I don’t feel like this question was answered in this video. They said you should be open with one another in marriage and be willing to listen to your spouse if they are seeing red flags but where is the line drawn in “opposite sex friendships?” I personally don’t believe you can a “close friendship” with someone of the opposite sex because someone ALWAYS wants more and if they don’t right away! It CAN lead to that down the road in an instant! If you or your spouse have their guard down. I had a friendship with a CHRISTIAN man who one day decided to cross the line in a very inappropriate conversation. Instantly I was convicted and felt like that could have easily been avoided if I would of listened to my people when they said “it’s weird to have time ALONE (which also wasn’t discussed in this) with another man.” I completely cut that man out of my life, confessed to my husband that I was wrong and that he was so right!
By that logic, a gay man or a lesbian woman can't truly be friends with other men or other women a people who into both men and women can't have any frIends whatsover.
@@technoloverish She said "close" friendship for a reason. A "close" friendship brings intimacy, intimacy like that will open doors for other types of intimacy if possible. Also Christians should not be gay, bi, or lesbian or whatever. We are to be born again and not follow the world, the world goes by these standards, these standards are not on the Bible. God bless you.
NO! An opposite sex "friend" will become the shoulder to cry on when things hit a rough patch in the marriage and then the devil will open up all the doors to infidelity and an affair. You're playing with fire by having "friends" of the opposite sex in the confines of marriage. I don't care if this approach sounds old school or if haters try and say to me that "you're just an abusive, insecure, jealous, controlling, manipulative person for doing this. Don't you trust your wife?" You bet I do, but I also know that very rarely does a man stay "friends" with a woman who he doesn't have feelings for. And worse of all I can't help but feel those opposite sex "friends" are just waiting in the wings licking their chops for their turns just hoping your marriage will fail. So you bet I see any of these opposite sex "friends" in the confines of a marriage as a threat. I'm about to hit my 30s and still waiting for God's timing to bless me with the wife he has in store for me in His time, but I for one will be making sure I have no other friends of the opposite sex in the picture at all except her. Can't risk any temptations like this. A Christian marriage needs to be guarded/defended like your life depends on it because it literally does. And that means sacrificing existing friendships with the opposite sex so the devil can't tempt you with infidelty and having an affair. Sadly most of my millennial generation doesn't seem to understand this concept.
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My comment is slightly different. I'm in my early '60's and am single. Always have been. I do not want closer friendships with married men. I believe in respecting the marriage relationship, so I tend to relate to married men less, and more superficially, and would never be alone with a married man if I could help it (unless I'm doing something such as using the same lift, sometimes unavoidable). My concern is that married women who I have previously got along with fine when they were single now hold me at a distance. This is very marked, and has been very upsetting and confusing. I've got to the point of leaving them alone now, and only offering a brief greeting if I happen to encounter them, such as at a local supermarket, or at a church. I virtually ignore their husbands, because I don't want the wife to think I'm pursuing them sexually. I know there are a lot of very fearful, insecure wives who are Christians. And I am aware that there is a teaching going around in some Christian/church circles discouraging married couples from having friendships with single Christian women particularly, as a way of safeguarding their marriages. So it's very clear that we are regarded as threats to many marriages, and must be treated accordingly. But this is driving us into deeper loneliness and isolation. We are socially excluded, and even women of my age are still viewed as a threat. Something is very wrong here.
You had plenty of time to chitchat with the opposite sex when you were single. Now you're married, stick to your spouse. Btw, the older you get, the less time you have to interact with others because you're busy with married life.
Amen. I especially like how you even said "chit chat" because some married people try to rationalize that they chat up members of the opposite sex regularly but they are not setting up any coffee dates or being alone. So many think they can chat up members of the opposite sex for an hour every week while both of their kids are at some practice or I see TONS of married people at church just chatting away with opposite sex "acquaintances" in the hallway for extended periods of time. There is nothing wrong with the normal pleasantries of seeing someone in the hall way or at a sporting event exchanged (hi, good to see you. how is the family? great, tell your husband I said hi). But when married people find themselves constantly needed to talk to members of the opposite sex for 10, 15, 30 minutes or longer, I think it is disrespectful to their spouse that they are opening up that much to other men or women. If you want to "connect" with others, do it with people that don't have any sexual component involved. Do it with members of the same sex.
I agree fully. We are brothers and sisters in Christ, and that is where we have our parameters set. And, as you somewhat said, our spouses are here to help us to keep within those parameters.
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Yes but there are boundaries you should not cross. Such as dont text, call, or open up too much to them. Almost all interaction with then will be with your partner there.
I don’t feel like this question was answered in this video. They said you should be open with one another in marriage and be willing to listen to your spouse if they are seeing red flags but where is the line drawn in “opposite sex friendships?” I personally don’t believe you can a “close friendship” with someone of the opposite sex because someone ALWAYS wants more and if they don’t right away! It CAN lead to that down the road in an instant! If you or your spouse have their guard down.
I had a friendship with a CHRISTIAN man who one day decided to cross the line in a very inappropriate conversation. Instantly I was convicted and felt like that could have easily been avoided if I would of listened to my people when they said “it’s weird to have time ALONE (which also wasn’t discussed in this) with another man.”
I completely cut that man out of my life, confessed to my husband that I was wrong and that he was so right!
Agreed. Going thru it now
By that logic, a gay man or a lesbian woman can't truly be friends with other men or other women a people who into both men and women can't have any frIends whatsover.
@@technoloverish She said "close" friendship for a reason. A "close" friendship brings intimacy, intimacy like that will open doors for other types of intimacy if possible. Also Christians should not be gay, bi, or lesbian or whatever. We are to be born again and not follow the world, the world goes by these standards, these standards are not on the Bible. God bless you.
NO! An opposite sex "friend" will become the shoulder to cry on when things hit a rough patch in the marriage and then the devil will open up all the doors to infidelity and an affair. You're playing with fire by having "friends" of the opposite sex in the confines of marriage. I don't care if this approach sounds old school or if haters try and say to me that "you're just an abusive, insecure, jealous, controlling, manipulative person for doing this. Don't you trust your wife?" You bet I do, but I also know that very rarely does a man stay "friends" with a woman who he doesn't have feelings for. And worse of all I can't help but feel those opposite sex "friends" are just waiting in the wings licking their chops for their turns just hoping your marriage will fail. So you bet I see any of these opposite sex "friends" in the confines of a marriage as a threat. I'm about to hit my 30s and still waiting for God's timing to bless me with the wife he has in store for me in His time, but I for one will be making sure I have no other friends of the opposite sex in the picture at all except her. Can't risk any temptations like this. A Christian marriage needs to be guarded/defended like your life depends on it because it literally does. And that means sacrificing existing friendships with the opposite sex so the devil can't tempt you with infidelty and having an affair. Sadly most of my millennial generation doesn't seem to understand this concept.
Wise words in my opinion. Its tough to find a gentleman who wholeheartedly believes and practices this, mutually
@@tinaj9621 They're like finding a needle in a haystack in this moden day society
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Love this Mike! Love you brother!
My comment is slightly different. I'm in my early '60's and am single. Always have been. I do not want closer friendships with married men. I believe in respecting the marriage relationship, so I tend to relate to married men less, and more superficially, and would never be alone with a married man if I could help it (unless I'm doing something such as using the same lift, sometimes unavoidable). My concern is that married women who I have previously got along with fine when they were single now hold me at a distance. This is very marked, and has been very upsetting and confusing. I've got to the point of leaving them alone now, and only offering a brief greeting if I happen to encounter them, such as at a local supermarket, or at a church. I virtually ignore their husbands, because I don't want the wife to think I'm pursuing them sexually. I know there are a lot of very fearful, insecure wives who are Christians. And I am aware that there is a teaching going around in some Christian/church circles discouraging married couples from having friendships with single Christian women particularly, as a way of safeguarding their marriages. So it's very clear that we are regarded as threats to many marriages, and must be treated accordingly. But this is driving us into deeper loneliness and isolation. We are socially excluded, and even women of my age are still viewed as a threat. Something is very wrong here.
You had plenty of time to chitchat with the opposite sex when you were single. Now you're married, stick to your spouse. Btw, the older you get, the less time you have to interact with others because you're busy with married life.
Amen. I especially like how you even said "chit chat" because some married people try to rationalize that they chat up members of the opposite sex regularly but they are not setting up any coffee dates or being alone. So many think they can chat up members of the opposite sex for an hour every week while both of their kids are at some practice or I see TONS of married people at church just chatting away with opposite sex "acquaintances" in the hallway for extended periods of time.
There is nothing wrong with the normal pleasantries of seeing someone in the hall way or at a sporting event exchanged (hi, good to see you. how is the family? great, tell your husband I said hi). But when married people find themselves constantly needed to talk to members of the opposite sex for 10, 15, 30 minutes or longer, I think it is disrespectful to their spouse that they are opening up that much to other men or women. If you want to "connect" with others, do it with people that don't have any sexual component involved. Do it with members of the same sex.
I agree fully. We are brothers and sisters in Christ, and that is where we have our parameters set. And, as you somewhat said, our spouses are here to help us to keep within those parameters.
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Yes but there are boundaries you should not cross. Such as dont text, call, or open up too much to them. Almost all interaction with then will be with your partner there.
The question wasn’t answered in the video.
Absolutely not. If ypu didagree you are wrong. It always affects marriages
Amen
Is a husband allowed to have his brother friends like women having their sister friends?