The Apostle Paul repeatedly preaches how valuable, admirable, and good the gift of singleness is throughout the New Testament. Single men (and women) can dedicate their time, energy, focus, passion, and resources to the Lord's work more than married followers of Christ can. I would like to encourage and challenge Judah, who I believe means well, to reconsider how he addresses this issue amongst his congregation and audience. Definitely doesn't help to call or label the single men listening as being timid, cowardly, or shy. Being happily single is also a sign of maturity and strength, not needing the companionship or reliance of another individual to validate your own life as so many married people need. Christ is the only one we need to be married to.
Get married is a choice according to the Bible not an obligation, Apostle Paul says : “Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. But, because of fornications, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife her due: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.” 1 Corinthians 7:1-3 ASV bible.com/12/1co.7.1-3.asv
And anyone who gets married does not sin.. let's not make the marriage of two people in the Lord as something to be repudiated.. I waited a long time to be get married and tomorrow I'm finally getting married..and I have never been married..in my forties .
I think Judah meant well but I'm a Christian woman who had a crush at a guy at my church for a while. I would sometimes catch him staring at me and then when I would look in his direction he would get super embarrassed. A few times he looked like he wanted to speak but he chickened out. I decided to take a chance so I introduced myself and asked him to lunch after church and the rest is history. So yeah as a woman who took matters in my own hands Judah's advice is not practical b/c some guys are to shy to talk to the woman they like.
There's nothing wrong with women "chasing" after men. Historically speaking, this was very often the case, when men were much more of men than they tend to be today. What he's teaching is completely false.
This clip is only a portion of the message. He goes on to say that relationships (specifically marriage) are to represent Christ and the Church. Just as when a man pursues a woman, Jesus also first initiated relationship with us/the Church.
Fr fr you can flirt but he must make the first move. If you come on too strong, you might get axe. If he’s the right one, pray for him. I pray for my princess.
Where i lived for a while, this is total bull. Women were so scared and afraid they couldnt handle any conversation or a simple get together... I've always talked to girls and was never nervous about doing so but they always seem to go for men who were higher in status in the church, or had a higher paying job, nice car etc.... the stereotype is very real and in my opinion... a church is the ame type of environment as a school which breeds the same type of issues a school can have..... except its even more sad because there's a bunch of grown ass men and women playing the popularity game. If I wasnt a christian myself I would never have anything to do with any church ever..... but unfortunately I have too...can anyone else agree?
I'm a woman and I have to agree with some of what you said. It could also have been the women just weren't really interested in you in the first place and just pretended to be nice. You are better off without them. I don't get into clicks and all that popularity mess in my own church. I have a few friends at church but that's as far as it goes for me.
This isn't what the church is supposed to be like, and I was telling this to my soon wife-to-be discouraged in church because some people just didn't talk to us and I said I'm going to think the best of people but that is just the sin nature coming out. But I'm going to choose to think the best people also understand that not everybody is going to be my friend and not everybody is going to want to talk to me and that's okay. I'm only responsible for my actions I will say hi other people don't say hi that is their problem and their problem alone.
sounds like whoever you were experiencing trying to play the game in church in regards to whose friends are rubbing elbows with those were popular, such people are carnal and they are not representing Christ. And they may not even be Christian because they are acting very worldly. I'm sorry that happened, but it sounds like you need to just go to a different church or hopefully went to a different Church. It took me a long time to find a wife mainly because some of the churches I've went to nobody would be willing to help you out even let you know what women were available,alsoit took me awhile because the church I was at had no young people. God provided a way but once I was introduced to somebody I had to actually pursue that.
great message, women are perfect and men are awkward nerdy screw ups with no confidence or inherent value or even extrinsic- i.e. "jobs" i am a man with a college degree and a job and my own place and i talk to women and still get rejected.. or i run into situations like the last girl i flirted with.. she was pregnant.. she wasn't even showing yet but she said "it's going to be hard being a single mother" which was a glaring indication of her own lack of discretion with her body i'm not complaining about my plight, but your message just sounds like an oversimplification of matters and i don't know why people like you continue to perpetuate this whole "men don't have feelings" thing.. like we should be happy to line up for more rejection from the "princesses" and "queens" funny, i didn't hear the words king or prince anywhere in your spiel
The reality is, there is no Biblical protocol for dating as to who should pursue who as dating did not exist in Biblical times. Women like it when men pursue them and that should be enough for men to try and do that if they feel up for it. There's no need to spiritualize this. When pastors overly spiritualize this. I feel that they are manipulating the Word of God to pander to an audience of lonely women out there who feel the need to justify their passive approach to romantic relationships.
Still trying to figure out why people are getting on his case for telling women to not go after a dude who doesn't have a job and and won't even introduce himself.Young girls need to hear this!
Why any thinking person would listen to this nonsense is beyond me. That ship has already sailed, women are equal to men. Spare the remaining thinking people of the world your Iron-Age BS.
Okay first of all dude... you ain’t black, so quit talkin like that. Second of all, it’s a two way street, and the whole book of Proverbs is about being very careful with what kind of women you let into your life.
Since you're mentioning Proverbs you might want to read Proverbs 18:22 my guy and see if the scripture say you can be a little scaredy-cat and afraid to talk to women.
You are so right. There was a guy at my church I was interested in and when I found out he was single I asked him out. He told me he was relieved I asked him out b/c he didn't think I would be interested in him and now we are together. I'm sorry but as a woman who knows what she wants Judah's advice is not practical.
Thank you. I know it's unconventional for a woman to ask a man out but I didn't care. If I kept waiting we would've possibly never began dating. People forget that men can sometimes be shy or nervous too when it comes to a woman they are attracted. I'm a woman and I was scared to ask him out but I got over it and sucked it up. I'm happy Judah thinks of himself as some sort of conqueror or whatever but not all guys are able to think like him and maybe afraid of looking stupid.
“Dense.” When a girl is “so obviously” into you that she won’t look at you or speak to you and reveals 5 years later that she liked you but you “didn’t make a move”? That kind of “dense”? 🙄
Southern white CIS men don’t naturally talk like that. He’s putting on an act, pretending he’s a black Baptist preacher to elicit “cool” authenticity. Kinda sad & gross - he shouldn’t need to appropriate another preacher’s dialect to feel effective as a “sacred” communicator. But then, his whole message that women taking initiative is unnatural is also sad & outdated.
Well Judah doesn't have a J.O.B. eather. If the people of his church would stop going to it he is broke, because he is living of the cash people give him.
90 percent of the messages about men in the church in regards to relationships is man bashing. Then women wonder why there arent men in the church pursuing them.
@@vanessaloy1049 know what we think is toxic is modern women thinking that they can make fun of men look at the typical shows and look at how men are made fun of and look how masculinity is made as something horrible. And feminism didn't help and Modern Woman acts like she doesn't need a man and then when she gets in her forties and has hit the wall and has no husband she cries and complains on CZcams or on her Facebook page that she has nobody but in her younger years she was basically sowing all her Wild Oats and now nobody wants her..or she's damaged goods and needs to be able to heal and be restored before she's any good to any man.
@@rauldelarosa2768 I’m not single because I was sowing wild oats. I used to follow the advice Judah gives and wait for a man to pursue me, and it never happened.
@@vanessaloy1049 I wasn't singling you out however many men lack the courage to ask a woman out so maybe you just haven't been in the right Church where there are men who actually will have the boldness to actually ask a single woman out for a date this is something I even tell my guy friends I had a guy friend he didn't like it but I told him he was almost 30 I said you're almost thirteen you're not never had a girlfriend because you don't ask a woman out and he wasn't in and I wasn't trying to be gay or anything I said listen man you're a handsome guy you're smart you articulate you have goals in life you love God open your mouth. And even after this gentleman was successful in getting the girl's number he was too afraid to ask her out and those kind of guys stay single because they don't have the guts to ask a woman out. So with all respect I'm not saying I agree with Judah Smith on everything but he's writing calling out men who are too afraid to ask a woman out.
The Apostle Paul repeatedly preaches how valuable, admirable, and good the gift of singleness is throughout the New Testament. Single men (and women) can dedicate their time, energy, focus, passion, and resources to the Lord's work more than married followers of Christ can. I would like to encourage and challenge Judah, who I believe means well, to reconsider how he addresses this issue amongst his congregation and audience. Definitely doesn't help to call or label the single men listening as being timid, cowardly, or shy. Being happily single is also a sign of maturity and strength, not needing the companionship or reliance of another individual to validate your own life as so many married people need. Christ is the only one we need to be married to.
Well said. This deserve more likes.
Get married is a choice according to the Bible not an obligation, Apostle Paul says : “Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. But, because of fornications, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife her due: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.”
1 Corinthians 7:1-3 ASV
bible.com/12/1co.7.1-3.asv
And anyone who gets married does not sin.. let's not make the marriage of two people in the Lord as something to be repudiated..
I waited a long time to be get married and tomorrow I'm finally getting married..and I have never been married..in my forties .
I think Judah meant well but I'm a Christian woman who had a crush at a guy at my church for a while. I would sometimes catch him staring at me and then when I would look in his direction he would get super embarrassed. A
few times he looked like he wanted to speak but he chickened out. I decided to take a chance so I introduced myself and asked him to lunch after church and the rest is history. So yeah as a woman who took matters
in my own hands Judah's advice is not practical b/c some guys are to shy to talk to the woman they like.
My thoughts exactly.
There's nothing wrong with women "chasing" after men. Historically speaking, this was very often the case, when men were much more of men than they tend to be today. What he's teaching is completely false.
Horsey Tort Thanks as a woman who took a chance and asked out her crush. I greatly appreciate your feedback. Blessings to you:)
U two married now..?
No we are not married. Not yet.
“Let him get the gall the nerve and the AUDACITY”😂
Some real truth in this one
context yall context!!! Everyone gets offended by everything now a days... watch the full message. Judah is preaching fire!!!
This clip is only a portion of the message. He goes on to say that relationships (specifically marriage) are to represent Christ and the Church. Just as when a man pursues a woman, Jesus also first initiated relationship with us/the Church.
So when a woman rejects a man, it's like she's rejecting Jesus?
Ya ever thought that men might not be interested in the women in your church?
+Dillon Thomas looool!
☕ 🐸
Or maybe the fact that there are NO women in church ...
@@peternygren3215 I think I got the joke.
Amen you go Judah!!!
Your great brother you should totally start your own show in Comedy Central 😃👍
Fr fr you can flirt but he must make the first move. If you come on too strong, you might get axe. If he’s the right one, pray for him. I pray for my princess.
Where i lived for a while, this is total bull. Women were so scared and afraid they couldnt handle any conversation or a simple get together... I've always talked to girls and was never nervous about doing so but they always seem to go for men who were higher in status in the church, or had a higher paying job, nice car etc.... the stereotype is very real and in my opinion... a church is the ame type of environment as a school which breeds the same type of issues a school can have..... except its even more sad because there's a bunch of grown ass men and women playing the popularity game. If I wasnt a christian myself I would never have anything to do with any church ever..... but unfortunately I have too...can anyone else agree?
I'm a woman and I have to agree with some of what you said. It could also have been the women just weren't really interested in you in the first place and just pretended to be nice. You are better off without them. I don't get into clicks and all that popularity mess in my own church. I have a few friends at church but that's as far as it goes for me.
iman campbell They probably weren't. Which is totally fine as well. And thanks, i do believe Im better off. I moved anyway lol
U described carnal "churches.."
This isn't what the church is supposed to be like, and I was telling this to my soon wife-to-be discouraged in church because some people just didn't talk to us and I said I'm going to think the best of people but that is just the sin nature coming out. But I'm going to choose to think the best people also understand that not everybody is going to be my friend and not everybody is going to want to talk to me and that's okay. I'm only responsible for my actions I will say hi other people don't say hi that is their problem and their problem alone.
sounds like whoever you were experiencing trying to play the game in church in regards to whose friends are rubbing elbows with those were popular, such people are carnal and they are not representing Christ. And they may not even be Christian because they are acting very worldly.
I'm sorry that happened, but it sounds like you need to just go to a different church or hopefully went to a different Church. It took me a long time to find a wife mainly because some of the churches I've went to nobody would be willing to help you out even let you know what women were available,alsoit took me awhile because the church I was at had no young people. God provided a way but once I was introduced to somebody I had to actually pursue that.
"Men need to be men, imma help you out ladies." Figures that an ALREADY MARRIED man is playing "white knight" :P
slug237711 "wigga knight"
great message, women are perfect and men are awkward nerdy screw ups with no confidence or inherent value or even extrinsic- i.e. "jobs"
i am a man with a college degree and a job and my own place and i talk to women and still get rejected.. or i run into situations like the last girl i flirted with.. she was pregnant.. she wasn't even showing yet but she said "it's going to be hard being a single mother" which was a glaring indication of her own lack of discretion with her body
i'm not complaining about my plight, but your message just sounds like an oversimplification of matters
and i don't know why people like you continue to perpetuate this whole "men don't have feelings" thing.. like we should be happy to line up for more rejection from the "princesses" and "queens"
funny, i didn't hear the words king or prince anywhere in your spiel
Yes men of God are the best
Nothing is a bigger turn off to me than when a woman tries to pursue.
His church has female pastors, but he's saying only men can be leaders and women can only respond? I'd like to hear a cogent defense for that one
The reality is, there is no Biblical protocol for dating as to who should pursue who as dating did not exist in Biblical times. Women like it when men pursue them and that should be enough for men to try and do that if they feel up for it. There's no need to spiritualize this. When pastors overly spiritualize this. I feel that they are manipulating the Word of God to pander to an audience of lonely women out there who feel the need to justify their passive approach to romantic relationships.
I am damaged from abuse and disfunction! I prefer solitude to relationship and celibacy to sex.
Fine. But women, stop being picky and stop saying no
Still trying to figure out why people are getting on his case for telling women to not go after a dude who doesn't have a job and and won't even introduce himself.Young girls need to hear this!
Because they're the men he's talking about..
That's why they're in their feelings.
Mom still cutting crust off your pbj lmaooooooooooooo
The juice ain't worth the squeeze.
Let the players have em'.
jd oh snap! :D
Why any thinking person would listen to this nonsense is beyond me. That ship has already sailed, women are equal to men. Spare the remaining thinking people of the world your Iron-Age BS.
Okay first of all dude... you ain’t black, so quit talkin like that. Second of all, it’s a two way street, and the whole book of Proverbs is about being very careful with what kind of women you let into your life.
Since you're mentioning Proverbs you might want to read Proverbs 18:22 my guy and see if the scripture say you can be a little scaredy-cat and afraid to talk to women.
Joseph Prince is more practical in that he teaches single ladies to take the initiative sometimes because most Christian single guys are dense!
You are so right. There was a guy at my church I was interested in and when I found out he was single I asked him out. He told me he was relieved I asked him out b/c he didn't think I would be interested in him and now we are together. I'm sorry but as a woman who knows what she wants Judah's advice is not practical.
+iman campbell there you go! That's a great testimony 👍
Thank you. I know it's unconventional for a woman to ask a man out but I didn't care. If I kept waiting we would've possibly never began dating. People forget that men can sometimes be shy or nervous too when
it comes to a woman they are attracted. I'm a woman and I was scared to ask him out but I got over it and sucked it up. I'm happy Judah thinks of himself as some sort of conqueror or whatever but not all guys are
able to think like him and maybe afraid of looking stupid.
+iman campbell yeh amen! This type of preaching is fairly typical. Which is why Pastor princes advice was so on point! And refreshing.
“Dense.”
When a girl is “so obviously” into you that she won’t look at you or speak to you and reveals 5 years later that she liked you but you “didn’t make a move”?
That kind of “dense”? 🙄
thank you its a start cuz im shy too i aint going up to u id pass out lol
Did Judah grow up with black parents or what's up?
härjaren Langstrumpf lol I think he's from the south
Southern white CIS men don’t naturally talk like that. He’s putting on an act, pretending he’s a black Baptist preacher to elicit “cool” authenticity. Kinda sad & gross - he shouldn’t need to appropriate another preacher’s dialect to feel effective as a “sacred” communicator. But then, his whole message that women taking initiative is unnatural is also sad & outdated.
I've noticed that white men from the South talk with a bit of swag at times. Harry Connick jr is from Louisiana and he also talks like Judah.
the most toxic place to live is in the comment section of a youtube video.........
Haha all you wimps out there commenting about him attacking men. Your exactly the dude he's talking about. Grow up and be a man, this dude is SPOT ON!
Exactly..maybe they needed their toes stepped on .
Video starts and right after one second of seeing this guy you know that whatever he is going to tell you will be an abomination to God Jesus.
Oh shut up.
This guy has obviously never been to a Southern Baptist church. You have to throw yourself at the ladies there.
I'm Jim .... goodbye 😂😭😭😭
Well that was a bunch of nonsense.
some people love attention
Well Judah doesn't have a J.O.B. eather. If the people of his church would stop going to it he is broke, because he is living of the cash people give him.
Amen
Awe:)
I'm wondering why he needed to act like he's black is he making fun of black people or is he trying to be more relatable
maybe judah smith should get a j.o.b.
Like you have anything better to do.
Jabroni Jinkies no offense, but being a minister of the gospel isnt a job?
hahahahahaha i love it.
90 percent of the messages about men in the church in regards to relationships is man bashing. Then women wonder why there arent men in the church pursuing them.
Because they think manliness is more important than womanliness, so they bash men for being insufficiently manly.
@@vanessaloy1049 know what we think is toxic is modern women thinking that they can make fun of men look at the typical shows and look at how men are made fun of and look how masculinity is made as something horrible. And feminism didn't help and Modern Woman acts like she doesn't need a man and then when she gets in her forties and has hit the wall and has no husband she cries and complains on CZcams or on her Facebook page that she has nobody but in her younger years she was basically sowing all her Wild Oats and now nobody wants her..or she's damaged goods and needs to be able to heal and be restored before she's any good to any man.
It's not man bashing unless you think it is maybe he stepped on your toes, and you need to repent for not being the man that you should be.
@@rauldelarosa2768 I’m not single because I was sowing wild oats. I used to follow the advice Judah gives and wait for a man to pursue me, and it never happened.
@@vanessaloy1049 I wasn't singling you out however many men lack the courage to ask a woman out so maybe you just haven't been in the right Church where there are men who actually will have the boldness to actually ask a single woman out for a date this is something I even tell my guy friends I had a guy friend he didn't like it but I told him he was almost 30 I said you're almost thirteen you're not never had a girlfriend because you don't ask a woman out and he wasn't in and I wasn't trying to be gay or anything I said listen man you're a handsome guy you're smart you articulate you have goals in life you love God open your mouth. And even after this gentleman was successful in getting the girl's number he was too afraid to ask her out and those kind of guys stay single because they don't have the guts to ask a woman out. So with all respect I'm not saying I agree with Judah Smith on everything but he's writing calling out men who are too afraid to ask a woman out.
He trying to act black a little bit.
Ehhh. Kinda
Lies
Feminist pastor
Ridiculous
Blasphemous
Such a pathetic talk.
He speaks truth hey? lol
Judah, are you just another cross dresser? or what?