Can my wife use her hands better than me?!
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They have such a calm chemistry, like they both have their own unique ways to soothe the other all the time. It's charming
Nice to see Claudia is willing to go a mile in Jessica's hands. 😀
mile-long handstand 😭
I have been watching this channel for years, thank you for the comforting queer joy you have provided all this time!
So happy to have you as part of our community ❤
The eyeliner challenge got “out of hand”quickly!!
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i had to do a double take at the title 😭 and it being tagged pride month is kinda funny with no context
I was thinking the same thing 🤣
SAME
i know rightt 😭😭
“You’ve only got one eye that can see” absolutely sent me 😂💀
The fact that Jessica can do such pretty eyeliner and hair is wild and must’ve taken a lot of practice. She and I are both blind in one eye, but my hands cooperate with me. 99% of the time, I forgo eyeliner altogether because it’s super hard to do blind lol.
the fact that this video contains content about lesbians, hands, and a pride month hashtag meant that while I wasn't actually expecting spicy content, I could not IMAGINE what other connotation there could be 😂😂
LMAO I WAS THINKING THAT
we're all thinking the same 😂
“I live in a little hut at the end of the garden”. 💀🤭
I wish I did
She is so funny!
The way you hold and move your hands was really such a part of your ✨fancy✨ personality in my mind. Neat that there's also physical reasons for it.
This video feels like something I dreamed
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Jessica, I wonder if you would find fountain pens easier. They don't require nearly as much force to move and make marks on the page. A light touch in necessary, actually.
As someone whose own hypermobile hands very much have a mind of their own (from a chronic illness called Neuro-Behçet's Disease), fuzzy neuropathy, pain, lack of strength and the random flinging of objects, I love this content HUGELY. Thank you both! ❤
Also I've been experimenting with making prettier chunkier handled cutlery. The commercially available options are just so limited. Generally to grey, black and more grey!
Omg the early 2000s straight fringe and curly in the back unlocked so many memories
I have terrible hand issues, constant pain, and atrophy! Thank you for making me feel less alone!!
The underlying yet totally advertiser-friendly innuendo of this video is truly incredible
I appreciate you describing how your hands do work, and feel. I wasn't aware that it felt as if yiu had soft bubbles at the base/in between where your fingers join your hands' bones and skin
I'm 49, we had eyeliner pencils that we had to melt the tip in order to use it faster that going over the same area multiple times. It wasn't till the 90s that a soft tip.
I have neuropathy in both my hands as well as in both legs, from my knees to my toes. In using my hands, I tend to drop a lot of things due to the neuropathy in my hands, especially my primary hand, which is my right hand. Then they can get really, numb fast (which is a different sensation to my neuropathy). It’s more similar to when one’s foot falls asleep - it’s definitely not fun, especially when I’m working on digital artwork, and my pen keeps slipping out of my hands, and then I get what I call “a case of the dropsies” all day; which is what call it when I get a terrible neuropathy flare in my hands; most noticeable with the primary hand, but equally notice with the non-primary hand as well.
Thanks for sharing this video. Yeah, it’s good to talk about disabilities, especially invisible disabilities, and similarities we can have between them.
This is such a cute challenge. Great idea with the gloves. And I really liked that you typed something from Rupert's favourite book
Excellent challenge! And I always love seeing the two of you talking and laughing together!
This video was such a perfect & funny way to demonstrate to people what it’s like when my hands don’t work, thank you as always for the wonderful content!
We gotta give the bracelet clasp one to Jessica though because, she also has only one eye to use. I ended up trying it at home with one eye shut and I was SHOCKED by how hard it is lol.
I’m new here, so this is my first time seeing Claudia! Gosh, you two are cute! ❤ I never want to know your lives are anything but charming glimpses like this. Let me live my fantasy. 😊
I wonder if Jessica has tried an adapted tripod grasp with a pen? I have arthritis in my hands and this grasp relieves the pressure and pain. With the adapted tripod grasp the pen rides in the webbing between the index and middle finger. Handy Learning is a channel by an OT that has a good video on that grasp.
You two never fail to bring joy into every minute of my life. Earlier this evening (just now June 5, 2024, 19:26), I was writing a letter explaining why I hadn’t responded instantly. And then here you are demonstrating exactly what I was attempting to express. Bless you, I’m sharing this video NOW!
Asking for help was one of my harder challenges when my hEDS started to really impact my daily functioning. I'd keep trying to to things myself, to the point of getting injured. Thank you so much for normalizing it in your videos! I think it's important that people unlearn the ableist ideas we didn't even know we had until we became disabled.
Thank you for all you do, and Claudia too! 💜
This was a fun video.
In terms of what Claudia said about feeling more frustrated because you expect to be able to do something, I don't think that's the case. It's still super frustrating not being able to do something because of a disability. But who wants to go through life feeling frustrated all the time? You either learn to let it go or you're miserable. Most people learn to let it go. But then sometimes the frustration hits you and simply swamps you.
I spend time in patients support groups and we spend a lot of time encouraging whoever is going through one of those times when the frustration is overwhelming.
I'm housebound and during the Covid lockdown, one of my good friends said, "It's easier for you because you're shut in all the time." I wanted to scream, "No, it's bloody well not easier!!" I did write out something about why it was not easier. I shared it on patient forums and it got more shares than anything I've ever written.
So I don't think it's less frustrating, but when you live with it, you also learn to live with the frustration in a way that means you don't spend your life constantly angry.
With undiagnosed myasthenia gravis I really relate. Everyday when I can't use my hands I think about Jessica and her hands and I feel a little better knowing I'm not the only one experiencing odd sensations, and paralysis in the hands.
This video is fun. I've challenged my family before to do things the way my hands don't work. That was fun to watch. I think Claudia did a pretty good job
Tbf though, Claudia is especially dexterous. 😀
It’s so nice to see something positive out here 💜 I’ve been getting into video essays lately but they seem to be getting heavier all of the time…my algorithm needs some tweaking!
For a brief moment, I thought of asking my partner to do the same challenge but then I remembered I'd have to figure out how to simulate clonus for the hands and the legs. Wonderful video.
Frustration is a huge thing. Many of us experience pain every day, but our abilities change. Being able to do a task one day, and not being able to do it the next can lead to great frustration. Pain is 'easy' - we can deal with it, but frustration, that's another matter.
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Not the first of your videos I've watched, but in many ways the most intimate and informative, a glimpse into your world (both singular and plural) for an old, mostly healthy, guy. Wishing both of you a long and happy life together, looking forward to more videos that inform, question, and entertain. Happy Pride Month. YVR
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The way you treat eachother is so heartwarming
Claudia had me laughing most of the video 😂😂
i feel you jessica, sometimes my arms are floppy and lack strenght too
10:22 was the cutest part! (Claudia’s laugh made me laugh.)
I broke my leg a few months ago and I am still recovering. The biggest hurdle wasn't the walking or crutches. It was asking for help and letting others help me. I can totally relate to the frustration of just needing to ask for help.
My family has that exact Kings and Queens book! We're kind of book hoarders, though.
As someone who also has hand issues I appreciate this video so much! I don´t have a diagnosis yet but I have had issues with grip since I was a child, and know as an adult they are getting so much worse, chronic pain and only little to no grip.
I had a good laugh watching this. It's one of those things people take for granted. I have a device that opens bottles for me. ha ha ha ha ha.
QUESTION: Jessica, when learning to write (either the first or second time) were you given what I can only describe as "A pen with training wheels". In the mid 80's, my parents took me to a local children's hospital to have a battery of tests run on me. Turns out, amongst the many issues I have (I feel like a newsstand) were hand-eye coordination and fine motor control. This was their explanation why anything I write or create with my hands looks like crap. (And it still does all these decades later. Thank goodness I got into computers.) In response to this was that I was given this pen with a wire hoop attached that held the pen at an angle. My guess was that the hoop was to teach my how to properly hold a pen at the correct angle, which looking back at it now, I don't think addresses the issue that pen position wasn't my problem.
Jessica, have you tried one of those grips for opening bottles and jars? My mum finds hers useful with her arthritic hands and muscle fatigue.
I've found those small (maybe 12x12cm) pieces of siligone rubber very versatile and handy for gripping any hard stuff - and my hands don't even have issues per se, just not having enough power for all stubborn jars and bottles.
Justice for Claudia, liquid eyeliner is hard AF! LOL. I cant manage liquid, I started using khol because it looks good a little smudgy. With my EDS and starting physical therapy, I am having to relearn to do everything "correctly" because I have been compensating my whole life. I had no idea I was supposed to be using glutes so much.
Well Jessica, I had always interpreted the way you rotated your wrists as you brought your hands up as a deliberate graceful flourish. I would think: "What expressive gestures Jessica has, very classy". But now...
In all seriousness, at the (much younger then) age of 20 I was engaged in extreme physical activity that pressed one of my vertebrae into a spinal disc, putting pressure on my spinal cord. That created tremendous constant pain in my left hip, that eventually shift to pins and needles in my entire leg, to numbness, and then no sensation at all, no reflexes, and muscle atrophy. Not an elegant flourish in sight there! Very distressing, but thankfully fixed with some back surgery. Problem was it took months to for the spinal cord to heal and to build enough muscle strength to be able to walk again. Long paragraph to say: "I can relate". Love your and Claudia's story telling together.
Very interesting exploration of the hand disability that Jessica has. What surprised me the most was hearing Claudia say she’s not a practicing dentist any more!
I loved this video ❤ My parents have been in an inter-able relationship (as am I now) for years now, with one of them not being able to use their hands. I understand the chronic pain part of their disability because I struggle with it too, but I did struggle to understand their hand troubles until I developed carpal tunnel syndrome. I think ideas like this to help able bodied people better understand the struggles of disabled and chronically ill people are great!
I enjoyed this video! ❤️ I love how you both get along so well and so funny too! 🙂
I'm an American. But, when I hear your voice Jessica, I needed a cuppa tea.
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Raynaud's MENTIONED YEEEEEESSS!!! Finally, representation 😅
Each time my speech to text stuff breaks, I remember how much writing and typing aggrivate my neuropathy from multiple sclerosis. It was like borderline sympathy painful watching you two trying to type!
Happy Pride! Thanks for the new video
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Wow! I've never noticed your hearing aids before, Jessie! You do very well 😊
If it helps, Claudia, it’s a specific design choice these days by hearing aid manufacturers to trick people into thinking hearing aids are actually Bluetooth earbuds. Which I have feelings about, but it means you were simply falling subject to their deliberate marketing tactic!
i think putting pieces of stiff tape over the pads of claudia's fingers would reduce sensory feedback even more! Loved this video, reminded me of an assigment an urban planning major friend of mine did where he went a whole day in a city in a wheelchair to experience mobility needs
You knew perfectly well what you did with that title!
Needed a minute to sort out that Jessica said, "clawed hands," and not, "Claude hands." 🤪
Claudia, none of us can do both eyes equally well. Don’t feel bad. And what your mom did is definitely what women did in the days before liquid eyeliner was a thing.
Jessica, there are magnetic clasps you can have added to jewelry! My husband’s grandmother had them on several necklaces and bracelets. They aren’t generally obtrusive, and they can be added/removed fairly easily.
Yay! Cool new format, I’m so glad to be back
You are the cutest couple ever. This video was so cute. 🥰
You both give a lot of positive energy
I'm currently waiting for genetic testing results for things & uaing my hands is difficult so that's interesting, i always put it down to being raynaud's but wonder if there's more to it. I was recently diagnosed with hEDS too which probably also explains it. It's really frustrating just how much gets missed or put down to other things. Enjoyed this video as always & you're both such a great moment in my day when you upload & I've learned so much over the years❤
From 1:06 Tilly is so cute, just sitting on your lap like that😉😊
Your hair is so cute!
The world can be so daunting sometimes so its lovely to watch your wholesome content, your channel has always brought a smile to my face xx you guys are the perfect role models!
This was hilarious 😂
Amazing video thanks so much for bringing joy and a little bit of understanding to the queer and disabled communities. I would be really interested to understand more about how you learned and do sign language with HNPP and paralysis
Me, too! I've been wanting to learn ASL, but I have some tightness in my hands that makes certain signs much harder or look very different.
Oh, I have an announcement!. Nothing to do with this topic, but I have recently moved from America to Paris. My French is slowly coming back. But more importantly, my mothers (my mom, and her wife/my step-mom) will arrive soon to visit me>. And it turns out that her trip, while missing the Olympics, will include the Paris Pride Parade!. I’m buying all my ace Pride and son-of-two-lesbians shirts, so I can be a complete nerd. And we’ll prolly see the Louvre or something touristy on the other days.
Loved this video!
oh my god jessicas handwriting is absolutley beautiufl
Regarding the bracelet challenge, ANYBODY can put a bracelet on another person's wrist. The challenge should have been to see if Claudia could have put the bracelet on herself. That's one reason why I have a watch instead of bracelets for my wrist jewelry. Just slip it over and close the clasps by pressing the ends together.
Except not everyone can? Even in this video, we saw Jessica struggling to put the bracelet on Claudia's wrist. When you lack feeling in your fingers, struggle with minor motor movements, or have understeady hands, clasps can be hard.
I also do my eyeliner from the outside in, but it's because I always do a wing and it's easier for me that way. Might also be because I'm left-handed 🤷🏾♀
So much to say about this video. First of all Jess, you are as gorgeous and glamorous as ever. Secondly, you two are just so cute together. Obviously so very in love. Thirdly, I always thought your hands look extremely elegant, I didn't realise you struggled with using them. What an eye opener. Don't dismiss the struggle your wife has with raynauds disease though, it can be painful and debilitating.
Now your wife is not a dentist, what is she doing?
Finally, you both have beautiful skin, any tips? Xx
This was great. Thank you 😊 ❤❤❤❤
happy pride 2024 xx
Jessica, I genuinely thought the way you turn your hands over when you wave them was either cultural or a sort of stage presence. I had never picked up that you’d been unable to move your fingers while your wrists were dropped.
I love how much more comfortable Claudia has gotten on camera, and what a good sport she is about doing new things on camera. You both are truly such lovely people. ❤
I have a lot of hand issues as well (small fiber neuropathy, leftover nerve damage from a disc in my neck herniating into my spinal cord, both osteoarthritis and psoriatic arthritis, generalized dystonia, and of course the hypermobility issues from my hEDS). Our issues are similar until it comes to utensils! I’m sad that chopsticks/hashi are no longer comfortable for me to use at all, because I have a greater weakness in closing the gaps between my fingers and then my dystonia grabs onto objects I’m holding with far too much force. It makes my hands hurt so much to hold things, especially narrow things like pencils and chopsticks! And of course, I’m worse than both of you when it comes to eyeliner; my mast cell disorder has denied me even most skincare products, never mind makeup, and I’m also so nearsighted that I can no longer bring things into focus clearly before it goes double because my nose is in the way! Clearly I was not meant to use eye makeup!
I think it’s amusing that all the people I know who have nerve issues with their hands have developed fancy handwriting in compensation. I got in a traffic accident as a teen and was accused by the judge of not taking the accident seriously because I had such stylized handwriting. 😅It was me trying so hard to write clearly and legibly! And one of my good friends, who has lupus and spinal damage at the neck resulting in difficulty with her hands as well is a much-awarded calligrapher in our medieval reenactment group. Maybe having to go so slowly and carefully made us more aware of our writing, and thus more inclined to make it prettier!
For real though, I don't have the same condition as you (I have Raynaud's and probably some sort of hypermobility but I'm not sure what it is really) but it's SO HARD to make people understand how difficult everything can be when your hands hurt all the time and move the wrong way 😭 I'd love to get gloves to make people "try my hands" 🤭
Love you three. ☝️👆👌✌️✊🩵🩷🤍
You two are both beautiful funny and super smart and wise!💞🏳️🌈 Happy Pride
Happy Pride Month 🌈🏳️🌈♥️
As someone who shares Jessica’s eye shape, eye makeup is just hard. I remember reading tutorials in 17 magazine and watching videos online and it never looked right. I have like 3mm of crease and it’s about 2mm above my lash line. Even the “hooded eye” tutorials didn’t work. So I started looking up eye makeup tutorials for monolids, and they worked much better. Now I can do eyeshadow in a way you can actually see it.
Who came up with the idea for this video? genius! 😂
When doing Eye Liner, using a mirror on an angle from below. a trick for applying look down and in the opposite direction when doing the corners. You’ll find you can get right in the corners and a cleaner application. Even If you do not have a steady ish hand. It will look cleaner.
Hi Jessica and Claudia. Thank you for helping me to understand that it is ok for not being able to open some of the jars I get as I get frustrated that I can't do it and my sister needs to open them for me. I used to have good hand but now I am getting arthritis in them plus my strength seems to be getting weaker neither helps with jar opening.
this is such a cute video and informative. I also have a condition with my eyes and people don't believe that I am practically blind after 5 meters because I have adapted to that. (so annoying)
loved this video and seeing how Jessica has adjusted her movements to how her hands work! you two always make me smile :)
also can someone PLEASE tell me what should i use to take that NYX eyeliner off 😭 i have the same one and istg i can’t wash it off completely for days
Cleansing balm or cleansing oil! Banila co. makes my favorites. Clinique has great ones too. 😊
@@Marskilius thank youu i’ll try those out :)
Thanks!
Thank you for contributing, Michael! I hope you enjoyed the video ❤
Happy Pride Month to you both. 🏳️🌈❤🏳️⚧️
definitely heard "power graph" instead of "paragraph" and I like it better 😂😂
OMG! I have many of these issues💜
As someone with 8 fingers of ring splints I feel your existential crisis, Jessica. Every day is a new exclamation of, "Wait, other people do it that way?"
I thought the title ment somthing else😭
That title sounds like innuendo.
I struggle with my hands as well for whatever reason and also find chopsticks much easier than forks
You guys are so cute together 🥰
This was a fun video, Jessica have you tried different pen grips?, we use these alot in school for students who have poor pen grip .
Jessie what is ur lipstick, it looks so pretty!
10:12 “I can’t do/eat anything big and meaty” Jessie said! I though you said “do,” but I went back and it’s “eat.” Either way it’s pride month and you are one of the proudest lesbian couples I know. So Jessie not doing anything big and meaty tracks 💯% with that! (As long as we’re thinking as teenagers who laugh at anything vaguely s***ual!)
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To be fair, I'm pretty sure the title of the video is a double entendre. But, yeah, I had a snicker at the "big and meaty" comment. I'm guessing 13-year-old me is still alive and well Four decades later.
Also the title ("Can my wife use her hands better than me?")
Happy Pride!