Sharing my feelings and things that my ex husband did to me that makes co parenting hard.

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  • čas přidán 18. 06. 2024

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  • @suchetachowdhury5117
    @suchetachowdhury5117 Před měsícem +18

    Ami 14yrs katiachi. As a single parent chele ke baro korechi
    job kore. Chele akhon karmorato. Akhon 28th year cholche amar biar. Akjon adult manus hoa Mar katha mene bou ar cheler jibon ta borbaad korar chesta ta samorthon korte pari na. Thakurer aashirbaad bari chole asechilum. Rumela tomar toiri roll ta dekhe realize korlum life ar oi khali jayga ta vorar jonno satisfying food ta amar jonno khub valo kaaj korehe. Bahu kichu sacrifice korleo du akta kaaj banchia rekhechi. Traveling, delicious food, movies ar tomar moto koyekjon CZcamsrs💗💗💗💗💗💗
    Moner opor jor chole na. Khoma kora sotti e vison shakto. Proyojon nei. Ara konodin change hoy na. 54yrs a pouche dunia dekhe anek abhiggota hoache.
    Thakurer aashirbaad Tumi ato sundor songsaar korcho. Ato lovely husband cum good friend peyecho. Richard husband ar theke bondhu beshi jeta prottek ta meyer swapno thake. Tumi khub Lokkhi Sona Meye, oijonnoi Thakur tomar jonno arom akta precious life thik kore rekhechilo🙏🏼 khub khub anondo kore sampurno hoa aro vore otho💗 anek anek subhashish🍫🍫🍫🍫🍫🍫

  • @tapasbanerjee6091
    @tapasbanerjee6091 Před měsícem +6

    আনাইরা তাড়াতাড়ি সুস্থ্য হয়ে উঠুক এটাই কামনা করি। ডক্টর নিশ্চয়ই বলে দিয়েছেন যেন জোরে হাঁচি, কাশি না আসে, ওজন না তোলা, এই গুলো খেয়াল রাখতে।

  • @SHABNAM-KHAN-
    @SHABNAM-KHAN- Před měsícem +6

    Physical scars faded at some time, people also forget about physical pain..but if a person hurt you mentally/emotionally or did character assassination,you will never forgive that person by heart.. whenever you saw that person, the whole things come to your mind automatically..this is my point of view...bcz I feel the same.. anyways now you are a strong woman... keep going..u got a wonderful husband,nice in laws... lots of love from India (Assam) 🇮🇳

  • @baishalimutsuddi6619
    @baishalimutsuddi6619 Před měsícem +5

    Prayers for a speedy recovery for Anaira. Stay safe. Lots of love, hugs.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @mousumibasu5695
    @mousumibasu5695 Před měsícem +11

    আনাইরা দ্রুত ভালো হয়ে যাবে।আর ফেলে আসা জীবনে মোটেও শুধু দুঃখ নেই,কারন এত সুন্দর দুটো সন্তান পেয়েছো।তাই পজিটিভ দিকটা দেখো।এতে মন শান্ত হবে।আর দশবছর কষ্ট করেছিলে বলেই হয়তো শেষে রিচার্ডের মত বন্ধু খুঁজে পেয়েছো।এটা কজন পায়? তাই দুঃস্বপ্ন মনে করে অতীতটাকে ভুলে যাও।

    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem

      Thank you. I really appreciate your words ❤

  • @bluebuddies1
    @bluebuddies1 Před měsícem +1

    Tumi khoob strong and adorable mother....kichu jinis sattyi bhola Jay naa. Tao bolbo tumi jokhon beriye esecho tokhon leave it...and be you ❤

  • @oprinticewilliams8218
    @oprinticewilliams8218 Před měsícem +5

    I do wish on your daughter on her speedy recovery

  • @anasuasen5387
    @anasuasen5387 Před měsícem +14

    Shomoi er shathey shob kichu theek hoi. Whatever happened to you has made you into this tough human being. Things that do not kill us only makes us stronger ❤

    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem +8

      True but somethings can’t be healed or is hard to get over, only if I could share every details then you would have said differently .

    • @anasuasen5387
      @anasuasen5387 Před měsícem +1

      @@rumelasworld For sure. It's one thing to hear about it and another to experience it. I can only imagine. However I have seen one of my first cousins go through it and today she is this independent woman I know, raising her kid on her own terms. Having said that, I acknowledge what you said ❤

  • @aditydkhar6504
    @aditydkhar6504 Před měsícem

    Your daughter will get well soon,wish her well, blessings.
    Don't bring your ex in the picture, leave what is gone.. don't spoil your present and future... human psychology is unpredictable.
    Love your tacos 🌮
    Sending you loads of love ❤️

  • @RimisaFoodandLife
    @RimisaFoodandLife Před měsícem

    Your vlogs are really motivating…..Amar mon kharap thakleo egulo dekhe valo hoye jay…..Take love from Sodepur, Kolkata

  • @-ml8fo
    @-ml8fo Před měsícem

    Khub taratari bhalo hoye jabe Anaira ❤ misti 😘😘

  • @shuklamajumder7232
    @shuklamajumder7232 Před měsícem +1

    Bhalo thako. Speedy recovery for little Princess.

  • @sujitbanerjee7989
    @sujitbanerjee7989 Před měsícem +1

    Speedy recovery ❤

  • @bongkonyanamika
    @bongkonyanamika Před měsícem +2

    I like to watch ur vlogs. Khub simple n cute.❤️
    Aar ekta kotha, don't trust ur X...
    Stay blessed always

  • @redriding3562
    @redriding3562 Před měsícem

    Wishing speedy recovery for Anaira..onek onek ador

  • @simabiswas8038
    @simabiswas8038 Před měsícem

    Rumela, tomar khub porishram hoy saradin,onek responsibility tomar.sabar jonno . r nijer jonno tomar onek kaj thake khub tired dekhachhe.dark circle hoychhe .. don't mind..mind.. bhalo theko Anaira khub taratari sustha hoye jak.pray kori.love you alll❤❤

  • @suchetachowdhury5117
    @suchetachowdhury5117 Před měsícem

    Anayra is a smart and very brave girl. Anek anek ador 🍫🍫🍫🍫🍫🍫🍫🍫🍫

  • @DebabaniDatta8570
    @DebabaniDatta8570 Před měsícem

    Tomar theke onek kichu sikhar ache,tumi khub bhalo MAA,wife aro onek kichu 😊❤

  • @anasuasaha8490
    @anasuasaha8490 Před měsícem +1

    Take care. Eat well. Freshly cooked warm food should be good for you and your family.

  • @sarmishthasaha6641
    @sarmishthasaha6641 Před měsícem

    Rumela I really respect 🙏 you....lots of love n good wishes for anaira ❤❤❤..get well soon darling ❤❤❤

  • @sutapaghoshpalit
    @sutapaghoshpalit Před měsícem

    Hi Rumela. Please take care of yourself and take some rest. Last kichu vlogs e tomay tired mone hochche r chokher kol tao bose geche... please don't mind bollam bole.... Take care and take love...❤ From Dumdum Kolkata...

  • @ratnasree737
    @ratnasree737 Před měsícem

    Ekdom khoma korbe na eishob faltu lok gulo ke amio thik tomar moton katiyechi ekjon toxic loker shathe ki shojjo Kori ni mardhor galagali everything though amar kono child nei from my first marriage...ekhon onek Shanti te achi after divorce with my second husband...ei lokta will try to be pally with you again but don't give him any chance to do the same... love you a ton
    Tina di from Kolkata ❤❤

  • @user-oi7nm6ti3h
    @user-oi7nm6ti3h Před měsícem +2

    Hi Rumela how you feel is totally normal. When we do not heal & have a scar on the body there's high chance of infection. Similarly when we do not heal mentally there's a high chance of some type of subdued inner trauma anger or resentment. This is due not being able to understand the unfairness & unwarranted attacks for no fault. This makes one edgy & vary of similar situations for loved ones. The tough exterior never covers up for the broken inside. I had some experiences though not as tough as yours & wanted to just run away & live on a farm. Though neither could I afford it & had responsibilities too as I am the only child of my ahed parents.
    I seeked help. I took therapy. I did past life regression to understand the pattern of my karma & my thoughts. It took me around 3 years. Its never easy. Self love care & forgiveness to oneself for being harsh are not easy.
    Later after therapy I got married to my therapist. And are very happy together. ❤
    Therapy taught me to be proud of myself & just be me . See the reasons & deal with them. Also nothing happens without a reason. Somehow my parents were not very supportive & very conservative. I had a lot of guilt for getting irritated at them. Today we are better. My dad passed away during COVID & we had a peaceful completion. We take care of mom. I also completed a masters & a phd.
    You are a beautiful sensitive soul. You are the best you. ❤

    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem

      I agree. I did get counseling while filling and going through divorce and helped me a lot, specially identifying the abuse and getting out of the cycle it also helped me be able to separate my relationship with him vs my kids’ relationship with him but I did not continue it and it would have been nice if I did to over come the trauma. But I think now I don’t get that much triggered but the recent communication and meetings made me triggered but I am so thankful to have a partner like Richard who hears me out and help me navigate my feelings.

    • @user-oi7nm6ti3h
      @user-oi7nm6ti3h Před měsícem

      I am so glad to hear this. ❤ Richard is your soulmate you both look so complete with your angels. You are a tough lady that's why you are so positive & not vengeful. In case you want to continue your counselling online do let me know. I will ask my husband. We are always happy to be of any assistance. For genuine people like you ❤

  • @angelicdeblina1969
    @angelicdeblina1969 Před měsícem

    Praying for Anaira's speedy recovery 🙏👍 Co parenting korte parcho, eta shune valo laglo but yes tomar pokkhe oi 10yrs er domestic violence bhola really khub tough, ami bujhi seta...
    Ami always pray kori je tumi Richard Jiju sathe, jijur familyr sathe je vabe ekdom mile mishe acho, and with four kids, shob kichu jeno always smoothly chole tomar life e.
    Aar kono koshto jeno tomay pete na hoye❤❤❤❤ coz tumi amar khub khub kacher manush, always feeling like my Soul sister❤❤❤❤ love u and love u all🤩🥰🥰😘😘😘❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem +1

      Thanks sister. Hoyeto 10 yrs er abuse ta tao bhulte pari but when I tried to leave him and file for divorce amar name ja ja
      nogra miththe boleche ar amake bodnam korar jonno jaja shorojontro koreche she gulo bhola shotti oshombhob.

    • @angelicdeblina1969
      @angelicdeblina1969 Před měsícem

      @@rumelasworld yes yes I can understand that. Shotti janina ki bolbo ami...eta bolbo present life and future life vebe shundor kore egiye cholo sis tumi jerom egoccho....amra tomar sathe achi , chilam and thakbo. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @hriddhidas4823
    @hriddhidas4823 Před měsícem

    🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
    Joy guru
    God bless you Anaira ❤❤❤❤🤝👌🥰💞🤗❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @Ruma-ex3nv
    @Ruma-ex3nv Před měsícem +2

    Very very difficult to overcome the trauma like domestic violence so dark,deep and painful.If you are not easy no need to give chance or trust that person.Now you have your own family.Toxic mind remains toxic.

    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem

      True I get triggered and it’s not easy to forget and forgive but I think I have overcame a lot. But there is more than the abuse that I can’t happen to look past and there is no way I am trusting him or giving another chance but just trying to coordially co parent and co exist but it’s hard coz if it was a random person doing all these atrocities with me would probably never even exist for me .

    • @Ruma-ex3nv
      @Ruma-ex3nv Před měsícem

      @@rumelasworld
      Very true

  • @taniachakraborty5264
    @taniachakraborty5264 Před měsícem

    Wishing anaira's speedy recovery.. tomar difficulties bujhte parchi rumela. Jaar jonno tomar bad past, taake abar face korle taar sob nongramo gulo ek ek kore mone porte thake.. jaak, bachha der jonne etao tolerate korte hobe tomake, so look after your mental health.. ar ki bolbo.. bhalo thako, sustho thako tomra sobai❤❤❤

  • @piyaliroychowdhury8715
    @piyaliroychowdhury8715 Před měsícem

    Aniarar জন্য অনেক শুভ কামনা 🙏 ❤

  • @saptadeepabiswas8503
    @saptadeepabiswas8503 Před měsícem

    Sustho hoye jao anira

  • @mousumychakravarty7374
    @mousumychakravarty7374 Před měsícem +1

    Beautiful video.Eye surgery .?what has happened to her eye?

    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem

      Thank you. I explained in the video why she needed the surgery😊

    • @mousumychakravarty7374
      @mousumychakravarty7374 Před měsícem

      @@rumelasworld I didn't watch that video where you explained.I wish you all the best,you are an amazing girl ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem

      I shared in this video itself that’s what I was saying. Anyways she had a lazy eye since birth also known as ptosis which was corrected 😊 and thank you for the wishes really appreciate it ❤️❤️

  • @yourfooddoctor
    @yourfooddoctor Před měsícem

    Hi Rumela! By any how have you been enacted in any CID episode back in India. As I was watching CID old episodes and I just saw same kind of face of yours in an episode. Please reply me I am curious😊

    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem

      No I have not but I have been on boogie woogie and Kaboom 😊😊

  • @gunsaha2750
    @gunsaha2750 Před měsícem

    Didibhai tmr vlog khub bhalo lage amr........amora r birth r age theke porjonto dekhchi...❤❤❤❤akta kotha ask kori Samaira ki job kire ????? Kichu mind koro koro na pls.....😊

    • @srijitakhushi
      @srijitakhushi Před měsícem

      na o teenager...school a pore

    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem

      Thank you. Mind korar ki ache ami to vlog ei share korechi je o fast food restaurant e chashier er job kore. Ekhane 15 years holei part time job kora jaye 😊

  • @user-bb6ep3pl8g
    @user-bb6ep3pl8g Před měsícem

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @DebapriyaDeb-sm8he
    @DebapriyaDeb-sm8he Před měsícem +1

    Ami Assam theke bolchi amadero a khane khub rain hoche

  • @riyakala481
    @riyakala481 Před měsícem +3

    Tomar x kokhonoi change hobay na may be for 2,3 days .then uni ja tai thakben so be careful.koila na saray j moila 🙁🥲

    • @Ruma-ex3nv
      @Ruma-ex3nv Před měsícem +2

      একদম,এরা একরকম সাইকো

  • @Billy-gete
    @Billy-gete Před měsícem +2

    What happened to her eyes?

  • @swarnaliroy310
    @swarnaliroy310 Před měsícem +1

    Amader ekhane bristi hoche naa...bristi ta ke Amra kubb miss korchi

  • @Mysphere4285
    @Mysphere4285 Před měsícem

    Tomar mood ta aj kharap lagchilo .tumi eta vabo j tumi notun jibon peye khusi acho...amar moto lokjn to husband onner sathe extreme relationship e ache ,janar por o tader sathe thakte hochhe for thinking about kids need of their father....more over u kw Indian family,and society..sob vebe sob jeneo aksathe tader sathe thaka kotota chap vabo...tomay dekhe ami ontoto vison strength pai..tai tumi mood off korona pls..

    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem

      I am sorry you are dealing with this . I don’t think any kid need such father in their lives. Please leave you deserve better ❤️

  • @user-xk1yc5qd4c
    @user-xk1yc5qd4c Před měsícem

    Rumela if you don't mind dear, are you in touch with your ex parents in law? Do they miss your children?

    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem

      No I am not. I don’t know if they miss them or not but they don’t talk to my kids.

    • @user-xk1yc5qd4c
      @user-xk1yc5qd4c Před měsícem

      Thank you for your reply, stay happy stay blessed.

  • @Niddisen1234
    @Niddisen1234 Před měsícem

    Didi vai akta kotha bolbo tomar x husbend to samayra ar anayra sathe azayra ar amora keu dinner a niye jete pare because there are also kids ,rechid jodi samayra ar anayra k ato valobase tini jokhon aschen 4 te bacha keu niye jete pare

    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem +2

      Richard er shathe oder ja relationship that can’t be same as Amora and Anaira’s relationship with my ex. Richard is their step father and he is not related to my other two daughters in any way so he doesn’t have to have a relationship with them . Ami nijeo comfortable hotam na.

  • @user-xk1yc5qd4c
    @user-xk1yc5qd4c Před měsícem

    Your salad seems yummy😊

  • @user-mj8fw9bz8l
    @user-mj8fw9bz8l Před měsícem

    Richard er chicken curry banano vlog e dekhiyo.

    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem

      Didn’t vlog it this time next time jokhon abar korbe will vlog.😊

  • @sujanghosh1592
    @sujanghosh1592 Před měsícem +1

    O my God kitne baby hei inke

  • @SumitraJMarak-iq5ws
    @SumitraJMarak-iq5ws Před měsícem

    I hope your daughter is alright now

  • @subhrakundu5334
    @subhrakundu5334 Před 13 dny

    Ekta kotha jiges korbo
    Tumi ki newbarrack pur e kristy auditorium e perform korechle dance
    Ank age mane jokhon tomar marriage hoyni

  • @tamannarouf415
    @tamannarouf415 Před měsícem +2

    What happened to anairas eyes

    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem

      I did share in the video why she needed the surgery😊

  • @Werdutta
    @Werdutta Před měsícem

    Tumi kotha bolte gale anek hapiye jaoo .. plz check with dr once . Plz

  • @susmitabiswas9822
    @susmitabiswas9822 Před měsícem +3

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    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem +1

      Thank you Gopa di but ex husband er shathe co parenting er shathe Richard ke chara ki shomporko? Oke keno charte jabo? Amar r Richard er bond onek strong I am really lucky to have a partner like him it’s not easy to break us up and I am not worried about that but oi r ex ekhon eto shwabhabik act korche as if he never did anything wrong to me and I am getting triggered and amar purono kotha mone pore jache . I am glad I get to share my feelings with Richard and he is there to help navigate my feelings.😊

    • @susmitabiswas9822
      @susmitabiswas9822 Před měsícem

      @@rumelasworld খুব সুখী thak
      যে যা করেছে তার শাস্তি Vogoban দেবেন
      তোর বাচ্চাদের জন্য এবং Richard and in laws Der শুভেচ্ছা জানাই
      জামাই Soshthi সরস্বতী পুজো videos Khubbbb enjoy করি
      সেই chottttto Boo আজ সম্পূর্ণ নারী
      Radhe radhe

  • @sanchariparia3938
    @sanchariparia3938 Před měsícem

    Take therapy it will heal you from inside... oi frustration gulo theke tomar future a problem hote pare better you take therapy...

    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem +1

      I actually did in the past when I was trying to leave and was going through the divorce. It really did help.

    • @sanchariparia3938
      @sanchariparia3938 Před měsícem

      @@rumelasworld I am so glad to know that you took therapy...😊😊 lok ra toh therapy niteo hesitate kore...

  • @esobondhu6808
    @esobondhu6808 Před měsícem

    Tomay dekhe sansare lorai karte sahos pai.

  • @rimapinky8473
    @rimapinky8473 Před měsícem

    Tumi kon stAte thako

  • @LovelyAquariumFish-ev9ku
    @LovelyAquariumFish-ev9ku Před měsícem

    জারা সপিং মল।নামটা প্লাটাউ

  • @anuskadas1998
    @anuskadas1998 Před měsícem

    Tmr ex husband ki abar biye koracha?

    • @Rupa_singh88
      @Rupa_singh88 Před měsícem

      It’s not her matter to discuss it here

    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem +1

      It’s his private matter not for me to talk about hope you understand.

  • @palokpekhom1090
    @palokpekhom1090 Před měsícem

    Kharup লোকের সবকিছু ভুলে যাও

  • @subhrakundu5334
    @subhrakundu5334 Před 13 dny

    Tomake khub che na chena lage

  • @Rita-yk3nw
    @Rita-yk3nw Před měsícem

    Tumar boro miye kothay thake oke to dekte paina vlog a.

  • @SonaliDe-vk7ul
    @SonaliDe-vk7ul Před měsícem

    Ekdin ex er version tao deben ..hotat kore eto change

    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem

      Amar ex er version ex e debe oke to keu dhore bedhe rakheni. Video gulo to public, onno version hole nishchoi chup kore thakto na. Hopefully nijer dosh realize korei change hoyeche but you never know.

    • @SonaliDe-vk7ul
      @SonaliDe-vk7ul Před měsícem

      @@rumelasworld sobai hoyto dark privacy sell korte comfortable noy .. jai hok bhalo thakun .. i can understand your situation.

    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem

      @SonaliDe-vk7ul mane she je bouke petaye eta keu she share korte chaibe na tai na? Apnio bhalo thakben and wish I can understand your situation to understand why are you so dumb? 😄

    • @SonaliDe-vk7ul
      @SonaliDe-vk7ul Před měsícem

      @@rumelasworld seta to apni bolcchen ..apnake mone hoy na apni sudhu petani kheyechen ...i wish apni anar moto life katate parten ..it would have been a dream come true for u ... touchwood 🧿

    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem +2

      @@SonaliDe-vk7ul je pitiyeche tar bepare bolchi so miththe hole she to mukh khultei pare tai na shetai to normal ? Kintu mukh khulbe ki kore eto proof ,eto lok shakhi o ache of his violent behavior and physical abuse towards me so kon mukhe ki bolbe?? Ar hyan ami khali maar khawar moto person na joto bar mereche police dekechi, jail e pathiyechi, therapy te pathiyechi, chere chole gechi and ultimately divorce diye diye actually living a dream life tai bodhoye apnar eto appotti. Nijer life e focus korun you can make your dreams come true too.

  • @torasen9166
    @torasen9166 Před měsícem +2

    Keno jani mone hoy tumi tumar ex k miss koro

    • @rumelasworld
      @rumelasworld  Před měsícem +4

      Exactly what do you think I miss about him? Or maar, galagali, controlling behavior, khit khit, mejaj, ragaragi, jhogra, annoying personality, egulor modhe thik ki miss kori bole mone hoye ? Specially when I am married to an amazing man like Richard??

    • @Tahasinafatema
      @Tahasinafatema Před měsícem +1

      😂😂আপনার মত মহিলাদের চুলকানি ছাড়া কিছু নাই দেখি আপনার মত মহিলা না সে

    • @torasen9166
      @torasen9166 Před měsícem

      @@rumelasworld bhalo dingulo r kotha bolchi. R Richard er moto manush khub kom e hoy. Bhalo thako.

  • @Tahasinafatema
    @Tahasinafatema Před měsícem

    Sometimes Narcissists still as a problem in our lifes 😢