Why A Prenup Is The Best Thing You Can Do For Your Marriage | Anthony ONeal
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- On this episode of The Table with Anthony ONeal, seasoned prenuptial attorney, Aaron Thomas joins to dismantle the stigma surrounding prenuptial agreements. He navigates the intricate world of prenups, shedding light on their true purpose and the invaluable benefits they bring to a marriage. You'll gain a deeper understanding of how these legal documents can foster open communication, strengthen relationships, and provide a solid foundation for financial harmony. Whether you're considering a prenup or simply curious about their role in modern relationships, this insightful conversation will challenge misconceptions and empower you with knowledge about protecting your assets and nurturing a thriving marriage.
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The fact he likened marriage to car buying / car insurance is a sign he’s not ready. I have respect for Anthony but I can understand why he’s single.
Pretty sure he likened a Prenup to car insurance, not a marriage. Good thing he has a relationship with God to even desire marriage, because he could easily keep his wealth and sleep around…
@@calculatedrisk1very very well said
@@theLionandtheLamb1 This isn’t the 1950’s-60’s when everyone’s intentions were to stay married. This is 2023 where most people are looking for either a come up, or a way to exercise options within a relationship when things don’t go their way. The relationship may start out great, but what happens when you have to deal with life and you go through things as a couple? You could have all the faith you want but you can’t control another person. So you have to protect yourself. And it’s also good business. And marriage is also a business.
@theLionandtheLamb1 well said and I agree!!!
Are you married? Just curious. Btw, a prenup is no different than medical or car insurance. It's a just in case thing.
Thanks for having me on your show! Hope this is educational for many people.
This was helpful. Thanks. 🎤
So insightful, thank you for sharing! This definitely opened my eyes!
I'll just say when GOD gives you someone... not when you search for someone, but when He gives someone to you... you wouldn't think like this at all. Marriage is about so much more than this. It's about growing as a couple and ultimately bringing others to Christ. Also, the partner you receive is going to be someone who challenges your character, not someone who just goes with the flow. Remember, the end goal isn't necessarily to achieve wealth... it's to make it to Heaven. Remember that your spirit is being tested every day.
Amen!
When in Rome…
Well said💯
Agreed! I still agree with a prenup.
Brilliantly spoken ❤👍🏿
I hope he finds his wife but he needs to humble himself because he’s currently single and he doesn’t have a clue what marriage is all about , he’s already talking about prenup and divorced, he’s going to run woman off before he even get to know them that’s why he’s 40 and not married because of his self centered mindset
Exactly it’s like he wants manufactured true love that he can control
This comment sounds real goofy!! I don't know why you said he needs to humble himself, he doesn't come across a self centered mindset. I feel like this is wisdom, he preparing for his future. People think you will know everything about their significant other after dating, but when married that person can become different and unfaithful. Top statistic for divorcing is financial and cheating reason. Doesn't mean because he not marry yet in his 40's that he is self centered. He could be diligently trying for that right person and not jumping into a situation too fast. I wouldn't be so fast to judge him so quickly.
What’s refreshing about this episode of "The Table" is how it takes fear-based from the connotative meaning of the words, prenuptial agreement, and replaces it with fairness. It opens up the listener to think differently about the status quo.
I would. Prenups outline more than just divorce.
My husband says: At the end of the day, a prenup is not trusting God. Do you believe that God will bring you a bible believing Christian or not?
My husband tells me this all the time, that it's not about trusting you(me) but all about him trusting God. We believe that if we are genuine bible believing Christians that the Holy Spirit will convict us to show us how we are wrong and how we can be better. I say this to say that if you marry a Christian who has a relationship with God, who is submitted to God, it's easier to trust that God can lead and guide their heart in ALL matters.
Also I know that we live in a generation that hates accountability. Look, if you choose the wrong woman, it is not her fault. Those red flags were there before you said I do. You have the free will to choose anyone. Since were talking about how we feel, I feel that a prenup is also a lack of accountability for who you chose..but it's just a feeling.
I agree 100%
It's sad that we have to consider this course of action, but some folks are pure evil and you have to protect yourself...
It's wise, simply put. No one enters a contract without understanding full well that the contract can be breached and should it be breached, how to protect yourselves. The only people complaining about this are those with nothing to lose in a divorce
It’s hard to say he knows the Bible when he’s using so many of “MAN’S” logic when it comes to marriage. Where is God in his future union?? He keeps worrying about money or the Love of his own money & material gains..
Simple case of reality vs fiction. (get a prenup)
Facts
There is always a place for logic and practical considerations, even when the topic has a spiritual dimension. We do live in a material world after all.
I don't know the exact statistic, but I think married Christians who pray together and tithe have a divorce rate that is much less than 50%.
It seems like he's used to "user type women" curious to know if he had someone to love him for him! When u find true love everything becomes "ours"!!!
Yesssss!
Exactly but if you listen to his story he says exactly why he goes after these types and unfortunately it has been detrimental to him
I think that’s when he was younger. He more recently shared an experience dating someone who made more than him, but he didn’t feel safe enough with her to open up emotionally. I think he’s said that’s his biggest barrier in relationships and he’s been working on that in therapy.
If the woman you choose to marry truly loves you regardless of how many zero are in your bank accounts then she will understand why you need the security blanket of a prenup,
but If you truly love her then you will be fair with the terms of your arrangements for her.
It is with all hopes that the prenup will never have to go into effect and both of you can be together in love until the end of time in this realm.
Those days are long gone tho bro, to find that today would be a needle in a hay stack
Preparing for IF things go wrong is not a bad idea. Preparing AS IF things will go wrong, is. If the latter is your way of thinking, don't get married.
Baby after going to my divorce it taught me that doing your research is key. I lost big time and ended with the shorter end of the stick and homeless. When I do get married again my husband will ABSOLUTELY have to sign a prenup and I’ll gladly and happily sign one too!!
@@theLionandtheLamb1 he did
@@theLionandtheLamb1 That comment didn't age well.
why get married again it will never last and nobody wants to be told who they can be attracted to our sleep with just stay single
@@ernstpierre7021 Spoken like a single, broke hater.
@@ernstpierre7021no disrespect but that’s your opinion. Marriage is hard! But you gotta work it!!! Period!!! Marriage ain’t about being a hoe! If you want to be single then you be single. Thanks for your opinion
I can see why women hate this comment but there are a few things that should be noted. A prenup can also state what would be given/relinquished to the wife should a divorce happens. Also his wealth was accumulated prior to even meeting his wife. Honestly whatever he acquired before marriage with his own labor and sweat should be something he have 100% control of. What is accumulated after marriage is up for debate. Let’s also be honest people sometimes change when divorce occurs n want to hurt the other person as much as possible. And let’s not forget that the courts favor women most of the time. What happens when the spouse didn’t even love the person n just wanted them for their wealth. That can be concealed very well.
Correction “some” women. A smart woman knows a prenup is a wise thing and also protects her. Some women make more in the frontend OR end up making more later.
A problem is I think some men present prenups poorly to a prospective wife. There are some women who just have bad intentions, but I’m sure that is few.
@@Regina.Clarkelol all CAP. More like most! We are speaking of the norm not the outlier. 99% of the time men who really care about love and don't care if a woman is a waitress will have the world at their finger tips and marry a woman with 5cent to her name. Women as a whole don't do this at all. Even when she might be doing equal to a man she will over look that man. All about the money with women which is why under our toxic feminist court system divorce is legalized extortion
Great response but most women would not want to hear this.
Been through this scenario to include numerous friends. At 62, I’m a very sour man. This guy is the truth.
@@theLionandtheLamb1 I want to believe you and I as well thought that once, but let me ask. Can you take your spouse into heaven with you? You go there individually. But yall are one? Im sure youd say, thats not what I mean by one etc. And i agree. The meaning of becoming one now has stipulations; its this but not that... Your spouse would still be responsible for their behaviors, sins etc. So this one you speak of doesnt include going to heaven together. And last I check we are all flawed. Which means that person can choose to be good but can alao choose to be bad. Can choose to live in His teachings or refuse. Religion is based on choice. And as an individual their choices are boundless. They may chose to love you today and years from now that may changed or they may be influenced to change differently. Someone once told me that theyre not wearing a seatbelt because when God wants them its their time. Thats true but God also instilled talent in somone to create the seatbelt to save lives. Things happen beyond our control. And just because its happens doesnt mean a person should let them walk all over them. I trust God fully that I will be ok. Man however, not so much. Plus it isnt just looking out for yourself its looking out for others as well as the one who decides to leave. A prenup can be very fluid. If nothing more than an agreement on how the both of them are willing to handle should divorce occur. A prenup can protect both parties. But a divorce w no prenup only protects one. If somone wants to leave, you cant force them to stay. If God isnt willing to make your spouse stay in their marriage against their will why should you behave like you can. You above Him?
I am a huge proponent for prenups. For once, it'll make sure the future married couple talks about money upfront before combining their finances. Money is the number one reason of the majority of divorces. So the early everyone comes clean about money and their financial stuff, the better it is for the longevity of the couple. Second thing, I see prenups as insurance contract. If you have a car, you probably have auto insurance. That doesn't mean you are hoping to have a car accident. It just means that you have some protection in case something happens to your car. To me, the same applies to prenups. We hope for the best and plan for the worst 😊 and I think everyone should get one regardless of your financial situation at the time you get married. Great episode, great expert! Anthony, you are so funny 🤣🤣🤣 relax, you'll find the right person for you and she'll sign that prenup!
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This is GREAT information, thanks for sharing. I'm also sharing this with my siblings.
Brother you not ready to get married yet... you're the entity that attracts and builds the wealth
What if tomorrow you lose everything (just saying) you've grown to a point where you can replicate it at the end of the day.....by the way what the whole point of having if it can't be given?
.....they must just stay single. Too many rules and contracts😂
Thanks for the episode ❤ it and it was a very eye opening piece. Very educational material I am so getting the book.
Anthony said if he gets married, it’s “til death do us part.” What’s the reason of a prenup, then? I just need a bit of clarity there.
He may have the intention of staying true to that but he can't control the other party. If she decides she wants out there's nothing he can do about that.
And this why another reason why women get unalived unfortunately
@@sterlingtheinvestorExactly!! He can't control what happens in the future. What if there is unfaithfulness?
Women are more likely to file for divorce than their husbands are. In fact, a study from the American Sociological Association determined that roughly 70% of divorces are initiated by the wife. And that percentage is even higher when it comes to college-educated women.
@@robertgibson2326 women are filing first and more often because of what has transpired throughout the marriage…whether infidelity, different forms of abuse/manipulation or lack of trust women are getting the brunt of it to no avail and unfortunately males only understand the hurt and harm caused after the fact of losing everything or if is done to a woman they love
Not sure if this is click bait but this is not attractive 😆
Right, I’m actually surprised...I didn’t think he was like this.
It just feels counterintuitive from the "Im single because im building" discussion ive heard. Like if you are building for your future spouse and family, the opening line seems almost hypocritical.
But generally I tend to think prenups are good idea.
@@sherondaness7505 exactly.
The women that get it will get it
Anthony’s mannerisms is literally why I am here 😂
I keep telling you Anthony…you not getting married. No woman is checking for you.
Lol dang this was mean but he do seem selfish or frugal
@@softlifeera404 nooo please as a woman tell me, is it mean or is it true?
@@softlifeera404he is cheap and he is giving scarcity mindset!!!! Why you telling us what your future wife is doing??? Very tacky
@@lgee9027 he only would get a woman now cuz of money/status. He cheap now cuz he tricked on woman before and learned that won’t it.
This was a very educational, eye opening show. I'll be forever single by choice, but I definitely see the value in this. This will inform those who are dating and/or want to do marriage and will need to have those difficult conversations. Thank you so much!
As a man who has been married twice [once divorced] with both marriages involved prenuptial agreements, I find it astonishing how divergent people's opinions are about prenuptial agreements. It would be prudent for anyone considering marriage to take all aspects of matrimony into account, including their financial situation.
One significant reason for a prenup, especially when marrying someone with debt, is debt protection. Without one, you might find yourself responsible for repaying their loans post-divorce. This includes debts acquired before and during the marriage.
Any prospective couple should weigh the benefits of skipping a prenuptial agreement against the hazards.
That's why the Bible says two will become 1. You become one in everything.
As a single WOC in her 50s, i have no intention of getting married. I'm way too controlling over my finances to bring on another person who is very lackaidazical with theirs.
I don't wear or utilize designer clothes, drive a fancy car, or wear expensive jewelry.
I never want my family to find me with a closet full of expensive stuff thst i acquired and then set up a go fund me page to settle my death. That's CRAZY!!
For me, marriage after 50 is not necessary. I don't need the companionship nor having any kids. It just seems like too much of a headache at my age. So instead I'd rather enjoy whatever time i have left doing what i want to. If i meet someone along the way, great. And if not, great too! It doesn't bother me one bit either way!
Wow, I totally agree with you! Your comment is on point. I feel the same way😊
I'm about to be 40 and my wife and I had our first..... I would not recommend it to anyone lol. Yet I'm grateful I never had kids earlier bc I was able to use thst time to build myself.
So if you truly love a person but that person is careless with their financial, should that be a reason to not pursue the relationship? Because now it sounds more transactional and that the biggest problems we are having these days. No one wants to do the work together, it’s like you don’t match me financially so let’s pass on a opportunity to be great🤔
As a black woman in her 50's reading your statement, it's weird. If you pick a woman that is on your level, if not higher, then you not worry about "your wealth".
Same Sis
I agree. I think the prenuptial would also protect her. I am sure that Donald and Melania Trump have one and she has several multi-million dollar companies. So I would think that it wouldn't be an issue. Though I remember Ivonka getting a large amount but I never heard either one speak Illy of each other. 😊
Stay single 🙄
Levels change. That’s why they are levels. Protect yourself
He’s not pursuing a woman his “ level “. He’s looking for a woman half his age with limited chances for upward mobility . The plan is to use their beauty to impress other men for a few years and then dump them. Their idea of the prenup is control. No chance in the world the Melanias and Anna Nicole Smiths would choose those men without money.
If anything women should be pushing for prenup, especially SHM. They can actually be used as financial protection for the women if done correctly.
Yes I TOTALLY agree Anthony!!!!!! And share with us that legal resource please for drafting that prenup! 👏👏
Great conversation!
Great Show 💯
Any smart adult would do a prenup if getting married in this day and age.... The stats don't lie. Almost half of marriages end in divorce. That percentage goes up if either party of the marriage have been divorced previously. And more than 70% of divorces are filed by the wife.
This was good 💯💯
@anthony,totally agree. I will sign a prenup because I understand the value of time, investments and the value that I bring into the relationship. I value the relationship and what we can build together period! Still waiting for that interview on your table. I honestly believe my story will inspire a lot of people.
I believe that people show us who they are fairly quickly. Whether you chose to believe is up to the individual. Who you marry is who you divorce. Prenups to me are selfish. Biblical getting married means your literally signing up to die to yourself. That means everything. Don't wanna share your money, don't get married that's how I see it
Anthony, I think it is better to pray for the right partner than focus on a prenup. I myself, am not a materialistic person but I do manage money well, so a prenup is not necessary to me; but the feeling that I he trusts me is important. As a wife, I know what I bring to the table and I have been an advantage to my husband in regard to money. I don't think the Proverbs 31:11 woman signed a prenup. Anthony, money isn't everything. While we know there are gold diggers out there, it is better to relax and trust God for a good black wife, rather than rehearse worse case scenarios in your mind. In fact, if you subconsciously view a decent woman as a possible gold digger you may be giving off a vibe that turns her off. I'm sure you meet superficial women, but it shouldn't take long to smell them out. Just don't miss the good one because of your RULE.
Good morning Gentlemen, greetings and blessings to you both.
I am sure his future wife will have her own money.
I surely hope so...
@@LifeAsDrJenn She will want him to sign a prenup also. This is a two way street.
@@missj5564 I can see it on that note. Maybe she will have as many trust issues as he does.
Big love Anthony, the big bro I never had. Thanks for these gems. 💎 🎉✨🤙🏾
This was SUPER educational, my mind has been changed regarding prenups and I know see the responsibility of it
Yeah, I don’t have the energy for the energy in this video. It’s rubbing me the wrong way. Clearly not for me. Good luck (20+ years married)
Eye opening.
Prenup is a wise decision. I’ve been through a divorce and have given up everything but my 2 cars, which she wanted too. People may be nice but they get evil and greedy when divorcing. Being Retired Military, I’ll be paying the remainder of her life. I know it seems bad but it is the only way I will remarry. You will be debt free, Life Insurance, 6 figure salary, and more. I will be the first to sign a prenup if asked.
I always thought the was stupid. While I don’t think a woman is entitled to whatever that man built on his own I do believe that this is already predicting the outcome of where the marriage will be years to come.
I solidly agree.
I never thought about signing a prenup because of what I have seen amongst celebrity couples in the context of controlling the other's assets/money. I believe after the video, I will walk away knowing more about it truthfully.
UPDATE: It wouldn't sit well with me. Prenups do spell control and lead to one-sided asset activity.
I wish I had these teaching from a younger age as a young man growing up in SVG.
Agreed. But I am glad I did my research long before getting married. Community vs separate property is a big thing. I've invested in 401k and Roth before meeting my wife and it built up nicely up until our marriage. That's when I quit contributing and opened a second Roth account and now only contribute to that account. Same with my brikwrage accounts. Keep your separate assets separate and do not comingle them with your community assets and you're good
Honestly, the only reason that I would sign a prenup is if it is mutually beneficial to BOTH parties involved. Also, I would ALWAYS keep some form of employment! The lines have already been drawn, so you have to make sure that you are protected as well.
I’m going to recap this and send people over here. Sharing this with everyone. I’m sharing with married folks too, so they can talk finances together. If one passes away and there is a remarriage, is there a goal for the children l, so many things to talk about.
I’m only 15min in, and he gave a million gems already.
If it’s 10-20 years down the line and they are getting divorced, as a wife I cook, clean and take care of children. I’m not sure if it’s fair that someone ends up with nothing. I understand why it would be split 50/50. 10-20 years of service as a wife and mom isn’t easy.
I think “she gets half” is over simplified.
Overall I think whatever two people want to do in their marriage as long as they have joy, peace and good communication they will prosper. Also most importantly keep God first. Prenup or no Prenup.
Unfortunately they stop valuing the wife and the efforts goes unappreciated after all the years and thinks her sacrifices are unworthy of half
@@fitz2523 Prenuptial agreements typically list assets acquired prior to marriage rather than during it. In the event of a divorce, the contract usually specifies how those assets would be divided. Post marital assets are also addressed within the contract, however there are indeed variables, including if one partners primary role is considered "domestic/ home-keeper" (stay at home) or their finances contributions equate to less then 15% of the couples income.
I can state with confidence that the person you divorce is nearly never the one you married, having been married twice and going through one divorce (both involving prenuptial agreements).
If prenuptial agreements fail to meet certain legal standards, such as "unconscionability" or reasonable fairness, they may be dismissed or partially recognized by a civil (divorce) court.
Prenuptial agreements that provide one spouse less than 10% of the couple's assets if the marriage lasts longer than 48 months are almost never accepted by courts. These legal "protections," prevents a party from receiving nothing (0%) Within instances in which a prenuptial agreement is warranted, requesting half (50%) is absurd.
Praying he finds true love.
Oh yes, the kind that will do him good all his life Prov 31:12 that the the prenuptials won't even matter
Ppl must just stay single😂.......so many rules clearly this thing is not working anymore
I agree with being transparent when the relationship has turned serious, and marriage is being discussed. But of course, it is always a risk. Why? Someone could be dishonest and not fully sharing their true financial situation thus the importance of an iron clad prenup. Also, one of the people could be a divorcee and not know about something that is lingering out there that is residual debt from their first marriage.
Every relationship is different, every marriage is different. As long as both parties are comfortable and in agreement with it there should be no problem.
I wonder how prenups play apart with trusts. I say a trust over prenup or maybe a prenup protected by a trust. It depends. Different ways to protect yourself in marriage or any contract for that matter.
I believe if like any SINGLE man or woman who establishes themselves and become wealthy,,, it’s harder for them to “Find Love” your dating pool becomes smaller and with that small bit, is no guarantee you will find your person. Even if you find someone one who make just as much as you, does not guarantee that this person would not take you for all you have of the marriage fail.
Get it from the ground with each other
What the church don’t tell you: weather you wealthy/establish None of it is Guarantee….. 🗣️”LOVE” IS A RISK‼️ and I stand on that wholeheartedly
Plot twist, AOs future wife will ask him to sign one as well.
😊. PERrrrrrFeeeeCTly said and Done ✅ toGetherrrrrrrNESS
As an older woman dating and retired, both myself and my friend have assets that we want to leave to our children from our previous marriages. Both of our spouses are deceased. I brought up the idea of a prenuptial because we both want to leave our houses to our children. We don’t want them to think that because we’re getting married that one or the other is going to get the house of the deceased parent. It’s a totally different situation because we both built our lives separately and we’re not going to have children or buy a new house together.
I believe the same protection could be provided to your children by having wills and or trusts.
@@meemee5660 In our situation I’m still building to have passive income. I’ll know within the week if the county will allow me to build what I want in my land. When I rent it out it’s going to yield a minimum of $33K/ month. It’s going to be worth $4.95M. It’s going to be in an LLC and a living trust backed by a living will. I have 7 children one is deceased but I want to leave something for his children and his wife who has 3 of my grandchildren. Then I’m building another apartment building and houses for each family that they can rent until I’m gone and I’ll be saving their rent money by placing it in a high yielding investment that will be available to them upon my death as a nest egg. I’ll also build my dream house not far from them and that’s where my husband and I will live until death. If I go first then he’s going to have to move out into his own place. That home will go to the oldest child and continue as they pass to the next oldest and then to the oldest grand child. Their children will live in the house that I build for each one of them so if they run into hard times hey have a rent free place to regroup. I’ll be educating them weekly in the upkeep of the place because I don’t want them to lose everything that I’ve worked so hard for. Everything will be in a trust never to be sold. My husband had a pension, 401K and is still working and paying $1800 for a one bedroom apartment and renting out his house so that basically someone can pay it off to leave to his 2 children. That’s fine. We just want them to be comfortable knowing that neither of us are trying to be a gold digger getting married to acquire the others assets. We’re past that and it’s in writing so there’s nothing to argue or go to court about. What do you think?
Nahhhhhh omgggg 😮😮😮 thank u for thisss
Is it possible in any way to get a prenup after marriage?
Anthony really shows his immaturity on this episode. Most people don’t need a prenup unless one of you is significantly more wealthy than the other party. 2 broke people getting married don’t need a prenup.
Anthony isn’t broke, so this information/episode was needed for him.
@@stephanied1028He makes videos to help/inspire his audience to build wealth. Most of his audience is likely closer to broke than wealthy, at least that’s how he talks to them 😂
@@MsMockingbird06 Yes, but you see he taking notes and says he learned something. I think this was more for him then his audience.
Going for Prenup. Best insurance 💪🏽
You know initially I was like why do people keep talking about prenups if they really love and trust someone. But then I had to think about it. Yes I may love them and give them no reason to not trust me,and I know myself and what I will and won't do. But the truth is you may think you know someone,and they will still turn around and switch up. And that goes for men and women,so yeah, everyone should protect what they have . And if that person truly loves and cares for you as they say,the prenup won't matter,becauae the day it gets signed will be the last time you ever have to deal with it.
Oh the word of God fulfilling itself your finances become one, wow.
I want more information on the populations polled/surveyed in the research Anthony shared at the beginning. I don’t think nearly half the general population of gen Zs nor millennials have enough wealth to warrant a prenup. It makes sense to me that both spouses have equal access and claim to money/assets gained after the start of the marriage regardless of how much each person made individually because when they are married they become one, they may just have different roles in the marriage and go through different seasons. I think SOME people are over complicating this and getting prenups unnecessarily. If your financial situation is simple before marriage, you’re in your 20s and don’t have much wealth/savings as a gen z in particular, what’s built/gained in the marriage is both of yours.
Ok so my future husband we are just going watch this episode 🤣
some will remain single like paul no shame i any path chosen
Just make sure you don't have kids too. Prenups aren't executable when it comes to children. Child support is a real racket.
Facts Anthony please protect your hard work income
At the end of the day, we're human, and what once was a wife can be your worst enemy in divorce court. Watch out fellas, they comin'.
10:07 Hmmm, interesting because when my husband was in the hospital dying, I went to BOA to withdraw his money so that they wouldn't keep it after his passing. BOA told me I couldn't touch it because my name wasn't on the acct. My husband could barely speak so he couldn't tell me his password. So, I figured that was money lost. It was $15k. By the grace of God, he recovered and a few weeks later he added my name to his account so that I could withdraw it if needed because he's not 100% better. So, why couldn't I touch it if we're married?? I'm in South FL.
Let me just say this, when the man is the bread winner its his and her money, when she is the bread winner its her money and only hers , ive realized that ill no longer be providing for women unless its my mother or daughters, women completely change when they get the resources and they never would treat the guy the same way he treated her when it comes to finances
How about not involve the government in your relationship at all? And not get “married”. If it’s real and two people are true life partners then why is there not enough trust that if you do decide to split you will still do right by each other
I wouldn’t get married as an older man, prenup or no prenup. Prenups can be challenged and/or overturned, both of which costs you money. Prenups are also overturned 50% of the time. No thank you!
it's very rare for a prenuptial agreement to be overturned in court: far from any reason, you'd need a fairly specific reason, like it's provisions are unconscionable, contrary to law, or it was signed under duress. But moving beyond all that, it's still probably worth doing for most people.
The first king of Israel, King Saul was chosen by God. He did not maintain his purity before God although God gave him such a blessing! Saul drastically changed for the worst. Prenups done correctly protects both individuals who are not immune to changing for the worst. Its just God forbid the marriage doesnt last, the financial component of things wont be a hassle and stressful. The emotional stress of dealing with a divorce is rough as it is
I guess prenup is okay for people who already has money or business. But if you marry someone who just graduated let’s say from nursing school, law, doctor, I think that person will also be selfish to buy their own property just incase the marriage ends. I don’t see the union there.
The future is unknown. Prenup is the only defense for a man in the event the marriage fail. If a person does not believe in prenups, then to each his own. For those that feel a Christian should not have one then "mind your own business" (1 Th 4:11)
It’s 2024 the year of EXPANSION!!! Let’s expand our minds fam! Let’s stop commenting on his personal desires or OUR PERSONAL PREDICTIONS on this man. He’s our brother and HE’S TEACHING US SOMETHING. We are never at liberty to say what someone will or won’t have UNLESS THEY HAVE SAID IT THEMSELVES! GOD WILL HANDLE EVERYTHING ELSE. Read the entire book of Proverbs and tell me we haven’t been commanded to SEEK KNOWLEDGE AND USE WISDOM IN ALL AREAS OF OUR LIFE! All includes our finances and if there were no prenups and one was awarded everything, why are people still asking for the other parent to pay child support if they have been granted everything. We have to look at this differently. SOME OF US ARE A LITTLE GREEDY!! And that is so sad!
I have to use my discernment with this. It wouldn't sit well with me, and it can spell trouble.
@@LifeAsDrJenn I totally understand
All areas include who to pursue for marriage vs superficial cultural stereotypes and one party is awarded everything due to whatever has transpired in the marriage…there are consequences to inflicting the other party
Anthony is very smart, he knows the Bible and the Bible has over 100 warnings about the wicked female! and he also see what a divorce will do to his wealth.
There are just as many wicked men out there.
@@stephanied1028Consider Sherri Shephard, Mary J. Blige, etc
As a woman in a messy divorce.. where my husband is abusive. A prenup is just an excuse to continue to try to pre stop fights. Because you're not including children or any situation of abuse. That woman who had the $100,000 her husband . And maybe with reason or not. But the fact that they ended up divorcing anyways goes to show that her hunch was probably correct. Marriage is more than just money. And if the wife stays at home and he has a business and he puts it in his name and that's the only income they have she is stuck in a marriage where she can't leave because financially she has to take care of kids. The key factor in the prenups are kids and how and then that's how many but life have too many curve balls for an actual good prenup. Like if your kids handicap. No offense Anthony but you're really not hearing a lot of men that
Have a prenup that protects everything you made before she came into your life AND 50% of everything made during the course of the marriage
I generally like Anthony but I think he's a bit misguided here. Sometimes it's better to make these decisions at the time of a divorce rather than 10-15 years before when you're signing a prenup. Prenups are fair when you first get married but if your financial situation has significantly changed then what you agreed to may not be fair at the time of a divorce. By the way, you can always have a conversation about money without signing a prenup.
Halle Berry wants a prenup before her next marriage to protect her 90 million dollars etc. She learned the hard way, but she learned.
Why not to eliminate the concept of having right to each other's wealth upon divorce? After divorce you go your way me mine and do not go to get some share on each other's wealth. Govt. MUST change law only then we will see how many people are sincere about true marriage and how many go for divorce. This will also show that how many people opt for DeFacto relationship.
This is a sad 😢
It is blatantly against certain Christian denomination’s doctrines to “get a prenup” as it is seen as “holding a part of your life back from the other person”. If you’re marrying the person to “share your life”, you should combine your life fully with your spouse. It’s rude to ask for one because it shows you don’t “trust” them. You can’t love someone who you don’t fully TRUST. If you can’t really trust them (especially with money), why even marry them at all? Maybe make them take classes on money management before you go down the isle instead… just a thought..
Without even watching, totally agree (Prenup)...☺️🙋🤗. Still waiting for reimbursement for Israel 🤷🙏
Why is the prenup protection for only men? Women need to protect their money too! Men these day's ,are cleanig up on spousal support from high value women.
Anthony needs to find himself a nice African girl when He goes to Ghana from the village. pray to God and it will be ok. Innocence is still out there ok.
You can have all the writings you want on paper and still end up with a wicked person. Only Jesus can lead you to your future. Like David says” I have set the Lord always before me so I shall not be moved. Jesus says we shouldn’t worry about anything remember? In everything with prayer and supplication let your request be known to God; and the peace of God which surpasses all understanding guide us.
Anthony don’t be anxious about prenups ok. God’s got you. I don’t believe in 50/50 , Daddy always took care of mom. It’s an African manly thing. But my mom completely trusted him to lead . They are super married and madly in love today and God has blessed their union beyond measure.
Don’t worry. Isn’t salvation better than wealth? Though money is important, without peace, you got nothing. But I understand this point about prenup though.
Who is marrying this guy in the first place? That is million dollar question and I am not trying to be facetious.
I wouldn’t complain about a prenup goes to show that you really aren’t there for the money.. he going to provide a nice lifestyle while y’all together in that present time so that’s good enough.. he worked for that money..
Poor people are against prenups.
People are money driven, so I don’t blame him
But that is HIS WIFE, not people. Just don’t get married then.
Daddy Dave Ramsey is not going to like this one...just saying
Thank you for justifying what men been screaming 🗣️MARRIAGE DOES NOT BENEFIT THE MAN……
So please explain “how does a man benefit from marriage”🤔
How are you turning this into a gender war? Lol
Have faith in God not marriage with imperfect humans.
But...yet again, I ask...being this wealthy, why would you ever get married in the first place. The practice is stupid and outdated. This is ridiculous 😒
He’s a Christian and biblical to get married and children with your wife.