The Power of Authenticity
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- čas přidán 17. 10. 2023
- Being authentic doesn't mean being perfect; it means being true to who you are and striving to live in a way that aligns with your core values and beliefs. Authenticity is often valued in personal relationships, leadership, and various aspects of life because it fosters trust, genuine connections, and a sense of being real in a world that can sometimes feel artificial or superficial.
An authentic person is someone who is true to themselves and their values. Authenticity is about being genuine, honest, and transparent in your thoughts, actions, and interactions with others.
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Authenticity = Valuing the truth and not shying away from it.
Authenticity = committed to reality (internally, externally, relationally)
“Self confidence is not runnin round the place like James Bond”. What fun therapy would be with this brilliant and funny therapist!
Thank you, Darren ☮️. My challenge is recovering from over 60 years of psychological and emotional abuse from a narcissistic mother and sociopathic sister. I am not exaggerating. The truth is horrific. Thank you for your authenticity, for your compassion, and for sharing your talents. You are a gift. ☮️
It is easy for someone who is authentic to recognize it in others. They usually talk about personal experiences in healthy ways and don’t talk about others in demeaning ways. They love facts and know how to use facts appropriately in every circumstance. They don’t need others to gain their value. They don’t use others to punish or feed from. Unauthentic people are sickening to be around. Thank you for your work.
I find myself feeling exactly what you described. And now I can understand why my narcissistic mil HATES ME but doesn’t have any reason to
Same. ❤ I’m sorry you have to go through that, it’s rough!
Enmeshment can contribute to this as well. Would love to see videos on enmeshment if you have not covered it yet! ❤️❤️
Darren and his channel is authentic.
I can definitely stay involved too long in an effort to find a solution ...
That's everything to me ...
Relatable ☺️
THIS is my curse and my gift all rolled in to one ❤🙂👍
Also, I also go off on tangents all the time! (They’re useful too!;) ☺️👍
I believe authentic people are also calm. They listen without over reacting to everything.
You are really a fantastic therapist. ❤❤❤
After leaving a 30 year narcissistic relationship earlier in the year, I really appreciate this discussion as I think being your true self and growing and healing towards that is something I am looking forward to, feeling hopeful for the future and determined to thrive. Thanks Darren 💪
Thank you!!! I agree and have seen all this! It is Jesus Christ Who keeps me focused on what matters and He works in me to make me like Him. When I fail He helps me when I confess my failure. I am thankful for Him, He loves when people cannot.
Vulnerabilities don't have to be weaknesses. ❤ Right. I like to be open to other people, and support them if they have a struggle, but I don't intend to be used or considered "sweet " for being that way. As one person labeled me. I didn't consider being called "sweet" a compliment.
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My name is Kirsty; I am authentic.
Authenticity, is actually no effort; I just say what I want, whatever I’m feeling. The reason I say it’s easier, is because it’s less effort to be honest, about what’s going on, internally. This is within the confines, of what is appropriate to share.
Yes, it’s a lifelong journey, of discovering who I am. It’s also, a lifelong journey, of discovering what I want, and who I want to be.
It’s the knowledge that, anyone, I want to be, I can be; the reason being, where the passion is, there, too, is the ability.
Humility is absolutely, where the confidence, of an authentic person comes from. Also, the confidence of being good at something, because, I have that passion.
Really enjoyed the video. Thank you
I'd love to see a livestream on how people get emotionally stuck in the past and how they can then become unstuck. But then I also love the sound of the 5 minute primer on updating your memory!
Really amazing video. Allot of good things we all need to contemplate on.
I used to get triggered when being accused of being intolerant, mean, extreme, a liar etc. The narc of course uses words as weapons
It was next level of self-acceptance when I can say yes- I CAN be intolerant/ mean/ extreme/ lie…but I’m also tolerant/ kind/ balanced and honest…
It like I’ve finally accepted all of myself- the shadow and the light. It’s a pretty powerful state of mind. I know I am capable of going into both ends of the spectrum of emotions and experience, and I will always aim for the higher ground
The words and accusations don’t hurt anymore, It becomes then about WHY they are saying those things, without getting pulled into the illusionary battle
Thank you for this. I find it very interesting, I appreciate it. ☮️💜💙💚💛🧡♥️💕
Thank you Darren for such a down to earth and easy to understand discussion on authenticity and narcissism. I try to live as best I can by this description of authenticity but I've not been able to put it into words. I have struggled through many narcissistic familial relationships and I can definitely relate to your description of how it goes with an authentic person and a narcissist. This is probably my favourite video of yours. I also found your Managing Boundaries with Narcissists videos so helpful. Any future video ideas you have about boundaries would be wonderful! Thanks again, I am watching from Canada 😊
This is probably one of my favorite episodes of yours! Both of the topics you covered where exactly what I was needing to hear. I am a survivor of 48 years of domestic violence and I am untangling all of this with a therapist again for the umpteenth time. Come to find out, my ex was a narcissistic sociopathic pedophile. There's a lot to unpack . Your videos are a wonderful supplement to this fantastic counselor who is really going deep. Thank you and keep up your excellent work!
I'm trying to be more authentic, although my family has branded me mad, bad, sad, detached from reality. At work, I sometimes find that I just hang back a little around a person who has a dominant personality and even that hesitancy alerts them to the fact that I'm still assessing, and that little, that can make a dominant person freeze *me* out. I think I initially come across like a people pleaser who then confusingly pleases herself. I need to emanate a more assertive energy. But it needs to happen gradually so it's authentic. Good chat. Waffle away on this subject. It's good to be reminded of who we're striving to be.
Honest, decent and genuine. That's without watching the video.
Just Yesterday for example I said " I am busy with authentic buyers." When selling . Found this, learned , helped! "When the two collide," is so helpful in terms of thinking how to settle a lawsuit, etc, or even understanding stupidity we all struggle with when dealing with others egos / our own etc , I am thankful. I am learning . This could serve as a guide in getting back to peace., Merry Christmas to you and all your many good sound followers! ✌👌 ❤ 💕 😉 👍 Thank you!
Thank you so much Darren for sharing this knowledge and your time with us. This is helping me take my healing to the next level, from making sense of my toxic family toward living as my authentic self. Looking forward to tomorrow's video.
An excellent video, very interesting to hear how the characteristics of an authentic person and narcissist differ. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
Interesting thanks for sharing
This makes sense. Thank you. 😊
Thanks Darren - you’re doing a great job !
I enjoy listening to your podcasts , your well considered responses.
I tend to people please, guess that boiled down to being dishonest. It's hard to just tell someone no.
THIS IS VERY GROUNDING EXCELLENT JUST CLOSED NARCISISTIC EXPERIENCE OMG. TRUST MY GUT GOT OUTTTT
ITS CLEAR TO ME YOU R AN AUTHENTIC PERSONE
An honest person is usually quiet.
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Needed this vid today, thank you for sharing
OMG U DESCRIBED ME I SEE MYSELF AS AUTHENTIC BUT I WAS NOT SURE THANK YOU
I appreciate this video, thank you :)
What really put my drive into overdrive trying to be authentic was being really hurt by someone, don’t get me wrong I’ve been hurt many times but this latest one really woke me up! I really thought I knew people but I soon realised I did not! This made me look more inward and to ask who I’m I why was I fooled again, so from that day I went deeper and deeper, looking at what and who is me! So hence how do I achieve this becoming more authentic.
Skull fell out and the cat's not well 😂
I call it my darkness and also grateful i get to learn about it be more aware
Part of authenticity is being good with being imperfect. (Many years ago, I read about the growth vs. fixed mindset - book by Carol Dweck, but I don't think I really got it until very recently.) Acceptance, too, as you mentioned. I struggled with understanding any of this for many years - maybe because I was trying to see things both from my narcissistic mother's perspective as well as my own?? Thanks for noticing my name during the live stream, Darren! 😁 Great information, as usual.
Oh I must check out that book. I thought it'd be a tony Robbins style conquering the world through the power of your inner giant 😂 kind of thing. Your comment makes me rethink my assumption.
@@SusanaXpeace2u It's been years since I read it - I don't remember much. I doubt it was very Tony Robbins style, though, because I also have a hard time with that. 😅
Ps i just tidied the kitchen, did the recycling and the washing listening to this video so i appreciate a longer video😅.
Did a body sensation reflection at 2am and it was try interesting... i am An INFJ-A and i was struggle with showing anger... from i was a child i focus on becoming, when hit my mid 30s it switch to understanding myself...
I am very tired of the accusations of not being authentic
Very good video.
I have one possible idea for something I'd love to know more about. It's about if you think there's anything to the idea that the self aware BPD person develops a sort of 6th sense for sniffing out NPD people? I haven't seen much about this topic but because borderlines and narcissists attract each other, the borderline who heals from those toxic relationships , goes into treatment and improves their symptoms can become triggered by a narcissist and be a very strong ally for those who are being abused because they are one of the few personality types who can match their energy. They also understand willfulness, being controlling , manipulative and toxic because it's the things they dont like about themselves.
I don't think I have BPD, but certainly have had some of the traits, have healed some but not fully, and what you wrote is about where I am at right now.
I look forward to rhe video about the devouring mother/father. I think my mother "devoured" my sense of my self, but it was subtly done, she met any of my expressions of self with cold shoulders, contempt shaming and exclusion so not sure if that counts as devouring
I think a human can become more authentic because lols i think i have choosen with help from many that and it was hard because the bargain is groups and toxic ppl or alone and pretty decent and lonelyness.
Its not easy. Just like crash landing . Somany Bruises and abrasions. Even struggle for daily needs.
I am nice till i am not. Lols learning about bounderies has been a litteral life saver. And using key words, practice and building my self back from a puddle. And also magic mushrooms sometimes. 30 posts just thoughts as i listen
Please do some more live Q & As Darren
We all can be cruel and like it
between my bad hearing, your low voice and weak microphone... CC would help a lot.
Cus i have lived with one forever. I am 29 now and doing me.
Dr carter on youtube being not surprised. Fuck my life
New day, new person new situation. I pacients and restraint. When i mention i am using restraint it lets ppl know i am tryna be nice rn plz help me
I THINK PEOPLE MISTAKE AUTHENTICITY WITH SAYING EVERYTHING U THINK. I DON T SOMETIMES WHAT WE THINK IS NOT THAT IMPORTANT
Darren, which one is the one you did about Johari windows please? Thanks for your videos which have helped me and then several friends so very much over the last couple of years !
It was the previous livestream
@DarrenFMagee Thanks I'll have a look for it.
Why would i do that anymore. I have sacrificed and i am not there anymore 11:16
Whats your thoughts on dr ramani's "truth teller" idea
What parts of us that are unacceptable? That's a bit harsh😮
16:47 my dad said that to me its not real ok well it came out of my mouth and i put effort into making the sounds so for me its real. And i didnt understand at time. there is book smart then life expirence kinda simple and oof
Heres my thing bro nobody wants to talk about narcissistic police officers. Problem is wild and entitlement. Disalusioning and we can do better
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KEPT GETTING NOT COMFORTABLE IN MY GUT TRIED TO WORK IT THROUGH BUT MANIPULATIONS CHANGED LIKE DIFFERENT PERSONALITIES FINALLY DECIDED NO MATTER WHAT ENDLESS INSANITY IS NOT FOR ME BLOCKED NARCISIST. FREEEE AT LAST