now. I feel like I'm spinning my wheels and I'm unable to make any progress career-wise, socially, etc. My advice to young women is to please live your life and figure out who you are and what you want before allowing yourself to get pregnant. Five years doesn't seem like a long time but I am very different now at 30 than I was at 25.
Thank you for the advice
Thank you so much for this video. I'm 33 years old and I am child free and got my tubes tied (tubal ligation) a week ago! I'm half-Nigerian so my decision to forego having children is a HUGE TABOO. I haven't told my father about my sterilization but I have felt this conviction that motherhood isn't for me since I was 15-years old and I have constantly had my choice to remain child-free invalidated by family members as well as the men I have dated. They all tried to pressure me into "starting a family" and acquiescing to their ideal rather than just finding a woman who wants children.
This tubal ligation (tube tying) was a huge spiritual milestone for me in being my authentic self!
I feel so at peace with my decision in a way that words cannot even describe.
Honestly, even if I got married, I would STILL feel just as you do, sister.
You're not alone, Queen! 👑
So happy for you on your tubal ligation. I’m getting a bilateral salpingectomy soon and I’m so excited knowing my body will not betray my stance about kids no matter what.
I applaud you for being able to exercise your freedom of choice and quite frankly, when pitted against the grain, it is best to stand your ground and spread the narrative of your personal experiences. 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Well done for choosing you my love
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I’m happy for you. Congratulations, but I’m not understanding why you have to share your personal information with your dad as if he can dictate your body?
Is it a cultural thing?
I personally think that women need to stop over sharing what we do with our bodies to men because they don’t share anything with us.
A lot of men feel entitled to a woman’s space, body, conversation, energy etc
I’m childfree and too many men felt the need to comment on my decision and I would tell them it’s none of your business what I do with my body…
What I eat doesn’t make you shit.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I have a ten and six year old and everything with kids just feels never ending. I love them but I wouldn’t do this over.
I hear you 100%, mommy. I don't even know what to tell you but just know that your feelings are valid and don't ever feel bad for feeling this way
Amen Sista!
I just came across this video and its very relatable to me. I am 33 and I don't have kids. I am a nurturing person and people always ask why I dont have kids. But I honestly think I wouldn't enjoy being a mother. I love babies but everything that comes with being a mother, I don't think I would like it. Motherhood is alot and the pressure that society puts mothers doesn't help.
I’m sad to admit I’m 25 and I don’t want to do it. I wish I wanted to have children but I honestly don’t. I don’t want to be stuck at home for the first 2 years only spending time with the baby (best case), or working long hours, and having to come home and be a mom (worst case). I do t want to kill myself slaving over another human being.
If you really don't want kids- don't have them. Motherhood *is* very difficult, stressful and time-consuming. The benefits come from seeing your children thriving. If the benefits don't outweigh the difficulties *for you* , then perhaps the journey isn't for you. There is no shame in being truthful with yourself and if kids are not for you, be true to yourself🧡
Then don't do it. Travel the world, live your life, eat ice cream. Do things that make you happy and take care of yourself. Because you only get ONE life. At the end of the day, you come back home to you. Hope this helps. ☺️
(Ice cream actually sounds really good right now, oh my goodness).
Have fun! 🎉
See this is why I shouldn’t have kids. I don’t want to raise a child, I love kids but I like being alone
Everyone likes to be alone because of social media
@@oncode7735 it’s not that. I have set up a life that I love. I have so much freedom my friends and family with kids don’t have. I don’t want to tuck in someone at night everyday, I love it when I do it for me niece twice a year. Frankly, to be honest motherhood doesn’t seem like fun, it looks like an extra job. To me, just to me, I don’t think it’s like that to anyone else at all
@@Thoughtsbyme-ts4jz Good that you realize this now. Dont have kids.
Thank you for your honesty and spreading awareness. I am a 35 years old happily married for 15 years and a successful career. Still undecided about children because I love my life so much I don't want anything holding my back. Motherhood is a lifetime sacrifice. Keep spreading awarness, women's mental health shouldn't be taboo.
If you're not sure about it, just don't go through with it. You love your freedom alot, and there's nothing wrong with that. Society's expectations are weird. As well as other people that pressure or criticize you for not having kids. 9 times out of 10, when people see you with no kids, after awhile some people will actually spit out the truth that it's hard to raise a child.
It doesn't sound like you hate motherhood, it sounds like you hate SINGLE motherhood.
You're not getting a break or a chance to care for yourself. I hope you get a lot of support and help/resources around you. Everyone needs that.You're not strange for struggling with this huge responsibility alone and despising the struggle.
Exactly
It's single motherhood that's her problem. She should have titled the video that way but was probably scared of the reaction
There are married women (and men) with all the support in the world that hate being parents. That's why they are anonymous support groups on Facebook for parents to share their regret if parenthood. Resenting being a parent is a reality for many.
Or she actually does hate and ur invalidating her experience cause it's not your experience with motherhood
A lot of married women feel the same cause you still never get a break, even with a fully participating husband. Motherhood is a lot, especially the early days
I know married women with lots of support who still hate motherhood. I think it totally depends on the woman 🤷🏾♀️
I'm single and have no kids. I love having the freedom to do whatever I want without having to worry about anything. Kids are cute but are they're of work.
I have an entire loving, supportive, and helpful husband and I feel a similar way. This life is EXHAUSTING! I didnt feel this way after having my first, because she was in childcare and I went back to school so I was getting a lot of help from family. Now we have a second and I feel STRETCHED THIN between my husband, a 6yo, and a 1yo baby. Everybody needs me in a different way, and I feel so tired. I also feel a bit sad,because I feel like I dont have time for myself. I'm essentially put on the back burner daily. I do feel nervous to communicate my frustrations to other women, for I'm not trying to get my head bit off by all the "happy mother's." Its just really hard. There's so much to do all the time. Motherhood is not what I thought it would be at all.
This is understandable, But the part that’s confusing is that you had another child knowing you don’t like being a mom. Also knowing that you feel your first child is better off being raised by your mom. That’s the confusing part….
I think she said that with her first child she wasn't sure she didn't like motherhood because it was new to her. She said the second kid confirmed it.
I agree. Part of her had to have realized or had a sense that it wasn’t for her if she felt her first child was better off with her mother…especially because it doesn’t sound like she had her as a young teen or unfit/on drugs, so what other reason would you give your child to your mother to raise? I completely understand the struggle so I’m not judging her, but if that was the decision she made after her first, she had to have been conscious of the fact she didn’t enjoy motherhood and/or have the energy/resources to have another one.
I thought so too
She is speaking for all mothers. Whether you are a mother of one or a mother of two. You are still a mother. Even if she didn’t get the second child she still would have felt the same way she is feeling now. It’s about being a mother
Honestly we are trying to do something our mothers didn’t do… raise kids alone. I have a husband but because we stay far from family, it sometimes gets intense. Our mothers had support structures but because of the way our lives are set up. We are in these situations. I completely understand you and have felt some of these emotions. I struggled particularly with my first, my second was easier
I’m not even thinking about a second. I think it’s this individualistic society we are in. Collective societies live with more family members, mother, grandmother and more people to share the load and offer support.
I completely understand and feel what you’re saying . I feel the same way and I only have 1 child. I love & take great care of him , and give him so much love, however motherhood is hard . I have no life whatsoever . If I could go back a few years and start over I would have told my younger self not to have any kids . Life changes drastically. And it’s so hard especially with no help or support system .
It was easier in the past because people were more close and had help. Life was also much simpler
@Cary Sontag easy for you to say. She only has 1 child.
Exactly ‼️
My two children are now 29 and 26 and neither father stayed. When they became of appropriate age, I told them both: If I knew then, what I know now...you wouldn't be here, so you are blessed and highly favored...don't do the dumb shite that I did.. to my daughter I also said, your own father wasn't there for you so don't think you're better than me (there's a context to my harsh reality to her as she thinks she's smarter than me...but I bet you she won't bring no baby in this world behind pipe dreams like I did....mission accomplished)I told my son...don't make a woman a single mother and certainly don't sleep with any woman that you can't see committing to and mothering your child(ren)
One Duke graduate engineer son
One beauty entrepreneur daughter
I'm 48 and ZERO grands...thank goodness...I am enjoying my freedom that I missed in my late teens and 20's and I'm young enough to WAIT on grandkids until well into my 50's...I may be able to knit more than a scarf by then.
Hold tight ladies. Don't beat yourselves up...women trying our best tend to do a LOT for others and it's tiring especially when it isn't reciprocated.
How did your kids accept hearing you tell them that? I love my kids but regret bringing them into this evil world. I don’t like the pain they go thru from their dads not being present and my personal health issue that altered their lives. I’m so glad I only had 2, they are grown now but they aren’t living their best potential.
I agree with every single word. Im also a single mother of 3, 3 different ages, 2 girls and a boy all pulling me in different directions. I have to wear so many different hats all the time and its nonstop. I often just breakdown and cry from being overwhelmed and frustrated!
Feeling this in my soul!!!! Literally had my first son at 21 and whheeewww I lost myself and have been trying hard to find myself again 🥺
Me too I was 24. It's so hard to achieve your dreams when you're a full-time parent with no help. It leaves no time for your dreams and goals. I read a comment here and guidance from God is the best answer
When you said “ I don’t know who I am anymore “ yhoooo ha.a I felt it friend. I ended up being a mom influencer because this human has taken over my whole life.
Your feelings are valid and sana it is what it is. Thank you for sharing this with the other moms who feel like this and can’t put it into words. ❤️
We are so much more than "someone's mother" ❤️
Motherhood is a mixed bag for me. It can be overwhelming, and they're dad is present in the home and he does his part. It can still be annoying sometimes with the constant arguing and fighting, the never ending responsibilities. But, on the flip side, I enjoy exposing them to enriching activities, travel and watching them grow not only physically but emotionally. I go back and forth wanting to run away though 🏃♀️
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I’m a mom of four. I truly love my kids more than anything, but motherhood is exhausting. Of course there are many factors that shape any individual experience, but in general mothering is 24/7. I did regret becoming a mom at a fresh 22 years old…then I became a single mom when my baby was about 10 months old. There are many moms in relationships but still “single” as far as getting no support, but being truly single is rough. A couple years later I met my now husband and we started having kids. I can’t really imagine my life without them, but many times I’ve felt like I shouldn’t have had kids. Like the world sucks a lot, and I could just deal with my adhd/depression/anxiety without worrying about screwing up my kids somehow. But I try to be better for their sake.
I’m trying to not write a novel here, so I think one of the biggest factors is money. From my American point of view - we are expected to work work work and then die lol… So much of life revolves around having to make money to live, and of course if all you have time for is work/bills/chores, that’s not enjoyable. When I worked I had to get kids off to school or to my parents, work, come home and deal with chores and kids…then repeat it all again. I see moms that have a lot more money, and they can afford to outsource their chores regularly. It’s very different when you can pay someone to watch your kids, bring your groceries, clean your home, go on trips, etc.
Another big factor is family support. If I didn’t have my parents and sister helping me (childcare/moral support), especially in those earlier years, I don’t know how I would’ve made it. My parents are a short drive away. And my in-laws are hundreds of miles away in Mexico, but I see how many of them live together, so they have built-in support. A lot of moms don’t have that.
I think that it is extremely important to talk about your feelings. I’m sure just talking in this video released a lot of your stress, even if it was temporary. I found that I felt this way a few years back when I had 3 kids all around 2 years apart. It honestly gets better as they grow and become more independent. Now I have 4 kids and I know it’s really hard. I never had a baby sitter or help with taking care of them. Then I would work at night on my feet and dealing with people at work. We as women really take the brunt of the work in the house and in parenting. It’s important to have good friends or family to talk to. I also agree with you that it’s better to work outside the home just to get a break away from the kids. I hope you feel better. It helped me to not go out much with the kids and do things that they enjoy. The main problem I see with parents is they try to enjoy things that kids don’t enjoy. They go on trips that aren’t kids friendly and the kids ruin it for them. The main thing is to try not to sweat the small stuff and take it easy on yourself. Don’t worry about what other people think. I know it can be easier said than done, but you know your situation. I know it has to be extra hard for you as a single mother. I pray you find a way just to feel like yourself again.
Your content is soooo relatable. Thanks for starting this channel and representing us. Your openness and honesty is remarable.
Thank you so much for your support
I felt this entire video in my whole soul. You are not alone
I’m right there with you, I’m 40. I had my son at 34 and I absolutely adore this lil boy. His dad passed when he turned 1 month and it’s been downhill for me (as far as motherhood) every since. This is not what I envisioned as a mom. My friends that are moms seem so happy and proud and I’m like ahh you’re also married or have the child’s father with them. I’m not one of those Moms that’s like “don’t grow up to fast!”….I’m like I’m you’re only 7??? Boy hurry up!!! 🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣 girl I was the same way! I thought he’d never be 13! Now he’s 17 and I am on edge. I keep thinking if I will ever feel the way about life as I did before I had my son or if he will ever leave my house and get a life and let me breathe. These kids today stay home ALL day! Don’t get me wrong, I’d rather him be home than in the streets but I wish he wanted to do something extracurricular. I did not have much support when he was younger and now that he’s older I Cannot get time at home to myself. I’m always worried about everything because I fear screwing him up and that he can tell I hate being a mother. I love him so much it hurts tho. But I hate it.
@@MeMyself984 omg yes! I fear messing my son up DAILY! I feel so guilty at times because I want some time for me but he’s like a Velcro midget!! Lol I can’t go downstairs without him following me. And don’t let me close my door!!! It’s WW3!! I understand Mommyhood is a full time job but we still deserve mental down time for ourselves. If I’d known I would be doing this without his Father being here I’m not sure I would have even attempted to have a child. BUT, WE HAVE THEM FOR A REASON!!! GOD FELT OTHERWISE AND BLESSED US!! One Day at A Time Sis!!♥️💯🧿✨
This is such an important conversation to have. I delayed being a mother and I was judged heavily. There were things that needed to happen in my life before I introduced a human. And as much as I love being a mom - it is exhausting - on all levels. You are required to be ON all the damn time. And I am shook that it is getting worse as she grows. And as much as I really want number 2 now - I am wondering what number 2 will feel like.
You get judged for not wanting kids, you get judged for having them too early, you also get judged for waiting and having them a bit later? Yhuu ah ah
😁not a joke
I actually see this in a LOT of moms. The moms who are actually loving, take them everywhere with them, always plan activities and spend time are the ones who were ready and truly desired to be a mother. They are fulfilled. Idc, attack me but the abusive moms who yell, get irritated and are impatient with kids weren’t ready and I feel like it was treated like a trend to be a mother also most of those women only had the child to keep the dad around. I really sat with myself and looked at the world then me and said I don’t want kids. At first I said until I have everything in life and enough to take care of them but I really don’t think I want that. I just want to love and be loved by a man. That’s it.
When I had my 1st, it wasn’t so bad. Doing parenting when your spouse isn’t helping was stressful but manageable. Then becoming a single mom had it’s challenges. When I had my second, then I felt the change. The kids start fighting and becoming competitive and possessive. You hear yelling more, and that becomes more stressful on top of all other obligations. Then you question your life choices. When you don’t have a support system to help with the load, then you lose yourself. I think I can say it’s been 3 years now where I felt unhappy. Maybe the pandemic made parts worse, with you being more isolated. Sometimes I feel like becoming a parent has made people less wanting to be my friend, because my hands are tied up, or they don’t want to be around children. Like spending time with my kids but not all the time. I need time away from them to breathe. Hate when you admit those feelings, people look at you like you’re the problem.
Hugs. I'm feeling it with you!
People want to be your friend but if they don’t have kids listening to children chatter can be annoying. I have a friend I didn’t talk to for years because every time I called or she called me her 3 children would be in the background crying, arguing, or just playing too loud. While I was on the phone I would get migraine headaches. I would be so sick It would carry over to the next day. Now that they’re older and in school we talk all the time again.
@@bella28498 that's why I don't like calling people. For some reason the kids want to get in your face, song, get hurt and cry, through fits or fight when I get in the phone.
@@Kay.4892 🤣🤣🤣 yesss I notice kids love when their parents are on the phone to try to get their attention. I love kids and I love my friends kids but I do suffer from sensory overloads like loud noise and bright light. Don’t ever think it’s personal.
@@bella28498 Oh I know It's a lot I can't deal myself. It's nerve-wracking , head and drum (ear) hurting.
I respect you sis, you're not alone! :) I think this is more common than we know...a lot of people are scared to admit this truth for fear of judgement. I believe you love your babies but are not so keen on motherhood- the two can be true at the same time. The fact that you are aware of how you feel and honest about it- will make you a better person (mother) for your children in the longterm.
Thank you for sharing and speaking up. I’m expecting my first child and the idea of motherhood is frightening. You aren’t alone girl. Sending you love 💕
Wow!!! So glad I decided to come on CZcams to see if this topic has been discussed because I’ve been feeling like this for 6months now. I had my daughter at 30 and I absolutely LOVED the idea of becoming a mother. She turns 3 next month and I’m counting down the days of when she turns 18. I’ve been telling my family this for 6 months now that I absolutely hate being a mother. It’s NEVER ENDING with no reward. Motherhood for me would have been 10x better had I made sure I had a degree, career and village first. Also didn’t realize my daughter dad was a FULL BLOWN NARCISSIST or I was just too self love deficient to care. But that’s a whole story. I don’t EVER plan to have have any more children. Worst thing I could have ever done. ONE & DONE !!! Thanks for sharing
Hi Mandy! I am so happy you had this discussion. I found this video because my boyfriend wants to have a child before we get married. He says a child will change his mind about marriage...I considered it because we have been together for so long and I love him. watching your video made me cry. I don't think i can do that for him.
Please do not have a baby before marriage. Sounds like you want marriage first & he wants a baby first. This is not something that you can compromise on. You compromise on what to have for dinner or what color to paint a wall but not the conception of a human being under circumstances that meet his wants more than yours. Please think long & hard on this before you proceed.
Please DON’T carry before you marry! Having a kid is the biggest gift you can give a man & the least he can do is marry you! Also, kids often put a strain on relationships so it’s best to get married 1st before he wants out.
Stand firm. That can ruin your life. Men will say this and leave. Even marriage could lead to abandonment. Children change people. You only know him as a single man. See him as a husband. Then, see him as a father.
And also follow i regret having children on facebook for more perspective and other people's stories.
Thanks for your replies guys. We had the baby conversation just yesterday and I agreed that I would have the baby before marriage but since then, he's texted me that the baby's name will be "Bhekumuzikayise" a traditional Zulu name which loosely translates to "protector of my father's home" lol (I hope he never sees this comment) and he's since been referring to me as "Ma kaBhekumuzi) which means child's "mom" with excitement and joy. Its confusing that he doesn't have the same joy about potentially calling me "my wife". we've been dating 8 years since varsity and I know he loves me but this is very confusing. Having read your replies, I will not be going through with this baby thing without the marriage. I just hope it doesn't mean I lose him in the process.
Yep, sleeping is a myth. Hubby pointed out that he feels like I am always awake. The moment baby goes, "Mama" - I respond immediately. It doesn't matter what time.
I’m so happy that you had the courage to speak your truth… motherhood is very challenging you have every right to express your opinion. Motherhood is challenging in many ways!! I’ve had these moments myself I thought I was going crazy. I have one and I always get you only have one *rolls eyes*. Your doing the best that you can, take it day by day sis x
Thank you so much for this honesty. It is such a taboo subject but so many mothers feel this way. I wish more women would be this honest so you wouldn’t feel like you are a bad mother, which of course you aren’t. This narrative that motherhood is the path to happiness for all women is total bullshit.
I've always felt like but I feared being judged...i relate soo much....thank you for this video Sis
It's my pleasure mommy. This is a safe space 💖
This is why the vetting process is so important. The support of a good man and his family goes a very very long way. Motherhood isn’t to be taken lightly because it’s real work.
You can say that again
I'm 33 and Im not married and I don't have kids and honestly I really don't know if I want them, thank you for your perspective, bravery and honesty, it is so refreshing
Man… being a mother is truly exhausting and a thankless job. You are not alone. I wanted to make a video about this but was too ashamed to. What keeps me sane is making sure I do things for me, as a single mother I deserve it.
Exactly
BEING A MOTHER MEANS 100% BEING SELFLESS. I JUST CAME TO THE REALISATION THAT MOTHERHOOD MAY NOT BE IT, AT LEAST NOT FOR HUMAN BABIES. ITS A LOT. I WILL BUY A PLANT IF I FEEL LIKE IM MISSING FULFILLMENT.
I was watching some parenting videos the other day and the lady said something that hit home for me. That we should be enjoying motherhood and we should be enjoying the journey in the moment (here and now) instead of being overwhelmed and hating it because we can’t cope with full time jobs, the house chores, the unhelpful partner and the wild kids.
This combination is what’s killing motherhood for us. I mean let’s imagine having disciplined respectful kids that don’t make your life a living hell by arguing, talking back, fighting with each other and trashing the house. Imagine having a helpful partner who knows his duties towards his house and family where you don’t have to remind him/fight him to help you around the house and with kids?
Don’t you think if we had those partners and kids we would enjoy our motherhood more?
My 2 boys drive me insane with the arguing and fighting. I find myself dreading picking them up from school 😒 They're only 9 and 6..
No, I’ve heard stay at home mums who don’t work say they didnt enjoy motherhood as much as they thought they would…
@@DuchessOfSuccess it’s actually worse for stay at home moms to be with those kinds of partners and kids. At least we get to take our minds of it for few hours a day and earn our own money to spend it on ourselves when we are at the breaking point lol
A happy SAHM is usually one that chose to stay home because she wants to, not pressured to do it because of the cost of child care. Having support from friends and family and having hobbies that she enjoys helps a lot too.
@@Nka861 yes, it has to be a choice or you don’t enjoy it, even then it comes with challenges. I think it comes down to balance. Women can feel too overworked when they’re working mums, or underwhelmed when they’re SAHM.
Yes! 🙌🏾
I appreciate this video so much. I'm not a mother and I feel ambivalent about motherhood. This perspective is so valid and so important to share. I appreciate your transparency so much and I hope you know that you are doing great as a mother❤
Motherhood isn’t for me either. I appreciate and can relate to this so much.
I feel so bad for my kids 😞 they think I hate them when I get so overwhelmed when they don't listen to me and get so frustrated doing everything alone.
Tell them to blame their absent Dad...
@@Liteskinblacknotmix3d you are crazy why giving an advice like that??? They are children jesus christ 🙄
I appreciate you for these honest conversations ❤️.
I shared this with my sister last year... that as much as I love my son (he is undoubtedly my favorite human), I absolutely dislike parenting. I’m a single parent so it wasn’t about just motherhood for me, it was everything that encompasses parenting.
I discovered that loving parenting and loving your child are COMPLETELY unrelated. You can love parenting and not love your kid. You can love your kid and not love parenting and you can love them both. I wish I could just dwell in the space of just loving my kid and not have to think or be concerned with planning play dates, meals, budgeting and shopping for all the shit they need, doing laundry, dealing with other parents at the playground and school, homework, school projects and activities, the psychology of it all, the necessity of constant interaction and interfacing and having to check my words and behavior because I know they can observe everything. Parenting has you engaging all senses 24/7. That has NOTHING to do with loving your kid. I don’t enjoy having to be engaged with one subject matter 24/7.
You never know whether you are going to enjoy or dislike parenting until you become a parent.
Although I LOVE motherhood I felt and understood this video so much! Especially as a single mother, it is just exhausting and so tough! It can leave you feeling do emotionally and physically depleted! Sending my thoughts and prayers to you! 🙏🏽💖
This is beautiful. Thank you sis for your honesty and realness. I feel all you said and I am struggling as well. A good mom is a mom that first knows herself. Some people are afraid to admit that they don’t love it because they are afraid of being talked down to. We need safe places to speak. Bless you sis. Keep shining. If you need a friend we can find a way to communicate. I truly mean that
I'm 23 with a 3 year old and I was a bit taken back when I seen the title mostly because I never heard anyone say it, but I definitely don't think motherhood is for everyone, so I personally wouldn't knock anyone that say it. Me personally, I find myself very maternal and nurturing and love everything about motherhood. It's literally a 24/7 job, that gets stressful, and I define stress in two ways, good stress and bad stress, but motherhood for me is good stress. I'm thankful I have a partner that allows me to be me/hang out with my single friends when I want, and support my dreams and goals.
I don’t have kids but always struggled with the idea of it cause I love things to be about me lol I’m glad u posted this tho it’s SO important to hear both sides✨
Yes I love my child but I don’t enjoy the responsibility of being a sole caretaker.
Which isn’t your child’s problem
Thank you for posting this. It's very interesting to hear this from someone else. I love my two year old to death but I relate so much to some of the things that you are saying.
A lot of women say they enjoy motherhood or that they wouldn’t change anything because of the judgment society places on us. You’re damned if you have kids and don’t enjoy it and you’re damned if you decide to not have kids.
I openly speak about how I would’ve appreciated a heads up on how hard it all is. And all the things they don’t tell us about postpartum. That was the hardest part for me. I didn’t enjoy pregnancy, the first year after I had my first child was one of the worst for me and I’m married to a great guy. But we didn’t like each other. We had to rebuild our marriage after becoming parents. Motherhood is a LOT and it’s not for everyone. Kudos to you for speaking your and so many mothers’ truth 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
So refreshing to see someone willing to be so honest about this. I have a daughter, I love her! She's literally a dream, pure perfection. However, I hated being pregnant and I'm pretty sure I'm not built for motherhood. Hearing my partner talk about babies has me like 😑 because I don't think I envision myself doing this again.
I don't currently have children, but I appreciate your transparency! It makes sense to love your children, but struggle with the process of motherhood. Wishing you all the best and more good days than bad!
I honestly am so appreciative for you and this video. I have been struggling so bad with being a mother. Constantly feeling like I’m wrong or “the bad guy”. The loneliness and guilt trips suck ass! But knowing I AM NOT ALONE, makes this seem so much easier. Thank you
Exactly ‼️
Motherhood showed me how much of an introverted individual I am. I need extreme amounts of solitude that I don’t always receive and it takes a toll. I steal time for myself NOW. There used to be a time where I would just crash and burn from being overwhelmed.
I enjoy motherhood but I hate what society has placed upon mothers. Going to work pregnant until your 9th month. The pressure to have the babies and go back in six weeks and still be on top of your game when your sleep deprived, milk is leaking from you and you just need someone to care about you. Not the newness of the baby.
You’re an amazing mommy for identifying a problem and making the best decisions for everyone .
I came into motherhood lightly. I wish I really considered all the responsibilities it takes to be a mom. Geesh it's no joke and very very tiring at times mentally emotionally and physically. I love my children so much but I wish I considered a few things before doing it and yes I'm married and have lots of help and it's still hard. I give single moms their flowers cause it's No Joke! If I knew what I know now I don't think I would have became a mom. That's my honesty and if judgement is happening as you read my comment judge yourself. Lol
Hello dear sister. I am not here to judge but to support. I am a mother since the age of 24 and yes being a mother choosing to become a mother is knowing and realizing that u ready to give up everything including your freedom. These babies innocent children didn't aks te be born right?.. So I pray for all mothers to always put your kids first no matter what. And then take care off your own mental emotional spiritual health🙏🏾keep taking the responsibility and try to release the burden of being mother each everyday.
Sending love and prayers for you for answers. Self care … time for you mentally spiritually and physically!! You are healing and you are motivated by love. You are growing stronger with this is therapeutic for you to have a voice! I love you ❤️
As a 34 yr old mother of two (3 yr old and 7 weeks old) I wholeheartedly share your feelings. I love both my children dearly but my pregnancies along with Motherhood have taken a huge toll on me mentally, physically, and emotionally. It's nice to see that I'm not alone, I've felt so guilty even thinking this way let alone saying it out loud. I don't want to discourage any woman from having children but I'd advise women to really take their time when choosing who to procreate with. Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing your story.
Thank you for sharing on such a topic that no one wants to share or talk about because of being judged by people who don’t understand. ❤ liked, followed and shared. I truly struggled with this since I had my boy at 18.
He’s going to be 15, I love him more than anyone ✨
Motherhood is real. I can't even watch this video in peace without my 1yr old crying every 2sec. You can't knock off from motherhood, no sick leave, no day off, it's go time 24/7 and its exhausting. So I totally relate!
Im glad u all are speaking out and sharing ur truth, however I would HATE to be a child of a mother who resents being a mother and hates motherhood. Even if she loves me, at this stage u have others to worry about besides your self. I know it sucks but thats just the reality of things when you choose to bring another soul into this world u will forver be responsible for their well-being. We can easily see from society how this type of emotions turns mothers into bitter child hating woman who take out that rage on their child and then cry to sleep because of guilt. This is a complex subject that needs professional help not people in the comments encouraging this very unhealthy way of thinking….
I agree 100%
All I can do is feel bad for the children because they are the ones that had no choice in all of this.
Can you stop being sensitive sally and just let her vent. I would appreciate my mother to the upmost if she kept it real with me like this. She’s human too just like you
Thank you so much for sharing this. I was just thinking about this yesterday. I love my kids but I do not like being a mother as much as I love my kids 😔
Kudos to you to tell your truth! I think women are just mean to each other and don’t support one another. I don’t have kids and I know what it feels like to not be allowed to say what you feel. You’re only allowed to say motherhood is a blessing and is life’s purpose. But there are so many unwanted children in the world and motherhood is not for everyone. My mother hates being a mom I saw it sensed it and it left a lasting impression on me and will till the day I die. I don’t want to do that to another person. We need to be honest with ourselves. Thanks for being honest and sharing your story with us.
This. I’m worried for the children of these women because they can definitely sense things.
For new moms that aren’t feeling like themselves/don’t want to engage with their babies/aren’t finding life as fulfilling: postpartum depression is REAL and effects a majority of mothers. Your hormones have just been completely shifted. Our society doesn’t talk about it nearly enough and leaves many new moms ashamed to admit they aren’t feeling overjoyed by their little one. There is TREATMENT, talk to your doctor❤️.
❤️🙌🏽🙌🏽So true, I’m expecting and I’ve decided I’ll start therapy soon as I pop. Because I’m so lost, I need assistance from specialist despite having an extremely loving & supportive hubby….
I feel like mothers who experience postpartum depression struggle with this especially. I definitely have my days.
Thank you for sharing. I definitely can relate ❤️. I haven’t found an answer, but here is something I do: I get up at 4 am to meditate because that’s really the only time I have to myself 😅. I just try to detach from everything during that hour - including being a mom. It helps me let off the pent up frustrations that I experience and helps me reconnect with God to try to cultivate some peace within the constant whirlwind of being a mom. I’d love to be able to sleep longer, but I have found that I really need that time. Much love to you and all moms experiencing this ❤️❤️❤️❤️💪🏾🙏🏽
Thank you so much mommy. I’ll try getting up earlier or at least sleeping later ❤️❤️❤️
I’ve been doing this and it makes such a big difference ❤️❤️
Single moms go through so much. Thank you for being brave enough to speaking openly about your experience. I wish you all the best with the rest of your motherhood journey ✨
I feel like we are not allowed to express ourselves, AT ALL. I love being married but having kids, that’s another story. 👀👀👀 we get no support from family! We haven’t had a break from our sons in years!!!!!!!!!!!!! 😒
This was a very interesting perspective. I loveeee being a mommy. My son’s father is amazing and I am able to go through nursing school while he takes care of us. Growing up I seen my mom do it all (she’s a queen) so it’s an amazing feeling to have my son experience a healthy family. I salute you mama and you are doing a great job ❤️
You’re Not alone. I feel this exact same way. Being a SINGLE mother definitely robs us of the joys of motherhood. Thank You for letting me vent with you from my television 😂
Omg sending you love and prayers, motherhood can be exhausting although I do enjoy it. I’m fortunate to get A-LOT of breaks. Which it sounds like you need.
Thank you so much hun. Being a single mom is lot, I think I’d love motherhood a bit more if I had co-parents.
Motherhood sucks compared to what? Why did you become a mother twice? How could you love your kids and hate motherhood? What would you do differently if you were not a mom?
Do you think you're going to hate being a grandmother? Real questions, I am not trying to judge you, this is exactly what this platform is for.
This right here.
Compared to being independent and having a life. Life>Children.
@@minuit6305 spot on!!!!!
Thank you for sharing… its so damm hard. It definitely is a 365/ 24/7 JOB.. If you dont have a strong partner , village, or support then dont and avoid if ur on the fence about it. Its sooooo hard 😭😭 Girl I hide in the closet, bathroom, shower 😭😭😭
I’m not doing it alone but I completely understand and share the same sentiments with you about motherhood. I started my CZcams channel because I want to honestly share the other side of motherhood. Because it’s not all rainbows and softness. I’m so glad I came across your channel ❤️