@@younot593 bro, goodness gracious 😂 in the post, the parents were too poor to afford taking the now man child on vacation. It’s literally the entire cause of everything.
@@younot593 except in this scenario you know absolutely nothing about these people and you’re making shit up 😭 go outside bro. You have a Reddit post into this guys life and now you’re the expert
Reddit: I HATE when POOR PEOPLE have children, it's so abusive. Poor people should do their research and not have children until they're 70 and rich. How dare you have no money and put up a curfew. Also Reddit: "I am rich and I put up a curfew in my wonderful home. My son left in the middle of the night, so when he came back I shot him with my wonderful shotgun." - NTA, your house your rules.
Reading the phrase 'I shot him with my wonderful shotgun' has been sending me consistently for months now, every time I'm back on this video. Thank you for your service.
yes, poor people should not have kids the solution is to reduce poorness until anyone can afford kids if they want, rather than let poor people make kids suffer from their selfishness world is overpopulated and bringing kids into a poor home is most likely gonna cause harm
@pods-lx3tf the world isn't overpopulated, the resources are just poorly distributed. And even if you say "poor people shouldn't have kids" they're still going to have kids because they only way to stop poor people from having kids would be sterilising them which is fascistic.
For everyone asking why the hell Ruby gave her ex severance pay, I'm pretty sure it's because she was afraid he wouldn't be able to pay for food or rent before he got a job after she left, and didn't want that on her conscience. The fact she originally planned to give him SIX MONTHS of breathing room says all you need to know about her confidence in his ability to shape up. Ruby is a goddamn saint.
Also shows her confidence in him getting a job, and I’m not a bootstraps guy, but this is a case where the dude is literally just partying and enjoying the money of a mommy gf. She probably originally said 6 months and then her friends talked her down. However I think even that post is likely fake, the spelling errors could be explained by ESL but it’s crafted to cause outrage and YTA
My problem was that she was like No because you asked for some of the money up front to find a place to stay because Im kicking you out you now only get 3 months instead of 6 which frankly seems a bit vindictive
@@Imbalanxd I don't tend to put a lot of stock into AITA posts (I actually don't usually watch the React Court segments), but if it is fake, I think that's still the author's intention. As far as fake posts go, at least it's a clever one.
I had to read that last situation like four times to see if I was missing something everyone in the comments sections were seeing. The things the son endured: - early curfew - wasn't allowed to have a girlfriend at 14 - parents couldn't afford going on vacations Why is everyone acting like the kid was living in a dog cage being fed cat food? The comments about "don't have a kid if you're unable to provide for them" when it sounds like they provided just fine, minus the luxury of vacations, are crazy to me. It's also crazy because it sounds like they regularly include the son in their life because the situation outlined is that the son was over at their house, maybe dinner or something, and the daughter excitedly told him about an upcoming trip. The parents even apologized already, BEFORE the react incident, that they weren't able to give him a better childhood and wish they could have. That's the part I don't think I saw anyone comment on: the son has a history of complaining about how the daughter has a better life and it only came to a head with the dad saying to suck it up and get over it because the son was being openly resentful to the daughter's face. Insane takes from reddit there.
Yeah, it's insane because it doesn't sound like he even had such a drastically different life. I feel really bad for the younger kid that her older sibling might resent her over this. I lived a similar situation as the younger child and frankly my two siblings (who are 18 years older than me) lived waaay worse lives than me, like to the point of having worse nutrition and living in a dangerous neighborhood. I can't imagine how bizarre it'd be if they held it against me and my parents that my parents were able improve themselves financially. Hell, they all were *excited* for me as a kid whenever I got to do stuff that they never experienced (like, say, school trips). As always, these videos make me more grateful that I am surrounded by lovely, sane people... and frankly it's totally possible all those people are too, they just need to talk it out without going to reddit for feedback.
@@myrimu9829 So my counter is, the kid is complaining that they are treating their biological kid better than him. Which is true but life changes, so whatever. The issue however, is we are getting the parents POV on this. If he really does have a favorite child (his own) and was actually harsher on his adopted kid (which he even admits to) then I can absolutely understand why he is pissed. I think the vacation this is just the straw that broke the camels back for him. From the adopted kids POV he isn't as loved as the biological kid. The dad is pissed he is being called out for having a favorite child which even by his standards he admits to be partially true but says its about the money rather than love or attention.
because they're the big "D" dumb as rocks lol. HOW DARE YOU HAVE A KID without 20 years of practice. Its kinda a thing in parenting that you make all the mistakes with the first kid - said usually both regret and humour
Man, if that situation is real, it's a real conundrum for the guy. Personally, I would've gone to see my newborn, then figured out how to deal with the consequence of losing a job. Nevertheless, the guy seemed like he had a rational thought process. Fuck the dad
I gotta say I do have a cousin I used to work for that was actually exactly like that. I think the guy just got off on the power he had over others by owning a business. Thought he was Jesus with a Purple Heart award because he was a Small Business Owner. When I quit, he left me harassing voicemails about how I'm too "prissy" to be part of his family anyway. Then he threatened to get me fired from any other job I'd get until I come back to work for him. Then he lost his main contract, his business went under, his wife left him, and he fucked off to Florida. This was around 2014.
Yeah my mom does often pay for me to come on family vacas as an adult. Which is an incredibly nice thing she does I recognize is an entirely optional thing that I don’t expect.
@@BC-yl3qb was gonna say exactly this, but you summed it up perfectly. the great irony of the information age is that everyone thinks everyone is a hypocrite because they can't distinguish between individuals and platforms. the brain rot is only getting worse
@@jTech50 I don't think anyone's suggesting they're the same person. Merely pointing out that the two contradictory and polar opposite arguments are both showered with upvotes and praised as 'basic logic' by the exact same group of people in the exact same subreddit. Pointing out that the same group of people champion the complete opposite things depending on how they happen to feel at that moment is not the same as confusing them for the same people.
re: first post she was planning to give him enough to support himself for six months after she moved out, then cut it to three months. it sounds like she’s still planning to give him that once she’s moved out. AND ON TOP OF THAT she gave him 100 pounds to eat off of during the two weeks that he’s kicked out while she’s moving. he had a good thing going with someone who sounds like she actually cared about him and totally screwed it up and he STILL got let off easy by not getting thrown out on his butt at the end of it
I just don't understand the last one. It seems everyone is projecting their own situations on the last guy and judging based on that. The parents couldnt afford to give him a lot of luxuries and did their best to raise him. They made mistakes, which is expected from new parents, and applied the lessons learned to their next kid because they're decent parents. Of course the first child couldnt benefit from a decade of knowledge and the financial luxuries, because the parents didnt have any of that when he was young. The parents should try to include him more in family trips and functions in the future, just more organically and not as an apology type deal.
Thank you. I felt like I was insane reading those comments. Seems like the Reddit hivemind just projecting their own daddy issues onto someone they barely know from three paragraphs.
Not to mention he told the son to get over it when the son was taking it out in the daughter. If it were a closed door discussion between the two of them, that’s an entirely different situation. Just because the dad help the reigns too tight with Jared doesn’t give Jared the right to bully his sister. Neither the father or the son are trying to understand the other’s perspective.
The son was openly being a prick, but he wasn't taking it out on his sister-at least not by OP's retelling of events. The idea that the son was bullying his sister is an unfair fabrication of your imagination.
@@TCSyd Then why would he say that shit to her? He's trying to provoke his parents with zero consideration for her. What if she feels guilty and ends up with a complex of her own just because he couldn't control himself and have an adult-to-adult conversation with his parents about serious issues? That isn't necessarily BULLYING, but that clearly does show disregard towards her if not deliberate malice.
@@passageways Say what shit to her, exactly? The only thing we know that he said directly to her was that he wasn't allowed to date at her age. The second comment about favoritism was directed at the father. Now, I imagine that all three were present for both of these exchanges, but I can't be sure.
My main issue is it sounded like (to me) that they didn't invite their son on the trip. It was only after the fact that he said "oh, you could come with us too". Even if he was never going to go, extending the invitation would've helped him to feel more loved. But really it sounds like the oldest is also a jerk for blaming the sister.
redditors think you should kill your unborn child if you cant take them on expensive trips to Europe. OH no they won't have an amazing childhood free of any suffering or hardship :O don't bring them into this world
Same, but at least reading it from NL there was a voice of sanity and I didn't feel I was going insane like I sometimes do on reddit. Reddit is really weird about children in so many ways, probably because they're largely (adult) children themselves. Also hugely classist, like poor(er) people don't get to deserve what many consider the most meaningful experience a human can have because they can't afford luxuries.
Hey NL, just stopped by to give my 2 cents. My partner works full time and I (26M) am unemployed. I had a near fatal fall and broke both of my ankles/knees/legs so I can't work right now. At this point I do all the cooking/laundry/cleaning/taking care of our 4 furry animals. We have two messy frat boy roommates who don't clean shit 90% of the time. It's also a big multi level house. I can't imagine asking my partner to do anything around the house, there's so much time in the day that I can do everything and also play video games for what feels like way too much time. Tom seems like a dunce.
Bruh. Breaking both your legs and doing the chores of two losers in the house. Do they have no shame or guilt that a crippled dude is cleaning up after them 😂 fuck id kill myself if I was that useless
The amount of people projecting their own insecurities on that final YTA post is insane. Only reasonable answer I can come up with is they're all kids wanting their parents to take them on more expensive trips. I'm sure parenting will be easy when they get there though dw.
it's clearly an example of ESH. having a bad childhood myself, i recognize that my parent's fuckked up in having a family before they were ready( even though that's the culture i grew up in). however in becoming my own person and an adult, I realized that this was pushed on them by other's, and there were exogenous factor's outside of their control, thus to blame this on them would be unfair. that being said, to tell someone just to either not have the trauma that they do over the result of this, or to assume that people can just automatically heal from that trauma by their own effort's is also why so many people sympathize, because they also have fuckked up things like that said to them. healing from trauma sometimes can happen individually, but at other time's it's a group effort. while it's understandable that the dad might have had external factor's and have become defensive as a result of it, to then say that it isn't really something to be hurt over denies trauma that need's healing. further, while the son also is an assshole to not recognize that there are external factor's to this outside of the parent's control and to react to that peace offering as he did, it kind of really does mess you up to have a bad childhood. while I would rather have a bad childhood than a bad adulthood, the fact that neither is necessary is the fact that should be foregrounded.
@@ethanstump Dude is adopted at age 12, obviously he had a bad childhood and trauma from this even before OP came in the picture. OP certainly gave him a better life and being less strict with your children the more you have is also pretty much the norm, so OP is a asshole in your view because he got a better paying job now? You can be a good parent and not be able to afford expensive trips, being jealous at someone less than half your age is really fucked up. Yes trauma needs healing, doesn't mean that you can't be blunt sometimes, especially when he argues in front of his sister.
@@ethanstump So this guy was traumatized by his adoptive parents because they didn't take him on trips and gave him a curfew? You realise how ridiculous that sounds right?
@the western rising sun This situation seems very different than yours. The 30 year old seems more but hurt about his younger sibling rather than being traumatized or being mistreated by his parents. There was no topic about bing abused or being in a situation with his parents where he might not get to sleep on a bed.
I binged all the react courts a few weeks ago so glad for more content. You have funnier, more insightful and more scathing breakdowns than other YT AITA readers. No preselecting softball questions for you, just raw takes.
If it wasn't for NL I'd believe the whole "streamers react to other online content" was a sham, but the banter is just that good. A straight upgrade to most anything
the friend in the first story has NOW a perfect opportunity to understand why the girl is leaving this guy by paying for his expenses while he lives with her bc she’s amazing friend like go on girl show us how fun it is to pay for someone while they do fuck all
I’m an extremely heavy sleeper and move around a lot in my sleep and if my wife had ever put either of our kids in the bed with me I would have lost my mind. I also woke up early and took care of them when she went to work because I’m not a fucking idiot and understand that I need to take care of the kids. Idk why the poster isn’t just waking up, like yeah it sucks to not sleep but come on dude you decided to have a kid.
@@int3r4ct OP goes to sleep at 5 because of work, his wife does not need to go to work and she also puts the baby there even when he told her not to. OP is just fucked and his wife overracted, a lot.
@@Shnarfbird she was done. If he wants to change he can for the next girl. If you’re unsatisfied with your relationship, there’s nothing wrong with leaving it, even if the person says they want to get better at the end. She’s giving him her money after the break up so he can land on his feet. That’s incredibly generous and not something she needed to do. Ruby did absolutely nothing wrong and is frankly too nice
@@huckthatdish Just to add to this, they were in a relationship since university - so this was probably almost a decade into their relationship. If he's still sitting at home playing video games and contributing nothing, and she's "nagging" him, I'm sure the truth is more that she's been waiting for 8 years for him to get his shit together and probably subtlely trying to push him to be an actual adult. That deep in, she was probably wondering about marriage too and realizing she couldn't be with someone who didn't grow. Frankly if I started dating someone in university, I'd probably be out by about 26 if they hadn't grown past where Tom was.
The responses to the last one are bonkers. The dad probably should have been more emotionally sensitive to the 30 year old, but if the 30 year old had any issues with his parents, he definitely shouldn't have compared their situations and complained to/in front of his sister. It seems likely the dude has had this complex for a long time. The real question, then, is whether or not that complex has developed over time for real reasons or imagined ones - something reddit dipshits aren't in a position to know. Even the OP probably doesn't know. He does kinda suck for immediately going down the "get over it" path instead of finding out where the 30 year old is coming from, but the 30 year old sounds like a brat either way, so I can see why he'd provoke that response from the dad. It is, however, perhaps a little telling that the OP bothers to mention that his 14 year old daughter is on his side, as if that could be relevant.
Reddit is absolutely INSANE and I can't imagine being the kind of fool that thinks it's a good place to get validation for your parenting from. I mean yeah, the context of the comments does make it seem like maybe OP is a bit of an ass, but the redditors are going fucking apeshit because OP was able to do better for his second kid? Nuts.
Tbf to the adopted kid, we are getting the story from the dad's side. He may not have been as assholish as was made out in the post. Either way my man has some serious shit to work out and he shouldn't be taking it out on his sister. He probably should take it out on the dad though, you can't be shrugging your shoulders at shit like that if you want a good relationship with your kids.
I am surprised that so much focus was on the financial element. If anything, the dad (and mom) was an asshole for being an autocratic parent the first time around and then not recognizing and apologizing for that fact.
@@calypso4882 To me, he's old enough to know that's not something to mention to a 14 year old if you think it's actually an issue. A playful joke, sure, but if he's actually this hurt by it all, it's definitely not something to vent through her (and possibly make her feel guilty about). So, assuming that's accurate, even if the dad is painting the situation in his favor, the 30 year old is still displaying glaring immaturity. It could be understandable due to damage from a troubled life, but if the dude wants to act like a child, maybe he needs to be treated like one. And if that's the case, children often don't get to know all of the ins and outs of their parents' decisions. So "get over it" kind of applies. Again, I don't think that's the best way to handle it, I basically agree with you, the dad seems like he's somewhere between insensitive and shitty; but there's a big gray area people can't reasonably pretend to be able to judge - and the reddit comments think they've got this shit pegged.
It's also crazy that the assumptions took we couldn't afford to go on trips to mean we couldn't afford to raise a kid. Those are two different kinds of expenses - one requires a significant amount of up front payment, the other is a long term investment. If a kid costs you extra every week, maybe that just means it's harder for you to save up for trips that now cost more due to including the kid, or maybe you have to work more to keep providing for the kid and because of that can't take the time for trips. Like, the dad is not great, but neither is the 30yo. It was like every comment came from a Redditor who was a neglected older child - oh, the kid who was adopted at twelve might not have the best relationship with his adopted parents at 30, and that might be both their faults? Gasp!
"Then your girlfriend is just your mom" is absolutely 100% how that first woman must have felt, my god that first one is giving me an aneurysm. Thank fuck she was able to get out of that situation well enough. Bozo is putting it lightly lmao
I'm the oldest of a bunch of kids. My parents were extremely strict with me. I wasn't allowed to date anyone while I lived at home, and wasn't allowed to be friends with anyone who played video games. Many years later, the youngest few of my siblings were given much more freedom as they grew up. My parents refuse to acknowledge that they did anything other than what was absolutely, objectively best for me, even though they don't hold the same beliefs they used to. Even though they haven't apologized, I've forgiven them. I've worked very hard to be grateful that my youngest siblings were able to have better childhoods than I was. It isn't an easy process, but it's one that results in a lot more joy than carrying bitter resentment with you day after day for years.
That's big of you. My mom was too harsh with me, and she admitted and apologized for it, but most importantly, we kept a deep relationship that evolved as I grew up, so this never was an issue between us. It's wise of you to put that aside, even if they don't understand you completely. You don't choose your parents. You only choose what relationship you have once you grow up.
Wow, it's a pretty big stretch from can't afford to go on trips to dirt poor can't afford a kid. When I was a kid, we lived very tight, almost paycheck to paycheck. We didn't go on trips but my day-to-day needs were more than met.
The last one was INSANE to me. Just because they're more financially stable for their second child doesn't mean the dad is an asshole or treating Jared badly. Dude's an adult now, and he's acting spoiled and jealous of his own sister like fourteen years after the fact. The dad could have handled it better, but that doesn't mean he's terrible. They need to sit down and hash it out.
When I was a teen my brother told me 'you don't deserve pie' after my mom cut us each a slice and then took them both. That sibling dinner story reminded me of that and I'm laughing now. Siblings do dumb stuff sometimes lol
With the last story, it feels like the perception of the story is really affected by whether you're from a single child families. I also can't fully understand the son's mentality towards his sister (single child here), but I have seen the same resentment play out in real life with friends who have siblings. AND whose parents' financial capabilities have changed in time between raising them and raising their younger sibling. It's never about what's fair, or the ~context of the situation~. The older one feels like they got shafted and are now in a position to demonstrate that to the parents. IMO the son is being a bit of a twat blaming the parents for the situation, but the dad also needs to recognise that this is a BIG deal to the son and respond sensitively to that. Sometimes it can be a shit situation and no one is at fault.
I have siblings and I think that a siblings won't feel jealous if they felt full of love from their parents, because want to create a better life and have better experience for a younger child is an extension of that love. Now this man was adopted at 12 so there are presumably a lot of obstacles for him feeling that what a parent can provide first and foremost is love. And then the parents who wanted biological children and adopted him because they couldn't, had a biochild when he was 16. I think he was in desperate need of therapy as he was added to the family and when Jada was born, but the family couldn't afford it even if they wanted it.
I am the eldest child, and absolutely my siblings have been getting better treatment than I have for various reasons. Thing is, even though I am slightly jealous I would never feel resentment or anything or even complain about it. At most when I hear my brother give out to my mom about his life being unfair (without getting into details, he gets annoyed when my mom tells him to go home at a certain time sometimes because of family being over or he's just out way too late) at most I end up telling him he's allowed a lot more freedom than I ever was and he should be grateful for it. Again, I will not go into details but even though I understand his teenage "I hate this household" feelings I know for a fact he's allowed to do a lot more than I ever was, and has way less chores.
The most obnoxious part of the 30-year-old post is that redditors were just assuming that "not being able to afford expensive family vacations" means "cannot afford to provide for a child's basic needs." You're not a shitty parent just cuz you can't take your kid to Disney World.
as someone who has a dad who was a small business owner, this is completely true. I'm surprised at the level of "fake" accusations. my brother in Christ, haven't you seen the world since the start of the pandemic? none of this make's sense, the part that does make twisted sense is completely malicious, and it's clear that they don't know what they are doing. then again, many people are just in a state of denial, thinking that all these fucked up things happening are just people exaggerating or some nonsense. it's not, these are real stories affecting real people's lives, and not every victim knows how to fight back.
The responses in that last one were coming close to giving me an aneurysm. I'm an older child in my family, my parents didn't have as much money when I was a kid compared to when my younger siblings were coming up, and they made a few parenting choices they decided not to repeat on the younger ones. I don't look back at those choices fondly, but I don't resent my parents for learning from their mistakes, and I certainly don't resent them for having more earning potential than when I was a kid, and I've missed plenty of family trips because I'm a grown-ass adult living away from them with my own life and responsibilities (I'm just happy to be invited). How is it that single child Ryan has a better grasp on this than these maniacs bitterly calling themselves "practice pancakes?"
As the oldest sibling in my family, that last one was really insane to see. We grew up incredibly poor. I remember how tough it was, and how my parents would do everything in their power to still give me and my siblings a good childhood (which they did). But nowadays, I've moved out and living on my own and my parents are doing much better financially, so my younger siblings still living at home get to do a lot more than I did at their age. So am I supposed to be pissed at that? Am I supposed to demand I get those benefits now? Hell no. I'm happy for my parents and my siblings. Sure I tease and joke sometimes, but it's never serious and they know that. How selfish do you have to be to expect that from your parents long after you've been out of the house? These redditors need to grow up lmao
I'll be honest, the first react for the first 15 minutes made me reconsider a lot in my own life. Like damn, what if I'm becoming a Tom? Will I be destined to meet Rubys and OPs - partners who can't stand me and friends who aren't constructive?
Same here my lover left me after a few months of not working and just watching NL lol. Only difference is we were 22 and 23 and both were recently working. Never too late to look at ourselves in the proverbial mirror
AITA really fell off once people started reacting to it and thus now gets flooded with Obvious Fake Bait. Same thing happened to r/ambien and r/twosentencehorror
@@C4Vendetta what do you mean lock? Like automatically? That's a fire hazard dude. Also sometimes you have family out and they need to get back in you don't give everyone a key.
@@greenoftreeblackofblue6625 no it's not a fire hazard unless it locks in such a way that it requires a key to exit (which is not the case in the type of lock setup they're describing). This type of locking setup, where you always need a key to enter but have a supplementary deadbolt for added security, is extremely common in apartment buildings in north america as well
If you don't live in a major city crime rates are probably lower than they've ever been in history. Also a lot of people have security cameras and locks only keep honest people out
older too for sure, didn't think they got enough from mom and dad in life. They had you and raised you, their obligation fulfilled, but then again their kids ended up on reddit.
I kind of understand the 30 year old son on the last one. My childhood wasn't great, both of my parents had good childhoods though. And yet we had an abusive home, one of my parents "unalived" themself, evicted from our home after that, moved state, other parent got into another abusive relationship, my best friend also "unalived" himself, etc. And we never had money on top of everything. I do find myself being bitter and jealous of the people around me, not out loud but still. I'm in my mid-20s now and my parent is doing very well financially. It's honestly hard to not feel resentful about it. I don't know what "Jared's" life has been like, but neither does anyone else. OP will always try to make themself look good, just remember that.
you know what? that comment about the 30 yo son needing therapy was the only right comment on that post. As to the parents paying for it, yeah, sounds good too
Okay but on a real note, I grew up with a two year younger sister. The favouritism was so obvious. She got things I didn’t. I had rules she didn’t. She got to go out, I didn’t. I’m an adult now, she’s just turned 18. Even now, shes at home being looked after and paid for still, while I was pushed out and told I have to figure things out (at 15 mind you). I paid for my own schooling, health, housing and everything else. The 30yro man needs to get over it, be mad but like, heal bro. Different time and situation. It’s unfortunate but it is what it is. It’s not favouritism, it’s just happenstance
At 1:38 I'm already thinking Ruby probably - understandably - prefers not to associate with this particular person. This is the first time one of these has tempted me to abandon my reddit boycott & join the comments.
26NB, I have 6 siblings and the youngest is 3F. My dad remarried and she has a much, much better life. My father was angry and abusive when I was growing up and we were very poor. He and his wife are W A Y better off and he is amazing with her. Financial situations change, people change, life changes. I wish I wasn’t treated the way I was sometimes and I wish that I had more opportunities on occasion but, by no means do I hold it against her or them. People gotta understand that it’s been so many damn years that literally everything is different.
The last one made go insane. Redditors are indeed 15 year olds who have nothing to worry about in their lives. The way they're dogging on this father is psychotic. I really hope he deletes the app or gets of the site.
No, its about being responsible before having the kid and thinking about if you can financially support them. Having a kid, especially the first few years, is stressful enough without having to worry about money as well. Having children has gotten so much more expensive than it was even 5 years ago
I love all the "INFO: Why are you an asshole for being poor but also adopting?" comments. My brother in Christ you can have enough money to literally take care of a child but not spoil them rotten. And no shit 16 years later they're in a better financial position, the parents probably got promoted.
I'm only responding to the general statement OP made here, not the particulars of the reddit story. You can accept the rationale but dismiss it as not applicable to the story (and I would be inclined to do so).
@@atomknight8361 and that's a result of financial polices to defund welfare over stuff like militarization. official's could easily make it more affordable to raise children, even for low income people, but for some reason the rich think worker's are moocher's, even when the empirical evidence suggests the opposite?
What he said about locking doors is right. I lived in a duplex a few years ago and one Friday night I was laying on my couch watching TV when suddenly my door opened. This girl stares at me laying there and realized she opened the wrong door. She meant to go to my neighbors for a party and she was embarrassed she walked in on me. She didn't even knock or anything
Someone at my house left the door open once because they were outside doing stuff - and I wasn't there, but I got told later that someone walked all the way into our house, to one of the back rooms, thinking it was a hostel. We used to get a lot of people thinking our house was a hostel, for some reason. But that was the only time someone's actually walked in, completely uninvited. Aaaaand that's why you should lock your doors - because that person made it to the back of the house before someone caught them. What if it had been a thief or attacker?
OMG that first girl is almost like me! I separated with my GF in a similar manner and she was also very butthurt over me not leaving her more money. NL was right, I literally paid her a "fuck off fee" because it was just easier to throw money at her so she could STFU and move away than to deal with her bullshit.
@@edannoble4116 I have this profile picture for 10 years probably. Not really indicative of who I am at all, but much like the people of Reddit, you seem to have me all figured out from one comment on the internet :)
@@CZProtton yes, and I have already recognized that you are the cur wanted in 200 countries, known only as "The Underwear Devourer". needless to say, opinion discarded.
I had a brother in-law making no money tell my sister "a wife should have dinner ready when her man gets home from work" when she was making 80% of their money AND gave him two kids. I have no issue with gender roles, but that's not gender roles that's mommy and child roles.
But why does Jada get to have the latest pokemon games when he was forced to play pokemon blue while all his friends was already on ilver and gold?! DID YOU THINK ABOUT THAT
I feel like people are focusing too much on the trip, he probably didn't have other things that she gets, and was treated differently and stricter, that plus being adopted is going to make him feel like he's not loved, like I feel not a lot of people have siblings with a big age gap like this, because then I think they'll get why would he feel this way.
@@MohamedNasr-bw2wc Most parents get less strict with the younger kids than they did with the first, because they are more experienced and less anxious. This is actually super normal. And most older siblings don't make a huge issue out of it decades later.
@@robinvik1 yeah I know but for sure they thought about it at some point, and him being adopted didn't make that feeling any less, we don't know the difference between how he was raised and his sister is being raised too, I don't think it is as easy as NL and some people make it out to be "oh you're 30 grow up"
@@MohamedNasr-bw2wc No, it is. His dad admitted his mistake, he invited him on the trip, he ask him what he could do now to make up for the past (and what he did in the past was normal parenting _mistakes_ not anything abusive or malicious). His dad is reaching out. The son is is the one wants to stay mad and not do anything about it. That's his choice. Not his dad's.
That "I don't lock the doors" thing puts me in mind of people who brag (or otherwise feel the need to tell everyone) that they never block people. Like it's easier to just not get robbed than it is to spend half a nanosecond turning a key.
In college I had a roommate who was obsessed with efficiency. He ended up getting frustrated one day and tried to convince me and the third roommate that we shouldn't lock our apartment door anymore. His argument was it takes 3 seconds to unlock, that added up after multiple trips to and from the apartment each day, and was too much wasted time. The problem was that it was my Wii U (i know, don't hate), and xbox one sitting right in view when you open the front door. We ultimately didn't let it fly. It could've been fine ultimately but I wasn't in a financial situation to easily handle having expensive things stolen. The city we were in is known for crime. We even had the apartment put out flyers asking residents to lock their cars because people were being robbed (i guess by not locking their car doors).
have another friend (different) from college that recently moved back to town. We went out to eat and left from his place, he didn't lock the door. I was super surprised because he is living in an apartment complex that doesn't even close the gate most times. This same guy had one of his roommates cars stolen when he was living in CO a year ago. So he is aware that people steal shit. Ultimately he said he wants to live in a place where he can leave doors unlocked and not be worried, which is fine. I also lock doors because I have pets, even the off chance my dog hits the door handle or something means she could get lost and that'd be the worst.
The last one is crazy. So going by those commentors, the parents should've never adopted Jared? Because they didn't have enough money for luxuries/expensive trips? Do they actually think parenting means buying your child's affection with luxurious gifts? The parents apparently had enough money to afford adopting a child and gave Jared a stable and loving home. They made mistakes, as expected from first time parents (no clue how that one guy imagines you to acquire "prior knowledge"), but it sounds like they tried their best and gave him all they had back then.
That 30yr old dude having jealousy for a child being treated better than him and the subreddit being on his side is all i need to know of the mindset of an average AITA poster.
Re home security bit: Its best to have a home security system, then put signs for a different home security system in your lawn. It projects the strength NL was talking about while also not revealing communication streams your system is using. Targeted robbery/invasion is more common for niche micro celebs like NL. FYSA for people who think their house could be targets by a more skilled thief. OR just get a loud dog lol.
the only thing in the first post is if Tom was working for a while and deposited money into the joint account before he stopped working, he should have received his money. OP does say he worked after school first.
1:06:28 as someone from belleville, the thought of vacationing in belleville is absolutely wild to me. not prince edward county, while you're going that way? no sandbanks? just belleville, of all places? I guess I get going there just for restaurants you don't have in kingston, that's what I did in the opposite direction, for one-off shopping days.
On the post with the dad telling his son to get over it, that's a hard one. On one hand, yeah, that was almost 20 years ago now, so it does warrant a thicker skin when it comes to shit in the now that they couldn't afford to do in the past. On the other hand, while the kid should be grateful for getting adopted and leading a life outside of CPS... it's not exactly wrong to see what's going on with your "new sibling" and feel pretty inadequate in regards to why you couldn't. The kid could rationalize everything as his parents just having money now, or that times change, or they understand what to do now as parents better than they did before, but the father is effectively telling him to suck it up and deal with the fact that his childhood was strict, not fun, and basically not very good for a child to grow up from. If his father had asked him "Hey do you want to come with me, your mother, and your sister on a trip?" and he said he didn't want to? Yeah, the kid's being a baby. But his father only offered to take him on the trip after he'd already snubbed him with the "Get over it" remark. Yeah you can't change the past, but he's your son. Apologizing doesn't resolve the issue, there really isn't a set amount of apologies you can make that just cause it to vanish. But if you love him like he is your son, and you actually feel bad because he didn't have the childhood you are now able to give your daughter, and can comfortably, or at the very least reasonably give him accommodation now? Fuckin' do it. That's your son, not some weirdo 30 year old you had in your house for like 20 years. So many of the reddit clowns got *so* close to having a point, but then devolved into insulting the father or the daughter. Empty-headed website.
Hes 30 fucking years old. I have 3 brothers and we never took a holiday outside of our state, let alone our country. If my parents came to me now and said they were taking my youngest brother on a nice internation trip to theme parts i would be like "Dope, have fun, I got rent, a significant other and a job." Dudes fucking crying over his parents making money later in life. They raised him from 12 to what i assume is 18 and maybe even more and he is upset OVER TRIPS. WHO CARES. GO ON YOUR OWN HOLIDAYS.
@@iplaylol25 I think you're thinking of him too harshly, it's easy to forget the problems that adopted children often face. He was adopted bordering puberty, which already that basically guarantees he's gonna need therapy, and that's not helped whatsoever by seeing your parents have their "real" child when you're 16 and seemingly going through financial troubles and being treated strictly. Perhaps the child does need to get over it but often it's simply not that easy, especially when you're just left with these feelings festering.
Hell man you don’t even have to fake vacuuming just have her tell you every day via text or call when she expects to be home and start cooking your dinner for the day such that it will finish cooking shortly after she gets home. Boom, instant credit and respect for cooking a dinner you would’ve cooked anyway.
@@rodlopes4327 If you're insane maybe. It's perfectly reasonable to politely request a heads up for the sake of having dinner ready or almost ready for your significant other.
@@rodlopes4327 i would think you'd have a good grasp on your partners schedule after a short time. A better policy might be a heads up if you're gonna be home late.
@@skorpiongod Would agree but NL's hypothetical makes it sound like your partner could be home at varied times based on how busy it is in the office. If you're at home all day, the least you can do is have a meal going for them and you need some bit of heads up to do that.
@@isingra yeah if your partner's schedule and working hours are super inconsistent then its probably fine. I'd rather be given a heads up if something changes than ask everyday when she's coming home though.
the talk of unemployment and house work kills me, i've been the worker in this situation whilst doing OT to keep up the finances, and was told off for not cleaning enough
as with most AITA posts, for the adult adopted son one, the execution is where the assholery comes in, not so much the acts. But I think we're lacking enough INFO to make a complete judgment without projecting a lot of data points. Has the dad tried to have a reasoned and open conversation about this in the past, and got stonewalled and frustrated and then said "get over it"? Or is the dad unwilling to have that conversation and shutting it down? Is the adopted son making any attempt to have that conversation about his feelings, or is this resentment that's going unspoken except in aggressive gripes? Any of this could be true and would shake up the dynamics significantly.
My father was a terrible person, and had a second son when I was 12 years old. I have left that entire family at this point, but if I found out that my father 100% changed and is giving my little brother the perfect life, how in the world could I be mad at that? Should my younger sibling have to suffer just because I did?
I swear, everyone on reddit fully believes theyre a spock level logical thinker. Meanwhile, they navigate life and ethics entirely through vibes and completely insane rules that they follow due to some deep seated insecurity or resentment.
note to self: if I do a bad job to raise my kid, i need to do an equally shitty job on the 2nd one or reddit will blame me for favouritism
@@younot593 edit of edit note to self: once you act badly, don’t stop, nothing good comes from change.
@@younot593 this just in: being poor means you’re a bad parent.
@@younot593 what’re you even talking about? Did you discover the word projecting yesterday?
@@younot593 bro, goodness gracious 😂 in the post, the parents were too poor to afford taking the now man child on vacation. It’s literally the entire cause of everything.
@@younot593 except in this scenario you know absolutely nothing about these people and you’re making shit up 😭 go outside bro. You have a Reddit post into this guys life and now you’re the expert
Reddit: I HATE when POOR PEOPLE have children, it's so abusive. Poor people should do their research and not have children until they're 70 and rich. How dare you have no money and put up a curfew.
Also Reddit: "I am rich and I put up a curfew in my wonderful home. My son left in the middle of the night, so when he came back I shot him with my wonderful shotgun." - NTA, your house your rules.
Wait, that's not hypocritical at all though
Reading the phrase 'I shot him with my wonderful shotgun' has been sending me consistently for months now, every time I'm back on this video. Thank you for your service.
yes, poor people should not have kids
the solution is to reduce poorness until anyone can afford kids if they want, rather than let poor people make kids suffer from their selfishness
world is overpopulated and bringing kids into a poor home is most likely gonna cause harm
@pods-lx3tf the world isn't overpopulated, the resources are just poorly distributed. And even if you say "poor people shouldn't have kids" they're still going to have kids because they only way to stop poor people from having kids would be sterilising them which is fascistic.
@@pods-lx3tf anglos really be posting ecofascism on main innit
For everyone asking why the hell Ruby gave her ex severance pay, I'm pretty sure it's because she was afraid he wouldn't be able to pay for food or rent before he got a job after she left, and didn't want that on her conscience. The fact she originally planned to give him SIX MONTHS of breathing room says all you need to know about her confidence in his ability to shape up. Ruby is a goddamn saint.
Also shows her confidence in him getting a job, and I’m not a bootstraps guy, but this is a case where the dude is literally just partying and enjoying the money of a mommy gf. She probably originally said 6 months and then her friends talked her down. However I think even that post is likely fake, the spelling errors could be explained by ESL but it’s crafted to cause outrage and YTA
Oh. And here I was thinking that it was because the story was made up by a teenager
My problem was that she was like No because you asked for some of the money up front to find a place to stay because Im kicking you out you now only get 3 months instead of 6 which frankly seems a bit vindictive
@@Imbalanxd Which it probably was
@@Imbalanxd I don't tend to put a lot of stock into AITA posts (I actually don't usually watch the React Court segments), but if it is fake, I think that's still the author's intention. As far as fake posts go, at least it's a clever one.
The rumors of React Court's demise are greatly exaggerated.
The attempt on react courts life has left me scarred and deformed.
Ehh, think we’re down to mildly exaggerated at this point
Im pretty sure it’s once a month
I swear NL waits till people think he canceled this series before he uploads the next episode lol.
So true that nl said it next aita vid
“Do you realize how bad of a boyfriend you have to be for your girlfriend to pay you severance?” Had me rolling
I had to read that last situation like four times to see if I was missing something everyone in the comments sections were seeing. The things the son endured:
- early curfew
- wasn't allowed to have a girlfriend at 14
- parents couldn't afford going on vacations
Why is everyone acting like the kid was living in a dog cage being fed cat food? The comments about "don't have a kid if you're unable to provide for them" when it sounds like they provided just fine, minus the luxury of vacations, are crazy to me. It's also crazy because it sounds like they regularly include the son in their life because the situation outlined is that the son was over at their house, maybe dinner or something, and the daughter excitedly told him about an upcoming trip. The parents even apologized already, BEFORE the react incident, that they weren't able to give him a better childhood and wish they could have. That's the part I don't think I saw anyone comment on: the son has a history of complaining about how the daughter has a better life and it only came to a head with the dad saying to suck it up and get over it because the son was being openly resentful to the daughter's face.
Insane takes from reddit there.
Reddit is always full of insane takes, they're adult children living a fantasy and hold weird concepts in relation to family and children.
They’re all teenagers who are mad they’re currently grounded
Yeah, it's insane because it doesn't sound like he even had such a drastically different life. I feel really bad for the younger kid that her older sibling might resent her over this. I lived a similar situation as the younger child and frankly my two siblings (who are 18 years older than me) lived waaay worse lives than me, like to the point of having worse nutrition and living in a dangerous neighborhood. I can't imagine how bizarre it'd be if they held it against me and my parents that my parents were able improve themselves financially. Hell, they all were *excited* for me as a kid whenever I got to do stuff that they never experienced (like, say, school trips). As always, these videos make me more grateful that I am surrounded by lovely, sane people... and frankly it's totally possible all those people are too, they just need to talk it out without going to reddit for feedback.
@@myrimu9829 So my counter is, the kid is complaining that they are treating their biological kid better than him. Which is true but life changes, so whatever. The issue however, is we are getting the parents POV on this. If he really does have a favorite child (his own) and was actually harsher on his adopted kid (which he even admits to) then I can absolutely understand why he is pissed. I think the vacation this is just the straw that broke the camels back for him. From the adopted kids POV he isn't as loved as the biological kid. The dad is pissed he is being called out for having a favorite child which even by his standards he admits to be partially true but says its about the money rather than love or attention.
because they're the big "D" dumb as rocks lol. HOW DARE YOU HAVE A KID without 20 years of practice. Its kinda a thing in parenting that you make all the mistakes with the first kid - said usually both regret and humour
i love when you can read an edit and instantly see in the mind's eye the INSANE abuse that redditors have heaped on them
Oh man when I finally crack and add my own AITA post just to balance out the fake ones, I already know it will feature an edit just like that.
@@sirondium AITA for watching NL hating all the bad takes he has about cars and still calling him based?
@@greenoftreeblackofblue6625 sorry, I’m European, what’s a car?
@@sirondium It is an in-efficient meat blender.
No wonder the restaurant is understaffed if the dad keeps firing everybody
Man, if that situation is real, it's a real conundrum for the guy. Personally, I would've gone to see my newborn, then figured out how to deal with the consequence of losing a job. Nevertheless, the guy seemed like he had a rational thought process. Fuck the dad
@@adeldell8275 The guy has experience as a head chef, I think he would be able to find a decent job at a different restaurant.
NINOOOOOOOOO
@@oliviapg yeah but then you have to write your dad in your references lol some employers pay attention to that for sure
I gotta say I do have a cousin I used to work for that was actually exactly like that. I think the guy just got off on the power he had over others by owning a business. Thought he was Jesus with a Purple Heart award because he was a Small Business Owner. When I quit, he left me harassing voicemails about how I'm too "prissy" to be part of his family anyway. Then he threatened to get me fired from any other job I'd get until I come back to work for him.
Then he lost his main contract, his business went under, his wife left him, and he fucked off to Florida. This was around 2014.
Jada: **exists**
Reddit: "And I took that personally!"
They're offended that Jada sides with her parents instead of her adult adopted brother who she didn't even grow up with. Makes no sense lol.
Reddit hates children unless they're manchildren
Reddit will go 'You're not entitled to more food' to 'You're entitled to a trip as an adult with your parents' in the same breath
Yeah my mom does often pay for me to come on family vacas as an adult. Which is an incredibly nice thing she does I recognize is an entirely optional thing that I don’t expect.
it’s almost like different people reply to different posts and it’s not a hive mind 😳
@@BC-yl3qb was gonna say exactly this, but you summed it up perfectly. the great irony of the information age is that everyone thinks everyone is a hypocrite because they can't distinguish between individuals and platforms. the brain rot is only getting worse
@@jTech50 I don't think anyone's suggesting they're the same person. Merely pointing out that the two contradictory and polar opposite arguments are both showered with upvotes and praised as 'basic logic' by the exact same group of people in the exact same subreddit. Pointing out that the same group of people champion the complete opposite things depending on how they happen to feel at that moment is not the same as confusing them for the same people.
@@smexijebus *user recieved a reddit award*
I’m sad-> The egg posts react court -> I pog out of my gourd -> react court goes on hiatus -> I’m sad
You call this a hiatus? Try being a Grey's anatomy Let's Play fan!
But I still believe!
THE CIRCLE OF LIIIIIIVE
im cheesed to meet you > the bodies are never found > the case goes cold > im cheesed to meet you
Bro, I am 6 ft 6, atleast 2% dumber than NL and named Jerred. I am steady catching strays this episode.
Compared to two rapists and two murders in a solid minute good stuff
😂😂😂
Jerred. Thats nice
I doubt the dumber than NL part...
@@Freek314 Have you seen NL play sporcle?!? im atleast 50% dumber then him
re: first post
she was planning to give him enough to support himself for six months after she moved out, then cut it to three months. it sounds like she’s still planning to give him that once she’s moved out. AND ON TOP OF THAT she gave him 100 pounds to eat off of during the two weeks that he’s kicked out while she’s moving. he had a good thing going with someone who sounds like she actually cared about him and totally screwed it up and he STILL got let off easy by not getting thrown out on his butt at the end of it
love you pfp, amazing game, it got me obsessed for so many time
@@darwinjackson3560 thank you! love to advertise one of my favorite games ever
I have nothing to add to the conversation but I feel like it's fitting if I post in this particular thread.
I just don't understand the last one. It seems everyone is projecting their own situations on the last guy and judging based on that. The parents couldnt afford to give him a lot of luxuries and did their best to raise him. They made mistakes, which is expected from new parents, and applied the lessons learned to their next kid because they're decent parents. Of course the first child couldnt benefit from a decade of knowledge and the financial luxuries, because the parents didnt have any of that when he was young. The parents should try to include him more in family trips and functions in the future, just more organically and not as an apology type deal.
Thank you. I felt like I was insane reading those comments. Seems like the Reddit hivemind just projecting their own daddy issues onto someone they barely know from three paragraphs.
Not to mention he told the son to get over it when the son was taking it out in the daughter. If it were a closed door discussion between the two of them, that’s an entirely different situation. Just because the dad help the reigns too tight with Jared doesn’t give Jared the right to bully his sister. Neither the father or the son are trying to understand the other’s perspective.
The son was openly being a prick, but he wasn't taking it out on his sister-at least not by OP's retelling of events. The idea that the son was bullying his sister is an unfair fabrication of your imagination.
@@TCSyd Then why would he say that shit to her? He's trying to provoke his parents with zero consideration for her. What if she feels guilty and ends up with a complex of her own just because he couldn't control himself and have an adult-to-adult conversation with his parents about serious issues? That isn't necessarily BULLYING, but that clearly does show disregard towards her if not deliberate malice.
@@passageways Say what shit to her, exactly? The only thing we know that he said directly to her was that he wasn't allowed to date at her age. The second comment about favoritism was directed at the father. Now, I imagine that all three were present for both of these exchanges, but I can't be sure.
How spoiled do you have to be to think your parents not being able to take you on a trip is bad parenting
I think everyone was so quick to jump to the moral high ground and didn't stop to think how goofy they sounded 💀
What’s really terrible is them daring to improve their economic situation over time
My main issue is it sounded like (to me) that they didn't invite their son on the trip. It was only after the fact that he said "oh, you could come with us too". Even if he was never going to go, extending the invitation would've helped him to feel more loved. But really it sounds like the oldest is also a jerk for blaming the sister.
The Reddit comments on the last story made my blood boil, they prefer the kid stays in an orphanage than with a family with an average income.
If the boy stays in an orphanage, he’ll have no siblings so he can’t compare childhoods or feel inadequate!! Logic 100
redditors think you should kill your unborn child if you cant take them on expensive trips to Europe. OH no they won't have an amazing childhood free of any suffering or hardship :O don't bring them into this world
@@wendys9500 logic 0
Same, but at least reading it from NL there was a voice of sanity and I didn't feel I was going insane like I sometimes do on reddit. Reddit is really weird about children in so many ways, probably because they're largely (adult) children themselves.
Also hugely classist, like poor(er) people don't get to deserve what many consider the most meaningful experience a human can have because they can't afford luxuries.
Hey NL, just stopped by to give my 2 cents. My partner works full time and I (26M) am unemployed. I had a near fatal fall and broke both of my ankles/knees/legs so I can't work right now. At this point I do all the cooking/laundry/cleaning/taking care of our 4 furry animals. We have two messy frat boy roommates who don't clean shit 90% of the time. It's also a big multi level house. I can't imagine asking my partner to do anything around the house, there's so much time in the day that I can do everything and also play video games for what feels like way too much time. Tom seems like a dunce.
See what happens when you challenge Dan on the basketball court
@@AngelJimenez-cs4yq Leveling Vigor is the difference between breaking every bone in your lower body and death.
Bruh. Breaking both your legs and doing the chores of two losers in the house. Do they have no shame or guilt that a crippled dude is cleaning up after them 😂 fuck id kill myself if I was that useless
NL lore is great this episode " tadpole>frog>crocodile " and "my other house is a gun."
"My other house is a gun" made me laugh so hard I had to pause the video and take a break
Vintage playboys in the panic room
The amount of people projecting their own insecurities on that final YTA post is insane.
Only reasonable answer I can come up with is they're all kids wanting their parents to take them on more expensive trips. I'm sure parenting will be easy when they get there though dw.
it's clearly an example of ESH. having a bad childhood myself, i recognize that my parent's fuckked up in having a family before they were ready( even though that's the culture i grew up in). however in becoming my own person and an adult, I realized that this was pushed on them by other's, and there were exogenous factor's outside of their control, thus to blame this on them would be unfair. that being said, to tell someone just to either not have the trauma that they do over the result of this, or to assume that people can just automatically heal from that trauma by their own effort's is also why so many people sympathize, because they also have fuckked up things like that said to them. healing from trauma sometimes can happen individually, but at other time's it's a group effort. while it's understandable that the dad might have had external factor's and have become defensive as a result of it, to then say that it isn't really something to be hurt over denies trauma that need's healing. further, while the son also is an assshole to not recognize that there are external factor's to this outside of the parent's control and to react to that peace offering as he did, it kind of really does mess you up to have a bad childhood. while I would rather have a bad childhood than a bad adulthood, the fact that neither is necessary is the fact that should be foregrounded.
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@@ethanstump Dude is adopted at age 12, obviously he had a bad childhood and trauma from this even before OP came in the picture. OP certainly gave him a better life and being less strict with your children the more you have is also pretty much the norm, so OP is a asshole in your view because he got a better paying job now? You can be a good parent and not be able to afford expensive trips, being jealous at someone less than half your age is really fucked up. Yes trauma needs healing, doesn't mean that you can't be blunt sometimes, especially when he argues in front of his sister.
@@ethanstump So this guy was traumatized by his adoptive parents because they didn't take him on trips and gave him a curfew? You realise how ridiculous that sounds right?
@the western rising sun This situation seems very different than yours. The 30 year old seems more but hurt about his younger sibling rather than being traumatized or being mistreated by his parents. There was no topic about bing abused or being in a situation with his parents where he might not get to sleep on a bed.
"your therapist is going to lose respect for you"
I'm taking that one
Way better than “practice pancake”
I binged all the react courts a few weeks ago so glad for more content. You have funnier, more insightful and more scathing breakdowns than other YT AITA readers. No preselecting softball questions for you, just raw takes.
If it wasn't for NL I'd believe the whole "streamers react to other online content" was a sham, but the banter is just that good. A straight upgrade to most anything
@@calvin5426 he does it better than any other, banter like no other
the friend in the first story has NOW a perfect opportunity to understand why the girl is leaving this guy by paying for his expenses while he lives with her bc she’s amazing friend like go on girl show us how fun it is to pay for someone while they do fuck all
"Pay for someone while they do fuck all" Homemakers btfo, your partner not working? NOT ON MY WATCH PEWEPEWPEPWPEW.
@@aelix56 it didn't really come across like Tom was a homemaker, more that he just drank and played video games all day.
@@MeMe-nu9cf åå
My prayers for more react court have finally been answered 🙏
I work as a Crime Scene Investigator in Detroit and you absolutely should not put a 5 month old in bed next to sleeping adults. That's how babies die.
I’m an extremely heavy sleeper and move around a lot in my sleep and if my wife had ever put either of our kids in the bed with me I would have lost my mind. I also woke up early and took care of them when she went to work because I’m not a fucking idiot and understand that I need to take care of the kids. Idk why the poster isn’t just waking up, like yeah it sucks to not sleep but come on dude you decided to have a kid.
@@int3r4ct OP goes to sleep at 5 because of work, his wife does not need to go to work and she also puts the baby there even when he told her not to. OP is just fucked and his wife overracted, a lot.
@@int3r4ct based good dad
Cant they just buy/ built a little baby bed that has fences around it and put that baby bed next to the their bed?
@@methanesulfonic I think that is what they have? The kid just cries anyway...
The first story is basically "Ruby became an adult. Tom didn't."
looks like he shouldve taken adulting more seriously.
he seemed willing to fix things though?
@@Shnarfbird He's 31, and women aren't obligated to love someone who's trying when they've frankly already moved on.
Also he's 31.
@@Shnarfbird she was done. If he wants to change he can for the next girl. If you’re unsatisfied with your relationship, there’s nothing wrong with leaving it, even if the person says they want to get better at the end. She’s giving him her money after the break up so he can land on his feet. That’s incredibly generous and not something she needed to do. Ruby did absolutely nothing wrong and is frankly too nice
@@huckthatdish Just to add to this, they were in a relationship since university - so this was probably almost a decade into their relationship. If he's still sitting at home playing video games and contributing nothing, and she's "nagging" him, I'm sure the truth is more that she's been waiting for 8 years for him to get his shit together and probably subtlely trying to push him to be an actual adult. That deep in, she was probably wondering about marriage too and realizing she couldn't be with someone who didn't grow.
Frankly if I started dating someone in university, I'd probably be out by about 26 if they hadn't grown past where Tom was.
man you know you need your coffee when "even a blind nut gets a squirrel sometimes" literally kills you
The responses to the last one are bonkers. The dad probably should have been more emotionally sensitive to the 30 year old, but if the 30 year old had any issues with his parents, he definitely shouldn't have compared their situations and complained to/in front of his sister. It seems likely the dude has had this complex for a long time. The real question, then, is whether or not that complex has developed over time for real reasons or imagined ones - something reddit dipshits aren't in a position to know. Even the OP probably doesn't know. He does kinda suck for immediately going down the "get over it" path instead of finding out where the 30 year old is coming from, but the 30 year old sounds like a brat either way, so I can see why he'd provoke that response from the dad. It is, however, perhaps a little telling that the OP bothers to mention that his 14 year old daughter is on his side, as if that could be relevant.
Reddit is absolutely INSANE and I can't imagine being the kind of fool that thinks it's a good place to get validation for your parenting from. I mean yeah, the context of the comments does make it seem like maybe OP is a bit of an ass, but the redditors are going fucking apeshit because OP was able to do better for his second kid? Nuts.
Tbf to the adopted kid, we are getting the story from the dad's side. He may not have been as assholish as was made out in the post. Either way my man has some serious shit to work out and he shouldn't be taking it out on his sister. He probably should take it out on the dad though, you can't be shrugging your shoulders at shit like that if you want a good relationship with your kids.
I am surprised that so much focus was on the financial element. If anything, the dad (and mom) was an asshole for being an autocratic parent the first time around and then not recognizing and apologizing for that fact.
@@calypso4882 To me, he's old enough to know that's not something to mention to a 14 year old if you think it's actually an issue. A playful joke, sure, but if he's actually this hurt by it all, it's definitely not something to vent through her (and possibly make her feel guilty about). So, assuming that's accurate, even if the dad is painting the situation in his favor, the 30 year old is still displaying glaring immaturity. It could be understandable due to damage from a troubled life, but if the dude wants to act like a child, maybe he needs to be treated like one. And if that's the case, children often don't get to know all of the ins and outs of their parents' decisions. So "get over it" kind of applies. Again, I don't think that's the best way to handle it, I basically agree with you, the dad seems like he's somewhere between insensitive and shitty; but there's a big gray area people can't reasonably pretend to be able to judge - and the reddit comments think they've got this shit pegged.
It's also crazy that the assumptions took we couldn't afford to go on trips to mean we couldn't afford to raise a kid. Those are two different kinds of expenses - one requires a significant amount of up front payment, the other is a long term investment. If a kid costs you extra every week, maybe that just means it's harder for you to save up for trips that now cost more due to including the kid, or maybe you have to work more to keep providing for the kid and because of that can't take the time for trips.
Like, the dad is not great, but neither is the 30yo. It was like every comment came from a Redditor who was a neglected older child - oh, the kid who was adopted at twelve might not have the best relationship with his adopted parents at 30, and that might be both their faults? Gasp!
I think this is the best your channel ever had to offer and I watched for several years now. This is straight up your ballpark, best content.
Heavy agree. It's like watching standup comedy crowd work but only the most insane people are invited to the event
"Then your girlfriend is just your mom" is absolutely 100% how that first woman must have felt, my god that first one is giving me an aneurysm. Thank fuck she was able to get out of that situation well enough. Bozo is putting it lightly lmao
"My other house is a gun" killed me, omg
I'm the oldest of a bunch of kids. My parents were extremely strict with me. I wasn't allowed to date anyone while I lived at home, and wasn't allowed to be friends with anyone who played video games. Many years later, the youngest few of my siblings were given much more freedom as they grew up.
My parents refuse to acknowledge that they did anything other than what was absolutely, objectively best for me, even though they don't hold the same beliefs they used to.
Even though they haven't apologized, I've forgiven them. I've worked very hard to be grateful that my youngest siblings were able to have better childhoods than I was.
It isn't an easy process, but it's one that results in a lot more joy than carrying bitter resentment with you day after day for years.
That's big of you. My mom was too harsh with me, and she admitted and apologized for it, but most importantly, we kept a deep relationship that evolved as I grew up, so this never was an issue between us. It's wise of you to put that aside, even if they don't understand you completely. You don't choose your parents. You only choose what relationship you have once you grow up.
This first post is causing me physical pain. It's perfect
couldn't agree more!
'My other house is a gun' would make a baller shirt
Wow, it's a pretty big stretch from can't afford to go on trips to dirt poor can't afford a kid. When I was a kid, we lived very tight, almost paycheck to paycheck. We didn't go on trips but my day-to-day needs were more than met.
The last one was INSANE to me. Just because they're more financially stable for their second child doesn't mean the dad is an asshole or treating Jared badly. Dude's an adult now, and he's acting spoiled and jealous of his own sister like fourteen years after the fact. The dad could have handled it better, but that doesn't mean he's terrible. They need to sit down and hash it out.
When I was a teen my brother told me 'you don't deserve pie' after my mom cut us each a slice and then took them both. That sibling dinner story reminded me of that and I'm laughing now. Siblings do dumb stuff sometimes lol
...how old was your brother???? wait, did you just give him your slice without a fuss??
@@cardboard2night We were both teens and no, I did get my slice! lol
@@manniquin Did you deserve it though? Be honest.
you thief i cant believe you stole youre siblings pie after he stole it from you.. shame on you
With the last story, it feels like the perception of the story is really affected by whether you're from a single child families. I also can't fully understand the son's mentality towards his sister (single child here), but I have seen the same resentment play out in real life with friends who have siblings. AND whose parents' financial capabilities have changed in time between raising them and raising their younger sibling. It's never about what's fair, or the ~context of the situation~. The older one feels like they got shafted and are now in a position to demonstrate that to the parents. IMO the son is being a bit of a twat blaming the parents for the situation, but the dad also needs to recognise that this is a BIG deal to the son and respond sensitively to that. Sometimes it can be a shit situation and no one is at fault.
I have siblings and I think that a siblings won't feel jealous if they felt full of love from their parents, because want to create a better life and have better experience for a younger child is an extension of that love.
Now this man was adopted at 12 so there are presumably a lot of obstacles for him feeling that what a parent can provide first and foremost is love. And then the parents who wanted biological children and adopted him because they couldn't, had a biochild when he was 16. I think he was in desperate need of therapy as he was added to the family and when Jada was born, but the family couldn't afford it even if they wanted it.
I am the eldest child, and absolutely my siblings have been getting better treatment than I have for various reasons. Thing is, even though I am slightly jealous I would never feel resentment or anything or even complain about it. At most when I hear my brother give out to my mom about his life being unfair (without getting into details, he gets annoyed when my mom tells him to go home at a certain time sometimes because of family being over or he's just out way too late) at most I end up telling him he's allowed a lot more freedom than I ever was and he should be grateful for it. Again, I will not go into details but even though I understand his teenage "I hate this household" feelings I know for a fact he's allowed to do a lot more than I ever was, and has way less chores.
Im not even kidding. If I see React Court, I'm pogging outta my fricking mind.
Gourd*
The most obnoxious part of the 30-year-old post is that redditors were just assuming that "not being able to afford expensive family vacations" means "cannot afford to provide for a child's basic needs." You're not a shitty parent just cuz you can't take your kid to Disney World.
Having worked in the restaurant industry, that one doesn't sound fake at all lol. Small business owners are deranged individuals.
as someone who has a dad who was a small business owner, this is completely true. I'm surprised at the level of "fake" accusations. my brother in Christ, haven't you seen the world since the start of the pandemic? none of this make's sense, the part that does make twisted sense is completely malicious, and it's clear that they don't know what they are doing. then again, many people are just in a state of denial, thinking that all these fucked up things happening are just people exaggerating or some nonsense. it's not, these are real stories affecting real people's lives, and not every victim knows how to fight back.
We are a family here = run like hell
The responses in that last one were coming close to giving me an aneurysm. I'm an older child in my family, my parents didn't have as much money when I was a kid compared to when my younger siblings were coming up, and they made a few parenting choices they decided not to repeat on the younger ones. I don't look back at those choices fondly, but I don't resent my parents for learning from their mistakes, and I certainly don't resent them for having more earning potential than when I was a kid, and I've missed plenty of family trips because I'm a grown-ass adult living away from them with my own life and responsibilities (I'm just happy to be invited). How is it that single child Ryan has a better grasp on this than these maniacs bitterly calling themselves "practice pancakes?"
NL going off about calories made my whole day. What a legend.
As the oldest sibling in my family, that last one was really insane to see. We grew up incredibly poor. I remember how tough it was, and how my parents would do everything in their power to still give me and my siblings a good childhood (which they did). But nowadays, I've moved out and living on my own and my parents are doing much better financially, so my younger siblings still living at home get to do a lot more than I did at their age. So am I supposed to be pissed at that? Am I supposed to demand I get those benefits now? Hell no. I'm happy for my parents and my siblings. Sure I tease and joke sometimes, but it's never serious and they know that. How selfish do you have to be to expect that from your parents long after you've been out of the house? These redditors need to grow up lmao
someone who is actually sane and reasonable
The responses on that last story are _insane._ Who the hell are these people?
I'll be honest, the first react for the first 15 minutes made me reconsider a lot in my own life. Like damn, what if I'm becoming a Tom? Will I be destined to meet Rubys and OPs - partners who can't stand me and friends who aren't constructive?
Same here my lover left me after a few months of not working and just watching NL lol. Only difference is we were 22 and 23 and both were recently working. Never too late to look at ourselves in the proverbial mirror
@@RyanGaryLeTomo fucked up
join a trade, honestly. in most of the US it's a faster ROI than college and in stable demand.
AITA really fell off once people started reacting to it and thus now gets flooded with Obvious Fake Bait. Same thing happened to r/ambien and r/twosentencehorror
That was when i realized freddy Fazbore was in the room.
That's just how reddit is, unfortunately. A subreddit is good until it blows up. Then, the circlejerk subreddit is good at least
Imagine being a person in the 21st century that doesn't lock their doors. I want to live in the world that they think they're living in.
I mean it’d be safer to do that in the 21st century than any other century.
As a European I'm just confused American doors apparently don't "lock" as soon as they're closed, and then can be further locked for extra security.
@@C4Vendetta what do you mean lock? Like automatically? That's a fire hazard dude. Also sometimes you have family out and they need to get back in you don't give everyone a key.
@@greenoftreeblackofblue6625 no it's not a fire hazard unless it locks in such a way that it requires a key to exit (which is not the case in the type of lock setup they're describing). This type of locking setup, where you always need a key to enter but have a supplementary deadbolt for added security, is extremely common in apartment buildings in north america as well
If you don't live in a major city crime rates are probably lower than they've ever been in history. Also a lot of people have security cameras and locks only keep honest people out
NL could read the phonebook and I'd eat it up.
That last one definitely brought out a lot of younger siblings who need therapy
Holy crap at the amount of projection in the comments
older too for sure, didn't think they got enough from mom and dad in life. They had you and raised you, their obligation fulfilled, but then again their kids ended up on reddit.
"YTA. Should have bought your 30 yo son a Turboman doll."
that last comment section is one of the most insane reddit moments I have ever experienced
I kind of understand the 30 year old son on the last one. My childhood wasn't great, both of my parents had good childhoods though. And yet we had an abusive home, one of my parents "unalived" themself, evicted from our home after that, moved state, other parent got into another abusive relationship, my best friend also "unalived" himself, etc. And we never had money on top of everything. I do find myself being bitter and jealous of the people around me, not out loud but still. I'm in my mid-20s now and my parent is doing very well financially. It's honestly hard to not feel resentful about it. I don't know what "Jared's" life has been like, but neither does anyone else. OP will always try to make themself look good, just remember that.
you know what? that comment about the 30 yo son needing therapy was the only right comment on that post. As to the parents paying for it, yeah, sounds good too
If only i had at least a weekly dose of React Court, my life would be complete
Okay but on a real note, I grew up with a two year younger sister. The favouritism was so obvious. She got things I didn’t. I had rules she didn’t. She got to go out, I didn’t. I’m an adult now, she’s just turned 18. Even now, shes at home being looked after and paid for still, while I was pushed out and told I have to figure things out (at 15 mind you). I paid for my own schooling, health, housing and everything else. The 30yro man needs to get over it, be mad but like, heal bro. Different time and situation. It’s unfortunate but it is what it is. It’s not favouritism, it’s just happenstance
At 1:38 I'm already thinking Ruby probably - understandably - prefers not to associate with this particular person. This is the first time one of these has tempted me to abandon my reddit boycott & join the comments.
26NB, I have 6 siblings and the youngest is 3F. My dad remarried and she has a much, much better life. My father was angry and abusive when I was growing up and we were very poor. He and his wife are W A Y better off and he is amazing with her.
Financial situations change, people change, life changes. I wish I wasn’t treated the way I was sometimes and I wish that I had more opportunities on occasion but, by no means do I hold it against her or them.
People gotta understand that it’s been so many damn years that literally everything is different.
The sanest person in the whole world right here.
"You became a parent with no prior knowledge" Jesus Christ, my sides entered orbit on that one.
The last one made go insane. Redditors are indeed 15 year olds who have nothing to worry about in their lives. The way they're dogging on this father is psychotic. I really hope he deletes the app or gets of the site.
when will the straight up classism of "poor people shouldn't be allowed to have kids" end
these people don't see poor people as real people
No, its about being responsible before having the kid and thinking about if you can financially support them. Having a kid, especially the first few years, is stressful enough without having to worry about money as well. Having children has gotten so much more expensive than it was even 5 years ago
I love all the "INFO: Why are you an asshole for being poor but also adopting?" comments. My brother in Christ you can have enough money to literally take care of a child but not spoil them rotten. And no shit 16 years later they're in a better financial position, the parents probably got promoted.
If you can't financially support a kid, then you shouldn't be having them, much less adopting them.
I'm only responding to the general statement OP made here, not the particulars of the reddit story. You can accept the rationale but dismiss it as not applicable to the story (and I would be inclined to do so).
@@atomknight8361 and that's a result of financial polices to defund welfare over stuff like militarization. official's could easily make it more affordable to raise children, even for low income people, but for some reason the rich think worker's are moocher's, even when the empirical evidence suggests the opposite?
My. God. NL is so sane, so based, it makes me feel so comforted
What he said about locking doors is right. I lived in a duplex a few years ago and one Friday night I was laying on my couch watching TV when suddenly my door opened.
This girl stares at me laying there and realized she opened the wrong door. She meant to go to my neighbors for a party and she was embarrassed she walked in on me. She didn't even knock or anything
Someone at my house left the door open once because they were outside doing stuff - and I wasn't there, but I got told later that someone walked all the way into our house, to one of the back rooms, thinking it was a hostel. We used to get a lot of people thinking our house was a hostel, for some reason. But that was the only time someone's actually walked in, completely uninvited.
Aaaaand that's why you should lock your doors - because that person made it to the back of the house before someone caught them. What if it had been a thief or attacker?
Shit has truly hit the fun
I am truly glad that NL was as stunlocked by reddit's response to the last question as I was.
Locking the door is also a requirement for insurance to cover you incase of a break in.
OMG that first girl is almost like me! I separated with my GF in a similar manner and she was also very butthurt over me not leaving her more money. NL was right, I literally paid her a "fuck off fee" because it was just easier to throw money at her so she could STFU and move away than to deal with her bullshit.
Black Templar Fan spotted: chance of girlfriend ... 0%
@@edannoble4116 I have this profile picture for 10 years probably. Not really indicative of who I am at all, but much like the people of Reddit, you seem to have me all figured out from one comment on the internet :)
@@CZProtton yes, and I have already recognized that you are the cur wanted in 200 countries, known only as "The Underwear Devourer".
needless to say, opinion discarded.
@@CZProtton im literally just joking around my dude. I love 40k
I had a brother in-law making no money tell my sister "a wife should have dinner ready when her man gets home from work" when she was making 80% of their money AND gave him two kids. I have no issue with gender roles, but that's not gender roles that's mommy and child roles.
That last story made me mad, this guy has loving parents that provide food and shelter for him and is mad that they couldn't take him on a trip?
But why does Jada get to have the latest pokemon games when he was forced to play pokemon blue while all his friends was already on ilver and gold?! DID YOU THINK ABOUT THAT
I feel like people are focusing too much on the trip, he probably didn't have other things that she gets, and was treated differently and stricter, that plus being adopted is going to make him feel like he's not loved, like I feel not a lot of people have siblings with a big age gap like this, because then I think they'll get why would he feel this way.
@@MohamedNasr-bw2wc Most parents get less strict with the younger kids than they did with the first, because they are more experienced and less anxious. This is actually super normal. And most older siblings don't make a huge issue out of it decades later.
@@robinvik1 yeah I know but for sure they thought about it at some point, and him being adopted didn't make that feeling any less, we don't know the difference between how he was raised and his sister is being raised too, I don't think it is as easy as NL and some people make it out to be "oh you're 30 grow up"
@@MohamedNasr-bw2wc No, it is. His dad admitted his mistake, he invited him on the trip, he ask him what he could do now to make up for the past (and what he did in the past was normal parenting _mistakes_ not anything abusive or malicious). His dad is reaching out.
The son is is the one wants to stay mad and not do anything about it. That's his choice. Not his dad's.
"My other house is a gun" killed me
This is one of the strongest pieces of content I've ever seen. The pog rains have returned to this parched land.
“My other house is a gun” really got me
My uncle had a baby and the nurse put her next to her mum while she was sleeping. she rolled over the baby in her sleep and suffocated it.
That "I don't lock the doors" thing puts me in mind of people who brag (or otherwise feel the need to tell everyone) that they never block people.
Like it's easier to just not get robbed than it is to spend half a nanosecond turning a key.
Can't take trips = bad parents: reddit.
In college I had a roommate who was obsessed with efficiency. He ended up getting frustrated one day and tried to convince me and the third roommate that we shouldn't lock our apartment door anymore. His argument was it takes 3 seconds to unlock, that added up after multiple trips to and from the apartment each day, and was too much wasted time.
The problem was that it was my Wii U (i know, don't hate), and xbox one sitting right in view when you open the front door. We ultimately didn't let it fly. It could've been fine ultimately but I wasn't in a financial situation to easily handle having expensive things stolen. The city we were in is known for crime. We even had the apartment put out flyers asking residents to lock their cars because people were being robbed (i guess by not locking their car doors).
have another friend (different) from college that recently moved back to town. We went out to eat and left from his place, he didn't lock the door. I was super surprised because he is living in an apartment complex that doesn't even close the gate most times. This same guy had one of his roommates cars stolen when he was living in CO a year ago. So he is aware that people steal shit. Ultimately he said he wants to live in a place where he can leave doors unlocked and not be worried, which is fine.
I also lock doors because I have pets, even the off chance my dog hits the door handle or something means she could get lost and that'd be the worst.
The dad question brought out the hard projection, holy hell. "Throwing out the practice pancake"? What the hell is wrong with those people
The last one is crazy. So going by those commentors, the parents should've never adopted Jared? Because they didn't have enough money for luxuries/expensive trips?
Do they actually think parenting means buying your child's affection with luxurious gifts? The parents apparently had enough money to afford adopting a child and gave Jared a stable and loving home. They made mistakes, as expected from first time parents (no clue how that one guy imagines you to acquire "prior knowledge"), but it sounds like they tried their best and gave him all they had back then.
That 30yr old dude having jealousy for a child being treated better than him and the subreddit being on his side is all i need to know of the mindset of an average AITA poster.
Re home security bit: Its best to have a home security system, then put signs for a different home security system in your lawn. It projects the strength NL was talking about while also not revealing communication streams your system is using. Targeted robbery/invasion is more common for niche micro celebs like NL. FYSA for people who think their house could be targets by a more skilled thief. OR just get a loud dog lol.
Fumbling house husband duties with a woman sweet enough to give you better severance than most companies is insane
New React Court? You better believe I'm pogging.
The 'not gonna steal your TV' bit had me dying
*pounds table rhythmically* Pog, Pog, Pog, Pog
23:30 - this Luna bit has me absolutely crippled.
a total amount of insanity on that practice pancake post is high
The dad thread was absolute madness
the only thing in the first post is if Tom was working for a while and deposited money into the joint account before he stopped working, he should have received his money. OP does say he worked after school first.
1:06:28 as someone from belleville, the thought of vacationing in belleville is absolutely wild to me. not prince edward county, while you're going that way? no sandbanks? just belleville, of all places? I guess I get going there just for restaurants you don't have in kingston, that's what I did in the opposite direction, for one-off shopping days.
On the post with the dad telling his son to get over it, that's a hard one. On one hand, yeah, that was almost 20 years ago now, so it does warrant a thicker skin when it comes to shit in the now that they couldn't afford to do in the past.
On the other hand, while the kid should be grateful for getting adopted and leading a life outside of CPS... it's not exactly wrong to see what's going on with your "new sibling" and feel pretty inadequate in regards to why you couldn't. The kid could rationalize everything as his parents just having money now, or that times change, or they understand what to do now as parents better than they did before, but the father is effectively telling him to suck it up and deal with the fact that his childhood was strict, not fun, and basically not very good for a child to grow up from.
If his father had asked him "Hey do you want to come with me, your mother, and your sister on a trip?" and he said he didn't want to? Yeah, the kid's being a baby. But his father only offered to take him on the trip after he'd already snubbed him with the "Get over it" remark. Yeah you can't change the past, but he's your son. Apologizing doesn't resolve the issue, there really isn't a set amount of apologies you can make that just cause it to vanish. But if you love him like he is your son, and you actually feel bad because he didn't have the childhood you are now able to give your daughter, and can comfortably, or at the very least reasonably give him accommodation now? Fuckin' do it. That's your son, not some weirdo 30 year old you had in your house for like 20 years.
So many of the reddit clowns got *so* close to having a point, but then devolved into insulting the father or the daughter. Empty-headed website.
Hes 30 fucking years old. I have 3 brothers and we never took a holiday outside of our state, let alone our country.
If my parents came to me now and said they were taking my youngest brother on a nice internation trip to theme parts i would be like "Dope, have fun, I got rent, a significant other and a job."
Dudes fucking crying over his parents making money later in life. They raised him from 12 to what i assume is 18 and maybe even more and he is upset OVER TRIPS. WHO CARES. GO ON YOUR OWN HOLIDAYS.
@@iplaylol25 I think you're thinking of him too harshly, it's easy to forget the problems that adopted children often face. He was adopted bordering puberty, which already that basically guarantees he's gonna need therapy, and that's not helped whatsoever by seeing your parents have their "real" child when you're 16 and seemingly going through financial troubles and being treated strictly. Perhaps the child does need to get over it but often it's simply not that easy, especially when you're just left with these feelings festering.
Hell man you don’t even have to fake vacuuming just have her tell you every day via text or call when she expects to be home and start cooking your dinner for the day such that it will finish cooking shortly after she gets home. Boom, instant credit and respect for cooking a dinner you would’ve cooked anyway.
Asking someone to tell you when they get home everyday is kinda of a red flag...
@@rodlopes4327 If you're insane maybe. It's perfectly reasonable to politely request a heads up for the sake of having dinner ready or almost ready for your significant other.
@@rodlopes4327 i would think you'd have a good grasp on your partners schedule after a short time. A better policy might be a heads up if you're gonna be home late.
@@skorpiongod Would agree but NL's hypothetical makes it sound like your partner could be home at varied times based on how busy it is in the office. If you're at home all day, the least you can do is have a meal going for them and you need some bit of heads up to do that.
@@isingra yeah if your partner's schedule and working hours are super inconsistent then its probably fine. I'd rather be given a heads up if something changes than ask everyday when she's coming home though.
the talk of unemployment and house work kills me, i've been the worker in this situation whilst doing OT to keep up the finances, and was told off for not cleaning enough
as with most AITA posts, for the adult adopted son one, the execution is where the assholery comes in, not so much the acts. But I think we're lacking enough INFO to make a complete judgment without projecting a lot of data points. Has the dad tried to have a reasoned and open conversation about this in the past, and got stonewalled and frustrated and then said "get over it"? Or is the dad unwilling to have that conversation and shutting it down? Is the adopted son making any attempt to have that conversation about his feelings, or is this resentment that's going unspoken except in aggressive gripes? Any of this could be true and would shake up the dynamics significantly.
Those comments on the adoption one were absolutely insane.
NL has changed my lexicon for the foreseeable future
omfg i missed react court so much lets go!
getting out the fancy silverware for a new react court
My father was a terrible person, and had a second son when I was 12 years old.
I have left that entire family at this point, but if I found out that my father 100% changed and is giving my little brother the perfect life, how in the world could I be mad at that?
Should my younger sibling have to suffer just because I did?
Started speaking in a different language means using a 9th grade vocabulary
I swear, everyone on reddit fully believes theyre a spock level logical thinker. Meanwhile, they navigate life and ethics entirely through vibes and completely insane rules that they follow due to some deep seated insecurity or resentment.
"They apparently learned fast when it was their own child" The inability of redditors to perceive a difference of 16 years is astounding