@@Mr_Grinner this is the correct answer. And in my personal experience, you're the most attractive to good people when you don't look like you need one. Focus on yourself and don't settle for someone just because they're who happens to be near you, and you'll meet your person when the time is right. Sorry to go off lol, I just grew up with a Lot of desperate male friends who would act like relationships are just luck and they're destined to be lonely, and Nobody wants to be around that shit. Hearing your outlook was really refreshing, so I just wanted to show you support. You're doing it right, just keep going.
@@coleburns362 thank you for sharing your support and reassurance. I agree and believe wholeheartedly in your statements. What first attracted me to my husband was his self assured, respectful, yet humble demeanor. He was not grabbing anyone's attention and I thought that was so sexy. Just like my husband, I also waited for the right person. Meantime, I finished my Master's, had my son, financially independent, etc. I never thought "oh man, I'll never marry", etc. No, I focused on personal, spiritual growth and created my own happiness. This doesn't mean I was lonely; it just meant I was willing to not settle down. I so appreciate your words of support. You are speaking truth and wisdom. Thank you again.
Women want a challenge…that challenge can be interpreted in many ways…..I was a nice guy had a girl for almost 14 years…..she left when I was struggling…she didn’t even hesitate
It's actually psychotic. Look up the collection of incident of female prison guards that get pregnant and become practically slave to murderous felons. It is not a small number. Human attraction is not an intellectual pursuit. There is a reason why young girls were locked away until marriage. It wasn't the oppressive move people think it was. It was to protect from irreversible stupid decisions.
Had to rescue one of my girl best friends from falling for a fucking skinny drug dealer she met on a dating app. It was RIDICULOUS. She left one of my other friends who was such a stand up guy to have some kind of one third of life crisis with what I can only define as a simpsons character, literally a spoof of a human who called her side piece and always replied with “bet” Thankfully my male friend (her ex) found a good girl and they’re moving forward. My female friend is in shambles at the moment What is it with women…
Cnt be a victim with a nice guy or she was never taught to reciprocate a good man's effort. These oftentimes the true meaning behind leaving a good/nice man.
I was blessed with nothing but women in my life. Mama, sisters, aunties, my only 2 kids are girls. When It comes to women from all over the world ( I BOW DOWN TO ALL!!! )
According to sons X he is to good looking. She wants an "uggly" dude. Yet everytime he start dating anyone, she show up and need help or just drop in "cause they are friends". He catsit her cats when she goes on holiday... She always calling. 😮
Wow even as a good guy myself, the guy there looks good too. I feel sad for him. The women who say nice guys finish last are the bad ones and they are the same ones who complain after they been ran through by a bunch of bad guys and question as to where are the good guys when they want to settle down? You can’t have both. We good guys don’t need you we want good women. We rather die alone than be with someone that simply isn’t worth anything and is seen as many men’s leftovers. I am good 👍🏼
Heh.. And then later they regret in their 50 this old bad guys will find another younger version of you or even not your younger version of you.. Just younger.
Ladies, men are nice to you because you’re women…you’re not designed to be like us and it would be wrong to treat you the way we treat each other…It’s not because we’re “soft or weak”…
I'm the nice guy type and I've tried to be with certain woman that have been mistreated by their boyfriends that they left but those woman always put me in their "friends list" and those woman always find another guy that mistreat them, then they complain to me about the guy they are currently with, it's just annoying
My ex when she saw me get angry the first time and realized im actually a soldier... after a fight and when i turned to her to try to comfort her and show her my feelings for her she didnt want that and ran .... i just feel empty since and hooah fuck the idea of a good life like the old folks im not the same crop as it was
Because strong soldiers is whats gotten everyone through all of human history. But in times of peace theres no room for men like that. We cant ignore biological instict. My take on why everyones miserable
Let’s be honest, as a man you need a bit of both. My parents have been married for 26 years. My mum was in a 6 year relationship with her ex boyfriend before she got with my dad. I met the guy 2 years ago and could see why my mum broke up with him.
Women don't want the nice guys because they will walk all over him. Nice guys tend to make sure he is always nice and liked. Men, don't be the nice guy. Be the good guy! The good guy can stand up for what he thinks is right, but also being gentle.
Don’t confuse Simping and nice guy. A simp will allow a woman to continue to disrespect and him not setting up boundaries or telling her if she does this, he’s leaving. Because simps are afraid of saying it because they are too afraid to tell the truth. A man will tell her, you need to quit that, I don’t need you to do that. For example, hitting. If the woman is about to hit him, he says no. A simp will allow that to happen.
He wasn't nice then he just told you what he wanted to get in your pants lol. Women don't sit to think for 5 seconds that if you didn't throw the kitty at him immediately just because he's good looking, then you would be able to vet out what dudes want YOU and what dudes want your body. But nah girls hook up on the first date and Netflix and chill every time then wanna blame dudes because they're trash at watching for intentions. Like if you didn't sleep with him he'd either continue to pursue or leave you alone because he just wanted sex. Such an easy fix
If you need a challenge then I feel no pity for whatever trash relationship you end up in. For someone like that it's like you made your bed now lay in it. Any girl that says they want "excitement" and a "challenge" is gonna be a single mom by 25, and if not well it's just plain stupid to want that regardless. How about let's want a kind thoughtful and caring person like a normal human being and not a sociopath
I am not a nice guy. What I actually am is the nice guy what's the difference between a nice guy and the nice guy a nice guy is pretending to be me hoping that he can get what he wants from you before his real self is exposed. The nice guy which is what I am we will love you forever no matter what happens when path you take we will love you and we will hope the best for you what do you want in your life that's all I got to ask what do you want but am I begging you to love me hell no I love me the people around me that see that little bit I love me I don't need anyone else too what should you be chosen buy a man like me well it's up to you what you do with it you can create trauma and Horror in that man's life for you can build a life make your choice I really don't care cuz it won't affect me I love you all goodbye
And then women want to blame men for picking bad men because they pick losers, and then, in the end they want to say all men are bad no all women to make bad choices😂
Never confuse kindness for weakness
Better call Saul: howard
Say it again for those in the back.
Definitely 😂❤
If only typing could explain myself. But after that, I got nothing!
They don't want a nice guy because they know they don't deserve them.
Well then they need to do what guys do and become a better person so that they do. Ya gotta heal before getting another's heart involved
Word
Women who don’t want nice guys aren’t usually good people anyway
And they’re incapable of being nice in return. They’re attracted to chaos.
Good way of looking at it...
When they become single mothers, they go around looking for nice guys 😂😂😂
This.
Louder please and in all caps next time lol
Clean up their mess. Then get clapped and left by the nice guy too.
Preach it
"You let him hit it raw"
I love nice guys. I married one only to know he's a badass when the situation calls for it
see someone gets its thank you
Fuck yeah, If one guy can find a girl like you, then I know I can too
@@Mr_Grinner this is the correct answer. And in my personal experience, you're the most attractive to good people when you don't look like you need one. Focus on yourself and don't settle for someone just because they're who happens to be near you, and you'll meet your person when the time is right.
Sorry to go off lol, I just grew up with a Lot of desperate male friends who would act like relationships are just luck and they're destined to be lonely, and Nobody wants to be around that shit. Hearing your outlook was really refreshing, so I just wanted to show you support. You're doing it right, just keep going.
@@coleburns362 thank you for sharing your support and reassurance.
I agree and believe wholeheartedly in your statements.
What first attracted me to my husband was his self assured, respectful, yet humble demeanor. He was not grabbing anyone's attention and I thought that was so sexy.
Just like my husband, I also waited for the right person. Meantime, I finished my Master's, had my son, financially independent, etc. I never thought "oh man, I'll never marry", etc. No, I focused on personal, spiritual growth and created my own happiness. This doesn't mean I was lonely; it just meant I was willing to not settle down.
I so appreciate your words of support. You are speaking truth and wisdom.
Thank you again.
@@Mr_Grinner Absolutely 💞💓
Women want a challenge…that challenge can be interpreted in many ways…..I was a nice guy had a girl for almost 14 years…..she left when I was struggling…she didn’t even hesitate
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These ladies need to be taking notes
He is gorgeous
So on point Judge!!!!
They want the,”thug”. Ok. Keep him.
It's actually psychotic. Look up the collection of incident of female prison guards that get pregnant and become practically slave to murderous felons. It is not a small number. Human attraction is not an intellectual pursuit. There is a reason why young girls were locked away until marriage. It wasn't the oppressive move people think it was. It was to protect from irreversible stupid decisions.
Absolute truth
My wife needs listen to this , unfortunately I'm the nice dude she's not nice uhhhhh
So very true! 😢
Had to rescue one of my girl best friends from falling for a fucking skinny drug dealer she met on a dating app. It was RIDICULOUS. She left one of my other friends who was such a stand up guy to have some kind of one third of life crisis with what I can only define as a simpsons character, literally a spoof of a human who called her side piece and always replied with “bet”
Thankfully my male friend (her ex) found a good girl and they’re moving forward. My female friend is in shambles at the moment
What is it with women…
Fact💯💯
Because she is used to been played
😂😂😂too nice Wow "She foolish indeed"
Her last sentence. We say that, automatically cancelled. Tell em Auntie Lynn. Lol
One woman who speaks faces the truth 🙌
I want a kind guy❤
Cnt be a victim with a nice guy or she was never taught to reciprocate a good man's effort. These oftentimes the true meaning behind leaving a good/nice man.
After 28 years on this planet, somebody said an ending to phrase which I never knew it existed. Art is only abandoned.
Because you're not Nice...person either.
Great wisdom was spoken
Thank you Judge Toler
Society has it bsckwards,your kondness is not your weakness,its actually your strong side....
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The backwards one should listen to the judge.
I was blessed with nothing but women in my life. Mama, sisters, aunties, my only 2 kids are girls. When It comes to women from all over the world ( I BOW DOWN TO ALL!!! )
According to sons X he is to good looking. She wants an "uggly" dude. Yet everytime he start dating anyone, she show up and need help or just drop in "cause they are friends". He catsit her cats when she goes on holiday... She always calling. 😮
Amen!
TY Maam!
Dang
Sad for the man and her. But more sad for her
Truth
Wow even as a good guy myself, the guy there looks good too. I feel sad for him. The women who say nice guys finish last are the bad ones and they are the same ones who complain after they been ran through by a bunch of bad guys and question as to where are the good guys when they want to settle down? You can’t have both. We good guys don’t need you we want good women. We rather die alone than be with someone that simply isn’t worth anything and is seen as many men’s leftovers. I am good 👍🏼
Nice guys finish last 🌞👩❤️💋👨 that’s why I prefer them 💋
As a women i agree
To get a nice guy you need to be nice first. If you are toxic then go for toxic people
😂😂 can't make this up rip Kevin Samuels can't make this up😂😂
Good guys can be creepy and just hiding an narcisist underneath, so it depends.
I hope he doesn't get with that trainwreck 😂😂😂😂😂
Heh.. And then later they regret in their 50 this old bad guys will find another younger version of you or even not your younger version of you.. Just younger.
Life is marathon and you may want to finish last.....Nice guy can help you with that !
She’s crazy
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They don't like nice guys because of the wondering when he will stop being nice.
You have to give her a mean streak
We're only nice until you hit that line.then you're done
Ladies, men are nice to you because you’re women…you’re not designed to be like us and it would be wrong to treat you the way we treat each other…It’s not because we’re “soft or weak”…
Nice men finish last, but end up with only left overs 😳
I'm the nice guy type and I've tried to be with certain woman that have been mistreated by their boyfriends that they left but those woman always put me in their "friends list" and those woman always find another guy that mistreat them, then they complain to me about the guy they are currently with, it's just annoying
Nice guys finish last.. if they nice is all they are
Women dont choose nice guys because they arent good people. Rejection is protection.
I'm done being nice! My mental health is more important...
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Ladies take notes
The new movement is men not having women that Chad and Tyrone has played with. Yall better wake up.
Times have changed. Chivalry truly is dead in the U.S.
Chivalry is dead, and women killed it
My ex when she saw me get angry the first time and realized im actually a soldier... after a fight and when i turned to her to try to comfort her and show her my feelings for her she didnt want that and ran .... i just feel empty since and hooah fuck the idea of a good life like the old folks im not the same crop as it was
Because strong soldiers is whats gotten everyone through all of human history. But in times of peace theres no room for men like that. We cant ignore biological instict. My take on why everyones miserable
She's like it's true it's true and meanwhile she's the joke.
💯💯💯💯😇🙏👑🦁♥️
Nice guys don't finish last "Nice guys" finish last
If u take my kindness for weakness, u no longer worth my time
Ya ladies get your pen n pad and write that down.
Say it louder for my cheating ex in the back i found a great woman as my sister says you gotta go through some bad eggs to get a good one
Its its true" they know, they just stupid
Way to shit on soldiers, as a former one I thought we were good guys.
Let’s be honest, as a man you need a bit of both. My parents have been married for 26 years. My mum was in a 6 year relationship with her ex boyfriend before she got with my dad. I met the guy 2 years ago and could see why my mum broke up with him.
Women don't want the nice guys because they will walk all over him. Nice guys tend to make sure he is always nice and liked. Men, don't be the nice guy. Be the good guy! The good guy can stand up for what he thinks is right, but also being gentle.
Dropped a jewel that probably flew over y'all head
True 😒
Masochistic behavior
guys pay attention
Don’t confuse Simping and nice guy.
A simp will allow a woman to continue to disrespect and him not setting up boundaries or telling her if she does this, he’s leaving. Because simps are afraid of saying it because they are too afraid to tell the truth.
A man will tell her, you need to quit that, I don’t need you to do that. For example, hitting. If the woman is about to hit him, he says no. A simp will allow that to happen.
🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
JCole
I just know I’m damaged and don’t want to damage him. I’ve been working on myself, but still not good enough.
That's foolish. Just an excuse to not change.
@@dylanvandeleygraaf9752 Oo I’ve changed. Gotten way better. But I get what you’re saying. 👍🫡
Only thing wrong with you is you're in your own mind and way. Own your flaws keeping working Stat focused on the positive and give out your good!
Women now a days are on a app called seeking arrangements ! Went on a date ! Saw that app going off on her phone smh 🤦♂️
So this judge dated the nerds and dorks in highschool? I doubt it.
The way soldier is used in the black community is disgraceful to actual soldiers. Not thugs acting hard .
Not all nice guys are nice some are narcissist
He wasn't nice then he just told you what he wanted to get in your pants lol. Women don't sit to think for 5 seconds that if you didn't throw the kitty at him immediately just because he's good looking, then you would be able to vet out what dudes want YOU and what dudes want your body. But nah girls hook up on the first date and Netflix and chill every time then wanna blame dudes because they're trash at watching for intentions. Like if you didn't sleep with him he'd either continue to pursue or leave you alone because he just wanted sex. Such an easy fix
At least nice guys actually finish.
Thats not true, im a hard dude and i do everything for my gf
foolish or dumb?
Because a women gets bored and needs a challenge plus nice guy means little 126?
Not always...
If you need a challenge then I feel no pity for whatever trash relationship you end up in. For someone like that it's like you made your bed now lay in it. Any girl that says they want "excitement" and a "challenge" is gonna be a single mom by 25, and if not well it's just plain stupid to want that regardless. How about let's want a kind thoughtful and caring person like a normal human being and not a sociopath
Nive guys are dimb tho . Simps
Lol, your comment is so ridiculous it gave me the option to translate.
Word sister
Women don’t even know what they want😂😂
I am not a nice guy. What I actually am is the nice guy what's the difference between a nice guy and the nice guy a nice guy is pretending to be me hoping that he can get what he wants from you before his real self is exposed. The nice guy which is what I am we will love you forever no matter what happens when path you take we will love you and we will hope the best for you what do you want in your life that's all I got to ask what do you want but am I begging you to love me hell no I love me the people around me that see that little bit I love me I don't need anyone else too what should you be chosen buy a man like me well it's up to you what you do with it you can create trauma and Horror in that man's life for you can build a life make your choice I really don't care cuz it won't affect me I love you all goodbye
And then women want to blame men for picking bad men because they pick losers, and then, in the end they want to say all men are bad no all women to make bad choices😂