“Nice Girls” Finish Last! - How To Stop People Pleasing & Start Being “Selfish”

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  • čas přidán 5. 09. 2024

Komentáře • 48

  • @ayanime_edem
    @ayanime_edem  Před 5 měsíci +23

    I’m sorry I’m being a burden, becomes thank you for being supportive
    I’m sorry I can’t help you, becomes thank you for understanding I can’t help right now
    You can add yours and “thank you” for watching 🤍

  • @merrymatthews5696
    @merrymatthews5696 Před měsícem +11

    The most helpful advice was replacing Sorry with Thank you game changer.

  • @starlightltd
    @starlightltd Před 5 měsíci +26

    For me it was over commiting to friends, family and others until I was burnt. Well, I noticed this and start learning how to say No to people. I am glad that I am fully committed to prioritizing myself now, it wasn't easy but I worked on it intentionally. Thank you❤

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  Před 5 měsíci +2

      I’m glad you were intentional about it 🤍

  • @ijay_achinike
    @ijay_achinike Před 18 dny +5

    Wow, so much value!!!...I love when you said, "it is not your responsibility to manage people's emotions"!!!

  • @YvetteKayee
    @YvetteKayee Před 4 měsíci +21

    Your videos are very insightful! My focus for 2024 has been reinventing myself and elevating my mindset. As the eldest daughters of an African household i’ve been functioning wayyyy in my masculine energy and it has not work in my advantage further in life. So now i’m finding ways to be more feminine. I’m glad i’ve found your page you share very useful information ❤️

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  Před 4 měsíci +2

      Wonderful! I’m glad to have you here beautiful 🤍

    • @YvetteKayee
      @YvetteKayee Před měsícem

      @ProlificLuluthanks love❤

    • @Xo_Jeanette
      @Xo_Jeanette Před měsícem

      Same here sis
      I’m glad I found this channel❤

    • @Xo_Jeanette
      @Xo_Jeanette Před měsícem

      Thank you so much for this insightful video ❤

  • @OffTheCuff.Original
    @OffTheCuff.Original Před 9 dny +1

    I'm so glad i stumbled on your page.
    I was a people pleaser until very recently,
    I'm gradually moving out of that zone
    A lot of people don't like it
    And I've stepped on several toes in the process
    But, I've been happier

  • @AnimsoniaKah-se6vr
    @AnimsoniaKah-se6vr Před měsícem +9

    For me, it was over apologizing..

  • @NonyeNwandu
    @NonyeNwandu Před 4 měsíci +6

    This ‘I’m sorry’ is one I’m currently battling with cause I always said it as a way of being polite or showing concern/ empathy to others in challenging situations…. But I’ve come to see that it’s not the right usage for it when I started meeting more people from other races

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  Před 4 měsíci +2

      Now that you’ve set the intention to stop, different situations will come up to help you do that, so watch out for those situations and use them for practice. If you make a mistake, forgive yourself quickly and look out for the next time 🤍

  • @baisinbu98
    @baisinbu98 Před 5 měsíci +7

    I needed the reminders raised in this video. I am still working on this and sometimes when caught unawares, I still fail myself which annoys me. But work in progress… Thanks Ayanime!!

  • @user-eu3tz5bs3m
    @user-eu3tz5bs3m Před měsícem +4

    I love this content i see one habit i have and it's others opinion before i act.I want change that.

  • @user-li4rq3pi5r
    @user-li4rq3pi5r Před 5 měsíci +7

    U are the best thing that has happened to me thank u so much ma ,
    U have help me in so much ways like a big sis I never had 😢 spiritually physically thank you so much more

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  Před 5 měsíci +3

      I'm so glad! I’m right here cheering you on one video at a time 🤍

  • @LynAllure
    @LynAllure Před 4 měsíci +5

    Everything about this was so spot on! New sub or 🙋🏾‍♀️💕

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  Před 4 měsíci +1

      Yay! I’m glad to have you here 🤍

  • @splendydom
    @splendydom Před měsícem +1

    Ayenime has shot me right left and center.😂 all point is me and I'm really trying hard to stop all this. Thank you.

  • @mimiipaul
    @mimiipaul Před 9 dny

    Just Learnt to say No yay! So help me God!😢❤😂

  • @ajohonly3721
    @ajohonly3721 Před 13 dny

    Thank you for waiting for me.
    I really like this this tip thanks sis.

  • @marylusenie3970
    @marylusenie3970 Před 11 dny

    For me saying “NO”. But working on it bit by bit

  • @ifeomaaaaaaaa
    @ifeomaaaaaaaa Před 5 měsíci +3

    "The Intentional woman" love the new name ma'am.....#theintentionalgang#

  • @shalomakaelu
    @shalomakaelu Před 5 měsíci +5

    Hi Ayanime. You changed the name of your channel. Love it!😊

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  Před 5 měsíci +2

      Yes I did… I made a post about it. I’m guessing you didn’t see it. I love it too 🤍

  • @gracetojourney5674
    @gracetojourney5674 Před 4 dny

    Ayanime I love youuuuu❤❤❤

  • @ShiyghanNyuysiysi
    @ShiyghanNyuysiysi Před 28 dny +1

    I just clink on a link on someone statues and here IAM.
    It's was like your talking to me I almost shouted" prophesy"
    I fall in all categories
    I really need to fix this
    If you can then I will
    God help me as I work on it

  • @Joan1able
    @Joan1able Před měsícem +2

    I got boundaries down to a science😅🎉

  • @FavourDaleon
    @FavourDaleon Před 26 dny

    😅😅
    I have been watching your videos for a while now, but I am a stubborn person who finds it difficult to subscribe and like posts, but my God, this video deserves to be subscribed to and liked.e.
    I recently made the decision to start saying no, and I can assure you that it is not funny. I am still working on getting my sister to forgive me for turning her down when she asked for my assistance with something because i wasn't fit..
    😊😊😊
    Thanks so much ma...

  • @bellasperfumediaries
    @bellasperfumediaries Před 5 měsíci +3

    Loved this video so much. Thank you❤

  • @user-sw6dd2cv1u
    @user-sw6dd2cv1u Před 5 měsíci +1

    I'm so glad I found this channel! Thank you for your advice! 🙏🏾

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  Před 5 měsíci +1

      And I’m glad to have you here! 🤍

  • @BrittneyK2
    @BrittneyK2 Před 24 dny

    Love this video! I appreciate you for creating it 🫶🏾

  • @wanjawanjuguna
    @wanjawanjuguna Před měsícem +1

    🎉love love

  • @millicentamoahgyan8681

    I wish l met you earlier ❤

  • @lydiasparky
    @lydiasparky Před měsícem

    I will start mine now 😮

  • @merrymatthews5696
    @merrymatthews5696 Před měsícem

    Yesssssssssss thank you!

  • @lavieestbelle6068
    @lavieestbelle6068 Před 20 dny

    How do I find the right wig for my face?

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  Před 13 dny

      I'm sure you can find resources online especially Pinterest

  • @solaowoborode9849
    @solaowoborode9849 Před měsícem

    ❤❤