If You Have These 7 Red Flags In Dating Stay Single (For Now)
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- If You Have These 7 Red Flags In Dating Stay Single (For Now)... In today’s dating advice video, I will share the red flags in dating that you need to watch out for and stay single. The dating red flags I discuss in this video can be seen on the first dates, while online dating, or elsewhere in the dating process. Pay attention to these dating tips and ensure you watch to the end to know the red flags in dating that suggest you remain single.
Being in a relationship is not worth it if it consistently involves ignoring or dismissing red flags that indicate potential issues. It would help if you learned the red flags in dating to steer clear of potential relationship pitfalls and make more informed decisions. Pay attention to this dating advice video to learn more about the red flags in dating.
Learning to recognize and address the red flags in dating is key to building healthier relationships in the future. By acknowledging the red flags in dating and staying single, you can reflect and work towards resolving the dating red flags to pave the way for healthier and more fulfilling dating experiences and future relationships. Embrace this dating advice and avoid these dating red flags when dating.
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Love is the answer, people! Don’t give up. DO. NOT. GIVE. UP. HOPE. God loves you and so do I! You got this.
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God keeps us alive for a REASON.
Today a friend said to me: "Hey, doesn't it make you sad to see your friends being married and you being single at 43?"
I replied: "Yes, I am, but I don't know how to help them." ...
* Moscow, Russia
Ha!!
#1) Reason to stay single--Trust, it's gone out the window. I can't believe the stuff i'm hearing now with relationships. 100% Absolute mind boggling.
3:22 can't handle uncertainty
4:26 negative assumptions
5:34 flaw finding
6:15 judging
7:22 paranoia
8:17 fear and loathing
9:44 self-loathing
I can relate to all of these. I never had the social experiences that teenagers usually have, and it has always followed me.
I am working on it at the age of 50.
The good news is change is possible and there are many options to that route. Start with one. At one point or another, I had every one of these red flags. You got this!
I disagree with self loathing
Women are gatekeeping relationships anyway.
So basically anyone with anxiety, depression, or any other mental illnesses deserve to be alone forever. Humanity is rotten to the core and is long overdue for extinction.
@@YourWingmamSure, let's just simply change our genetics. :P
The vast majority of women over 35 have at least one these red flags and don't have the emotional maturity to have a relationship.
That's why you just have to keep getting new ones.
Recently made a date with a lady I was interested in. I went to the spot and she did not show up. It was our 3rd date and I was really looking forward to it. I called her and she didn't realize she had made a date with me the day before to meet up. I got the message loud and clear.🤣 Ps. We are both 62 yo. I know, right?
Maybe she has early onset dementia! (Not totally joking)
@@YourWingmam Perhaps!
I'm 67 years old, have been single, had only two dates in the last 25 years and I'm as healthy as a horse. I weigh 180lbs at 5'11", bench press 225lbs for reps, (squats and deadlifts the same) BP 120/80 and do HIIT. I like women. I Like myself. I've always maintained my physical fitness. Being single doesn't have to mean it impacts your health.
If you listen again closely, I clarified that *not having close personal connections* impacts your health. Good for you for staying fit!
I think having civility with others is enough for good health even if it is not close personal connections.
My interpretation of civility is just the absence of hostile connections. As long as there is an absence of hostile connections even if there are no close personal connections then a person should be ok and still thrive.
The world is not in a universal subjective state of civility yet. I think that is a higher priority concern than building close personal connections whether platonic or romantic.
@@gracerules2008 you think one thing, science says another
There is false science and biased science. I don't care what your scientific research says. Good science does not make any definitive claim about being alone being unhealthy. It is far better than being with the wrong person.
Sure you do bud, sure you do.
Good thing to remember is that your heart has about 40,000 neurons as a result it sort of acts as a secondary nervous system system.
Exactly! And your gut. Look up gut neurons. Brain 100,000; gut: 500,000. The body is amazing.
My heart goes out to all those who suffer from these flaws but more so to those in relationships with them 😂
Healing from broken relationships requires isolation and most people haven't conquered the battle of being alone. My therapist and counselor have been absolute godsends for my mental health during these trying times in the last few years.
Somewhere in my desktop I keep a Leon Brown quote that reads the following: "If the past is not resolved, future relationships will suffer. Let your heart heal before you open the door to another."
I can't agree more. Too many people swing from relationship to relationship without working on themselves. Often I find these people are terrified (and won't admit so) of being alone with their own thoughts and emotions that they have to face and understand that they will deliberately find any escape to avoid it.
I cherish my alone time and self work, but also the good time spent with friends. Each has it's own unique benefits for personal growth but like everything, must be in moderation.
Excellent reply/ post
Truth! Beautiful quote. :)
I was in a relationship for seven years and we broke up last year. I’m 49. I just started dating again and it only took me two weeks to realize I’m probably better off staying single..,
It's safer to just friend-zone women these days.
@@dpstrial yeah it’s kind of ridiculous out there, especially at this age. Even girls 10 years, my junior are laden with drama.
I’ve got money and I’ve got security and I also have… Peace and quiet . Why would I want to give that up? 🤔
Along with civility with everyone in your life. To me that is good enough. The absence of hostility is enough even if it does not lead to close personal connections.
It's ok to stay single. Make the best of it! :)
Imagine me at 59😂
Whew. Made it. Saving this one for regular review. My state of mind on this has ebb and flow. This would be a good video for self check/evaluation when feeling very high on dating or very low. Gives you some order for an evaluation process. Helps to decipher if it's just stink'n think'n or real and what category of issue, so if you decide to fix it, you focus on the right thing. Excellent Anna.
Glad you enjoyed it! Book mark this one ;)
You sure are very, very good at this Anna - I really hope you keep doing and sharing it and don't disappear. You've been a huge help and an eye-opener to me. Thank you.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Thank you so much for producing this!! Will play on repeat. Feeling single is really nice since I put away whatever it was I was trying to do
Glad you like it!
Another good one! 👍
Brava,this is one of the most honest post,I have seen in a long time.
There are a lot of tough truths,for a lot of people.
Thank you for appreciating it! And yes, some won't be ready for this info, hopefully some will. :)
Ma’am, problem #1 is JUST what I needed to hear today because I am 100% guilty of #1, the self-loathing right now, and I’ve been single for 3/4 a year as of writing. And every time something goes wrong, even though it’s almost always nothing major that has no effect on the grand scheme of things, I flip into self-degradation mode with verbal self-insults, your example describing my issue reaction to a T. Ma’am you have called me out for my mistake, but for improvement rather then vilifying, and I sincerely, honestly thank you. I’ll make less-self-loathing my #1 personal, non-work priority. Thank you again.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
Thank you for the wise advice. I’m working on it, something isn’t quite connecting. Thank you. I really appreciate all of your help.
Probably one of the best videos I've watched. Realistic and cuts through areas that people don't touch.
Thank you so much for appreciating it!
Great video, thank you Anna.
Thank you very much
This is a FANTASTIC video
Thank you, Anna, you're awesome.
Great - WELL BALANCED Advice...! 🙂👍 -70SomethingGuy
you nailed it Anna...thanks for the info
Glad you enjoyed it!
7. She wore less and hung out later. I became (uncertain)
6. I had negative assumptions I never brought up. (I was right)
5. Maybe I’m wrong here and these aren’t flaws. But I found out that she used to have an OF and sell “herself” as well as use people for free food and other things.
4. I judged the nature of the circumstance. (I don’t think I was acting out of accordance or out of line for my judgement in this regard)
3. I started to wonder what I was doing or why someone with so much access to everyone else chose to “settle” now (Paranoia) set in
2. I (feared) investing further into lies and omissions. I (loathed) the situation I allowed myself to remain in.
1. I respect that silly little gut feeling more nowadays. I love my ability to walk away which is a reflection of self respect and self preservation which ultimately translates into self love for me. Am I selfish? Maybe.
I am 6 out of the 7 red flags I suppose. Self reflection is something else. I’ll be single for a while…
Good luck Guys/Gals!
Tread lightly and
Shoot straight
I should have specified these apply if you feel this way about all women not one certain throwback with such obvious red flags herself. Selfish and self-care are two very different things. If you stayed with her that would be self-loathing,
Wingmam knocks it out of the park again ! Awesome and spot on content again might I say . 🎉❤
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
This is a good self reflection video. All good points
I found your video resonated deeply with me, as it highlighted all the red flags I encountered with my ex-partner and some she encountered with me. Reflecting on that relationship, I realized the toll it took on my self-worth and my mental health. However, I've since prioritized my personal growth and healing journey, which led me to end things last year and initiate no contact this past January. I've dedicated myself to self-improvement since last June, and I've come to appreciate my worth and what I bring to the table. Currently, I'm content with being single and focused on my personal and professional growth. Despite the challenges in my career path, I refuse to conform to societal expectations. I know my value, despite any misconceptions my ex may have had about me. Life moves forward, and I'm embracing this journey of self-discovery. Thanks for the insightful video. ❤❤
This is exactly what taking responsability *where you can* and personal growth look like. Well done and high five! 🙌💞
Great video and to accept people just the way they are is a start. Everyone is different this is just what makes the world so interesting. No cookie cutter people.
As always Anna, great informative video! I'm just getting into a new relationship with a gorgeous lady and number 7 uncertainty is where I trip myself up...
We all stumble sometimes. Life is uncertain. Deep breaths. You got this!
Good Job Cowgirl Anna. You Rock!
Thanks Anna ...that was helpful . . Nice to know.. not sure how interested I am in dating, again (Burned deeply, too many times) . but good to know that these improvement projects on myself will be useful and beneficial for "Me"
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
@YourWingmam >>> Great video...👍
Thank you for appreciating!
@@YourWingmam>>> You're Welcome, Dear Lady.
Oh my God Anna I have the number one red flag. I wasn't expecting that but of course I have it. I've got the worst thing on the list. Anyway great video as always Anna and you have a wonderful day.
Thanks for sharing ❤ 🙏
One of your best, most insightful videos, Anna. Thank you 🙏
Glad you enjoyed it! :))
Thanks for the advice,that pretty much put the icing on the tip, i mean, cake...well,you know what i mean!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
Yep, #1! I am very not much a fan of myself. But I am working on it very much. #2 goes into #1 a lot as well. Or it had for me in this instance. So taking a break for going on 10 years is OK then. Alright. 😊
Good vid Anna!
I'm glad you're working on it and I'm glad you're here! :)
I have Assumptions in a major ways. I have ALL the others in varying degrees of intensity, although I am VERY good at concealing them. As for the last one, I do not hate myself, but I have moments of intense dislike. I have learned to live with these. At this point they are part of my personality. Good stuff here, Miss Wingmam.
Thanks, Anna
Dear Anna:
Happy Sunday darlin,' I hope you are having an amazing day.
Well, I am sure I have a tiny bit of one or two of the red flags you mentioned here. I believe uncertainty is one red flag that really bothers me, because i like to be a planner, so I really like to know where things are going and how fast; but that is just me. I know for sure from experience one red flag I will no longer tolerate from a woman in the future is the "flaw finder." There is no satisfying those people, and more rhan likely that red flag will bring all the other ones along.
Well, I accept your mission. I think this week I will work on dealing with certain coworkers who drive me up the wall. I will let you know how it goes.
Have a great week, Anna. As usual, great video abd you look amazing. Sending you lots of love. Big hug and a peck on each cheek. See you next week.
Glad you accepted the mission! Let me know how it goes. And thank you for the compliment, gracious as always! :)
Thanks for this valuable info Anna. Was surprised to hear that you had some of these happen to you. My mom accused me of things that i didnt do. Healing is for when you grow up. Lol.
If I can learn and grow from where I was, almost anyone can lol Adulting is hard, healing helps indeed!
Great info as always! Your hair looks great btw! 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you!
@@YourWingmam You’re welcome!!
Thank you for this helpful video.
Am the king of self loathing
Glad it was helpful! Awareness is the first step to potential change. If you're ready to take the next step, my program is perfect for you. Link in pinned comment. If you don't like it for any reason, full refund. Big hug.
This is great information spicy señorita Anna ❤
Glad you think so, John! 💞 Enjoy your Sunday!
@@YourWingmam You too, enjoy your Sunday too! 💝
Anna, you had me at; "No es bueno", and I like the reference to "Mission Impossible". Being single is not so bad, I do what I want and when I want. I don't remember the last time I had an argument with a woman about anything. The most important thing is to be happy in the situation they might be in and sometimes if they are not happy single they will not be happy with someone.
Gracias! "...sometimes if they are not happy single they will not be happy with someone." Brilliant!
Nice to be back on your channel.
Welcome back!
Attraction is not love and as you learned when things get tuff , the tuff get going, as you did, I am looking for the one that belongs with me as I belong with her. Thanks , you are always level and scarry accurate.
Hi Anna! I really enjoy your educational videos! I'm sixty seven years old and I agree with your advice! I wish that I could have heard your advice when I was forty years younger. However, with the experience that I have gained over the years, I have been able to contribute and approve of your advice to help younger couples or men!
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
❤ Gosh-golly-gee Ms., you are proper! ❤
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Thanks Anna! after going through a recent unwanted divorce I realized I was still hanging on to some uncertainty...I now know I need to heal first before moving on; seems like such a long road to go to get to where I'd like to be; but for now I'm trying to find joy in the journey.
You have the right attitude. Remember to give yourself grace, none of us came with an instruction manual. Big hug!
#7 is really hard to overcome. Knowing what the problem is a step in the right direction, though.
Thank you, Anna.
Awareness is the first step to potential change. Deep breath, one step at a time, big hug. :)
@@YourWingmam You helped me realize I have been denying myself good things because I just didn't think I deserved them.
Thank you
My pleasure ❤️
Fabulous
😊🏴☠️
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
awesome vid
Glad you enjoyed it!
Thanks! I'm beginning to understand my problem. You really understand. How do I get you to 'unpack' an interaction that has bugged me for 35 years?
Thank you so much! 🙏🥰
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Thank you wingman for all your help. Your insight is wonderful. Let me stress again. Your husband is very lucky.
Wise words girl. Thank you for your insights, words and care. I try to be a better me, and it starts everyday with making my bed, and take it from there. Stand in your own truth, look at peoples actions rather than the words. Embrace your masculine. Be a good man ;)
Good for you! ... and give yourself and others grace :)
There's worse things than being alone.
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I agree!
The last one really resonated with me. I really do hate myself.
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
No misery compares to staring at a clear night's sky with arms stretched toward a coveted star, wishing on what is forever out of reach
Indeed. Try to shift focus.
Love your new hairstyle ❤
Definetly!
Thank you! After watching the video, do you think any of the 7 flags apply to you?
@@YourWingmam well considering I am trying to date after a life time of being married, anything and everything you say I very much appreciate 😍
The sister I never had - thanks Anna
If I want to stay single for now it's because I'll get rejected and I'm single now. I'm working on self improvement and trying my very best to understand myself first and then the others. I feel like I'm getting better now and you helped me in this journey. You may remember almost a year ago how much I were weak and had low self esteem, but that has changed now because you helped me. I'm trying my best to understand you first and look how much compatible we are hahaha 😂 just joking Anna. So, thanks for the video and the information. You look very pretty in long hair Anna which I always loved and also I believe that long hair for women which is one way signifies that the women are feminine.
I've noticed how much you've changed in a positive way, good for you!! No one is perfect, we're all works in progress. Proud of how far you've come! :))
@@YourWingmam Thank you very much Anna.
Your good for our hearts Anna❤
And you for mine! 💞
@@YourWingmam 🙏✨
I know and like myself too.
Excellent!
Todays message is well stated. For men they need to learn about women and then make an informed decision if they have the wherewithal to contend with demale nature. If not, then fill up your life with hobbys and activities you enjoy. don't bad mouth women, just realize that men and women are competitors now in many aspects of life.
You're awesome
ya, i like you, and thank you , i believe that i will be watching out for your post ,
Thank you, glad you found value in this video and glad you're here!
I'm enjoying your helpful advice in the videos. This is another great video. What determines compatibility between a man and woman? What should you look for when you're searching for a woman to be in a relationship with?
Glad you're enjoying my videos! Look for compatible (not necessarily exactly the same): beliefs, values, goals. This means you need to know what yours are. No one is perfect so expect some compromise but never sacrifice your soul. :) Some of the videos in my Is She The One? playlist may help: czcams.com/play/PLQ8Q-8-X18dmOznjoG3yeqmHiF9Ne6osR.html
I've heard chemistry being mentioned when there's talk about relationships. What is chemistry in a relationship? How do you know if there's chemistry in a relationship?
In my humble opinion, when a long relationship ends, most of us may encounter some or all of these characteristics, especially when transitioning from one affair to another. That's why it may be better to take a step back, remain single for a while, and focus on renewing your thoughts and soul to become a better version of yourself. It can be tough at the beginning, but it pays off when you no longer feel these 7 characteristics. I have filled my days by finding a better mission as a consultant, going to the gym, learning Italian, spending lots of time with my children, and traveling to Italy a couple of times. I have also been listening to many podcasts that have helped me understand how to handle relationships and women. Although I haven't reached my goal yet, I feel that I am getting closer to finding a beautiful, warm-hearted lady with whom I can start a loving and committed relationship. So my advice to you, my friends, is to work on yourselves. The reward will come.
Sounds like a healthy attitude with which to move forward in life.
It sounds like you've taken my program! lol Great attitude, thank you for sharing!
(10:15-32) Yes, Anna, Yes. (11:36-39) Yeah, your 'mental' and 'emotional' well-being are very important, and Don't leave out your 'Spiritual' and 'physical' well-being. A person's mental / spiritual / emotional health can play havoc on their physical health. When I worked at a mental health facility, the majority of patients were their after failed suicide attempts, instigated by clinical depression and how they thought of themselves and their future. My job was to 1) have our clinic be a 'safe place' for them ... and 2) Inspire 'Hope' for their future (ie. Things getting better.) The question I most often asked them [when I first met them] was, "What do you think would make your life worth living? What would be different?".......... Then that helped to establish a 'Hope', and a (safe) relationship between us. Finding 'Hope' was the key.
Love that! Thank you for caring enough to share!
I've been isolated all my life,63 now, and I didn't realize it was that dangerous for my health.
🙏 ❤️
I checked, and I have none of those red flags. I like people (women and men), but I am a lone wolf by nature. So I interact with people, but I like to be on my own as well. I tried relationships, and they became in my eyes to controlling, jealous...After some time on my own, I realized I am just not the relationship guy. It took me some time and self-reflection. So no, it was not my ex-girlfriends fault. I actually now feel bad for them. How much did they try to change me into a tamed Wild Mustang? It had the complete opposite effect, and I know they truly cared/loved me.
I can say this if your values don't line up never sacrifice them
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I love your hair.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Can someone tell me how Common or wide spread these relationship coaches are throughout 🇺🇸 Or are they mainly confined to the CZcams platform. 🤔GOD bless.🙏✝️ 🇬🇧
If you find a woman who you’re attracted to: check
If you find a woman who you feel can be your best friend:check. If you find a woman that feels the same about you: check. If that woman plays u for a fool and cheats on you… kick her to the curb ( not literally, but you know what I mean) if there’s a lack of respect then there will be a lack of trust. If you’re not a healthy person then you probably shouldn’t be seeking a relationship. I’ve finally figured that out about myself.
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Certain political extremists appear to be victims of #1. If they project their #1, they can become violent and dangerous as a result of their self-loathing flowing out of them onto others as they play the blame game. #1 is the main thing they have to share and they do share it through projection.
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Thanks AJ, another great video, with practical examples and a real world response. I particularly love the stinking thinking comment! But, cut and pasting stuffy cat into frame is cheating. Just sayin' ;)
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I never got resentful when I was accused. I just kept reassuring that I wasn’t doing it. Then I come to find out she was. It is what it is. Don’t accuse her. My wife told me the accusers is the doer! LOL she wasn’t accusing me she just not doing it. But she did keep telling me she didn’t like me looking at other women, she didn’t like me making comments when women walked by who were pretty. She was very jealous. Now I find out it says men with eyes for other women. When buddy of mine said that when he sees the pretty women coming he looks at the ground.
Im a 40 yr old man, a retired pilot , im financially stable but i love Tom and Jerry. I have Tom and Jerry lounge cushions and i regularly like to pull out the ol blueray boxset and have a Tom and jerry marathon but as soon as i get comfortable with a partner and she finds this out , she tends to start distancing in the relationship. On another channel a commentor said i am probably making it wierd. Do i have to give up Tom and jerry?? I cant get enough of that cheeky mouse...its part of who i am.... 😢
LOLOLOLOL 😂 WTF BRO. You’re on another level, this a first.
@@boratlion8613 Hey Bro come on, I'm opening up here , which I don't do often and you laugh in my face , what do you like??
@@EdmundSampson-pd7vi bro I don’t know if you’re serious or trolling. If you’re being sincere, my suggestion would be to stick with your guns about your interests but reveal them a bit more tactfully. Maybe not make it your identity as it may be coming off as a bit like you’re obsessed. I don’t think they’re thinking “oh, he’s the Tom & Jerry guy”. More “this guy may have other quirky obsessions, could be a weirdo or head case…don’t want to stick around and find out” . It sounds like it’s something you enjoy, but not a core part of who you are. I met a grown woman who had a “my little pony and Barbie” obsession. I was out of there FAST because the perception is, she’s got a screw loose up there, and I can’t risk getting harmed by this person. Even if it appears innocent. Everyone has likes and hobbies, first make sure she likes you for who you are as a person, then maybe divulge that you love cartoon classics from your childhood as a thing you enjoy.
@@boratlion8613 you know what really sucks. The lady that runs this channel Wingmam has literally liked ,hearted or commented on every single comment but mine like I'm not even worth acknowledging. She is that repulsed....she certainly selective with the wingmamming
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Regarding #3: to be fair, Pat Benatar did point out that "love is a battlefield."
She probably wrote that before her divorce early on lol ;)
I think my biggest red flag is a combination of uncertainty and negative assumptions. I'm a guy in my early 30s, and I have average looks and an average income. I've always been content being single; I enjoy playing video games and being a homebody. I started using Hinge to find potential partners at the start of this year (haven't had any luck so far), and I feel like most of the women there are "too good" for me, or in other words, outside of my league.
I've found four common attributes among women on Hinge: fine dining, travel, a love for pets, and clubbing. Such a lifestyle feels too "boojie" for me. Coupled with the fact that I have ugly teeth, I don't know how such a woman will perceive me, especially on a first date. I guess I should get off dating apps and perhaps adjust my expectations for what I want in a partner.
Swipe left on anyone who puts clubbing in their profile after the age of 20 if you're looking for something serious or long-term. There may be nothing major wrong with a 20-something at the club but she's not ready. As for teeth, the biggest thing anyone can do to improve their smile is to remove stains and yellowish discolouration. Most over-the-counter white strips do the trick. If you can get out in the real world more, your contentment with single hood will fair well for you when meeting women because you likely won't come off as needy. By the way, self-awareness and acknowledging where we need to grow without berating ourselves is a sign of maturity!
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My now ex, was the reason I went from anxiousness in relationship to secure. Every single green flag I could have looked for we had. And we didnt break up due to a lack of love but because of some stupid circumstance that would cause us to be apart for almost a year. And as healthy and loving as the relationship was, we both struggle very heavily with long distance. Sometimes i guess distance is needed to reconnect. But we both still talk all the time and i find myself loving her and missing her more and more each day.
Is there any chance of living in the same city in the future? I know a few couples that were apart for years (broke up during that time) and eventually got back together and are still together. Don't wait if there's no hope, of course.
@YourWingmam it is possible that we go back to living close to eachother at some point in the future. But we both have different life plans for the short term future which is the main reason why things ended. We both have agreed not to wait around for eachother if something else comes up but I don't know if I'll ever be fully over her.
That's like 90% of the dating pool, lol. Men and women... 😉
But, this is incredibly good advice.
Achieving it all? Most people don't seem up to the task, but maybe if they watch a thoughtful channel like this instead of the bad advice so many others give they might have some Hope?
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Me personally, another reason to stay single is lack of establishment. As a man, if you don't know what makes you tick, don't have your own place or have your life in check, why would you want to dump that baggage onto your partner? I can't fathom how many times past friends complained to me about why they can't keep a girlfriend and don't know why. Let's see... you're broke, you're a simp, and you still live with your parents. GEE, I WONDER WHY?
Question, what if we both have some of these red flags but are on our way of "dropping these defenses" : better stay single until we heal or give it a try with both of us doing efforts? For context, we have been friends for years but are considering going romantic.
Excellent question! If both of you can acknowledge your own issues and are in express agreement to help each other learn and grow, it can work. *At times it will be messy and it may not last forever* but you can help each other heal and become more ready for the next right people if you are not in fact right for each other. Hope this helps!
4:45 yup! I’m a dude and my college gf was constantly accusing me of cheating but I was always loyal. We broke up bc I found out she was cheating on ME! and I turned down two “options” that in retrospect wish I had home gone for… and broke up sooner. She had “problems” and years later we ended up in the same city. She was taking courses and was cheating on her boyfriend she left back home. I gave her shit about it. We didn’t stay in touch any longer.
Sounds like you dodged a bullet!
Healthy people build up each other if you can't do that you need to heal . Yes i am in a season of healing but i am looking for a girlfriend because i am getting better at trusting myself baby steps i have to get out of my comfort zone .
Absolutely! You got this!
My 3 decades of marriage and my relatives 50+ years of marriage tell me your uncertainty flag is dead wrong about the relationship. The purpose of being in the relationship is specifically for the certainty. If you’re going do something important like raise kids, you do so in a stable environment. You don’t get into a lifelong relationship when one or the both of you is iffy at best in your commitment and convictions. You should not have to worry about where your SO stands. This puts you in a constant state of having to prove yourself to the other. That’s stupid. Simply put: you like each other, you vet each other, you love each other, you commit to each other. When I say commit, I don’t mean you commit to meet at a venue at a certain time to finalize the contract with the gov’t family court system. Commitment means what those vows say, till death do us part, in sickeness and health, for better or worse. Us more seasoned couples find that kind of commitment makes those tough times you WILL go through bearable. We also know marriage is not about happiness. It’s about achieving things together and deriving your happiness from your efforts and your respect for each other. Disney is a fallacy and a mindset that should be avoided at all costs. If you’ve vetted properly, you won’t spend (waste) time wondering about what that other person is thinking about you. You’ll both be thinking how can I serve him/her and enrich their lives. So, when true commitment is there, uncertainty doesn’t exist and you can both move forward as a family unit. This may be a hard pill to swallow in today’s self-centered mindset. But it works. Look at it like this. You are both in a car going to a destination. One is driving, one is navigating. It doesn’t matter which since you both know the destination and are committed to getting there together. But if you both are unsure about the destination after you start out or about which route to take and you question each other’s choices along the way, what a horrible trip that will be, if you make it. What I think you really mean is uncertainty in yourself about where you want to go in life and about whether or not you think you’ll get there. It’s best to figure that out BEFORE you get into a relationship because it will build in seeds of doubt that will likely make you not reach the end together. Lastly, flexibility (from both of you) helps with most of those other red flags. The others require therapy or a more mature support system with successful marriages to pull experience from.
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Hi!! I've been dating a man 5 months and never seen his house. He offered a couple times which he knew I couldn't go at that moment. I feel like I always bring it up. I have a child and I have certain times I can see him. I feel like he doesn't care. I feel in my gut this is a red flag. I shouldn't have to ask to be invited for lunch.
For me it’s wait until someone comes along who makes it easy. I want the right one not just someone to make fit. Yeah there’s going to be concessions because we’re dealing with humans lol but it shouldn’t be an anxious feeling it should be a grateful feeling with the one. Good luck guys and gals
Yep, good advice, work on what you need to *for you* and be open along the way to opportunities (without being desperate).
No one to answer to, no one to compromise with, you spend 100% of your money the way you want to, no one to keep rudely sizing up your income and complaining about lack of money, no pain in the ass constantly having to remember birthdays anniversaries and Valentine's day, never dealing with annoying in-laws, taking the vacations that you want to go on. And no nagging because if a person you're not married to keeps riding your ass you can show her where the front door is.
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I was falsely accused of cheating. There was no evidence. She just "knew". It was never ending. While things dragged on for a while, that was the end.
Prime example. :(
Now I understand more about my life...
Hopefully your new knowledge will be helpful!
List: very practical. Good list. Lots of damaged people wandering around wondering why everyone else sucks. If you're the common denominator to a string of relationship failures, start first with you. Focus on flaws: the reason why modern dating is shipwrecked in the era of cancel culture. Someone who focuses on microaggressions will always succeed on finding them eventually. People dwelling in this state are incapable of creating long-term loving relationships, IMHO. Sound quality: tres sucky, I'm afraid. Truly unusual for you to have questionable audio when indoors. Sounds like a passive echo of some sort. Different mic maybe? Or maybe get out from under the stairs next week? Praying for you. -- Russ P PS/I'm as tired as the pooches today, after cooking a couple hams all night for our church dinner today. I'll probably be asleep befor........ ZZZZzzzzzz..... ;)
Totally agree re: culture! And yes, I need to figure out the sound issues here. Same mic, different location. Maybe I need a new mic. Please, pray for a sound solution. :D You're a good man, Russ... Hope you had a nap!