Having Baby In 20's: The New Teen Pregnancy? | The View
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Alyssa’s take is so real. I had a friend get pregnant at 23 and I didn’t know whether or not to say congratulations lol
Yes, cause if it was an accident that wasn't wanted at the time, congratulations is the last thing you want to hear 😡
My one question in those moments are "are we happy or are we gonna exercise your right to choose?"
Thats an oh no! hahah
Joy is so unhinged 😂💀 “yeah thats old” had everyone gagged
Most people in their 20s now probably can’t afford a kid
36 they dont get any cheaper
These women are millionaires!!! They don’t speak with the regular people!! I make a good living yet I’m supporting the bLK community
I could not afford my children but I had three and raise them by myself but we had Democrats in charge of Tennessee and they greatly helped. They made it possible. They are all grown now. But the entire time I was raising them I never had any extra money now that they are all out of the house and have their own houses I'm finally starting to have my own money. You don't have to spend 80% of what you make on everyone else
Absolutely I know I can't.
The average person can not afford to freeze their eggs.
We had our son while in my 20's and so glad I did, He was grown, educated and on his own and we were still young enough to enjoy our lives.
Same here! I was 21 and my husband 23 when we had our daughter. She graduated high school and was off to college before my 40th birthday.😄
@@ilovegoodsaxDon't sing hallelujah because then come the grandkids and.....
But then the grandkids come and you are happy you get to send them home. 😂😅And being a young Gramma, grampa .they expect you to do more things with the grandkids than when you are an old grandma,grandpa.😮
@@quitaulla1569 I only have the one child and grandchidren aren't on the menu, which is fine with me as I'm retired now and still young enough to come and go as I please.😊
@@ilovegoodsax Very good! ✌️
I'm 35 and if I could have a kid in my 20s, I 100% would have, but I didn't have a husband (partner) to have the baby with. Joy is right, you're never actually ready, you just do it and figure it out.
Just a side note, I had my baby at 40 and wish I did it in my 30’s - but not 20’s!
We're all different in our own ways.
If it works for in your 20s, go for it. But if you know it won't work for you, just don't force it.
@@maciw456 my friend had a baby in her 50's
You can always have artificial insemination or adopt a child.
Are "husband" and "wife" such offensive words now that we have to add "partner" for the sake of specificity and peace?
I'm 24 and I'm nowhere near ready for a family or a baby
It’s okay not to be ready, enjoy your life!!
Agreed . Now , I’m 26 and I still don’t want any children .
Same, I'd rather wait until I'm a home owner, and make 5-6x my mortgage before even thinking about having ONE kid. And I'm adopting as well.
I'm 30 and i never got the right woman to make a child.
Enjoy your peace, quiet, and freedom. If you don't want kids it is fine, if you want them just save money because they are expensive.
Yas Alyssa!! I'm 31 and im seeing people my age have kids and my immediate reaction is "oh no" or "your about to be financially stressed for awhile". But i also have to remember those reactions are me projecting....
I had my first child at 31, which was great, however I had been married for 6yrs. We traveled and enjoyed each other so we were ready to grow our family. Time will fly by and I find there's a balance of stability & youthfulness still to engage with my children since I had them in my 30's.
Had my daughter at 23. I was always one of the younger moms when she was in school. And I knew I was done having babies before 30 by choice. Now I’m an empty nester at 43 about a year away from being mortgaged free
I concentrated on my career in my 20s, started wanting kids in my mid-30s, and met my husband when I was 35. We had our 1st child I was 40 and our 2nd child when I was 43. We were very fortunate to have no "issues" with conceiving but I have to admit that by 42/43 I was worried about complications. Thankfully it all worked out. But I am definitely an older mommy.
I had kids in my 20’s and I’m don’t with kids. One out of college and one going into his second year. Love it, 47 and husband and I enjoying our freedom.
Yeah 20 is the new teen!! Cause why would you with this economy
NOPE.
I agree! Whew especially the prices for childcare are nastyyyyy work 😅.
Exactly.
I had one at 18 and 20 and twins at 27!!! I was married at 17 (not pregnant yet... military) I loved being a young mom. Btw, still going strong at 30 years married, and our 4 kids are now awesome adults ❤ it happens 😊
It’s actually better to do it younger it’s just that many people can’t afford it
Yep -- birthin' babies is definitely a young woman's game.
Right.
No wayyyy! Enjoy your freedom first.
Exactly, that's why it's better to get some financial stability first, and quite often, you're still young, but at least not in the poorhouse.
I think I'll be ready for a baby around 29 through 34
Yes. Enjoy your freedom first.
yep, pregnant at 29..had baby at 30
Yep, that's a better age 👍
Kids, in this economy, yea right.
Human biology hasn't changed, only modern priorities have.
Thank you for saying that. A lot of women (not all women) who waited to have children are struggling to have those children. The earlier you have them the better it is physically for the woman. The issue is that people are not financially in a good place to afford them.
Blech. Joy's "just make it work" attitude is why there are so many families who can't afford to provide for their kids.
Boomers always have the "just make it work" line, because in 1970-1990ish, if you had an accidental baby, there were plenty of ways to make money. Even single moms had it easier back then. They literally live in the Jimmy Carter era of cheap apartments, cheap used cars, easy to find work....out of touch.
Joy always sounds like my late grandma, she repeats stories every time we are having conversations.
She has told that story about her baby daughter, Ex and the Volkswagen over and over again without missing a bit
I'm in Iowa and had babies at 27 and 28. I thought that was pretty normal age but when my kids got to school, in comparison to other parents, we were ancient.
You think that's something, when my granddaughter was little and getting close to starting school, I met what I thought was another grandma with a little girl the same age as my granddaughter, except she was her mother, and she was a year older than me 😲
I am 28 and I can say I am glad that I do not have children. I have gotten the chance to travel solo, with friends family and I feel like I had the opportunity to truly know myself and enjoy my singlehood. Now, I am getting married next year and plan to have children later 💕
Good luck!! I feel like there’s not one size fits all, but it sure is nice for people to do follow their hearts into whatever it leads them to. As a single person who won’t be having any kids, I salute all parents in their journey to having or deciding to try for kids.
Congratulations! I’m 1-2 years older and travelling solo in your 20s is the best way to grow.
I am so glad that I had all my children while I was still in my 20's and 30's I absolutely luv being A mom and a mimi 💕 😊
I want to make sure I'm financially able to take care of my child or children when I have them
And that day may never come, or you may be too old to have children when it does.
That's the way it should be done, not, lets have kids now while we're still in the poorhouse, and then try to catch up financially later, I know from experience, you never get ahead if you do it the other way around.
My mom had my Brother when she was 20 and my dad was 23 almost 24 I am 24 Years Old now and it makes me think how different it was to have a kid back in 1985 compared 2024 (my brother was born in 1985). I am 24 and I still feel like a kid my mind does this weird thing where people born in the 2000s still feel like children, people born in the 90s still feel like teenagers, and people born in the 80s still feel like people in their 20s.
Nowadays ppl don’t want babies in their 20s bc life is already hard and expensive as it is! Most ppl in their 20s and early 30s are more likely to be living with family/roommates to make ends meet.
Very true! Our current situation is completely messed up. If the government does nothing to improve costs of living, we're done for.
I have five daughters. All are college graduates, married with children and doing very well.
Three live in California
@@moniqueengleman873 good for them. That’s doesn’t take away from the facts.
@@moniqueengleman873 Are all of them working?
They probably are working like mules and hardly get to enjoy the kids like so many families.
I love Alyssa’s dress! Too cute and fashion forward! Enough with the librarian outfits on the view!
I had the opposite reaction. Too frou-frou. Looks like what I wore for Easter when I was seven.
❤I also think her dress is pretty.
I'm 27 and expecting, ready does not exist 😂 but it happened and I am enjoying every second of it. We're not financialy 100% stable, but we are not spoiled and we will get to it some day eventualy. It's not such a big deal...
I was at new mom and wife at 22 and it was great. I didn't know where life was going for me before that so it was nice to not gong thru everything alone. Now 10 years later, life has balanced out. Another kid and we're still together with great jobs. For some, your 20s aren't the best time of your life lol
Back in the day,we never thought how expensive baby’s would be ,we have them and we deal with it,today it’s all about finances ,yes there’s a lot of responsibility in having babies ,but at the end it’s all worth it ,compare that to being completely alone as you get old ,their love is priceless ! Joy is right on point as usual !
Oklahoma teens!❤😂. Maria! Joy! Whoopie!❤
I think Sunny is noticing the difference between how people receive Sarah vs. how people receive her. Sarah started having kids at 41 = good. Sunny starting at 38 = '"old". Sarah indulges conspiracies about the royal family = cute, Sunny does = horrible person. Sarah doesn't take responsibility and blames the royal family for what they get = a little unfortunate. Sunny = playfully apologizes for indulging Sarah's conspiracies =devil. Hmmm....
Sara is 9-10 years younger than Sunny, so Sara probably was also told she had a geriatric pregnancy, but it was more commonplace than when Sunny had her kids. There have always been women who had kids later in life, but it's definitely more prevalent today. I mean, Janet Jackson had her son at 50!
Sara is a Whyte Passive Racist
@@debbiedoodiedandi Could be! In general, though, there's a giant difference in how both are received across episodes that Sunny definitely seems to be picking up on.
Well, it could be that Sarah is just a more likeable person than Sunny. Sarah is almost always open-minded, non-judgmental, and never has that arrogance about her. Sunny frequently, if not daily comes across as very arrogant to me. Joy does too honestly. What I like about Sarah and Alyssa is that they're not so entrenched in their own bias that they can't look at things from a different perspective. Sunny and Joy and Whoopi are so deeply hypocritical. Like how? If anyone criticizes Kamala Harris it's because of her race but if someone made a criticism about Winsome Sears or Condoleezza Rice Then there wouldn't be this immediate assumption of racism and sexism because Sunny doesn't agree with them either. Little things like that that just tick me off. I also get tired of how Sunny thinks that she speaks for all black people.
@@SomethingSomethingg the point is the DOUBLE STANDARDS and HYPOCRISY! Very easy to admit it.
It also depends what culture you're in. I'm around a lot of chicanos in calif. and they are less about planning/ being financially prepared. That's not a slam- they'll say that's the way it is and rely on others to assist.
yuppp latinos seem to be more willing to be supportive to helping out to young parents than other cultures
Had a baby last year at 28 and tbh a lot of my friends are in this weird space between omg I can’t do it and I I’m ready for my own. I think late 20’s is a good age and you get to grow up together. I think also it depends on how mature you are as well. Also I think I was ready because I travelled I lived such a full life and ticked off everything I wanted to do before I was 30.
In the US, for a couple of decades, people are waiting longer to have kids, and also having less of them
It's not just the US it's most of the western civilization. It's a good thing though less resource use, less hungry kids, less suffering, less abuse.
And the reason Social Security benefits will be in jeopardy in the upcoming decades.
@@ilovegoodsax my generation has been told we won't have social security,to invest in our own retirement. So since atleast the early 90s we know ss won't be there. Get prepared if your not already.
My sister was a teen mom It was tough at time, but now I'm in my mid-thirties and I'm recently a father.She's a year older than me and it's already a grandmother.I'm a bit jealous of how much time she will have with her grandchildren. I will most likely be in my late fifties.
these women are so out of touch like usual… i would say about 90% of women from 20-40 can no longer afford kids lol. it’s irresponsible to “just figure it out as you go” most people don’t have that privilege we can barely afford housing…
90% is made up. The poorest countries in the world have the most kids.
I'm with joy I'm 34 and when they let me leave with my son from the hospital I'm like that's it!!! No pamphlet no anything you just assume I'm responsible and can take care of this precious angel😅
At 32, i would love to have children but whew childcare by its self is expensive af! I hate when people say "youll manage". Because all the couples thst are stressed tf out each month will disagree.
Joy is such a gran, I love her
The older the eggs, the higher likelihood of health issues.
Children born to younger parents tend to be healthier.
I'm 29 and I never want children. They would absolutely destroy my life, especially if my pedigree is anything to predict what they'll be like.
Alyssa should really think about her wardrobe choices. She looks like a Belle out of a Southern movie...lol
😮
Her stylist messed up today. Calling it hideous would be an
Understatement 🎉
Sarah often outshines Alyssa make up, hair, fashion. And she's the older one with kids 😅
I love her dress today :)
Lol
Whoopi is so down to earth love it .
I think this should apply to males like myself as well as females
I'm a male in my late 20s, and we straight up cannot afford it. I can't think of a single girl friend who has the time, money, or resources to have a baby.
I think mid to late 20's would be good...brain is more developed and more financially stable. I had my son a month after my 17th bday. It wasn't easy... very difficult actually. BUT, I figured it out, worked my butt off, and grew into a pretty amazing young woman. I'm very proud of myself. My son is 19 now, a hard worker, and about to start college. I'm so proud of both of us. ❤
I agree with Joy
Had mine at 26 and 29, by 48, they were in college and my husband and I started a new lifestyle. Worked for us…so happy we didn’t wait until we had ‘everything’. We STILL don’t have everything and we wouldn’t have had those two darlings….
I would have had my son earlier like 25, or 26 but i grew up in abuse and wanted to heal before I had kids, i was scared. I had him at 28 and zero regret about having him in my 20s
That's something in itself, cause sometimes, people who had a crappy childhood growing up, decide they don't want kids at all.
@@idotgotitme3280 thanks. Yes I wasn't sure for awhile but when I decided I did I wanted to make sure the cycle stopped with me.
My mom always said if you wait until you can afford a baby ,you never will.
35 and in my 4B movement era hahaha
I think it is smart. Many women overestimate their fertility and found out, mid to late 30s that getting pregnant can be tough.
Unless they're a fertile mertle like I was. It would've been so much easier if I was barren 😊
@@idotgotitme3280well not everyone is the same. 😊But many women notice a decline in fertility as they approach perimenopause and may have to resort to fertility care, which is not easy or cheap.
Luckily there’s technology to mitigate that so not a train smash
@@miss_bougie6653 Yes, definitely. But I would recommend women to have a realistic view of their own fertility and to talk to their family doctors early on and perhaps considering freezing their eggs so they have a bit of time to spend on other things while still having eggs in good condition than when reaching 40.
Joy to the World 😂
People are getting married later. Nobody can really afford life until at least their late 20's early 30's now, then you have to find a partner. Then you have to get married. it's still of course best to not have kids out of wedlock. And yes I see many many new first time parents that are mid-30's. thats just what the economy has forced us all to do.
Having kids in your 20s is the optimal normal age range.
Lol I had my daughter at 20 and now that daughter is 40 and she’s having her first one…. She’s exhausted 😅
I gave birth to my son a month before my 27th birthday and I didn't feel ready. But looking back, I'm really glad I birthed him in my twenties! I had the ENERGY and STRENGTH to handle the emergencies, long nights and stress that comes along with bringing a new life into this world. I was also young enough to remember what it felt like to be a child and was able to relate to his emotions and be understanding.
"Optionality" isn't a word!! Sheesh!!
Actually, it is a word. It means the potential for options.
@@floridafamilyfun1597 No, it isn't. Option-ally is a word. Option-ality is NOT.
@@jangriffiths8013 ok. Continue to be wrong🤷🏻♀️
Had kids in my early 20 best decision
When i was in my 20s i could imagine taking care of a baby and a husband...i didnt feel i was adult enough till 35 i could actually see myself able enough.
Sometimes you will win; sometimes you will lose.
But every time you will learn!
I think Alyssa will be a mom soon❤❤❤
Times are different now, for most people especially in richer countries, your 20s are for exploration and 30’s are for settling down and starting a family.
I had three between the ages of 25-29…. I recouped so fast from each one…Then I had one at 39. FORGET IT…. He actually wanted a brother or sister because he felt the older kids had each other. I had to say sorry. I think I would have died if i had another one after that.
I've known teen moms. Being in your 20s is nothing like it.
Whoopi 😂💗🥂🎀
I got pregnant at 21, but i had a still born. The negative way people, including my family treated me while i was pregnant and after i lost the baby, was eye opening for me. I decided immediately after that, that i never wanted to have children. I'm 38 now and wish i had the money to get my tubes tied. Now, i just get snubbed for not wanting kids.
Wow really, if that had happened under Trumps rule, you may have been accused of losing the baby on purpose (I don't know if you heard about that women that was charged after having a miscarriage, like she did something to cause it, and she didn't). So ridiculous 😡
In Canada, getting your tubes tied is free, I got mine done at 23.
"AND I'M EXTRAORDINARY!" - Yes you are Ms Goldberg!
Sara and Sunny had their children a little older
I'm Hispanic and we are grandparents in our 20's.
And sadly the 20s is when women are most fertile. That’s why egg freezing needs to be affordable if you want it.
I'm almost 39 and couldn't imagine having another baby now. My babies are 7&8 and I wish I would've had them in my 20s because mama is tired...lol.
And make sure the kids are yours Antonio 😁🤣
Not gonna lie a lot of people in my 20s that I know have kids
I’m 27 and I’m waiting for my 30s that’s just me, to each is own.
I know I’m not ready to have kids, I’m trying to get myself together so I can’t take care of anyone else right now
3:15 this is strange for Sunny, there are MANY videos on how she protected her kids, drove behind a kid just to make sure he drove to school safely by their self.
Now she said that in that tone 🤔
In Europe, nobody has a baby before their thirties. For us, it's so weird that Americans from the countryside get married in their 20's and have baby right after that.
In Belgium you had it
I’m 27 and 8 months pregnant with twins 🤷🏻♀️ but I’m married so I get it if you’re just not there yet
Congrats, hope your pregnancy goes well.
Sunny thank you for ending the princess Noah make up . Your mother and I would agree !
By 34. You shouldn't have children. It's unfair to the kid's. To difficult after you're comfortable. You won't have the energy.
Your limitations on women are crazy.
I agree with Joy.
As someone who was basically alienated by family AND friends when I got pregnant with my son at 23 I COMPLETELY agree with this woman.😢 Even though it makes the most biological sense society shames women for having kids too young especially in liberal communities. You're looked at as irresponsible because you didn't get established in a career first. This generation puts career before family and many end up regretting it.
Lol no they don't end up regretting putting career before family. You're just saying that because you regret having kids early before you had an established career😂😂
@omphilemoerane I have an established career as a stem cell scientist & I've just been accepted into medical school. And I'd argue getting married and having my child early is what gave me the perspective and drive to pursue a career in medicine. I speak about my close friends who are doctors who after all their training and career are now having infertility issues related to their advanced age ( as far as pregnancy is concerned) and working hours that wouldn't allow them to be the kind of mothers they want to be anyway.
MARRIAAAAAAA !!!!!!! LMFAO
I had a baby at just 21 in 2007. I’m 37 now and wish I’d started having kids in my 30s instead.
I wish my parents waited until their 30’s….
Whoopie outfit today, classic farm hand.
Well she does have a ranch in Vermont, where she has rescue horses that used to be police horses and like that.
That is becausee Whoopi has trained them to depend on her.
I was 20 when I had my first child. 41 years ago
So did I, worst thing to happen ever. Wish I could've had time to enjoy my life and had kids later, cause I've never been able to enjoy my life ever because of that too soon knock up. 😔
I love Whoopi!!!
I think people think males having a baby in their twenties is not that much of a big deal as much as when females have a baby in their twenties.
We learned
Can you do a story on Long Covid and I suffer from it and not enough people believe it is true!
Whoopi kills me 😂 She is fully her show tv character. I fear for these new 20 years that I know. They definitely seem less mature than you would expect from someone their age. They’ve been through a lot of things no one alive had the playback to help them navigate through so it makes sense they’d be a little different. They’ll be okay I’m sure.
Where did Alyssa get her dress!?
Joy!😂
I got married at 21 and quickly had two children within 18 months of each other and then I was divorced. My ex took everything out of our bank account which was my money cuz he wasn't working and went to Puerto Rico which is where he was from. I raised these kids with barely any money in my pockets and ended up having a third along the way, I remember finding out that I was pregnant when the other two were 12 and 11 and I barely had 20 bucks but I went ahead and had the child he is 26 years old now and it all worked out fine. But I was fortunate to live in Tennessee during the 1990s when we had Democrats as governors and senators and they really helped mothers with children they helped me with child care gasoline rent utilities everything they could help me with as long as I was willing to work. The last 12 years Republicans have been in charge and they have been hoarding all the money to help needy families they have a record few billion dollars sitting doing nothing they haven't helped a single family
Joy has told that story 3 times now lol
34 and 38, miracle babies.
There is a bio-clock. 🤷
It's mathematically near impossible
Glad I got my kids out the way in my 20's. The kid we had when I was 34 is driving me insane at 39. Lol. My wife is a year younger though.
Financially stable!! It's 1600 per month for day care alone!!
You can have kids ladies just make sure you make millions like the women on the view.
Stay jealous
Exactly what Sara said. Joy, totally out of touch. Yea have a baby for selfish reasons, you’ll be fine and figure it out. Not cute
20s should be about only be about self