July Lowlights - surviving a LDR, facing hate on the internet... building more vulnerability! 🌟

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  • čas přidán 31. 07. 2020
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    0:08 why I’m sharing my monthly lowlights
    1:17 long distance relationship
    2:52 facing hate on the internet for the first time
    6:53 more hate threads on Reddit
    8:22 hard philosophical debates about my actions
    11:13 how I’ve grown from my lowlights this month
    12:05 what I learned about operating on the internet
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Komentáře • 170

  • @irisfu6929
    @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +28

    LET'S SHARE: *What have been your "lowlights" this month, and how have you grown?*

    • @bohuazhang9145
      @bohuazhang9145 Před 3 lety +4

      My "lowlights" would be how I sometimes get sad from not seeing all my friends and I have grown by ignoring the sadness and trying the find happiness in what I do everyday!

    • @SigilWen
      @SigilWen Před 3 lety +2

      Been through a slump since quarantine started. I haven't yet had a full day that I was satisfied with my state- I get caught up in different priorities, was pretty careless about my health, and sleep schedule was all over the place. I decided to reset starting August (Today lol), which involved completely changing my identity, and habits- kinda killing as much of my old self and leaving a blank pallet. Improving sleep, exercise, diet, productivity and other goodies. Your video inspired me to make a Lowlight vid talking about my slump which I hope to get out tomorrow. Been vlogging my struggles trying to break bad habits today and plan on doing it for at least 30 days. I was just about to go to sleep at 10 to wake up at 6 but saw ur video and got the motivation to reflect and draft out the video for tomorrow. You are such an inspiration. Never forget that :)

    • @sarai5400
      @sarai5400 Před 3 lety +1

      My “lowlight” has been getting over a one year break up. This guy was truly someone I thought I would forever be with but he broke up with me. He was someone who I was truly vulnerable with. I have grown through finding myself. I have realized that I put my identity through him and I haven’t developed through my self-esteem and haven’t strived as much as I have desired to. I am learning self-love and honestly, through your videos and with my family, I’m learning what I love to do. I have never felt more in touch with myself than I have for the past few weeks. You motivate me so much Iris, thank you so much.

    • @monicology
      @monicology Před 3 lety +1

      so happy here to have found your channel! iris look at you growwww omg!

  • @diegosuchenskiloustaunau9232

    Personally, I watch a lot of college CZcamsrs and you're by far the most straight forward and helpful honestly. I think people on reddit expect u to somehow revolutionize the system and only say things they want to hear, which is very unrelastic. You're going to STANFORD. People are intimidated by your intelligence and it says more about them than you. Keep doing what you're doing

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      Ahh Diego I appreciate this so much. Thank you 🙏❤️

  • @williamdiep6803
    @williamdiep6803 Před 3 lety +8

    You are so strong, Iris. Thank you so much for continuing to help me in the college application process with your videos. I am a rising senior and your videos constantly provide so much information on college admissions and how to increase my chances to get admitted to a top college. Thank you!

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      Thanks William for all the encouragement you’ve left on these videos since day 1! Good luck this college apps season 🙌🙌

  • @SigilWen
    @SigilWen Před 3 lety +20

    Thanks for showing vulnerability, being authentic and transparent about your problems! You are an inspiration. Keep slaying

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +2

      Thank you for all the support, Sigil! Really appreciate it

  • @sophiegeller7528
    @sophiegeller7528 Před 3 lety +12

    You are my favorite college youtuber and you have helped me so much through the college process. You are amazing! Don't worry about the haters!

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      Thanks Sophie!! Sending a big hug ❤️

  • @johnliu977
    @johnliu977 Před 3 lety +10

    Iris I literally can’t believe you’re getting hate. You’re one of the most determined, kind hearted bad bitches I follow on CZcams! You’re so helpful for rising seniors like me and you’re so awesome 😭❤️ keep making these videos, you’re too good for us we don’t deserve you 👏🏻

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      Omg John this is such a sweet message 🥺❤️ thanks I really really appreciate it! It’s messages like these that got me through the haters 🙌🙌

  • @Anna-lh9ob
    @Anna-lh9ob Před 3 lety +18

    I found the activities video to be really helpful. I thought it was clear that the video was about what activities are harder to stand out in for college admissions, but maybe changing the title could make it a little more clear that even if someone is doing these activities, they can still get into a top college, especially if it is an activity they are truly passionate about.

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      that's a great suggestion! I hope the follow-up video clarified some things too ❤️

  • @zacharyertengrass892
    @zacharyertengrass892 Před 3 lety +33

    Your mom is super wise. Reddit is filled with people who troll just for the sake of trolling.

  • @kalyanigarimella824
    @kalyanigarimella824 Před 3 lety +4

    Iris I just want to say you are the sweetest most pure human. You don't have to apologize for being so so incredibly hardworking. Always remember you have more than 7000 people who love you and care about you. PS it's Anjana using my mom's account lol

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      Ah thank you Anjana! Really appreciate the message and constant support ❤️

  • @springtimexxo
    @springtimexxo Před 3 lety +2

    hi iris! i'm a rising senior and love following your videos (ive been passing them along to my younger brother haha !) mostly because of how well-spoken, excited about helping others, and ambitious you are. your channel has been going so far and im rooting for you - the sky is the limit for ya :')

  • @paulinal8366
    @paulinal8366 Před 2 lety

    Also your intentions are always more important that what people disregarding disclaimers assume them to be! I believe you shouldn’t take the video down!! I was watching your content as an international applicant from Poland without a clue on how US college applications work, so I really appreciated the strategy you walked us through. For American applicants it’s more common to know some shortcuts and they might feel like those videos stress them out etc., but for us, internationals, it’s of the absolute value of gold! I got into Rice as an international student on a full financial aid and your videos helped me in the process A LOT! Now I’m after my first year and still coming back to your channel! ❤️

  • @fivestarsingh
    @fivestarsingh Před 3 lety +10

    They would never say that stuff to your face, that’s why they crawl into their reddit corner and complain. Keep doing great things!

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      😂 thanks Anmol! Also I love that profile pic - truly legendary

  • @paulinal8366
    @paulinal8366 Před 2 lety

    You are such a beautifully vulnerable and honest person!! Love the series!!

  • @emejay4631
    @emejay4631 Před 3 lety +5

    Iris is backkkk we love Iris😘😘🥰

  • @sakurablossoms3647
    @sakurablossoms3647 Před 3 lety +6

    Hey Iris, just wanted to say I love your content and you’re super helpful-please don’t stop making content because some haters say things like that. Thank you and stay strong!!

  • @mariorossi7149
    @mariorossi7149 Před 3 lety +1

    Yes, don't let haters put you down, you're and amazing girl that are doing amazing things, keep moving forward

  • @samanthaalejandre693
    @samanthaalejandre693 Před 3 lety +1

    Hi Iris, I just wanted to let you know how amazing I think you are!! I am a rising senior and I have been watching your videos for months and... I can not thank you enough!!! Thank you so much for all your help, you are really helping many people out!! You are such a wonderful person, so keep being yourself! Keep growing! I can't wait to be part of your journey!! Like Oooo, omg you are already accomplishing many great things and imagine in the future?! I feel an overwhelming bright future ahead! So yeah, keep being the strong person you are and always follow your passion!!! Thank you again and sorry I got a bit excited, idk if you are going to read this.

  • @camillekerani
    @camillekerani Před 3 lety

    I was just scrolling through applying to college and saw people talking about how you were getting hate so. Just here to say that you're awesome and my mom and I love your videos!

  • @hasdfwe
    @hasdfwe Před rokem

    i recently stumbled on your videos and just want to say i find them super interesting and informative. sorry to hear about the hate you've been receiving and hope you're doing well!

  • @vm421
    @vm421 Před 3 lety +3

    Hey, thanks so much for presenting the truth even if it's tough at times! You're right about how social media seems to be a place where everyone shares their highlights and not their "lowlights". We need this kind of transparency in the internet with everything going on! :) I hope the school's reopen safely (fingers crossed).

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      Thanks Vy! Fingers crossed 🤞

    • @vm421
      @vm421 Před 3 lety

      @@irisfu6929Hey thanks for responding lol. 2 things in your how my fake brother got into Princeton how is he your fake brother? Also any tips for the sat to push from a 1400-1500+?

  • @ariadnamontserrat6027
    @ariadnamontserrat6027 Před 3 lety +2

    I havent seen the video yet but you literally helped me a lot and im so grateful and thankful for your kindness your an IDOL I really admire your work and energy

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      ahhh this is literally the sweetest thing. hope you took something away from the video and I hope you're having an amazing day! 💕

  • @girlmeetstech9946
    @girlmeetstech9946 Před 3 lety +8

    Everyone gets trolled like that. People confuse intelligence and confidence with arrogance. You are the opposite of arrogant...you are matter of fact. The growth rate is great, that pisses them off more than anything else.

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      HAHA truth! I love how direct and straightforward your comments and thinking are too! 🙌

  • @Qweeby77
    @Qweeby77 Před 3 lety +6

    great video love the new idea cant wait for the real college content even if its online. keep on making videos

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      ahh thanks so much! excited for what's to come

  • @samihauddin9996
    @samihauddin9996 Před 3 lety +4

    Iris! I am so so sorry to hear that! I think you cannot win if you try to win both sides, but I hope you know from the bottom of your heart all the good you are doing! No matter how helpful a content is, someone may see the opposite. So just keep doing you.
    Btw you are so cuteeeee!!! I can't wait to see your vlogs in the future!

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      Thanks Samiha! Super excited to vlog as well :)

  • @claudiuhvuu
    @claudiuhvuu Před 3 lety

    You’re so emotionally mature it’s amazing

  • @davidgirma409
    @davidgirma409 Před 3 lety +3

    ⭐ Thank you Iris, you are so honest, amazing, funny, and sooo helpful. You make us happy and determined ⭐

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      Thanks David! hope your boarding school apps are going well!

    • @davidgirma409
      @davidgirma409 Před 3 lety +1

      Iris Fu Thank you! Currently preparing for the PSAT and working on the essays 😁 👍🏾

  • @nny4363
    @nny4363 Před 3 lety

    Your advice is super helpful to me and the rest of your subscribers!! I can tell that you're very genuine and the OPPOSITE of pretentious from watching your videos. Haters are probably just jealous of your accomplishments, so don't give them any attention. Keep thriving! :D

  • @ambitiousgirlwithglasses153

    Thank you so much for this video it's so authentic ! Also can you please do a video about time management : studying - maintaining a relationship etc..

  • @marvinmiraflor1257
    @marvinmiraflor1257 Před 3 lety +2

    Awesome content! Saw your post in our mini group in FB! 😁

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      Thanks Marvin, and thanks for stopping by the channel :)

  • @armitahosseini8683
    @armitahosseini8683 Před 3 lety

    Your channel is hands down the best college channel I have ever come across. I completely agree with and see your point with the video on activities that don’t help your college application. I’ve seen basically every how I got into stanford video and learned so much about the college app process and it’s kind of become very visible to me now that those activities genuinely don’t help applications. Because of you, I’ve started and finished an entire passion project which I will release soon. I love your channel so much don’t let the haters get to you❤️

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      That’s so good to hear! Thanks for leaving this comment and can’t wait to see your passion project!

    • @armitahosseini8683
      @armitahosseini8683 Před 3 lety

      @@irisfu6929 Ahwe thank youu I'm so excited! And I'm glad my comment helped!

  • @Ms.Glamaris
    @Ms.Glamaris Před 3 lety +1

    Girl I just saw about this on reddit and don’t let any of this discourage you. You have truly given me hope in my college application process and I think I would’ve been completely lost if I didn’t watch your channel. Don’t let anybody bring you down girl because in the end most of them didn’t manage to get into Stanford, yet you did

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      ahh thank you ❤️this means more than you know

  • @sunnyhe4231
    @sunnyhe4231 Před 3 lety +2

    Iris, dont listen to those haters. I love your videos. The first video I found from you, was about the Harvard lawsuit. I loved how you are direct in your video and every advice you give has like a baseline. It's more clear than others. Please keeping more videos. I love you😚

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      Ah thank you, Sunny. Really appreciate your support and this message

  • @LM-dc1so
    @LM-dc1so Před 3 lety

    You're doing great Iris. You have inspired me so much already and I think you should just completely disregard the haters :) In the long run, it's the real fans that count 💕

  • @cookie3644
    @cookie3644 Před 3 lety +1

    hey iris! just wanted to let you know your videos are really helpful to me and I hope you continue to make them! I'm sorry about the hate you've been getting but try to stay positive and keep pushing through it! ^-^

  • @williswacki157
    @williswacki157 Před 3 lety +3

    By far my lowest light is me coming to the realization that I have no friends. I let people walk over me and take advantage of me. no one talks to me at school and no one ever reaches out to ask if I am okay. (Yes i am fine, I have gotten used to taking punches). I hope everyone is having a wonderful day and remember to not let the world change you, change the world

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      I love that mentality in your last line, William. Keep being you, and you will attract like-minded people. Everyone also has a different definition for a “friend”, so understand yours, and those who share that definition will come. Hope you’re having an amazing day as well!

  • @abhiroopreddy1948
    @abhiroopreddy1948 Před 3 lety

    You are the best Iris no matter what!!!
    Remember that!!

  • @Qweeby77
    @Qweeby77 Před 3 lety +19

    dont take the video down it just proves to the haters they have power over you. *sigh* cancel culture these days

  • @carolinegao2729
    @carolinegao2729 Před 3 lety +1

    Keep going strong, Iris! You've already been so helpful, inspiring, and reassuring for countless people like me 😊 Also, bit of a random question, but how much sleep do you get now/did you get during the school year? I'm trying to figure out the minimum amount of sleep possible to still maximize productivity haha... Also, I think a video on the sleep habits/schedules of high-achieving students would be really helpful!

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      Thanks Caroline! It really varied, but usually about 6-10 LOL (I know wide range). Honestly I always struggled with sleep too but I use this website called sleepyti.me to calculate optimal wake up time

  • @govcalif
    @govcalif Před 3 lety

    your video thumbnails are always amusing

  • @lydss964
    @lydss964 Před 3 lety

    Don't let the haters put you down. You have 7.47k people from all around the world that think you are amazing and inspirational and I'm one of them. You have helped us so much with everything you have done! You don't deserve any hate that you get, from people that watched 1 video or 2, they can't define you. You know who you are and your subscribers know that you are the kindest, most authentic and helpful person out there. You literally spend so much time every day to help us, you post very helpful videos, you answer to all of the comments or questions we might have, you have created a slack group which gave us so many new opportunities, you are doing a newsletter and you are even writing a book! Thanks for everything you have done, we really appreciate you!

  • @reallydarkmatter
    @reallydarkmatter Před 3 lety

    You are inspiring and so deserving of all your achievements 🤗
    People who hate it are just being sour...Ur videos are amazing

  • @robinspiker3394
    @robinspiker3394 Před 3 lety +3

    Awe, this is the first video of yours that I am watching. I think I learned of you, I think from watching Arnold . I am the mother of one of his good friends. I was thinking as I began to watch that i was impressed with you.😊

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      Welcome to the channel, Robin! Arnold is a great guy and I’m so happy that we were able to connect through him 😃

  • @pennyj4267
    @pennyj4267 Před 3 lety

    Don't apologize for who you are at all. No one kicks a dead dog. Here's some words for you: try not to get people mad at you and try not to get mad, this generally creates peace. People will always have problems with successful or people who are driven. Keep on keeping on. You have great intent. Tell them to not watch it's not for them. Keep being inspiring as a young Asian female, thank you for representing. You are in a growth mindset, don't get yourself down,and don't apologize.

  • @elikajavaheri733
    @elikajavaheri733 Před 3 lety +1

    Hi Iris! You have such a friendly personality and such great content, keep it up! Don't listen to haters :D

  • @davidgirma409
    @davidgirma409 Před 3 lety +6

    🌟 Even Iris said “I wish I had someone to tell me these important things when I was applying,” so the fact that she is spending hours to months now- using this platform to help us in any way possible, is just luxury. I mean come on, if you have a problem with Iris (when it comes to her CZcams) then you are just soooo unappreciative. Be thankful and use this opportunity to help your self. 🌟 Ps. There are actually ACTIVITES THAT DO NOT HELP YOUR COLLEGE APPS, and THESE are those things: czcams.com/video/S3JTPc0NneI/video.html

    • @davidgirma409
      @davidgirma409 Před 3 lety +3

      We all have moments and say mean things to one another, so even the people that were degrading Iris on Reddit, learn to be thankful and thoughtful.

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      Thanks David 🙏🙏

    • @davidgirma409
      @davidgirma409 Před 3 lety +1

      Iris Fu Ofc 🙌🏾

  • @voidlxve5446
    @voidlxve5446 Před 3 lety +3

    I'm another girl that has been dealing with a LDR and honestly it is pretty rough not being able to see your S/O often,, even less often because of the corona pandemic but what I think a healthy way to approach it is that you need time set aside for each other. This way you both don't consume each others time constantly, but you still have a designated time to "be" with them. Whether its texting or video chatting its important to stay in touch. What I do is that me and my boyfriend watch anime together! We set a time that works for the both of us and then we use a free video streaming service to watch together. Sometimes we turn on the camera to see each other but if not that then we just text our reactions to each other. (Btw you obviously can do this with other things like watching your S/O play games, watching movies or TV shows together) I found this to be a good activity to do especially if you can't physically be there with each other, having a shared activity is a great way to keep your relationship going.

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      oh my gosh waatching anime together is actually the cutest thing! I love that. Thanks for sharing

  • @kongshantai
    @kongshantai Před 3 lety

    Don't take it down. Its a great video and it is perceived by the majority of us just the way it was meant. Haters just want to hate. I hope you keep on being you, because you are inspiring and amazing. Keep up the good work.

  • @danielli1701
    @danielli1701 Před 3 lety

    Hi Iris. Your videos are super helpful and informative. You’ve motivated me to begin a passion project revolving around film and business. You’re a motivated person seeking opportunities these haters could never dream of having at this age. Their hate is ridiculous and the fact that they do it on Reddit makes me laugh. Reddit is irrelevant. You’re relevant. That’s why they’re threatened by your presence. Keep chasing your dreams and goals. Ignore them.

  • @chickenwing9428
    @chickenwing9428 Před 3 lety

    i'm so sorry for all the hate! if it helps, i love your videos!

  • @sunnyhe4231
    @sunnyhe4231 Před 3 lety +2

    Loved the song you sang in the bathroom. It made me very happy.

  • @snixorstix7107
    @snixorstix7107 Před 3 lety +2

    I watched a couple of your videos and when I saw the thread about you on reddit, it really just reeked of jealousy. The whole subreddit only has a handful of verified admissions officers, so when the sub itself is a place to receive advice from unqualified high schoolers, they really have no place in criticizing your work. I loved this video and your maturity, you are so above the hate

  • @meghanad.2929
    @meghanad.2929 Před 3 lety

    Hey iris I had a question. In terms of your video pal program, did you end up linking it in your application or did you just explain what it was. I am trying to figure out the best way to share everything that I have done.

  • @AnnieLiuMusic
    @AnnieLiuMusic Před 3 lety

    omg girl this was such an amazing video to watch - loved your vulnerability and honesty. especially about the part on reddit hate...i was on a2c soo much for a big part of this past year (especially during app season), but the toxicity on that sub can be overwhelming. you absolutely do not deserve the onslaught of internet hate that happened; even if people didn't like your content, it's absolutely unnecessary to personally attack you :/ so massive respect for the mature way you handled everything. college apps are long past me at this point (yay c/o '24!), but you earned a new sub regardless :)
    also - i love love love the idea of this lowlights series. would you be okay if i made a similar series on my channel inspired by this? i'd credit you and link your channel and everything, but if you're not okay with it i totally understand too!

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      Hi Annie! Thanks for the kind words and welcome to the channel :) yes, you can def do a lowlight series! Hopefully it can become a trend of some sort, as I think it’d be hugely beneficial to shifting internet culture! Love your channel btw :)

    • @AnnieLiuMusic
      @AnnieLiuMusic Před 3 lety

      @@irisfu6929 thank you so much!! :)

  • @kimsungho4114
    @kimsungho4114 Před 3 lety +2

    Support you from Korea!

  • @vivianli2058
    @vivianli2058 Před 3 lety

    hi ! i love how u always reply to peoples comments it relaly helps. and i wanted to let u know i commented on the video before this ! please let me know what u think thank u

  • @nicolezengreads
    @nicolezengreads Před 3 lety +2

    the fact that you are debating on if intentions are more important or the result makes you a good person because most people wouldn’t overthink so much and debate with themselves so much for other people to benefit. ily

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      i actually didn't really think about it that way - thanks for pointing this out! ily too

  • @tanayajoshi8880
    @tanayajoshi8880 Před 3 lety

    Hi Iris! I just had a question, did you include in your college essay about your YT channel? I was wondering if that is also helping students get into top schools. Thank you for you videos btw, I appreciate your honest ones. They really do help me! Keep making videos!

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      Hey! I actually didn’t start my CZcams channel (posting consistently) until after college apps, so no, I didn’t include it

  • @hananjaser7870
    @hananjaser7870 Před 3 lety

    don't mind the hate. you're doing great!

  • @arcee7425
    @arcee7425 Před 3 lety

    The transition from 13:50 to 14:00 killed me, i couldn't stop laughing

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      Omg 😂😂 I was so whack lmao that’s what happens when it gets too late at night

  • @elleli1654
    @elleli1654 Před 3 lety +5

    Hi Iris! I just wanted to share my thoughts on your content. I believe that you truly do stand by your fundamental belief in putting your interests before college admissions. You couldn't have been as successful as you are if you didn't harbor genuine interest and passion for your activities. However, this belief isn't fully exhibited in your channel because of conflicting titles -- they go from "Activities Colleges Don't Care About" to "Why You Should Never Do Anything for College". These titles are really antithetical, and viewers may have a hard time finding your fundamental belief within this. With your increasing influence, you do indirectly accept responsibility in shaping the college admissions process. Some of your videos, although not intentionally, may perpetuate the idea of doing things solely for college and I know this is the opposite of what you really mean. As a "college CZcamsr" there is no easy way to escape this. The college admissions process you are helping students with IS flawed and broken, and making videos about it does mean you may be a part of this. However, what you can do is reshape and reframe your videos -- specifically your titles and thumbnails (and possibly reflect upon your current commentary; consider if what you are saying truly portrays your intents). You have control over how you portray the process that you know--the one that is sincere and authentic. Clickbait-y titles are good for views; they catch the attention of an audience that is extremely competitive, which sometimes happens to be the same audience that contributes to the toxic college admissions environment that we all know. But with this, you lose the sincerity that I know you deeply value. I'm sorry you've received such unnecessary hate that you don't deserve, and I understand and see your true intentions. (I hope my points make sense)
    Lastly, I don’t think there’s one concrete answer to intentions vs. perception. You are making videos that are constantly being perceived by a variety of audiences. You might have to consider balancing the weight placed on both of these. But rather than trying to cater towards others, first consider your true values. If your values aren’t being fully understood, then maybe it is just a matter of reflecting on your content and what ways you can better exhibit your ideologies.

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      Hi Elle,
      First, thank you so much for this well thought out response. I really value your insight on reflecting on whether the framing of my content is truly representative of my values, especially with my titles and thumbnails. There’s definitely an art to appealing to people’s insecurities in the thumbnails, but then alleviating them in the video content. I’m still a work in progress, and I hope to get better at influencing the college admissions space with more positivity and authenticity.
      Thanks again for this message, I really appreciate your input!

  • @aaronbhattachan
    @aaronbhattachan Před 3 lety

    Hello Iris, I was curious about the types of questions you asked in your interviews for see the voices, in order to get compelling and insightful answers. Thanks, Aaron

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      I looked at some humans of New York questions and picked / did variations of some of those!

  • @user-qv6il9oy5y
    @user-qv6il9oy5y Před 3 lety +7

    Hi iris it’s my first time watching your video and ... I know it’s awk to say this but I had a feeling u could speak canto/ or your ancestors are from Guangdong lol good video btw! Subbed and keep it up hehe

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +2

      hahaha well you are right about my ancestors! Although I can't quite speak canto :/ welcome to the channel :)

    • @sunnyhe4231
      @sunnyhe4231 Před 3 lety +1

      I'm from Guangdong too!!

    • @bot6089
      @bot6089 Před 3 lety +1

      Same!

  • @tsiyong7583
    @tsiyong7583 Před 3 lety +1

    Personally I didn’t watch the video because as a rising senior I know I don’t really have the opportunity (I have a small amount but not really to change my ECs) & for my mental health and to not feel bad I chose not to watch it. My advice is if you know that the video isn’t really going to apply to you don’t watch it if you know you can’t handle it mentally/emotionally.

  • @alinaahamed9982
    @alinaahamed9982 Před 3 lety

    Hi! could you give me a link to the slack setup? it appears to be expired. thank you very much iris for helping me immensely ❤️

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      join.slack.com/t/the-college-pros/shared_invite/zt-ga85krvp-4pHFaqIWkMvS1nMGnUdW0A
      Hope this works!

  • @girlmeetstech9946
    @girlmeetstech9946 Před 3 lety +2

    That singing style should be called horror-adorable :)

  • @lidiaandrade1137
    @lidiaandrade1137 Před 3 lety

    hey iris! can you please send the link to that slack group?

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      join.slack.com/t/the-college-pros/shared_invite/zt-ga85krvp-4pHFaqIWkMvS1nMGnUdW0A

  • @courtneysk8
    @courtneysk8 Před 3 lety +2

    what did you use to edit your videos?

  • @bigcesar7106
    @bigcesar7106 Před 3 lety

    The fall season has begun

  • @alanding1425
    @alanding1425 Před 3 lety +1

    hey the slack link expired, could i get a new one? thanks.

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      join.slack.com/t/the-college-pros/shared_invite/zt-ga85krvp-4pHFaqIWkMvS1nMGnUdW0A

  • @abhiravalonly
    @abhiravalonly Před 3 lety

    Hey Iris,
    I wanted that setup of the slack community.

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      join.slack.com/t/the-college-pros/shared_invite/zt-ga85krvp-4pHFaqIWkMvS1nMGnUdW0A
      This link is updated

    • @abhiravalonly
      @abhiravalonly Před 3 lety

      Thanks man!!!

  • @sinlich
    @sinlich Před 3 lety

    Hey, Iris! Your videos are SOOOO HELPFUL! Thank you so much!
    But I have a question, i hope you can answer me. I’m from Russia and I want to do an internship in a Russian company, will it has as great impact in my application, as an internship in USA company? Also I want to do other extracurriculars: write a book and start a digital community for teens, where I’ll teach them how to earn money in digital digital field and share my experience in this; I plan to do this in Russian language. Will it be a disadvantage, compare to doing all this in English language?
    I really hope you can answer me, thanks for your content🥺❤️

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      Interning at a Russian company and writing a book in Russian will be in no way a disadvantage! In fact, it shows diversity. Good luck!

    • @sinlich
      @sinlich Před 3 lety

      Iris Fu thank you so much!! 🥺❤️

  • @aditya.karhale.5141
    @aditya.karhale.5141 Před 3 lety +1

    Don't worry what people say at the end of the day it doesn't matters
    By the way I love your videos

  • @MetFansince
    @MetFansince Před 3 lety +2

    Experience this month: being half as productive as I wanted to be. Also, I don't even know what Reddit is.

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      You don’t need to know 😂😩

  • @dylaniskandar6028
    @dylaniskandar6028 Před 3 lety +1

    link to slack?

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      join.slack.com/t/the-college-pros/shared_invite/zt-ga85krvp-4pHFaqIWkMvS1nMGnUdW0A

  • @zacharyertengrass892
    @zacharyertengrass892 Před 3 lety +1

    As far as that controversial video goes, I would take it down, add an explanation at the beginning, and repost it. I think that's the best way to handle it.

  • @bryandavis9878
    @bryandavis9878 Před 3 lety

    Hey I like your videos, I learn a lot from them. I do agree with how lowlights help you grow. My lowlight this month is that I am trying to grow my CZcams channel, but I’m not going very far with it. If you could give me advice, that would be nice. I am Bryan Davis by the way. Please let me know.

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      Hey Bryan! Thanks for sharing your lowlight. I struggled with the same thing. I think growing on CZcams is all about consistency and patience. This channel also wasn’t growing too much until 1-2 videos that went big. It’s all about the patience, bc you never know when that “big” video will be. I also recommend Ali abdaal’s IGTVs. He has some good content about building a CZcams channel. Finally, I think having a really really small niche is great for starting, and your niche can expand as your audience size expands. I hope this helps!

    • @bryandavis9878
      @bryandavis9878 Před 3 lety

      @@irisfu6929 Yes, Thank you Iris! This does help, I will work on it, and be patient. Also, I think you live in my area, we should totally link up sometime. Let me know.

  • @bohuazhang9145
    @bohuazhang9145 Před 3 lety +6

    When do you start school?

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +3

      We don't know yet 😬supposedly 9/14 ish but they will announce move-in date later this month

    • @bohuazhang9145
      @bohuazhang9145 Před 3 lety +1

      @@irisfu6929 nice

    • @bohuazhang9145
      @bohuazhang9145 Před 3 lety +1

      @@irisfu6929 Do you know if it will be virtually, in-person, or hybrid?

  • @katrinaeloize
    @katrinaeloize Před 3 lety +3

    im really sorry you experienced a lot of hate :/ ppl that spend a lot of time on reddit are always super opinionated and exclusive, dont listen to them. regarding the video, i think its best if you maybe change the title or add an extra note in the description (?) i can tell that your intention was to just help and you have a disclaimer already but i think the advice in the video is too niche. being told that a sport or club is bad for strategy can lead a lot of people to think that they shouldnt do it, even if they enjoy it. its helpful for people that do want to strategize and adjust their extracurriculars to stand out, but it might not helpful be for the average applicant looking for blanketed advice. sending love xxx

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      That’s a super good idea! Just renamed the second part of the title and previously linked follow up vid in description and pinned comment. Hopefully people will see it and get the right message - Thanks for the suggestion Katrina!

    • @katrinaeloize
      @katrinaeloize Před 3 lety

      Iris Fu of course! ty for making such amazing videos and being so open ❤️

  • @deepeshpatel9220
    @deepeshpatel9220 Před 3 lety +1

    You know LDR really sucks😣.

  • @charlieduong528
    @charlieduong528 Před 3 lety +1

    Feeling a lot of imposter syndrome and loneliness :/. Forcast is 100% rain but p instead of r.

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      🥺😭😭😭 hang in there Charlie

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety

      “This too shall pass” 🙌

  • @benjaminzhao8117
    @benjaminzhao8117 Před 3 lety +3

    Hello, don't mind the haters, they just jealous, how to get an interns??? cold emails dont be working for me... plus I dont know anyone

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      Hi Benjamin! Have you tried cold calling? I've found that that's almost always more effective than emailing. Also, if you haven't sent over 100 cold emails yet, then keep going haha, bc it is a numbers game

  • @yuliyaleberfarb8763
    @yuliyaleberfarb8763 Před 3 lety

    Me living 7500 km away from my bf for years (and not being able to pay for flights) listening to the first part: 👁 👄 👁

  • @michaelhan4266
    @michaelhan4266 Před 3 lety

    You're probably getting hate because people are in quarantine. They're anxious about their lives, and unhappy, and they need their mental 'stimulus checks.' They want to feel passion doing something but they feel trapped and isolated in their home. So they resort to hate, which is a much better inducer of passion than love. It's hard to love someone you know only through the internet, but it's easy to hate them for any reason. That's why the internet is full of people who hate each other. They're like hungry beasts and if you look at them long enough they will devour you. But if you look away, you will leave unscathed and they will be left to devour each other.

  • @thetunnelunderoceanboulevardd

    why did i think LDR was Lana Del Rey

  • @aa-zq2fr
    @aa-zq2fr Před 3 lety

    aw iris :( I think a lot of the reddit complaints pop up every year with any newly accepted college youtuber who has clickbait-ish titles of definitive ways to get into college when no one really knows how to get in, unless they're admissions officers, but it's weird/wrong when it goes beyond that and they make personal insults... overall I think your content has a more positive impact on a lot of students who are introduced to college content for the first time through channels like this. (but that's where it gets tricky, bc if it's the first time they're seeing it they may take it as gold and why A2C redditors get upset if it could be false/harmful info)
    however, I think it is a bit odd when rising college freshmen, including you, advertise themselves as experts on things like "campus life" when they haven't set foot on campus yet- maybe you didn't make the graphic for that specific speaker ad? as nice as it is to fill bullet points to sound more impressive, I was kind of confused why that descriptor was needed when you already have really impressive achievements that are more accurate (this may be an assumption). but I want to end this long (sorry) comment on a positive note: I really appreciate how you have things like a "fails" resume and "lowlights" videos, that's a side I haven't seen a lot of college youtubers show before :)

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      Hey! Thanks for this comment - I’m not really sure what you’re referring to as the “speaker ad”. I haven’t talked about campus life anywhere on this channel, and I havent spoken about it at events either (I always speak on my high school apps experience). Would love to know where the misunderstanding lies so I can address it for the future.

  • @Kumbaya4
    @Kumbaya4 Před 3 lety +1

    Ok im gonna be honest her I used to not like this girl but it wasn't her. It was me. I did refrain from saying anything online but it was just as bad for having negative thoughts on her. I am so sorry. This is immensely embarrassing but Im saying this so she realizes it has nothing to do with her. It's pure jealousy. I was so stressed and was trying to find videos online and I just kept seeing these successful students and I felt so discouraged. All of these youtubers clearly stated they are not bragging at all and the videos were purely for the aid of others and I knew that but still decided to take offense to it. I was just so stressed out and had so much anxiety around college. When I watched stat videos I felt so bad about myself and thought I was useless and just really doubting my worth. Again it had nothing to do with these creators it was me. When I saw how well Iris was doing I did not have the right reaction and support her but rather want to put her down. Again I am so sorry for ever thinking of you like this I was just so mad at myself for not being as good as you and everyone else. I kept comparing myself to you and these creators and that was my mistake. We should be uplifting all of you and supporting you. I was just jealous seeing someone do so well and that voice in the back of my head telling me I am never going to college or Im never going to reach my dreams of being a dermatologist and so on. I was just really down and I watched these videos with the wrong perspective and possibly at the wrong time. I realized my mistake and I am so sorry for all the negative thoughts I had about you. I am so grateful for you content and all the resources you provide. Im sure many other high school students can agree that your channel has helped all of us with so much. Congratulations on all your success and all your projects. You are doing so much good for this community. Just ignore the hate. The negativity that surrounds college youtubers is from people having issues within themselves. Again sorry for ever thinking of putting you down im not proud of it at all. You videos are perfect and dont need to change anything. Sorry for saying sorry so many times and making this so long. You dont have to accept this apology and I completely understand if you dont. Keep doing what your doing and congratulations on getting into Stanford!

    • @irisfu6929
      @irisfu6929  Před 3 lety +1

      Hey Lensa, I really appreciate this comment and I'm sorry that the college admissions process is so stressful. I was in your shoes too, and I hope that these videos can encourage rather than discourage you. Thanks again for the comment - I really really appreciate it. Best of luck with everything!

    • @Kumbaya4
      @Kumbaya4 Před 3 lety

      Iris Fu thankssss. Again sorry for being such a jerk before. Your videos are so helpfulllll. Love your channel and videos

  • @bohuazhang9145
    @bohuazhang9145 Před 3 lety +2

    oof

  • @vivianli2058
    @vivianli2058 Před 3 lety

    hey i commented on your standardized testing video if u can please check it when u can thank u so much because i don’t have anyone who can answer my questions that quick. if u can please let me know by tonight or tom thank u !