@ 12:30 I had to pause this video and comment. I am shook. This behaviour ran my life for years. I was in a situationship with someone who did not want to commit to me and I did it allllll. Gym every day, upgraded my wardrobe, upgraded my car, changed my entire lifestyle around his aesthetic, literally did not speak in front of his friends when we were out for fear of saying something wrong. Didn’t even move in the bed while he was snoring because I was afraid to wake him up. I starved myself to the point of malnutrition, hoping he would somehow love me one day. If the universe is telling you this guy is not your person, move on. One day when you least expect it you will find someone who will love you for you unconditionally and shout it from the rooftops. He will publicly claim you, love you and adore you no matter your shape, size, or financial status in life. Spreading love to all the ladies- you are perfect just the way you are. Love yourself and do not give a man access to your body,your heart or your soul without real commitment. Most of these men know that once they have access to your body they can control your mind. As women we may have the upper hand when it comes to the initial talking stage, But once you grant him access to your body, we physiologically give him the upper hand.
Wow you said it all! It’s so true that women have the upper hand until they give away their body. Once you’re emotionally attached and then physically attached, you’re done.
Glad you are who you are now sister, i know you feel like you wasted alot of time and effort..but don’t stress know better and will be rewarded for it hopefully 💗💗
Omg that is soo deep, "women have control in the talking stages and men have control once they have access to the women's body." Period so happy for you sis that u are woke now and living better.
Wow. I am really happy for you girl. You are a brave girl for sure.. Thanks for sharing your story with us.. Can't agree more to you.. I wish girls /women in early ages were told that they are not the toy for a man.. They are complete as men's are complete.. Simple society has made us think that we as women need a man to live life.. Soo many women are desperate to find a men so they settle for anyone they find without even realising that even that men deserve you or not..
I feel bad the roles reverse here I used a guy I didn't realize he's a good guy until now but thankfully he's still giving me a chance 😭😭😭😭 but I know there's insecurities there because of me
@@alexaaestar women doing sneaky links , letting men sleep with them on the first date , doing friends with benefits during college and calling it a “relationship “ , becoming a baby mama instead of wife and encouraging more baby showers instead of weddings . Especially the area of women being sugar babies and shoving it in your face as “high value “ I could keep going but that’s just the jist of it .
I am grateful for the disrespectful guy I dated. He pushed me to the edge, forced me to mature and see value in myself and this allowed me to find a real man who takes care of me.
I used to be so surprised women settled for casual relationships when it was clear it only benefitted the man. I would always see even the most promiscuous women I knew, suffer deeply in those relationships. It wasn’t until I was intimate with a man the first time, did I understand. Men have a good way of making you feel special and loved while lying through their teeth. Women need to understand men can FAKE intimacy so well. Women can not.
I feel bad the roles reverse here I used a guy I didn't realize he's a good guy until now but thankfully he's still giving me a chance 😭😭😭😭 but I know there's insecurities there because of me
I am 28 and have been single for 9 years now. This often left me wondering what's wrong with me. But tbh, when I really think about it - most people settle for a toxic relationship because they desperately want someone in their life. Trust me, I had plenty of those moments and met toxic people, too. But never have I EVER tolerated them for longer than two dates. I see a red flag, I notice it. I see the second red flag - I'm out. I know what I want and I'm not gonna settle. If there's no one out there for me, I'm fine with that. But I will never let a man make me feel less than.
You go girl!! You are saving yourself from unnecessary hard aches and pain!! I wish that I could have known what red flags were back in my day!! You are doing a good job at 28!
I can relate to this so much! Because I’m exactly like this! I’m 21 (about to turn 22 soon) and I’ve been single for almost 5 years now and I refuse to settle for anything less than what I deserve!
The depth of how demonically low a lonely woman will go in this 21st century is unreal. They know the man has no intentions of marrying them nor being a solid rock to them emotionally, spiritually, financially, or exclusivity sexually. Yet, they roll the dice and get bitter when the calls stop and the random sex stops. Women must stop playing themselves with these fantasies when a man has shown them, I don't desire you as a wife.
Finally women are starting to understand that this city & hot girl summer lifestyle doesn’t lead to anything wholesome in the long run 🙏🏾 don’t let these type of girls influence you
I need megan to reiterate what her movement was and is because yall have it very confused. Megan held beach cleanups and scholarship pageants the year she coined "Hot girl summer" she just graduated from college in December she has 3 grammys.....keep her brand out of THIS mess.
Kashari please! Because while she was doing them beach cleanups, no one heard of that. What we did hear and see was her shaking her ass all over the place telling men how they can suck and f___ on her and that’s all. That’s not empowerment to me.
Let me tell u what happened to me ... I picked up an std and this made me infertile. I was with the man for 7 years and he cheated on me and had a child with another woman AT ABOUT THE SAME TIME. He didn't want her and he didn't want the child. Thankfully, she kept her baby. All of this killed something inside of me. I did recover after many years. This is truth and it isn't worth it. Then, ON TOP! Many years later I gave my life to the Lord and I became BORN AGAIN. Y'shua / Jesus showed me that all that SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE brought DEMONS INTO MY SOUL. He delivered me from each one. THIS THING IS SERIOUS. Demons will take u down. They tried to kill me. They tried to destroy my destiny. They tried to murder every good thing that God has for me. Thankfully, the Lord rescued me and He's the best thing that ever happened to me.
If a man lies, cheats, or steals, there is not a second chance that you should give him period. Why women set themselves up for heartbreak is the issue. Self-love and Self-care always.
@@faithlives5643 Unfortunately so many Empathic Women have shown so much pity, compassion & mercy for Their Narcs or Predators, to their own emotional or physical detriment.🔥🔥🔥
@@Catherine_Dana A woman must always protect herself. A man can be 65 and get a young hot chick, but a woman doesn't have that option. This is why you don't waste time with a broke, emotionally unavailable man who isn't madly in love with you. A real man will never ask you for one penny. I am shocked at the women who get their backs banged out and help the man pay rent, car, and clothes like a son. Men don't marry their mothers.
Let me tell u what happened to me ... I picked up an std and this made me infertile. I was with the man for 7 years and he cheated on me and had a child with another woman AT ABOUT THE SAME TIME. He didn't want her and he didn't want the child. Thankfully, she kept her baby. All of this killed something inside of me. I did recover after many years. This is truth and it isn't worth it. Then, ON TOP! Many years later I gave my life to the Lord and I became BORN AGAIN. Y'shua / Jesus showed me that all that SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE brought DEMONS INTO MY SOUL. He delivered me from each one. THIS THING IS SERIOUS. Demons will take u down. They tried to kill me. They tried to destroy my destiny. They tried to murder every good thing that God has for me. Thankfully, the Lord rescued me and He's the best thing that ever happened to me.
Women are single, happily single choosing to be single. This is the change, at least we're removing the societal stigma from the equation. Love your channel Breeny.
Let me tell u what happened to me ... I picked up an std and this made me infertile. I was with the man for 7 years and he cheated on me and had a child with another woman AT ABOUT THE SAME TIME. He didn't want her and he didn't want the child. Thankfully, she kept her baby. All of this killed something inside of me. I did recover after many years. This is truth and it isn't worth it. Then, ON TOP! Many years later I gave my life to the Lord and I became BORN AGAIN. Y'shua / Jesus showed me that all that SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE brought DEMONS INTO MY SOUL. He delivered me from each one. THIS THING IS SERIOUS. Demons will take u down. They tried to kill me. They tried to destroy my destiny. They tried to murder every good thing that God has for me. Thankfully, the Lord rescued me and He's the best thing that ever happened to me.
Damn, I'm 25 and I feel like it's been ages since I've met someone serious about me. And it's not that I'm easy... I feel like men nowadays just don't want to commit, period. We live in the saddest generation. Women either have to be constantly alone or be in situationships. It's a tough world and I've been lonely for years.
Men are obsessed with getting 😿😿😿😾😾😾 and that’s their main motivation. Control, abuse, power and trapping because they are just sh-ty people. It is too common unfortunately but there are good men out there. But they would never be obsessed with getting XXX from a woman. They are good and kind & like a guardian angel in ur life. Remember there is good out there but most of the time it doesn’t always have to do with romance or xxx
Women don't have to be in situationships. They choose to out of desperation and the fear of being alone. But yes it is hard. We mess up sometimes but we have to have that self-confidence to know when to not entertain foolishness.
She is playing herself because for the most part he is being pretty honest with her. As women we sometimes think we can change a man’s mind. Men study and analyze women and ask questions that may seem innocent but it is all part of the set up to break women down to know what course of actions need to taken in order to Manipulate them.
I feel like you just took me to church 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I’m 25, only ever had situation-ships, but I feel like I need to rush and enter a relationship because everyone else around me is dating. I feel undesirable, it only makes me want to hurry up and bring someone home. It gets lonely, but I don’t want to rush the process. I have to wait on God’s timing and become the woman I know I am, have standards, and believe in who I am and what I deserve.
My peace of mind is so valuable to me. I love not getting troublesome texts. It can be lonely but the relationship has to be healthy or I don't want it.
Feeling the same. The worst part the men I’ve been interested in don’t even have an interest in me whatsoever. It’s made he feel sad if I’m honest, it really sucks 🥺. I been single for 6 years now too and just feel like it might not happen for me.
Yes! If I had known about Breeny at 25 or had this wisdom! 🥲 thank you for sharing your experience…it’s encouraging to hear that you are willing to love God and own your standards despite the lack thereof around you. Stay consistent love, God will honor that! 🙏🤍
Same here. The guys I genuinely like aren’t ready to be in relationships and the ones who are very interested in me I don’t care too much for. It really sucks but I’ll remain patient I guess lol. @@stacyrensburgoliver
"You play stupid games, you get stupid prizes"... THAT PART, lol! Bishop Breeny, you took us to church!!! I love your spirit and the godly wisdom you generously share 💞. May you receive 10 fold what you put out, in Jesus's name 🙏🏾
If y’all are together and you think it’s exclusive but there is no title…there is only one reason there is no title…he wants to keep looking around period. It doesn’t matter if he makes you feel like you’re the only girl in the world. If he doesn’t want to make it official it’s because he still wants to look around. That’s it. You can sit there if you want to and let him look to ends of the earth until he finally chooses you but I promise you, you’ll be burnt out by then.
Let me tell u what happened to me ... I picked up an std and this made me infertile. I was with the man for 7 years and he cheated on me and had a child with another woman AT ABOUT THE SAME TIME. He didn't want her and he didn't want the child. Thankfully, she kept her baby. All of this killed something inside of me. I did recover after many years. This is truth and it isn't worth it. Then, ON TOP! Many years later I gave my life to the Lord and I became BORN AGAIN. Y'shua / Jesus showed me that all that SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE brought DEMONS INTO MY SOUL. He delivered me from each one. THIS THING IS SERIOUS. Demons will take u down. They tried to kill me. They tried to destroy my destiny. They tried to murder every good thing that God has for me. Thankfully, the Lord rescued me and He's the best thing that ever happened to me.
As a 16 year old young woman, I find myself getting excited when I receive male attention. Even when it’s not the attention I know I deserve and want. Trying to heal and stop searching for that validation I seek. It’s sooo much easier said than done but videos like this help me. Thank you Breeny. You’ve helped me through my breakup a year ago & now helping me heal. You’re appreciated & loved by us so much! ❤️
@Favour Atta many of my friends are in a relationship at that age (15-16) really annoying and I am not really into that, but they are talking all the time about it, just freaks me out
@Favour Atta FR it's just unnecessary drama at such a young age. For what? Do they really think that they found their soulmate? very naive, but to each his own....
"I cannot be a giver or a lover to the wrong man." I felt this to my core. I agree with everything you have shared. I pray that women start to wake up, and stop giving themselves to men who do not deserve them.
I've been in a situationship for about 2 years. I've dated otherwise outside of the situationship because as I told the guy "I don't want you anymore than you want me." We eventually had a relationship but the attitude was as though I owed him something and it was so crazy to me. Listen, the moment I met a man that was worth it in my eyes, I cut that boy off like a bad connection. The man that was worth it, is now my husband💕.
Unfortunately, your happy ending isn’t that common. Most women who knowingly or unknowingly get into situationships get stuck there until years have gone by with wasted time, energy and youth and are too emotionally invested to detach
She’s getting out of it what she wants! I don’t think this should be be standard, but I guess she knows what works for her. Plus she is prob star struck 🤩
I have to disagree. She values those things more than love and/ or the love of a man! Not more than she values herself. What evidence do u have that she values those things more than herself?
I’m a happily married woman now but everything you said was the TRUTH!!!! 🙏🏽 I have a daughter now so I will def be sharing your videos so she can watch this!
Let me tell u what happened to me ... I picked up an std and this made me infertile. I was with the man for 7 years and he cheated on me and had a child with another woman AT ABOUT THE SAME TIME. He didn't want her and he didn't want the child. Thankfully, she kept her baby. All of this killed something inside of me. I did recover after many years. This is truth and it isn't worth it. Then, ON TOP! Many years later I gave my life to the Lord and I became BORN AGAIN. Y'shua / Jesus showed me that all that SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE brought DEMONS INTO MY SOUL. He delivered me from each one. THIS THING IS SERIOUS. Demons will take u down. They tried to kill me. They tried to destroy my destiny. They tried to murder every good thing that God has for me. Thankfully, the Lord rescued me and He's the best thing that ever happened to me.
I wish I could meet you just so I could say THANKYOU! Iam 37 years old, have 5 children not married, and just got out of 17 year situationship! Emotions...feelings, CHANGE! Love is NOT a feeling it is a ACTION! Everything this beautiful woman is saying is the TRUTH! Time flies ladies, and it also sneaks up on you. SAY NO. And live right! You deserve it, and you are worth it💖
Im sorry about what you went through. I pray you learned what you had to learn, and in the future can the wisdom with others and your beautiful children.
Painful part about situation-ship- when it finally ends the guys usually move on quickly and commit to a woman they actually want. Usually for a lesser time frame. Situation-ship for 6 years but Married to another woman in less than a year.
A man can also be married to you, break up and be married in few weeks by hiding assets and divorcing wife after giving the minimum. In this life put yourself and your best Intensions first
@@gktginglobal1040 This is the part. It may not be a situationship. They could have married you and not have committed fully. They could have married you and you are not who or what they want. A man knows what he wants and being committed doesn’t mean you have to be girlfriend or wife. A man can be a husband and not be committed, not respect and value you. But can be this to someone in a short period of time. Men know what they want and as women know what you want and not get played. Keep God closer. The right person for you will put God first and will treat and love you how God intended.
"Some people are so poor that all they have is money." That was LOUD!! God bless you Breeny for speaking on this topic objectively and speaking of Diddy, it's one thing to be ratchet, wretched with no integrity and loose morals at 22 but to still be that way at BIG 52 is actually sad and pathetic when you think about it. The fact that the man dates girls his children's age and even his own children's ex girlfriends says a lot about his lack of character. How embarrassing. We really need to do a better job at paying more attention to the character and fruits of people before we let ourselves be influenced by them rather than just jumping on the latest trends for the sake of it.
Let me tell u what happened to me ... I picked up an std and this made me infertile. I was with the man for 7 years and he cheated on me and had a child with another woman AT ABOUT THE SAME TIME. He didn't want her and he didn't want the child. Thankfully, she kept her baby. All of this killed something inside of me. I did recover after many years. This is truth and it isn't worth it. Then, ON TOP! Many years later I gave my life to the Lord and I became BORN AGAIN. Y'shua / Jesus showed me that all that SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE brought DEMONS INTO MY SOUL. He delivered me from each one. THIS THING IS SERIOUS. Demons will take u down. They tried to kill me. They tried to destroy my destiny. They tried to murder every good thing that God has for me. Thankfully, the Lord rescued me and He's the best thing that ever happened to me.
Whew, Breeny, you really knew exactly how to put it. Situationships never end well, and I'm slowly regaining my self-worth after a long situationship filled with the guy not wanting to put a title on things because he's "not ready" but wants all the benefits. NO MORE.
Let me tell u what happened to me ... I picked up an std and this made me infertile. I was with the man for 7 years and he cheated on me and had a child with another woman AT ABOUT THE SAME TIME. He didn't want her and he didn't want the child. Thankfully, she kept her baby. All of this killed something inside of me. I did recover after many years. This is truth and it isn't worth it. Then, ON TOP! Many years later I gave my life to the Lord and I became BORN AGAIN. Y'shua / Jesus showed me that all that SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE brought DEMONS INTO MY SOUL. He delivered me from each one. THIS THING IS SERIOUS. Demons will take u down. They tried to kill me. They tried to destroy my destiny. They tried to murder every good thing that God has for me. Thankfully, the Lord rescued me and He's the best thing that ever happened to me.
We are taught to lower our standards to be liked, I’ve learned people are still scared and don’t like you, I’m done compromising my value, loneliness is just a feeling, guilt that men make us feel is just a feeling, our intentions are pure that’s why we lose this game of manipulation
Everybody’s intent is not to be in a relationship. We have to teach these young girls to stop idolizing these celebrity relationships that’s the real problem
@34:45 We have to stop pointing the finger. Diddy didn't waste Cassie's time. Cassie wasted her time. I'm sure he told her but like all women, she thought she could change his mind. We will never break this heartbreak pattern if we keep blaming the man. We have to take 100% ownership of our life and what we want. Let go and move on. Stop breaking our own hearts.
This is such an important video! If we look at how society and relationships are structured, they are to benefit men. Wearing very little clothes, having sex with who ever you want whenever you want , is not revolution nor freedom. It is playing in to the hands of men with no morality. Music and media WE raise women up only as sex objects and we as women go along with it to sell music and to be popular, but in the end it sets us back for real. What we should always remember as women is "If you are not in control, who is?" If we do not take back our dignity and value as women, sure as hell men aint going to do that for us. Stop buying in to the "cool girl" troupe and have standards which reflect who you are more than what you can do with your body. It starts with us women calling each other out and expecting more from each one of us. We cannot expect men to treat us well if we cannot even maintain our own dignity.
@@olivoliv2109True, there are men against it. This is the point though. No one benefits from this behaviour so why do we allow our world and culture to carry on with this over sexualised narrative? We need to ask women "Do you want the attention of every man or do you want the attention of a good man?". That my point on relationships. My comment is larger than that though, it's about dignity. Women are so much more than just a body, so much more than just sex. Who told us otherwise?
I’m turning 25 in August, I’ve never been in an actual relationship…but I’ve been in many temporary situationships. In these situations, I’ve noticed I’ve never put myself first because I thought that playing the game meant winning the prize. You don’t win prizes, what you win are lessons to not repeat these same mistakes…but some of us sometimes go against the greater good of our hearts for the thrill of what talking to a man and dealing with them brings for us. I refuse to be that fool, I want someone who will want me exactly the same way. In every aspect, in every element. I can’t give my heart to no one that doesn’t want to act right !
I love how real are the videos of hers, i am 22 and never had a boyfriend wich makes me feel undiserable and as if something is wrong with me, most of the time i ended up making out with boys from my past that i clearly know they are not worth it just because i think i will not get that tiny attention and less likely real love in the future , ive been dealing with low self esteem and self image issues , but your videos makes me want to change, i will replay this over and over again because i dont want to keep doing the same mistakes ,i believe God has something good for each and every one of us , and i belive we are all deserving of real love, thanks for being honest and for being the wake up call we all need
Girl it’s perfectly ok, I’m 22 too and so are some of my friends and we still haven’t had any boyfriends either. Shoot I still haven’t even had my first kiss. But trust me it’s better to be in a relationship with yourself vs being with someone that doesn’t match you and will only bring you hell just for the sake of being in a relationship. Just take this time to focus on yourself and what you need to do and trust that it’ll happen naturally
I'm 23 and i've been in relationships and sometimes envy people who haven't. I feel like you've probably been saved from a lot of heartache. The same feelings of being undesirable etc were what drove me into abusive relationships from I was 17 (finally put a stop to those when I was 21) and it didn't bring me anything good. I think you're doing the right thing by wanting to change and wait for what you actually deserve.
I'm in my mid 30's, single mom.. lost count of how many times I teared up while listening to this. I just made a serious decision to wait until marriage for sex earlier this month, because settling brings more pain than anything else. It is not a coincidence that I'm seeing this. Glory be to God and Thank You!
@@emayan06 it may sound crazy to you, but you can't speak for all men. A man on a spiritual and self love journey like me may want the same thing. It's more than possible. Your doubt means nothing at the end of the day. It's simply your opinion.
Im so glad that you made this video. Us women need to put ourselves first! And I will never feel bad for saying that a man needs to pay for your time because if they don't, they are most likely going to waste it! Date multiple men (dont sleep with them though) until you are chosen, keep your standards high ladies and don't let any manosphere man try to bully you out of your standards. Men STAY putting themselves and their egos first. They usually don't think about "well how will she feel about this?" when they are about to play you or dog you out. Keep your legs closed and make sure he is both emotionally AND financially invested in you before having sex. My boyfriend broke up with me because I refused to have sex with him. I didn't have sex with him because I wrote down a realistic list of what I expect from a man financially and emotionally and I stuck to that. I didn't tell him about that list though. Trust me ladies, keep your legs closed amd watch his willingness to spend on you and those two things alone will tell you most of what you need to know about where you stand with a guy.
I agree 10000 % Most women will put the man first while the man will put hisself career / money , friends , family and material things before a woman . Women need to start doing the same thing
I agree with this everything except the “until you are chosen”. We need to reframe this thinking. Yes men ask us to marry, but we hold the power in saying yes. Talk to multiple men and YOU choose who best suits you and has proven that they’re worthy
@@Omissionnn Because when you tell them what you want in a man they will act the part and manipulate/play games/lie etc. It's like playing Uno with someone and letting them see your cards.
I'm 19 years old watching this and even though I haven't been in a relationship with a man or anything, I've seen so many woman go through these things and many woman see the flags and ignore, some woman purposely get into relationship because they don't want to be single nor can be happy in their own company, woman always try to fix people but either way no woman ever listens when you tell them exactly what you're saying. I've said lots of these things to woman and still none listen and I'd always end up being right about their situations then they instantly blame men and get upset then I'd have to tell them "Don't get upset! Men won't get better if woman keep on entertaining the wrong situations always trying to fix people and believing men's words instead of watching their actions. The day woman stop doing these things men will have no choice but to be better!" even today many woman are starting to choose themselves plus many woman today don't want much with men but still men and their mind games, I'm honestly so glad to be single and I chose to be and I've never been happier.
I feel the same! She’s so beautiful And I understand casual dating but I feel like it’s no longer casual once a man is reaping relationship benefits from me
Breeny how do you always know what I'm going through 💀 I've just got into a friends with benefits situationship recently , it's my first time ever to do this , I'm 25 and he's 26 , he wanted me first , he almost cried when i was leaving EVERYTIME... he even said that he has feelings for me and its not just sex but I've lost i have gone crazy over him all of a sudden ! He even felt the shift and it stroked his ego , at least this led me to know that he wasn't lying when he said he has feelings for me but it's soooo toxic (there's sooo many details I'm not getting into ) , he wouldn't give me a relationship and my feelings took a tool on me . He's blocked now because i thought that i could just sleep with him and nothing wrong would happen but apparently I'm not build for that . I miss him so much but i know that it's not built on a solid foundation .💔
Honestly, don't try to contact him ever again, trust me. I liked a man who was a friend of mine, loved him lol, but i could clearly see that incase i confess my feelings he's never gonna commit. So I let that entire thing go, it hurt...alot but after a year or so i was even able to see the red flags that I'd been ignoring since day one. AND I'm free now by God's grace. Whew!
Sever all soul ties . Pray to God & ask him to reveal if you have a soul tie . If so … that’s definitely why u can’t get him off your mind … yo mind, will& emotions tied in w him & that’s not good .I had to do this process & had to break it. It happens beautiful I know the feeling TOO WELL u aren’t alone. Don’t go back tho cause it’s not consistent & it’s not built on God so it will fall either way . God bless u 🌹
I blocked this guy soon as he showed me the signs. Don’t wait for more red flags, leave when they say they aren’t looking for anything serious. Okay bye lol
Omgggg😩this is hitting my core, I blv this was the best thing that happened to me (him ghosting me actually saved me from a life God doesn’t want me in and I didn’t see it at first but it’s all coming together) I was in a situation shop for 4 months, never asked to be his girl but was called all the nice words, omgggg like it’s crazy how much you see what you put your self through all because you like a person…thank youu and thank the Lord I’m truly happy, my love is out there somewhere who will cherish me like how the Lord has planned
I've been celibate for 5 months and 2 weeks now and the clarity is insane. I've preferred sneaky links over relationships because they were just less work and I have a deep rooted cowardice of commitment. But just because something is easier doesn't mean I HAVE to do it, I'm looking forward to my next relationship being one I put effort into.
I like how real you are in this video. This is what us women need to hear, instead of being encouraged to do things that wouldn't be good for us in the long run. Appreciate it hon. Let God continue to use you!
And not only that. But she is following up on what she said she will do. Love you sis Sunethra. I hope your working on things you would like to see change as well. 💕💕
I’ve only had three official relationships and I’m 28. The rest have been fwb and situationships. I’m soo burnt out on that and deserve more. Yes I still mess up but I’m also still growing. The healing process is not all rainbows and butterflies whatsoever. Thank you so so much for your realness cause we need it truly.* 💕👑✨
I am 20 years old and currently working on understanding who I truly am, what I deserve, and what I want for myself… I am so grateful I came across this video. This has taught me a lot of what I need to stop allowing and how to better treat myself to avoid attracting more hurt
I don’t even comment on CZcams videos honestly but ive been watching you for about two years now and I’m so proud to say I learned my worth. If they aren’t giving me a label, I leave. If they aren’t giving me real love and only giving signs of lust, I leave. I’m only 16 & every one tells me im so mature for my age… it’s because of you. Thank you.
It really warms my heart that at such a young age you are here learning. Please make sure you apply it all firmly. It will save you a lot of time wasting and heartache. 💕
And I will also add in that they will also try to get you pregnant so they make your life a living hell because they hate you or what you are achieving in life.
I’m so glad this is being said! I’m a big advocate of women having multiple platonic relationships with men! It’s the safest way to be in relationships with members of the opposite sex. You learn how men behave, their likes and dislikes without getting too caught up. The danger is being friend zoned, but I’d much rather the friend zone than giving everything to someone who won’t commit.
This is very dangerous. The men will later on not trust you and this trust issues could complicate your relationship and lead to a break up. If you love your ❤️ don't do this.
I have a friend that’s trying so hard to convince me that she’s in the best relationship. She only calls me to brag other than that I don’t hear from her! She FaceTime me all the time when there on vacation not even speaking just showing her views. I stop picking up her calls, not because I’m jealous, I see right through her. Her men don’t even looks like he wants tot be there! I see right through it so she’s trying to convince everyone her relationship is top tier. If it was she wouldn’t try to do so much convincing.
@10:00 He don't want a relationship with you. Don't personalize it. He doesn't want a relationship with anyone. A lot of these men are punks. One heartbreak and they're done. We hv to stop rushing the vetting process AND WE HAVE TO STOP EXCLUDING GOD. EVERYTHING is a Reason, Season, OOOOOOOR a Lifetime. We KEEP trying to turn every connection into a Lifetime and we have ZERO control over that. That's the frustrating part and we get angry at the guy because we can't seem to figure out how to control the outcome........we can't. Accept that and enjoy the Season and evaluate the Reason(s). God bring people n2 our lives according to HIS plan and purpose for our lives. The year I accepted that and got it locked in my spirit, WOO! So much peace has come over me. The people are sent to keep us moving forward in our God given destiny. Sit down and actually take inventory on what has happened since the day that person came and went. I did this and my mind went 🤯🤯🤯 Relationship #1 propelled me into billing and coding 23 yrs ago and today, that's one of my small businesses. I thought he was my husband, NO. God sent him to tell me to get into billing & coding so 20 years into the future I can start my own agency. Relationship #2 I thought he was my husband, Nope. This relationship propelled me into counselling. Our conflicts revealed all the bottled up anger I had in me. I kept record of all my journaling and voids I had to nurture to bring me closer and closer to spiritual wholeness and guess what? These journals and my journey (20 yrs into the future) are now being typed as my self-help books to the world. I had 2 more relationships, in which I thought they were my husband too 😂😂😂 But meeting them revealed future purposes too. Bf #3 got me back in college to finish my degree and Bf #4 was a muscian. Every musician business relationship I have to this day, was a domino effect off of me initially meeting him. I challenge someone to do this exercise. You will literally see how God used them to keep you moving forward according to His plan. Now let me get back n2 this video 😊
Situationships always end with someone getting hurt. So do some relationships, but at least with them you’ve defined the terms more clearly, so you know it ended due to incompatibility. I’ve been the hurt one and sadly, I have hurt others. It doesn’t feel good.
I'm going to be soooo honest...its been going on 4 years post seperation and divorce from a man who left and who I almost lost my mind over. I've had to watch him move on so quickly with a woman who (thankfully) has accepted my kids and who my kids seem to really like. I've accepted everything and through the grace of God I have forgiven my ex but was wondering ok Lord, when will it be my turn? Why does it seem like the men get to move on so quickly but the women seem to be left behind...forgiveness has a lot to do with it but like you have just said it's also the entertaining of distractions that will set you back. I was starting to miss the romance side of things but real love costs you something. Watching this video has blessed me and has made me feel better about the wait. I can see now that the past 4 years of healing and no drama, loving, respecting myself, raising my children, working my butt off and submitting to Christ and working on my realtionship with Him has not been and will not ever be in vain. Therefore, I am happy to wait and trust in his timing instead of opening another door, which was never meant to be opened. God bless 💕
You strong for this 💪🏽 your comment shouts that you have accepted this part of your life and that leaves room for somebody new to make way into your life. Congrats on your new life
15 minutes in and this is so good. I have been in situationships and it can be heartbreaking. Don't let someone keep you in a gray area. You deserve clarity! Someone who is a player will try to get the most out of you while giving the least. Love that lint brush analogy Breeny. To the person reading this you are not a lint brush. As Breeny says you are expensive! Know your worth. Know God put you on this earth because you are great, you are powerful and you deserve nothing less than the best. It's healing season! My praying for myself and the person reading this is that we will continue on the healing journey so we can attract others on the same path. ~ Candace CZcamsr/Speaker/Poet Covering Self-love
That trian of thought is blame shifting at its finest. Why would a grown man choose to treat another person badly? Because someone "allowed" him to? So if I'm walking down the sidewalk minding my own and I get mugged by a man, it's my fault? Because I "allowed" it?!? There are bad actions and good actions. Why blame good people for other people's bad choices!? A man will do what is in his heart to do.
@@malhunt7 no don’t see it like that.. it’s just the fact that if you don’t like something he’s doing just disengage instead of staying and doing more for him so He’ll change
@@malhunt7 it's called being accountable for the part you played and playing in the whole game and if you think everyone has the best Intensions for you, then my dear you need a biggggg wake-up call.
@@gktginglobal1040 where did I say everyone has the best intentions? I never said that and I don't think that. I also don't think that shifting blame is the solution either! Why should I be accountable for someone else's bad behavior?
Girrrrl, I came into this like, “I know this doesn’t apply to me but I still wanna hear what she has to say.” Came away with validation I didn’t even know I needed. It can feel lonely when you have standards especially when we as the 99% are being encouraged to lower them and just have fun. It’s all a distraction and part of a larger plan of the enemy to steal, kill, and destroy. Thank you for posting! I haven’t been watching this season of Love Island but I would still be down for a video! 🤎
I've been in a situationship for 2.5 years and for so much time I was convinced that despite his toxic hurtful behaviour, it would all get better if I just had the commitment and label. Now I'm finally at the point where no matter what we are or aren't, he is still a manipulative narcissist and hasn't ever loved me the way I have loved him. He will still disrespect me, give me the silent treatment and gaslight me regardless. And to top it all off, of course doesn't want to commit. Thank you Breeny for this video, I needed it to remind myself of my value.
Let me tell u what happened to me ... I picked up an std and this made me infertile. I was with the man for 7 years and he cheated on me and had a child with another woman AT ABOUT THE SAME TIME. He didn't want her and he didn't want the child. Thankfully, she kept her baby. All of this killed something inside of me. I did recover after many years. This is truth and it isn't worth it. Then, ON TOP! Many years later I gave my life to the Lord and I became BORN AGAIN. Y'shua / Jesus showed me that all that SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE brought DEMONS INTO MY SOUL. He delivered me from each one. THIS THING IS SERIOUS. Demons will take u down. They tried to kill me. They tried to destroy my destiny. They tried to murder every good thing that God has for me. Thankfully, the Lord rescued me and He's the best thing that ever happened to me.
I'm so proud of all you women, the divine feminine is rising, we deserve it... We out here doing our thing! Much Love and Light to you all.... 💕 Thank you Breeny💖
I’m so happy! Slowly but surely we will all be okay again! Women and men will get better!! Because of women rising into healing humanity for the better!!
this is a word!!!!! A situationship when I was 17 ruined my perception of relationships and I carried that throughout my first committed relationship that ended terribly. I let these men walk alll over me out of the guise of “empowerment” and “living my best life” when all I wanted was genuine love. F THAT! The right man for me will come and I will be everything he needs and more, and vice versa. I pray and believe that this is true
Throughout my life the single most thing that hasn't made me feel enough was men. Even though I remind myself I am enough, none of the men I've dated ever made me FEEL like I was.
@@Deb_deCoder You misunderstood. I know I'm enough. A lot of the men I was involved with didn't make me feel that way with their actions and behaviors. Therefore I would get myself out of the connection. I know I'm enough and deserve a man who knows that as well.
They don’t even ask me out directly. They say ridiculous things like “Want to join my high school reunion? It’ll just be me there.” They don’t even confess to me about their feelings until a year later. If they want to court you and make you theirs, they will. So many men will date the same girl for years and then dump her and marry someone he knows for a few months. Only losers claim that they love or like you, and continue to do nothing about it. Just be patient. Know your worth. You’re worth more than some guy who is literally confused or second guessing about you.
Why are you getting hurt is what you need to delve into, not necessarily to stop dating. Whatever you attract is a reflection of who you are, so look into why it is that you’re attracting men that hurt you. 🙏🏾
@@yanikeonpurpose Evil people have nothing to do with your Character. Narcissistic men actually prey on kind women. Let's stop blaming others or ourselves for abuse. Just because you are kind doesn't mean people or men will be kind to you. Most people besides men abuse kind people.
I know this video is geared toward younger women but let me tell you, this message is powerful for any age. Very well done! Keep empowering women with the truth. 🙏🏽
I’m 20 yrs old and came out of my first relationship at the end of march. It lasted for a year and a half and I feel free as a mf. I’m working on myself and my future no cap
@@Shantelldale I’ve only just realised how young 20 actually is. When I turned 20 I felt old asf and really discouraged because I’m not where I wanna be and the fact I’m no longer a teen made me feel old lmao. But realising I was willing to waste my early 20s away with a guy is insane now. I’m just not ready to give my all to somebody because I don’t even know myself! Cheers to being single in a healthy and non toxic way.
My favourite part of this video: the difference between love and romance. Now I'm going to start thinking about wanting to be in a relationship with another perspective
@41:20 Coming together and raising the bar You're correct, that will never happen but not for the reason you state. 1. EVERY woman does not want the same thing. When we accept that, our anger will dissolve. 2. EVERY man does not want the same thing. When we accept that, our anger will dissolve. 3. We are all at different levels of development. What a person in their 20's want is different than what someone in their 30's, 40's, 50's, 60's want. These are all different stages of mental and emotional development as well as different stages of life. When we accept that, our anger will dissolve. 4. There's only ONE person we can change, and that is our self. That needs to be our sole focus. What can 'I' do to change my mind, my heart, my attitude, my whatever......., in order to attract a man who wants what I want? What are my blind spots so can break MY unconscious pattern of attracting the wrong men? Blaming men or "low standard" women is not the problem or the solution. We have to ask our self, Why am I attracting the wrong men? 5. Find a therapist, NOT A LIFE COACH, a therapist with years of experience. Human Psychology and Human Behavior is their field of study. They can help you get to the root of your subconscious self-sabotaging pattern in any area of life that you're struggling with.
This is really good. However, the world has painted early marriage to be a bad idea. A woman should be ready to marry as quick as possible and that's not her age mate. A 20years old man is still a boy sometimes even 30. Women could avoid these issues if they could identify men who want marriages. Men who want marriages are from 35 and above. Though not a solid proof but men of such age want to settle down. Another thing men are scared of is Divorce. It is a huge fear that men don't really talk about and this fear is so real. Many men want to get married but are afraid of divorce. I don't know how this can be fixed but it is a real fear and a problem.
JAZZ FINGERS! 👏🏽 Know your value and add INFLATION, although it may be difficult to ascertain, women are the prize, you just have to wait for (not find) the man who will see the value in you. Also the Caresha and Diddy saga is Publicity 101. It’s like a collaboration and they are tapping into each other’s audience and clout. It’s business, wouldn’t be surprised if there’s a signed contract and everything
Good luck get good female friends. The key is good relationships of all kind. Love your live plan trips with friends commrodary is so good. Take a salsa class's this summer Take a second language class Go Ziplining So many of us women are waiting to be I. Relationships with men to live. Love and if it comes it comes, but at least you know you loved your life toe the freakin fullest
Had a friend who was in denial and was so desperate, she took public transit to his house (an hour away) and he never bothers to pick her up even though he has a car. Told me she was “open to a relationship but was fine with FWBs” yet she flew off the handle when he didn’t reply to her text. Denial isn’t just a river. Honor yourself and your feelings and be honest about how you truly feel. You’re not convincing anyone but yourselves if you think you can act like a man. Most of us just aren’t wired that way, at least the emotionally healthy lot. Also, I agree with your sentiments. We are worth more than a stup*d birkin or balenciaga bag. In this day and age, we’d be lucky if we even got one! Most playas just want to offer you a cup of $4 coffee in exchange for your body. No sir, stop being stingy and go to a brothel for that. Some men want cheap and easy sex delivered to them and will be on the hunt for the easiest prey.
This gave me a different perspective. I've been in the same relationship for the most part of 13 years. We broke up once for 6 months, and got back together. I thought for sure I was done with this relationship, but I realized we do have positive sides In our relationship that I've been mostly ignoring due to feeling like he's not checking off everything on my checklist, and we are total opposites, and we don't see eye to eye on everything etc etc. In reality, we communicate well with each other, we love each other, and we get along. I've been idolizing my sisters marriage, because she only talks about the positives between them and tells me I should aim to have something like she has, when I don't really know what she has. And I tend to look more at the negative than the positive in my own life. I'm starting to actually see, that yes my grass is shit brown, but it's because I neglect it.
Thanks for the reminder I really needed. About to be 40. Had to learn the hard way it’s harder for women to not become attached after sex. Something I heard for both men and women that really stuck with me is sleeping around shows your future partner you don’t really value yourself. Which you be also mentioned in video. Honestly kinda scared to start dating after a rough relationship ended.
I just wanted to say thank you for being the influential "big sister" many of us never had. I have 2 older sisters and neither have ever been more real than this! Your message has been received!
You’re always preaching the truth! For women, deep within we can’t pretend we don’t have emotions.... thats why we need to be careful with our choices and what we choose to accept
"Those men who broke women's hearts and fooled around with them will pay to God one day." Amen "We have to start separating a man from his money and stop putting thrm on pedestal because of their money. We have to raise the bar" Amen
People resonate with you because you are lovingly real! You have turned your pain into evolution and that is power. Thank you for the message as always 🤗
You’re the REALEST !!! Hunny I have been 👏 there 👏. We need creators like you to “plant the seed” in women who haven’t woken up yet. We’re the same age, and I went through a decade of this bullsh*t before I WOKE UP. Life is good. God bless xo
I really needed this video. Today was the overflowing of my cup in ending the 9 month situationship I was in. I definitely think loneliness is the key reason some of us end up in these shitty situations. I was to tell my story y'all will say gurl why did you ignore the obvious red flags.
I’m 27 and I can’t believe how much truth you spoke in this video. It’s so relatable & I’m definitely taking your big sister advice. Thank you so much for sharing the true Reality about relationships and love. 💞
Hello. I didn't even see the Title...clicked to see you!! You're DROP DEAD GORGEOUS!! Now That you're free from a draining Relationship! Let's stop INVESTING and COMMITTING to Men who give us just WORDS. No Ring. No Home. No Future plans. Just meaniless blah blah blah!! Great video as always!!
Breeny you are being soo honest! I love that! No need to sugar coat it! Situationships, getting pregnant by these random guys, wanting a man to pay bills?! All hood mentality! The truth hurts but it needs to be said! Ladies we are the prize! Act like it!
"Ladies we are the prize" and you wonder why there is this continuous back and forth between men and women...one gender feels that they are more of something than the other.. what a shame...we are all equal and God's creation
Let me tell u what happened to me ... I picked up an std and this made me infertile. I was with the man for 7 years and he cheated on me and had a child with another woman AT ABOUT THE SAME TIME. He didn't want her and he didn't want the child. Thankfully, she kept her baby. All of this killed something inside of me. I did recover after many years. This is truth and it isn't worth it. Then, ON TOP! Many years later I gave my life to the Lord and I became BORN AGAIN. Y'shua / Jesus showed me that all that SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE brought DEMONS INTO MY SOUL. He delivered me from each one. THIS THING IS SERIOUS. Demons will take u down. They tried to kill me. They tried to destroy my destiny. They tried to murder every good thing that God has for me. Thankfully, the Lord rescued me and He's the best thing that ever happened to me.
So many of us needed to hear this!! Thank you Breeny. It is so easy to get ourselves into situationships "no title" just because we like/love the man so much and end up getting A Broken Heart.
I’m so glad people are speaking out on their weird ass relationship. 😭 all the ppl “stanning” this relationship are low with themselves and will attach to any man that shows the slight bit of interest. I’m reading comments like “their chemistry is everything” “he is so intrigued by her and I’m here for it” You must’ve failed chemistry class bc water and oil don’t mix. No he’s looking for his next side piece that’s not gonna go anywhere for the next 20 years. Y’all see Gina.
I recommend all women to truly get to know a man and his background, in terms of how he was raised. This will tell you about what he was exposed to. Like Diddy he opened up about not ever seeing a man around the house. He was raised by single woman. So he never say two parent home family dynamic. Not only that begin to research your own family background it will tell you also about your mentality based on how you raised. These topics run deep in the families in which we all come from. So it's time to go deeper if you want to experience healthy relationships with yourself and the opposite sex.
@ 12:30 I had to pause this video and comment. I am shook. This behaviour ran my life for years. I was in a situationship with someone who did not want to commit to me and I did it allllll.
Gym every day, upgraded my wardrobe, upgraded my car, changed my entire lifestyle around his aesthetic, literally did not speak in front of his friends when we were out for fear of saying something wrong. Didn’t even move in the bed while he was snoring because I was afraid to wake him up. I starved myself to the point of malnutrition, hoping he would somehow love me one day. If the universe is telling you this guy is not your person, move on. One day when you least expect it you will find someone who will love you for you unconditionally and shout it from the rooftops. He will publicly claim you, love you and adore you no matter your shape, size, or financial status in life. Spreading love to all the ladies- you are perfect just the way you are. Love yourself and do not give a man access to your body,your heart or your soul without real commitment. Most of these men know that once they have access to your body they can control your mind. As women we may have the upper hand when it comes to the initial talking stage, But once you grant him access to your body, we physiologically give him the upper hand.
Wow you said it all! It’s so true that women have the upper hand until they give away their body. Once you’re emotionally attached and then physically attached, you’re done.
Glad you are who you are now sister, i know you feel like you wasted alot of time and effort..but don’t stress know better and will be rewarded for it hopefully 💗💗
Omg that is soo deep, "women have control in the talking stages and men have control once they have access to the women's body." Period so happy for you sis that u are woke now and living better.
Wow. I am really happy for you girl. You are a brave girl for sure.. Thanks for sharing your story with us.. Can't agree more to you.. I wish girls /women in early ages were told that they are not the toy for a man.. They are complete as men's are complete.. Simple society has made us think that we as women need a man to live life.. Soo many women are desperate to find a men so they settle for anyone they find without even realising that even that men deserve you or not..
YYYYEEEEESSSSS...when we open our legs ...we shut off our brain. Sad but true
At 28 years old the absolute best thing I’ve ever did for my 20’s was put love LAST & and put myself FIRST!
Putting yourself first is first form of Love. Keep your heart open though your on the right track. 💗
I hope that has prepared you to be a great woman to a man one day as life is about relationships
I feel bad the roles reverse here I used a guy I didn't realize he's a good guy until now but thankfully he's still giving me a chance 😭😭😭😭 but I know there's insecurities there because of me
@@godsgirl7201 liar.
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The moral of the story is STOP being easy .
Amennn
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In a nutshell!🙂
Yes!!!
TRUTH!!
Some men don't want to commit because they seriously think they are the prize, and women don't know their worth.
@@kendrick8749 those aren't women. Those are little girls mentally.
Yupppp
what came to them thinking that ?
@@alexaaestar women doing sneaky links , letting men sleep with them on the first date , doing friends with benefits during college and calling it a “relationship “ , becoming a baby mama instead of wife and encouraging more baby showers instead of weddings . Especially the area of women being sugar babies and shoving it in your face as “high value “
I could keep going but that’s just the jist of it .
@@suziesmith8288 exactly
I am grateful for the disrespectful guy I dated. He pushed me to the edge, forced me to mature and see value in myself and this allowed me to find a real man who takes care of me.
Yes. "Girlfriend" still doesnt mean they want you long term. A man can have u as a gf for YEARS.
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True.
I used to be so surprised women settled for casual relationships when it was clear it only benefitted the man. I would always see even the most promiscuous women I knew, suffer deeply in those relationships. It wasn’t until I was intimate with a man the first time, did I understand. Men have a good way of making you feel special and loved while lying through their teeth. Women need to understand men can FAKE intimacy so well. Women can not.
I feel bad the roles reverse here I used a guy I didn't realize he's a good guy until now but thankfully he's still giving me a chance 😭😭😭😭 but I know there's insecurities there because of me
I disagree.. Women can fake Intimacy Better than a man
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@Chantel Waters truuuuu
Women can too lmao
I am 28 and have been single for 9 years now. This often left me wondering what's wrong with me. But tbh, when I really think about it - most people settle for a toxic relationship because they desperately want someone in their life. Trust me, I had plenty of those moments and met toxic people, too. But never have I EVER tolerated them for longer than two dates. I see a red flag, I notice it. I see the second red flag - I'm out. I know what I want and I'm not gonna settle. If there's no one out there for me, I'm fine with that. But I will never let a man make me feel less than.
You go girl!! You are saving yourself from unnecessary hard aches and pain!! I wish that I could have known what red flags were back in my day!! You are doing a good job at 28!
Good for you!
I can relate to this so much! Because I’m exactly like this! I’m 21 (about to turn 22 soon) and I’ve been single for almost 5 years now and I refuse to settle for anything less than what I deserve!
The depth of how demonically low a lonely woman will go in this 21st century is unreal. They know the man has no intentions of marrying them nor being a solid rock to them emotionally, spiritually, financially, or exclusivity sexually. Yet, they roll the dice and get bitter when the calls stop and the random sex stops. Women must stop playing themselves with these fantasies when a man has shown them, I don't desire you as a wife.
@@faithlives5643 Amen, Amen, Amen.... The Truth May Hurt but it's (Necessary) to be heard! 👂🏿
Finally women are starting to understand that this city & hot girl summer lifestyle doesn’t lead to anything wholesome in the long run 🙏🏾 don’t let these type of girls influence you
I need megan to reiterate what her movement was and is because yall have it very confused. Megan held beach cleanups and scholarship pageants the year she coined "Hot girl summer" she just graduated from college in December she has 3 grammys.....keep her brand out of THIS mess.
Lately I’ve been letting these things influence me , I’m glad I’m getting back on track
Kashari please! Because while she was doing them beach cleanups, no one heard of that. What we did hear and see was her shaking her ass all over the place telling men how they can suck and f___ on her and that’s all. That’s not empowerment to me.
Let me tell u what happened to me ... I picked up an std and this made me infertile. I was with the man for 7 years and he cheated on me and had a child with another woman AT ABOUT THE SAME TIME. He didn't want her and he didn't want the child. Thankfully, she kept her baby. All of this killed something inside of me. I did recover after many years. This is truth and it isn't worth it. Then, ON TOP! Many years later I gave my life to the Lord and I became BORN AGAIN. Y'shua / Jesus showed me that all that SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE brought DEMONS INTO MY SOUL. He delivered me from each one. THIS THING IS SERIOUS. Demons will take u down. They tried to kill me. They tried to destroy my destiny. They tried to murder every good thing that God has for me. Thankfully, the Lord rescued me and He's the best thing that ever happened to me.
True love only comes from Christ, until we receive that in our hearts we’ll find ourselves hurt and in situations that isn’t good
Ladies always set your boundaries. Once a man crosses them. Just get up and leave. Don't give him multiple chances.
Boundaries & Higher Standards 🔥
Keep those boundaries no matter what 🔥
If a man lies, cheats, or steals, there is not a second chance that you should give him period. Why women set themselves up for heartbreak is the issue. Self-love and Self-care always.
@@faithlives5643 Unfortunately so many Empathic Women have shown so much pity, compassion & mercy for Their Narcs or Predators, to their own emotional or physical detriment.🔥🔥🔥
@@Catherine_Dana A woman must always protect herself. A man can be 65 and get a young hot chick, but a woman doesn't have that option. This is why you don't waste time with a broke, emotionally unavailable man who isn't madly in love with you. A real man will never ask you for one penny. I am shocked at the women who get their backs banged out and help the man pay rent, car, and clothes like a son. Men don't marry their mothers.
"God don't play about His daughters." Loved that. ♥️🙏🏾
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Let me tell u what happened to me ... I picked up an std and this made me infertile. I was with the man for 7 years and he cheated on me and had a child with another woman AT ABOUT THE SAME TIME. He didn't want her and he didn't want the child. Thankfully, she kept her baby. All of this killed something inside of me. I did recover after many years. This is truth and it isn't worth it. Then, ON TOP! Many years later I gave my life to the Lord and I became BORN AGAIN. Y'shua / Jesus showed me that all that SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE brought DEMONS INTO MY SOUL. He delivered me from each one. THIS THING IS SERIOUS. Demons will take u down. They tried to kill me. They tried to destroy my destiny. They tried to murder every good thing that God has for me. Thankfully, the Lord rescued me and He's the best thing that ever happened to me.
YES!! 👏🏽❤️
AMEN 🔥🔥🔥 #GODBLESS
Women are single, happily single choosing to be single. This is the change, at least we're removing the societal stigma from the equation. Love your channel Breeny.
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Single and choosing not to settle for just any man.
Let me tell u what happened to me ... I picked up an std and this made me infertile. I was with the man for 7 years and he cheated on me and had a child with another woman AT ABOUT THE SAME TIME. He didn't want her and he didn't want the child. Thankfully, she kept her baby. All of this killed something inside of me. I did recover after many years. This is truth and it isn't worth it. Then, ON TOP! Many years later I gave my life to the Lord and I became BORN AGAIN. Y'shua / Jesus showed me that all that SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE brought DEMONS INTO MY SOUL. He delivered me from each one. THIS THING IS SERIOUS. Demons will take u down. They tried to kill me. They tried to destroy my destiny. They tried to murder every good thing that God has for me. Thankfully, the Lord rescued me and He's the best thing that ever happened to me.
That’s not the goal though, healthy relationships is what it’s about.
That’s not the goal though, healthy relationships is what it’s about.
Damn, I'm 25 and I feel like it's been ages since I've met someone serious about me. And it's not that I'm easy... I feel like men nowadays just don't want to commit, period. We live in the saddest generation. Women either have to be constantly alone or be in situationships. It's a tough world and I've been lonely for years.
You're correct...this is less about women and more about men! We have the task of discernment...so don't punish yourself, but move accordingly! 😉
Men are obsessed with getting 😿😿😿😾😾😾 and that’s their main motivation. Control, abuse, power and trapping because they are just sh-ty people. It is too common unfortunately but there are good men out there. But they would never be obsessed with getting XXX from a woman. They are good and kind & like a guardian angel in ur life. Remember there is good out there but most of the time it doesn’t always have to do with romance or xxx
Women don't have to be in situationships. They choose to out of desperation and the fear of being alone. But yes it is hard. We mess up sometimes but we have to have that self-confidence to know when to not entertain foolishness.
felt this
Go to jordan and get married over there
She is playing herself because for the most part he is being pretty honest with her. As women we sometimes think we can change a man’s mind. Men study and analyze women and ask questions that may seem innocent but it is all part of the set up to break women down to know what course of actions need to taken in order to Manipulate them.
The truth is hurting me but the knowledge is worth it 🍵
“High standards make you less attractive!!”🙌🏽
I feel like you just took me to church 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I’m 25, only ever had situation-ships, but I feel like I need to rush and enter a relationship because everyone else around me is dating. I feel undesirable, it only makes me want to hurry up and bring someone home. It gets lonely, but I don’t want to rush the process. I have to wait on God’s timing and become the woman I know I am, have standards, and believe in who I am and what I deserve.
My peace of mind is so valuable to me. I love not getting troublesome texts. It can be lonely but the relationship has to be healthy or I don't want it.
Feeling the same. The worst part the men I’ve been interested in don’t even have an interest in me whatsoever. It’s made he feel sad if I’m honest, it really sucks 🥺. I been single for 6 years now too and just feel like it might not happen for me.
Yes! If I had known about Breeny at 25 or had this wisdom! 🥲 thank you for sharing your experience…it’s encouraging to hear that you are willing to love God and own your standards despite the lack thereof around you. Stay consistent love, God will honor that! 🙏🤍
Same here. The guys I genuinely like aren’t ready to be in relationships and the ones who are very interested in me I don’t care too much for. It really sucks but I’ll remain patient I guess lol. @@stacyrensburgoliver
Please don’t rush. You are a diamond 💎 know your value and add tax! Stand out from the rest of the settlers. You are worth it!
"You play stupid games, you get stupid prizes"... THAT PART, lol! Bishop Breeny, you took us to church!!! I love your spirit and the godly wisdom you generously share 💞. May you receive 10 fold what you put out, in Jesus's name 🙏🏾
Amen
Amen
If y’all are together and you think it’s exclusive but there is no title…there is only one reason there is no title…he wants to keep looking around period. It doesn’t matter if he makes you feel like you’re the only girl in the world. If he doesn’t want to make it official it’s because he still wants to look around. That’s it. You can sit there if you want to and let him look to ends of the earth until he finally chooses you but I promise you, you’ll be burnt out by then.
Sooo true, keeping you around while he looking for the one he really wants.
Let me tell u what happened to me ... I picked up an std and this made me infertile. I was with the man for 7 years and he cheated on me and had a child with another woman AT ABOUT THE SAME TIME. He didn't want her and he didn't want the child. Thankfully, she kept her baby. All of this killed something inside of me. I did recover after many years. This is truth and it isn't worth it. Then, ON TOP! Many years later I gave my life to the Lord and I became BORN AGAIN. Y'shua / Jesus showed me that all that SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE brought DEMONS INTO MY SOUL. He delivered me from each one. THIS THING IS SERIOUS. Demons will take u down. They tried to kill me. They tried to destroy my destiny. They tried to murder every good thing that God has for me. Thankfully, the Lord rescued me and He's the best thing that ever happened to me.
As a 16 year old young woman, I find myself getting excited when I receive male attention. Even when it’s not the attention I know I deserve and want. Trying to heal and stop searching for that validation I seek. It’s sooo much easier said than done but videos like this help me. Thank you Breeny. You’ve helped me through my breakup a year ago & now helping me heal. You’re appreciated & loved by us so much! ❤️
You're just 16 what are you in relationships for??🙄 better focus on your studies and school...
@Favour Atta many of my friends are in a relationship at that age (15-16) really annoying and I am not really into that, but they are talking all the time about it, just freaks me out
@@lxy2670 Exactly like🤦 you don't need all that now you have a lot of things to worry about like finishing your school..🤦
@Favour Atta FR it's just unnecessary drama at such a young age. For what? Do they really think that they found their soulmate? very naive, but to each his own....
Leave her be. Jeez, don't have to be so rude.
"I cannot be a giver or a lover to the wrong man." I felt this to my core. I agree with everything you have shared. I pray that women start to wake up, and stop giving themselves to men who do not deserve them.
I've been in a situationship for about 2 years. I've dated otherwise outside of the situationship because as I told the guy "I don't want you anymore than you want me." We eventually had a relationship but the attitude was as though I owed him something and it was so crazy to me. Listen, the moment I met a man that was worth it in my eyes, I cut that boy off like a bad connection. The man that was worth it, is now my husband💕.
Bad connection 🤣🤣🤣
Love this
Amen sis 🙌
Unfortunately, your happy ending isn’t that common. Most women who knowingly or unknowingly get into situationships get stuck there until years have gone by with wasted time, energy and youth and are too emotionally invested to detach
@@smores8982 facts
Women like Yung Miami have reached a point where they value money and the attention of men with money more than they value themselves
She’s getting out of it what she wants! I don’t think this should be be standard, but I guess she knows what works for her. Plus she is prob star struck 🤩
I have to disagree. She values those things more than love and/ or the love of a man! Not more than she values herself. What evidence do u have that she values those things more than herself?
I mean some people date with a GOAL in mind. Shes doing just fine.
She has a new show.
Agreed!!!!!
Or killed the chance of a good future husband.
I’m a happily married woman now but everything you said was the TRUTH!!!! 🙏🏽 I have a daughter now so I will def be sharing your videos so she can watch this!
Let me tell u what happened to me ... I picked up an std and this made me infertile. I was with the man for 7 years and he cheated on me and had a child with another woman AT ABOUT THE SAME TIME. He didn't want her and he didn't want the child. Thankfully, she kept her baby. All of this killed something inside of me. I did recover after many years. This is truth and it isn't worth it. Then, ON TOP! Many years later I gave my life to the Lord and I became BORN AGAIN. Y'shua / Jesus showed me that all that SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE brought DEMONS INTO MY SOUL. He delivered me from each one. THIS THING IS SERIOUS. Demons will take u down. They tried to kill me. They tried to destroy my destiny. They tried to murder every good thing that God has for me. Thankfully, the Lord rescued me and He's the best thing that ever happened to me.
I wish I could meet you just so I could say THANKYOU! Iam 37 years old, have 5 children not married, and just got out of 17 year situationship! Emotions...feelings, CHANGE! Love is NOT a feeling it is a ACTION! Everything this beautiful woman is saying is the TRUTH! Time flies ladies, and it also sneaks up on you. SAY NO. And live right! You deserve it, and you are worth it💖
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Smh 🤦🏾♀️
Im sorry about what you went through. I pray you learned what you had to learn, and in the future can the wisdom with others and your beautiful children.
17 Years??? How did that even happened ?
Painful part about situation-ship- when it finally ends the guys usually move on quickly and commit to a woman they actually want. Usually for a lesser time frame. Situation-ship for 6 years but Married to another woman in less than a year.
That part, sis.
A man can also be married to you, break up and be married in few weeks by hiding assets and divorcing wife after giving the minimum.
In this life put yourself and your best Intensions first
@@gktginglobal1040 This is the part. It may not be a situationship. They could have married you and not have committed fully. They could have married you and you are not who or what they want. A man knows what he wants and being committed doesn’t mean you have to be girlfriend or wife. A man can be a husband and not be committed, not respect and value you. But can be this to someone in a short period of time. Men know what they want and as women know what you want and not get played. Keep God closer. The right person for you will put God first and will treat and love you how God intended.
🤗 sending love your way. That’s terrible.6 yrs!? Geez
"Some people are so poor that all they have is money." That was LOUD!! God bless you Breeny for speaking on this topic objectively and speaking of Diddy, it's one thing to be ratchet, wretched with no integrity and loose morals at 22 but to still be that way at BIG 52 is actually sad and pathetic when you think about it. The fact that the man dates girls his children's age and even his own children's ex girlfriends says a lot about his lack of character. How embarrassing. We really need to do a better job at paying more attention to the character and fruits of people before we let ourselves be influenced by them rather than just jumping on the latest trends for the sake of it.
Exactly 💯 it is embarrassing because Diddy's 2 oldest sons are Yung Miami's age. Also he has 3 teen daughters. He needs to set a better example
@@amab1853 He really does!
Let me tell u what happened to me ... I picked up an std and this made me infertile. I was with the man for 7 years and he cheated on me and had a child with another woman AT ABOUT THE SAME TIME. He didn't want her and he didn't want the child. Thankfully, she kept her baby. All of this killed something inside of me. I did recover after many years. This is truth and it isn't worth it. Then, ON TOP! Many years later I gave my life to the Lord and I became BORN AGAIN. Y'shua / Jesus showed me that all that SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE brought DEMONS INTO MY SOUL. He delivered me from each one. THIS THING IS SERIOUS. Demons will take u down. They tried to kill me. They tried to destroy my destiny. They tried to murder every good thing that God has for me. Thankfully, the Lord rescued me and He's the best thing that ever happened to me.
@@amab1853 w
Yes the fruits! 👏🏽🕊️
Whew, Breeny, you really knew exactly how to put it. Situationships never end well, and I'm slowly regaining my self-worth after a long situationship filled with the guy not wanting to put a title on things because he's "not ready" but wants all the benefits. NO MORE.
Amen to your breakthrough!!!! 🙌🏿
Same sis same . We got this ❤️
If he is not ready to put a title on things he is not ready for the benefits 🤷
Let me tell u what happened to me ... I picked up an std and this made me infertile. I was with the man for 7 years and he cheated on me and had a child with another woman AT ABOUT THE SAME TIME. He didn't want her and he didn't want the child. Thankfully, she kept her baby. All of this killed something inside of me. I did recover after many years. This is truth and it isn't worth it. Then, ON TOP! Many years later I gave my life to the Lord and I became BORN AGAIN. Y'shua / Jesus showed me that all that SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE brought DEMONS INTO MY SOUL. He delivered me from each one. THIS THING IS SERIOUS. Demons will take u down. They tried to kill me. They tried to destroy my destiny. They tried to murder every good thing that God has for me. Thankfully, the Lord rescued me and He's the best thing that ever happened to me.
We are taught to lower our standards to be liked, I’ve learned people are still scared and don’t like you, I’m done compromising my value, loneliness is just a feeling, guilt that men make us feel is just a feeling, our intentions are pure that’s why we lose this game of manipulation
If a man shows you who they are believe them. Respect yourself this message is universal ♾️
Everybody’s intent is not to be in a relationship. We have to teach these young girls to stop idolizing these celebrity relationships that’s the real problem
@34:45 We have to stop pointing the finger. Diddy didn't waste Cassie's time. Cassie wasted her time. I'm sure he told her but like all women, she thought she could change his mind.
We will never break this heartbreak pattern if we keep blaming the man. We have to take 100% ownership of our life and what we want. Let go and move on. Stop breaking our own hearts.
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This is such an important video! If we look at how society and relationships are structured, they are to benefit men. Wearing very little clothes, having sex with who ever you want whenever you want , is not revolution nor freedom. It is playing in to the hands of men with no morality. Music and media WE raise women up only as sex objects and we as women go along with it to sell music and to be popular, but in the end it sets us back for real. What we should always remember as women is "If you are not in control, who is?" If we do not take back our dignity and value as women, sure as hell men aint going to do that for us. Stop buying in to the "cool girl" troupe and have standards which reflect who you are more than what you can do with your body. It starts with us women calling each other out and expecting more from each one of us. We cannot expect men to treat us well if we cannot even maintain our own dignity.
Yes. 💯
Beautifully stated!
@@daniellalino thanks ❤️
This is not beneficial to them, it is harder to find a good woman in what you are describing. There are plenty of man who are against it.
@@olivoliv2109True, there are men against it. This is the point though. No one benefits from this behaviour so why do we allow our world and culture to carry on with this over sexualised narrative? We need to ask women "Do you want the attention of every man or do you want the attention of a good man?". That my point on relationships. My comment is larger than that though, it's about dignity. Women are so much more than just a body, so much more than just sex. Who told us otherwise?
I’m turning 25 in August, I’ve never been in an actual relationship…but I’ve been in many temporary situationships. In these situations, I’ve noticed I’ve never put myself first because I thought that playing the game meant winning the prize. You don’t win prizes, what you win are lessons to not repeat these same mistakes…but some of us sometimes go against the greater good of our hearts for the thrill of what talking to a man and dealing with them brings for us. I refuse to be that fool, I want someone who will want me exactly the same way. In every aspect, in every element. I can’t give my heart to no one that doesn’t want to act right !
I love how real are the videos of hers, i am 22 and never had a boyfriend wich makes me feel undiserable and as if something is wrong with me, most of the time i ended up making out with boys from my past that i clearly know they are not worth it just because i think i will not get that tiny attention and less likely real love in the future , ive been dealing with low self esteem and self image issues , but your videos makes me want to change, i will replay this over and over again because i dont want to keep doing the same mistakes ,i believe God has something good for each and every one of us , and i belive we are all deserving of real love, thanks for being honest and for being the wake up call we all need
Keep not being in serious relationships until the man fully respects you and only want you do not feel bad at all sweetheart. 🥰😘
Girl it’s perfectly ok, I’m 22 too and so are some of my friends and we still haven’t had any boyfriends either. Shoot I still haven’t even had my first kiss. But trust me it’s better to be in a relationship with yourself vs being with someone that doesn’t match you and will only bring you hell just for the sake of being in a relationship. Just take this time to focus on yourself and what you need to do and trust that it’ll happen naturally
@@chanela.7786 yeah I’m still having hope that magical person will come lol until then I’m to myself.
@@Lovablelyn me too🤧but we’re still young, it’s gonna come!
I'm 23 and i've been in relationships and sometimes envy people who haven't. I feel like you've probably been saved from a lot of heartache. The same feelings of being undesirable etc were what drove me into abusive relationships from I was 17 (finally put a stop to those when I was 21) and it didn't bring me anything good. I think you're doing the right thing by wanting to change and wait for what you actually deserve.
What’s the deal with grown ass men saying they only want FWB!!
I will never allow myself to be in that situation.
Exactly too many women are naive and accept that bs from them. Either stand firm in your standards or let that man go
@Lerisa smith friends with benefits.
I'm in my mid 30's, single mom.. lost count of how many times I teared up while listening to this. I just made a serious decision to wait until marriage for sex earlier this month, because settling brings more pain than anything else. It is not a coincidence that I'm seeing this. Glory be to God and Thank You!
Same boat.. it’s hard.
Well no offense but if you have kids. Most men are not going to wait till marriage to have sex. That sounds crazy lol.
@@emayan06 it may sound crazy to you, but you can't speak for all men. A man on a spiritual and self love journey like me may want the same thing. It's more than possible. Your doubt means nothing at the end of the day. It's simply your opinion.
@@brittanyr1456 your right, but we will find the right one on God's time..not ours. I keep reminding myself because it is very hard.
So u been run thru now u holding out 😂
Im so glad that you made this video. Us women need to put ourselves first! And I will never feel bad for saying that a man needs to pay for your time because if they don't, they are most likely going to waste it! Date multiple men (dont sleep with them though) until you are chosen, keep your standards high ladies and don't let any manosphere man try to bully you out of your standards. Men STAY putting themselves and their egos first. They usually don't think about "well how will she feel about this?" when they are about to play you or dog you out.
Keep your legs closed and make sure he is both emotionally AND financially invested in you before having sex. My boyfriend broke up with me because I refused to have sex with him. I didn't have sex with him because I wrote down a realistic list of what I expect from a man financially and emotionally and I stuck to that. I didn't tell him about that list though.
Trust me ladies, keep your legs closed amd watch his willingness to spend on you and those two things alone will tell you most of what you need to know about where you stand with a guy.
I agree 10000 % Most women will put the man first while the man will put hisself career / money , friends , family and material things before a woman . Women need to start doing the same thing
I agree with this everything except the “until you are chosen”. We need to reframe this thinking. Yes men ask us to marry, but we hold the power in saying yes. Talk to multiple men and YOU choose who best suits you and has proven that they’re worthy
Why didn’t you tell him what you wanted ?
@@Omissionnn Because when you tell them what you want in a man they will act the part and manipulate/play games/lie etc. It's like playing Uno with someone and letting them see your cards.
@@jessicat2304 yes, I agree. Talk to multiple men to see what you like and don't like in people.
I'm 19 years old watching this and even though I haven't been in a relationship with a man or anything, I've seen so many woman go through these things and many woman see the flags and ignore, some woman purposely get into relationship because they don't want to be single nor can be happy in their own company, woman always try to fix people but either way no woman ever listens when you tell them exactly what you're saying. I've said lots of these things to woman and still none listen and I'd always end up being right about their situations then they instantly blame men and get upset then I'd have to tell them "Don't get upset! Men won't get better if woman keep on entertaining the wrong situations always trying to fix people and believing men's words instead of watching their actions. The day woman stop doing these things men will have no choice but to be better!" even today many woman are starting to choose themselves plus many woman today don't want much with men but still men and their mind games, I'm honestly so glad to be single and I chose to be and I've never been happier.
I’m literally fighting myself not to cry ☹️
You’re definitely the big sister I wish I had and need.
Same 🥺💞
I feel the same! She’s so beautiful And I understand casual dating but I feel like it’s no longer casual once a man is reaping relationship benefits from me
You’re beautiful!!
what are relationship benefits?
@@Glowwithelle thank you pretty! So are you!😍😍
@@biancaclemenceau5311 whatever you take that to be because everybody has their own standard of what a relationship consists of
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Breeny how do you always know what I'm going through 💀
I've just got into a friends with benefits situationship recently , it's my first time ever to do this , I'm 25 and he's 26 , he wanted me first , he almost cried when i was leaving EVERYTIME... he even said that he has feelings for me and its not just sex but I've lost i have gone crazy over him all of a sudden ! He even felt the shift and it stroked his ego , at least this led me to know that he wasn't lying when he said he has feelings for me but it's soooo toxic (there's sooo many details I'm not getting into ) , he wouldn't give me a relationship and my feelings took a tool on me .
He's blocked now because i thought that i could just sleep with him and nothing wrong would happen but apparently I'm not build for that .
I miss him so much but i know that it's not built on a solid foundation .💔
God has saved you honestly. Heal and learn the lesson. My best advice as I went through this once and never again.
I would recommend watching Anointed fire so you can get revelation and what has happened spiritually
Honestly, don't try to contact him ever again, trust me. I liked a man who was a friend of mine, loved him lol, but i could clearly see that incase i confess my feelings he's never gonna commit. So I let that entire thing go, it hurt...alot but after a year or so i was even able to see the red flags that I'd been ignoring since day one. AND I'm free now by God's grace. Whew!
Sever all soul ties . Pray to God & ask him to reveal if you have a soul tie . If so … that’s definitely why u can’t get him off your mind … yo mind, will& emotions tied in w him & that’s not good .I had to do this process & had to break it. It happens beautiful I know the feeling TOO WELL u aren’t alone. Don’t go back tho cause it’s not consistent & it’s not built on God so it will fall either way . God bless u 🌹
Girl I’m so speechless but l feel like we are going through the same stage but different lane if that makes sense 💔 . I pray for healing at this point
I blocked this guy soon as he showed me the signs. Don’t wait for more red flags, leave when they say they aren’t looking for anything serious. Okay bye lol
Period 💯
Right ✅
Omgggg😩this is hitting my core, I blv this was the best thing that happened to me (him ghosting me actually saved me from a life God doesn’t want me in and I didn’t see it at first but it’s all coming together)
I was in a situation shop for 4 months, never asked to be his girl but was called all the nice words, omgggg like it’s crazy how much you see what you put your self through all because you like a person…thank youu and thank the Lord
I’m truly happy, my love is out there somewhere who will cherish me like how the Lord has planned
I've been celibate for 5 months and 2 weeks now and the clarity is insane. I've preferred sneaky links over relationships because they were just less work and I have a deep rooted cowardice of commitment. But just because something is easier doesn't mean I HAVE to do it, I'm looking forward to my next relationship being one I put effort into.
Celibacy for 5 months and 2 weeks great job sis! KEEP IT UP!!
5 months and 3 weeks here 🥰
@@AkwaIbomDoll let's keep at it till the right one sis 😭😪🙏❤
I've been celibate for 2 years and 4 months, it's been easy cos I'm happy with myself and my happiness and peace of mind is important
I like how real you are in this video. This is what us women need to hear, instead of being encouraged to do things that wouldn't be good for us in the long run. Appreciate it hon. Let God continue to use you!
AMEN
Say it again !
You look great as always. And dropping weight yasss sis love you.
Ikr! She gonna look even more 🔥
preach sis… I talk about situationship in my channel too..
And not only that. But she is following up on what she said she will do. Love you sis Sunethra. I hope your working on things you would like to see change as well. 💕💕
I’ve only had three official relationships and I’m 28. The rest have been fwb and situationships. I’m soo burnt out on that and deserve more. Yes I still mess up but I’m also still growing. The healing process is not all rainbows and butterflies whatsoever. Thank you so so much for your realness cause we need it truly.* 💕👑✨
same
We live and we learn!* ❤️@@Sunny_456
By 21 I was done with dating been through all that
I feel and don’t blame ya. So you’re fine with dating completely? Like as in never again or eventually probably?* @@shutit4024
I’ve always wondered what the benefit was for the woman in a FWB. Did he have money? If not. What’s the benefit?
I am 20 years old and currently working on understanding who I truly am, what I deserve, and what I want for myself… I am so grateful I came across this video. This has taught me a lot of what I need to stop allowing and how to better treat myself to avoid attracting more hurt
I don’t even comment on CZcams videos honestly but ive been watching you for about two years now and I’m so proud to say I learned my worth. If they aren’t giving me a label, I leave. If they aren’t giving me real love and only giving signs of lust, I leave. I’m only 16 & every one tells me im so mature for my age… it’s because of you. Thank you.
It really warms my heart that at such a young age you are here learning. Please make sure you apply it all firmly. It will save you a lot of time wasting and heartache. 💕
me too but i've just started
Go girl!!! I love that for you, I'm 23 and honestly I can tell you you are saving yourself a lot of stress
PROTECT YOUR HEART, YOUR BEAUTIFUL INNOCENT INNER CHILD AND YOUR ENTIRE FUTURE. Let’s do better ❤️
I heard something that made me fell off my chair once. "A man can have sex with you as an act of hate" I said ye 🙆🏾♀️
Wooow 😲😲😲😲😲😲
So true
Going through the comments, I would love an elaboration on this.
My mother told me this growing up
And I will also add in that they will also try to get you pregnant so they make your life a living hell because they hate you or what you are achieving in life.
I’m so glad this is being said! I’m a big advocate of women having multiple platonic relationships with men! It’s the safest way to be in relationships with members of the opposite sex. You learn how men behave, their likes and dislikes without getting too caught up. The danger is being friend zoned, but I’d much rather the friend zone than giving everything to someone who won’t commit.
This is very dangerous. The men will later on not trust you and this trust issues could complicate your relationship and lead to a break up. If you love your ❤️ don't do this.
I have a friend that’s trying so hard to convince me that she’s in the best relationship. She only calls me to brag other than that I don’t hear from her! She FaceTime me all the time when there on vacation not even speaking just showing her views. I stop picking up her calls, not because I’m jealous, I see right through her. Her men don’t even looks like he wants tot be there! I see right through it so she’s trying to convince everyone her relationship is top tier. If it was she wouldn’t try to do so much convincing.
@10:00 He don't want a relationship with you.
Don't personalize it. He doesn't want a relationship with anyone. A lot of these men are punks. One heartbreak and they're done.
We hv to stop rushing the vetting process AND WE HAVE TO STOP EXCLUDING GOD. EVERYTHING is a Reason, Season, OOOOOOOR a Lifetime. We KEEP trying to turn every connection into a Lifetime and we have ZERO control over that. That's the frustrating part and we get angry at the guy because we can't seem to figure out how to control the outcome........we can't. Accept that and enjoy the Season and evaluate the Reason(s).
God bring people n2 our lives according to HIS plan and purpose for our lives. The year I accepted that and got it locked in my spirit, WOO! So much peace has come over me.
The people are sent to keep us moving forward in our God given destiny. Sit down and actually take inventory on what has happened since the day that person came and went. I did this and my mind went
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Relationship #1 propelled me into billing and coding 23 yrs ago and today, that's one of my small businesses. I thought he was my husband, NO. God sent him to tell me to get into billing & coding so 20 years into the future I can start my own agency.
Relationship #2
I thought he was my husband, Nope. This relationship propelled me into counselling. Our conflicts revealed all the bottled up anger I had in me. I kept record of all my journaling and voids I had to nurture to bring me closer and closer to spiritual wholeness and guess what? These journals and my journey (20 yrs into the future) are now being typed as my self-help books to the world.
I had 2 more relationships, in which I thought they were my husband too 😂😂😂 But meeting them revealed future purposes too. Bf #3 got me back in college to finish my degree and Bf #4 was a muscian. Every musician business relationship I have to this day, was a domino effect off of me initially meeting him.
I challenge someone to do this exercise. You will literally see how God used them to keep you moving forward according to His plan.
Now let me get back n2 this video 😊
Situationships always end with someone getting hurt. So do some relationships, but at least with them you’ve defined the terms more clearly, so you know it ended due to incompatibility. I’ve been the hurt one and sadly, I have hurt others. It doesn’t feel good.
I'm going to be soooo honest...its been going on 4 years post seperation and divorce from a man who left and who I almost lost my mind over. I've had to watch him move on so quickly with a woman who (thankfully) has accepted my kids and who my kids seem to really like. I've accepted everything and through the grace of God I have forgiven my ex but was wondering ok Lord, when will it be my turn? Why does it seem like the men get to move on so quickly but the women seem to be left behind...forgiveness has a lot to do with it but like you have just said it's also the entertaining of distractions that will set you back. I was starting to miss the romance side of things but real love costs you something. Watching this video has blessed me and has made me feel better about the wait. I can see now that the past 4 years of healing and no drama, loving, respecting myself, raising my children, working my butt off and submitting to Christ and working on my realtionship with Him has not been and will not ever be in vain. Therefore, I am happy to wait and trust in his timing instead of opening another door, which was never meant to be opened. God bless 💕
That's because women should not be love but are meant to be adored. You miss the game when you get too emotionally invested in a man.
You strong for this 💪🏽 your comment shouts that you have accepted this part of your life and that leaves room for somebody new to make way into your life. Congrats on your new life
@@canesugar911 that makes you happy?
@@johnnychandler325 my comment triggers you?
@@canesugar911 no I already have a woman that loves me but I am just surprised someone doesn't want love in there life but do you
Girl- u and the wizliz are raising everybody’s mothers and daughters. QUEENS
I love Liz! I actually came to breeny’s channel because I wanted more channels like Liz.
15 minutes in and this is so good. I have been in situationships and it can be heartbreaking. Don't let someone keep you in a gray area. You deserve clarity! Someone who is a player will try to get the most out of you while giving the least. Love that lint brush analogy Breeny. To the person reading this you are not a lint brush. As Breeny says you are expensive!
Know your worth. Know God put you on this earth because you are great, you are powerful and you deserve nothing less than the best. It's healing season! My praying for myself and the person reading this is that we will continue on the healing journey so we can attract others on the same path.
~ Candace
CZcamsr/Speaker/Poet Covering Self-love
Self love and respect is important. A man will do to you what u allow.
That trian of thought is blame shifting at its finest. Why would a grown man choose to treat another person badly? Because someone "allowed" him to? So if I'm walking down the sidewalk minding my own and I get mugged by a man, it's my fault? Because I "allowed" it?!?
There are bad actions and good actions. Why blame good people for other people's bad choices!? A man will do what is in his heart to do.
@@malhunt7 no don’t see it like that.. it’s just the fact that if you don’t like something he’s doing just disengage instead of staying and doing more for him so He’ll change
@@malhunt7 it's called being accountable for the part you played and playing in the whole game and if you think everyone has the best Intensions for you, then my dear you need a biggggg wake-up call.
@@gktginglobal1040 where did I say everyone has the best intentions? I never said that and I don't think that. I also don't think that shifting blame is the solution either! Why should I be accountable for someone else's bad behavior?
Girrrrl, I came into this like, “I know this doesn’t apply to me but I still wanna hear what she has to say.” Came away with validation I didn’t even know I needed. It can feel lonely when you have standards especially when we as the 99% are being encouraged to lower them and just have fun. It’s all a distraction and part of a larger plan of the enemy to steal, kill, and destroy. Thank you for posting! I haven’t been watching this season of Love Island but I would still be down for a video! 🤎
Yes girl stay out of the white womens way. Then wonder where all the good are at 40
Women get Fertility issues from broken hearts. High blood pressure.
I value my good energy and happiness
"Some people are so poor all they have is money"
Breeny!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I've been in a situationship for 2.5 years and for so much time I was convinced that despite his toxic hurtful behaviour, it would all get better if I just had the commitment and label. Now I'm finally at the point where no matter what we are or aren't, he is still a manipulative narcissist and hasn't ever loved me the way I have loved him. He will still disrespect me, give me the silent treatment and gaslight me regardless. And to top it all off, of course doesn't want to commit. Thank you Breeny for this video, I needed it to remind myself of my value.
Your cake and icing analogy was PERFECT. That’s the reality of what relationships are today. Not a desire for true, enduring love but for romance.
Let me tell u what happened to me ... I picked up an std and this made me infertile. I was with the man for 7 years and he cheated on me and had a child with another woman AT ABOUT THE SAME TIME. He didn't want her and he didn't want the child. Thankfully, she kept her baby. All of this killed something inside of me. I did recover after many years. This is truth and it isn't worth it. Then, ON TOP! Many years later I gave my life to the Lord and I became BORN AGAIN. Y'shua / Jesus showed me that all that SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE brought DEMONS INTO MY SOUL. He delivered me from each one. THIS THING IS SERIOUS. Demons will take u down. They tried to kill me. They tried to destroy my destiny. They tried to murder every good thing that God has for me. Thankfully, the Lord rescued me and He's the best thing that ever happened to me.
"Why would you want to become the man that hurt you ?"Got shivers let me tell you,when the holy spirit speaks through Breeny💕✨😭👏👏
I'm so proud of all you women, the divine feminine is rising, we deserve it... We out here doing our thing! Much Love and Light to you all.... 💕 Thank you Breeny💖
Agreed 💓
I’m so happy! Slowly but surely we will all be okay again! Women and men will get better!! Because of women rising into healing humanity for the better!!
this is a word!!!!! A situationship when I was 17 ruined my perception of relationships and I carried that throughout my first committed relationship that ended terribly. I let these men walk alll over me out of the guise of “empowerment” and “living my best life” when all I wanted was genuine love. F THAT! The right man for me will come and I will be everything he needs and more, and vice versa. I pray and believe that this is true
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Throughout my life the single most thing that hasn't made me feel enough was men. Even though I remind myself I am enough, none of the men I've dated ever made me FEEL like I was.
you need men to make you feel enough ! well that is a problem to be corrected
@@Deb_deCoder You misunderstood. I know I'm enough. A lot of the men I was involved with didn't make me feel that way with their actions and behaviors. Therefore I would get myself out of the connection. I know I'm enough and deserve a man who knows that as well.
They don’t even ask me out directly. They say ridiculous things like “Want to join my high school reunion? It’ll just be me there.” They don’t even confess to me about their feelings until a year later. If they want to court you and make you theirs, they will. So many men will date the same girl for years and then dump her and marry someone he knows for a few months. Only losers claim that they love or like you, and continue to do nothing about it. Just be patient. Know your worth. You’re worth more than some guy who is literally confused or second guessing about you.
@@katelynnlee5158 Thank you 💗
dang this just hit me so hard. "don't be turned on by words" and "what are you worth?"
A lot of the women my age (40s, 50s and 60) trying to be cougars, competitive with younger women. I say ..GROW UP!!!! YOU WILL NEVER WIN.
I get hurt.. I just decided to stop dating all together. I am fine with being alone versus being hurt
Same
Why are you getting hurt is what you need to delve into, not necessarily to stop dating. Whatever you attract is a reflection of who you are, so look into why it is that you’re attracting men that hurt you. 🙏🏾
@@yanikeonpurpose because I am human
@@yanikeonpurpose either way i am not going to date if I don't feel comfortable. ..
I know I am a sensitive
@@yanikeonpurpose Evil people have nothing to do with your Character. Narcissistic men actually prey on kind women. Let's stop blaming others or ourselves for abuse. Just because you are kind doesn't mean people or men will be kind to you. Most people besides men abuse kind people.
I know this video is geared toward younger women but let me tell you, this message is powerful for any age. Very well done! Keep empowering women with the truth. 🙏🏽
I’m 20 yrs old and came out of my first relationship at the end of march. It lasted for a year and a half and I feel free as a mf. I’m working on myself and my future no cap
I am 20 year old also and single. Best thing ever. Focus on your future sis 👏 and leave relationships for now.
@@Shantelldale I’ve only just realised how young 20 actually is. When I turned 20 I felt old asf and really discouraged because I’m not where I wanna be and the fact I’m no longer a teen made me feel old lmao. But realising I was willing to waste my early 20s away with a guy is insane now. I’m just not ready to give my all to somebody because I don’t even know myself! Cheers to being single in a healthy and non toxic way.
My favourite part of this video: the difference between love and romance. Now I'm going to start thinking about wanting to be in a relationship with another perspective
@41:20 Coming together and raising the bar
You're correct, that will never happen but not for the reason you state.
1. EVERY woman does not want the same thing. When we accept that, our anger will dissolve.
2. EVERY man does not want the same thing. When we accept that, our anger will dissolve.
3. We are all at different levels of development. What a person in their 20's want is different than what someone in their 30's, 40's, 50's, 60's want. These are all different stages of mental and emotional development as well as different stages of life. When we accept that, our anger will dissolve.
4. There's only ONE person we can change, and that is our self. That needs to be our sole focus. What can 'I' do to change my mind, my heart, my attitude, my whatever......., in order to attract a man who wants what I want? What are my blind spots so can break MY unconscious pattern of attracting the wrong men? Blaming men or "low standard" women is not the problem or the solution. We have to ask our self, Why am I attracting the wrong men?
5. Find a therapist, NOT A LIFE COACH, a therapist with years of experience. Human Psychology and Human Behavior is their field of study. They can help you get to the root of your subconscious self-sabotaging pattern in any area of life that you're struggling with.
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This is really good. However, the world has painted early marriage to be a bad idea. A woman should be ready to marry as quick as possible and that's not her age mate. A 20years old man is still a boy sometimes even 30. Women could avoid these issues if they could identify men who want marriages. Men who want marriages are from 35 and above. Though not a solid proof but men of such age want to settle down. Another thing men are scared of is Divorce. It is a huge fear that men don't really talk about and this fear is so real. Many men want to get married but are afraid of divorce. I don't know how this can be fixed but it is a real fear and a problem.
@@justemeka I hear ya. #TheFearofDivorce
JAZZ FINGERS! 👏🏽 Know your value and add INFLATION, although it may be difficult to ascertain, women are the prize, you just have to wait for (not find) the man who will see the value in you. Also the Caresha and Diddy saga is Publicity 101. It’s like a collaboration and they are tapping into each other’s audience and clout. It’s business, wouldn’t be surprised if there’s a signed contract and everything
Not them tacky P. Diddy contracts chile…
God really uses you to help us in so many ways. I really needed this 😩 thank you!
Good luck get good female friends. The key is good relationships of all kind. Love your live plan trips with friends commrodary is so good.
Take a salsa class's this summer
Take a second language class
Go Ziplining
So many of us women are waiting to be I. Relationships with men to live.
Love and if it comes it comes, but at least you know you loved your life toe the freakin fullest
@@cvzdez Amen. Fill up your bucket list for this summer!
Amen ❤️ 🙏
Had a friend who was in denial and was so desperate, she took public transit to his house (an hour away) and he never bothers to pick her up even though he has a car. Told me she was “open to a relationship but was fine with FWBs” yet she flew off the handle when he didn’t reply to her text. Denial isn’t just a river. Honor yourself and your feelings and be honest about how you truly feel. You’re not convincing anyone but yourselves if you think you can act like a man. Most of us just aren’t wired that way, at least the emotionally healthy lot.
Also, I agree with your sentiments. We are worth more than a stup*d birkin or balenciaga bag. In this day and age, we’d be lucky if we even got one! Most playas just want to offer you a cup of $4 coffee in exchange for your body. No sir, stop being stingy and go to a brothel for that. Some men want cheap and easy sex delivered to them and will be on the hunt for the easiest prey.
This gave me a different perspective. I've been in the same relationship for the most part of 13 years. We broke up once for 6 months, and got back together. I thought for sure I was done with this relationship, but I realized we do have positive sides In our relationship that I've been mostly ignoring due to feeling like he's not checking off everything on my checklist, and we are total opposites, and we don't see eye to eye on everything etc etc. In reality, we communicate well with each other, we love each other, and we get along. I've been idolizing my sisters marriage, because she only talks about the positives between them and tells me I should aim to have something like she has, when I don't really know what she has. And I tend to look more at the negative than the positive in my own life. I'm starting to actually see, that yes my grass is shit brown, but it's because I neglect it.
Thanks for the reminder I really needed. About to be 40. Had to learn the hard way it’s harder for women to not become attached after sex. Something I heard for both men and women that really stuck with me is sleeping around shows your future partner you don’t really value yourself. Which you be also mentioned in video. Honestly kinda scared to start dating after a rough relationship ended.
That’s why you don’t tell men( and women like your friends) how many men you’ve slept with.
I just wanted to say thank you for being the influential "big sister" many of us never had. I have 2 older sisters and neither have ever been more real than this! Your message has been received!
You’re always preaching the truth! For women, deep within we can’t pretend we don’t have emotions.... thats why we need to be careful with our choices and what we choose to accept
"Those men who broke women's hearts and fooled around with them will pay to God one day."
Amen
"We have to start separating a man from his money and stop putting thrm on pedestal because of their money. We have to raise the bar"
Amen
girllll this look is giving super model 💅🏼 thank you for the video 💜
People resonate with you because you are lovingly real! You have turned your pain into evolution and that is power. Thank you for the message as always 🤗
You’re the REALEST !!! Hunny I have been 👏 there 👏. We need creators like you to “plant the seed” in women who haven’t woken up yet. We’re the same age, and I went through a decade of this bullsh*t before I WOKE UP. Life is good. God bless xo
"You play a stupid game, you get a stupid reward." Speak on it Breeny!
I really needed this video. Today was the overflowing of my cup in ending the 9 month situationship I was in. I definitely think loneliness is the key reason some of us end up in these shitty situations. I was to tell my story y'all will say gurl why did you ignore the obvious red flags.
Ok ladies, there is no competition. THE ONLY ONE YOU ARE IN COMPETITION WITH IS YOURSELF...THE ONE IN THE MIRROR.
I can see the power of your mind on your health and body through this beautiful transformation and new you💖
You're glowing girl so proud of you 👏😘
I’m 27 and I can’t believe how much truth you spoke in this video. It’s so relatable & I’m definitely taking your big sister advice. Thank you so much for sharing the true Reality about relationships and love. 💞
Hello. I didn't even see the Title...clicked to see you!! You're DROP DEAD GORGEOUS!! Now That you're free from a draining Relationship! Let's stop INVESTING and COMMITTING to Men who give us just WORDS. No Ring. No Home. No Future plans. Just meaniless blah blah blah!! Great video as always!!
Breeny you are being soo honest! I love that! No need to sugar coat it! Situationships, getting pregnant by these random guys, wanting a man to pay bills?! All hood mentality! The truth hurts but it needs to be said! Ladies we are the prize! Act like it!
"Ladies we are the prize" and you wonder why there is this continuous back and forth between men and women...one gender feels that they are more of something than the other.. what a shame...we are all equal and God's creation
Let me tell u what happened to me ... I picked up an std and this made me infertile. I was with the man for 7 years and he cheated on me and had a child with another woman AT ABOUT THE SAME TIME. He didn't want her and he didn't want the child. Thankfully, she kept her baby. All of this killed something inside of me. I did recover after many years. This is truth and it isn't worth it. Then, ON TOP! Many years later I gave my life to the Lord and I became BORN AGAIN. Y'shua / Jesus showed me that all that SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE brought DEMONS INTO MY SOUL. He delivered me from each one. THIS THING IS SERIOUS. Demons will take u down. They tried to kill me. They tried to destroy my destiny. They tried to murder every good thing that God has for me. Thankfully, the Lord rescued me and He's the best thing that ever happened to me.
So many of us needed to hear this!! Thank you Breeny. It is so easy to get ourselves into situationships "no title" just because we like/love the man so much and end up getting A Broken Heart.
Breeny you look like a Barbie 😍😍😍😍 I love the hair..
This message is EVERYTHING- young please listen to this
Yass for love island. We needed this video thank you.
I’m so glad people are speaking out on their weird ass relationship. 😭 all the ppl “stanning” this relationship are low with themselves and will attach to any man that shows the slight bit of interest. I’m reading comments like “their chemistry is everything” “he is so intrigued by her and I’m here for it”
You must’ve failed chemistry class bc water and oil don’t mix. No he’s looking for his next side piece that’s not gonna go anywhere for the next 20 years. Y’all see Gina.
I recommend all women to truly get to know a man and his background, in terms of how he was raised. This will tell you about what he was exposed to. Like Diddy he opened up about not ever seeing a man around the house. He was raised by single woman. So he never say two parent home family dynamic. Not only that begin to research your own family background it will tell you also about your mentality based on how you raised. These topics run deep in the families in which we all come from. So it's time to go deeper if you want to experience healthy relationships with yourself and the opposite sex.
This!.. To many women were thinking this is cute.