A Mother and Father Struggle to Forgive Their Oldest Son, Who Killed Their Two Youngest Children
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- čas přidán 15. 06. 2024
- Also, a mother and father struggle to forgive their oldest son, who killed their two youngest children.
'My hope and prayer for him is salvation."
She didn't lose 2 children she lost 3.
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They
A man is also a parent.
They, stupid!
He still has a chance
I'm glad they are still together. These types of incidents can break a marriage apart.
They are all they have
No, they have 2 other children
Me too
So true! They are each other's rock!
Yes!
Her voice as she described it… it rips your soul apart. She felt it in every cell in her body. She didn’t just describe it, she closed her eyes and saw it again. That poor woman. (Obviously the whole family as well)
i can tell the debiliating effects of the heartbreak and terror. I wish that wouldn't have happened to them :/ to anyone at that
Mom is literally bent over in pain and grief. Heartbreaking.
I ran away from home at 17 because my older brother kept trying to stab and strangle me. It's more common than some people think. Very sad. The parents just put a lock on my door and threatened that if I call the police he'll go to jail and it will be my fault. I'm 43 today and after many years of trying to heal with kindness, love and diplomacy nothing has changed so I've gone no contact again. Best and saddest decision I've ever had to make. ✌🏽
So sorry to hear that. I have a hostile brother. I am 43 and I stay away from him. My mother had bipolar disorder. I do not know why my brother is the way he is. But he is angry all the time. I do not live with my family now since I have my own. But i am always looking for excuses not to see him. I cannot imagine what you went through. It must not have been easy
Families are so dysfunctional and toxic. No, it would be his fault if he went to jail not yours. I'm glad you left them alone.
Sorry to hear that. I’m glad you are away from that horror now. Hoping you will continue to thrive. God bless you.
Jesus loves you all so much, He understands you and loves you🤍 Please give your life to Him, He loves you
I cannot fathom this kind of willful blindness. Your fault??
As a mother of a murdered child, I feel their pain. A devastating and unfathomable loss
May the Lord comfort you and give you hope that one day you will reunite with your child at the resurrection
@@kingdavid2785 amen
I just can't imagine, I'm so sorry that this world can be so cruel. It's unfathomable to me. Prayers for you my dear, may you be blessed 😔 Jer 29:11
I’m so sorry honey I cannot imagine. No one can 💕
I'm so sorry for your loss 🤞🏼🙏🏼
There’s no excuse. This is heartbreaking. He didn’t have to do what he did to those poor innocent unsuspecting children. My heart goes out to them. RIP. ❤
i can't get past the part where they were expecting something like this from him. what in the hell?
The interviewer does an excellent job. He asks the questions in a simple straightforward manner, yet very sympathetic and understanding, with a focus on the future by asking these brokenhearted parents about their hope and prayers for the future. May God embrace these parents with his compassion and love.
I think the interviewer was very sensitive to them, which is such a kindness. I cannot even start to imagine how terrible their pain is.
When you forgive someone, you’re not obligated to deal with them. It just means that you don’t hold a grudge against them. You are at peace within yourself.
If there's something holding you to NOT deal with the people who have done you wrong in the past then you clearly did not forgive.
Forgiveness is a big word, most people can't and do not know how to forgive.
We all sin, night and day but here is God ALWAYS BY OUR SIDE NO MATTER WHAT...
GOD doesn't say you know what you have committed a sin yesterday so let me not deal with you and have peace within myself...
You gotta learn to sit at a table with Judas without letting him or her take that peace you have within you.
The peace that most of us is looking for you'll only find it in God.
Oh please they both go visit him regularly and he stabbed the father as well. UNFORGIVABLE. These people are foolish.
@@yl3886 "Those people" are his parents. Think before you speak.
@@tiffanymartha5468 Forgivness does not mean they need to be friends and see each other, it means they don't hold it against them and that they don't hate them anymore.
@@tiffanymartha5468 Noy wanting to be around them doesn't mean you don't wish them well. God forgives when people repent.
The dad plays a equal role just like the mom. He may not be breaking down like her but he’s just as hurt as her. I pray for both of them!
I was about to say no one’s mentioning the dad/husband. And he was stabbed by his own son, imagine the shock he went through and now both are going through. So tragic. God bless them.
She hasn't "broken down." She is a ROCK of unbelievable Strength! Her faith is unshakeable. What an amazing role model she is!!! I have nothing but RESPECT for this amazing mother who has lost three children.
@@bagpipes978 Maybe I wasn’t clear enough for you… I meant breaking down crying. He didn’t break down like she did and cried. And THEY have three children. And you should have respect for both parents not just the mother. He’s going through it as well
@@bagpipes978 What about the Father/husband?
I agree! He is being strong for the mom
The pain in this man eyes is so raw. This man was stabbed by his own son and lost his youngest children to the same son. The drive to protect can be so intense, when we can’t, we can self blame and self loathe for not doing something earlier for all the regrets. He to me looks like he had PTSD. I hope he lets his pain out some how… and find healing. I love how honest, real and upfront they are about the whole thing. I love how they lean into their faith, not dismiss it in times of heartache. Many dismiss their faith when it does not give, stop from happening or produce what they demand to happen in the earthly realm. This is the worst time to give up on your faith. This is when you need it.
I wonder do they have other children?
How are they coping?
These two souls are truly remarkable. People like this who fight through their pain for themselves and for everyone, including their son are my heroes and heroines. This is what character is all about.
They have two other children.
While the murderer is mainly responsible, there’s accountability on the parents’ part as well. He had a history of violent thoughts and MH issues and in and out of 6-7 psych facilities. He “he had been diagnosed with depression and anti-social personality disorder, which is associated with homicidal and suicidal thoughts and characterized as a lack of regard for the rights and well-being of others.”
Two years prior to the killings, he hid out in his high school bathroom waiting to strangle the first person who walked in. He wanted to know what it felt like to kill.
“In April 2016, a therapist at Highlands Behavioral Health in Littleton contacted the Department of Human Services to report that Murphy had spoken of killing his entire family with a kitchen knife. The mental health worker was concerned that Murphy's mother wasn't taking his threat seriously”
He previously admitted to his parents that he had killed animals and had thoughts of killing the family. Shortly before the killings, he set his parents’ SUV on fire and watched it burn.
Yet, they allowed him to babysit the children and he shared a bedroom in the basement with the siblings he murdered. Smh.
They had 5 children before the stabbing incident.
@@afrobohemianhomes1953 Im not one to cast judgement. What good does it do except add more pain?
I see your perspective though from preventing and being proactive for learning for the future. Is this a pattern in families with this concern? How is this typically handled with families? How would the department typically handle these situations? They department allowed the child to stay in the home as well. Obviously if the parents knew then what they now know, I’m sure they would have handled it differently.
For me it begs the question, Why wasn’t the department taking the threat seriously?
From the family photo it looked as though they have two other children who were older than the two precious angels the one son stole from this earth and I can only imagine what it’s done to them. I just pray that they can heal properly in the sense that they don’t trigger any trauma….and result in any mental health issues as well. What an awful atrocity he has put on his family….it’s a wonder he didn’t kill his daddy! Id love to hear what he has to say.
Dear Lord please heal and comfort this family 🙏
I can’t even imagine the pain these parents are going through, my Goodness! Dear lord grant them strength and healing.
SWEETIE ONLY THE LORD JESUS CHRIST CAN HELP HIM DOCTORS ONLY COULD DEAL WITH THE PHICSAL
THE SPIRITUAL PART OF MANKIND ONLY THE HOLY SPIRIT COULD DEAL WITH THAT THOSE BABIES IN HEAVEN WITH THE LORD JESUS CHRIST 🕊✝️🙏💕
A little glimpse into how Adam and Eve must have felt😥
I'm so , so sorry for your loss, GOD BLESS you both.and your son , I pray the lord helps him repent!!! and may your children always light your path from heaven.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏😪😪😪
My gosh
At 17 my brother broke my ribs, he punched me in the side so hard that he also partially collapsed my lung & moved my diaphragm. I wanted so badly to hold him accountable, but instead, my father blamed me for “trying to tear this family apart, a criminal record would ruin his life forever.” So I ran away from home, I’m 22 now and am still trying to teach myself how to survive in the world (I am also chronically ill and autistic so it’s really really hard to do alone.) I can’t even imagine experiencing emotional pain beyond what I went though, they must be so wounded. I can’t have children but at least understand that the bond between parents and their kids is very complicated and evolutionarily charged. Hopefully they’re resting peacefully and these parents can catch some shut eye when possible
Aw stay strong you got this!! 💓
Omg, that's awful! Are you OK?
Please message me if you need anything
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God Bless you, you are going to be fine. I know how intelligent you are from your writing. You will prosper in life! 🙏
Just awful!!! They lost 2 kids at the hands of their 3rd kid. So they actually lost 3. Lord give this family comfort & strength.🙏
Absolutely. 💔
My sister(who raised me) recently had some mental health problems and imagined my ex boyfriend was in the house and we were plotting against her and would run around screaming. It scared me, she scared me but she woke me up at three in the morning and said "I would never forgive myself if I ever hurt you and it's the last thing I would ever want to do so I need to go to the hospital and get help because I'm scaring myself scaring you."
She stayed there for about three weeks, got help and medication and a team around her. Now we are closer than ever and I thank god even more for my sister.
I pray for this family with everything in me
May Allah SWT (God) keep your sister well 🤲 Ameen.
Thank God that your sister knew when to seek help and that the medical professionals gave her the help that she needed so that she would no longer be a danger to you. ❤️❤️
Mental health has a history of being a taboo. I dream that in the near future we can all grow to understand that mental health is just another illness that we must normalize so people feel comfortable to address it. It is so sad that these parents got their son discharged from his therapy when he was not ready and was a danger. So sad
Did she suddenly heal better when you left the boyfriend. It feels like her intuition was warning her about your ex boyfriend. No matter how good he may have been, a lot of boys grow up with wrong teachings in society. They then lose emotional inteligence and are not fully intelligent as humans, snapping at some point over emotions they cannot managed.
Nobody has the right to tell you to forgive. No matter what the lawyers, therapists, and clergy tell you, you are under no obligation to hear him out.
PERIOD!!!!
@just sal that's BS,he doesn't deserve forgiveness for those vicious acts,he deserves the death penalty
This is also their child that did this act though so it’s way different than a stranger….
@just sal no not everyone deserves forgiveness especially a murderer
If you don’t forgive, you hand your self over to the tormentors.
When the mother said “and I knew he was gone” referring to her young son made my spine chill 😭😭😭😭
Me too. Her raw emotion, how much it hurts her :(
My heart hurts for this mom. She appears absolutely broken and defeated but when she talks her voice is strong and convicted. The battle of losing three children in a moments time is unfathomable. I can’t imagine this nightmare unfolding inside the family home. My heart, thoughts, love and prayers go out to this mom and dad.
And the dad. Don't forget to mention the dad
I'm not a religious person. But I can understand how someone in this position would turn to religion. And I'm glad that they have that to turn to.
Not religion but God
@@jesusiskingxx everyone has differing ideas of who their personal god is. And that's ok.
@@spicyjatropha2552 She is right though. This isn’t a task for religion because the others won’t truly know how they feel. This is a task that they would have to come into contact with God with.
@@psychedelicpayroll5412 god is religion.
“My very last sentence was ‘mommy loves you’.” This is all I have ever hoped for when fearing I would lose my children. None of your kids will forget how much you love them
@Emily wow 😮
I understand what you mean I think. I have literally drove back to my kids school to tell them I love them just in case they got out the car too fast and we forgot. Never depart them without letting them know that!
@@tneshaward6121 exact same here!!! 🥺💕
The last words my mama spoke to me were, "Bye baby, I love you!" Only hours later she went into a coma and never woke up. Her passing was unexpected. She had just turned 52 years old. Those last words that she spoke to me is what is getting me through losing her!
@@heathermatthews8286 I’m so terribly sorry for your loss
It's disgusting how society makes you feel as though forgiveness is a requirement for victims. It's not you can move on and not be burdened with hate in your heart and still choose to not forgive.
Right
Totally agree Lisa Clark
The bible says to forgive but it does not say you have to forget.
You have to forgive not for them but for yourself the Bible talks about it if you don’t forgive you can’t heal correctly and why not forgive if Christ forgives you
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you condone. Forgiveness is a release. It’s choosing peace. Essentially, if you’re walking around with unforgiveness in the heart whether it feels like hate or not, the seed is planted and will grow and eventually show up somehow/somewhat causing more damage in the long term. I don’t know her pain, but I know tragedy. It’s better to forgive and leave life as happy as you can cause people will always fail you either way. We’re all flawed
My family unfortunately had a similar experience where my older brother murdered my oldest brother. The pain is something that never goes away. I know my younger sisters still struggle with it to this day because they came home and found my oldest brothers body covered in blood. My brother who committed the crime is in a mental hospital now getting treatment but it was definitely a premeditated attack.
Ourcactushome. How terrible the shock of finding a family member in that condition. May you your sisters and your whole family be healed by God. And live lives that are meaningful and purposeful despite the trauma.
Madness, I'm sorry for your loss... I don't think I would have anything to do with anyone that did something like that, no matter who they are. This world is a crazy place, just don't understand it... 😔
Good
I'm so sorry, I can't imagine the feelings you must go through still to this day, on a daily basis
I’m so sorry for you and your whole family. I cannot imagine the hurt you must feel. Sending healing hugs x
Praying for this young man's salvation.
And, complete deliverance and total restoration.
The way she held her womb while wailing for the loss of her 2 youngest children…so devastating.
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I noticed that too.
That was deep
Good observation... i noticed to... it was like my babies!!!!
I noticed that too.😢
After everything that happened she still wishes him well. What a tragic thing to go through. She technically lost 3 kids. Well wishes and prayers for this family
Bc that’s her baby in prison for killing 2 of her other babies. And they gave to ok yo have him in the home regardless of his history
At the end of the day that's still her child. Like you said she lost 3 children that day. 🥺
@@jehustrachan6015 that's what I said.
Love for your children is unconditional.
@@jsm61103 yes it is. That's what I'm saying. It shows with her what kind of love a mother has for her children its amazing. I have 3 and couldn't imagine this shes a very strong women
My thoughts and prayers go out to the parents. They've lost ALL their children!
As someone who has been in a psychiatric hospital 7 times so far this really struck a nerve for me. I have a younger sister who has a 7 year old daughter and 2 year old nephew and I love them so very much. I suffered for years from psychotic episodes before being officially diagnosed and I'll admit there were times when I had such horribly terrifying thoughts but I'd take that anger out on myself because there was no way I'd ever hurt anyone especially my loved ones. In my opinion, he clearly wasn't given the appropriate treatment for his mental health. How he was cleared and allowed back home upon the advice of these so called professionals is beyond me. I really believe this could have been avoided if he was put on the appropriate medication & ongoing psychiatric treatment. If I hadn't been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder on top of my other mental health issues as well as being put on antipsychotics, other medications, seeing my psychiatrist monthly & being admitted when needed to be I honestly don't think I'd still be here or somewhat able to cope during a psychotic episode!
Exactly, mental health services these days are terrible. not just underpaid or understaffed, undertrained. Sometimes I feel like they hire the least empathetic people for this job with how little they take seriously. I hope they investigated the services he was with as well because they are responsible for a big part of this situation
Liberalism is a dangerous mental illness. Hope you recover one day.
Hey, good on you for taking the responsible route
Hey Gabby ..God is able. Talk to him...pray and fast. it shall be well. In JN!
They should have kept him in a residential facility away from the young children, especially since he has mental illness.
Melissa looks like she is taking it hard physically as well as the obvious devastation. She is wasting away, you need to stay around because your family needs you. Your husband needs you. This story is absolutely horrible.
I thought the same
I pray for her to receive strength to live
They need each other!!
She needs her family too
Insensitive comment about wasting away. I could expound but lots of reasons not to post something like that.
I wondered if she was a drug user prior to the death, but she could have be losing weight due to the loss.
the devastation in the mother’s voice when talking about finding her son’s body completely broke me, had me sobbing. 💔
Kay, I know..how terrible. That's when I stopped watching, poor poor woman
So sad 😢
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Oh my god I can’t even imagine I am sobbing this is so sad. My god how can people endure this much and still go on. I wouldn’t be able to survive.
Yesss me too🥺😭😭😭
This story is devastating. I don’t know how they can even cope. They are in my thoughts and prayers.
They're barely coping 😑😑
Lord please lay your hands upon this couple this family. God bless them for never losing their Faith in you. So many families after losing a child hate God for it or they separate. It is a blessing to see them standing so strongly in their faith 🙏. I will pray for your family. God definitely has a plan for your family. God bless you both 🙏❤
I know as a Christian, we are supposed to forgive. But, I’m sorry. When you hurt a child in any way, shape or form, there’s a line too far crossed.
As a 57 year old survivor of childhood physical, mental & sexual abuse from age 4 til 13, I still relive that pain every single day, because the internal damage done to that little boy back then, I still suffer from today. And, it affected every aspect of my life.
So, there is some pain that’s much too deep to forgive. And, I know I will have to answer for that one day.
Hope you are doing ok ❤️
@@beenathomas9024
I’m alive! Every single day is a mental struggle, as I live with the permanent constant reminder of what was allowed to be done to that little boy for 9 years, WITH NOBODY BEING HELD ACCOUNTABLE FOR WITH WAS DONE TO ME! I struggle with & pray about my anger.
I’m just saying, I know what I went through. So, what these poor people have been through is truly horrifying.
Exactly, forgiveness depends on the sin and this violent crime doesn't warrant it in any way
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I'm pretty sure God will understand, Nacho Mamma. All the best to you ❤️
The way she cried..you can feel her grief,anger, pain... "i knew he was gone!" 😭
It was so sad 😞
Seemed fake
@@VishusVenom seek healing instead of attention from strangers in comments section.
@@VishusVenom why would you say that?
@@BloodNote Because it seemed fake. Wow, deja vu.
Guy’s pay attention to what the dad said, “ I feared he would do, what we always feared he would do” I know how difficult it’s to have to choose between children, especially when one has mental issues. But maybe after hearing this we can decide to make a choice to protect the little ones we can’t keep him in the house, especially not because of mental illness but because he kept telling them he has violent thoughts. Mental health is real and if they tell you their having violent thoughts 9 times out 10 it ends ugly. This is such a sad story my heart goes out to these parents. My prayers are with you n I pray your son gets the help he needs if only to bring you comfort.
💯 % As a mom to be in a few short months, which I never completely thought I would - it almost makes me want to just have my son and no more children. I could not handle it if my decision or negligence lead to my child hurting my other child. I am also very vigilant though, and very observant with the dogs and godchildren or nieces/nephews b/c of what I went through. But there is always that fear. I have never fully forgiven my parents. My mom allowed her teen son to stay with my dad, brother and I after he had been molested. Well… he turned around and almost hurt my brother (a knife or gun, can’t recall) and molested me at under 6 yrs old. Luckily I told my mom. But our family was f***ed til this day b/c of that one event. She should have always known where he was - I have a pup that will mark, and I ALWAYS know where he is every 10min or less. I just don’t understand. You must be vigilant. And you must talk to these kids, find out where their mind is at and take them at their word, and then react properly - don’t disregard. Like you said - mental health is real.
I agree but we also need to improve long term care for disabled people, including those who are mentally unwell.
In both the US & the UK people end up either killing somone else or taking their own life despite being in therapy & getting treatment. The truth is not everyone is capable of living in the community. People who are in an inpatient programme either get released & deteriorate, or beg to stay/go back but are refused. Often with an "investigation" the find they "did everything right" "couldn't have known" & generally absolve themsleves of all responsability. Something needs to change.
Too often professionals underestimate the severity of issues, wont listen to family members & neglect the patient. I agree that the siblings should take priority but the quality of life for all involved should be taken into consideration. Many of these parents/relatives end up calling the police out of desperation because there is no-one else who will help.
Yes he said that but they also said the doctor had cleared him to be able to come home that's why he was in the house
While the murderer is mainly responsible, there’s accountability on the parents’ part as well. He had a history of violent thoughts and MH issues and in and out of 6-7 psych facilities. He “he had been diagnosed with depression and anti-social personality disorder, which is associated with homicidal and suicidal thoughts and characterized as a lack of regard for the rights and well-being of others.”
Two years prior to the killings, he hid out in his high school bathroom waiting to strangle the first person who walked in. He wanted to know what it felt like to kill.
“In April 2016, a therapist at Highlands Behavioral Health in Littleton contacted the Department of Human Services to report that Murphy had spoken of killing his entire family with a kitchen knife. The mental health worker was concerned that Murphy's mother wasn't taking his threat seriously”
He previously admitted to his parents that he had killed animals and had thoughts of killing the family. Shortly before the killings, he set his parents’ SUV on fire and watched it burn.
Yet, they allowed him to babysit the children and he shared a bedroom in the basement with the siblings he murdered. Smh.
@@scottinamcqueen6895, considering his history, there’s no amount of clearances that would have made me keep him in my home, let alone share a bedroom with my young children.
The parents share responsibility as well.
I was so glad when she said that her hope is for her son's salvation. Praise God!
I’ve said it a million times but the pain in the voice of a bereaved mother is chilling… my mama heart breaks for her and I absolutely couldn’t imagine being in her place. She’s so strong!
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There’s something so unmistakable about the sound of her grief. It’s palpable.
I got goosebumps when she started talking. Her pain was unbearable for me to watch and I can never imagine how it feels being in such a situation.
As a Mother who has buried my only daughter I “heard” her pain. In her cries, her words, demeanor you can hear, feel and see her pain. God comfort this family, these parents who are grieving and physically aching. Love and prayers to them. I simply cannot imagine. 💕🙏🏻
I'm so very sorry for your loss Mary. Wishing you love, peace and strength. ❤️
I’m so sorry for your loss as well sweetie . 🙏🏻
From one mother's heart to another, I cannot imagine. Sending you sincere caring and prayers.
Brother will deliver brother over to death, and the father his child, and children will rise against parents and have them put to death. -Mathew 10:21. What’s happening now shows that this system is coming faster to its end as lawlessness is increasing ever more. As the world becomes a darker place, a Christian ought to stay spiritually awake if they are to escape all that is coming.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I share in your grief with losing a child. This hurts a lot.
What a horrific story. So sad, to have to choose on how to feel about your own children. God give this family strength.
Been there, as a survivor of (witnessing) siblicide, I pray for healing and restoration over the family.
I honestly don't know if I'd be able or willing to continue living if I experienced this tragedy. These people are braver and stronger than I would be.
They still had other kids to live for. So I understand why they could continue living. It hurt yea, but you can’t just leave the other kids who are also traumatized.
Yeah but they also had 2 other kids, younger than the oldest but older than the two youngest
@@quxnjay I must have missed that part about them having 2 more kids. I thought it was just the 3 kids.
@@pinkyslippers yeah they said towards the beginning that they had 5 kids in total. They mention the kids names when they said they were playing outside that night. Malik was the oldest and Noah and Sophia were the youngest and there were two more siblings between them.
Same! The only thing that would keep me alive would be if I had other children still. I can't even fathom how they get through each day 😭
I am 21 and I am an older sister myself. I stumbled across this video accidentally and it made me cry. Because I've dealt with psychosis and mental illness for much of my life as well. But never have I ever contemplated hurting my younger sister or my family for that matter. My sister is what drives me to be better every single day. I hope this family can find peace. I send you all my love and may God bless you. 🙏🏻❤️
Aww
May God bless you too Karina. Sending you hugs and prayers❤️
Keep looking forward and don’t be too hard on yourself. You sound like a lovely person.🙏🏾
Well those who suffer from schizophrenia and such are usually undiagnosed and can (but not all) sometimes end up in situations like this. You don’t know what was going through the kids head.
Sufferers of mental illness tend to be victims rather than perpetrators of violence, so if anyone is reading this, just wanted to note mental illness does not necessarily or even in most cases equal violent behavior, as this commenter is mentioning. (Although some conditions can disproportionately affect violence rates, such as antisocial personality disorder.)
I’m the youngest of 3, and have mental health issues myself. I can’t ever imagine hurting my sister or brother. I’m fact, I just paid my brother’s rent this month because he’s struggling and I don’t want him out on the street. This brakes my heart so much. RIP sweet babies! 🥺😢
Props to these parents man. Crazy amount of composure they showed in this interview.
As a parent who has lost a child, the pain of losing a child is unimaginable. Having one child take the life of your other children, is unbearable. Jesus is our only hope. No matter what we go through.🙏🏼✝️❤️
Reminds me of cain and Abel. The oldest is always jealous of the youngest, I had to deal with it with one of my oldest sister. I never did it with my little sister.
He really is. Jesus is the answer for the world today.
May I recommend Elder Murray ch. Soul changing.
They really have lost 3 of their children.
Amen! Yes He is!
The worst for sure. Cannot wait to see my only baby and hug him. ( 18 )
The pain in her voice has me shook. A mother's heart......Dear Lord! I can't imagine, but I know to pray. This is on the battlefield of the mind.🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Grow up.
@@starsfalldown1234567 HUH?
@@starsfalldown1234567 look at you 🗿
I'm crying 😭😭
Dont forget the father lost something too
I love this mother's love for our Lord and I'm praying for her son's salvation as well. This mom is awesome
My heart breaks for the parents. The moms body language shows how much this devastating tragedy has taken from her.
She lost all her babies, so sad. Help them Lord
There's two more
They
She lost all of her babies shouldn't you be saying they lost both of their babies after all I'm sure the father is hurting too people seem to forget that men grieve as well more weight is put on their shoulders in a situation like this because they have to be the strong one I feel sorry for everyone involved especially those two innocent children who are no longer here and to be honest my heart also goes out to their oldest son for being mentally and spiritually lost and consumed by hate to the point of no return I pray for everyone involved
Well, Lord didn't help those poor little kids.
Math is hard.
As a person with a sibling that has mental health problems and has gotten violent with weapons and her own hands towards my parents and I, I can say it is VERY hard and you never know when they will break and forget who has helped them through their struggles. Fortunately my sister has gotten better and knows that her past is not the best. I give out my prayers for this family and others who have/are struggling with situations like this ❤️
this is not mental health this is entity possession.
Same here for my bro with paranoia. Had an incredibly difficult childhood because of his constant beating. He's on meds now but won't admit he ever did anything wrong to me.
@@shaynasheikh4832 yes totally I can say growing up in that type of environment has made myself very scared and if someone get aggressive or yells I kinda tense up and get anxiety
@@shaynasheikh4832 there is, believe me. I got severe anxiety, major depression, and minor OCD because no one wanted to believe their son was psychotic. And I didn't wanna tell them cauze I was scared they will beat him and I still loved him back then, and I hate problems and when they start shouting at each other. He ended up basically restricting me to my room for 2 years when I completely broke down and didn't do anything but sleep to run away from life. My dad noticed and took ME to a psychiatrist. I was furious obviously but took the meds and they had an awful side effect on me. So I stopped them and went to therapy and it helped a great deal with depression, but the severe anxity and OCD needed meds. So I took diff meds and I still take them till now they got me back ti myself. After the first meds failed i told my parents everything and they finally told him to never hurt me. So he had no other avenue to get his psychosis on but my parents. The jig was up and they saw what I had to deal with in silence for 18 years. Thank GOD he know takes meds so all is well. I still have sooo many challenges from that long traumatic childhood. But I'm so very blessed. Already have my bachelors, still struggling with having a job. But I know it's all gonna be ok❤❤
My brother was dealing with schizophrenia and it is really scary and confusing when they get violent and it’s harder when your parents are getting older too. I would advise anyone to carry pepper spray I had to spray him once when he came at me and I don’t regret it they are family but allowing them to harm us is unacceptable
That's pretty deep. I can't imagine this happening and I don't know how I could forgive my Oldest...God would definitely have to walk me through.
😑it is sad but if u have a good relationship w 1st child it would b hard no?
@@Salem_Wolf1107 well of course. I think having a good relationship and then all this....that has to feel...like betrayal
@@rlm5729 terribly scary n betrayed for sure
"I knew he was gone" I busted into tears and could feel her pain just in her voice
I feel their pain and that broken sound in the mothers voice. It sounded like mine. I lost my son at the hands of his father. Unimaginable pain it was 16 years ago and feels like yesterday. Prayers for the family and those beautiful babies.
Their story is so so heartbreaking ... so sorry for your loss too
Omg so sorry
@@ronieg8526 thank you
Oh dear God people can be so cruel. So sorry my dear. No mother on this earth should suffer such a loss. Sanding prayers of healing your way 🙏💕❤❤✝️.
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I feel for the father. He is the backbone of the family, and does not have the luxury of allowing his grief to overwhelm him, as he must stay strong for his wife and remaining children. He is in a horribly difficult position. God bless him.
You’re talking as if the wife was exerting some kind of luxury simply by mourning her kid. You don’t need to put the other part of the couple down to value him.
@@Carolina-rd3gh I don’t think he was putting her down. Someone always has to fill the role of the calm one. Always. and it’s a difficult role to fill.
@@BM-fz9yc No not really the role can be passed around. They’re just saying a bunch of stereotypes because he’s the father and the man of the family.
@@corimoon3360 that's not what she said, you're just trying to argue
Yes, hopefully they all are receiving excellent professional care. Especially the Dad because of his involvement in the incident and the role he continues to play.
As a mom, I can’t fathom living a day without my daughters. That requires a measure of strength I hope to pray for here on Earth. I pray for their safety each and everyday.
This is so hard! Loving your son and he kills two of your kids. Only God will be able to heal their heart and restore their souls. Dad is hurting as well but has to stay strong for wifey and the others kids. What a web that has to be weaved gently!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Awwwh, the poor mom. Looks so underweight! Prayers for healing for whole family. And that Malik chooses Jesus!
Yes, she looks absolutely shattered - and who wouldn't?!
May God be her strength & hope.
And 'amen' to Malik being born again!
Amen I stand in agreement!!🕊
If you look at the family photos you'd see she's naturally a very small woman anyway. In agreement with the rest though.
Amen🙏🏽
Amen
Therapist that cleared him though. As a psych grad student that part really poked me.
They need to change these dam rules. Mental illiness ppl are dangerous if they kill someone they need to go to I jail for ever!!!!
Okay, I thought I was the only one…bothered. I am a therapist and I do not think he should have been cleared. The homicidal ideations had to still be present .
@@shortncute002 Right, I’m fresh out of last semester that taught mandatory reporting and following up for means of carrying out homicide or suicide. Also, the case with that man who killed his ex or a girl who rejected him is the example case used in grad programs.
Yep. That therapist needs to lose their license.
@@hassanas.benjamin3818 I have mental illness and I'm not dangerous and I'm also a believer and was raised in a Christian home. It's about self care, medication compliance, faith, therapy both individual and group. This is a spiritual matter.
Prayers for this entire family! As a mom with a child who has mental health issues I can understand what they might have dealt with before the murders. My daughter was violent in and out of our home. I was forced to take her home from a acute facility even though she was loudly declaring she'd attack me while I was driving the car home. An hour n 10 minute drive on the highway at 75 MPH! The facility was calling CYS like I abandoned my daughter and they had to force them to keep her. I had to sleep with my youngest daughter in my bed because she'd already taken the scissors and cut her 5yr old sisters hair off while she was sleeping. Thank God I never had to go thru what this family has
Omg!!! You can see the impact it's had on her physically...Omg!!!
My God, i can see the pain circulating all through the mother.
Yes, she is aching, this made me ache, I can't think of anything to say to comfort anyone experiencing anything like this. Too painful.
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the fact that they still pray for him. this story is heartbreaking. their faith is inspiring.
Absolutely you can see Gods grace all over them. I pray for peace for their family
You know, as a parent I think I would probably have abandoned that soul.
I am so sorry for your loss - you two parents, the grandparents, aunts, uncles, communities and the two remaining siblings whose stability in life is forever adrift.
Same
I can't even imagine what they must be going through, losing their children this way. Obviously the son must deal with the consequences, but I still hope that he gets the help that he really needs. My heart hurts for everyone involved
The sound of the mom’s voice is the most gut reaching sound I’ve ever heard. Dear Lord, help them.
He won't, unfortunately. There's no actual divine help for suffering people.
@@lilmissmonsterrr right these people are just trying to escape reality. There is no god
The pain is all in her posture. Prayers for the family 💔🕊
I thought so too, she looks broken.
Wow, you never know what someone is going through. Many prayers for this family.
May they rest in piece beautiful Angels 👼 👼
When she started speaking about the incident, the intonation in her voice is like she’s reliving the moment. I’m tear-eyed. The mother has a news anchor or tv presenter voice, very lovely people! She’s torn though. Lord provide her with strength.
may yahweh provide her
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Indeed!
She sure does
MY SENTIMENTS EXACTLY ‼️ 💯 SHE DEFINITELY HAS A VOICE THAT MAKES YOU STOP, LOOK & LISTEN TO WHAT SHE'S SAYING.
The pain in the mum's voice is out of this world. May God heal this family
I love this couple. God bless them on this hard road. 💔
Prayers to this couple and to the two surviving children. I am humbled by their faith.
I forgive my brother for taking my sister's life and I pray for him. He's out of prison and I pray he lives a full life AND I still choose not to be apart of his life.
This mother is broken in so many ways right now - - and understandably so. I could feel the excruciating pain in her voice and the overwhelming heartbreak written all over her face. What an unnecessary tragedy. May blessings of comfort embrace this family.
I know it’s so sad you can see her pain. The father hides his pain better.
I know we cannot see why....only Hod who is sovereign can seal with this, The anquish...the pain. May God sustains and strengthens them
@@smiley2477 very stoic
LORD give this family strength to get through this difficult time in the days, months and years to come
She is absolutely in the middle of “mom grief” ... ugh, it breaks my heart. My heart breaks for dad to, of course, but she’s got that despair that’s just unmatched to anyone but a mom that has lost a child.
They don’t seem too upset
@@eminem2996 dude shut up.
My cousin abused his little sister. He tried to do even worse things to her than just punching. She stayed at my home a lot because she did not feel safe at hers. She spent a lot of time locked up in her room. She got married at 15 to get away from him. It was horrible. He ended up on the streets addicted to drugs and alcohol. He died at 50. She ended up addicted as well and still is. She is 56. Her Mom should have thrown him out at 18 and tried to protect her. 😢
Wow. So very sad
Reading these comments is scary. This is so common and the perpetrators are always protected. For months I’ve been preparing myself to be able to kill my brother because I know he’s capable of/intending to kill my mum/me/siblings. It’s a horrible feeling
@@tontonbonnet7397 I wish I could help you
Why tf didn't you or your parents report such abuse?. I mean unless they lived in another country there is literally no excuse for not attempting to save your cousin.
@@controlman7490 How do you know there was no excuse based on 1 CZcams comment? Sit down.
Her saying he owes them "an apology". It bothered me. An apology is what you give when you wreck your parents car. The atonement they deserve goes so far beyond apology.
I understand what you are saying. At this point, that's all he has to offer. There is absolutely nothing else he can offer. God will deal with him regarding the rest.
I think she meant as a start though... It was in response to him wanting to speak to them. So it's like in the first place... Very tragic, prayers and love to them in their struggle to stay grateful for what they still have ❤️💔❤️
Nothing get from him will bring your babies back
I think dearie it’s more like they want to see remorse somewhere but he has a mental issue. Mental issue is real and need to be taken more seriously. This is a tough place for any parent.
It’s not about the apology, it’s about him acknowledging what he done and having remorse for it.
There were so many raw moments in this clip yet the one that touched me the most was when the dad said he woke up to hearing his daughter saying no to her brother stabbing her. There's something in his eyes that shows how helpless he must have felt then. It was made even worse when he came face to face with her murderer only to see it is his son.
Mental Heath is real.... They need help. My heart goes out to this family. I cannot honestly say I can forgive...I would have to ask God for help forgiving my son and to get him the help needed. Wow this is so Heartbreaking!
MY SON AND 3 OF HIS FRIENDS WERE MURDERED THEY SHOT MY SON IN THE BACK AND HE LOST CONTROL OF HIS LEGS THEN THEY RAN HIM OVER HEAD FIRST. I WAS SO ANGRY UNTIL MY WALK WITH CHRIST NOW I WANT TO FORGIVE THESE TWO BOYS AND SHOW THEM JUST HOW POWERFUL JESUS CHRIST TRULY IS . AND HOPEFULLY THEY BE SAVED .
I'm so sorry for your loss. Forgiveness is so hard sometimes but I'm glad you could forgive. 🙏🏾🙌🏾🕊
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HEAVENLY FATHER I ASK THAT YOU CONTINUE TO COMFORT STRENGTHEN PEACE & OF SOUND MIND OVER THIS FAMILY IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME AMEN RIP TO YOUR PRECIOUS SON 🌷💛🌷🙏
Wow 🙏
It’s sounds like a case a schizophrenia. I hate the devastation it causes. I recently lost a brother to mental illness, it was painful while he was here on earth, it is even more devastating painful he is no longer here on earth. I just hope he is with God.
My family also struggles with mental illness. My mom has schizophrenia and my brother is autistic. My sister is showing signs of schizophrenia. And I remind myself I don't have to deal with it. But who will?? It's something I'm trying to come to terms with. It's like a tug a war. I'm sorry you lost ur brother. Sometimes I wish they can just go, I wouldn't care but I don't mean it. They're still here. I just need to try to help. It's a mental strain. You just want to cry sometimes. Then you're just like why am I so weak? I have all the resources in my hands. 🙄😢🤕 I just relate to ur post. That I'm not alone.
@@maileevyne5000 definitely not alone. my brother and aunt have schizophrenia and i have seen these violent episodes i thought my parents were going to be killed and i could barely go to sleep. many of the family members who deal with mental illness are experiencing mental anguish too.
If it was suicide than no he’s not
God is merciful. He knows our struggles. God has Him 🙏🏾♥️
It isn't safe to live with family members with schizophrenia at all! I would never do it. They will kill family.
I hope the parents are getting counseling to deal with this tragic event. I cant imagine the pain they feel. May they find peace and comfort to get them through.
I partner with mom and pray for her son's salvation :0( Praying for this family. Thank God they still have hope.
🥺 The fact that they both said “They’re working on forgiveness” man I know that’s not easy but that’s what I admire about them. I know it will not be an easy battle but it’s nice to know they’re bringing it all to God. I am with the mom! I pray for her son’s salvation too! God bless them ahh 💕
The very hardest of things to do are more beneficial and worthwhile and forgiveness are one of those things…
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I would never forgive him. Never, he would literally be dead to me.
This “forgiveness” mindset keeps people trapped I swear 🤦🏿♀️. I’m glad they’re working on it together at least. Sometimes, things are unforgivable and moving on is possible. I wouldn’t forgive my son for doing that at all. He’s in prison serving time and that’s all the solace I need
Edit: I said what I said, this is how I view forgiveness, and I also grew up in the church. I’m not angry at those who did me wrong, hell I’ve been around those who do me wrong. I don’t allow them back into my personal life or keep them close bc clearly they can’t be trusted.
i think they’re thinking of trying to forgive right away, but it takes a while and takes some steps.. So i agree it does keep people trapped.
There are stories of people who forgive people who murdered their own parents or children. Forgiveness just to say you forgive has people trap yes, but true forgiveness does not, it ultimately releases.
@@theuzumakis2624 Agreed. You forgive for your own peace, not to release the other from accountability or consequences. I forgave my father (for something much less), but I will never allow him to treat me that way again. There are still consequences.
It’s obvious they are Christians. Part of being a Christian is forgiving. It’s a process and battle to forgive, but it is something that is required by god. They are strong believers in Christ and You don’t have to forgive if you don’t want to because god gave us free will, but just know it’s said and written we forgive those as god forgives us. Now stay blessed.
100% agree with you. We don’t owe anyone our forgiveness, especially in this kind of cases were the most precious beings have been taken from you. It’s not my job nor my responsibility to forgive anyone who hurts me. My job is to recover, move on and live in peace.
Lord please give this family healing.
Whatever it was he wanted to say to his parents that his attorney advised him to not say, must have been really, REALLY bad, down right incriminating about his stage of mind and his feelings towards his desires to harm and how his actions have harmed his parents.
He likely needs to remain locked away for the rest of his life.
Hi there? Hope you’re fine and staying safe?
This is incredibly heartbreaking. I too have a son with violent angry outbursts, he's autistic. He's never harmed anyone, but his anger and short fuse scares me. I've often worried about the safety of myself and my other children in our home and I'd be lying if I didn't admit that. My heart goes out to all the families suffering with mental illness, it's definitely a spiritual battle and it takes a toll on everyone in the family.
This precious family knows that God's love and peace that passes all understanding is the only way through this. And I commend them for leaning on God through this incredibly tough journey. Praying God's peace and comfort over them. 🙏
Sending lots of love and praying to God that you and your family remain Happy Always Ma'am 🙏
@@Nicole_Thornton8383 Of course it's so easy to say that they should have made another choice. Hindsight.... reality is It's impossible to know what a loved one is capable of. Yes God does bless us with all those things... but once your in those shoes you never know how you will react. Life is so unpredictable, never know what will happen.
Here I’m with the stupidest idea, please forgive my total ignorance in this matter. Would it help to have Valerian liquid drops on hand, and when you notice it starts looking bad, trying to get him used to drink a glass of water with the recommended number of drops of valerian? Once again please forgive me, somehow I thought it could help.
As another idea which I actually did, never leave the violent child alone with the other ones, ever. I have an angry middle child, she’s almost never alone with my littlest one. Maybe once or twice for about 15 minutes. But really never ever alone with the littlest one. Otherwise it could destroy both of their lives. No point
@@mirnaprol2074 just ignore her buddy. Some ppl r too selfish to know what should and shouldn't be done. Ppl r horrible and don't care about each other anymore.
I keep seeing the poor mom comments but what about the dad? Could you imagine the thought of own child wanting to take your life and knowing he had plans to attempt to kill you that day? Yes its very saddening for mom but lets not forget about the both of them. Prayers to them both 💕
You can never compare mum and dad this and that ever until when dads can also carry and give birth to children.
He heard his little girl said "No Malik no". She was dying at that stage... it would be awful to remember your little girl crying and trying her best to stop what is happening to her.
Oh poor babies... I'm sure they would have run the scenario in their heads a thousand times thinking why they didn't hear sooner or how they could have prevented it. It's gut wrenching.
@@misselle1430 That is true but being a dad is just as powerful as a mother! Dad’s role are so important to a family he’s the head of the household and has to lead in the right direction. Sons need dad to show them how to be a man. Daughters needs dad to shape them and show them to what real love means.
@@Raquel986 Lots of wisdom right there in your statement. God bless you!
Miss Elle,
The Father might not carry the child, but he is with his wife while she does.
He looks after her, he watches as her belly grows as the child does, he feels them kick when he places his hand on her belly, he takes her to the doctors for the ultrasound and, after all of that, he holds her hand and comforts her as she gives birth.
He holds the baby in his arms and cuts the cord, he then helps her raise the child while looking after her as she goes through postpartum and everything that comes afterward.
On top of that, he goes to work to make sure that there is a roof over their heads, food on the table and fresh diapers to put on the baby.
The Father has every right to feel pain and break down crying just as much as the Mother does.
Oct 17th my birthday. Jesus I’m so sorry. My deepest condolences 💐 Jesus please send healing.
I’m sorry. This is heartbreaking and brought me to tears. This family will get through in Jesus name. 🕊
Jesus doesn’t exist you d
The mere fact they have survived this and are still together, they've already won. this really is a magnanimous feat. May God keep them strong, and may they one day have the strength to open their home to foster children and turn that hurt and sadness in love, love for babies who may grow up without ever knowing it. I truly hope and pray something beautiful comes out of this. It has to.
I don't think in this situation no one "won." Everyone is this horrible situation lost. There's no winning. A mother and father lost 3 kids that day. The pain is unimaginable.
They didn't win anything...
It’s going to be very hard for them to be approved for foster or adoption….. all they can do is grow their relationship with God
I guess we live in a world so selfish that people are thinking that something like this would break a family up. It’s a shame
Prayers for comfort and strength for the family. This is why Deliverance is so crucial.
That's right Amen
What’s deliverance
@@JayJay-dy2yb casting out demons in Jesus name. Acts 8:7 is one out of many examples in the Bible💗
Amen! So sad to see people not believing in deliverance or just not knowing about it.
@@awura2493 so do u think all mental issues, ranging from low to pure anguish, so from demons ???
This poor woman, listening to her break down shattered my heart 😢
So sad 😢
As a mom who has a child who harmed other siblings, this is heartbreaking. But you cannot turn your back on your other child. Unconditional ❤️ love and forgiveness. It takes God.
This is the definition of unforgivable.
Some people have been through worse, im not discrediting this situation at all, but according to the God they believe in forgiveness is necessary. I know for a fact that you can't go to heaven having a grudge or hate for someone here on earth. I hope the parents can eventually let it go so they can see their kids in heaven.
@@canon6363 He was 19 and stabbed two children to death. This isn't a "grudge" they are holding.
And yet, they walk on a path towards forgiveness.
@@canon6363 well it’s good to forgive and you’re supposed to but in the Christian faith, all you need to go to heaven is faith in Jesus Christ bring lord and savior and that he died on the cross for our sins.
Yes
Therapists cant do what deliverance can. Praying for him and his family.
Amen Amen!!!!
Amen amen.
Religion and psychology are different things, hence the purpose of two different fields.
Amen! You said it!!
@@JasonGafar nope, psychology problems stem from spiritual ones. You doubt God, that’s why you separate the two. Jesus loves you and we all do sin and need forgiveness. To choose not to repent of your sins is to choose to *love your sins more than God. Repent and seek Jesus.
You guys are awesome. I’m so sorry for y’all’s loss. This brings me to tears because you STILL PUT CHRIST FIRST! I know how hard it is to forgive sometimes. Not in this situation. I could not imagine…but I believe God honors the willingness. I pray with you guys for salvation and restoration for you all.
They didn’t put Christ first. And Christ doesn’t exist btw
This totally broke my heart ! I have a son age 34, he has been battling mental illness since he was 14 yrs old, on July 10,2010 he disconnected my landline phone and took my cellphone and preceded to tell me that “this night is a good night for he and myself to died….so here we are 2022 and he currently hospitalized 1 yr this month, he’s been impatient long term care about 40 times. My heart is broken 💔for him …my prayer for him is to except the Lord. To the Murphy family my heart goes out to you. (HUG)