The reason why men find it difficult to forgive cheating spouses is because men see their family as their kingdom. When another man gets involved they feel their kingdom has been invaded. It affects their masculinity and often marks the end of the relationship. Not even pleas and admonitions by family members, friends and pastors can convince him to forgive, unless he is a weak man. It is interesting to note that a man who cheats expects to be forgiven by the wife, whereas the wife is forbidden from having an affair, and if she dares it, she may never be forgiven. This might sound unfair to the females, but that is the reality
Very true. When a man's kingdom is invaded, it's either he dies defending it, gets into an informal coalition with the invader to spare his life or surrenders and leaves to look for other grounds to conquer.
To everyone reading this Keep going. No matter how stuck you feel, no matter how bad things are right now, no matter how hopeless & depressed you feel, no matter how many days you have spent wishing things were different. I promise you won't feel this way forever. Keep going.
I said in my last comment that "I'm sure Gacheru also has a wife" However, he told her that he divorced his wife some times back, just to hit her👌 I think now she has realized how vital this honest man is 👌👌
The difference between Steve's shows and other shows is that it's that it's so educative, the guy goes all the way to ask crucial questions with maturity, responds with maturity, offers mature advise, very reasonable guy with impartiality
Kama za kule kwa director J na mwengine hapo anajiita j media TV 😂😂😂utoto tu they are not behaving like mature people, hata waki interview watu hakuna maswali ya ina make sense wanauliza
Huyu anataka kurudiana na mtu alikufa two years ago?? 😅 Kwaani amefufuka?? Cheating is a choice don't try to justify yourself hapa!! Umalaya ni umalaya!!
I wish my sister can watch this channel,she could understand the reason I said I'll never accommodate a family member kuja kulala kwangu,this is after her divorcing her hubby,came in kwangu with 3kids na bado hataki kuambiwa afanye kitu, disrespecting my hubby nakupeleka mdomo home anamistreatiwa weee😢,family stuffs can break marriage very easily watu wangu.
The lady is so remorseless...first she virtually killed her husband and daughter just to win gicheru love😢...second she has been drinking without husband knowing which all her life is faking and full of pretence... FORGIVE AND FORGET ABOUT HER
She had a chance to tell him who Gacheru is but she kept going back an forth you know about our situation at home she ain't sorry shes just trying to gaslight him to see things in her own spectrum
She's back now because she has no one else to turn to? She doesn't even sound remorseful. She just wants back because she wants this man to continue supporting the parents and educate her sisters. I hope this guy wakes up and realizes he's being used instead.
Huyu ni nyumba anatafuta ya kuishi na school fees ya sister yake. She belongs to the streets. Baba Joy please don't go back!!!! Hakujua dhamani yako when she was with you. Such bastards are ungrateful!!!!!! The pain of this man is evident!!!!!!!
*Don't destroy someone who have helped you before, because of differences. If they are no longer beneficial to you, respect the days they have helped and Supported You
It's clear that this lady wants baba Joy back because he was supporting her family and now she can't do the same on her own!! Or maybe her mum is pressuring her to get back together with baba Joy so that the financial support continues..... Dear men don't take all the responsibilities of your wife's family! Invest in your own family!!! Before baba Joy came into the picture how was the family coping?
@@michaelthevisionary I know most ladies will throw stones at me but truth be told your husband should not be the backbone of your family..that's why most men are dying of depression
The more chances you give to someone the less respect they will start to have for you. They will begin to ignore the standards that you’ve set because they will know another chance will always be given. They are not afraid to lose you because they know no matter what you won’t walk away. They get comfortable with depending on your forgiveness. Never let a person get comfortable disrespecting you
The lady just wants to use the guy to fund her entire family, coz she is not even feeling the guy at all, is just about the money even when she was aske she said she loves her kid and "family"??? she didn't even acknowledge the husband😢. The husband should just run for his dear life,ama atah gpata ako broke ASF
Baby Joy, huyu tupa nje. Hapana rudi hapo. Once trust is shattered from a spouse, it is really hard to rebuild. Especially betrayal at this level. It will take a toll on your well-being especially your mental health.
Red flags ziko mingi sana. 1.She is only apologizing because she has nowhere to go otherwise.. 2. She is a product of a single mother. Bro run for your life, she wasn't raised well. 3. She drinks. How do you keep a drinking wife? 4. She denies you sex. Run bro and never look back, she is nolonger attracted to you. 5. She cheated on you. Hypergamy has already knocked on your door. No more respect. - Accept her back at your own risk. - You are still young you can get a better woman, beautiful and respectful. -Do DNA after that if the kid is yours take responsibilities. -Never pay school fees for your wife or any other person from their home. -Your in-laws are not your relatives. Avoid them at all cost. -NEVER FORGIVE A CHEATING WOMAN. If you do you are an IDIOT.
Steve Steve wish too meet you wen am back too Kenya ubaya Sina mtu Wacha nkae hvo ctaki stress za wanaume mwenye anaweza npea stress n mtoi wangu hao wengne wakanyange kubwa kubwa team strong tukisonga na maisha
This BMS have drove me packing my belongs from marriage...am scared!!!!!!..however, on the bright side I have the lessons in a suitcase heading back home.....😂😂😂😂keep up the good work though....
I won't judge her because I don't knowthe choices she had. Did she make a mistake! Yes she did. The guy should settle down & when he's ready to talk let him come. I feel like there's no constructive conversation when one is upset.
The background is very beautiful akili zangu zimepotelea hapo kwa hiyo shamba...Anyway Baba Joy take your time to heal juu nimeona kama joy is coming back to you because of what you are doing to her family, jijenge kwanza young man.
By the time the sister will finish school, this man will be insulted and chased by wife's family and the woman will be married by another man. This woman doesn't have feelings for this man,she is not even remorseful.By the look of things,she is up to something, mostly the help they get from the poor man. Kijana think about your future coz hapa hakuna bibi.
So ladies nowadays are cheating in marriage in the name of taking care of the family.If she wants to cheat si angeachanana marriage aendeleee na umalaya .plus killing the hubby that was too low
Qwan hawa madame wakihanya ,hawajuagi uku kwa main kukiaribia hao maside guys utoroka pia 😂😂alaf ukiwaona vyenye ujichocha hapa kwa camera 😅😅mungu nifunze kunyamaza
After she has explored all the options and got used by the options. I can imagine she must have tried to use V-Power on her other options so she has cheated more than she did before getting caught.
Baba joy focus on your life and daughter amerudi tu ju that help imekatwa Wacha Gacheru alipie siblings pesa na mwenyewe pia alipe pesa SI pesa yako mtu amepangia budget mpaka watu wa kwao invest nani
Better to know the true state of things early on than to close our eyes and continue investing and postponing the truth only to suffer worse pain when we're forced to face the truth eventually
When a man forgives a cheating lady,it means,the husband has accepted for both parties to share the wife(woman) so it's better,you better let the lady go out of your life for good then keep a Devil next or live with you
The best pretense have seen in a woman...eti sai anafinya sauti akisema ilikuwa peer pressure na family issues,yet anasahau the trust is already ruined
Never take any person for granted. Np matter the distance maintain your dignity and respect. We find genuine pple once lifetime.. Until you lose the person..u will know tge value of them.stay loyal and if u cant be loyal its better to end the relationship. Never allow ur body to control you🙏✋ No reconciliation needed here..u kill sb who is a live still u want to stay..move on bro
Huyu dame ni fala victim card I’m a product of single mother, you had a potential’ husband yet you choose to be like your mother. Then mamako single mother yet she has 7kids with no dads like mother like daughter in these scenarios
Watch Part 1 here
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This lady wants to be hosted by a ghost ?
Flavour can we plan a date with that lady of mp ,how can I get her connection,,sometimes reply messages ,
Not good at all
Mama joy trust is over btn u and ur hubby, that's how men are created,so kwanza enda kwa gacheru ukakule mapujupuju
@@margaretmargaret5744 so she didn't have love from this man? asking tu
The reason why men find it difficult to forgive cheating spouses is because men see their family as their kingdom. When another man gets involved they feel their kingdom has been invaded. It affects their masculinity and often marks the end of the relationship. Not even pleas and admonitions by family members, friends and pastors can convince him to forgive, unless he is a weak man. It is interesting to note that a man who cheats expects to be forgiven by the wife, whereas the wife is forbidden from having an affair, and if she dares it, she may never be forgiven.
This might sound unfair to the females, but that is the reality
Agreed
True
Strongly agree
Very true. When a man's kingdom is invaded, it's either he dies defending it, gets into an informal coalition with the invader to spare his life or surrenders and leaves to look for other grounds to conquer.
Red card only , do not remove yellow card to a cheating woman
She just lowered her ego na akaona hakuna mahali anaeza para such a guy like him....that guy such an amazing person ❣️💜😌
Pride imeshuka
Very true, Gacheru should be on set for us to hear his side of story!..🙄😔
You never know the value of something till you loose it
Yea she knows atateseka bila this guy
Anataka sisterke asaidiwe that's why. She is still very prideful. Not even remorseful...she keeps smiling
The worst part is she even killed her husband and kid for the sake of side guy,
No way She belongs to the street!!
Exactly she just after kuzaidiwa na family doesn't think of his family with hubby and kid
This is the kind of woman wenye wanau watoi wao 😢😢😢😢ju ya raha za Dunia
True
To everyone reading this Keep going. No matter how stuck you feel, no matter how bad things are right now, no matter how hopeless & depressed you feel, no matter how many days you have spent wishing things were different. I promise you won't feel this way forever. Keep going.
Amen
Mistake is kupatikana
Thank you for encouraging
Amen
Thank you for your encouragement ❤
Mapema ndio Best. Nipitieni guys mnifikishe ata 500 subs💗💗💗💗
Relationships are like birds if you hold tightly they die if you hold loosely they fly but if you hold with care they remain with you forever
Exactly on point
Very true 👌
True bring gasheru on set
Very true
Lesson well learnt brother.
To cut the story short, It's her first time she was caught but not the first time to cheat.
40th day ilifika just a kiss a dance and a lie then boom
This guy is one in a million
The guy played the role of being a father and a husband and still got cheated on,, am afraid of the woman in me and may God forgive me
I said in my last comment that "I'm sure Gacheru also has a wife"
However, he told her that he divorced his wife some times back, just to hit her👌
I think now she has realized how vital this honest man is 👌👌
Gacheru is married by saying he's a divorcee 10 yrs ago it was just alie to cheat with him in peace
@@edinahopati7914 exactly 💯
Usherati ya teii na lust yenye ingeisha ASAP after rosecoco
@@catherinemutinda9481 Asante sana Cathy, umesema ingeisha after mtu kumwaya na rosecoco ishagongwa🤔😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂 gaidi wawili
Run Bro Run, she is there till her needs are met....thank me me later
The difference between Steve's shows and other shows is that it's that it's so educative, the guy goes all the way to ask crucial questions with maturity, responds with maturity, offers mature advise, very reasonable guy with impartiality
Said well kuna zingine ni za utoto watu wanapigana wao wanacheka
@@lilian2660za Pluto 😂
kwanza ingine inatwa director j
Kama za kule kwa director J na mwengine hapo anajiita j media TV 😂😂😂utoto tu they are not behaving like mature people, hata waki interview watu hakuna maswali ya ina make sense wanauliza
@Simon Nguro, Brillian but jay huwa anajaribu ku handle hadi wengine anawapeleka kwa pastor Sammy for counseling
Huyu anataka kurudiana na mtu alikufa two years ago?? 😅 Kwaani amefufuka?? Cheating is a choice don't try to justify yourself hapa!! Umalaya ni umalaya!!
😭
Bro , never forgive that lady just because she's not ready to open up.... who's that guy
I wish my sister can watch this channel,she could understand the reason I said I'll never accommodate a family member kuja kulala kwangu,this is after her divorcing her hubby,came in kwangu with 3kids na bado hataki kuambiwa afanye kitu, disrespecting my hubby nakupeleka mdomo home anamistreatiwa weee😢,family stuffs can break marriage very easily watu wangu.
The lady is so remorseless...first she virtually killed her husband and daughter just to win gicheru love😢...second she has been drinking without husband knowing which all her life is faking and full of pretence... FORGIVE AND FORGET ABOUT HER
Huyu dem anatumia huyu boi vibaya
True
The guy is cool, asipo change atatumiwa mbaya sana😢
Boi Achana na huyu malaya tafuta make mwenye anakupenda bro hapo hauna bahati
If he mentain the spirit,he is one in a million.
Never forgive a cheating partner, its doomed to happen again! Take note guys!
We're together on that brother 👍
Men never forgive but women sometimes forgive
Acheater will always be a cheat
Is is what I tell women,once a man cheats or beats you up,,ran,don't even look back,he will do it again and again
Huyu dem anakutumia
She had a chance to tell him who Gacheru is but she kept going back an forth you know about our situation at home she ain't sorry shes just trying to gaslight him to see things in her own spectrum
To the street u belong and to the street you shall return💯💯
I wonder how people want you to be okay with something they wouldn't be okay with when it's done to them
She's back now because she has no one else to turn to? She doesn't even sound remorseful. She just wants back because she wants this man to continue supporting the parents and educate her sisters. I hope this guy wakes up and realizes he's being used instead.
true
Bro should run for his life
Wow!
The lady should just let Gacheru come on board and everything will clear up
Is very funny, you Marry a lady with all family problems murife run😂😂😂
Huyu ni nyumba anatafuta ya kuishi na school fees ya sister yake. She belongs to the streets. Baba Joy please don't go back!!!! Hakujua dhamani yako when she was with you. Such bastards are ungrateful!!!!!! The pain of this man is evident!!!!!!!
*Don't destroy someone who have helped you before, because of differences. If they are no longer beneficial to you, respect the days they have helped and Supported You
My husband died in a vatal accident 6yrs back a very hard and heavy statement 😢😢waah
C aendee gacheru Sasa,mbona analia
It's clear that this lady wants baba Joy back because he was supporting her family and now she can't do the same on her own!! Or maybe her mum is pressuring her to get back together with baba Joy so that the financial support continues..... Dear men don't take all the responsibilities of your wife's family! Invest in your own family!!! Before baba Joy came into the picture how was the family coping?
Golden advice 😊
Very true
I like her last words, shieettt!!!! She has fu**ed up.
@@michaelthevisionary I know most ladies will throw stones at me but truth be told your husband should not be the backbone of your family..that's why most men are dying of depression
@@nyoikepenina big up girl
Why am I getting this feeling that she's not really sorry?. Eti I will accept any punishment you give 😅😅😅
She wants the hubby to understand where they've come from but for her it's a mistake.
Gasheru was there as long as she remained with her husband, sai after breakup gasheru left too 😀
That's the problem with cheating
First to comment.. Nipe likes manze.. BMS's content is lit🔥🔥
The more chances you give to someone the less respect they will start to have for you. They will begin to ignore the standards that you’ve set because they will know another chance will always be given. They are not afraid to lose you because they know no matter what you won’t walk away. They get comfortable with depending on your forgiveness. Never let a person get comfortable disrespecting you
Well said.
True
Never let aperson get comfotable desresoecting you: thats deep
💯
That's is a quote!
The lady just wants to use the guy to fund her entire family, coz she is not even feeling the guy at all, is just about the money even when she was aske she said she loves her kid and "family"??? she didn't even acknowledge the husband😢. The husband should just run for his dear life,ama atah gpata ako broke ASF
I read somewhere that women date for survival..... Men date for reproduction.... Is just that i kent remember the tital of the book
Thank you big man, I wish we all had extra subs ,we would have subscribed again and again,but for now may God bless you again and again!
Baby Joy, huyu tupa nje. Hapana rudi hapo.
Once trust is shattered from a spouse, it is really hard to rebuild. Especially betrayal at this level.
It will take a toll on your well-being especially your mental health.
Nice content watu wengu wanguvu mnigikisheni 100k we move together
Cheating is not a mistake, it’s a choice
Thanks big man,keep up your good work,❤
I totally feel his pain as a man. His voice even reveals the hurt in his heart.
He reasons alot
Bro hepa huyu dem .... Atakuwa anakucheza akisema anatafuta pesa bro utafanywa bro na huyu
Good..a man that knows his value..thats how it should be done💪💯
She gave him zero explanation. That shows she only needs him to cover expenses.
Pride comes after fall pambana na hari yako sasa 😂😂😂😂😂
He should forgive her aki...she has learned her lesson
@@Okinyibildad 😮wapi huyu ni malaya tayari mbona hataki kuongea ukweli? mtu anasema ulikufa 😮
It's very sad. Forgiving her is ludicrous
To attract forgiveness, don't lie about alcohol just be truthful and honest.....
Woman you cheated on a good man and you are expecting him to take you back ??? When a good man is done with you it's over life has no reverse gear .
Red flags ziko mingi sana.
1.She is only apologizing because she has nowhere to go otherwise..
2. She is a product of a single mother. Bro run for your life, she wasn't raised well.
3. She drinks. How do you keep a drinking wife?
4. She denies you sex. Run bro and never look back, she is nolonger attracted to you.
5. She cheated on you. Hypergamy has already knocked on your door. No more respect.
- Accept her back at your own risk.
- You are still young you can get a better woman, beautiful and respectful.
-Do DNA after that if the kid is yours take responsibilities.
-Never pay school fees for your wife or any other person from their home.
-Your in-laws are not your relatives. Avoid them at all cost.
-NEVER FORGIVE A CHEATING WOMAN. If you do you are an IDIOT.
You have Nailed it well Sir !!!!
absolutely Sir you've really educated us so mucha apana cheza na Jambazii atauwaa wewee kapisa.
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So ladies who have been raised by single mothers arent proprely raised?You mean they cant make good wives?
Great analysis
Steve Steve wish too meet you wen am back too Kenya ubaya Sina mtu Wacha nkae hvo ctaki stress za wanaume mwenye anaweza npea stress n mtoi wangu hao wengne wakanyange kubwa kubwa team strong tukisonga na maisha
This BMS have drove me packing my belongs from marriage...am scared!!!!!!..however, on the bright side I have the lessons in a suitcase heading back home.....😂😂😂😂keep up the good work though....
Big up to Patricia muregi,real fan
Exactly this girl is just a real fan,
She's all over, no hard feelings
..and Margaret Margaret
I won't judge her because I don't knowthe choices she had. Did she make a mistake! Yes she did. The guy should settle down & when he's ready to talk let him come. I feel like there's no constructive conversation when one is upset.
You will never know the value of something until you lose it.Great lesson learnt.woooiieeew such a good gentleman.
The background is very beautiful akili zangu zimepotelea hapo kwa hiyo shamba...Anyway Baba Joy take your time to heal juu nimeona kama joy is coming back to you because of what you are doing to her family, jijenge kwanza young man.
What women should know is men don't forgive cheating
True
No.... some forgive
Very TRUE, a real man can't forgive cheating from their woman.
Nowadays men marry not a wife but the whole family all the in-laws 😮…. it’s crazy 😮
😂😂😂crazy generation
By the time the sister will finish school, this man will be insulted and chased by wife's family and the woman will be married by another man. This woman doesn't have feelings for this man,she is not even remorseful.By the look of things,she is up to something, mostly the help they get from the poor man. Kijana think about your future coz hapa hakuna bibi.
Only a fool will do that
Mama Joy it's evident you both love each other...just give him the truth and yah marriage will be back on good road
Welcome back to life baba Joy😂😂You resurrected
Rule no 4...Never take back a cheating woman.....
But a cheating husband?
How about cheating husband?
And the husband
True
A man never cheats .... A man is polygamous but a woman is not
So ladies nowadays are cheating in marriage in the name of taking care of the family.If she wants to cheat si angeachanana marriage aendeleee na umalaya .plus killing the hubby that was too low
Apart from Gaceru kuja,the lady is not even apologetic,He wants warudiane ndio mandem aendelee kulipa bills za kwao............weeeeh!
HONESTY and TRUST. The only key for marriage 😮
This Gacheru man must be known . That's our ultimatum.
Gacheru is a flatter and a liar...nothing more .this lady is pro life married young and a looker .
Salute to the man 👏👏
Let all people return to the true Lord Jesus Christ of Nazareth and He will help us to be faithful in our marriages
Baba is polite gentle and firm....❤
Next tuletewe kwanzo,joy,Joyce 😅😅
Don't forgive a cheating wife, wacha aende sherehe zake za kukunywa na kuuza Rosecoco
Yeah huyo Dem ajipange
Qwan hawa madame wakihanya ,hawajuagi uku kwa main kukiaribia hao maside guys utoroka pia 😂😂alaf ukiwaona vyenye ujichocha hapa kwa camera 😅😅mungu nifunze kunyamaza
Well-done brother let her bring gacheru on live camera 📸📸😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
If there is anything I feed my man on with no mercy its this thing in between my legs. Hawezi itisha usiku wote niwe nimechoka 😆.
Barikiwa sana Binti
That is your current situation😅😅, things change
Nice one
For ladies if you want your man to respect you shibisha tumbo na section .washa ashimbe hizo mbili tu.
Ubarikiwe
After she has explored all the options and got used by the options. I can imagine she must have tried to use V-Power on her other options so she has cheated more than she did before getting caught.
Baba joy focus on your life and daughter amerudi tu ju that help imekatwa Wacha Gacheru alipie siblings pesa na mwenyewe pia alipe pesa SI pesa yako mtu amepangia budget mpaka watu wa kwao invest nani
Baba joy uko mzuri sana kilakitu ushuglike adi shemeji usomese nae mama joy anatafuta mbali haeleweki tama
Better to know the true state of things early on than to close our eyes and continue investing and postponing the truth only to suffer worse pain when we're forced to face the truth eventually
When a man forgives a cheating lady,it means,the husband has accepted for both parties to share the wife(woman) so it's better,you better let the lady go out of your life for good then keep a Devil next or live with you
Kwanini unalala kwa airbnb na uko na mpango anaishi karen wanawake wengine wamelaaniwa.
Mimi nikahappen nicheat,ambayo kwangu ni ngumu..aki siwezi hata jaribu kumrudia coz najua life inaezakua ngumu sana.
The best pretense have seen in a woman...eti sai anafinya sauti akisema ilikuwa peer pressure na family issues,yet anasahau the trust is already ruined
Next episode, Gacheru must come to the show
Kudos big bro,,
Aende Karen..
Yu even paying her sisters fee,, every end month sending money to the parents.. Guok...
Boychild Run...umekonda coz ya extra responsibilities..madam anatetea source of income,not love.
This man should be BMS assistance host.🤣🤣🤣🤣. i like when he said "bring Gashero here"😁😁😁
😂😂😂😂😂
Baba joy plz forgive her
We all make mistakes in this life
Kindly give her a second chance
True but gasheru must come
@@samkarsamkar191 big man bring us gacheru
Gacheru kuja dio uyu dem tumsamehe 😂😂😂😂
Kitu mih ctawahi Fanya cjui kulipia mamas family bills cjui kusomesha watoto wao hio sio ken
Sometimes when you light a fire, just know what type of fuel you're using. When asking for forgiveness stop using excuses to justify it
Never take any person for granted. Np matter the distance maintain your dignity and respect. We find genuine pple once lifetime..
Until you lose the person..u will know tge value of them.stay loyal and if u cant be loyal its better to end the relationship. Never allow ur body to control you🙏✋
No reconciliation needed here..u kill sb who is a live still u want to stay..move on bro
Am just learning so many things,when I get there I will be ready for marriage
Alitafuta mzee mwingini juu ya family problem? Wajana na huyo Malaya bro
I would like to ask her,where is Gacheru now 🤷Go for him now you are free from any commitment.
Are those problems at home ended? What are the chances of doing the same things if the same problems persist?
Huyu dame ni fala victim card I’m a product of single mother, you had a potential’ husband yet you choose to be like your mother. Then mamako single mother yet she has 7kids with no dads like mother like daughter in these scenarios
Once beaten twice shy.. wacha arudi streets.. anytime your partner changes behavious ..kuna mburukenge pahali responsible for that change
You will never know the value of a person till you lose them, respect people for what they are
All i will say is it's the first time she was caught but certainly not the first time she's cheated that i can guarantee
It's very possible
Stivo hua unauliza maswali strict and straight to the point,i love that
Huyu dem,,,,,,aty kwetu we are large family.the guy sends money to your family and you are working too.dont you appreciate???
You don't appreciate something until you loose it. 👌👌
MEN SHOULD ALWAYS HAVE FIRM STAND AND NEVER FORGIVE CHEATING
Bro run run move on.hapa bibi akuna..Mali ya uma😮😮