Become Indifferent by What They Do ---- Part 1
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I recall a time in my early 20's where I was unemployed and my sense of time was so lost. I could not recall so many details. It felt like that song Desperado, hard to tell the night times from the day.
When I went to college and back to work, my sense of time snapped back in form. Regular exercise now is such a strong component of my health. In some senses it feels like occupational therapy, improving bone density and muscle strength. There's definitely a mind/body connection that is enhanced through exercise.
It felt pretty good to bench press 292 lbs. at 49 years of age in 2019. I bench pressed 305 lbs. at 47 years of age in 2016. And I got stronger in my 50’s.
GOD KNOWS HOW MUCH I NEEDED THIS TODAY BLESS YOU
I’ve learned a lot from you! Thank you so much.
I’m taking my power back, standing up for myself and thinking about Me…..
He doesn’t like it!! But I don’t care.
Stephanie, I can't thank you enough for these videos. In one you did a while ago, you brought up "growing a pair". When I heard that, I almost drove off the road laughing! My Narcissist wife dismissed me, and you videos have helped me to start healing. Again, thanks!!!
I know how that feels! Being dismissed like you didn't matter or exist sucks!
@@jackidezell3401 Jacki...yes it does, but it was a blessing that she wants a divorce...I can focus on me ...
Sometimes you just have to keep it real 🤣
@@StephanieLynCoaching Wauw Steph, do you see the magnitude of the ripple you create in this world?!? Its truely amazing and although it was already said/written here, i wanna emphasize once more how important your work is. Speaking about walking in Gods purpose ❤ thank you eternally! ❤
I just went through the same. Still healing 🥴😌😇
I love ❤️🐎 your analogy about getting back up on the horse after falling! Thank you so much! That’s what we must do! 🐎
You are amazing!!! You have no idea how many people you are helping Stephanie!!! ❤️❤️❤️ And I’m a social worker! 😉
😊 I love what I do!
My coworker is a bully. I really needed this today.
omg i love that you talked about physical health too. it’s so important and makes a difference when dealing with someone like this
Can't wait for part 2.... can you give tips on what to do. Especially if being affected physically I.e sweating, panic attacks, anger etc
Just getting out of a very abusive relationship.Your videos are helping me thanku
How can you not take personally when it’s always directed at you no one else in the room
Genuinely not care what they think of you... it's a habit one has to form. I'm still working at this
Do exactly what Stephanie is saying!!!!! Exercise and read good affirmations about yourself!!! Write goals down and fall in love with yourself so when someone comes at you with bs you know its bs because you know yourself and you like yourself
@@justmenonya932 your right, thank you….it’s a lot of work to change the thinking patterns after but I think I’m getting there!
Great suggestions for a great question. I’d also add this. Their tactics begin to look pathetic and see-through and even complimentary once you recognize what theyre doing. You wouldn’t be the only person in the room they targeted if they didn’t see there’s something very special about you. These people love to bring those they see as above them down a notch.
The only time I think of my former bff is when the flying monkeys come attacking. They come with the EXACT talking points of la Grande Narc.
Thanks Stephanie 💕 I look forward to these videos so much! I'm on my spiritual journey feeling better each week ✨️
Love it!!
Your gentle confidence is soooo helpful! Thanks Stephanie!!
Thank you. My new therapist wants to know what I want to work on. This video answers that question.
Boom!
Thanks for this Stephanie. Happy Tuesday my friend, I appreciate you. I will apply all of this and try to not let others get to me and bring me down.
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Yes , we have to be our own cheerleaders 🎉
Thanks for this Stephanie, it came at the right time! I love all your videos btw. Your wisdom is very assuring
Stephanie, your videos give such great insight!
thank you!
Thank you for all your help. You saved my life.
It’s been 5 months of No Contact since the narc left me for new supply. I just seen her yesterday at a restaurant we use to go to. Funny I walk up in line behind her (of course) I realized it’s her and just stayed to get my food and hope she wouldn’t turn around.
She did and said “Hi___!” In a tone I haven’t heard since we first dated. I looked at her for 1 sec enough to half smile mouth hello ( I couldn’t even give her enough energy to say hello) and immediately looked down to the doggie as she came up to sniff the ex said “you want to say hi” to her dog and I never petted the dog or look back at the narc then the narc just walked out.
Funniest part was when I realized she forgot her new supply she left me for at the register, and didn’t even walk over to stand with him. Also funny she was standing about 15-20 feet away from him to begin with.
This advice is perfect! Thank you for your incredible help and support.
I’m so glad to help!!! 🤩🤩🤩
@@StephanieLynCoaching Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
my my
thanks for the facts truth and wisdom
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Thank you Steph, love your valuable insight ❤
Thank you!
Thankyou . Makes sense . Took years to learn this
U look so pretty Stephanie ❤🌹
Thanku .....new subscriber from South Africa 🇿🇦
I always watch every one of your videos to show my support for your channel. Thank you for all your help and information.
Oh thank you!!! 🥹
Best part of the video : Stefanie smiling 😊 and laughing 😆
Did anyone else hear the sound of that arrow hitting the bullseye?
Thanks 🙏
Thank you Stephanie!
your videos help me a lot on so many levels in my life right now
as you said on another video, knowledge is crucial in healing so I’m glad to be here learning how to feel better everyday 🙏
Thank you! 💜
Oh wow thank you me i have to put myself first i dont know how to do that thank you so much for this so much needed for me
Thank you for your video. It's always such a thrill to learn something new from someone with such an extensive knowledge base!
Thank you love your videos 😍
Thanks
I’m loving this hair color ! What color is it so I can tell my stylist to do it like that ?
Thanks Stephanie
On 🎯
Thank you
I agree. Ty Stef!
.thank you. Your Smart my dear
I'm the one who seems to be I'm chaos according to my husband. He had multiple affairs and has gaslighted me, emotionally abused me and isn't pursuing recovery for porn, and other illicit photos Not to mention the affairs.
I get so angry or so sad because of the heartbreak and then he says he can't handle it and wants me to leave so I can grow. I feel like it's completely unfair. I do have my own childhood stuff I have to face. I feel like a caged dog who is being poked at and then told I'm the bad one. Any suggestions? I'm learning but I'm hurting so much and he keeps going back to his affair partner saying that I can't hold space for him. Maybe it's just time to leave
Dont mention it just begin
“A prudent person foresees the danger ahead and takes precautions. The simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences.”
Hi Stephanie thank you for this 🧡Looking forward to next week this is such a huge topic for people ❤
I am posting it on Friday ❣
I let someone back in my life..Big mistake!!
Same crap different battle..being alone does wonders
Amen 🙌🏽 same here allowed someone back to do the same!!! Healing is key 🙏🏼
I think I was the first one here.
stephanie can you link some of the affirmation videos that you think are good? i want to listen to more but dont know where to find them. also your videos are so helpful thank u so much
Do you have any content/tip for military folks transitioning out of military?
How do I parent my 5 year old son and still live with me ex who is a narcissist? After almost 12 years together and just building a new house together, she decided to sleep with another guy and is going on as if she has done nothing wrong. I want to live with my son but it’s so difficult watching her coming and going with other men (there have been at least 2 in the past 8 months). She won’t move out and I don’t want to leave my son so how do I learn to not care about what she’s doing to stay for my son?
How awful! I’m so sorry! 🙏
THERE ARE 2 KINDA HELLS
* One made by perfidius people... always "dispetti"/translate it
* And another one created by "magic addicted people"
SOMETIMES THE 2 BECOME THE SAME
* TIpical of people full of vices
* And u understand it from this:
- Who is the best parent? Mum or dad
- Why? cuz he/she vices me
- When i do some, he/she take consequences
- Otherwise my brother/sister and so on
- They become horny and social... cuz apparence and art of manipulation (what people wanna hear) cover all
- So they destroy others lifes
* And in my opinionion they must be out (in real life in my "easy confort life" they must be eliminated.. also in family= clipped, but u cant
* Cuz in reality one person destroy ur family, and people that sorround him/her= they cant stay without fuxx and fuxx others lifes= they destroy u to evaluate themselves... when they are at the same levels
* They understand it just with cruelty and hate= what they are made of, and they want others to become like them= OUT
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I need help leaving my marriage of 25 years. I feel like he’s a drug and can’t seem to leave him. He treats me bad and I’m tired of it🥺but can’t find the power to leave. I don’t want to be lonely and am scared of future by myself and 2 kids (. 9 year old and 15 year old)don’t have a job or a place to go. 😢
You are addicted. Trauma bonding causes a addiction that can be compared to a cocaine addiction. If you want to leave for real here are some tips that I can offer:
If you don't have a job, work through a temp agency to create some financial freedom. Also these temp jobs can lead to permanent work.
Talk to trusted family members, friends or coworkers (if you have a job) about your situation and tell them you wish to leave. They may know of places you can stay or can offer help in other ways.
I don't know what your 15 yr old is capable of but if they can, get them working part time. This way they are making money and can pay for things like their clothes, transportation etc. Even babysitting or a paper route can help them and you. If you don't want them working, get them to help with the 9 year old so it frees you up to work on looking for a place or working etc.
Contact hot lines or download apps that help with domestic abuse. Contact agencies in your area that deal with this sort of thing and start making a safe plan to leave.
I'm not a expert so this is all the advice I can give. I'm sorry about your situation and hope any of this helps. Please try hard to rid yourself of this person. You have one life to live and so do your children. They need a healthy happy Mom and environment.
Best wishes
Thank you for the advice 💕
Sorry, forgot to say: Bravo, Bravo, Bravo... Curiously enough, this is the last name of my narcissistic wife.
But then, there is the matter of pain. Hold onto the moments where you laugh because it accidentally rushes the lost oxygen back in.
Second!! 🤗
5+ years and counting
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I was a Jehovah's Witness for 20 years. Here are some resources for healing:
Bonnie Zieman
Reboot After Recovery From Trauma
Shunned A Survival Guide
Fading Out Of The JW Cult A Memoir
Cracking The Cult Code For Therapists
The Challenge To Heal After Leaving A High Control Group
Exiting The JW Cult A Healing Handbook
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My family of orgin was & is still extremely abusive/toxic/sadistic towards me to say the least & throw addiction & criminality in there meant severely unhealthy & i got involved with my baby daddy when i was jst 12-14 & he's a vulnerable narcissist & actually had my family join him in abusing me & that's been my life until recently when i accidentally stumbled across different youtube video's, most on narcissism & abuse, & suffice it to say the past 6 month's had my life literally saved by them all : finally had all the trauma & abuse recognized & broken down for me & i can say i finally felt seen & hearx regardless of who by & i am now able to associate with these people & not let myself feel anything except indifference & truly feel that way & although I've been in an off & on relationship with him for over 30 year's, i am no longer invested in him & our dynamic is different for i was so young when i got with him & my mother pushed me off on him so he was the one i attached with in a very unhealthy way & i am absolutely powerless to resist him, he can ghost me & i will go completely no contact & yet when he initiates it i can't say no so I'm working on that, am in therapy & these video's are my legit life saver & word's can't say how grateful i am how much i appreciate you & the other's for this life saving info/help/support there is from you guy's.
You are great! Thank you for your wise advice.
Thanks
Thank you