Very good active listen - excellent tone voice. It is hard for a first come client to have clear expectation of the counselor. I ussually ask the client How he/she thinks I can be useful for him/her regarding the concerns! Very Good Job show empathy which is good for the rapport and the establishment of hope.
Keeps saying "... I'll have to breach confidentiality" Better to say "I will explain confidentiality to you: whatever we talk about here, I don't discuss with anyone else. That said, all counsellors have a supervisor, so, without divulging who you are, if I may get some insight on some things with my supervisor. All the notes and documents on our sessions are kept securely on our premises. There are 3 reasons this would change: If I felt you or anyone associated with you were in danger of harm, I must report that to the respective authorities; also, if I am ordered to hand over the files to a court of law; and thirdly, if you give permission for your information to be shared for example with a medical professional."
There is absolutely NO WAY you would use alarming words like, " report", "authorities," and "Court of law," to freak someone out in the very first few moments of a first meeting with a vulnerable person who has come to you needing to trust you! That's totally unnecessarily alarming. Your explanation was also so long they'd be asleep at the end of it. They haven't been arrested , they've come for counselling!
@@kathleenmaclachlan1541 I have a first degree and a master's degree in English Literature so I can assure you I know what "patronise" means in every nuance of the word. Stop being ridiculously hyperbolic saying she's been, "hacked to pieces" 🤣 You have an issue with feedback. She did a great job in the rest of it, and had a very nice manner but I do think the language was intimidating and alarmist and not the best way to begin a therapeutic relationship with a potentially traumatised person. Less stark language could still convey the same message to the client whilst being less intimidating. This is my opinion. Please allow me to have my opinion without berating me.
honestly Mena, you are my most inspirational counselor, I love the way you speak, your professionalism, tone of voice, content of your conversation and I am so grateful I came across this video and will use your counseling skills for my practice.
I returned to working with my therapist this week. It is always an annoying part of the experience to have that contract discussion. I said "If I cannot trust you then I better just give up on humanity."
Ethically that's what you're supposed to do in the first session when you have a new client. For students like me who are learning about contracting it's extremely helpful to know how to go about it by watching this video.
can you describe the skill used by the counselor when she tells the client that she cannot fix everything right away.. when she replies to the client, after the client says something along the lines of wanting the counselor to fix everything. Can anyone clarify that skill? would it be challenging skills or congruence?
How can you trust these counsellors/therapists if they breach confidentiality. I have had counselling 3 times in the past. But now I'm realising how you can trust these counsellors and therapists when they have to break confidentiality. Counselling is where the patient feels he/she can tell the therapist anything without being judged. These people are untrustworthy. They just go snitch on you when you tell them about something wrong you have done.
Same thing happens in my country, counselors talk too much about the terms of conditions on the contract. Wondering if it’s the formality or something.
Kris Yeh it’s not a real session. She’s in training and has to cover off some fundamentals that would be included in a first session with a new client ... imagine an hour of mainly listening to the client and that’s what you’d have in between her beginning and end. What she established was the clients agenda for the forthcoming sessions, though the client is fully entitled to bring what they want to each session.
It's also about the counsellors legal responsibility to ensure the client is made fully aware of their rights and obligations from the first session - what is confidentiality, counselling agreement, payments, counselling plans, etc. This then establishes a clear beginning and boundaries to the counsellor client relationship.
Just one thing, does a counsellor have to tell the client that they are breaching their confidentiality? I wouldn’t like to be in the counsellor’s shoes
Generally, yes, it is a good idea to have a conversation with your client about the need to break confidentiality. Letting them know ahead of time that you will have a conversation with them about the need to break confidentiality, if and when the need arises, can help them to feel at ease and not be constantly worried you have, or are about to report for something. While it can be difficult to have these types of conversations, it can be beneficial for the therapeutic relationship, to have that level of trust and respect there. Sometimes a client will terminate, but I’ve heard from therapists who have had to break confidentiality for one reason or another, they had that conversation with their client prior to doing so, and the client ultimately decided to continue seeing them. The risk of not having that conversation first is the potential to contribute to, or cause, trust issues with your client. And while they may be upset at the report, it is a strong example and way for the therapist to model consistent boundaries and follow-through. One clear instance you would not want to talk with your client beforehand about reporting is if you have reason to believe a prior conversation will lead to harm for them or another person. This could look like needing to report on potential child abuse or neglect and having concern that discussing this with your client first may result in them harming their child out of anger. This isn’t always true in the case of child abuse/neglect though. I know of counselors who generally try and have a convo with the parents/guardians first to let them know they will have to make a report as a mandated reporter. Often times the parents will terminate services, but surprisingly not always! It is not an easy situation to be in, for sure, but that is why it’s important to discuss the parameters of confidentiality at the start of seeing a client. So if an issue comes up, it’s something that has been discussed already and won’t feel like a total shock or surprise for them.
It struck me as a bit of a sad comment on humanity that the therapist must say "This is a safe place." What have we done to ourselves that so few safe places exist? Wouldn't it be nice if a safe place was the norm and not the rarity. Why did we do this to ourselves ?
Stupid question here: if you are really not good looking, can you still be an amazing in-demand counsellor? I ask this because there are some harsh realities about life and wondering if personal attributes such as looks in counselling in one of them...😅
Great question, and i'm super surprised know one has answered it, given that their "suppose" to be empathetic. (Sorry slight vent there;-). May i ask, is this something that your worried about personally? Cheers, Andy.
I would say That none of the counselors I’ve had have been the most physically attractive. I am a military spouse and have had to relocate quite a bit and have had my fair share of counselors . I base everything on the therapeutic relationship and if they are able to show empathy. There are so many therapists who are lazy and do not utilize the skills of reflecting meaning and feeling, summarizing etc. they all seem to be great at challenging thought but without support. It seems as they have gotten lax and do their own thing. So not only were many of these counselors not attractive they were not good therapists Sorry for the tangent
The therapeutic-client alliance is built and maintained more successfully when the client sees a person they can connect with. As many people in the world are not "good looking" based on what media and society tells us is "good looking" (models), then working with a real looking person who they can easier connect with, will increase their sense of trust and alliance which is beneficial to the therapeutic relationship
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Great job, watching this for my own mock counselling session I need to do
This is quite educative, well-done! Basic counseling skills are well being practiced here.
What does " we'll focus on" mean. All the "therapist" does is sit and listen?
Very good active listen - excellent tone voice. It is hard for a first come client to have clear expectation of the counselor. I ussually ask the client How he/she thinks I can be useful for him/her regarding the concerns! Very Good Job show empathy which is good for the rapport and the establishment of hope.
Thank you so much. This is exactly what I needed. I am so overwhelmed. This video has calmed my anxiety.🙋
Thanks Mena, I’m just started some counselling units and I have to do a recorded role play. Im going to replay this for sure 😃
Wonderful and so informative for counsellors who want to start off on a large scale
Keeps saying "... I'll have to breach confidentiality"
Better to say "I will explain confidentiality to you: whatever we talk about here, I don't discuss with anyone else. That said, all counsellors have a supervisor, so, without divulging who you are, if I may get some insight on some things with my supervisor. All the notes and documents on our sessions are kept securely on our premises. There are 3 reasons this would change: If I felt you or anyone associated with you were in danger of harm, I must report that to the respective authorities; also, if I am ordered to hand over the files to a court of law; and thirdly, if you give permission for your information to be shared for example with a medical professional."
This is good, but what she said was fine. Everyone has their own style
There is absolutely NO WAY you would use alarming words like, " report", "authorities," and "Court of law," to freak someone out in the very first few moments of a first meeting with a vulnerable person who has come to you needing to trust you! That's totally unnecessarily alarming. Your explanation was also so long they'd be asleep at the end of it. They haven't been arrested , they've come for counselling!
@@kathleenmaclachlan1541 don't you be so melodramatic..." hacked her to pieces"🤣. I talked about her language.
@@kathleenmaclachlan1541 my advice for you accept constructive criticism and don’t patronise people
@@kathleenmaclachlan1541 I have a first degree and a master's degree in English Literature so I can assure you I know what "patronise" means in every nuance of the word. Stop being ridiculously hyperbolic saying she's been, "hacked to pieces" 🤣 You have an issue with feedback. She did a great job in the rest of it, and had a very nice manner but I do think the language was intimidating and alarmist and not the best way to begin a therapeutic relationship with a potentially traumatised person. Less stark language could still convey the same message to the client whilst being less intimidating. This is my opinion. Please allow me to have my opinion without berating me.
honestly Mena, you are my most inspirational counselor, I love the way you speak, your professionalism, tone of voice, content of your conversation and I am so grateful I came across this video and will use your counseling skills for my practice.
Awesome session! I really learned lot from that, thank you so much 🙏
I think before i went to councelling, I'll be falling asleep from the introduction. 😂
You wouldn't be falling asleep if they were your problems that were affecting your everyday life.
Is this person centred?. U seem natural and calm
Thanks for the mock interview with the client. It's very useful for me
I agree a bit overwhelming for the client
This is a very helpful video... thank u
can you do a full session please?
Great video! I’m currently in my process and techniques classes and this video was very helpful.
A great piece, tnx so much.
Really helpful Mena, thanks for putting this up.
Keeps saying "... I'll have to breach confidentiality" !!!
This mock session was believable the only criticism I would say would be the over telling the client about the contract
I returned to working with my therapist this week. It is always an annoying part of the experience to have that contract discussion. I said "If I cannot trust you then I better just give up on humanity."
Ethically that's what you're supposed to do in the first session when you have a new client. For students like me who are learning about contracting it's extremely helpful to know how to go about it by watching this video.
@@c_sal Precisely!
Thank you for this video! I have a roleplay very soon for my counselling subject, and this has been super helpful
Thanks so much!! Watchig before a mock interview tommorrow
Great
Good job with prioritising bit
Must every sentence start with the word, so?
can you describe the skill used by the counselor when she tells the client that she cannot fix everything right away.. when she replies to the client, after the client says something along the lines of wanting the counselor to fix everything. Can anyone clarify that skill? would it be challenging skills or congruence?
I think its more into giving feedback
congruence/genuineness
Clarifying expectations
How can you trust these counsellors/therapists if they breach confidentiality. I have had counselling 3 times in the past. But now I'm realising how you can trust these counsellors and therapists when they have to break confidentiality.
Counselling is where the patient feels he/she can tell the therapist anything without being judged. These people are untrustworthy. They just go snitch on you when you tell them about something wrong you have done.
Love how the cat makes an appearance in the background
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Loved this
Same thing happens in my country, counselors talk too much about the terms of conditions on the contract. Wondering if it’s the formality or something.
Kris Yeh it’s not a real session. She’s in training and has to cover off some fundamentals that would be included in a first session with a new client ... imagine an hour of mainly listening to the client and that’s what you’d have in between her beginning and end. What she established was the clients agenda for the forthcoming sessions, though the client is fully entitled to bring what they want to each session.
It's also about the counsellors legal responsibility to ensure the client is made fully aware of their rights and obligations from the first session - what is confidentiality, counselling agreement, payments, counselling plans, etc. This then establishes a clear beginning and boundaries to the counsellor client relationship.
This has to be done so the client knows.
It's called a consent to treat and in that you have to cover ALL rules and policies. It's a legal thing.
Just one thing, does a counsellor have to tell the client that they are breaching their confidentiality? I wouldn’t like to be in the counsellor’s shoes
Generally, yes, it is a good idea to have a conversation with your client about the need to break confidentiality. Letting them know ahead of time that you will have a conversation with them about the need to break confidentiality, if and when the need arises, can help them to feel at ease and not be constantly worried you have, or are about to report for something.
While it can be difficult to have these types of conversations, it can be beneficial for the therapeutic relationship, to have that level of trust and respect there. Sometimes a client will terminate, but I’ve heard from therapists who have had to break confidentiality for one reason or another, they had that conversation with their client prior to doing so, and the client ultimately decided to continue seeing them. The risk of not having that conversation first is the potential to contribute to, or cause, trust issues with your client. And while they may be upset at the report, it is a strong example and way for the therapist to model consistent boundaries and follow-through.
One clear instance you would not want to talk with your client beforehand about reporting is if you have reason to believe a prior conversation will lead to harm for them or another person. This could look like needing to report on potential child abuse or neglect and having concern that discussing this with your client first may result in them harming their child out of anger. This isn’t always true in the case of child abuse/neglect though. I know of counselors who generally try and have a convo with the parents/guardians first to let them know they will have to make a report as a mandated reporter. Often times the parents will terminate services, but surprisingly not always!
It is not an easy situation to be in, for sure, but that is why it’s important to discuss the parameters of confidentiality at the start of seeing a client. So if an issue comes up, it’s something that has been discussed already and won’t feel like a total shock or surprise for them.
We should have a drink every time ummm is said
struggle to hear her even on full volume ...... good tips that i did catch
Is there a second session based on it?
Thanks for the is great video.
Loved this ❤ although she uses ummmmm a lot...
this is realistically how most people speak these days, it happens while we're processing our thoughts
It struck me as a bit of a sad comment on humanity that the therapist must say "This is a safe place." What have we done to ourselves that so few safe places exist? Wouldn't it be nice if a safe place was the norm and not the rarity. Why did we do this to ourselves ?
can we have more mock counselling session?
This is so helpful
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thank you!
Stupid question here: if you are really not good looking, can you still be an amazing in-demand counsellor? I ask this because there are some harsh realities about life and wondering if personal attributes such as looks in counselling in one of them...😅
Great question, and i'm super surprised know one has answered it, given that their "suppose" to be empathetic. (Sorry slight vent there;-). May i ask, is this something that your worried about personally? Cheers, Andy.
Of course you can why do you need to be good looking and,in who's eyes?
I feel like because I look young I wouldn’t get taken seriously. Not the same, but a similar thing.
People think I look 18 and I’m 26.
I would say That none of the counselors I’ve had have been the most physically attractive. I am a military spouse and have had to relocate quite a bit and have had my fair share of counselors . I base everything on the therapeutic relationship and if they are able to show empathy. There are so many therapists who are lazy and do not utilize the skills of reflecting meaning and feeling, summarizing etc. they all seem to be great at challenging thought but without support. It seems as they have gotten lax and do their own thing. So not only were many of these counselors not attractive they were not good therapists Sorry for the tangent
The therapeutic-client alliance is built and maintained more successfully when the client sees a person they can connect with. As many people in the world are not "good looking" based on what media and society tells us is "good looking" (models), then working with a real looking person who they can easier connect with, will increase their sense of trust and alliance which is beneficial to the therapeutic relationship
NATO...👺want world 💥💥war.....please 💕💞 ...We will 🌾UNIT to stop🌋.
.".NATO don't 🔥destroy earth"🌏🌎🌍
SRI LANKA love to world peoples🫖🫖
👩👩👧👦les't protect the origin possession of the countries in world💖god bless
Well, without knowing anything more about this channel, I'll just say, the host is an exceptionally good looking woman 😁
The counsellor talk too much...
Bruh this was the first session so she had to explain everything to her client. Besides, she was also trying to build rapport
In a first session the counsellor sets the parameters and expectations, and explains processes. Subsequent sessions can be more client led
Heavy accent
Such a meaningless session...
We didn't ask you to share your views.
You got a nice therapy room. Probably you can teach them.