We are saying goodbye to my stepdad shortly and this has put my mind at rest that he will be treated with the dignity and respect he deserves. 12th April 2016... love you to the moon and back and one day we will all meet up in heaven.
My grandad was recently cremated, this video really helped me understand the process of a cremation as im disabled & have never had any of my family members cremated, They have all been buried. :(
i feel the same way my grandma was cremated and i am mentally disabled researching cremation explained to me what happened and put my mind at ease abouth death
thanks to the up loader ... sudden death of my mother from the momment the news being broken by the police ...dealing with what needs to be done is a massive learning curve ... found this very helpful avoiding upsetting any of other family members in dealing with all the factors keeping the stress level down ....
Thank you for this video. It gave me a new perspective on cremation. Prior to this, I would never have considered it. This is a beautiful tribute to our loved ones.
good job Pete! at my Grandad's funeral 2 years ago we went to a brand new facility which had air scrubbers on the chimney so no smoke pouring out which is always sad to see. I think in a few more years Cremation will pick up Stateside especially as Funeral costs here are so high.
this is truly helped me and my partner as we will attend the funeral of our beloved friend colin who was like a father to us, we know know he will be treated with so much care and respect, thank you so much for posted this video
I'm not British, but I thought this video was well-developed, informative, and (most importantly) respectful where those who may be considering cremation for their loved ones (or themselves) are concerned.
My grandad raised me after my mum left when I was eight. We had his funeral at city of London. I had no hesitation in cremation for this man who I love so much, so much. Because he was mentioned in dispatches, and given oak leaves for bravery during WW11 in the Royal Navy.....they offered to commit his ashes to the sea. It was awesome....but, not a day goes by that I don’t think about my grandad, my wonderful, fabulous, funny, brave grandad! I will be cremated, and my husband will be too. I have no misgivings about it! Thank you for your video! 🌹
A deeply moving and emotional video. I don't know what made me click on this video but I sure am pleased I did! now I no what happens at the crem once the curtains close. not as scary as youd think is it! my dad and mum were buried because mum thought burning people was wrong..wonder if she would have changed her mind if she had seen this explanation of what happens. I've told my wife and daughters I have to be cremated when I go...no one should have the burden of a grave! good work
What a beautiful video, my dearest husband wanted to be cremated and i must say I feel so comforted having watched this. The thought of him 6ft under the ground and decomposing is horrific to me so it was the best decision he could of made.
My wife died recently and iwas going to have her buried but decided on cremation..I'm glad i did . because it means ican keep her ashes with me..iand when my time comes .i get cremated .and we both get scattered together....it's what i want..
I plan on being cremated as well, I to just can't think of being buried 6ft under and decomposing. Their are coffins that will help slow the process the tip on the end of the coffin come off sometime during the time the person is buried and any moister in the coffin comes out through that tip then the coffin seals up to help preserve the remains longer. This is what I've been told I use to work in a funeral home and I can say that the people who are brought to the place I work were treated with respect and dignity. I would always talk to them while they lay resting and prayed over them. Just my way of showing respect. It's a very hard job at least for me to do this type of work.
Thanks for explaining the cremation to the family it's very educational and you explained very well. It's the only way to go now. Funerals are too expensive and you can't afford it anymore. God bless you and your family. Thanks again! 💕🙏💕👍😃🔥🌹
Thanxs Pete for the nice video,nice relaxing music,I've always said since I was a kid ,I don't want to be put in the cold,cold ground,I wish to be cremated at put with my BEST FRIEND EVER TON,TON WHO IS UNFORTUNETLY GONE ALREADY,AND ARE ASHES ARE TO BE KEPT TOGETHER FOR ETERINITY!!!!!!
I remember watching this video when I was younger. I’m now 15. When my mum said I’m being cremated when I die I was like noooo because the thought of my body being out on fire scared me real bad but watching videos like this is a comfort.
This is a very comforting video, as we have just had our sister cremated and heard allsorts of stuff, like they just scrape any old ashes into the urn, they wait for a load and cremate them all together etc etc. It was comforting to know that they are shown respect and dignity til the end. I am horrified to read posts below of someone promoting the way HE believes it should be done, and arguing with people who disagree. How disrespectful can someone be?
I was also told they put any old ashes into the urns. Having attended the funerals of too many loved ones over the last ten years these reassurances that the remains are indeed theirs, coupled with the respect given to said remains was a revelation to me. To the point where I couldn't see the point in scattering my Mum's ashes because I didn't think they were hers. Time for a rethink.
I just lost my mom on October 15th, 2018. Thank you for sharing this video with me. My mom was cremated and this video was so informative to me. Merry Christmas to all 🎅🤶
This video is very respectful in presentation. Thank you very much. Information is important for the family and friends of the love one who died. Sometimes the family is not sure if the right decision was made for a cremation for several reasons. You helped me understand and accept the decision of cremation my dear beloved mom made for herself. I love you mom and miss you so much. Thank you again for the making of the video. Thank you .
Recently lost my grandad.. went too this wonderal place. Muet sqy im so so greatful for my grandad i was nearly dead st 2½ due too kidney failure. I remeber my grandsd holding me and singing too me. It was amazing and peaceful. Im so so so so sad hes not here anymore. I lost him in June 28th.. bloody cancer is soo cruel.. but im happy he's in a place where he can go on his motabike and have both his legs. I miss you grandad remeber your a true Queen Rock star.. rest well...❤
Im from Australia this put my heart at ease 💙💓💙 I lost my father 4 days before xmas he was cremated, later that evening it would me new years 😢 it was a difficult time for me and my family thank u for this video, I to have decided to follow my dads wishes to be cremated 😇🤗😇 rest in peace dad you will never be forgotton until we meet again 💙💓💙
#Mo hi I'm from Australia too. I do hope your doing okay an the grieving has stopped. I just started my grieving my Husband passed away from cancer. He got Cemented hes finally back home in the lounge room. He was only 56. He had aggressive cancer in a week he was gone. Doctors me family didn't know. Anyway love because your from Australia I just wanted to say I pray your doing a bit better today.. *The love you make, is the love you take* 🇦🇺🔩⚱♾💜😪 Indie...
One of the crematoriums shown in this crematorium is indeed Mortlake crematorium. I agree, a very beautiful building and the staff I met there were outstanding!
Lost my beloved 💔 wife year ago ..only 43 .. can't believe she's gone..it's horrible without her.. she was my life..gone too soon..miss you darling..love you always..till we meet in eternity.. your loving husband.. god bless my love ..all your suffering is now over.. rest in peace .. love you.. look after mum for.me...
This is now put my mind at rest as i am going to funeral very soon my beloved friend suddenly past she will always be in my heart maybe she rest in peace
I agree entirely. A very very dear friend died yesterday & her family of 2 dont have burial money so they are having to use cremation. Just so final & only ashes as a memory God bless
I enjoyed this video, having been behind the scenes myself of funeral homes and crematoriums I feel this video will help a lot of people understand what happens next,
An excellent video. I worked as a crematorium technician and I can confirm the accuracy of this piece. Obviously, cremation practice may vary in different countries, but this is a superb explanation of cremation in the UK today.
I am very privileged to have witnessed a cremation take place from start to finish, it is so dignified I have decided this will be my way to leave this life once my time is up ...your details never leave you until everything is completely finished ...
Thank you so much you did this so beautiful kind respectful gentle just lovely. My Husband just passed away of the young age of 56. He just made our 27th Anniversary an his birthday. He had 3 things wrong but the main thing was of course Effing cancer. No one knew but he was losing so much weight. Anyway he got Cemented an I finally have him at home.. so in the middle of that horrific word grieving 😟 But thank you for this it means a lot to me... *The love you make, is the love you take* 💔💔💔💔💔💔
In the United States they don’t have nice crematoria with a chapel. They cremation is done either before or after the service and are done in industrial type space remote from the funeral home or chapel. I wish we had this type of facility in the US.
Me to, and not the me to movement! It was beautiful respectful peaceful. Not like the horror story play out in the new. Their was just a story SC about a funeral home not following guidelines disposal of human remains. The funeral home had held this lady's body for three years. After having an ledge supposed to be funeral. The funeral home had the lady's body draped in a blanket with incense around it and air fresheners to mask the smell, and in this part of the funeral home it wasn't cool enough. One would have though that the funeral home director would have stored the body in a refrigerated room, but then there is always the matter of doing what's right the first time. Anyway the family was highly upset knowing that the funeral home had treated this wife and mother in this manner. America the beautiful.
This presentation was thorough, respectful and very well done. Hats off to Cremationpete for a job well done.----- Morbid topic but a necessary/alternative to the natural death process.
Many of my late relatives chose to be cremated instead of a traditional burial. In keeping with this established family tradition I have chosen to be cremated, also, informing family members of my wishes.
I always thought the ashes were just off the coffin but now I can see that with such high heat theres not going to be much left! I went to my cousins funeral at Mortlake - was surprised at how nice it is - you don't expect these places to be nice! pleased every one is incinerated seperate why do people say they burn them together? going by other videos on here some countries do!!! the english certainly do there funerals with style and sensitivity! good film and nice pics!
Sad to say, we here, across the pond are in 2018, what I call 'thano-phobic" - we fear death. So we make it a terrible bugaboo, some scary hobgoblin. Our passion for worshiping youth and all things disposable blinds us to the cyclical, re-purposing of all living things. Cremation speaks to this idea, and moreover, does it in a practical fashion. Native cultures are far ahead of us, on that one. Our mom died peacefully at home, of old age and senile dementia in her bed at 95. We looked after her lovingly and with great care. We gave her last rites, since she had been a lifelong Catholic. We even cleaned and prepared her body for the funeral directors to take away. (And yes, she expressed a wish to be cremated when the time came). Because we were refused Medicaid..we 'chose' to nurse mother at home. (American health care? Please, don't get me started..) Anyroad.... in the end that default decision transformed our lives for good and all, giving us a rich experience, and healing in our family that continues to this day - almost two years after mother's passing. I gently encourage others, and their families, here in the States and the UK - to become educated, and not to let a fear of death... or, mis-information govern their actions, and responses to what is, in fact, a very natural part of life...thank you..
Both of my parents were cremated as I wish to have my body cremated. No matter how you look at it things are very grim at the end of the line. Buried your eaten by bugs, cremated you burn to ashes. I chose cremation for 2 reasons 1) Im not taking up any space on earth 2) I can be brought into my remaining family's homes and or thrown into the wind never to be seen again (in this case we did this with my uncles ashes at his golf course). The best wishes to all that read this and watch this video
my mom was cremated when she passed away from ALS in 2016, my question tho is after the ashes are taken out, do they CLEAN the inside of the burn chamber after EVERY body? I sure as hell hope so otherwise I not only have my mom's ashes in her beautiful purple urn (her fav color) but also the ashes of other people too which horrifies me, also the thought of my mom being put into a blender to get the parts down to "ashes" which also probably isn't washed out...I don't mean to sound rude BUT I do NOT want other peoples ashes in with my loved ones, that's just wrong... do they clean BOTH of them out after every person? if not when your loved one is cremated you are not only getting them but a bunch of other strangers as well... I am NOT ok with that at all, yeah call me petty but, I'm being honest so please don't be rude to me
In England, it is law that only one coffin is ever placed into the cremation retort at any one time. Any particulate residue left behind after the cremator technician has 'raked down' is 'blown out' when the next coffin is placed into the cremator. The initial combustion of the coffin/casket causes a momentary increase in pressure that blows out any dusty ashes. This is when prior to crematoria having mercury abatement systems fitted requiring the exhaust gasses to be cooled, you would sometimes see a wisps of bluish smoke exiting the crematorium chimney. It is also worth bearing in mind that the remains of a human body after cremation is almost entirely consisted of calcined bone which remains a in relatively large easily removable mass. Any parts not raked down into the next chamber are merely carbonise wood particles from the coffin that are lying in the cooler parts of the cremator that quickly burn up and blow out upon charging of the next coffin. In the UK, crematoria pride themselves of carrying out cremations in the most dignified and respectful manner. Sadly because of the very nature of funerals old wives tales and salacious rumours are all to often heard. None of which I can assure you are true.
@@cremationpete thanks for replying....in the next 5-6 years I will be MOVING to the UK, on vacation I found my other half, felt homesick when I came back to the USA...can't stay away from the UK the people here need to learn manners from the people over there.... thanks again creamationpete for responding it eased my mind...a little..still creepy tho...
I'm glad you brang that subject up. At least these people from the UK respectively responded to your question. I am confrontational too but now at ease to the fact that in most places in the states do follow the British way of cremation. There are Protestant Churches of British in USA.
IAMdw Unless its a very stetchy place (ask a lot of questions) get a feel for the staff there. Im sure they do wash the remains out before the next client rolls in. Most of all believe they do because you will forever have this in the back, don't stress yourself for something you cant control .
Ksloozy Doo there isn’t any 24 hour wait as such, this is just the time frame in which the coffin has to be placed into the cremator following the funeral. Usually the coffin is placed into the cremator within moments of the mourners vacating the ceremony area but in cases were its an early morning funeral the cremator(s) may not be up to temperature or there may be a backlog due to cremator breakdown, slow cremations etc. It is the law in the U.K. that the coffin is placed in the cremator exactly how it is received upon the catafalque. If a post mortem examination is required it is done before the deceased person is released into the care of the funeral director/family. Usually embalming and other presentation work is carried out upon the deceased before they are ready for viewing in the funeral home.
this is very nice cremationpete you did well and this helped me alot my grandma wants to get cremated when she dies and this really helped me believe cremation was the best thing to do thankyou god bless you pete
Diane.....it's different where you live. Disregard anything you already know...... I live in the suburbs of a large city. There is one funeral home here that has three locations. It was a bit more expensive, but has the best reputation and is the most dignified. The funeral home is lovely inside and we spoke to the funeral director in his very uncluttered office. He could not have been more professional and respectful. After all the decisions were made, we were able to go see my mother in a special viewing room that is arranged like a bedroom. We were not going to have a visitation, so this was for family only. She looked very peaceful and just sleeping. While it's not necessary for cremation, unless there is a viewing, we also picked her favorite outfit for her to be cremated. She was a very proper, proud woman and sending her off in a hospital gown was not going to work in my mind. After all this, there is a facility that the funeral homes use......either privately owned by one funeral home, or a central crematorium. The deceased is taken there by the funeral home. In the case of a cremation, each state has a separate law. There has to be a 72 hour waiting period before cremation in case there is an inquest into the death. They go through a similar process, but because the U,S. is so huge, crematoriums have developed to process the growing population. It's not so cozy and quaint as in the UK, unfortunately for the loved ones. I have no idea how they are handled at the crematorium...but the remains are returned to the funeral home and brought to the service or given to the family or loved ones, depending on their preference. Death is such a hard subject....and for an ill patient, it's hard on them and the loved ones. Once they pass, it's much harder on those left behind. The only thing I can say is if you have a co-worker, or friend or church member who has lost a loved one, go be there with them as they say goodbye. Funerals are for them....and emotional support from those around them is much better than a card or flowers. It has been in my experience.
My Dad was cremated in Jan 2013, it's the hardest thing i've ever gone through. Having to say goodbye to my Dad. I know he's at peace now but it's killing me inside, knowing that i'm never going to see him again :( xxxx
Lost my husband on Jan 7, 2022...he was cremated I have his ashes back home with me... I told him before he died he would be home with me... and he is 🥺😭😭
Coffins destined for cremation are not fitted with metal furnishings. Instead they may be wood, wool or more commonly rigid polystyrene that has been electroplated brass or chrome. Yorkrem handles for example.
My mum will be cremated possibly the end of next week. I'm a bit confused though. How long after the cremation do they spread the ashes? Would I be correct in saying it doesn't happen straight away? My brother said he wasn't interested in seeing the ashes spread in the garden of remembrance, although I might do. I just wonder if the guests at the funeral normally witness it too, or whether it happens much later. Thanks.
I'm sorry for your loss. you know doubt already know the answer to your question. I've been down the route of losing my dad, shortly followed by my mum, then a year later my husband. Doesn't get harder than that. But you can choose how the ashes are interred.
Is this in Scotland, because my Nan was cremated there and the coffin looks exactly like the one she had. On the part where the coffin was ent into the chamber
Scotland, Ireland, Wales and England all have the same styles of coffin (anthropoidal shape, though ‘caskets’, straight sided and ‘st Albans’ shaped coffins are also broadly available). Traditionally Scottish coffins were adorned with silk lowering cords and tassels. This is adornment usually omitted when the committal is cremation.
the curtains were not closed and the undertaker made an unwelcome interruption and her wedding ring was not recovered by family. i hope your experience is better.
I have left detailed instructions in my will where I am to be buried. Going to spend eternity in a beautiful English country churchyard in the Lincolnshire wolds. The thought of being incinerated at some grim municipal crematorium where they roll the dearly departed off an assembly line is horrific. I remember my fathers committal service. We had to wait for the preceding one to finish. Horrible. No dignity. That is why I'm totally opposed to cremation. Also I'm a trained gardener the thought of decomposing into the earth of the wolds to give life to nature is much better than polluting the atmosphere going up in smoke.
A complete waste of wood, but one myth which isnt is that some remove the coffin first for resale, which to me makes more sense, however, no one will admit this.
Most coffins destined for cremation are not solid wood. They are largely mdf or particle board with a paper foil or veneer. Coffins have to be approved for cremation and most wood or wood product coffins are FSC approved ensuring they are environmentally viable. Regardless of wood being used, the remains have to, for reasons of hygiene and physical ability of being placed in the cremator with dignity and safety of the crematorium technician, be contained in a suitable combustible vessel. Wood or wood byproducts fit this application nicely being rigid and combustible. There is the option of the remains being placed in a bag affixed to a suitable rigid board for ease of charging into the cremator, it's up to bereaved clients to decide if that's what they want for their loved one.
I TOTALL AGREE WITH YOU DAVID YOU END UP WITH WASTE WOOD MIXED UP WITH HUMAN FLESH AND BONES .I DONT LIKE THAT IDEA ALSO A WASTE OF GOOD WOOD SOME THING CHEAP WOULD DO FINE
Peter Jennings At that temperature there is no wood left, it is completely burned. Taking the body out of the coffin and replacing it into something cheaper is an urban myth. The crematoria are inspected regularly and they couldn’t get away with this.
@@cremationpete why is the coffin so expensive,a wardrobe is quite big but not as expensive if you see what I mean,are they taking advantage of people do you think,
They check the name plate on the lid of the coffin, and cross reference it with the paper work (which includes, the "green slip" that the doctor (be that at a hospital, or the family/care facility's GP) makes out upon pronouncing a person dead, the official death certificate that the next of kin receives upon registering the death with the relevant authorities) that the funeral director (undertaker) gives the cremation staff. They check the name plate on the lid of the coffin against the paper work provided to the crematorium by the funeral director (or, to use the older term, "undertaker). The paperwork includes (but is not always limited to) the "green slip" that the pronouncing doctor issues upon declaring death, medical certificates (unless the death has been referred to and investigated by a coroner (known as "Procurator Fiscal" in Scotland), and the official death certificate that is issued by the local authorities upon a next of kin going to officially register the death. In the UK, the law states that once the coffin is sealed it is against the law to re-open it. It has been known in the past for families to leave, for instance, the family Bible, or some other "family heirloom" in the coffin, not realise until the last moment, and have to resign themselves to the fact that it is gone forever. The coffin is ALWAYS cremated with the corpse. (As an aside, this video stated that cremation must take place within twenty-four hours of the committal. The law is that cremation MUST TAKE PLACE ON THE SAME DAY as the committal service is held.)
We are saying goodbye to my stepdad shortly and this has put my mind at rest that he will be treated with the dignity and respect he deserves. 12th April 2016... love you to the moon and back and one day we will all meet up in heaven.
My grandads funeral was held at MortonHall Crematorium In Edinburgh on June 28th. Service was fantastic. So thank you to everyone there.
My aunt was cremated, it was just as beautiful as it was in this video, makes you feel at ease when your relatives are cared for with so much respect.
I think the way they handle cremation is more dignified,heartfelt ,and symbolic..this video dispels any myth or morbid ideas...
I used to work in the funeral industry too, and this is 100% accurate, as stated in other comments. Always a very dignified process.
You made this video from something so very sad and scary to something beautiful. Thankyou
The myths were always a haunting thought for me but when my husband died I was reassured of the whole process just as we have seen in this video .
thank you, very comforting, my mom was cremated today, bless
I know how you feel my friend, mine was 12 years ago and i still miss her.
My mum died on the 3 January 2022. My sister and I are devastated, she will be cremated. It was her wish.
We just want her back
@@tess2538 bless you , she will always be with you both forever xx
My grandad was recently cremated, this video really helped me understand the process of a cremation as im disabled & have never had any of my family members cremated, They have all been buried. :(
Luke Ward
i feel the same way my grandma was cremated and i am mentally disabled researching cremation explained to me what happened and put my mind at ease abouth death
thanks to the up loader ... sudden death of my mother from the momment the news being broken by the police ...dealing with what needs to be done is a massive learning curve ... found this very helpful avoiding upsetting any of other family members in dealing with all the factors keeping the stress level down ....
Made me cry, me mum, dad and wife all went this way..... As I am now, so once was I, as I am now, so you shall be, be prepared to follow me.....
My mum died 5 weeks ago and she was cremated I miss her every single day I am glad to see what the dead are treated with dignity and respect
Thank you for this video. It gave me a new perspective on cremation. Prior to this, I would never have considered it. This is a beautiful tribute to our loved ones.
good job Pete! at my Grandad's funeral 2 years ago we went to a brand new facility which had air scrubbers on the chimney so no smoke pouring out which is always sad to see. I think in a few more years Cremation will pick up Stateside especially as Funeral costs here are so high.
this is truly helped me and my partner as we will attend the funeral of our beloved friend colin who was like a father to us, we know know he will be treated with so much care and respect, thank you so much for posted this video
I'm not British, but I thought this video was well-developed, informative, and (most importantly) respectful where those who may be considering cremation for their loved ones (or themselves) are concerned.
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My grandad raised me after my mum left when I was eight. We had his funeral at city of London. I had no hesitation in cremation for this man who I love so much, so much. Because he was mentioned in dispatches, and given oak leaves for bravery during WW11 in the Royal Navy.....they offered to commit his ashes to the sea. It was awesome....but, not a day goes by that I don’t think about my grandad, my wonderful, fabulous, funny, brave grandad! I will be cremated, and my husband will be too. I have no misgivings about it! Thank you for your video! 🌹
A deeply moving and emotional video. I don't know what made me click on this video but I sure am pleased I did! now I no what happens at the crem once the curtains close. not as scary as youd think is it! my dad and mum were buried because mum thought burning people was wrong..wonder if she would have changed her mind if she had seen this explanation of what happens. I've told my wife and daughters I have to be cremated when I go...no one should have the burden of a grave! good work
Peter Grayson
What a beautiful video, my dearest husband wanted to be cremated and i must say I feel so comforted having watched this. The thought of him 6ft under the ground and decomposing is horrific to me so it was the best decision he could of made.
My wife died recently and iwas going to have her buried but decided on cremation..I'm glad i did . because it means ican keep her ashes with me..iand when my time comes .i get cremated .and we both get scattered together....it's what i want..
I plan on being cremated as well, I to just can't think of being buried 6ft under and decomposing. Their are coffins that will help slow the process the tip on the end of the coffin come off sometime during the time the person is buried and any moister in the coffin comes out through that tip then the coffin seals up to help preserve the remains longer. This is what I've been told I use to work in a funeral home and I can say that the people who are brought to the place I work were treated with respect and dignity. I would always talk to them while they lay resting and prayed over them. Just my way of showing respect. It's a very hard job at least for me to do this type of work.
@@larryb8022 God bless you sir
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Lost my mum on 10.11.18 she was cremated on 30.11.18 so I'm still grieving this video put my mind at ease as to what happens to your loved ones.
I feel for you my dad died not so long ago it's a horrible time peace to you💕
Thanks for explaining the cremation to the family it's very educational and you explained very well. It's the only way to go now. Funerals are too expensive and you can't afford it anymore. God bless you and your family. Thanks again! 💕🙏💕👍😃🔥🌹
This video, had been wonderfully done. Having just had my mother cremated (her request) today. It brought me peace.
Thanxs Pete for the nice video,nice relaxing music,I've always said since I was a kid ,I don't want to be put in the cold,cold ground,I wish to be cremated at put with my BEST FRIEND EVER TON,TON WHO IS UNFORTUNETLY GONE ALREADY,AND ARE ASHES ARE TO BE KEPT TOGETHER FOR ETERINITY!!!!!!
I remember watching this video when I was younger. I’m now 15. When my mum said I’m being cremated when I die I was like noooo because the thought of my body being out on fire scared me real bad but watching videos like this is a comfort.
beautiful and lovely music , put my mind at rest ,
This is a very comforting video, as we have just had our sister cremated and heard allsorts of stuff, like they just scrape any old ashes into the urn, they wait for a load and cremate them all together etc etc. It was comforting to know that they are shown respect and dignity til the end. I am horrified to read posts below of someone promoting the way HE believes it should be done, and arguing with people who disagree. How disrespectful can someone be?
I was also told they put any old ashes into the urns. Having attended the funerals of too many loved ones over the last ten years these reassurances that the remains are indeed theirs, coupled with the respect given to said remains was a revelation to me. To the point where I couldn't see the point in scattering my Mum's ashes because I didn't think they were hers. Time for a rethink.
This made me cry so hard thinking about my Grandmother and how cremation really happens RIP
I just lost my mom on October 15th, 2018. Thank you for sharing this video with me. My mom was cremated and this video was so informative to me.
Merry Christmas to all 🎅🤶
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@@sandraestep4749 Respectfully Acknowledged. My condolences to you Sandra.
This video is very respectful in presentation. Thank you very much.
Information is important for the family and friends of the love one who died. Sometimes the family is not sure if the right decision was made for a cremation for several reasons. You helped me understand and accept the decision of cremation my dear beloved mom made for herself. I love you mom and miss you so much.
Thank you again for the making of the video. Thank you .
The name of the song being played in the background is "Simple Gifts", a Shaker song written and composed in 1848 by Elder Joseph Brackett.
I know it as Lord of the Dance
susan winn yeah, that's the second one. The songs change half way through.
Thank you for helping those of us who are grieving.
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Recently lost my grandad.. went too this wonderal place. Muet sqy im so so greatful for my grandad i was nearly dead st 2½ due too kidney failure. I remeber my grandsd holding me and singing too me. It was amazing and peaceful. Im so so so so sad hes not here anymore. I lost him in June 28th.. bloody cancer is soo cruel.. but im happy he's in a place where he can go on his motabike and have both his legs. I miss you grandad remeber your a true Queen Rock star.. rest well...❤
Im from Australia this put my heart at ease 💙💓💙 I lost my father 4 days before xmas he was cremated, later that evening it would me new years 😢 it was a difficult time for me and my family thank u for this video, I to have decided to follow my dads wishes to be cremated 😇🤗😇 rest in peace dad you will never be forgotton until we meet again 💙💓💙
#Mo hi I'm from Australia too. I do hope your doing okay an the grieving has stopped. I just started my grieving my Husband passed away from cancer. He got Cemented hes finally back home in the lounge room. He was only 56. He had aggressive cancer in a week he was gone. Doctors me family didn't know. Anyway love because your from Australia I just wanted to say I pray your doing a bit better today..
*The love you make, is the love you take*
🇦🇺🔩⚱♾💜😪 Indie...
@@Natasha_835 I love you too ❤️ and thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers 🙏❤️🙏❤️ may his beutiful soul rest in peace.
@@moramzi6527 Thank you beautiful my friend. I pray for good health an may Gods Angels always watch over you while your sleeping... Amen 🙏🏽🇦🇺💕💕💕💕💕
The crematorium featured in this film is Mortlake, West London. A very beautiful building and very peaceful place
One of the crematoriums shown in this crematorium is indeed Mortlake crematorium. I agree, a very beautiful building and the staff I met there were outstanding!
Thanks for the video. Excellent.
My dear husbands cremation too place just over a week ago and this has really comforted me. Thank you.
Same here Sue. My husband was cremated six weeks ago, on 21st July 2017. I feel very comforted seeing this now too.
This was the best video I have seen about cremation. It was so well done and seems so caring and respectable. It explained everything perfectly.
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@@georgefield3909 what does your response mean?
Lost my beloved 💔 wife year ago ..only 43 .. can't believe she's gone..it's horrible without her.. she was my life..gone too soon..miss you darling..love you always..till we meet in eternity.. your loving husband.. god bless my love ..all your suffering is now over.. rest in peace .. love you.. look after mum for.me...
The video on cremation is beautifully presented. It is very reassuring and as someone whose time is nearly done, I thank the creators of this video.
This is now put my mind at rest as i am going to funeral very soon my beloved friend suddenly past she will always be in my heart maybe she rest in peace
I agree entirely. A very very dear friend died yesterday & her family of 2 dont have burial money so they are having to use cremation. Just so final & only ashes as a memory
God bless
I didn't know this information... especially concerning citizens of the U.K.
Your presentation was most informative....
I enjoyed this video, having been behind the scenes myself of funeral homes and crematoriums I feel this video will help a lot of people understand what happens next,
thanks for sharing just what I needed to know.
Thank you for this video. It's very informative. I had absolutely no idea how cremation is being done.
My husband was cremated 12 years ago i miss him dearly but remember him through this song
When I get cremated I want them to play "ooh ooh I'm on fire".
5/1/19....In the USA we usually wait & have the service AFTER the cremation---when the cremains have been collected & boxed up or put in a nice urn.
That’s beautiful very informative thank you
An excellent video. I worked as a crematorium technician and I can confirm the accuracy of this piece.
Obviously, cremation practice may vary in different countries, but this is a superb explanation of cremation in the UK today.
Great video! Very informative
an interesting, informative and respectful video, thank you .
I am very privileged to have witnessed a cremation take place from start to finish, it is so dignified I have decided this will be my way to leave this life once my time is up ...your details never leave you until everything is completely finished ...
Thank you so much you did this so beautiful kind respectful gentle just lovely. My Husband just passed away of the young age of 56. He just made our 27th Anniversary an his birthday. He had 3 things wrong but the main thing was of course Effing cancer. No one knew but he was losing so much weight. Anyway he got Cemented an I finally have him at home.. so in the middle of that horrific word grieving 😟
But thank you for this it means a lot to me...
*The love you make, is the love you take* 💔💔💔💔💔💔
In the United States they don’t have nice crematoria with a chapel. They cremation is done either before or after the service and are done in industrial type space remote from the funeral home or chapel. I wish we had this type of facility in the US.
Me to, and not the me to movement! It was beautiful respectful peaceful. Not like the horror story play out in the new. Their was just a story SC about a funeral home not following guidelines disposal of human remains. The funeral home had held this lady's body for three years. After having an ledge supposed to be funeral. The funeral home had the lady's body draped in a blanket with incense around it and air fresheners to mask the smell, and in this part of the funeral home it wasn't cool enough. One would have though that the funeral home director would have stored the body in a refrigerated room, but then there is always the matter of doing what's right the first time.
Anyway the family was highly upset knowing that the funeral home had treated this wife and mother in this manner. America the beautiful.
Not necessarily true. Newer built funeral home are more presentable.
@@sandrajohnson5397 Why would they hold a body for 3 years? I don't understand that.
It's the same in Spain where I lived for many years.
God Bless The USA
I have always associated death as morbid but this was a peaceful video.
This presentation was thorough, respectful and very well done. Hats off to Cremationpete for a job well done.----- Morbid topic but a necessary/alternative to the natural death process.
Many of my late relatives chose to be cremated instead of a traditional burial. In keeping with this established family tradition I have chosen to be cremated, also, informing family
members of my wishes.
a fine video -respectfully compiled but very easy to understand. thank you
That was very beautiful.
I always thought the ashes were just off the coffin but now I can see that with such high heat theres not going to be much left! I went to my cousins funeral at Mortlake - was surprised at how nice it is - you don't expect these places to be nice! pleased every one is incinerated seperate why do people say they burn them together? going by other videos on here some countries do!!! the english certainly do there funerals with style and sensitivity! good film and nice pics!
Does anyone know the tune to this video?
Very beautiful.
We are saying goodbye to my Dad on the 29th Feb 2016. R.I.P. X
Thank you. It was a nice send off yesterday. Miss him so much.
Very Sorry my dad died on the 20th feb 2016
ive never had a dad so i dunno if your lucky or not .
Very informative and tastefully presented.
What music is that I know its Lord of the dance but what is the rest? ?
There needs to be more of this topic to dispel the fear of death as we all have to die at some point.
Fascinating
Sad to say, we here, across the pond are in 2018, what I call 'thano-phobic" - we fear death. So we make it a terrible bugaboo, some scary hobgoblin. Our passion for worshiping youth and all things disposable blinds us to the cyclical, re-purposing of all living things. Cremation speaks to this idea, and moreover, does it in a practical fashion. Native cultures are far ahead of us, on that one. Our mom died peacefully at home, of old age and senile dementia in her bed at 95. We looked after her lovingly and with great care. We gave her last rites, since she had been a lifelong Catholic. We even cleaned and prepared her body for the funeral directors to take away. (And yes, she expressed a wish to be cremated when the time came). Because we were refused Medicaid..we 'chose' to nurse mother at home. (American health care? Please, don't get me started..) Anyroad.... in the end that default decision transformed our lives for good and all, giving us a rich experience, and healing in our family that continues to this day - almost two years after mother's passing. I gently encourage others, and their families, here in the States and the UK - to become educated, and not to let a fear of death... or, mis-information govern their actions, and responses to what is, in fact, a very natural part of life...thank you..
Both of my parents were cremated as I wish to have my body cremated. No matter how you look at it things are very grim at the end of the line. Buried your eaten by bugs, cremated you burn to ashes. I chose cremation for 2 reasons 1) Im not taking up any space on earth 2) I can be brought into my remaining family's homes and or thrown into the wind never to be seen again (in this case we did this with my uncles ashes at his golf course). The best wishes to all that read this and watch this video
I watched this as my dad just passed away he’s being cremated on the 7th of January 2018. Not a good xmas n new year for us hey
I feel for you Sharon, I really do.x
Godbless.
May God give him eternal peace.
But why are you waiting so long?
May God give you the strength to carry on. Be strong. May your Dad Rest In Peace. 💕💖
should of said 2019 hes being cremated gotta wait 6 weeks causa xmas.
... How much did the family pay for the coffin? In the US they use a grey fiberboard box.
very nicely explained ....thanks
my mom was cremated when she passed away from ALS in 2016, my question tho is after the ashes are taken out, do they CLEAN the inside of the burn chamber after EVERY body? I sure as hell hope so otherwise I not only have my mom's ashes in her beautiful purple urn (her fav color) but also the ashes of other people too which horrifies me, also the thought of my mom being put into a blender to get the parts down to "ashes" which also probably isn't washed out...I don't mean to sound rude BUT I do NOT want other peoples ashes in with my loved ones, that's just wrong... do they clean BOTH of them out after every person? if not when your loved one is cremated you are not only getting them but a bunch of other strangers as well... I am NOT ok with that at all, yeah call me petty but, I'm being honest so please don't be rude to me
In England, it is law that only one coffin is ever placed into the cremation retort at any one time. Any particulate residue left behind after the cremator technician has 'raked down' is 'blown out' when the next coffin is placed into the cremator. The initial combustion of the coffin/casket causes a momentary increase in pressure that blows out any dusty ashes. This is when prior to crematoria having mercury abatement systems fitted requiring the exhaust gasses to be cooled, you would sometimes see a wisps of bluish smoke exiting the crematorium chimney. It is also worth bearing in mind that the remains of a human body after cremation is almost entirely consisted of calcined bone which remains a in relatively large easily removable mass. Any parts not raked down into the next chamber are merely carbonise wood particles from the coffin that are lying in the cooler parts of the cremator that quickly burn up and blow out upon charging of the next coffin. In the UK, crematoria pride themselves of carrying out cremations in the most dignified and respectful manner. Sadly because of the very nature of funerals old wives tales and salacious rumours are all to often heard. None of which I can assure you are true.
@@cremationpete thanks for replying....in the next 5-6 years I will be MOVING to the UK, on vacation I found my other half, felt homesick when I came back to the USA...can't stay away from the UK the people here need to learn manners from the people over there.... thanks again creamationpete for responding it eased my mind...a little..still creepy tho...
I'm glad you brang that subject up. At least these people from the UK respectively responded to your question. I am confrontational too but now at ease to the fact that in most places in the states do follow the British way of cremation. There are Protestant Churches of British in USA.
IAMdw Unless its a very stetchy place (ask a lot of questions) get a feel for the staff there. Im sure they do wash the remains out before the next client rolls in. Most of all believe they do because you will forever have this in the back, don't stress yourself for something you cant control .
@Alter Ego THIS RIGHT HERE ^^^^^ is why these kind of videos do not belong on a forum. You could just post it if you have to and disable the comments.
Well that’s cheered me up no end.
Death is natures way of telling you to slow down.
@@alanhughes2276 or speed up?
When would a 24 he wait be required, and is there any chance that an unknown autopsy may take place during that time or body parts removed?
Ksloozy Doo there isn’t any 24 hour wait as such, this is just the time frame in which the coffin has to be placed into the cremator following the funeral. Usually the coffin is placed into the cremator within moments of the mourners vacating the ceremony area but in cases were its an early morning funeral the cremator(s) may not be up to temperature or there may be a backlog due to cremator breakdown, slow cremations etc. It is the law in the U.K. that the coffin is placed in the cremator exactly how it is received upon the catafalque. If a post mortem examination is required it is done before the deceased person is released into the care of the funeral director/family. Usually embalming and other presentation work is carried out upon the deceased before they are ready for viewing in the funeral home.
this is very nice cremationpete you did well and this helped me alot my grandma wants to get cremated when she dies and this really helped me believe cremation was the best thing to do thankyou god bless you pete
Really good what is the name of this music on it?
It's called come on baby light my fire😂😂😂😂😂🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I've been to quite a few cremations in England, and confirm that this is an accurate depiction.
Do you have Xray vision then? 🐭🐭🐁🎅🎅🎄🎄🐀🐀🐀
@@stechell8807 😀😀😀⚰️⚰️😎😎
Thank you!
I’m looking for the name of the first song in this presentation, can anyone help.
Thomas Acocella ‘at first light’ Brian Craine
Thank you sir.
I wish they would show the American way of cremation ,
Diane.....it's different where you live. Disregard anything you already know...... I live in the suburbs of a large city. There is one funeral home here that has three locations. It was a bit more expensive, but has the best reputation and is the most dignified. The funeral home is lovely inside and we spoke to the funeral director in his very uncluttered office. He could not have been more professional and respectful. After all the decisions were made, we were able to go see my mother in a special viewing room that is arranged like a bedroom. We were not going to have a visitation, so this was for family only. She looked very peaceful and just sleeping. While it's not necessary for cremation, unless there is a viewing, we also picked her favorite outfit for her to be cremated. She was a very proper, proud woman and sending her off in a hospital gown was not going to work in my mind. After all this, there is a facility that the funeral homes use......either privately owned by one funeral home, or a central crematorium. The deceased is taken there by the funeral home. In the case of a cremation, each state has a separate law. There has to be a 72 hour waiting period before cremation in case there is an inquest into the death. They go through a similar process, but because the U,S. is so huge, crematoriums have developed to process the growing population. It's not so cozy and quaint as in the UK, unfortunately for the loved ones. I have no idea how they are handled at the crematorium...but the remains are returned to the funeral home and brought to the service or given to the family or loved ones, depending on their preference. Death is such a hard subject....and for an ill patient, it's hard on them and the loved ones. Once they pass, it's much harder on those left behind. The only thing I can say is if you have a co-worker, or friend or church member who has lost a loved one, go be there with them as they say goodbye. Funerals are for them....and emotional support from those around them is much better than a card or flowers. It has been in my experience.
Thanks 🙏
My Dad was cremated in Jan 2013, it's the hardest thing i've ever gone through. Having to say goodbye to my Dad. I know he's at peace now but it's killing me inside, knowing that i'm never going to see him again :( xxxx
Thank you
Thank you for this video. My request to my family is to be Cremated, and I wish to keep this video to show them.
Lost my husband on Jan 7, 2022...he was cremated I have his ashes back home with me... I told him before he died he would be home with me... and he is 🥺😭😭
The music is beautiful
what is the name of the music played
Hang Fire by the Rolling Stones or it could be Ring Of Fire by Johnny Cash
What happens to the metal handles etc of the coffin?
Coffins destined for cremation are not fitted with metal furnishings. Instead they may be wood, wool or more commonly rigid polystyrene that has been electroplated brass or chrome. Yorkrem handles for example.
Beauiful
Ashes to ashes dust to dust.
My mum will be cremated possibly the end of next week. I'm a bit confused though. How long after the cremation do they spread the ashes? Would I be correct in saying it doesn't happen straight away? My brother said he wasn't interested in seeing the ashes spread in the garden of remembrance, although I might do. I just wonder if the guests at the funeral normally witness it too, or whether it happens much later. Thanks.
I'm sorry for your loss. you know doubt already know the answer to your question. I've been down the route of losing my dad, shortly followed by my mum, then a year later my husband. Doesn't get harder than that. But you can choose how the ashes are interred.
Is this in Scotland, because my Nan was cremated there and the coffin looks exactly like the one she had. On the part where the coffin was ent into the chamber
Scotland, Ireland, Wales and England all have the same styles of coffin (anthropoidal shape, though ‘caskets’, straight sided and ‘st Albans’ shaped coffins are also broadly available). Traditionally Scottish coffins were adorned with silk lowering cords and tassels. This is adornment usually omitted when the committal is cremation.
beautiful video,i was almost in tears!
My cousin Paul died last month and he was cremated xx
My brother's name is Paul, he was in the hospital for 2 months and is now in a Nursing Home/Rehab Center. We love you, Paul, Get Well Soon. xoxo
A much quicker way to set the soul free and to prevent water and soil pollution.
the curtains were not closed and the undertaker made an unwelcome interruption and her wedding ring was not recovered by family. i hope your experience is better.
My twin boys where cremated together. In the same coffin ❤️
I have left detailed instructions in my will where I am to be buried. Going to spend eternity in a beautiful English country churchyard in the Lincolnshire wolds. The thought of being incinerated at some grim municipal crematorium where they roll the dearly departed off an assembly line is horrific. I remember my fathers committal service. We had to wait for the preceding one to finish. Horrible. No dignity. That is why I'm totally opposed to cremation. Also I'm a trained gardener the thought of decomposing into the earth of the wolds to give life to nature is much better than polluting the atmosphere going up in smoke.
A complete waste of wood, but one myth which isnt is that some remove the coffin first for resale, which to me makes more sense, however, no one will admit this.
Most coffins destined for cremation are not solid wood. They are largely mdf or particle board with a paper foil or veneer. Coffins have to be approved for cremation and most wood or wood product coffins are FSC approved ensuring they are environmentally viable. Regardless of wood being used, the remains have to, for reasons of hygiene and physical ability of being placed in the cremator with dignity and safety of the crematorium technician, be contained in a suitable combustible vessel. Wood or wood byproducts fit this application nicely being rigid and combustible. There is the option of the remains being placed in a bag affixed to a suitable rigid board for ease of charging into the cremator, it's up to bereaved clients to decide if that's what they want for their loved one.
seen it happen. more than once.
I TOTALL AGREE WITH YOU DAVID YOU END UP WITH WASTE WOOD MIXED UP WITH HUMAN FLESH AND BONES .I DONT LIKE THAT IDEA ALSO A WASTE OF GOOD WOOD SOME THING CHEAP WOULD DO FINE
Peter Jennings At that temperature there is no wood left, it is completely burned. Taking the body out of the coffin and replacing it into something cheaper is an urban myth. The crematoria are inspected regularly and they couldn’t get away with this.
@@cremationpete why is the coffin so expensive,a wardrobe is quite big but not as expensive if you see what I mean,are they taking advantage of people do you think,
hello his says id is double checked , do they open the coffin ?
and what purpose would that serve the operator would not know the person in the box
They check the name plate on the lid of the coffin, and cross reference it with the paper work (which includes, the "green slip" that the doctor (be that at a hospital, or the family/care facility's GP) makes out upon pronouncing a person dead, the official death certificate that the next of kin receives upon registering the death with the relevant authorities) that the funeral director (undertaker) gives the cremation staff.
They check the name plate on the lid of the coffin against the paper work provided to the crematorium by the funeral director (or, to use the older term, "undertaker). The paperwork includes (but is not always limited to) the "green slip" that the pronouncing doctor issues upon declaring death, medical certificates (unless the death has been referred to and investigated by a coroner (known as "Procurator Fiscal" in Scotland), and the official death certificate that is issued by the local authorities upon a next of kin going to officially register the death.
In the UK, the law states that once the coffin is sealed it is against the law to re-open it. It has been known in the past for families to leave, for instance, the family Bible, or some other "family heirloom" in the coffin, not realise until the last moment, and have to resign themselves to the fact that it is gone forever. The coffin is ALWAYS cremated with the corpse.
(As an aside, this video stated that cremation must take place within twenty-four hours of the committal. The law is that cremation MUST TAKE PLACE ON THE SAME DAY as the committal service is held.)
My parents were cremated ten years apart.
@Wee Mac you are very immature and irrational for such an insignificant comment. Lol
Never knew that the body is placed in a coffin then all burn together