"Just remind yourself that you have paid enough."... enough of your money, enough of your time, enough of your space, enough of your emotions by keeping something you don't need, want or love. This thought really got to me.
this resonated with me too, but in my particular situation I gained weight and the clothes don't fit anymore. I'd happily wear them, but they don't fit anymore. It's not that I don't like them. So it's not something to simply trash. And I don't have time to sell them. And I don't have the guarantee of tomorrow and I am thinking that I might get so poor that one day I might need to sell those clothes. I believe that throwing good things away it's a sin that will come and get you at some point.
@@globalmuffin2 Letting go of something doesn't have to mean turning it into trash (I agree, that should always be the last choice). Would it be an option for you to donate? Another idea: in my friend group we organise clothing swap parties. That way, you get to see how happy someone else is with your item, and how good/'right' it looks on them. It makes it so much easier to let go - fun even! And perhaps you'll find something beautiful that suits you as you are now. Clothing swaps also really helped me with my fear of 'maybe not having enough' in the future. If it's really hard to part with something, you can always agree that you can ask it back if you have any regrets later (my experience: you won't! but the idea of 'just trying it out for now' helps). And lastly - it's really fun to have an adult dressing up party, trying on weird combinations or things you'd usually never wear, giving each other compliments and advice, etc :)
@@CeciliasMuse i've seen a documentary where not even third world countries accept our crap anymore, too many clothes are purged there and they can't absorb all those clothes. as about swapping, it is unhygienic and always some (the gutty ones) will get the good things and others (the weak ones) will just politely say that it's fine with what they've gotten. been through that, didn't work well. the only solution is to alter the clothes that you already have, instead of buying new ones. and for this you need to not throw away almost anything, since clothes that don't fit anymore (are too small) can be fixed (enlarged) with the fabric from the clothes that you are certain that you won't wear again. you can also make bags and other things from pieces of fabric sewn together. i have such a bag which looks awesome. minimalism as throwing things away is a very bad concept. throwing things away is waste. this is not how we'll save the planet or the human species, but taking advantage of our creative mind and hands. we as a species throw away too much, too fast, this is our problem actually.
I was so scared to get rid of things in the beginning because "what if" but after I started making space to breathe I realized I had very little that I valued over that calm space. After bags and piles and countless trips to goodwill I can barely remember what was in any of those decluttering piles. I shutter when I see those pictures of before the purges and I realize I was drowning in things that held so much guilt and clutter in my mind always
Isn't it amazing how we have a hard time remembering what we just donated? Rarely do I regret giving something away. Funny story though. I donated some things one day. During the next week or so, my son went to the place I donated to. He found this cute little vase and surprised me for my birthday. We all had a good laugh when I told him that was the same vase I had donated! I now have it on my shelf, and will probably always keep it. Somehow it was meant to come back to me.
I know how you feel. I got rid of alot of stuff that I got from Trade Shows, Books, and the like. I did it because I felt good about knowing how I got it through hard work and the like. I wasn't a Hoarder mind you but with less, I feel more relaxed.
Yea, any stuff i declutter cant be connected to any already got or not wanna let it go lol. so i check and think what it connects any or do i value it any to really wanna keep it any. and slow i let it go for space and less crap to move any. besides try combine box, bins, or bags to have less to move or less to carry any. all gotta be able put in to something so less around to deal with any.
the part that resonated the most with me was "If something does not add value to your life, then don't give it the privilege of entering your life". I think this isn't just true of stuff and things, but the people we hang out with and activities we participate in too. Just as you said in your point about "dump the guilt", the time and energy that we choose to give is valuable and should be applying this to all aspects of life, not just physical stuff. Great video~!
I can’t relate cuz we don’t have to see person by value, thats totally different between people and a thing. Evaluate person by value make u narrow minded :( when someone befriend with u cuz your value u must feel hurt
Sitting here at 4:30 am and you have opened my eyes. You have given a name to so many of my excuses. The guilt has been my strongest prisoner. I am holding on to things because I paid so much for them and friends and family tell me that I would be crazy to let them go. At least once a week, I look at my unloved and unnecessary pieces of furniture and realize that I do not love, need, or want them. I keep telling myself that I cannot just give them away for free. Your calm, yet power packed advice is just what I needed to hear. This helped me to realize that I am still paying for them. My mind is made up. I don't have to ask permission. I am the owner. I will be donating all of these things to a family that needs them. Just the thought of this makes me feel free. I am now a subscriber and I am going to share you with all of my family and friends. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
I’m so overwhelmed. Years of overspending on things I didn’t need has built up such clutter in my mind and living space. This motivates me to own less, but it will be a lot of work to get rid of things and organize…
I like that "declutter as you go"! You're the first minimalist that I've heard suggest that. So much less intimidating to get you started on the right path than cleaning out your whole house at once.
I live with the very popular thought of “does it bring you joy? does it make you happy?” and the problem is, pretty much all of my stuff does. I love videos like these bc they help me get rid of what I really don’t want/need anymore but with what’s left over I’m still considered a maximalist. I’ve just learned to accept it and be conscious in it all
Brilliant, Ronald! Never heard it explained the way you did in your third point. Something clicked with me when you said you’re still paying for unused items with your time, space and emotions. Thank you for this thought-provoking video
Decluttering as you live really resonated with me! I feel like there is pressure to do a purge, but sometimes items are useful as life changes! Or taking time to find the right home for an item. I replaced the dining table in my home because it was much too big for myself living alone. I haven't posted the old one for sale yet but turns out, my friend just bought a new home and needs furniture. He is happily taking the table when he gets the keys to his home!
Have I found a truly profound minimalism channel?! Might be ☺️ Loved the clarity in these thought processes. This is exactly what we need in the world right now.
The "dump the guilt" section really spoke to me. I've got a bad tendency to tell myself I'll sell some stuff I don't need because it'd probably be worth something to someone. However, I never get around to it. I'm just paying for it with my space. I'd never thought of it that way. Thanks, Ronald.
When I moved to my new home I got rid of so much clutter I donated so much things I didn't want anymore. I only have a few handfuls of things that I don't plan to get rid of, but these things don't feel like a weight for me. But I love the sense of space and clarity so I can appreciate what I do have. Thank you for this video
Hello Ronald, As one who does not have the gift of being naturally organized, I really appreciate your tips. I also SUPER appreciate your calm, soothing, encouraging voice and your pacing. So many other you tubers talk so fast, so high pitched and so sharply that I turn them off. When they talk too fast I can't grasp each idea they share in my head, and when their voices are so choppy, high pitched and overly excited I get a headache listening to their jabber. I also like that you don't lay guilt trips on us. Instead you try to inspire & show the positive outcomes & feelings that we can get from having less clutter and stuff. Definitely a suscriber for you! YOU are one of the best out there, for sure! 😊☮
I truly appreciate your kind words thank you so much! I’m glad my content is helping you and providing value that you can implement in your life. Keep growing and learning! If you have any questions don’t hesitate to ask and welcome to the community! I’m glad you decided to subscribe!
This has hit home big time. Letting go of the burden of carrying all my family’s pictures, heirlooms. Finding what is most important and letting go of the rest is so freeing! Thank you!
This is the first video of yours I've seen and I'm just so immediately captivated. You speak so calmly and concisely, everything is to the point but explained so well. So calming and reassuring. I love it instantly
This is the best video I have watched for owning less/decluttering/minimalist mindsets. So many beautiful quotes to take away and reframe how you view items in your life. I like that you broke down so many psychological ways people look at their items which holds them back from being free of them. Also this is very well edited - it was so peaceful and clean to watch!
I started doing this in the ʻ90s when the "simplicity" books started coming out. I had a busy, cluttered "country kitchen" and country style decor -- and out it had to go, most of it. I keep doing it for the next area of my life where I buy too much or store too much. Constant process. For me, decluttering "on the exterior" is symbolic of whatʻs going on inside me. When I purge "outside" Iʻm also doing a big purge within. Itʻs easy for me, now, to let go of stuff I only recently paid a lot of money for. I think itʻs partly genetic. My mom simply could not, would not, let go of anything.
Perhaps not 'genetic', but definitely 'inherited'! My Mom grew up during the Great Depression, so the "fear of lack" was strong with her, and that's how I learned to be. UnLearning, now!
I been watching you since last fall and I’ve gotten so far about 60% of my stuff is gone now. I still have more to go but I look back at photos when I first started watching you and I can’t believe how cluttered and messy I used to be !! You are so inspiring I love your videos 🖤 this is a journey not a weekend clean up!
Definitely not a weekend clean up at all! I love that you’re making a ton of progress! Keep growing and learning. If you have any questions don’t hesitate to ask!
I started my minimalism journey right after I saw the marie kondo series. It changed my life. I aspire to live with less since then. Its such a beautiful concept, to be grateful for the things you do own, and be content. Im teaching my sons this and its going great. Im still a work in progress but so far, so good. 🥰
I love what you said about "If something doesn't add value to your life, then don't give it the privilege of entering your life". Those are such powerful words. I really tugged at my heart and made me reflect on my current situation. The things you say isn't just about being a minimalist, but living with intention, clarity, and purpose. I love it!
Ever since downsizing I own more in the categories that I love! Art supplies is my number one. And I use my things in this category every day now because all the stuff that used to be in the way is gone! Now I only declutter to maintain and it's easy and habit I love it
Dont Get me wrong I’m not done downsizing. Not by a long shot. I’ve lived now with the amount I have for a few years, and I’m ready for round 2. Many many things I have I haven’t really used enough and can let go now that time has had the opportunity to test their value
Great comment that our things are not emotionally attached to us, it's us that is attached to them. A good reminder to take the power back and let go of what no longer adding to our life.
Every time I think of something that I decluttered and want to wish it back, I remember how much joy it must be bringing to someone else and I know I don't need it. It's starting to actually give me pleasant thoughts rather than regrets! Your help is strategic! Keep up the perfect content!
It’s like you knew I needed to hear these things. I have too much stuff. I want to get rid of it. Just the thought is overwhelming and I’ll put it off for another day. Time to take back my space. Thank you.
I really like your interpretation of aspiring towards minimalism especially when you make the point of loosening our grip because we are the ones holding on.
Wow, you're an incredible speaker. You were super easy to pay attention to!!! I have a hard time paying attention to helpful youtubers but listening to you was effortless, and it made it that much easier to envision what you were saying in my life.
after getting my first job I started buying a lot of stuff (mostly fan merchandise) that I never got to buy as a teenager - after a year of this I've realised that these are just temporary obsessions I have, and once the feeling of enthusiasm and novelty fades, I lose interest in the merchandise. This has really helped me be clear about what to spend on and I'm quite happy that I've slowed down a lot on spending for fun after having 'tried' all of these purchases. Love what you said about decluttering being a journey.
Love your calmness and that you put so much focus on the spiritual/psychological aspect of decluttering! Was looking for a guide in this and found him! Great videos man, keep it up!
I have figured out why I wanted more. Why it got in the way of me being comfortable with owning less. I was more comfortable with less. So now the work is me figuring out why I sometimes fall into wanting more things for no good reason. It may be enough for me to just know I like owning less. (Gate keeping moment) Thank you.
Wow, I watch a lot of these kind of videos but this one had particularly good production value and was well organized. In an area where cliches are super common, this video stands out for its authenticity. Great job!
I have come to realise that luxury for me would be owning a lot less stuff. My #1 question is 'would I buy this item again?' Way to work Skillshare into the main video! Kudos!
The want less section really resonated with me! Even thought at this time in my life minimalism is not for me, I am looking into minimizing and I can definitely buy the gratitude perspective to help change my habits and my outlook on life and things.
I’m just starting and the hard part was letting go of my clothes and shoes from my cluttered wardrobe but you are so right it wasn’t doing me any good keeping the clutter and once I finally got rid of most I felt so much better so now the ball is rolling and I think my next steps won’t be as hard xxx
My shoes were all brittle and cracked. All the plastic/vinyl parts were destroyed. There was nothing to keep. All I have now are boots, sneakers, & 1 pair of sandals. Shoes don't keep.
Great video! Dumping the guilt was the hardest part for me at the beginning of my journey, but now, I understand the emotional baggage stuff has, and I am quick to let go of anything that brings me negative feelings.
I love that you’ve reached this point on your journey! Paying attention to those negative feelings is a powerful thing and can really help you let go. Keep growing and learning on your journey!
@@RonaldLBanks Thank you! I wish you the same... continuous growth and learning. The more space we create in our lives, the more room we have to grow and learn!
Wow this got so real so fast and it makes me so happy even though it's hard to hear! "We can't want less unless until we fully understand why we tend to want more." Daaaamnnnnn so true.
Perfect timing! I've been going through a decluttering phase and at the same time, I'm also learning not to fill up all that space I've created by buying MORE stuff to fill that empty space. It's a process - this is where the "letting go" mindset comes in. Great video, Ronald!
Thank you so much! I recently went through a spending spree. So your first tip hit home. I was getting stuff instead of making the time to create new things. I’ll never be a minimalist, but the more I crave beauty in my surroundings the more I realize that it needs room to shine.
Every one of your ten points resonated with me. Very very helpful. I think perhaps this is the best video I've seen about "decluttering", coming at the topic from angle: mindset. Thank you!
The ‘sunken cost fallacy’ can be used for anything. Not just items. Say your job: you’ve spent so much time working for that company and have gotten so far within it, yet you hate it. But you think “I might as well not loose everything I’ve worked for and stay” But you’d be happy at another even if you started lower on the podium.
Prob not related to the video’s content but..he speaks so nice. Not too fast, nor too slow- just right. Just right that it keeps your attention. Like the kind you hear in meditation videos
I clicked on your video because you are a man in a sea of women making decluttering videos, haha. You have such a nice quality about you, and the content was beyond practicality - it was pure wisdom :) Thank you for sharing your tips! I found them all useful, as a whole. I kinda tend to realize what hit me most, later on down the line, lol.
The Endowment Effect is a really good angle on explaining a main reason people hang onto things. When I help a friend who is drowning in things, she often feels the need to come up with a “defense,” I think just because she owns it, not because she uses it or is really glad to have it. Another good question is, “If I didn’t already own this, would I buy it?”
Amen! I have arrived. A combination of my faith in Jesus & of embracing minimalism. This was exceptional. Love your channel...organized, thoughtful, and wisdom- filled. And the delivery has just the right amount of enthusiasm, energy, and empathy. It also helps that your voice is like that of a motivational speaker/poet. Well done, Mr. Banks! Be blessed.
What a breath of fresh air. Ironically the guilt topic reminded me of when I was young, and relatives bought me stuffed animals- I had a huge net that I kept them in and never touched. I had a lot of guilt for thinking of getting rid of them for years. Must of been 15 by the time I finally let them go lol
Omg. I love your voice and tips you gave. I discovered about minimalism when I was 15 or 16 and started to think more about the stuffs I buy, although sometimes I spend too much as well. I'm decluttering my room again when I watch your video because it's been long time since someone last told me about minimalism. Thank you
I sometimes still make impulse purchases, and almost EVERY time, I regret it in about two days. Thanks for these reminders! This is my first time here - seems like a great channel. :)
Still here in September. Caught me mid tidying and I picked up these old, paint all over, aglets falling off pair of Nike sweatpants... Bruh I cant lie I folded that put that at the back of my wardrobe and called it. Its 7pm in London, but come 8:30am I'm bringing this baby to the charity shop to get donated. Thanks for the spark
I will declutter as I live because I want to be more present for myself and for my children. Thank you for sharing this. I saved it as a reminder if ever I get side tracked. -SharpieDarlingLLC
Love your videos! Watching from Argentina, when I moved from the states with two kids I only moved with six suitcases. I try really hard not to buy stuff! We eventually will leave and my goal is to leave with six suitcases!!
I live in Argentina and asked two of my nephews that went to live to Canada and the States how much did they take with them: a medium case and a backpack. What about childhood mementoes: photographs in their iPads.
Mr. Banks, I am just now discovering you, and I deeply appreciate your wisdom. You have given me so much to reflect on! The big ah-ha came from you Essentialism section: "How much would I pay for this now?" Such a simple question, but yet offers so much clarity! Thank you for sharing.
Wonderful example of the duplicate step.... I have 3 sets of measuring spoons and cups. Because that allows me to cook with both of my kids at the same time. We don't use them all, all of the time now, but my oldest will be 18 in about 5 months, so they will be downsized as they move out.
I've watched a dozen+ videos on different paths to minimalism but yours was a refreshing new view that addresses the hardest aspect of such a shift: the emotional hold. Thank you for this video.
I liked the explanation of how things do not have hands to grip us. That we are the ones grasping and gripping. Not a thing we let go of calls out to us and says, “don’t let me go”. 😅
I was brought up by people who survived the Great Depression and War Rationing. The underlying message is keep everything--you or someone you know might need it. I find it hard to overcome that.
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"Just remind yourself that you have paid enough."... enough of your money, enough of your time, enough of your space, enough of your emotions by keeping something you don't need, want or love.
This thought really got to me.
I'm so glad this resonated with you Shirley! Keep growing and learning on your journey!
Me too. It was like giving REAL permission, unlike some professionals who simpky state, 'I give you permission.'
The two aren't the same.
this resonated with me too, but in my particular situation I gained weight and the clothes don't fit anymore. I'd happily wear them, but they don't fit anymore. It's not that I don't like them. So it's not something to simply trash. And I don't have time to sell them. And I don't have the guarantee of tomorrow and I am thinking that I might get so poor that one day I might need to sell those clothes. I believe that throwing good things away it's a sin that will come and get you at some point.
@@globalmuffin2 Letting go of something doesn't have to mean turning it into trash (I agree, that should always be the last choice).
Would it be an option for you to donate?
Another idea: in my friend group we organise clothing swap parties. That way, you get to see how happy someone else is with your item, and how good/'right' it looks on them. It makes it so much easier to let go - fun even! And perhaps you'll find something beautiful that suits you as you are now.
Clothing swaps also really helped me with my fear of 'maybe not having enough' in the future. If it's really hard to part with something, you can always agree that you can ask it back if you have any regrets later (my experience: you won't! but the idea of 'just trying it out for now' helps). And lastly - it's really fun to have an adult dressing up party, trying on weird combinations or things you'd usually never wear, giving each other compliments and advice, etc :)
@@CeciliasMuse i've seen a documentary where not even third world countries accept our crap anymore, too many clothes are purged there and they can't absorb all those clothes.
as about swapping, it is unhygienic and always some (the gutty ones) will get the good things and others (the weak ones) will just politely say that it's fine with what they've gotten. been through that, didn't work well.
the only solution is to alter the clothes that you already have, instead of buying new ones. and for this you need to not throw away almost anything, since clothes that don't fit anymore (are too small) can be fixed (enlarged) with the fabric from the clothes that you are certain that you won't wear again. you can also make bags and other things from pieces of fabric sewn together. i have such a bag which looks awesome. minimalism as throwing things away is a very bad concept. throwing things away is waste. this is not how we'll save the planet or the human species, but taking advantage of our creative mind and hands. we as a species throw away too much, too fast, this is our problem actually.
I was so scared to get rid of things in the beginning because "what if" but after I started making space to breathe I realized I had very little that I valued over that calm space. After bags and piles and countless trips to goodwill I can barely remember what was in any of those decluttering piles. I shutter when I see those pictures of before the purges and I realize I was drowning in things that held so much guilt and clutter in my mind always
I love your expression of how you felt you were drowning in your things. So powerful! Keep growing and learning!!
Isn't it amazing how we have a hard time remembering what we just donated? Rarely do I regret giving something away. Funny story though. I donated some things one day. During the next week or so, my son went to the place I donated to. He found this cute little vase and surprised me for my birthday. We all had a good laugh when I told him that was the same vase I had donated! I now have it on my shelf, and will probably always keep it. Somehow it was meant to come back to me.
I know how you feel. I got rid of alot of stuff that I got from Trade Shows, Books, and the like. I did it because I felt good about knowing how I got it through hard work and the like. I wasn't a Hoarder mind you but with less, I feel more relaxed.
I'm starting today. I'm definitely need a calm space.
Yea, any stuff i declutter cant be connected to any already got or not wanna let it go lol. so i check and think what it connects any or do i value it any to really wanna keep it any. and slow i let it go for space and less crap to move any. besides try combine box, bins, or bags to have less to move or less to carry any. all gotta be able put in to something so less around to deal with any.
It really struck me when you said that stuff and things don't have hands. They are not holding onto us. We are the ones with the tight grip. Exactly!
Absolutely! When we start to think like this it really changes our perspective on stuff!
*more stuff = more stress*
I’m trying to live in peace. Anything that doesn’t feed that peace, has got to go ✨👋🏼
I love it! Maintaining your own peace is so important! Keep growing on your journey!
@@RonaldLBanks thanks for the wisdom Ronald 🙏🏼
Dump the guilt and Learn to uncommit resonated with me.
"Declutter as you live" - needed this
So glad I could share this with you Danielle! 🙌🏾
the part that resonated the most with me was "If something does not add value to your life, then don't give it the privilege of entering your life". I think this isn't just true of stuff and things, but the people we hang out with and activities we participate in too. Just as you said in your point about "dump the guilt", the time and energy that we choose to give is valuable and should be applying this to all aspects of life, not just physical stuff.
Great video~!
Thank you so much Alejandra! I’m really happy this resonated with you.
I can’t relate cuz we don’t have to see person by value, thats totally different between people and a thing. Evaluate person by value make u narrow minded :( when someone befriend with u cuz your value u must feel hurt
@@hesti-chii3773 add value= positive impact. We can declutter material items as well as toxic relationships, negative thought patterns, bad habits.
@@11Renee11 yeah now i know, disbelief how our mind can change in one year haha
Sitting here at 4:30 am and you have opened my eyes. You have given a name to so many of my excuses.
The guilt has been my strongest prisoner. I am holding on to things because I paid so much for them and friends and family tell me that I would be crazy to let them go. At least once a week, I look at my unloved and unnecessary pieces of furniture and realize that I do not love, need, or want them. I keep telling myself that I cannot just give them away for free. Your calm, yet power packed advice is just what I needed to hear. This helped me to realize that I am still paying for them. My mind is made up. I don't have to ask permission. I am the owner. I will be donating all of these things to a family that needs them. Just the thought of this makes me feel free.
I am now a subscriber and I am going to share you with all of my family and friends.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
What has been the most eye opening for me is that the more I let go, the easier it becomes and the more things I find that I really don't need.
What spoke to me is - stop holding on to something you paid a lot for because by holding on to it I am continuing to pay for it.
Sell it and get some money back, consider it rental money.
I’m so overwhelmed. Years of overspending on things I didn’t need has built up such clutter in my mind and living space. This motivates me to own less, but it will be a lot of work to get rid of things and organize…
I like that "declutter as you go"! You're the first minimalist that I've heard suggest that. So much less intimidating to get you started on the right path than cleaning out your whole house at once.
Ronald, it's self-disciplined, self-controlled, and thoughtful adults, such as you, that fill me with hope for the future of civilization.
*"You have paid enough."* Needed this. 💜
I’m really happy this resonated with you!
I live with the very popular thought of “does it bring you joy? does it make you happy?” and the problem is, pretty much all of my stuff does. I love videos like these bc they help me get rid of what I really don’t want/need anymore but with what’s left over I’m still considered a maximalist. I’ve just learned to accept it and be conscious in it all
Brilliant, Ronald! Never heard it explained the way you did in your third point. Something clicked with me when you said you’re still paying for unused items with your time, space and emotions. Thank you for this thought-provoking video
I’m happy I had an opportunity to share this with you DeAnn! Definitely glad it resonated with you!
Great vid. I am now decluttered and reorganized and MUCH happier in my 600 square feet! NEVER GOING BACK.
“Everything you've ever wanted is sitting on the other side of fear.” Sharing some positivity with all of you. Keep smiling you are amazing.
Wow...this quote is everything! TFS
Decluttering as you live really resonated with me! I feel like there is pressure to do a purge, but sometimes items are useful as life changes! Or taking time to find the right home for an item. I replaced the dining table in my home because it was much too big for myself living alone. I haven't posted the old one for sale yet but turns out, my friend just bought a new home and needs furniture. He is happily taking the table when he gets the keys to his home!
Doing the same with a sofa I don’t need, a friend needs it for her children
Have I found a truly profound minimalism channel?! Might be ☺️ Loved the clarity in these thought processes. This is exactly what we need in the world right now.
Thank you so much Anni! I’m glad you found value in this. I hope you continue to find value in my content going forward! Keep growing and learning!
The "dump the guilt" section really spoke to me. I've got a bad tendency to tell myself I'll sell some stuff I don't need because it'd probably be worth something to someone. However, I never get around to it. I'm just paying for it with my space. I'd never thought of it that way. Thanks, Ronald.
When I moved to my new home I got rid of so much clutter I donated so much things I didn't want anymore. I only have a few handfuls of things that I don't plan to get rid of, but these things don't feel like a weight for me. But I love the sense of space and clarity so I can appreciate what I do have. Thank you for this video
“Declutter as you live”. Yes! ❤️
Hello Ronald, As one who does not have the gift of being naturally organized, I really appreciate your tips. I also SUPER appreciate your calm, soothing, encouraging voice and your pacing. So many other you tubers talk so fast, so high pitched and so sharply that I turn them off. When they talk too fast I can't grasp each idea they share
in my head, and when their voices are so choppy, high pitched and overly excited I get a headache listening to their jabber. I also like that you don't lay guilt trips on us. Instead you try to inspire & show the positive outcomes & feelings that we can get from having less clutter and stuff. Definitely a suscriber for you!
YOU are one of the best out there, for sure! 😊☮
I truly appreciate your kind words thank you so much! I’m glad my content is helping you and providing value that you can implement in your life. Keep growing and learning!
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This has hit home big time. Letting go of the burden of carrying all my family’s pictures, heirlooms. Finding what is most important and letting go of the rest is so freeing! Thank you!
Space is more precious to me than stuff.
Uncluttered looking space is nicer.
Stuff owns us.
In life....travel light.
You'll save lots of money.
I really like the way this man speaks. He is well spoken, articulate and has a pleasant rhythm in the way he speaks. Good content too
yup!
This is the first video of yours I've seen and I'm just so immediately captivated. You speak so calmly and concisely, everything is to the point but explained so well. So calming and reassuring. I love it instantly
Thank you so much!! 🙌🏾 I’m really glad that you enjoyed this and I hope you continue to find value in the rest of my content!
Same
Thank you for taking time to explain the emotional cost of collecting too many things. Things begin to own us after awhile.
So many wise words! It was a pleasure watching, thank you so much for this video! :)
This is the best video I have watched for owning less/decluttering/minimalist mindsets. So many beautiful quotes to take away and reframe how you view items in your life. I like that you broke down so many psychological ways people look at their items which holds them back from being free of them.
Also this is very well edited - it was so peaceful and clean to watch!
Thank you so much! I’m really happy that you enjoyed this! 🙌🏾
I started doing this in the ʻ90s when the "simplicity" books started coming out. I had a busy, cluttered "country kitchen" and country style decor -- and out it had to go, most of it. I keep doing it for the next area of my life where I buy too much or store too much. Constant process. For me, decluttering "on the exterior" is symbolic of whatʻs going on inside me. When I purge "outside" Iʻm also doing a big purge within. Itʻs easy for me, now, to let go of stuff I only recently paid a lot of money for. I think itʻs partly genetic. My mom simply could not, would not, let go of anything.
Perhaps not 'genetic', but definitely 'inherited'! My Mom grew up during the Great Depression, so the "fear of lack" was strong with her, and that's how I learned to be. UnLearning, now!
Hi how are you doing?
Learning to uncommit is something we're not taught when we're young. I've slowly been improving in this area as I've tossed old unfinished projects.
I been watching you since last fall and I’ve gotten so far about 60% of my stuff is gone now. I still have more to go but I look back at photos when I first started watching you and I can’t believe how cluttered and messy I used to be !! You are so inspiring I love your videos 🖤 this is a journey not a weekend clean up!
Definitely not a weekend clean up at all! I love that you’re making a ton of progress! Keep growing and learning. If you have any questions don’t hesitate to ask!
Donate to a thrift store you help a lot of folks that way families starting out kids buying for school etc
I started my minimalism journey right after I saw the marie kondo series. It changed my life. I aspire to live with less since then. Its such a beautiful concept, to be grateful for the things you do own, and be content. Im teaching my sons this and its going great. Im still a work in progress but so far, so good. 🥰
I love what you said about "If something doesn't add value to your life, then don't give it the privilege of entering your life". Those are such powerful words. I really tugged at my heart and made me reflect on my current situation. The things you say isn't just about being a minimalist, but living with intention, clarity, and purpose. I love it!
need to listen to dump the guilt over and over. this is truly what is holding me back
7:40 As a disabled person, I like this! The way you put this is way more inclusive of disabled people than a lot of minimalist takes are. Props!!
Ever since downsizing I own more in the categories that I love! Art supplies is my number one. And I use my things in this category every day now because all the stuff that used to be in the way is gone! Now I only declutter to maintain and it's easy and habit I love it
Dont Get me wrong I’m not done downsizing. Not by a long shot. I’ve lived now with the amount I have for a few years, and I’m ready for round 2. Many many things I have I haven’t really used enough and can let go now that time has had the opportunity to test their value
Great comment that our things are not emotionally attached to us, it's us that is attached to them. A good reminder to take the power back and let go of what no longer adding to our life.
Yes! We have to remember that we’re the one holding on to it, not the other way around. Keep growing on your journey!!
Dump the guilt - well said ☺ I often catch myself feeling this way, but I do overcome this struggle
Every time I think of something that I decluttered and want to wish it back, I remember how much joy it must be bringing to someone else and I know I don't need it. It's starting to actually give me pleasant thoughts rather than regrets! Your help is strategic! Keep up the perfect content!
I literally have never regreted anything I let go of.
It’s like you knew I needed to hear these things. I have too much stuff. I want to get rid of it. Just the thought is overwhelming and I’ll put it off for another day. Time to take back my space. Thank you.
I really like your interpretation of aspiring towards minimalism especially when you make the point of loosening our grip because we are the ones holding on.
Wow, you're an incredible speaker. You were super easy to pay attention to!!! I have a hard time paying attention to helpful youtubers but listening to you was effortless, and it made it that much easier to envision what you were saying in my life.
after getting my first job I started buying a lot of stuff (mostly fan merchandise) that I never got to buy as a teenager - after a year of this I've realised that these are just temporary obsessions I have, and once the feeling of enthusiasm and novelty fades, I lose interest in the merchandise. This has really helped me be clear about what to spend on and I'm quite happy that I've slowed down a lot on spending for fun after having 'tried' all of these purchases. Love what you said about decluttering being a journey.
Love your calmness and that you put so much focus on the spiritual/psychological aspect of decluttering! Was looking for a guide in this and found him! Great videos man, keep it up!
I have figured out why I wanted more. Why it got in the way of me being comfortable with owning less.
I was more comfortable with less. So now the work is me figuring out why I sometimes fall into wanting more things for no good reason. It may be enough for me to just know I like owning less. (Gate keeping moment) Thank you.
Wow, I watch a lot of these kind of videos but this one had particularly good production value and was well organized. In an area where cliches are super common, this video stands out for its authenticity. Great job!
Thank you so much! I really appreciate! I’m glad you enjoyed this as well!
I have come to realise that luxury for me would be owning a lot less stuff. My #1 question is 'would I buy this item again?' Way to work Skillshare into the main video! Kudos!
“Would I buy this again?” I love that!! Keep growing on your journey Jeannette and thank you!
wonderfully articulated with warmth
Thank you!
The want less section really resonated with me! Even thought at this time in my life minimalism is not for me, I am looking into minimizing and I can definitely buy the gratitude perspective to help change my habits and my outlook on life and things.
I like how you can listen to your videos as well as watch them.
I’m just starting and the hard part was letting go of my clothes and shoes from my cluttered wardrobe but you are so right it wasn’t doing me any good keeping the clutter and once I finally got rid of most I felt so much better so now the ball is rolling and I think my next steps won’t be as hard xxx
My shoes were all brittle and cracked. All the plastic/vinyl parts were destroyed. There was nothing to keep. All I have now are boots, sneakers, & 1 pair of sandals. Shoes don't keep.
Great video! Dumping the guilt was the hardest part for me at the beginning of my journey, but now, I understand the emotional baggage stuff has, and I am quick to let go of anything that brings me negative feelings.
I love that you’ve reached this point on your journey! Paying attention to those negative feelings is a powerful thing and can really help you let go. Keep growing and learning on your journey!
@@RonaldLBanks Thank you! I wish you the same... continuous growth and learning. The more space we create in our lives, the more room we have to grow and learn!
Wow this got so real so fast and it makes me so happy even though it's hard to hear! "We can't want less unless until we fully understand why we tend to want more." Daaaamnnnnn so true.
Perfect timing! I've been going through a decluttering phase and at the same time, I'm also learning not to fill up all that space I've created by buying MORE stuff to fill that empty space. It's a process - this is where the "letting go" mindset comes in. Great video, Ronald!
I’m glad you enjoyed this Jaime! I’m also glad I had an opportunity to share this with you. Keep growing and learning on your journey!
Thank you so much! I recently went through a spending spree. So your first tip hit home. I was getting stuff instead of making the time to create new things. I’ll never be a minimalist, but the more I crave beauty in my surroundings the more I realize that it needs room to shine.
Every one of your ten points resonated with me. Very very helpful. I think perhaps this is the best video I've seen about "decluttering", coming at the topic from angle: mindset. Thank you!
Thank you Wesley! I truly appreciate it and I’m happy that you enjoyed this as well!
The ‘sunken cost fallacy’ can be used for anything. Not just items. Say your job: you’ve spent so much time working for that company and have gotten so far within it, yet you hate it. But you think “I might as well not loose everything I’ve worked for and stay”
But you’d be happy at another even if you started lower on the podium.
I like his message. His calm direct to the point manor.
I have to say, this is the smartest way I have ever seen someone incorporate their sponsor into their video content ;)
Yeah. It just blends in seamlessly and doesn't seem like a forced ad. And his voice is calming too.
Prob not related to the video’s content but..he speaks so nice. Not too fast, nor too slow- just right. Just right that it keeps your attention. Like the kind you hear in meditation videos
The want less is such a smack oneself upside the head 'ah ha' idea! And thank you for stressing 'dump the guilt'!
Gratitude is so important 😊
I clicked on your video because you are a man in a sea of women making decluttering videos, haha. You have such a nice quality about you, and the content was beyond practicality - it was pure wisdom :) Thank you for sharing your tips! I found them all useful, as a whole. I kinda tend to realize what hit me most, later on down the line, lol.
I’m glad you’re enjoying my content! Thank you! 🙌🏾
The Endowment Effect is a really good angle on explaining a main reason people hang onto things. When I help a friend who is drowning in things, she often feels the need to come up with a “defense,” I think just because she owns it, not because she uses it or is really glad to have it. Another good question is, “If I didn’t already own this, would I buy it?”
Amen! I have arrived. A combination of my faith in Jesus & of embracing minimalism. This was exceptional. Love your channel...organized, thoughtful, and wisdom- filled. And the delivery has just the right amount of enthusiasm, energy, and empathy. It also helps that your voice is like that of a motivational speaker/poet.
Well done, Mr. Banks! Be blessed.
Thoroughly enjoyed this. Been working on decluttering as we live for a year now. My goodness we packed so many things into this house!
I love that you’re making progress on your journey Anna! Keep growing!
@@RonaldLBanks thank you. Every but counts hehe. Thank you
You're one of the best content creators/speakers I know! All your videos are straightforward and easy to understand. Thank you!
Not gonna lie this may be one of the best videos about minimalism that I have ever come across! Thanks for your insight!
Thank you no much Isaiah! I’m really happy this resonated with you! 🙌🏾
What a breath of fresh air. Ironically the guilt topic reminded me of when I was young, and relatives bought me stuffed animals- I had a huge net that I kept them in and never touched. I had a lot of guilt for thinking of getting rid of them for years. Must of been 15 by the time I finally let them go lol
A great tip …. Keep an open shopping bag in your closet. As you find clothes you want to donate, drop it in the bag til full. Then donate.
Omg. I love your voice and tips you gave. I discovered about minimalism when I was 15 or 16 and started to think more about the stuffs I buy, although sometimes I spend too much as well.
I'm decluttering my room again when I watch your video because it's been long time since someone last told me about minimalism. Thank you
I sometimes still make impulse purchases, and almost EVERY time, I regret it in about two days. Thanks for these reminders! This is my first time here - seems like a great channel. :)
Still here in September. Caught me mid tidying and I picked up these old, paint all over, aglets falling off pair of Nike sweatpants... Bruh I cant lie I folded that put that at the back of my wardrobe and called it. Its 7pm in London, but come 8:30am I'm bringing this baby to the charity shop to get donated. Thanks for the spark
Such thoughtful and practical advice, thank you! My 7 month old baby loves your voice by the way 😂🥰
5:20 The best segue to sponsored content of all time
Have less storage! The less place you have to put it, the more you trim the fat. When I discovered more storage I found ways to fill it.
I will declutter as I live because I want to be more present for myself and for my children.
Thank you for sharing this. I saved it as a reminder if ever I get side tracked.
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#4 is so profound. We are the ones with the tight grip...
Every time I watch your videos, I declutter my closet...every...single...time!
That’s awesome! Make progress every day. I’m excited for you!
Thank you Brother! The guilt has definitely has me suck because I spent so much money on things that I don't like or need...wise words
Love your videos! Watching from Argentina, when I moved from the states with two kids I only moved with six suitcases. I try really hard not to buy stuff! We eventually will leave and my goal is to leave with six suitcases!!
Lol. I left home with 2 suitcases and 4 boxes! I'd love to get down to that.
I live in Argentina and asked two of my nephews that went to live to Canada and the States how much did they take with them: a medium case and a backpack. What about childhood mementoes: photographs in their iPads.
Mr. Banks, I am just now discovering you, and I deeply appreciate your wisdom. You have given me so much to reflect on! The big ah-ha came from you Essentialism section: "How much would I pay for this now?" Such a simple question, but yet offers so much clarity! Thank you for sharing.
Wonderful example of the duplicate step.... I have 3 sets of measuring spoons and cups. Because that allows me to cook with both of my kids at the same time. We don't use them all, all of the time now, but my oldest will be 18 in about 5 months, so they will be downsized as they move out.
No introduction, thank you so much!
This video was amazing - thanks as always, Ron!
Thanks for watching Christina! I’m glad you enjoyed this!
I can relate to everything in this video. Very well said and concise. I could watch this one over and over!
I appreciate you watching my friend! Thank you! I’m happy you found value in this as well!
I've watched a dozen+ videos on different paths to minimalism but yours was a refreshing new view that addresses the hardest aspect of such a shift: the emotional hold. Thank you for this video.
I liked the explanation of how things do not have hands to grip us. That we are the ones grasping and gripping. Not a thing we let go of calls out to us and says, “don’t let me go”. 😅
Everything you buy should serve a purpose.
Absolutely!! Thanks for calling this out in this way!
Designer William Morris said something like have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful.
Always Brilliant 💚 for me it's giving up gifts and things I've gotten from family members...
"If something doesn't add value to your life, don't give it the privilege of entering your life." 👏
Uncommit - nice point!
This video is extremely insightful. Clear, and concise. Thank you. 👏🏿
Your voice is so calming.
I was brought up by people who survived the Great Depression and War Rationing. The underlying message is keep everything--you or someone you know might need it. I find it hard to overcome that.
thanks - such an easy to watch and listen to video! Letting go by loosening my grip was a revelation - brilliant - now subscribed . . . xx