Alcohol Explained with Author William Porter
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- čas přidán 1. 04. 2023
- William is an ex-drinker and author, he joins Dan in this episode to talk about his first book, Alcohol Explained, a no-nonsense and practical explanation of alcohol; what it is, what it does and why we drink. As well as William’s book, Dan and William discuss their journeys to sobriety, their experiences of drinking and anxiety as well as the mindset of someone who is alcohol dependent.
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It was brilliant listening to two knowledgeable young men talk about the problems of alcohol. I’m 72 and recently was confronted with the prospect of death due to heart failure. I promised myself that I’d do nothing and quietly continue with my alcohol consumption and slip away in death one night. My youngest daughter, a professional woman of 32, asked me about my swollen ankles, a bi-product of heart failure. I explained the cause of the problem and she burst into tears saying that she didn’t want me to die. I was a bit cross with her at the time and gruffly explained that the time of my death is not controlled by me. On reflection I realised that this was not the entire truth. As a result of her intervention I went to the doctor and was diagnosed with heart failure and was referred to Harefield Hospital for further investigation. I abandoned alcohol at the point of my daughter’s tears.
I’ve been drinking since I was 14 years old, and giving up is not as tough as I thought it would be. Knowing that another human being would be adversely affected by my demise made me realise how selfish I was being and brought me to my senses. I need encouragement and I’m delighted to say that this video provides it in spades. Thanks again to both participants, it’s always helpful for a stupid old man like me to hear insightful and inspiring talk. Best wishes to everyone following the path of abandoning alcohol. It isn’t always easy. 😂😂😂
This helps to reinforce my quitting. Ive been free of alcohol for a year, and life just keeps getting better. Sleep is so critical, and yes, alcohol wrecks it
The greatest "menace to sobriety", is focusing on "quitting drinking". How do I know? I tried to "quit drinking" hundreds of times, and failed every time. (Some periods of being dry were longer than others, but eventually I drank again.)
Fast forward to the moment I had always hoped for...the end of my physical, emotional, and mental endurance. I simply could no longer live with the guy in the mirror! THAT is the moment my recovery began. Something inside of me shifted to the stark realization that if I didn't change ME, I was totally phucked!
Where to begin fixing a broken person? Certainly NOT with a broken mind, body, and spirit. I had to take myself out of the drivers seat, and get in the back. That was almost 30 years ago, and my life has never been better. My mantra is, "Live in the problem, or live in the solution". Sobriety is as simple as that! Peace!...Mark 5/8/1994
Alcohol explained is one of the best books out there on alcoholism
Yeah I’ve almost finished it! Really enjoying it so far
Not drinking definitely gives you more time because you can get your day started without hangovers holding you back.
GREAT book. Nearly 6 years sober and I devoured it in one sitting last week. Thank you. I didn't do AA either. I did SMART Recovery, which is based in Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy. You get the community and you get tools to work with. I still use those tools.
Love how you still add in a bit of humour amongst serious topics. Only a few minutes in but really enjoying this one
Yeah important to laugh through moments I feel
He is one of the absolute best writers about alcohol addiction, I put his book up there with Alan Carr's, and both complement each other nicely.
Perfect use of 'complement' so a definite thumbs-up for that - so rare to see on Internet.
Great show great guests Sundays used to be dark days either curled up crying or still on it or even in some other whacky situation but now it’s family time and my number one podcast thanks dapper and will
Thank you Jake!
Great to see you doing this, followed you back in the day. Just watching the bit where your discussing AA. I’ve been sober 18 months and couldn’t of done it without SMART Recovery. I still go to meetings now and have no plans to stop going. It helps keep me motivated and on the path of sobriety.
Sobriety is the BEST gift we can give ourselves, just found this podcast, LOVE it, KEEP GOING MENACE TO SOBREITY, you are doing GREAT work! William's book was a HUGE catalyst for me and change, THANK YOU!
Thank you so much Lisa
Mate, people like you are an absolute lifeline for me at the moment! I did a year before going absolutely off the rails over Xmas. Thought, yes I’ve done a year, I’ve got this! Day latter I’m buying cider at 8 am sat in the park 😬
Anyway back to AF living 21 days and podcasts like yours are a massive help. Genuinely think lads of our generation just grew up through a pretty wild time 😂✊
Great listen. I'm coming up to my 2 years stopping drinking and it's one of my best life decisions. I was never dependant on drink but always had problems when I did drink. My biggest fear giving up was feeling left out but that hasn't been the case at all.
Absolutely love these podcasts Dan, you're doing an amazing thing. I'm not a lad or an addict, but these podcasts are helping to bring understanding and peace to me after my mum, who was a life long addict, passed away 20months ago. Thank you, the reach of people you are helping is probably a lot bigger than you realise
Really appreciate that Keeley. Thank you!
Started listening to these shows recently and I am hooked. Can relate to every single one of them. The sesh life is a dark place. Keep doing what you're doing Dan, there seems to be a major sober movement and I love being a part of it #soberculture
Thank you mate
Dan, thanks for uploading these I have decided to quit alcohol on the 4th of January, I ended up in hospital after going out in New Year’s Eve. I have not wanted to drink alcohol since that day. Your videos help me a lot please keep posting. ❤❤❤❤
Ah mate. Well done to ya!
Wishing you the very best in your own sobriety Daniel. Thank you for the podcast
Thanks for listening and supporting Josh. I appreciate it
Another great podcast and guest. I'm struggling at the minute 😅 I always have a beer in the evenings, and listening to your guest is making me feel less alienated. I drink at home, on my own. Sounds sad and probably is, but I enjoy it....... or that's what I thought 🤔 watching and listening 😅 I will succeed to quit. I'm hopeful thanx to your podcast 😊 you're doing brilliantly, Dan 👍🙌
I don't understand people who drink to "relax" I think alcohol taste like absolute shit I genuinely don't believe anyone actually finds alcohol tasty .
@AB Then Wtf you doing on this page for....... 🤔 piss off my comments, lol 😆
@AB I disagree, I think it tastes nice... Depending on the drink obviously. I suspect there will be alot of people who disagree with your statement.
Hey Mandy
Thank you for your kind words. Really appreciate it
@AB-qq3hm you are obviously not an addict so will never get, and thats fine. What's not fine is your need to comment on someone admitting they are looking to change.
Love William Porter! AE 1 & AE2 made all the difference! ❤
Another great podcast. Well done to Dan on 121 days sober. Keep going x
Thanks so much! It’s hard but so worth it
@Menace to Sobriety I've shared this on my fb & LinkedIn. I know it can be hard, but you could have saved literally 100s of people's,lives x
Nice to see Will at it still. I miss his Friday sessions he used to do. I'm 3 years booze free. His books were like a light bulb being turned on for me.
I’m really enjoying your podcast Dan - great guests and informative to those of us have issues. Spot on 👌
Love this! Go on William, loved alcohol explained and well done Dan, smashing it! Great podcast and guests......❤
Thank you so much Lou
I think u have to go easy on yourself. Be kind to yourself whist dealing with any form of addiction. Another great episode. So many people self medicating with alchol currently.
Nice message mate and so true. Thank you.
Another fantastic guest 👍🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 63 days now
Yes well done mate and thank you!
Really enjoying the podcast Dan and big respect making this life decision, takes some serious balls.
It's amazing to see someone that I can relate to and who had a similar relationship with drugs and alcohol speaking so openly about their sober journey. At the end of April, I have done a year without drinking and it has flown by. Honestly, never thought I would be in this position. I would always be the one blacking out and acting like an idiot, but it turns out we do have the power to change.
One thing I would say going forward, I would recommend trying to read/listen to more of the guests books before they come on. I think it would take this podcast to the next level.
Loving the content mate. I can only imagine that not drinking will get easier as we go.
So glad you managed to get William on, his books are the best of the sober quit lit in my opinion. Says it how it is with no bullshit.
Great episode, new found belief in my sobriety
Another great, listen/watch really enjoying these pods
Glad you enjoy the pods Ryan. Thank you!
Loved the explanation today.
hey Dan, just in from a gig & put this on the TV. Loved it, such a different take on previous guests. I would love you to interview a 'small' time person in the night-time entertainment circuit who feels booze helps them connect with the audience better? For example, I am a 'nothing special' successful singer who's worked in Spain for 15 years+, working 6 nights a week, & maybe drink 3 or 4 pints during a 2hr gig with no problem at all. I know from my audience vibe, my connection feels more natural, banter flows easier & I'll pick up on things on things that can be used as material which I maybe wouldn't pick up on if I was sober as a judge. Also as a bonus, I feel I enjoy it 'more so' myself than letting it turn into groundhog day & go to work, to just pay the bills . I'll still get up tomorrow, go for for a 6K run, do weights & go about my day & get ready for the next nights gig. Is this the norm in our industry? I would love answers, if only to know Im not being self-indulgent & understand if other entertainers experience this? Keep up the good work! At least we don't have to work as hard as @ChasaRealTalk 😂
Great guest, fantastic podcast. 👏
What a great alcohol podcast this is, raw, truthful, down to earth
Brilliant episode!! You‘ve got this 🙌
Amazing podcast. I have followed you since the vine days and it's amazing to see you on this new stage of your life good luck keeping sober you can do it.
Thank you so much
Hi mate, glad you on the wagon. Couple of years ago I saw you were in dark place mood and anxiety wise. I was very similar 5 years ago and I messaged you on Twitter and explained giving up alcohol was the key to resolving a lot of problems. I know I'm not the reason you gave up, but hope the message of support and advice helped. Keep going it only gets better. I'm 6 years AF. Best thing I've ever done.
Wow. 6 years! That’s amazing.
Excellent work on this video! Thank you for your efforts both of you. I think this video has great potential to make a big difference to a lot of people struggling with addiction. A very down to earth discussion easily understood by all. xxx
I'm the same. I'm not alcohol dependent, but when I drank, it greatly affected my mental health. I started going to AA to reinforce my quitting. I found the honesty and openness at the meetings fantastic. You just need to take from it what you need.
Excellent, great interview
Brilliant! Very interesting insight 👍
Glad you enjoyed it and thank you for your support!
So so real tour smashing it dan and well done to all your guest🎉
Another great guest, I’ve been listening from the beginning and I’ve genuinely enjoyed every episode, I think Craig beck would be a good guest, I read he’s book alcohol lied to me and he also has a CZcams channel with loads of videos
Thanks Ryan! Great book!
Brilliant episode 👌
Glad you enjoyed it!
Another gr8 podcast dan
Appreciate it thank you!
Brilliant mate a great podcast to watch talking about the 12 steps that gave me a very different perspective was Wild Ride with Steve o from jackass taking to Mod Sun it made me understand it in a different way
Maybe we should put some horrible drink disease pictures on bottles the way they do with cigarettes....im 4 year's sober we do recover ❤❤❤
Could you imagine!
@@menacetosobrietypodcast ive thought about it for a while 😇 ps i hope your day got better its great watching your journey your doing amazing with love and strength from Scotland xxx 🙏😇💜
Cheers brother from chch new zealand I am struggling daily drinker 10years the withdrawals are almost unexplainable at times...
You got this mate
When it comes to AA you described it very well, I found great value in the rooms turns out there are people like you and some great advice there for the taking but the steps man, it works for some people
Awesome podcast feller
I do the NA steps. Best thing I ever did.
Well said AL
I had to leave my alcoholic boyfriend. He is angry and agressive when he's drunk with frequent blackouts...dry drunk, verbal abuse, emotional abuse...it's heartbreaking...
God bless you Danny O'Reilly
The socialising bit was interesting, I’ve had the same thing happen to me. Going out sober is awful, trying to talk to drunk people is like getting blood from a stone. When I drank I used to binge drink just to get through the event. Most of the events I went to that involved binge drinking were shit.
What nobody really tells you is that when you get sober your social life might suffer a bit, unless you can go out sober and act drunk
Would love to here his opinion on taking Naltrexone for absence
Push through the socialising without drinking thing: it’s worth it. Find a friend who doesn’t drink; go cycling or take up an old sport you used to enjoy, but dropped. Find a non alcoholic drink you can tolerate (there are so many more recently, and they’re getting better). Learn a challenging new skill: piano playing, wood turning, whatever. Use family get togethers and other social events to have meaningful conversations, ask your parents about their childhoods before it’s too late, dance silly with your nieces. Theatre, cinema, quiz nights, race meetings, bowling games my husband does them all and can talk about them sensibly later because he doesn’t drink.
Finally, thank your lucky stars your wife is still around, then thank her.
"Everyone drinks more as time goes by / 4:14" I would disagree with that statement; the rest - is very interesting stuff. Problematic drinkers drink more as time goes by, but that's not the 90% of society who drink; the actual data shows, as you would expect, people drink more in their 20s & early 30s, the "party years" and then rapidly reduce their alcohol intake as they enter their late 30s - 40s the "having a family/ having a career" years, their environment changes, and societies expectations on them changes, and that in turn moderates their behaviour. When he was talking about drinking cider as a solution to feeling scared about going to war, using alcohol as some tool, "feeling stressed - reaching for a drink" thought process, that's something that has to be unlearnt in recovery, and he's spot on; people who don't have an issue with alcohol, never really make that mental connection that booze is some crutch, because once you do, it's medicine & you're on the road to addiction.
There is more evidence now that even “normal” drinking affects your health. It is a poison. Just something to think about.
Historically, they drank it instead of contaminated water from the stream. The percentage was lower as well.
Loving your guests mate I smoke 3.5g of weed a day and also a few beers I'm trying to kick the alcohol in but for some reason I'm finding it really tricky I shouldn't be so greedy as like I said I smoke/eat alot of cannabis but that crave for a drink is always there everyday for me. Hopefully I can sort things out I actually hate alcohol aswel, crazy.
Take up running or golf. Channel your addiction into fitness and sport.
@Nigel G I am trying things like spending more time walking with the dogs, fishing tomorrow and then squash in the week its just as soon as I'm home alone in the evening it triggers me and I'm battling myself in my own head. I use to spending Friday Saturday in the pub every week now I've manage to replace that eith seeing alot more of my family and watching the nephew's early morning weekends play football it's great but now it's my drinking at home is the issue. Thanks for the comment
@@rosscojondoe499 I had a drink problem between ages of 15 and 23. I was addicted to lager. I went onto Guiness then gradually off it. When I quit I took up running and got a high off that. The trick is to keep active and replace alcohol with something positive. You can do it. Good luck coming off it.
Try to get the strongest weed you can find. You're possibly only drinking because it enhances the weed. Imo.
@@johnscully2637 how about quit both.
Subscribed today 🇳🇿
I left a comment on your post explaining the session I’d been on the weekend and addiction to Cocaine I’m battling. I decided to carry on the party last night. I’m currently in hospital had a mini heart attack on my own in my mums house after 3 lines in a row. + the one I grabbed at six this morning and the rest of the gear that all weekend was my system. Cause my heart to expand and beat so fast and then stop my left arm went numb … literally 40 mins in and I called the ambulance they said I could have died thank fuck i called them this is the start of my recovery everyone’s been tellin me to rein it in for years. Get me on the podcast I’m 23 got some funny stories and addiction knowledge
That’s crazy mate. Take care of yourself please brother
4-5 drinks a weekday, 3 would be enough for me tbh for a week day thing. going 13 days prior the next few social drinks is way better tough.
Wen you have tried all the books and groups mate for me aa and ca Will save your life our own will power is not enough 👍👍👍👍
Another great one. Keep it up! Fuck the stupid comments, honestly reading through they are just after a reaction.
Did you ever feel Asif alcohol in both in the drunk stage and withdrawal made your adhd worse?
Looking back on it I think so yes
I totally agree with this.
Class again try and get Paul mort on he be a good guest
Thank you mate. Appreciate the suggestion too
Just passed 10 weeks yesterday. Day 71
Well done Lucas!
@@menacetosobrietypodcast can’t believe you replied haha! Buzzing. Made my day 😁 see you in March next year for your tour buddy!
Fuck me, 19 minutes in and you nailed me to a T - I suffer with panic attacks & cant leave the house now unless I have a drink. I had my first panic attack after doing a "bucket" of hash when I was 14, over the next couple of years those attacks worsened. I found alcohol helped massively, but I was never socially anxious or afraid of every day things at that point. Fast forward 30 years, thankfully I work from home (although not being able to leave the house without having a drink didnt start until working from home about 10 years ago) & I have a wife and 2 children. Im lucky if I can make it from Monday to Thursday without drinking (50/ 50 chance of it happening) but on the occasions where that does happen Friday Saturday and Sunday are me drinking at least 3 bottles of red sometimes 4 each day, We spend the days going out, but the next day Im lucky if I can remember the day in its entirety & the following mornings im in bed with a bottle of wine & the fan going to keep me cool. Mondays are just terrible panic attacks, general anxiety, rarely do I even get up and as for work... not happening, cant eat because that sets off the panic barley drink any fluids, tuesdays have become harder recently I presume thats an age thing, but generally by Wednesday/ Thursday im feeling better and littlle bit like me again- but the kicker having to repeat the process just so we get out with out kids and try and give them some sort of normality, swimming, theme parks, walk with the dog, beach days, visiting family etc . This has been going on for so long (10+ years) about 8 weeks ago I contacted my GP (AGAIN) for help.. They are aware of my situation but their default is me taking medication but with talking theropies, and my needing to reduce my alcohol intake (becomes a chicken and egg scenario) and although I desperately want to change and stop this destructive cycle taking medication means anxiety and panic attacks because thats just a real fear for me after all the drugs coke, Es, billy etc I took in my teens. Im desperate for help I truly am but it just seems this life is not going to allow me to get it. I dont know, just tired of battling all this now I suppose. Anyway, appreciate the show and people taking the time to come on and share their own stories. Thanks, Mike in sunny Somerset, UK.
It sounds rough, friend. I hope things are getting better for you.
Great podcast, But just a little bit hard to listen at times when Dan’s voice comes out much stronger
Why does AA work for some people and not others
AA is the same, people are different.
He seems a nice guy but he ain't ever been on the session ever... and Dapper a typical night was 7 or 8 pints.. have a day off haha!!
Yer this channel ain’t for you mate.
I like the series so far. However, I'd like to see more shows and more normal men, not just authors or celebrities.
Noted!!
I do love the guests so far, though, and as I am going through my own journey of sobriety at the moment, listening to the guests' speak really does help.
He’s off his head! William is not.
People ya partying and session with r not your real friends you will see who ya proper mates r one day
I’m 53 and so many ov my friends and family r dead through drinking alcohol and taking cocaine 😢😢😢 and so many young people in every towns end up taking there own life’s on a cum down stay connected do lots ov hobbies we get brainwashed in to drinking alcohol with the bull shit advertising
Male Eliza Dolittle is hard to listen to. Sorry.
Who do you think you are? The Lone Ranger?
No need to to swear
People giv this shit to much attention. If wana drink, drink. If don't you won't. Simple as that.
😂😂 I think u win the prize for DUMBEST commebt know to mankind. Lol. You talking a loud addiction yer simple as that 😂😂😂 you should have been a doctor mate with that knowledge
Cant listen to this lol
Ok