The fact that you got thru high school and college and have a great job, speaks volumes about your drive! I said from the moment I watched you that you were ADHD. I’m almost 50 and FINALLY got a dr to truly listen to me and help me. I have ADHD and wish I could have accomplished half of what you’ve done. Kudos to you Bea!!! Don’t be ashamed, Be Proud!!
Bea, we are enduring a pandemic. Please be kind to yourself. You're doing so well from when you first started. Being more self aware is a total win!!! Congrats on your diagnosis and use your Thrive membership to try organic and healthier food and snacks. Take care of yourself and we will be here whenever u choose to drop in😉💕💕💕
Oh sweet Bea, please get rid of the lillies! Most people dont know this (I didn't for the longest time), but all parts of lillies are lethally poisenous to cats. If that is what the yellow on cheddy was you may have saved him by rubbing it off with a wipey however since his fur still is stained there might still be pollen for him to ingest if that's what is in his fur. I really don't want to scare you, but please look it up and keep an eye on Cheddy. You might want to pre-emptively have him checked by a vet and the yellow shaven off or something.
My cat ate an entire tiger lily that my kids picked outside and brought in without me knowing and then he threw it up and I freaked out. Took him to the vet a few days later and his blood work was fine 🤷♀️ So maybe some cats are not as sensitive? I dunno.
"Why can't I be normal?" The theme of my negative self talk for most of my life. I'm 31 and I've had a recent ADHD diagnosis as well. And it is so helpful. Congratulations 🥳
Lol been diagnosed since 7. Growing up being told I was adhd made it just a norm and part of life… what no one tells you is when you reach adult hood and don’t have a bunch of teachers and parents organizing your life anymore and your like man…. Why do I suck at everything 😝 I feel like a early Alzheimer’s patient just trying to remember things and get stuff done
It warms my heart seeing Doug bond with you over time. When you first got him, he seemed pretty content, but a little shy. Now he seems to light up when you talk to him.
Yes I just commented the same, all parts are lethally toxic to cats. So few people know this :( I've had cats all my life and only found out last year or so that this was a thing. Luckily never been fond of cut flowers so never endangered my own cats..
The problem with introverts is I could use a friend like you who I connect with, but we would never become friends because we would be at home by ourselves drawing. So thank you CZcams! 😂
Oh this is so true. I’ve been living that life all of my 51 years, and now I am watching my teen daughter live it too- which is painful because she is so lonely & unable to communicate with her people. She’s found them in the art room, but yes, all they all do is sit in their silent bubbles and draw. Such a difficult existence to crave human contact, but also be exhausted by it. We often talk about how we wish we could find friends who “got it” & wouldn’t be offended by us needing 2-3weeks in-between social get-togethers so we can recuperate & have enough time to pursue our internal interests. It doesn’t mean I don’t love you- I’m just TIRED! ;)
“Mental prison” is totally relatable. I FEEL that. Also, you’re way too hard on yourself. I am too, that’s why I can see it in you. Also can totally relate to how wonderful professional validation feels. It’s like, oh, my experience/self is atypical, and I have plenty of reason for not coping the same way other people do. I’m glad you got answers and validation. 😊
If those are lilies, they’re highly toxic to cats! We have four cats (#crazycatlady) and I won’t let a single lily into the house because I’m so scared 😨
Hey Bea, I can't tell very well from the close up but it looks like that flower was a lily, which is actually SUPER toxic to cats, especially the pollen. If it is a lily, please get it out of your house! I don't want to scare you, but I also don't want anything bad to happen to your cat. I also agree with what someone else commented that you may want to shave that area of Cheddy's fur that was stained and also keep a close eye on him. I don't know how long ago this video was recorded, but I would keep a close eye on him for a while and maybe even call your vet to see if he needs to have a checkup to be safe!
I would cry every year when people would sing “happy birthday” up untill my 15th birthday, just got diagnosed this year (at 31 years young) with ADHD. Glad I’m not alone because I always felt like the biggest asshole! Meds and therapy are a game changer 💙
Bea, this video brought tears to my eyes! I got diagnosed with ADHD - primarily inattentive type last year at the age of 26. So many things make so much sense to me now about myself. I am so excited for you. Medication literally changed my life. I saw someone say once re: medication - it itself doesn't make you happier, but joy is so much easier to reach. And I find that to be so true. Good luck with your treatment!
I have always been called spacey, dreamy, weird, antisocial. My dad said recently “you never stick to anything” I have been managing, adhd, depression and anxiety for most of my life. Honestly the covid quarantine helped me to stop and focus on my mental and physical health in a different way. Scared about big changes coming up in a few weeks, hoping I can continue my healthier habits even as life gets busy. Thanks for continuing to share your journey, I know so many can relate! 🌈
Honestly never occurred to me that you hadn’t already been diagnosed. I think it is always so funny how others can see things in you that you don’t even know about yourself. I hope having the diagnosis helps you feel like you aren’t ever “wrong” in your reactions…just reacting to the best of your ability
Also a small note, monstera plants and lillies are toxic to cats. I recommend doing a little bit of research online for what plants are safe for cats and what aren't. :) I definitely felt that you had ADHD and after those earlier videos I started to look into it myself and I suspect I have it too. I have the psychiatrist referral and my doctor agrees that it's best I get evaluated, but at the moment I need to save for the evaluation, car registration and pay off my dental. :S The chair looks so good and your house is gonna look amazing! I am in love with your kitchen! I'm not a wood cabinet kind of gal but it looks so sleek with the black hardware and white subway tiles! :)
Lilies are deadly to cats. Even the smallest amount of pollen on their fur can kill them. Monsters will probably make them uncomfortable and throw up, but is unlikely to kill them unless they eat the entire plant.
I’m 23 and was finally diagnosed with ADHD last year. I’ve struggled with severe procrastination since elementary school onwards and never knew why. I constantly skipped classes in high school because of missing homework assignments. My stress levels were through the roof all throughout my life. No one including myself understood why I struggled so much. I only found out the symptoms of ADHD when I was looking up procrastination for the thousandth time. It was a godsend to finally know why simple chores felt like mountains to me and why I seemingly couldn’t function like other people.
I just got to the part where your kitty got stained yellow from a plant, if this is a lily or anything that grows from a bulb, please toss those since cats are severely susceptible to the toxins in the plant. My cat got into lilies once, and I really recommend checking with a vet if you see him feeling sick ❤️
You hit me with the "when you get your ADHD in control, a lot of symptoms that ADHD causes have the potential to lesson," because when I started meds for my ADHD my mood vastly improved and I was much energetic and the urge to binge dropped rapidly. I still deal with anxiety because that's personally the most detrimental on me physically/mentally, but ,my therapist putting me on my meds were a miracle.
I’m 47 and my nephew was diagnosed with ADHD at 20. He came home and said I think you and mom have it too. Guess what?? Lol I’m still in the process but the dr is leaning toward agreement.
To echo the comments, I just got diagnosed with ADHD AND Bipolar so no wonder my doctor/therapists couldn't/didn't know how to help me for a really long time. Now at 28, I actually feel clear headed and I am able to do the things. I only hope the same for you!
I went YEARS, struggling through life, knowing something was wrong, and just dealing. My mom and grand mother were both diagnosed with Bipolar, and the older I got, the more aware I got of my own symptoms. I could see it in me, and how it affected my life, and I continued to put off seeing a doctor even after I basically came to terms with the diagnosis myself. Self diagnose can be a very dangerous thing, but I’m a strong believer that if you feel something within, mentally or physically, is off, you should trust yourself. Surprising to no one, I was diagnosed almost immediately and have been on meds since thank god
When you were sanding and sweeping up the dust from the chair it reminded me of all the times when I was younger and my grandpa would make so many things out of wood and I would beg to sweep up the shavings because I found it satisfying and I liked to spend time with him- so thanks for bringing those memories to the front of my mind❤️
Shortly before the panini started, we began the process of having my 7yo daughter diagnosed with adhd and “high functioning” autism. This sent me down a rabbit hole to learn more, particularly about how it presents in females and this is when I realized that *I* am most likely on the spectrum too. I am a 33yo mom of 2 and suddenly my whole life made sense. It’s shocking that I made it this far without anyone ever mentioning it because now that I know, it seems so blindingly obvious! ♥️ you Bea!!
Similar situation here. My daughter was diagnosed at age 4, almost 5. Might have happened sooner but my whole family kept telling me she was fine because I was the same as a child. The more the husband and I researched autism the more we realized…..it was me! I remember when I was a child I would always look to everyone else to figure out what I was supposed to do and act like, I also had an older brother that I copied too. I masked well.
Literally one day last year I was freaking out about my sensory overload and my mom was like …you’re probably on the spectrum you know. …I’m literally 35, married, 3 kids and I’m like oooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhh. That makes a LOT of sense
I’m so so so proud of you for taking the steps to understand yourself! I was diagnosed adhd last year at age 29, after living my life with a brother who also had adhd but mine went unnoticed. I know the feeling of finally having validation of alll the things in your life you didn’t understand coming to the surface can be both overwhelming but also add a sense of relief. Sending positive thoughts as you continue on this journey! :)
B, as someone who weighs the same as you, has PCOS, struggles with depression and has been wondering if I may have ADHD (the likelihood is pretty high😅) ... it's so nice to be able to relate to someone with similar issues because I now know I am not struggling alone. I've been watching you since you started this channel and I just want you to know you're helping others like me and that we appreciate you 😁💛
This whole time I’ve wanted to say to you that I thought you had adhd but I didn’t want to offend. You are so much like my daughter and I, who have inattentive type adhd. Mine was missed until I was 40, and I suffered a great deal as a child in school because of it. My daughter wasn’t diagnosed until the 7th grade! Profoundly impacted her self esteem. The lack of dopamine or dopamine uptake that is a known factor in adhd is a likely factor in why I was a binge eater as well. Fatty, salty, sugary, greasy foods cause a release of dopamine. Hello?! We are not medicated, each by our own choice. But I am a successful adult and learned how to manage all my own symptoms without medication. My daughter likes how she is and doesn’t feel she needs to change anything to make her brain more like a neurotypical one. She accepts that there will sometimes be a mismatch between her environment and her mind. It all comes down to what will work for YOU! Support. You got this girl! There’s a great How To ADHD channel. Check it out. Love you girl! You are only labeled as not neuro-atypical because the linear thinkers wrote the DSM. There is nothing “wrong” with you, your brain or your emotions. Don’t bother reading books that tell you you are fucked up and have to fit in with the linear society. I recommend Lynn Weiss book “attention deficits disorder in adults”. We are with you! All emotions are welcome here!
Everytime you show any little bit of your drawings/ water colour art I always wish you put it on merch or prints. You are so talented! Just love how you combine colours. And thank you so much for sharing your mental health diagnosis. I never thought depression and procrastinating or even being overwhelmed could have anything to do with adhd. Might sent me on my own journey. Until now I just thought I was depressed and hyper sensitive. Sending you a big hug from Germany
Bea! So glad you're back! If that pollen is from a lily, it's suuuuuper poisonous to cats (like, fatally so). I'd wash it off ASAP (heck, if it was me, I'd cut that bit of fur off and get rid of the flower). If it isn't a lily, please ignore 😊 Xxx
I went to the hardware store a lot as a child, and those paint chip samples were very useful as film awards for Barbie dolls. A lot of the color names made reasonably good film titles. #weirdchildhoodstories
When you were describing the symptoms of inattentive type adhd, I went, "holy shit!" cause you were describing me to a T. Then I starting crying cause now I know that I'm not crazy, defected, stupid or alone. There's a word that describes that I'm not lazy and that there's treatment. Thank you Bea, for downloading this video.
Bea!!! Lillies are super dangerous around cats. Please do what you can to actually wash that off his fur and get the lily out of the house. Keep an eye on him and get him to a vet if you see anything out of the ordinary.
I really loved seeing your little doodle paintings with the watercolor. I would be super into seeing what brand your new set is and would love to see more little paintings if you felt like sharing. I remember you telling us at different points you were creative, so its very nice to see some of your work pop in for a visit :)
I was just recently diagnosed with ADHD at 40 yrs old. It all makes sense. I’m learning so much. It’s hard to lose weight with ADHD too. I’ve been reading articles about the connection. Thanks for sharing!
I absolutely LOVE that you shared your art! It's so colorful and rich and creative!! I also started journaling in a moleskin around 3 years ago when I started going to therapy for PTSD. They're great for throwing down those thoughts/anxieties that keep circling and easy to carry around with you. I recently got medicated myself and have been exploring the world of art journaling/bullet journaling (I can't do the weekly spreads nope too much work for me)/writing daily and it's really helped to center myself. If you want to explore the world of journals, Archer & Olive and Notebook therapy have amazing 160 gsm light grid dot journals that I'm loving for my watercolors/gouache/pen art ( Archer & Olive was created by a woman who recognized the importance of journaling for mental health and she named her company after her cats need I say more 🥺). Best of luck on your mental health journey and it would be lovely to see more art if you feel comfortable enough to share!
Having a diagnosis definitely takes a huge weight off your shoulders! I am so happy for you! My son is currently being assessed for ADHD and Autism and it is similar to your situation as he isn’t atypical for both so many doctors pass him off. I think it’s so important that more people talk about this thank you for being open and vulnerable ❤️❤️❤️. I always thought there was something wrong with me and having that diagnosis really made me feel okay! You got this girl! And I absolutely adore DOUG 🐶 😍😍
Just like a good mom would say” I was worried about you, no phone call, no text.what’s a mom to do! I’m totally with you on a little bit of green on the bananas
Btw get ready to possibly experience a lot of grief while you reflect and reframe your life through the lens your new knowledge. Not easy, but well worth it for the clarity!
@@sarah.bea. I’m still on the waiting list for meds unfortunately (uk nhs process), but been going through the diagnosis grief process all year... will look out for that anger when I finally get my meds! 😅 kinda feels like I’ve been gaslit my whole life, and I can imagine that will only be confirmed by meds 😬
@@sarah.bea. YES! After 2 days on my meds, I remember my husband asking me how I felt and losing it. Not at him, but just screaming "is this how normal people feel?" That for the last 24 years I could have felt like this rather than the constant chaotic rat race that is my brain. I was so mad that I struggled for so long when there was a solution to my "issue" and could have not felt the way I had for so long.
@@avacanaahrs I hope you get your meds soon! And I feel you about that gaslighting. Learning about ADHD and the realisation I might be affected came as a real shock to me (also positive because so much suddenly made sense) but talking to my family and friends everyone was like “nah, we all have those situations sometimes”. Lost over a year because others told me I was wrong 😑
When several women started talking about ADHD online I contacted my metal health care provider to find out if I had it. They had me fill in several pages of different forms. No ADHD, but some points in AQ 10. The doctor had me fill in AQ 50 and it looks like I probably have some form of autism with full points in inattentiveness. It's interesting what you find when looking into your mind at 29. Free healthcare is nice but takes a while. Let's hope I get the time to the place that researches autism quicker than the time for the place that takes care of me now ( 8 months). Luckily my depression can be managed on pills but waiting for times for months just felt like being left on my own.
Bea I am glad that you got diagnosed I am 50 and just got diagnosed it makes you really look back and say atleast there was a reason I acted this way. I hope your gym equipment shows up soon so you can start doing videos again. You inspire me.
Welcome to the ADHD club! My psychiatrist also told me that when your ADHD is treated, your anxiety and depression can also get better, simply because you’re more focused, more organized, and more confident. Adderall comin in clutch! It actually has improved my quality of life too. Not completely, but it made it better. I didn’t think I needed to get treated because I wasn’t in school anymore, but when she told me that ADHD also affects executive functioning, I was like “oh….THATS why I need 3 days off in a row to do my laundry.” Bea, I swear to you, my first week on adderall, I cleaned out and organized my entire kitchen, meal planned, grocery shopped, and prepped in 2 days. I also had a crockpot meal going for dinner. And still had time to sit down and watch the new Game Grumps episodes, have dinner, and shower before bed. Before, that would’ve taken me at least 2 weeks to do. I will say though, at least with me, while I may be focused and I want to do something, I have to have a plan for that day, otherwise I’ll kinda sit in jumpiness, not knowing what to do. So I make to-do lists, they really help.
I'm a list fanatic because, well, I can't function without one and routines and constant structure to my days. Makes me controlling almost but it's how I keep myself in check.
Bea, I have always felt that we shared more than just our weight history. Much love from a fellow neurodiverse woman xx from a supportive place, aspergers is no longer a diagnosis, it is seen as ableist by the autistic community. Know that this diagnosis is just a prism to know, accept and love yourself. It will help you to find your tribe. You are so welcome xxx
@@ericadavenport2039 I don't have ASD but Asperger's was done away with diagnostically and considered a part of the ASD umbrella in 2013. My understanding is it's ablist because it was treated like ASD lite, where you aren't truly autistic, you just have Asperger's. Like it's "better" than "true" autism since you're "high functioning."
@@ericadavenport2039 I understand it's not the term asperger's that's ableist, but treating asperger's as an illness, a disease or disability. Neurodiverse people aren't ill, they're just different from what most neurotypical people consider normal. Doesn't mean they need fixing.
@@ericadavenport2039 it might also have to do with Hans Asperger, who described the condition and gave its name, being a Nazi. He defended that children with Asperger's were worth saving because they were capable of inteligence, while other disabled children weren't. And Nazis had this thing with "cleaning" the word of undesirable people... So you can imagine why the community doesn't like it.
So glad you talked about this. I got my Asberger's diagnosis this year too and it also felt like a weight lifted up from me. Highly suggest some great neurodivergent youtubers. I've gotten a lot of great tips to help with anxiety and social anxiety. I'm waiting to get another appointment to check on ADHD after hearing your story I realized I have a lot of similar symptoms and just want to know. My family dynamic has gotten so much better after teling them and helping them see how I need me time and that I may act in ways they think mean one thing but don't like your example. I would get very annoyed when we had plans change because it ruined the flow if my day and the plans in my brain but I often wasn't mad at them it was more like anxiety I just didn't know what anxiety was and would hold it in and self-harm to release anxiety. My family always thought I was just never nervous but I was in literal pain to the point I ended up with a chronic migraine disorder. I also used to like having no lights and hiding in small spaces because it gave me more control. My mom hated it and would stuff things in my closet so that I couldn't use it to hide and always turned on my lights. Now that the understand my quirks and needs a bit more we've had a much more harmonious and functional relationship.
About the monstera! The like to be snug in their pot so only change if it's like "bursting out" of the pot. They like a bit of shade. My monsteras are also always thriving ^^
I was just diagnosed!! I’m 28 and wow am I happy to have a diagnosis. Now I know where to start. I’m excited to finally find some peace. I was diagnosed with hyperactive and inattention but mostly inattention.
Realize that “normal” is a construct. It’s our perception of ourselves vs. our perception of others. You are normal, just the way you are!! What’s unusual is the gracious and relatable manner in which you share your experiences! You’re actually quite extraordinary! Thanks for sharing- love your videos!
Is that flower a lily that dyed your cat? Lillie's are very toxic for cats and will cause kidney failure, just so you know and you can keep them out of reach 🙂
I think your an awesone person Bea. Your working through so many issues in your life and still maintaining CZcams and work. It makes a lot of sense that your emotions are up and down. Also love your art in your journal. I hope you give youself a lot of grace.. Love you and Your channel thanks for letting me be a part of it.
Hey I have ADD and am on the spectrum too! I'm so glad you were able to get a diagnosis. My best friend also has the same diagnosis. It's weird to look back on your life and see all the struggles in a different light after finding answers. Cheers to clarity moving forward!
Lots of things are under-diagnosed in women, as women’s health has been routinely underfunded (the medical field is predominantly male staffed - changing, but not there yet!)
Once, my coworkers sang happy birthday to me in the cafeteria. I stood up and left the room in total humiliation. I am so happy you got your official diagnosis. It is fantastic to just have the validation. I was 57 when I was officially diagnosed.
Getting diagnosed is such a huge relief knowing your not alone. And you get answers so your life starts to make sense. I didn't get diagnosed till I was 37! I wish it were sooner as it could have saved me years of misery and feeling alone and wasted time. Glad you got help and can finally get the relief you deserve.
I’m excited for you! When I got diagnosed and started my medication I quit binging almost completely. On the three days I missed I binged but other then that it’s been 5 months strong! I also don’t struggle with my dyslexia during the hours my medication is at it’s most potent. I hope it gives you the happiness I found. I do have to warn I went through a month extremely sad because I had waisted almost 30 years fighting to be happy and knowing it was so simple to fix and I just needed so help with my mental health. But trust me it’s amazing to feel normal even for a few hours a day.
My husband has ADD. He got back on medication to help him manage for a while but I think he’s back off of them again. I’m so proud of him of how he copes. I’ve learned how to communicate with him. I love him for him. All in. 19 years and counting. Hubby is not a social butterfly, but yet he is a team lead for his job. I’m sure it wears him out. BEA, I’m so proud of you. Keep up your hard work. I am with you for the long haul. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Meds have been life changing for me. I had no idea that things could be better. It was amazing! Also, my daughter used to walk around with a yellow nose from smelling flowers when she was a toddler. It was a funny time.
You are so lucky that you got your diagnosis on one appointment! I had to go 4 times and one of them was a interview with my mother and another one was a 3 freackin hour testing with computers and stuff...i hated it so much. Aaand i have to go again because i couldn't get officially diagnosed (even tough the results were 99%) due to my PTSD. I'm so glad you finally got your diagnosis! They say that medication changes the life of many people
Also, you can just pinch off the pollen thingies from the lilies when the bulbs open. When I learned that it blew my mind lol. No more staining everything
About the meds, we all need the same substances to be ok, some of us just have to get them from outside sources ❤️ good luck and I’m so glad you got this validation. You’re doing great!
I was diagnosed a couple of months ago at the age of 59. I have actually lost a small amount of weight (4 pounds in 6 weeks) because medication eliminated my compulsive snacking.
I'm 50 and have depression, anxiety, ptsd, binge eating disorder and cannot focus, at all. I am going to look into this inattentive adhd. I thought you had to be diagnosed at a young age.
Mental health is such a journey in and of its own. It's really encouraging to see you prioritizing yours and continuing to discover ways to help yourself, even when it's scary or overwhelming. 💜 Keep going strong, Bea!
OMG!!! You are an incredible, courageous, and beautiful woman! I’m so proud of you for being brave and going to explore your mental health! I hope that you can find a medication that will help you thrive. My son is ADHD and ASD. There is a huge difference in him now that we found a medication that works for him. It’s taken a few years, but don’t give up. Be sure to advocate for yourself. Oh and I would recommend getting some plastic plant saucers to save your surfaces.
Thank you for being so vulnerable, I am pretty late on seeing this video but I just want to say that I started watching your channel a long time ago when I was in a darker place. It’s nice to know that someone out there relates to what I’m feeling, and watching your videos always somehow made me feel better. You never fail to make me laugh and I think you’re a beautiful person inside and out ❤️
I cried so much when I was diagnosed with ADHD because it was such a relief. I was diagnosed about 5 years ago and the medication was like flipping a switch, getting myself out of prison. Amazing! My relationships have improved because my family has given me a little more grace. I am not being a jerk, I am just trying my best! Sending you love 💗 and hugs 🤗
A diagnosis also allows you to give yourself grace and knowledge gives you the power to overcome any unknown factors had in holding you back. Keep moving forward.
I resonate with so much of what you've said in this video...the binge eating, the not being able to simply start, the anxiety and depression. Sometimes I wonder if I'm going to be this way forever, because I'm 35 this year and I'm absolutely exhausted by it. I'm so glad you have some answers and some relief. I hope life gets easier for you. You've prompted me to see someone to talk about the things I'm struggling with, so thank you. The only thing I don't agree with is green bananas, girl of course I eat the speckled ones...I'm not a monster!
I think that white flower you showed was a lily, if so they're super toxic to kitties so watch out, plus the pollen stains like crazy! They are beautiful though!
I HAD A STRONG FEELING. Your symptoms were so similar to mine and I wanted to say that maybe you had it but didn't want to make assumptions. The struggle with maintaining friendships, the lack of motivation sometimes, the anxiety, it's a looong journey. I'm so glad you got diagnosed!!
Just want to say thanks I’m a 22 Yr old woman and last year I almost gave up on testing after it took 6-8 months to get an appointment and then I was accidentally taken off the list… I was just going to give up on it but I watched one of your videos where you mentioned your symptoms and your concerns and I started pushing again! I’ve been diagnosed for a month now!
Bea I am so glad you were able to see a psychiatrist and that they spent an ample amount of time with you. I am really proud of you for continuing to explore what will be best for you and your mental health. I too received an ADHD diagnosis as a young adult this year and decided to try medication. It may not be the best option for everyone, but I am grateful that I gave it a chance because it has really worked for me in ways I never thought possible. I still struggle with ADHD "imposter syndrome" so I completely hear your on your hesitance to be seen in the first place. I hope you discuss your visit with your therapist. It may be of benefit to meet with a therapist who specializes in treating adults with ADHD, as it really is so intertwined with depression, anxiety, motivation, and self-esteem. Best of luck to you Bea, much love!
Oh Bea, i just want to hug you. My son was diagnosed with combined ADHD when he was 10. There have been countless moments of both of us sitting on the floor in tears. It breaks my heart to hear him ask why isn’t he normal, what’s wrong with him? Getting his diagnosis helped so much. We were able to get him help and support but most importantly, it gave us a clear answer. We like to say that his brain isn’t broken, it’s just different, and wow isn’t that neat? Hugs to yiu, Bea. ❤️
My son had a friend on the spectrum, I esplained to him that his friends brain just had a different operating system - eg was Apple instead of Windows.
@@JH-iy7eu my son is almost 12. We are doing medication free- he sees a therapist and has 3x a week sessions with his schools special needs counselor to talk, help with assignments and learn school coping skills. It’s all a learning experience and at times it’s incredibly hard but we’re getting better at understanding and helping him. My advice would be to ask questions, advocate for your child, and to try to be as patient as you can. Good luck to y’all!
@@JH-iy7eu As a former teacher and someone who has been close with kids with autism they may not have a “normal” life but a differently successful life. They can learn to adjust and adapt so they control behavior responses, understand how and why they feel like they do, and know what their needs are. We’re all different and have needs we have to adjust for and don’t realize no one really has a “normal” life. Teach him all he is able to learn on his own and don’t shelter him, he has more courage than you realize.
I have the inattentive type too. I’m so glad you have a diagnosis. It really helps with some sort of relief, to know there’s a name to the things we’ve been experiencing.
rotate the plants a lil bit in a couple of days so that they grow more evenly ...... as they are getting sun only from one direction and the growth is leaning towards the sun
So happy for you to be so relieved after the diagnosis! I felt the same about my diagnosis of depression and anxiety and getting help through medication. Hope you'll feel better soon! ❤️❤️❤️
I'm glad you talked to a professional about adhd. I'm 32 and was just diagnosed with adhd. That diagnosis has helped me not to feel crazy and start understanding how my brain works. Sending you all the love!!!
I was also diagnosed with adhd this year. It's wild to learn more about it and realize all of the parts of your life that adhd was a major factor. For me it was such a relief to realize there's a reason behind all of the things I had felt shame about. Medication (and therapy) have been life-changing for me!
It was really interesting when you mentioned about how you get really easily overwhelmed by just existing and especially in social situations. My partner has Aspergers and this is something that he struggles with a lot as well. I know that it can be very difficult, but just know that you’re not alone. 💜
I have ADD and never had any treatment, just for the other disorders I have and I’m 32yo.. But about two months ago I started my journey on finding a ADHD medication that works for me, and even if the first one didn’t work great I definitely felt how alot of symptoms pretty much disappeared! And now I’m on a different one and still feel the same but in a different way, a better way. Really hope it stays this way when we increase the dose. So happy you got help ❤️ just getting a diagnosis makes such a difference and your whole life makes more sense with an explanation to why you don’t react and do things like a “normal” person.. You are awesome! And you got this! ❤️❤️
"Being overwhelmed by just existing." Never heard anything more relatable in my life.
A-M-E-N!!!
Every morning having this thougths 😑
I can relate to this so much. It's paralyzing me
Ugh, same 😪
Same
That survival voice over was perfection.
I laughed out loud!
The fact that you got thru high school and college and have a great job, speaks volumes about your drive! I said from the moment I watched you that you were ADHD. I’m almost 50 and FINALLY got a dr to truly listen to me and help me. I have ADHD and wish I could have accomplished half of what you’ve done. Kudos to you Bea!!! Don’t be ashamed, Be Proud!!
Bea, we are enduring a pandemic. Please be kind to yourself. You're doing so well from when you first started. Being more self aware is a total win!!! Congrats on your diagnosis and use your Thrive membership to try organic and healthier food and snacks. Take care of yourself and we will be here whenever u choose to drop in😉💕💕💕
Oh sweet Bea, please get rid of the lillies! Most people dont know this (I didn't for the longest time), but all parts of lillies are lethally poisenous to cats. If that is what the yellow on cheddy was you may have saved him by rubbing it off with a wipey however since his fur still is stained there might still be pollen for him to ingest if that's what is in his fur.
I really don't want to scare you, but please look it up and keep an eye on Cheddy. You might want to pre-emptively have him checked by a vet and the yellow shaven off or something.
I was just about to say the same thing, I have lilys but I keep them high and remove the pollen covered stamen. Hope you removed the residue off him x
I was about to say the same! I hope she sees this!
My cat ate an entire tiger lily that my kids picked outside and brought in without me knowing and then he threw it up and I freaked out. Took him to the vet a few days later and his blood work was fine 🤷♀️ So maybe some cats are not as sensitive? I dunno.
Yes my friends cat spent 4 days in the vet hospital from eating just the decorative grass that was in a Lilly bouquet! It’s so dangerous to animals.
Commenting to boost for the algorithm because I also came here to say this!
"Why can't I be normal?" The theme of my negative self talk for most of my life. I'm 31 and I've had a recent ADHD diagnosis as well. And it is so helpful. Congratulations 🥳
Lol been diagnosed since 7. Growing up being told I was adhd made it just a norm and part of life… what no one tells you is when you reach adult hood and don’t have a bunch of teachers and parents organizing your life anymore and your like man…. Why do I suck at everything 😝 I feel like a early Alzheimer’s patient just trying to remember things and get stuff done
I'm also 31 and just got diagnosed! It was a huge relief to finally understand things tbh
I'm 31 and also just got diagnosed with inattentive ADHD. It's nice to know there's a reason behind the struggle.
Ditto, congrats!
It warms my heart seeing Doug bond with you over time. When you first got him, he seemed pretty content, but a little shy. Now he seems to light up when you talk to him.
“I’m overwhelmed just by existing” that hit home hard for me. I have felt like I was drowning here lately. Thank you for sharing your heart.
Same girl same!!
As a heads up, those lilies that Chetty rubbed up against are toxic to cats :(
Yes! I paused the video to say the same thing.
Yes I just commented the same, all parts are lethally toxic to cats. So few people know this :( I've had cats all my life and only found out last year or so that this was a thing.
Luckily never been fond of cut flowers so never endangered my own cats..
I've just commented that too before seeing yours!
Even the pollen can cause organ failure. Please get them out of your house!
This!! They're EXTREMELY toxic!!
The problem with introverts is I could use a friend like you who I connect with, but we would never become friends because we would be at home by ourselves drawing. So thank you CZcams! 😂
Oh this is so true. I’ve been living that life all of my 51 years, and now I am watching my teen daughter live it too- which is painful because she is so lonely & unable to communicate with her people. She’s found them in the art room, but yes, all they all do is sit in their silent bubbles and draw. Such a difficult existence to crave human contact, but also be exhausted by it. We often talk about how we wish we could find friends who “got it” & wouldn’t be offended by us needing 2-3weeks in-between social get-togethers so we can recuperate & have enough time to pursue our internal interests. It doesn’t mean I don’t love you- I’m just TIRED! ;)
If your plants get lopsided you can rotate them so that the “sad” side faces the sun and it will help stimulate growth on that side.
yes! they actually reach for the sun, it's one of the coolest things i learnt in bio hahaha
“Mental prison” is totally relatable. I FEEL that. Also, you’re way too hard on yourself. I am too, that’s why I can see it in you. Also can totally relate to how wonderful professional validation feels. It’s like, oh, my experience/self is atypical, and I have plenty of reason for not coping the same way other people do. I’m glad you got answers and validation. 😊
If those are lilies, they’re highly toxic to cats! We have four cats (#crazycatlady) and I won’t let a single lily into the house because I’m so scared 😨
So is the Monstera! Please look up your plants and put them out of Cetty's reach.
Exactly!! Same!! Not to mention (#allergies) lol
Hey Bea, I can't tell very well from the close up but it looks like that flower was a lily, which is actually SUPER toxic to cats, especially the pollen. If it is a lily, please get it out of your house! I don't want to scare you, but I also don't want anything bad to happen to your cat. I also agree with what someone else commented that you may want to shave that area of Cheddy's fur that was stained and also keep a close eye on him. I don't know how long ago this video was recorded, but I would keep a close eye on him for a while and maybe even call your vet to see if he needs to have a checkup to be safe!
I would cry every year when people would sing “happy birthday” up untill my 15th birthday, just got diagnosed this year (at 31 years young) with ADHD. Glad I’m not alone because I always felt like the biggest asshole! Meds and therapy are a game changer 💙
Bea, this video brought tears to my eyes! I got diagnosed with ADHD - primarily inattentive type last year at the age of 26. So many things make so much sense to me now about myself. I am so excited for you. Medication literally changed my life. I saw someone say once re: medication - it itself doesn't make you happier, but joy is so much easier to reach. And I find that to be so true. Good luck with your treatment!
I have always been called spacey, dreamy, weird, antisocial. My dad said recently “you never stick to anything” I have been managing, adhd, depression and anxiety for most of my life. Honestly the covid quarantine helped me to stop and focus on my mental and physical health in a different way. Scared about big changes coming up in a few weeks, hoping I can continue my healthier habits even as life gets busy. Thanks for continuing to share your journey, I know so many can relate! 🌈
Honestly never occurred to me that you hadn’t already been diagnosed. I think it is always so funny how others can see things in you that you don’t even know about yourself. I hope having the diagnosis helps you feel like you aren’t ever “wrong” in your reactions…just reacting to the best of your ability
Also a small note, monstera plants and lillies are toxic to cats. I recommend doing a little bit of research online for what plants are safe for cats and what aren't. :) I definitely felt that you had ADHD and after those earlier videos I started to look into it myself and I suspect I have it too. I have the psychiatrist referral and my doctor agrees that it's best I get evaluated, but at the moment I need to save for the evaluation, car registration and pay off my dental. :S The chair looks so good and your house is gonna look amazing! I am in love with your kitchen! I'm not a wood cabinet kind of gal but it looks so sleek with the black hardware and white subway tiles! :)
Was just about make the same comment about the plants.
Lilies are deadly to cats. Even the smallest amount of pollen on their fur can kill them. Monsters will probably make them uncomfortable and throw up, but is unlikely to kill them unless they eat the entire plant.
@@genieb3823 I know..?
I’m 23 and was finally diagnosed with ADHD last year. I’ve struggled with severe procrastination since elementary school onwards and never knew why. I constantly skipped classes in high school because of missing homework assignments. My stress levels were through the roof all throughout my life. No one including myself understood why I struggled so much. I only found out the symptoms of ADHD when I was looking up procrastination for the thousandth time. It was a godsend to finally know why simple chores felt like mountains to me and why I seemingly couldn’t function like other people.
Sounds like me, but I don't know where to start.
I would start by first talking to your doctor and getting a referral for a psychiatrist. That’s what I did.
I just got to the part where your kitty got stained yellow from a plant, if this is a lily or anything that grows from a bulb, please toss those since cats are severely susceptible to the toxins in the plant. My cat got into lilies once, and I really recommend checking with a vet if you see him feeling sick ❤️
Reading all of the comments about other women, like myself, who were recently diagnosed with ADHD in adulthood warms me up, thank you for sharing.
You hit me with the "when you get your ADHD in control, a lot of symptoms that ADHD causes have the potential to lesson," because when I started meds for my ADHD my mood vastly improved and I was much energetic and the urge to binge dropped rapidly. I still deal with anxiety because that's personally the most detrimental on me physically/mentally, but ,my therapist putting me on my meds were a miracle.
"Literally and physically killing the family tree" 🤣🤣🤣 You crack me up, Bea. Love your videos!
I was diagnosed with ADHD last week and I’m almost 48!
ME TOO!!! It makes so much sense!
I’m 47 and my nephew was diagnosed with ADHD at 20. He came home and said I think you and mom have it too. Guess what?? Lol I’m still in the process but the dr is leaning toward agreement.
To echo the comments, I just got diagnosed with ADHD AND Bipolar so no wonder my doctor/therapists couldn't/didn't know how to help me for a really long time. Now at 28, I actually feel clear headed and I am able to do the things. I only hope the same for you!
That’s wonderful Savannah! That gives me a lot of hope💛🦕💛🦕
I went YEARS, struggling through life, knowing something was wrong, and just dealing. My mom and grand mother were both diagnosed with Bipolar, and the older I got, the more aware I got of my own symptoms. I could see it in me, and how it affected my life, and I continued to put off seeing a doctor even after I basically came to terms with the diagnosis myself. Self diagnose can be a very dangerous thing, but I’m a strong believer that if you feel something within, mentally or physically, is off, you should trust yourself. Surprising to no one, I was diagnosed almost immediately and have been on meds since thank god
When you were sanding and sweeping up the dust from the chair it reminded me of all the times when I was younger and my grandpa would make so many things out of wood and I would beg to sweep up the shavings because I found it satisfying and I liked to spend time with him- so thanks for bringing those memories to the front of my mind❤️
Shortly before the panini started, we began the process of having my 7yo daughter diagnosed with adhd and “high functioning” autism. This sent me down a rabbit hole to learn more, particularly about how it presents in females and this is when I realized that *I* am most likely on the spectrum too. I am a 33yo mom of 2 and suddenly my whole life made sense. It’s shocking that I made it this far without anyone ever mentioning it because now that I know, it seems so blindingly obvious! ♥️ you Bea!!
Is this pandemic? The topic of your comment is very serious but I'm tired and weird so I laughed more than I should've about the panini starting
Similar situation here. My daughter was diagnosed at age 4, almost 5. Might have happened sooner but my whole family kept telling me she was fine because I was the same as a child. The more the husband and I researched autism the more we realized…..it was me! I remember when I was a child I would always look to everyone else to figure out what I was supposed to do and act like, I also had an older brother that I copied too. I masked well.
Literally one day last year I was freaking out about my sensory overload and my mom was like …you’re probably on the spectrum you know. …I’m literally 35, married, 3 kids and I’m like oooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhh. That makes a LOT of sense
“Am I socially responsible or vain” is absolutely me
I’m so so so proud of you for taking the steps to understand yourself! I was diagnosed adhd last year at age 29, after living my life with a brother who also had adhd but mine went unnoticed. I know the feeling of finally having validation of alll the things in your life you didn’t understand coming to the surface can be both overwhelming but also add a sense of relief. Sending positive thoughts as you continue on this journey! :)
so proud of you and honored to be part of this journey (mission) that you’re on! you’re super strong❤️❤️
B, as someone who weighs the same as you, has PCOS, struggles with depression and has been wondering if I may have ADHD (the likelihood is pretty high😅) ... it's so nice to be able to relate to someone with similar issues because I now know I am not struggling alone. I've been watching you since you started this channel and I just want you to know you're helping others like me and that we appreciate you 😁💛
I second this comment!
Me too
i know...as she was going thru the list of symptoms she basically read me😳
Cosigning.
Fifth(?) this! i love how much i can relate to her!
This whole time I’ve wanted to say to you that I thought you had adhd but I didn’t want to offend. You are so much like my daughter and I, who have inattentive type adhd. Mine was missed until I was 40, and I suffered a great deal as a child in school because of it. My daughter wasn’t diagnosed until the 7th grade! Profoundly impacted her self esteem.
The lack of dopamine or dopamine uptake that is a known factor in adhd is a likely factor in why I was a binge eater as well. Fatty, salty, sugary, greasy foods cause a release of dopamine. Hello?!
We are not medicated, each by our own choice. But I am a successful adult and learned how to manage all my own symptoms without medication. My daughter likes how she is and doesn’t feel she needs to change anything to make her brain more like a neurotypical one. She accepts that there will sometimes be a mismatch between her environment and her mind. It all comes down to what will work for YOU! Support. You got this girl! There’s a great How To ADHD channel. Check it out.
Love you girl! You are only labeled as not neuro-atypical because the linear thinkers wrote the DSM. There is nothing “wrong” with you, your brain or your emotions. Don’t bother reading books that tell you you are fucked up and have to fit in with the linear society. I recommend Lynn Weiss book “attention deficits disorder in adults”. We are with you! All emotions are welcome here!
Yay! Congratulations on the diagnosis!
Everytime you show any little bit of your drawings/ water colour art I always wish you put it on merch or prints. You are so talented! Just love how you combine colours. And thank you so much for sharing your mental health diagnosis. I never thought depression and procrastinating or even being overwhelmed could have anything to do with adhd. Might sent me on my own journey. Until now I just thought I was depressed and hyper sensitive. Sending you a big hug from Germany
Bea! So glad you're back! If that pollen is from a lily, it's suuuuuper poisonous to cats (like, fatally so). I'd wash it off ASAP (heck, if it was me, I'd cut that bit of fur off and get rid of the flower). If it isn't a lily, please ignore 😊 Xxx
I went to the hardware store a lot as a child, and those paint chip samples were very useful as film awards for Barbie dolls. A lot of the color names made reasonably good film titles. #weirdchildhoodstories
Not weird. Barbies helped me mentally deal and survive. I love having my own unique household items made into something new and always have 💗
Lmbo!
When you were describing the symptoms of inattentive type adhd, I went, "holy shit!" cause you were describing me to a T. Then I starting crying cause now I know that I'm not crazy, defected, stupid or alone. There's a word that describes that I'm not lazy and that there's treatment. Thank you Bea, for downloading this video.
Love seeing your paintings. You’re so creative. ❤️
Douglas and Bea are truly made for each other
Bea!!! Lillies are super dangerous around cats. Please do what you can to actually wash that off his fur and get the lily out of the house. Keep an eye on him and get him to a vet if you see anything out of the ordinary.
Yay! I'm so so happy for you, well done for being brave and taking the first steps!
I really loved seeing your little doodle paintings with the watercolor. I would be super into seeing what brand your new set is and would love to see more little paintings if you felt like sharing. I remember you telling us at different points you were creative, so its very nice to see some of your work pop in for a visit :)
I was just recently diagnosed with ADHD at 40 yrs old. It all makes sense. I’m learning so much. It’s hard to lose weight with ADHD too. I’ve been reading articles about the connection. Thanks for sharing!
Green bananas are all I eat. 🙃
“I am literally and figuratively killing the family tree”
HAHAHHA YOURE SO FUNNY 😆
I absolutely LOVE that you shared your art! It's so colorful and rich and creative!! I also started journaling in a moleskin around 3 years ago when I started going to therapy for PTSD. They're great for throwing down those thoughts/anxieties that keep circling and easy to carry around with you. I recently got medicated myself and have been exploring the world of art journaling/bullet journaling (I can't do the weekly spreads nope too much work for me)/writing daily and it's really helped to center myself. If you want to explore the world of journals, Archer & Olive and Notebook therapy have amazing 160 gsm light grid dot journals that I'm loving for my watercolors/gouache/pen art ( Archer & Olive was created by a woman who recognized the importance of journaling for mental health and she named her company after her cats need I say more 🥺). Best of luck on your mental health journey and it would be lovely to see more art if you feel comfortable enough to share!
Having a diagnosis definitely takes a huge weight off your shoulders! I am so happy for you! My son is currently being assessed for ADHD and Autism and it is similar to your situation as he isn’t atypical for both so many doctors pass him off. I think it’s so important that more people talk about this thank you for being open and vulnerable ❤️❤️❤️. I always thought there was something wrong with me and having that diagnosis really made me feel okay! You got this girl! And I absolutely adore DOUG 🐶 😍😍
Just like a good mom would say” I was worried about you, no phone call, no text.what’s a mom to do! I’m totally with you on a little bit of green on the bananas
Lol I’m sorry💛🦕💛🦕😅
I feel this lol 😂😂
I love this comment. 💚🐝
@@BeatriceCaruso What brand of jeans were you wearing in the beginning? They look amazing on you.
Btw get ready to possibly experience a lot of grief while you reflect and reframe your life through the lens your new knowledge. Not easy, but well worth it for the clarity!
Oh, the anger you feel when your meds kick in for the first time and you wonder if that is how other people can function all the time.
@@sarah.bea. I’m still on the waiting list for meds unfortunately (uk nhs process), but been going through the diagnosis grief process all year... will look out for that anger when I finally get my meds! 😅 kinda feels like I’ve been gaslit my whole life, and I can imagine that will only be confirmed by meds 😬
@@sarah.bea. this 🤬 my exact feeling day 3 after I got over the imposter syndrome
@@sarah.bea. YES! After 2 days on my meds, I remember my husband asking me how I felt and losing it. Not at him, but just screaming "is this how normal people feel?" That for the last 24 years I could have felt like this rather than the constant chaotic rat race that is my brain. I was so mad that I struggled for so long when there was a solution to my "issue" and could have not felt the way I had for so long.
@@avacanaahrs I hope you get your meds soon! And I feel you about that gaslighting. Learning about ADHD and the realisation I might be affected came as a real shock to me (also positive because so much suddenly made sense) but talking to my family and friends everyone was like “nah, we all have those situations sometimes”. Lost over a year because others told me I was wrong 😑
When several women started talking about ADHD online I contacted my metal health care provider to find out if I had it. They had me fill in several pages of different forms. No ADHD, but some points in AQ 10. The doctor had me fill in AQ 50 and it looks like I probably have some form of autism with full points in inattentiveness. It's interesting what you find when looking into your mind at 29.
Free healthcare is nice but takes a while. Let's hope I get the time to the place that researches autism quicker than the time for the place that takes care of me now ( 8 months). Luckily my depression can be managed on pills but waiting for times for months just felt like being left on my own.
Bea I am glad that you got diagnosed I am 50 and just got diagnosed it makes you really look back and say atleast there was a reason I acted this way. I hope your gym equipment shows up soon so you can start doing videos again. You inspire me.
Welcome to the ADHD club!
My psychiatrist also told me that when your ADHD is treated, your anxiety and depression can also get better, simply because you’re more focused, more organized, and more confident. Adderall comin in clutch! It actually has improved my quality of life too. Not completely, but it made it better.
I didn’t think I needed to get treated because I wasn’t in school anymore, but when she told me that ADHD also affects executive functioning, I was like “oh….THATS why I need 3 days off in a row to do my laundry.” Bea, I swear to you, my first week on adderall, I cleaned out and organized my entire kitchen, meal planned, grocery shopped, and prepped in 2 days. I also had a crockpot meal going for dinner. And still had time to sit down and watch the new Game Grumps episodes, have dinner, and shower before bed. Before, that would’ve taken me at least 2 weeks to do.
I will say though, at least with me, while I may be focused and I want to do something, I have to have a plan for that day, otherwise I’ll kinda sit in jumpiness, not knowing what to do. So I make to-do lists, they really help.
The Game Grumps are so wholesome :-))
@@jenniboye how I know you read that whole thing lol
Wahoo! I am loving seeing these comments from people who were properly diagnosed and are rocking it! Ritalin makes my life 100% better.
I'm taking Vyvanse and honestly I completely agree that it has greatly improved my quality of life! Glad to see others with similar outcomes!
I'm a list fanatic because, well, I can't function without one and routines and constant structure to my days. Makes me controlling almost but it's how I keep myself in check.
Bea, I have always felt that we shared more than just our weight history. Much love from a fellow neurodiverse woman xx from a supportive place, aspergers is no longer a diagnosis, it is seen as ableist by the autistic community. Know that this diagnosis is just a prism to know, accept and love yourself. It will help you to find your tribe. You are so welcome xxx
i came to the comments to mention this about aspergers as well! xx
Could you explain what you mean by the term aspergers being albeist? I have a friend who's an Aspie and I've never heard this before.
@@ericadavenport2039 I don't have ASD but Asperger's was done away with diagnostically and considered a part of the ASD umbrella in 2013. My understanding is it's ablist because it was treated like ASD lite, where you aren't truly autistic, you just have Asperger's. Like it's "better" than "true" autism since you're "high functioning."
@@ericadavenport2039 I understand it's not the term asperger's that's ableist, but treating asperger's as an illness, a disease or disability. Neurodiverse people aren't ill, they're just different from what most neurotypical people consider normal. Doesn't mean they need fixing.
@@ericadavenport2039 it might also have to do with Hans Asperger, who described the condition and gave its name, being a Nazi. He defended that children with Asperger's were worth saving because they were capable of inteligence, while other disabled children weren't. And Nazis had this thing with "cleaning" the word of undesirable people... So you can imagine why the community doesn't like it.
Congrats on your diagnosis hon. Thank you for sharing, and I hope you breathe a little easier xx
So glad you talked about this. I got my Asberger's diagnosis this year too and it also felt like a weight lifted up from me. Highly suggest some great neurodivergent youtubers. I've gotten a lot of great tips to help with anxiety and social anxiety. I'm waiting to get another appointment to check on ADHD after hearing your story I realized I have a lot of similar symptoms and just want to know. My family dynamic has gotten so much better after teling them and helping them see how I need me time and that I may act in ways they think mean one thing but don't like your example. I would get very annoyed when we had plans change because it ruined the flow if my day and the plans in my brain but I often wasn't mad at them it was more like anxiety I just didn't know what anxiety was and would hold it in and self-harm to release anxiety. My family always thought I was just never nervous but I was in literal pain to the point I ended up with a chronic migraine disorder. I also used to like having no lights and hiding in small spaces because it gave me more control. My mom hated it and would stuff things in my closet so that I couldn't use it to hide and always turned on my lights. Now that the understand my quirks and needs a bit more we've had a much more harmonious and functional relationship.
About the monstera! The like to be snug in their pot so only change if it's like "bursting out" of the pot. They like a bit of shade. My monsteras are also always thriving ^^
Aww, Dougie's little paws during the walk... tippy taps 🥰
I was just diagnosed!! I’m 28 and wow am I happy to have a diagnosis. Now I know where to start. I’m excited to finally find some peace. I was diagnosed with hyperactive and inattention but mostly inattention.
Thank you for sharing this! Glad Douglas got his pup cup!
Realize that “normal” is a construct. It’s our perception of ourselves vs. our perception of others. You are normal, just the way you are!! What’s unusual is the gracious and relatable manner in which you share your experiences! You’re actually quite extraordinary! Thanks for sharing- love your videos!
Well said @stacey. B you are extraordinary!! I mean you have Muppet family!! {{hugs}}
Normal to me means being boring. I'd rather be my self and goof around. 🥳
Is that flower a lily that dyed your cat?
Lillie's are very toxic for cats and will cause kidney failure, just so you know and you can keep them out of reach 🙂
I think your an awesone person Bea. Your working through so many issues in your life and still maintaining CZcams and work. It makes a lot of sense that your emotions are up and down. Also love your art in your journal. I hope you give youself a lot of grace.. Love you and Your channel thanks for letting me be a part of it.
Hey I have ADD and am on the spectrum too! I'm so glad you were able to get a diagnosis. My best friend also has the same diagnosis. It's weird to look back on your life and see all the struggles in a different light after finding answers. Cheers to clarity moving forward!
Lots of things are under-diagnosed in women, as women’s health has been routinely underfunded (the medical field is predominantly male staffed - changing, but not there yet!)
True, women have always been treated as other when it comes medical studies. I guess our hormone cycles are too varied for doctors to make an effort.
Once, my coworkers sang happy birthday to me in the cafeteria. I stood up and left the room in total humiliation. I am so happy you got your official diagnosis. It is fantastic to just have the validation. I was 57 when I was officially diagnosed.
Getting diagnosed is such a huge relief knowing your not alone. And you get answers so your life starts to make sense. I didn't get diagnosed till I was 37! I wish it were sooner as it could have saved me years of misery and feeling alone and wasted time. Glad you got help and can finally get the relief you deserve.
I’m excited for you! When I got diagnosed and started my medication I quit binging almost completely. On the three days I missed I binged but other then that it’s been 5 months strong! I also don’t struggle with my dyslexia during the hours my medication is at it’s most potent. I hope it gives you the happiness I found. I do have to warn I went through a month extremely sad because I had waisted almost 30 years fighting to be happy and knowing it was so simple to fix and I just needed so help with my mental health. But trust me it’s amazing to feel normal even for a few hours a day.
My husband has ADD. He got back on medication to help him manage for a while but I think he’s back off of them again. I’m so proud of him of how he copes. I’ve learned how to communicate with him. I love him for him. All in. 19 years and counting. Hubby is not a social butterfly, but yet he is a team lead for his job. I’m sure it wears him out.
BEA, I’m so proud of you. Keep up your hard work. I am with you for the long haul. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Meds have been life changing for me. I had no idea that things could be better. It was amazing!
Also, my daughter used to walk around with a yellow nose from smelling flowers when she was a toddler. It was a funny time.
You are so lucky that you got your diagnosis on one appointment! I had to go 4 times and one of them was a interview with my mother and another one was a 3 freackin hour testing with computers and stuff...i hated it so much. Aaand i have to go again because i couldn't get officially diagnosed (even tough the results were 99%) due to my PTSD.
I'm so glad you finally got your diagnosis! They say that medication changes the life of many people
Also, you can just pinch off the pollen thingies from the lilies when the bulbs open. When I learned that it blew my mind lol. No more staining everything
About the meds, we all need the same substances to be ok, some of us just have to get them from outside sources ❤️ good luck and I’m so glad you got this validation. You’re doing great!
Girl!! You are so damn talented at art, I would love to see more of it in your vlogs
I’m so proud of you. Been following for a long time. You inspire and confirm that every single person is important and indispensable.
I was diagnosed a couple of months ago at the age of 59. I have actually lost a small amount of weight (4 pounds in 6 weeks) because medication eliminated my compulsive snacking.
I'm 50 and have depression, anxiety, ptsd, binge eating disorder and cannot focus, at all. I am going to look into this inattentive adhd. I thought you had to be diagnosed at a young age.
Mental health is such a journey in and of its own. It's really encouraging to see you prioritizing yours and continuing to discover ways to help yourself, even when it's scary or overwhelming. 💜 Keep going strong, Bea!
Thank you Sara! I appreciate you💛🦕💛🦕
@@BeatriceCaruso always cheering for you to be the best you can be. 💜💜💜
@@BeatriceCaruso hey there's a whole thread below about how lillies are toxic to cattos!!
OMG!!! You are an incredible, courageous, and beautiful woman! I’m so proud of you for being brave and going to explore your mental health! I hope that you can find a medication that will help you thrive. My son is ADHD and ASD. There is a huge difference in him now that we found a medication that works for him. It’s taken a few years, but don’t give up. Be sure to advocate for yourself.
Oh and I would recommend getting some plastic plant saucers to save your surfaces.
Thank you for being so vulnerable, I am pretty late on seeing this video but I just want to say that I started watching your channel a long time ago when I was in a darker place. It’s nice to know that someone out there relates to what I’m feeling, and watching your videos always somehow made me feel better. You never fail to make me laugh and I think you’re a beautiful person inside and out ❤️
Can I just say how nice is to see you act with Douglas!! He is really loved. I can't have pets, but seeing you is soothing 😌 💕
I cried so much when I was diagnosed with ADHD because it was such a relief. I was diagnosed about 5 years ago and the medication was like flipping a switch, getting myself out of prison. Amazing! My relationships have improved because my family has given me a little more grace. I am not being a jerk, I am just trying my best! Sending you love 💗 and hugs 🤗
A diagnosis also allows you to give yourself grace and knowledge gives you the power to overcome any unknown factors had in holding you back. Keep moving forward.
You're so talented by the way, the pictures you paint in your journal are beautiful! And I'm so happy if you getting a diagnosis helped you!
I resonate with so much of what you've said in this video...the binge eating, the not being able to simply start, the anxiety and depression. Sometimes I wonder if I'm going to be this way forever, because I'm 35 this year and I'm absolutely exhausted by it. I'm so glad you have some answers and some relief. I hope life gets easier for you.
You've prompted me to see someone to talk about the things I'm struggling with, so thank you.
The only thing I don't agree with is green bananas, girl of course I eat the speckled ones...I'm not a monster!
I think that white flower you showed was a lily, if so they're super toxic to kitties so watch out, plus the pollen stains like crazy! They are beautiful though!
I HAD A STRONG FEELING. Your symptoms were so similar to mine and I wanted to say that maybe you had it but didn't want to make assumptions. The struggle with maintaining friendships, the lack of motivation sometimes, the anxiety, it's a looong journey. I'm so glad you got diagnosed!!
Just want to say thanks I’m a 22 Yr old woman and last year I almost gave up on testing after it took 6-8 months to get an appointment and then I was accidentally taken off the list… I was just going to give up on it but I watched one of your videos where you mentioned your symptoms and your concerns and I started pushing again! I’ve been diagnosed for a month now!
Bea I am so glad you were able to see a psychiatrist and that they spent an ample amount of time with you. I am really proud of you for continuing to explore what will be best for you and your mental health. I too received an ADHD diagnosis as a young adult this year and decided to try medication. It may not be the best option for everyone, but I am grateful that I gave it a chance because it has really worked for me in ways I never thought possible. I still struggle with ADHD "imposter syndrome" so I completely hear your on your hesitance to be seen in the first place. I hope you discuss your visit with your therapist. It may be of benefit to meet with a therapist who specializes in treating adults with ADHD, as it really is so intertwined with depression, anxiety, motivation, and self-esteem. Best of luck to you Bea, much love!
Oh Bea, i just want to hug you. My son was diagnosed with combined ADHD when he was 10. There have been countless moments of both of us sitting on the floor in tears. It breaks my heart to hear him ask why isn’t he normal, what’s wrong with him? Getting his diagnosis helped so much. We were able to get him help and support but most importantly, it gave us a clear answer. We like to say that his brain isn’t broken, it’s just different, and wow isn’t that neat? Hugs to yiu, Bea. ❤️
My son had a friend on the spectrum, I esplained to him that his friends brain just had a different operating system - eg was Apple instead of Windows.
How old is your son? Has the medication helped, is he able to have a normal life, im in the same situation with my child.
@@JH-iy7eu my son is almost 12. We are doing medication free- he sees a therapist and has 3x a week sessions with his schools special needs counselor to talk, help with assignments and learn school coping skills. It’s all a learning experience and at times it’s incredibly hard but we’re getting better at understanding and helping him. My advice would be to ask questions, advocate for your child, and to try to be as patient as you can. Good luck to y’all!
@@JH-iy7eu As a former teacher and someone who has been close with kids with autism they may not have a “normal” life but a differently successful life. They can learn to adjust and adapt so they control behavior responses, understand how and why they feel like they do, and know what their needs are. We’re all different and have needs we have to adjust for and don’t realize no one really has a “normal” life. Teach him all he is able to learn on his own and don’t shelter him, he has more courage than you realize.
“all of the daddies in Lowe’s” so i’m not the only one who secretly scans hardware stores for the DILFs 🤣😅
I never thought of this. I think I'll go to Home Depot and ask non-employees for help picking out something or other.
Lol yep
Girl, I love your updates. I love how real you are. Keep doing you, sending love & support xxx
I have the inattentive type too. I’m so glad you have a diagnosis. It really helps with some sort of relief, to know there’s a name to the things we’ve been experiencing.
rotate the plants a lil bit in a couple of days so that they grow more evenly ...... as they are getting sun only from one direction and the growth is leaning towards the sun
So happy for you to be so relieved after the diagnosis! I felt the same about my diagnosis of depression and anxiety and getting help through medication. Hope you'll feel better soon! ❤️❤️❤️
I'm glad you talked to a professional about adhd. I'm 32 and was just diagnosed with adhd. That diagnosis has helped me not to feel crazy and start understanding how my brain works. Sending you all the love!!!
So happy you have a diagnosis and can move forward with more clarity. Love your Mid-Century Modern vibe- excited for arrival of couch🕰
I was also diagnosed with adhd this year. It's wild to learn more about it and realize all of the parts of your life that adhd was a major factor. For me it was such a relief to realize there's a reason behind all of the things I had felt shame about. Medication (and therapy) have been life-changing for me!
It was really interesting when you mentioned about how you get really easily overwhelmed by just existing and especially in social situations. My partner has Aspergers and this is something that he struggles with a lot as well. I know that it can be very difficult, but just know that you’re not alone. 💜
Thank you for uploading. I was waiting updates from you.
I love that this is now Bee's "Working on the House" channel! So here for it! I love seeing all your projects!!!
I have ADD and never had any treatment, just for the other disorders I have and I’m 32yo.. But about two months ago I started my journey on finding a ADHD medication that works for me, and even if the first one didn’t work great I definitely felt how alot of symptoms pretty much disappeared! And now I’m on a different one and still feel the same but in a different way, a better way. Really hope it stays this way when we increase the dose. So happy you got help ❤️ just getting a diagnosis makes such a difference and your whole life makes more sense with an explanation to why you don’t react and do things like a “normal” person.. You are awesome! And you got this! ❤️❤️