James Hetfield was ABANDONED but When MONEY CAME He Gifted a House to His Father
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- JAMES HETFIELD AND HIS TERRIBLE CHILDHOOD
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Into the Black: The Inside Story of Metallica (1991-2014)
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Hetfield will always be my "Guitar Hero". As cliche and as corny as it is to say, his lyrics and riffs gave me the voice I never had growing up. Unforgiven 1&3, Fade to black, harvester of sorrow, and Mama said have all gotten me through some very difficult times in my life.
no leaf clover has been hitting for a bit now
I can already guess your struggles by the titles and can relate. Keep going strong, man🤘🏻
Music really speaks to those who listen🤘
@@deathweasle5061 that song is just a banger man. Any time it's on, I gotta blast it!
@@het2419 thanks man, it's been tough but music and Metallica are always a constant. Hope you're having an easier go at things 🤘
I feel bad for James. He’s been through so much throughout his whole life. He deserves all this love and appreciation from his fans.
How any man can abandon his family is beyond me, look what this experience made him though.
Absolutely. I'm married with 2 girls and could never imagine such a thing. Everyone at home after work watching TV is what keeps me going.
@@AD1978leo I'm the same proud family man, family is everything.
Anyone who does that is a disgrace. They spit in the face of what a relationship is built upon: love and responsibility. Disgusting. I'm not in a relationship myself but I was raised well enough to know how revolting that is.
I'm addicted to pigger nussy 🤠
@@redneckshaman3099 nice to know?
Seems James was ripped off of his childhood and teens. Everything started to go away. Learn what he wanted to learn..taken..his father..gone.. his mother..taken... Cliff....taken
All this man has done is give.
His lyrics are as powerful as his pain. What a absolute unselfish person. Thank you James Hetfield.
The fact is , no man who could leave his kids behind that way is normal. I was an accidental child , no question. My parents were in their 40s when I was born. But they gave me all the love , attention and certainly all the necessary things a kid needs ( plus lots of things I just wanted) . They were probably tired and would have liked to spend those years traveling or just making themselves happy but they focused on me . I am so thankful for that. I have written off former friends because of the way they treated their kids. It was none of my business, but it showed me the true measure of the person. If you can't put your kids first, you suck as a human
This is why I'll always have a place in my heart for Hetfield.
James and Dave Mustain had similar childhoods. Now I can understand their pain and anger.
Dave viewed James, Cliff and Lars as his only family and close friends. When he got kicked out it just fueled his anger more, he felt betrayed never giving him any chance to change
@@zerreinatsu2483 Interesting to know that. It’s odd that they fired him without warning. No intervention, no reprimand and no second chance. People usually don’t get fired after one incident. I guess they had a “one strike and you’re out” policy. Perhaps they resented him for being the alpha male in the group.
@@VirtousoForGod Metallica would have never took off with two guys like James and Dave in the same band. It had to happen.
I heard from James he was pretty shy as a kid and playing guitar became the only way he could express himself. I played guitar from 10 to 28 and it's been a gift that kept on giving. It's something beautiful you can go back to and it never gets old. There is never a point where the learning stops. Personally I was dedicated but nowhere near dedicated enough in my opinion. There are a few things I would've done differently if I re-did everything but music never came as naturally to me as words.
@@stonecodfish2365 Haha, I get ya. If it weren't for two-note power chords Metallica wouldn't exist. I've always loved bands that use weird chords and all that. I probably should've gone out of my way to write songs with those kinds of chords and get comfortable with them because I've always admired songs with weird chords. I think actually The Beatles did that. John and Paul would run around finding people who knew weird chords, teach each them to each other, and then make a point of going home and writing songs with them built in.
This becomes a mindbend when you realize he probably would not have made all his powerful songs if he was a mama's boy. It made him stronger, gave him a purpose.
Seems likely, but plenty of great songwriters have decent families. Even in metal
No
Well, obviously you can't be a mama's boy in his position. We all gotta grow up anyway, regardless of family situations. Some however have to grow up much faster, much harder. It might make you stronger, much because you have to be, but it also might kill you. If anything, what helped him persevere his father's abandonment and his mother's death is that he at least had a mother, a family (before and after Metallica), as opposed to, let's say, getting dropped off at an abusive foster home right at birth. Hardships happen to everybody, some worse than others. What really helps us persevere is resources, something to lean on, preferably not intoxicants or any other addictions. That said, obviously we don't need spoiled brats like in Sweet 16, Trump, Tekashi 6-9 and the Uvalde shooter. James obviously turned out better than those people, even in his young days and as an addict later on in life. Suffering might build character, but really it's autenticity that does it, with or without suffering. The Uvalde shooter clearly didn't have much character, so that made his suffering useless. I can only hope the suffering of the victim's families doesn't become useless, after such a useless atrocity. Metallica surely became something useful, something of autenticity and character, a suffering worthwhile.
He made himself stronger, compassionate, creative and resilient. All in spite of his parents being deeply abusive. Not as a direct result. He fought a titanic uphill battle, but he didn't have to. His parents were awful sadistic fanatical people.
@@halloweenallyearround4889 I ain't so sure his parents were deeply abusive. Did they have faults? Yes, but I dare say all parents have them. Deeply abusive parents? You must not've heard of Dave Pelzer. He didn’t become a rockstar but should've been something like Cannibal Corpse, or a mass shooter.
Dude… who knew that one of the most successful metal band members would have such a terrible childhood? I always like their music, I’m trying to listen to more of Metallica, but this really makes me think more of the band’s history. It’s actually pretty motivating, when you think about it. James went through a horrible childhood, but was able to eventually do what he loved and have the most incredible fan base. I’m very happy now he had an incredible life right ahead of him in a secret way.
It’s super funny how James attended Downey High, which I recently found out aboutabout a year ago. I I attended Bell High School, which are neighbor schools. We were both in high school in the same years. Another thing that happened was that before Slayer made it, they were also neighbors to were I lived (Bell, Ca.) and I remember when Slayer came to our school (Bell High) and played cover songs, as well as their originals in our basketball gym. I paid .25 cents to enter the gym a watch them play. We were all so young and full of dreams! But then, really hit! Well, just a short story about my past. Be good people! 🤪
I can kind-of relate to that, my dad owned a mechanical repair business, in 2000 he had to retire because of nerve damage in his left arm, I worked in my dad's workshop with my two brothers to keep the business going till it got sold, then my dad returns to his native country and takes all the money with him, including money he owes my mum as part of a divorce settlement, I found out that my dad is an alcoholic control-freak, my stepdad was also an alcoholic too, I used to get picked-on a lot at school because I had to wear glasses, I was actually born short-sighted, cross-eyed, and red-green colourblind, i eventually got into music because it was the one thing that truly made me feel good inside.
James is a good soul ❤️🙏🤘
Hardship builds character in James case it turned him into a legend
this is the story of alot of men. il say billions. they bottle their feelings in and just keep going. some give into the darkness but others just keep moving forward but breaking piece by piece and we eventually die. there is a reason why men die earlier than women. i understand what james is going through because i've had a similar childhood. abandonment, neglect leaves such a horrible wound that really never heals. all my prayers with you james. keep fighting.
Yes! Keeping that shit inside is not healthy....I totally relate to this story because it mirrors mine so closely...that's why I've always loved Metallica's music but their lyrics are just spot on and I feel they "get me."
7:55 damn I'm 52 and I understand that anxiety of falling apart. It's not physical, it's your whole psyche with all the ghosts coming along with it. Have to learn to take it easy.
Family is the most important thing in this life.
Don't look in the past because pain should stay away and heavy metal should arrive James Hatfield is best heavy metal rock
James I hope you read this, you are my hero and you were always there for me!! I love you brother! I grew up on your music. You where there for so many hard times. Thank you, your music will live forever.
They say don't judge a book by its cover and its another piece of the big puzzle. I was lucky to have supportive parents and a great home life. To go through life in a dis-functional environment this way would in some ways would be really harsh. He had his problems and addictions like we all do but he comes out on top in away. He could have chosen another sad direction but we have an icon that will stand the test of time which was created by devoted people to cause that makes legendary riffs we know and love today.
A difficult youth for Hetfield. | The first chords that are heard, when the acetate disc appears, sound like the beginning of the song by La Ley: Mentiras
The way his music helped me I have made me idolise him. I wish him all the best!
You're a better man than me James, for buying your dad a house. I suffered from a very similar childhood trauma. My father always told me I was a waste of space and I will amount to nothing and mom left because he was abusive. It took me decades to learn how to be a good man. James has done well and his family are the band. All the best to him.
I'm not a rich and famous musician like James but I was born and raised into a United Pentecostal cult group and like many of you, have a love for guitar and metal.
I was engaged to a woman that was a Jehovah's witness and they were not allowed to do certain medical procedures or whatever and I asked her one day if your son needs a blood transfusion would you do it she said no but a couple days later she brought it back up and said I don't think I should believe this anymore and she walked away from the religion
I am so happy and fortunate to have great parents
My entire family including brothers and sisters nieces and nephews everybody was there when my mom passed
this is a pure example of resilience. He could have committed suicide or being a thief and doing bad stuff. Other than that he just created one of the biggest band in music history.
When he reflects on his father leaving when he was 13 and states you never taught me how to be a man made me cry. I also lost my father suddenly when I was 16 and have always bottled up that anger inside of me. Dave Mustaine also shares this with his father abandoning them. I can't imagine the pain of that. When a parent dies you simply accept it and move on but someone walking out is a living rejection. I'm glad he reconciled with his father before he died but losing his mum at 16 as a consequence was a bigger hurt. These scars fueled some of their best songs.
Hetfield is an incredible human being.
One of the greatest guitarists ever
Growing up in Downey kinda sucks. My mom grew up there. I was born in Downey Community Hospital. Especially if you grow up with Christian Science. Brutal. I’ve relocated to Orange County California.
It's amazing how music can vent and convey our suffering and how we can inadvertently pass it on to those who need it. Hetfield's angry lyrics (especially Dyer's Eve) were my affirmation that my hatred and suffering under my parents was not an isolated, subjective thing.
James was my biggest idol when I was 16. Not only did he teach me how to play the greatest riffs, but he taught me that, as a musician, it was my duty to carry on living no matter how insufferable my life was, so that I could one day hopefully do for others what he did for me.
I hear what your saying James and that's a load for anyone to carry . I had a bad upbringing too . Physical and mental abuse by someone who did his abuse and stood behind a pulpit on Sunday acting like a completely different person . I don't want to go knock for knock with you ...and even though I did what you did and saw my dad through his last years . I never heard I'm sorry one time . My mom was a total mental case ..in and out of psych wards . BUT...I have a great Son , daughter inlaw and the smartest most beautiful granddaughter a guy like me can hope for . The past is the past and everyman will account for his life....no one else's . Metallica is a great band you can be proud of that . PK
My father wasn't a preacher, but he did the same thing your father did. All the physical and mental abuse was done while we were alone. No one has ever known about how he treated me. I still felt an obligation to take care of him in the last few years of his life. He too never said sorry, but I believe he wasn't aware that how he treated me was wrong. I can't say for sure, because he lacked the intellect to comprehend that. I will always be stuck in silence about that. I now understand what the song Unforgiven was written about. That song describes my history as well. All the best to you.
@@joekelley5121 The way I looked at it was there are kids ( young kids ) who work in mines and other backbreaking jobs live on the streets and get treated like crap . All you can do is draw a line...leave your past behind and make a better life for your kid(s) . You did great be proud of that . PK
@@trblemkr1d106 I appreciate that.
This man is a big part of me being sober almost 10 years.
proud of you man❤️
I respect James Hetfield so much more now . I have always been a hardcore Metallica fan.
What 20 Year old High School Dropout Misfit Lyrically Writes / Composes some of the Greatest Music EVER ? This man James Hetfield has no idea of how much he means to People around the World . He is a USA National Treasure and is a Primary Inspiration Defending a Nation with his Moving Poetry and Self Damnation of what Darkness he has had to offer the masses as a Beast Of Burden . HIs Voice and Passion will never be forgotten . ❤⭐🌠⚡🌋🙈🙉🙊🔥💥😎😉😳😍🤠🤙🤘🤗🤑🙃🤔
Hat's off to Mr. Hatfield 💯🤘🏻👊🏻💪🏻..... Because of your music, it helped me as a teen as I fell in love with metal, still am a true metalhead 💯🤘🏻. That band is legendary & will live in forever along with Pantera, Slayer, Sepultura, Motorhead, etc.... The list goes on for many a great metal bands who ALL have awesome & interesting stories. Because of these guys, I picked up the guitar & bass. I'm not on their level, but could be. I've been jamming & following these legends since early 90's & will continue to hammer away until I hit the dirt. CLIFF you're NOT FORGOTTEN ❤️💯🤘🏻. That's where the band really started having issues - dealing with the lost of a brother who was really the driving force behind the rest of the band, but with all together brought into this world something truly outstanding 💯. ROCK ON METALLICA, ROCK ON JAMES 💯👊🏻💪🏻🤘🏻❤️🍻
James Hetfield will always have a place in my heart. How he helped me through all of my difficult childhood struggles. You don't know me James, but thank you.
Sins of the father..Now we call him Papa Het, I bet he doesn't mind that nick name.
The pain James was left from his fathers absence was the fuel he most likely used to help him be who he is today. On a level I can relate about my relationship with my father. When I was 10 I started to see my dad for who he is. This built so much resentment and betrayal. Even though he was around I just couldn’t look up to him anymore. I had to learn to grow on my own because of it. Nearly 3 decades later I’ve started to heal and accept what happened. I’ve been a fan of Metallica since I was 15 and it wasn’t till recent years I started to understand James lyrics. For him to overcome and survive all these years is amazing to me. I admire James so much as a human being. So much power he holds.
Continue with videos like these, your channel's gonna blow up in no time I'm sure
Thank you!
Always loved The God that Failed, especially that bass intro. Had read it was about his mother's death, but I never knew about "Christian Science" and its ban on medication/treatment. Wow. That song will always sound different from now.
James kinda of explains the Jason situation in the documentary. When newsted announced he was starting a side project, hetfield let his trauma of abandonment rise, that’s why he ordered him to quit and be 100% focused on Metallica. He was not worried about Jason’s commitment to the band, he just didn’t want to be abandoned again by a loved one. In his own words: “that was my way to say ‘don’t leave us, you have to stay’”
Love James! Metallica's music means a lot to me! Dave Mustaine had a messed up childhood, too.
You just do your best. I am still a Megadeth amd Metallica fan, and need to go see them again.
At least he got his father's name and knew who he was. I never met my dad. My grandparents raised me. Thank God for grandma. I asked her about my father. She said that I hadn't missed anything. I took her word for it. She never once lied to me. But I had similar feelings to James. I remember grandma saying, "Spite don't hurt anyone but self." She raised me way better than I turned out. She died in 1995. In 2004, my mother, great aunt and cousin, all died. My grandmother had taken me to church as a child but by age 16 I had rebelled. I was a hard heart. I was wicked past anything my father ever dreamed of. But God let me be in the room when my great aunt passed. I know what I witnessed. She was looking into glory as she left here. I was as lost as a man can get and knew what I was seeing as it happened. Later that same year, God saved me. A wretched old sinner. Not because I deserved it. Quite the contrary. But by His Grace, I was confronted with my sin and convicted by His Word and the Holy Spirit that I was headed straight for hell. The weight of my sin and the lives I had ruined was unbearable and made me sick to my stomach. I got on my face and begged God to forgive me. To change me. To help me love someone other than myself. He did it. I had to move out of my house that I had shacked up in for 9 years. We were married on the last day of 2004. He took me away from the bars where I had played Metallica songs for years and made me music director at our church for 9 years. He gave me the strength to take care of my precious wife the last two years of her life. And right now, He is sustaining and comforting me in the knowledge that soon, I'm gonna see Him face to face. That I'm gonna rejoice and praise Him forever with my wife and grandma and loved ones that are waiting for me there. What a day that will be!!! Jesus is Lord! Choose you this day Whom you will serve.
The lyrics in "The God that failed" is another one from James pouring out his anger because he had to watch his mother die all because she doesn't believe in modern medicine and therefore wouldn't go for treatment.
its also a straight diss to any religious human, i have the same beleifs, religion can be positive, but they all follow a god that failured whether its christ or allah, we are the God
James hatfield is best rock and best singer of heavy metal rock
I'm surprised how much I have in common with him. Never expected that.
powerful…thank you james for sharing that with us
I was a fan till justice then just couldn’t get into the music anymore.after knowing what James went through I wish the very best for him.
James dad brought him into the world and gave him a house then he left. Then James gave his dad a house and he left the world. We got James and he got us. 👍The end.
Hetfield is an amazing character who inspires through his lyrics. It's not difficult to sense his passion through his music.
Reg. his parents: people who follow cults often have personality disorders, I assume this was the case here. Its very difficult for children to live under such circumstances. Especially if traumatic things happen like being abondoned by the father and the early death of the mother. James is a traumatised child.
my friend of misery, escape, welcome home sanitarium, dyers eve, frayed end of sanity, harvester of sorrow, until it sleeps, king nothing, the god that failed, bleeding me, and struggle within are songs I strongly relate too from school trauma or just family crap you know.
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Ooh the black album's commercial...
It's not. It's heavy AF .
The God that failed was directly about his mother's death. "The healing hand held back by the deepened nail. "
The Struggle within - another about his childhood:
Home is not a home, it becomes a hell
Turning it into your prison cell
Advantages are taken, not handed out
While you struggle inside your hell
The unforgiven . Again his home life. And quickly he's subdued
Through constant pain disgrace
The young boy learns their rules
With time the child draws in
This whipping boy done wrong
Deprived of all his thoughts
The young man struggles on
Sad but true. - I'm your life now, I'm the one who cares (addiction .... )
He fought through all of the heartache, and misery to become one of the greatest metal vocalist/guitar players of all time!...that is metal AF!
I saw Metallica in Daytona last year. I got the vibe that he didn't quite feel like himself. He said he felt good, but I didn't buy it. He looked good, though.
I'm willing to bet that James struggles with a lot of depression. You'd think a nice gig would help, but after doing it for 40 years, it's gonna feel more like a job. Not a bad job but a job nonetheless
The reality is we all have challenges and demons to face.
I had no idea James went through with , I admire him more then ever ♥️🎶🎸
Your always be the best ever James.seen y'all guys about 8 times.and no matter what it's always breathe taken and exhilarating all at the same time.love y'all guys always and forever.
Never was a huge Metallica fan, but liked alot of their older stuff. James has been through so much and i am a huge fan of James now. How anyone can just up, walk away and leave them financially stranded is beyond belief as a father myself. Just breaks my heart hearing what his and other families face when this happens.💔👎
I can only imagine how hard that was/is.
Well i can relate to James because my sister died in cancer, never forget that despite i was 6 then.... Later from that even tho my parents separated they became kind of friends after 7 years of BS and them being too proud to say anything, now when I'm older close to 30 I've had some talks about the whole even thing you know, and they low key blame each other for my sister's death because not only did she need the medicine but she was allergic to it as well so you can see why things went as they did.. but at the same time i think it's a shame the events went as they did, i mean i really can't pick a side since it's like killing yourself OR dying because of the Things you do become happy.
James is a legend of note.
This is why you need your father's. To teach how to do certain things and how to feel certain things. Mom is only half of it. Imagine the music James could have made with all his emotions and the other half of himself to create with.
Religion has damaged so many families, so sad in this day and age that people still feel they need it.
It is strange how Religion is actually the opposite of God. I guess it was the religious leaders who put Jesus on the cross.
Yep and jehovah's witness religion screwed up Dave Mustaine too
And ironically it was the damage caused by the religion that gave James and Dave their drive to play so fast and aggressive, not to mention fuel for some deep lyrics in their early days.
@@philcurtis314 the need to make it right, and millions heard it.
@@Snoopdave2000 Yeah, so screwed is mustaine that he joined a different religion.
So women named Cynthia are unlucky. John Lennon's first wife's name was also cynthia and he also abandoned his child from Cynthia
This is why he's been drinking his entire life... The demons are hard to shake loose
Love you James...you are the baddest rock star in the World 🤘😎
What a Good Christian leaving His family without even a Word.... 🤔🤔🤔...
This man has been through some real shit in his life. Dealing with all that from such young age and achieved success in a trash band the way he´s done, that´s impressive. Big respect.
Whats this background music from?
From youtube music library
James, Dave and Kirk's childhoods were so relatable, at least to me. It's funny how that happens - maybe there's just something deep-rooted in their music that comes from those experiences, like it shaped their sound. The 3 of them grew up low-mid class lives, with feelings of alienation and resentment. The reverberations of that sit deep within and it essentially creates who you become. I resented organized religion, authority, conformity, mainstream-thinking etc., and it made me bitter in my youth, but ultimately made me look deeper than the surface of things, introverted, and a free-thinker. Put me in any box and I have to break down the walls.
And now Jon & Marsha Zazula are gone.....
This was so relatable and Metallica is an awesome band. Can you do a video on Kirk Hammett and his upbringing too?
awesome idea! I will 🤟
Leaving your family is weak as a father or a mother and there's no excuse for it I don't want to hear any crap that says otherwise
What broke him made him STRONGER and I am glad he has done it and became rich and famous beyond his wildest dreams, though I doubt the latter matters.
Dyers Eve, is the song that explains it all.
That's why I Love James, such a humble man 💜
I myself had a fucked up childhood just like you James. You and I are in the same boat.
dam thats deep
James Hetfield is a great guy, very good heart. Love and Light James. 💕✨️🙏❤️😇😀🎸😍🌞
Good luck james.I believe you can grow and become stronger from all this crap you had to go through.
That sucks what happened to him, its fucked up!!!!
God blessed James hetfield.and Metallica
And that my friends is where dyers eve came from
Luckily my mom and dad love me enough to not abandon me so im eternally grateful for that
I remember when I first started playing Metal Rock Bands "Metallica" was one that I played all the time like "Riding the Lightning" or Whom Toll The Bells but that was like 30-Years ago, but now like the latest they make the band sounds like "Softies" and they know from one Musician to another they know what I'm saying from the Old Days when they started,.....
Y'all glorify strife as what made James do what he does, but it's really just like, damn, glad he got through it. No one needs this shit to succeed.
I love God first off . However some people push religion in some dangerous directions . Had God not wanted you to be healthy there would be no way to cure illnesses other than prayer . So when you pray those healing parts or things God puts there for you is your cure . Use it .
Love you James. ❤🤘
I hope the best for Mr Hetfield for the rest of his life.
We’ve all had hard lives James !
Boy how his dad regrets leaving the family now
I love James ❤🤘🤘🤘
I wish I had friends to.😢
You can't help but feel for James man... just not right.
There's a movie called,
" Show me the Father "
that documents how influential (for good or for evil) Father's are.
Truly, check it out.
Everyone of wishes he never had that devastating betrayal in his life.
Most people don’t realize those pains made him the man he is and that man was the lead singer of Metallica where he unloaded that pain and abandonment. In other words he may have never been the front man had his family stayed together. Let’s face it they were in a cult he would have been miserable. The outcome of his family was probably the preferred outcome of his childhood had you layer out the pathways side by side!
Because without those pains he would never have become who he is.
Try having two parents abandon you that hurts
I didn't know that James hadfield mother died when he was 16 my mom died also when I was 16.
Literally None rock n roll frontman has a happy background story