YOU WANT TO BUY MY DAUGHTER?!
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- čas přidán 16. 05. 2024
- If Emily and Kobe thought their Cameroonian wedding would be smooth sailing, they're in for another surprise. Once again there's a cultural clash in store for them. And this time the main opposition isn't Kobe's friends. It's Emily's mom!
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Previous Kobe and Emily episodes from THIS season:
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Episode 2: • EMILY TRIES TO EMBRACE...
Episode 4: • ARE KOBE'S FRIENDS TRY...
Episode 5: • KOBE HAD A SECRET GIRL...
Episode 6: • EMILY HAS A MAJOR SHOW...
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All thoughts and opinions expressed are my own. This commentary video of Emily and Kobe (from 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After Season 8 Episode 9) is in no way intended to replace or stop you from watching the original show. Remember, sometimes I'm right. Sometimes I'm wrong. These are just my thoughts and our opinions may vary. That's what makes things interesting! Let's continue the conversation in the comments 👇 - Zábava
They are married. Let it go. It's a tradition that you absolutely can not disrespect his family. Just go with the flow. You know that she wasn't a paid for bride.
Agreed. I’m Nigerian and we still pratuce this culture of a “dowry” of sorts. When my sister got married, her Nigerian husband’s family offered a dowry that we accepted, but it was accepted on the knowledge that the dollar amount wasn’t reflective of what my sister was “worth”
Right!!!!
Yet they want him to follow their beliefs, lifestyle.... 🤷🏿♀️
This is our culture he’s not buying your daughter because you are not selling her either so be respectful 🎉to his tradition just as he is respecting yours.
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It’s not buying when they are literally both exchanging something😂 why is she acting like she’s a child bride or something, she’s already married, has kids with him. I swear Americans LOVEEE to be offended about anything 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Right!
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Gullible people eat up drama created by producers 👀 lol
That’s so true! Americans seems to get offended by anything!!
So we're just gonna completely forget that it WASN'T HIS TRADITION to marry the way he did WITHOUT HIS FAMILY A WHEN HE STEPPED INTO A NEW LAND AND MARRIED. YOUR DAUGHTER they way it was CUSTOMARY in. YOUR CULTURE? THE KARENESS of it all.
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Emily’s mom acting like it her wedding. No one cares about your beliefs lady. It’s not for you.
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right, always having to take a stand and make it about her. exhausting
@@marciestoddard730 exactly. Emily already had her wedding in the US for her mom.
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Kobe's friend is a jerk. Glad he stood up for his wife.
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As someone who absolutely hated Emily on her first season, I now love and support the girl and then wishing the best for her and her marriage 1000%. They’re going to survive this.
She has matured a lot
I'm with you. I enjoy them. I'm looking forward to see the traditional wedding. She annoyed the heck out of me, but during Pillow Talk, they were so playful and fun with each other. I really like her father too. He's been pretty cool with Kobe from the beginning. Her mom is a challenge, but a lot of it is probably the producers for drama.
I used to be heavily against Emily, but I'm actually adoring them as a couple and she's evolved brilliantly in so many aspects. It's a joy to see tbh.
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I must say, it is a nice change seeing a couple and their respective extended families, be able to sit down and communicate in an appropriate way
I’m trying to figure out whose wedding is this? Emily’s mother is taking too much of a big part in this wedding? Nobody is actually selling her daughter because even if she was being sold, she still going back to America with the same man flew in with 🙄. It’s just a dowry . It just shows appreciation for your daughter.
Kobe is very good at staying calm an not gettin offended tbf to him
TLC needs new script writers
In this day and age she should understand African people do have tradition and it doesn't hurt anyone just respect there way it makes everyone happy
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If she is so upset about the bride price, use it for the kids' college fund or something
Emily's mom is being ridiculous. Nuff said.
Lol, I’m crying. lol last episode His friend says that white women are too much and they shouldn’t be together which I thought was so messed up and I thought they was wrong….. he defended his wife too. now this episode. It went back around and now his friends look right because of what is wrong with a traditional wedding that is weird. Hearing the mom say that …,as an African woman myself is hurtful to know she thinks it’s like selling their daughter. I am a proud American with African parents. My boyfriend is not African, but I still want to traditional wedding. It’s a hurtful that out her mouth that she will not participate. I won’t say the word R…. but I’ll say it very veryvery ignorant. That man has done so much to assimilate himself as an American even as far as let his wife boss him around and I bet when they go back to America, she will still be the boss of the house, so what’s wrong with a simple tradition for just a few hours in his country crazy.
Emily and her mother should have embraced his cultural traditions wholly, with grace and appreciation, especially at this point. Kobe was expected to immerse himself in the life that is customary to being an American.
I believe her parents showed ignorance and a complete lack of respect for him, and his family.
I thought her dad did a really good just of blending cultures and accepting the traditions on the trip.
Its not ignorant to be uncomfortable with exchanging a human being for money.
You might be used to it but that doesn't mean we have to become comfortable with "traditional" human trafficking.
Its a crime in some countries.
Are they wrong? How do they respect it in another culture if its a crime there?
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I don’t get it. Let’s see it like Emily’s mom…you can give your daughter away for free, or you get money which is the literal embodiment of how much she’s worth for everyone involved.
Also, tradition or not, she’s not getting sold, it’s a ceremony, she’s still a free woman not a slave. She can leave at any moment
So it's silly to worry about selling your daughter but not silly to believe bad luck will befall future generations if they don't?
Why did Emily’s mum even go there? If she can’t adapt to the simplest cultural customs then she shouldn’t have gone to complicate things. lol just be polite, take the money and shut up 🤣 your big spoilt brat is officially being taken off your hands 😭😂😂😂
She's not though. It's symbolic. They're only in Cameroon for 2 weeks and will return to the US. That's why it shouldn't be a big deal. I believe this is hyped by the producers for drama because Kobe and Emily don't really have any conflict.
LETS START FROM THE BEGINNING
cant wait to be an aunt like this to my sister's kids
It’s okay to have principles- but it’s also important to know when the moment is yours and when it’s not. This is not mommas moment.
Lol you got this review in the bag 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Well we can see where Emily gets her obnoxiously annoying voice
Shout out to Dave!
Lady let it go🤦🏻♀️. She’s lucky they’re even giving her any dowry when he already got the milk for free.
They would’ve of been insulted if when Kobe came to the US his response to their family and traditions was “it’s not my tradition”.
I know when I sell something it comes back home with me 🙄 Emily's mom is so dramatic
Hahahhaha
I agree with the camp that is in favor of just going along with the custom to get along. It's their tradition, be respectful and all that. That said, I am on Emily's mom's side in spirit. I know that these days the bride price is framed as some sort of gift to the bride's parents to thank them for raising such a wonderful daughter, but who are we kidding? Brides have been property for a long time in a lot of traditions including the Bible. We just saw Kobe's friends talking about how they treat their women as basically slaves.
Um? Excuse me. It’s a CEREMONY. Just like walking the bride down the aisle used to mean the father giving his property away - something YOUR people still do, but we all understand as symbolic.
Someone who thinks that people should follow their cultural traditions but views the traditions of other cultures as beneath them or archaic might be described as ethnocentric. Ethnocentrism is the belief that one's own culture is superior to others, leading to a preference for one's own cultural norms while dismissing or devaluing those of other cultures.
How is that different than a father giving away his daughter by walking her down the aisle?
@@wackybrattyxThere's no money exchange, real or implied.
@@wackybrattyx It's pretty much the same, which is my point. We have these sexist traditions everywhere. I believe in jettisoning them, but we also have to choose our battles.
7:54 The dad is Awesome! The mom give it up!
Does Emily's mom have the same objection to "giving the bride away" at American weddings? If not, she can sit down.
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Add the mom to the list of people Not coming to the wedding.
They are interpreting “property” literally it is not like a car or a house, it is what it is in Africa. Kobe went to America and adapted to their home and culture, this is just one small thing.
Oh good lord, this cant be what my life has been reduced to.
Expecting people to follow your cultural traditions but viewing the traditions of other cultures as beneath you or archaic is ethnocentric. Aka, the belief that one's own culture is superior to others, leading to a preference for one's own cultural norms while dismissing or devaluing those of other cultures. 😵💫
People don't understand that drowry stems from the idea that a man must prove to his future in-laws that he has what it takes to provide for their daughter and that the family he's about to build with her won't starve. Every tradition and religion has its own reason as to why they do thing the way that they do. Just cause other culture don't have written scriptures they can pull out in defense doesn't make their practices, bad faith.
mom, don’t let him do it, don’t give away your daughter i don’t trust them and their ways please 🙏
I do agree a bride price is kind of weird and should be talked about more rather than just complied with
To you it's weird because y'all just follow Any everyone in the name of marriage ,hence why your wives and husbands can just up and leave to buy milk and never come back ,our tradition ties both parties together physically and spiritually and opting out is in stages ..so if we are not questioning your redneck cultures don't question ours too
Idk. I understand her perspective. She's saying as respectfully as possible that she doesn't want to participate in one only one aspect of his tradition.
They are doing outfits, wedding, food, other customs. If the mom says this isn't something I'm on board with, it's not that deep.
She could give a price and then quietly (meaning off camera) donate it to a school or some women's organization before they leave Cameroon.I worked in training people from all over Africa to teach empowerment self defense. We had two people from Cameroon we trained to be instructors in an organization that worked with women and girls. Easy peasy.
This couple is the best so far both are matured ❤❤❤❤
This relationship will not last. I give it two years or less 😮
They’ve just had their 3rd child together
Well we are YEARS down the road.....
I just want to know the offer
They are welcome to do as they choose with the earnings...they could easily give 100% of it to the new family. Easy...problem solved.
They acting like they giving Emily to a pimp .. Emily already married the pimp 😆 just kidding !!!! Her mom really going overboard!!!!!
I don't blame Emily's mom one bit. I would never agree to accept a dowry either. Dowries wouldn't exist at all if they didn't affect the marriage negotiations in some way. It's ok to have some principles.
A tradition is a tradition. You have yours they have theirs. If you want a blended family then stfu and respect the person. Westerners issues
The Mama should have taught her daughter about morals and birth control and annoying sing song voices
Emily’s mom is annoying. Maam your tradition of colonizers womens family had to pay a dowry! Except they paid with money , title or land. She acts like her American culture is to be excepted but not his.
They can take the money and gift to koby and his family.
They can also gift it to women and girls organizations off camera. I work for an organization called empowerment self defense global and in 2022, we taught 55 Africans from different countries to teach in their counties. We had two people we taught from Cameroon who run an organization there. I'm sure there are schools and other organizations that would accept a donation, too.
Wouldńt a cow be more appropriate, instead of a goat?
feels a little weird for the white woman to act like shes selling her daughter
That video is so graphic. It’s still posted up on the internet ladies and gentlemen so go watch it for yourselves. He needs to be charged instantly.
What?
I think Emily's mom is overlooking that, in Western tradition, when a father gives away the bride, it’s like treating the daughter as property, passing her from dad to husband. It’s a pretty icky concept, and no one today would really agree with it.
I've always seen it as a father giving the responsibility of the daughter he loves to the groom to love her and protect her all the days of his life.
Do all fathers love their daughters to death? No, but there are fathers who do and that's why they get emotional and it's hard for them to let go.
I know this couple are already married and it's a tv show but checking out the comments, I keep seeing comments about patriarchy and colonizers and it's strange to me to see everyone having the same line of thought without peeling the onion back and seeing other layers.
For the record I didn't read every comment just randomly scrolling and the ones I landed on were the ones I was speaking about.
Is it my imagination or does Kobe look like Emily's father?
Another entitled American who thinks only her way is the right way. All that talking and fussing about something that, in the end, is not going to affect her one bit. It's just a tradition and for her to make such a big issue out of this it's just crazy. It's clear that she doesn't have the slightest desire to RESPECT her son in law and his family. On the other hand, bravo for Emily and her dad for understanding and going along with cameroonian customs and traditions. I applaud Emily, she's come a long way from the first time she appeared on the show. Her desire and efforts to please Kobe's family and friends and to be accepted by them shows how much she grew and how much she loves her man
Emily's mom is doing too much! Emily married in Kobe's family. In most (if not all African culture) the wife lives with the husbands family or the place where he comes from. So respecting the culture and going with it is the LEAST they can do. 🙄
Let's not start with the *I feel like i'm selling my child* i don't want to go down that rabbit hole 🙊
Emily’s mom is giving Karen vibes.
Not to ruin it for anyone, but I'm pretty sure her Mom saying that is part of Emily and Kobe's storyline. 😅😂
I understand Emily's Mom . It might be their tradition to donate a bridesprice but it's a primitive tradition . Us women no longer go along
Wow
Just call us porsh monkeys while you are at it ...since we are primitive.
They are trying to strip away everything that Kobe is! I wouldn’t of married someone who traditions I hate.
I seriously don't understand how she was not embracing his culture from day one? Why she wasn't asking questions why she wasn't preparing his favorite Cameroonian dish. Making stuff from home at home. Practi I don't understand it doesn't feel like much love if she's not willing to take it on. I will give her the benefit of the doubt for trying but she should have done this sooner
2 Goats and a silver coin in exchange for buying your daughter…..erm just because it’s a tradition doesn’t make it RIGHT! Especially in this day and age …..
Emily's mother never says a thing about anything at home. Don't hear a peep out of her. She watches those kids, cooks dinner for everyone, pretty much lets Emily do whatever she wants. So now all of a sudden she speaks up about this tradition?? They've been married and have 3 kids! Just go along with their custom! It's not hurting anyone. Can't believe THIS is what she gets vocal about. Ridiculous!
You know it's just like the Christian tradition of the father giving the daughter to the husband as though she's property. No one says anything about that, because it's tradition -_-
Ephesians 5:25 says husbands, love your wives even ad Christ loved the church, and gave himself for it.
Father's give their daughters to a man who will love her to the point where he'd die for her.
Typical mother actually jealous of daughter. It’s pretty common and the mother is making it about her bc of unresolved issues from her own youth lol. Hence it being about her and not her child. 😅
they're taking emily, what is that . . . i'd say that's a great deal
Are we sure Emily's mom isn't named Karen? Geez, so annoying!
Are these “traditions” being made up for show footage cause their storylines dead?
Emily mom doing too much 😕 attitude is giving nasty
Why does Emilys mum always have to act some way! She just needs to shut it & know her role. She clearly doesn’t respect other cultures. It’s not always the American way. It’s not up to her, its Emilys wedding. Lisa should be more respectful of other cultures.
I didn't like Emily in the beginning but she really is a the anchor in the relationship. How many bad cards has she been delt? She still is in the game. Good on her. Team Emily here.
I don’t like this couple , they are boring and not interesting…..
You mean a happy marriage and a nuclear family
Know what else has been going on “for millions of years” in Africa? FGM and it’s actually increasing rates the last few of those years. Also if a man is beating his wife, he will continue until she dies if her family doesn’t put on a similar official visit returning her bride price. That’s regarded as a divorce more than any law. Someone must always own and pay for the adult women.
Is her mom wrong that this is immoral?
MAGA
lol, selling her daughter . . . hope they're not asking for much
They’re DEAD BORING. Im sorry. 🪴🪴🪴🪴🪴🪴🪴🪴