My ex wanted that, he was my first bf i never rlly understood it until i would be getting my friends opinion on shi and everything he was saying in the beginning i'd do, until i realized that their opinions n them knowing everything was ruining shi between us😭
@bella_querida that sounds like you told the wrong friends. They should only help you sort through your thoughts and give you advice on how to talk to your partner
@@bella_querida that happened to me too 😭 it was to the point where my friend liked him behind my back and told him lies, my other friends were just causing drama. Shit sucked
You still have to do your kids a favor and make sure they don’t turn out like a giraffe. You have a duty to the future not your own desire. Even if the partner isn’t worth it. At least the kids bring value to the market. Worth the trouble.
“You call yourself ugly, because some one else called you ugly” that cut so deep, especially because that’s something I am going through, and my girlfriend. I tell her almost every day how beautiful she is but she still doesn’t believe it. I hope one day she realizes how gorgeous she really is.
Awwwww you’re a good boyfriend please keep telling her that even if it seems she doesn’t see herself that way keep saying it to her it means the world for her to hear that from you youre a good boyfriend thank you for seeing the beauty in her keep treating her right and being kind to her i wish you guys nothing but the best in life
That’s the same thing for me. She’s the most beautiful girl I’ve ever met, and she still denies it. I’ll never stop telling her how beautiful she is though
Love isn’t based on feelings , it’s on decision. It took me 3 months to realize I was in love with ex situationship. Always remember their’s always going to be a badder girl. But no girl can ever understand you both mentally nd physically then the one who’s trying.
Hi shimon. I went on a date with a girl I met on Tinder although we quickly moved over to messages. we had a great time talking with her on calls and we clicked in there, but when I met her IRL today. we didn't click at all. we smoked in freezing wind and talked but It wasn't a comfortable vibe, for me personaly. I actually watched one of your videos prior to going on the date and it helped me be able to have a nice time with her but even still I didn't feel the click at all. then right now, came home. (notifications) "Learn this before dating anyone" 17 minutes ago. it feels like fate brought me here.
@@lotusisonyoutube The fact you actually went on a date is a good sign for growth and progress. Enjoy the journey and embrace failure and learn from experiences. The best way to learn is from learning from your own mistakes. Exclude the phone. Sit yourself somewhere. Reflect. Note down your thoughts and track your progress. Whatever it is. I wish you the best!
This videos timing is crazy. I just broke up with my 3rd girlfriend a few weeks ago. She is kind caring, and listens, but highly unstable and bipolar. We broke up because she didn’t feel ready, which I 100% understand. Today she introduced me to her new boyfriend. He took a puff of his vape and blew it in my face. When I came home I was not sad, depressed as I normally am. I was determined. I made a vow today to change myself for the better. I’m 278.2 Ibs, 43.7% body fat. I’m going to change my life today. 4/24/24 EDIT 5/2/24: Dating this super nice girl after grinding for weeks. She's so amazing. Thanks man! EDIT 5/8/24: Yeah... dodged a bullet with that one. She was wayy too fast. Guess I'm back to the grind! EDIT: 6/14/24 Summer has been going for some time. been working a job which involves me moving heavy stuff around, so that's some good movement throughout the day. I need to get back with my gym bro so we can start getting that summer shred on. Not much weight wise has changed, I still need to weigh myself, it's been awhile. But yeah! I'll be coming here time to time to keep updating this post for you guys. Reply to this whenever so I can be reminded of it, my memory sucks lol.
the fact that you don't make cuts in the editing even when you forget the reason why you were talking about something makes all the video look like I'm just talking with an older friend, magically real.
There's this girl. She is amazing, I feel so comfortable around her. Smart, creative, compassionate, fun and so remarkable. But, I feel like I have way too much on my plate (exams, work commitments, etc) to start something. Part of me is scared I don't give her the time she deserves, IF she even feels the same, but I'm equally scared I miss out on the opportunity to be with someone like her.
I promise u if she actually digs u she will understand your schedule. And probably find it more attractive than a dude having all the time in the world
Talk to her bro. I felt the same way, just too focused on myself to introduce a girl into my busy life. But busyness can get lonely. If you feel like you found someone that can grow with you and be a helpmate and not a distraction, take the risk. That’s rare these days
Relationships are commitments. They’re not meant to have a consistently increasing slope, there will at some point or another be certain things you have to overcome. If you really like this girl and fumbling her isn’t an option for you, tell her. Let her know that at the moment you can’t give her all you want to give, but that you intend to and are just facing obstacles. If the love is there, even if there’s some distance between you the attraction remains the same. If you genuinely have no way to make it work atm, still let her know. Like putting the rs on hold basically lol, for lack of better words. Point is, don’t overthink it too much. What’s meant to be will reach you even if it’s in the midst of two mountains, and what’s not meant for you won’t reach you even if it’s between your teeth. You know yourself and your situation best. Go with your gut on this.
@@peripheralvision9976 I did it. Told her how I felt and how I can't fully give all that I can for now, but in the near future. Thankfully she said yes! Thank you for your advice, my heart is so full.
I just ended a 10 month relationship, bc of my bf. I told him i can't be in a toxic relationship,and i dont feel loved like i did before. He told me ''i treated you like this because i tought you would never leave me. Please don't leave me,i will change.'' And now i don't know if i will ever want to be in a relationship again, im scared of being treated like i am nothing again.
It sounded like your bf just said all that stuff to keep you to stay in a relationship where he felt in control, a relationship should never be one sided its good you got out when you did But if you are scared of getting into another relationship where you'll be treated the same then you should definitely wait a while, focus on yourself so that if your mind ever changes things will hopefully be better
Im sorry to hear that. I know about sociopathic behaviour very well as I have dealt with symptoms of male patheticy, as I have some of them. I wan't you to know that YOU DID INCREADIBLE dealing with it. recognizing his behaviour early on means that YOU ARE SO ready to find somebody special, because that power to escape from such a personality is something almost NOBODY can do. for now, take a while off dating for your own sake, you have dealt with something Awful noone should go through. you might be scared, but know there are many good guys out there, and with your ability to recognize such tendencies I KNOW you will do great! good luck onward and I hope you will feel better
You endured 10 months with an awful person. You will meet someone better that will treat you better. You deserve better. Take some time in healing yourself and when you’re ready you can be emotionally available
Honestly Shimon, you losing the thought created another good analogy. No one is ever always perfect, and in a lot of cases relationships arent perfect. but you were honest with us and yourself, communicated that and still moved forward. A lot of people, especially with your growth would cut that part out in favor of fake perfection. But you kept it in and still had confidence in this video because you still believe in the rest of the words in spite of the brain fart. Like in relationships, if something happens you should be honest with yourself and your partner about and of those slopes. The key is moving on with confidence in the relationship, when you bash it to outside people, youve lost the confidence of the relationship in yourself and want the validation of others.
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
i have been in such a situation. i love my woman and unfortunately we separated about two years ago, but i could not let her go, so i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back, now we are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
i feel like video is more suitable format, actually, like you feel like you’re sitting next to your best friend and talk about life and things, i’ve had that friend and that’s almost exactly how it feels
“You call yourself ugly, because some one else called you ugly” Hi, my name is Shia I’m a young Asian female who is currently 13 years old and if you think about those typical Asian scenarios, my family is like that. When I was younger (I’m still young but like.. yeah) my mother who is very… let’s say, judgmental, used to always say, “why are you so ugly?”. I remember this one memory when I was in trouble for doing something (I forgot for what but I knew I was in trouble) and I walked into her and she stared at me for a good 10 seconds and finally said, “why are you so ugly?” and then walked away. I was standing there so shocked and stunned thinking about, “ugly? Me?” I said “huh” as in disbelief and kinda chuckled. Later on in that day I kept thinking about the incident and as I was growing up I was always insecure about my looks and still am to this day. Whenever I see her it became a habit to look “good” or at least presentable (still is happening to this day) I always become so… petrified? frozen? scared? I can’t quite describe it but I have this feeling as in I could drop dead and she’d just say, “she’s even ugly when she’s dead.” It’s probably not common for someone as young as me to be thinking this way but this was the way I grew up. My mother is currently 50 and I still care about my looks. That’s why whenever someone compliments me on my looks I sincerely take the compliment to heart and love them. Looking back at past pictures of myself the only things I can see is flaws and even when I look at pictures of myself now, I just see a scrawny little Asian girl who has seriously uneven chinky eyes. (My eyes are unbelievably chinky, which kinda means small but thin. Search it up) because of my monolids I never really considered my eyes a pretty feature on my face. I wanna learn to love myself but don’t know where to start. Dear mom, I don’t know why but I have this strange feeling love but resentment toward you. I wish you could tell me at least once about how pretty I look instead of criticizing me. I’m ugly because of the genes you gave me… you gave me the bad genes and blame me. I love you, but I also hate you.
"Never let one action blind you to the countless moments of kindness they have shown you." What he is trying to convey and he did it so well man… -3:22
I love that u keep it all as one clip and don’t edit out when u get sidetracked. I do the same shit all the time when I’m trying to make a point, often times never coming back to it lol
You are so right about being careful with dating and friendship bundles... what I got from your example was that people you think who are your friends or who you think are her friends may try to get in between your relationship. Love is a battleground where people do all sorts of things to get with who they want, be that your partner or even you. When youre in a moment of vulnerability, its so hard to tell what the friends are thinking when they give the advice or comments that they do...
I just found out your channel and man woah, you're a good guy, an older brother that tries to help other out, I really wish you all the best for your future and may God bless you brother
You’re my new fucking favorite creator. You’ve got so much experience and it shows, thank you for sharing it from your past and pain with us. It don’t matter how bad you screw up an analogy or whatever, you just speak the truth
Bro ir videos have helped me mature so much in the last 6 months im like a whole new person i just finished school im getting extra hours i stopped being a freak im doing so good right now
About your analogy, I interpreted as it showing the perpetual and generational state of unhappiness and unfulfillment in relationships. You don't want their ignorance to real, organic relationships to affect your relationships and how you conduct them. Sad to see many people not know what happiness feels like in relationships because I'm sure it can be easy but they're often so unaware of how to cope in these scenarios, it cripples both them and their partner. Regardless, you shouldn't let these standards influence the relationships you cultivate or let these people into your lives.
I just got out of a serious relationship with someone really close to me, and it took. Them finally giving me a wake up call too late to mend the broken words. And this video hits hella deep, and more then the truth. The deeper meaning between the words, true peace comes from within. You need to heal fully, before going to commit to something so serious.
its like god sent me ur video, i was just taking advice from lots of people on what i should do with my situationship and i wasnt very happy with what i was hearing
I really wish I knew you in person bro. You seem like such a chill and down to earth guy who gives such a great perspective. Keep doing what you’re doing brother!
This is a very hard thing, because you have to be careful that your partner is not manipulating you. Those of us who have been abused really need to take time to heal from the parts that are hyper vigilant because that will cause more strife with both people.
Despite you losing sight of your point, you looking back to see how that related to what you were saying was an impactful metaphor in itsself, its the part of the video that hits you the hardest- the hair started standing up on my arms. You perfectly demonstrated that, you need to stop and self reflect on yourself in a relationship, because you can get trapped in the looking forward so much that you can't see what's happening around yourself. This was beautiful. You, in this aesthetic with talk that's real and your approach to teaching as well as learning, is beautiful. I went over your points in my head saying that I already knew them and thought about the words you'd say next, knowing I- at one time- had thought them myself. The most impactful part was you looking back on where you had been going, that was the biggest lesson I needed to have known within my last relationship, may she rest in peace, two years of a relationship ending with her death in a car crash two and a half weeks prior to me finding this, as well as sending this message. I pray that everyone here take in the words that are being said in this video, because they are truly valuable lessons you'd have to learn the hard way eventually. As I once did.
First off i want to say thank you Shimon. Your videos are very inspiring and is helping me overcome this battle i have with myself. i spent about 3 hours this morning just listening to you and i can say its been an emotional battle but everything looks like it will be better from now on. I’m proud of you and the stories you tell. I wish you nothing but success and happiness
Thank you. I have my mind on this girl and this video has been an eye opener. There's nothing else I can say except thank you. Keep doing what you're doing man, great work ❤✌️
He's just said things that been on my mind even tho i've never been into any relationships, but hearing right and smart things from another person always feels so good iykyk. Thank u
Hi Simon, I've been following you for a while and every time a video of yours comes out I run to listen to it because it's a blessing and it makes me feel good. Congratulations keep it up because I'm sure your words improve the lives of so many people. Greetings from Italy !!!
thank you shimon,for the majority of my relatinshio i let my family make my decisions or relied on them to tell me what to do, i quitted but i recently came back to it and now its causing issues in my relationshio. thank you so much, i feel like ur the 1 guy who actually wants me to enjoy life
thank you a lot for this video, I got done with a breakup months ago but I’m still confused why everything happened. I realized I made it way to public and told my friends every time something bad happened and made my ex look like the worst person ever. I feel really bad for that. my friends started to say she was the worst person and I believed in them despite all of the times she was there was me. I was a really bad girlfriend it was my first time being in an actual relationship but still. I let my friend who I only the negatives to influence me instead of simply communicating with my actual partner. I feel bad but I feel more understanding about our past relationship so thank you, thank you a lot. 🙏🙏
I wish I watched this before getting in a relationship or at least leaving it because you definitely changed my perspective and to be more mature. It's already difficult being young and wanting a relationship but now it's definitely different when you try to handle things through a mature light, you know? You spoke my entire relationship in this video and I feel like I heard you and I just wish I listened to what he was saying, you could've saved my relationship if I found you sooner.
Hey man, there is absolutely no pressure in reshooting a video if you get lost in thought. Ik deadlines are apart of staying in business, but never feel like you have to rush and push out an incomplete thought. I really appreciate you and your words of wisdom. Keep going strong, and may God be with you 🫡
This made me cry. Besides the relationship thing its that outside influences and him telling me how it affects someone and that touched my heart♥️😣. People always wanna mention the bad people always are negative they’ll never bring up the good idk why people hate good idk why people never mention the good its just crazy and dont ever say there is no good in life there is its just never shown as much anymore
Man, this video totally changed my view on this topic, You are so real, I feel like You are talking right to me. I am now healing from a breakup and this video helped me infinitely. Thanks for this content man.
damn bro u js made me realise so much. ik u not happy about this vid but if u hadnt released this n sent it out to the world i wouldnt haev seen this and i wouldnt have felt this sense of clarity that im feeling right now. thanks bro
im 19, i haven't dated anyone well over a year. your video did help me realize some things, I've bashed my ex's many times for the pain and extreme trauma they put me through. one of my ex's who delt me the worse, physically and mentally. I'm friends with him because he changed. he wants to take me on a date on my birthday and while i care about him, i fear it'll all happen again, and i came to terms with the fact that I'm not in love with him, i do find myself missing his warm hand sometimes but I KNOW it that's not love, that's me missing what a warm hand feels like. it won't work. I'm not angry at him anymore, i told him i broke up with him because i needed him to understand things more, to be more mature and understand what he did. im proud of him, hes grown well and i hope both of us keep growing even if we never get back together. i want him to be happy. i didn't date him for his looks i dated him because i loved his heart. and despite me having low self-esteem. it's extremely low though I've gotten better with it. he thought out of everyone i was the prettiest, he protected me whenever i got bullied too, i had never seen such a thing and over time my feelings grew. him and i are young and though he fucked up badly, he grew, we grew. that's what i hoped for him. i still care for him and i always will. no relationship is perfect..., these are things ive learned.
Thanks for sharing this man, it's a bit relieving to know other people are going through this shit aswell. I thought it was just me being fucking weird.
It’s so crazy how you can similar situations with different people. I literally just went through that with my now ex girlfriend last week, her getting advice from her family on our relationship and like you said once that happened there went the relationship.
This popped up on my home page right after breaking up with the love of my life. The issues talked about in this are the exact things that led me to ending things. I didn’t have good emotional maturity and did a lot wrong but the main thing that made me do it besides the fights was the people around me telling me I should do it. If I didn’t talk about these issues to other people I wouldn’t have done it and lost the love of my life. The fact that this showed up 3 days after these problems put an end to my relationship is a miracle. Thank you brother.
I love the first note “not talking bad about each-other” simply a small thing of words with so much meaning , I mean it allows for each-other to grow and learn about it each-other , instead of arguing with each-other , learn from each-other and become better people all together .
Damn I endet a relationship exactly like you described years ago, feels so relaxing to finally life a life with no headaches anymore. I still have trust issues tho...
I'm not going to lie, this video hit. This video actually hits me with everything going on with my life, and it taught me a lesson. This lesson may resonate with a lot of people, but this video actually taught me a lesson. Recently in my life, my friend has been going through some pretty shitty things in her life. i've never dated, but all I know is that he's been treating her pretty badly for a long time. Recently, he's been manipulating her and telling her not to be friends with us. He told her not to talk to people when he disregarded her own words. i love her a lot, bc she was there for me in a really bad time. I could never let her be hurt, and I made her man promise him at the start that if he ever made her feel horrible, I'd be someone to hate him, and I hate no one. But ofc he did. Of course, I scolded him a lot recently for it. But after that, I found out something about him. Me and my friend both did. He hurts himself.....to get her attention. He really likes attention, he loves her attention. And it's not normal but he's obsessed with her in a sense. However, the more I watch this video, the more I feel like an external force. Of course, I never want my friend to be in a bad position, but I feel bad for butting in. This video really came to me during this time. And I'm grateful but.....I really don't know how to feel about it. She was going through an abyss of hell and she needed someone. I think your point stands, however, if it really goes to an extreme level, I think having external factors is okay. Only if it goes to that extreme. However, you made me realise that being an external factor means I don't know everything, I probably only know the bad side. And that made me realise stuff. Thank you for bringing me to this realisation.
The conversation I needed. Nothing scripted, no insanely overly edited stuff, no obviously fake crying, no sugarcoating. Just a 100% real talk about reality. It's as if i was sitting there with you just listening and that made me feel so much better.
thank you man. I sadly ruined my chance with the girl of my dreams not long ago man because I bashed her behind her back because I was so hurt and immature and now she is hurt and can't heal and I want to help. but that's why I'm here. to learn.
Impressive my friend! I was one of your first viewers 6 months ago and now you got almost 300k subs! Such a thing but I'm growing as well! It's a great time for change. Keep it up and never let anybody let you down! Sending love 🥰
My girlfriend can’t really work up the ‘courage’ to even talk to me at school, compliment me face to face, take a compliment or anything face to face related. I told her if she won’t talk to me at school but she will with others and won’t take compliments at school or generally have a nice conversation with me even if it’s brief, to not text me if she can’t do those things face to face, I told her how I felt and I reminded her how much I loved her. Am I the bad guy?
Heavy thoughts sometimes wander a winding path. I never spent much time worrying about oversharing with others. I might want to start doing that. Thanks.
"Keep your relationship private, not secret."
My ex wanted that, he was my first bf i never rlly understood it until i would be getting my friends opinion on shi and everything he was saying in the beginning i'd do, until i realized that their opinions n them knowing everything was ruining shi between us😭
@@bella_queridaYup
@bella_querida that sounds like you told the wrong friends. They should only help you sort through your thoughts and give you advice on how to talk to your partner
@@bella_querida that happened to me too 😭 it was to the point where my friend liked him behind my back and told him lies, my other friends were just causing drama. Shit sucked
I FW THAT
"Every attractive person is not good looking, and every good looking person is not attractive"
Mannnn that cut deep
That hit so hard!
can you explain further the first statement why an attractive person is not good looking? Is it because of other aspects?
Deeper than any blade
You still have to do your kids a favor and make sure they don’t turn out like a giraffe.
You have a duty to the future not your own desire. Even if the partner isn’t worth it. At least the kids bring value to the market. Worth the trouble.
@@Nicnacsqt the right quote was "not every attractive person is good looking, and not every good looking person is attractive"
“You call yourself ugly, because some one else called you ugly” that cut so deep, especially because that’s something I am going through, and my girlfriend. I tell her almost every day how beautiful she is but she still doesn’t believe it. I hope one day she realizes how gorgeous she really is.
Awwwww you’re a good boyfriend please keep telling her that
even if it seems she doesn’t see herself that way
keep saying it to her it means the world for her to hear that from you
youre a good boyfriend thank you for seeing the beauty in her keep treating her right and being kind to her i wish you guys nothing but the best in life
That’s the same thing for me. She’s the most beautiful girl I’ve ever met, and she still denies it. I’ll never stop telling her how beautiful she is though
Love isn’t based on feelings , it’s on decision. It took me 3 months to realize I was in love with ex situationship. Always remember their’s always going to be a badder girl. But no girl can ever understand you both mentally nd physically then the one who’s trying.
Felt.✨
That's really why it's been three months 😭
YES
Yup
amen
Hi shimon. I went on a date with a girl I met on Tinder although we quickly moved over to messages. we had a great time talking with her on calls and we clicked in there, but when I met her IRL today. we didn't click at all. we smoked in freezing wind and talked but It wasn't a comfortable vibe, for me personaly. I actually watched one of your videos prior to going on the date and it helped me be able to have a nice time with her but even still I didn't feel the click at all. then right now, came home. (notifications) "Learn this before dating anyone" 17 minutes ago. it feels like fate brought me here.
But it’s not helping with handling ur dates. It’s a great video tho but I thought it’ll give advice for first dates.
@@lightlxkiHe already did others videos for first date
@@lotusisonyoutube The fact you actually went on a date is a good sign for growth and progress. Enjoy the journey and embrace failure and learn from experiences. The best way to learn is from learning from your own mistakes.
Exclude the phone.
Sit yourself somewhere.
Reflect.
Note down your thoughts and track your progress.
Whatever it is.
I wish you the best!
If you give it another shot definitely go with a much cozier relaxing atmosphere
Srry to tell u but it wasn't fate. Jesus brought these events together so you can have your chance again ❤
" Nothing external can fix what's inside "- Shimon. Damn😔
This videos timing is crazy. I just broke up with my 3rd girlfriend a few weeks ago. She is kind caring, and listens, but highly unstable and bipolar. We broke up because she didn’t feel ready, which I 100% understand.
Today she introduced me to her new boyfriend. He took a puff of his vape and blew it in my face.
When I came home I was not sad, depressed as I normally am. I was determined. I made a vow today to change myself for the better.
I’m 278.2 Ibs, 43.7% body fat. I’m going to change my life today.
4/24/24
EDIT 5/2/24:
Dating this super nice girl after grinding for weeks. She's so amazing. Thanks man!
EDIT 5/8/24:
Yeah... dodged a bullet with that one. She was wayy too fast. Guess I'm back to the grind!
EDIT: 6/14/24
Summer has been going for some time. been working a job which involves me moving heavy stuff around, so that's some good movement throughout the day. I need to get back with my gym bro so we can start getting that summer shred on.
Not much weight wise has changed, I still need to weigh myself, it's been awhile. But yeah! I'll be coming here time to time to keep updating this post for you guys. Reply to this whenever so I can be reminded of it, my memory sucks lol.
Ill watch your story
YOU GOT THISSS
Hell yea dawg
Wow that’s amazing, I don’t even know you but i really do believe in you.
never stop little steps everyday
the fact that you don't make cuts in the editing even when you forget the reason why you were talking about something makes all the video look like I'm just talking with an older friend, magically real.
"but there's beauty and imperfection, and im human"
You should do a video on friendship too, what a good one would look like, what a bad one looks like, and how to get out of one.
Fax
That would be a great topic!
agreed!!
yeah! ive been wanting to figure out how i can be a better friend and would love to hear a few points from shimon
i love how he says all of this in the moment and instead of having a script he just says what he knows to be true, and it’s all facts.
There's this girl. She is amazing, I feel so comfortable around her. Smart, creative, compassionate, fun and so remarkable. But, I feel like I have way too much on my plate (exams, work commitments, etc) to start something. Part of me is scared I don't give her the time she deserves, IF she even feels the same, but I'm equally scared I miss out on the opportunity to be with someone like her.
I promise u if she actually digs u she will understand your schedule. And probably find it more attractive than a dude having all the time in the world
Talk to her bro. I felt the same way, just too focused on myself to introduce a girl into my busy life. But busyness can get lonely. If you feel like you found someone that can grow with you and be a helpmate and not a distraction, take the risk. That’s rare these days
@@Ben-qx1yw Is it working out for you? Do you have enough time for them and your daily commitments?
Relationships are commitments. They’re not meant to have a consistently increasing slope, there will at some point or another be certain things you have to overcome. If you really like this girl and fumbling her isn’t an option for you, tell her. Let her know that at the moment you can’t give her all you want to give, but that you intend to and are just facing obstacles. If the love is there, even if there’s some distance between you the attraction remains the same. If you genuinely have no way to make it work atm, still let her know. Like putting the rs on hold basically lol, for lack of better words. Point is, don’t overthink it too much. What’s meant to be will reach you even if it’s in the midst of two mountains, and what’s not meant for you won’t reach you even if it’s between your teeth. You know yourself and your situation best. Go with your gut on this.
@@peripheralvision9976 I did it. Told her how I felt and how I can't fully give all that I can for now, but in the near future. Thankfully she said yes! Thank you for your advice, my heart is so full.
Finally, someone who actually cares for us, not someone who only cares about our wallets like andrew tate, I wish you the best man.
I just ended a 10 month relationship, bc of my bf. I told him i can't be in a toxic relationship,and i dont feel loved like i did before. He told me ''i treated you like this because i tought you would never leave me. Please don't leave me,i will change.'' And now i don't know if i will ever want to be in a relationship again, im scared of being treated like i am nothing again.
It sounded like your bf just said all that stuff to keep you to stay in a relationship where he felt in control, a relationship should never be one sided its good you got out when you did
But if you are scared of getting into another relationship where you'll be treated the same then you should definitely wait a while, focus on yourself so that if your mind ever changes things will hopefully be better
Im sorry to hear that. I know about sociopathic behaviour very well as I have dealt with symptoms of male patheticy, as I have some of them. I wan't you to know that YOU DID INCREADIBLE dealing with it. recognizing his behaviour early on means that YOU ARE SO ready to find somebody special, because that power to escape from such a personality is something almost NOBODY can do. for now, take a while off dating for your own sake, you have dealt with something Awful noone should go through. you might be scared, but know there are many good guys out there, and with your ability to recognize such tendencies I KNOW you will do great! good luck onward and I hope you will feel better
@@dru5541which is what men do very often
You endured 10 months with an awful person. You will meet someone better that will treat you better. You deserve better. Take some time in healing yourself and when you’re ready you can be emotionally available
some people would never treat you this way--he really believed that he could take advantage of you
Honestly Shimon, you losing the thought created another good analogy. No one is ever always perfect, and in a lot of cases relationships arent perfect. but you were honest with us and yourself, communicated that and still moved forward. A lot of people, especially with your growth would cut that part out in favor of fake perfection. But you kept it in and still had confidence in this video because you still believe in the rest of the words in spite of the brain fart. Like in relationships, if something happens you should be honest with yourself and your partner about and of those slopes. The key is moving on with confidence in the relationship, when you bash it to outside people, youve lost the confidence of the relationship in yourself and want the validation of others.
that’s the type of things i’m here for, need to say
Hope you all have a great Sunday!!!!
You too bro :)
You too bro 🗿
@@toastedavocado299 yo you remember the Legend 27?
How’d you know id watch this on a Sunday 2w later 🤯🤯
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
i have been in such a situation. i love my woman and unfortunately we separated about two years ago, but i could not let her go, so i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back, now we are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
wow, please how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?
Her name is queen stella laveaux ,and she is great at what she does. you can look her name up online and you will find all you need.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@@ErikR.Sepulvedayall are def both bots
If you ever write a book, imma be the first to buy it 🙏
i feel like video is more suitable format, actually, like you feel like you’re sitting next to your best friend and talk about life and things, i’ve had that friend and that’s almost exactly how it feels
i’ve had to apply this to friendships as well. learning to not share too much in order to make my own decisions without influence.
“You call yourself ugly, because some one else called you ugly”
Hi, my name is Shia
I’m a young Asian female who is currently 13 years old and if you think about those typical Asian scenarios, my family is like that. When I was younger (I’m still young but like.. yeah) my mother who is very… let’s say, judgmental, used to always say, “why are you so ugly?”. I remember this one memory when I was in trouble for doing something (I forgot for what but I knew I was in trouble) and I walked into her and she stared at me for a good 10 seconds and finally said, “why are you so ugly?” and then walked away. I was standing there so shocked and stunned thinking about, “ugly? Me?” I said “huh” as in disbelief and kinda chuckled. Later on in that day I kept thinking about the incident and as I was growing up I was always insecure about my looks and still am to this day. Whenever I see her it became a habit to look “good” or at least presentable (still is happening to this day) I always become so… petrified? frozen? scared? I can’t quite describe it but I have this feeling as in I could drop dead and she’d just say, “she’s even ugly when she’s dead.” It’s probably not common for someone as young as me to be thinking this way but this was the way I grew up. My mother is currently 50 and I still care about my looks. That’s why whenever someone compliments me on my looks I sincerely take the compliment to heart and love them. Looking back at past pictures of myself the only things I can see is flaws and even when I look at pictures of myself now, I just see a scrawny little Asian girl who has seriously uneven chinky eyes. (My eyes are unbelievably chinky, which kinda means small but thin. Search it up) because of my monolids I never really considered my eyes a pretty feature on my face. I wanna learn to love myself but don’t know where to start.
Dear mom,
I don’t know why but I have this strange feeling love but resentment toward you. I wish you could tell me at least once about how pretty I look instead of criticizing me. I’m ugly because of the genes you gave me… you gave me the bad genes and blame me. I love you, but I also hate you.
Damn.
proud to be apart of the tribe. ❤
heck yes with that pfp you are surely on my same situation
"Never let one action blind you to the countless moments of kindness they have shown you." What he is trying to convey and he did it so well man… -3:22
I love that u keep it all as one clip and don’t edit out when u get sidetracked. I do the same shit all the time when I’m trying to make a point, often times never coming back to it lol
You are so right about being careful with dating and friendship bundles... what I got from your example was that people you think who are your friends or who you think are her friends may try to get in between your relationship. Love is a battleground where people do all sorts of things to get with who they want, be that your partner or even you. When youre in a moment of vulnerability, its so hard to tell what the friends are thinking when they give the advice or comments that they do...
Im single from today... I feel lil better after that vid, thank you❤️
Never been in a relationship but I think that is a really good preparation Thank you
Amazes me how uncut yet real your videos are, keep it up!
Timing couldn’t have been any better im asking her out tomorrow
Good luck to you!
good luck man
Good luck !
howd it go
HOW WAS IT
I just found out your channel and man woah, you're a good guy, an older brother that tries to help other out, I really wish you all the best for your future and may God bless you brother
I gotta say I love this channel. Very peaceful, good advice and kind community. I’m happy I found y’all ❤
You’re my new fucking favorite creator. You’ve got so much experience and it shows, thank you for sharing it from your past and pain with us. It don’t matter how bad you screw up an analogy or whatever, you just speak the truth
Bro ir videos have helped me mature so much in the last 6 months im like a whole new person i just finished school im getting extra hours i stopped being a freak im doing so good right now
About your analogy, I interpreted as it showing the perpetual and generational state of unhappiness and unfulfillment in relationships. You don't want their ignorance to real, organic relationships to affect your relationships and how you conduct them. Sad to see many people not know what happiness feels like in relationships because I'm sure it can be easy but they're often so unaware of how to cope in these scenarios, it cripples both them and their partner. Regardless, you shouldn't let these standards influence the relationships you cultivate or let these people into your lives.
I just got out of a serious relationship with someone really close to me, and it took. Them finally giving me a wake up call too late to mend the broken words. And this video hits hella deep, and more then the truth. The deeper meaning between the words, true peace comes from within. You need to heal fully, before going to commit to something so serious.
The way you think is exactly how I think and feel and it’s so crazy I appreciate your videos so much you make me feel so understood and heard
you is speaking facts bro, i really needed to hear this, and know that someone else thinks the exact same as i do.
Man your videos always seem to help in those certain times when you need it brother !
its like god sent me ur video, i was just taking advice from lots of people on what i should do with my situationship and i wasnt very happy with what i was hearing
Im about to try my first relationship. This really helped, and that ship analogy was AMAZING
I really wish I knew you in person bro. You seem like such a chill and down to earth guy who gives such a great perspective. Keep doing what you’re doing brother!
He's so real for keeping the blooper in.
This is a very hard thing, because you have to be careful that your partner is not manipulating you. Those of us who have been abused really need to take time to heal from the parts that are hyper vigilant because that will cause more strife with both people.
I remember watching you around the time you grew popularity. You helped me a lot now and since then, Thanks man
Despite you losing sight of your point, you looking back to see how that related to what you were saying was an impactful metaphor in itsself, its the part of the video that hits you the hardest- the hair started standing up on my arms. You perfectly demonstrated that, you need to stop and self reflect on yourself in a relationship, because you can get trapped in the looking forward so much that you can't see what's happening around yourself. This was beautiful. You, in this aesthetic with talk that's real and your approach to teaching as well as learning, is beautiful. I went over your points in my head saying that I already knew them and thought about the words you'd say next, knowing I- at one time- had thought them myself. The most impactful part was you looking back on where you had been going, that was the biggest lesson I needed to have known within my last relationship, may she rest in peace, two years of a relationship ending with her death in a car crash two and a half weeks prior to me finding this, as well as sending this message. I pray that everyone here take in the words that are being said in this video, because they are truly valuable lessons you'd have to learn the hard way eventually. As I once did.
First off i want to say thank you Shimon. Your videos are very inspiring and is helping me overcome this battle i have with myself. i spent about 3 hours this morning just listening to you and i can say its been an emotional battle but everything looks like it will be better from now on. I’m proud of you and the stories you tell. I wish you nothing but success and happiness
Thank you. I have my mind on this girl and this video has been an eye opener. There's nothing else I can say except thank you. Keep doing what you're doing man, great work ❤✌️
He's just said things that been on my mind even tho i've never been into any relationships, but hearing right and smart things from another person always feels so good iykyk. Thank u
I remember when this man had 7k subs 4 months ago and now look at this! Props to you dude!
good advice but i don’t plan on dating anytime soon
Hi Simon, I've been following you for a while and every time a video of yours comes out I run to listen to it because it's a blessing and it makes me feel good. Congratulations keep it up because I'm sure your words improve the lives of so many people. Greetings from Italy !!!
thank you shimon,for the majority of my relatinshio i let my family make my decisions or relied on them to tell me what to do, i quitted but i recently came back to it and now its causing issues in my relationshio. thank you so much, i feel like ur the 1 guy who actually wants me to enjoy life
First time seeing one of your videos and man, I really love your presence. I feel like I could sit in a room and go back an forth with you for hours.
thank you a lot for this video, I got done with a breakup months ago but I’m still confused why everything happened. I realized I made it way to public and told my friends every time something bad happened and made my ex look like the worst person ever. I feel really bad for that. my friends started to say she was the worst person and I believed in them despite all of the times she was there was me. I was a really bad girlfriend it was my first time being in an actual relationship but still. I let my friend who I only the negatives to influence me instead of simply communicating with my actual partner. I feel bad but I feel more understanding about our past relationship so thank you, thank you a lot. 🙏🙏
Man your videos have helped me so much in my life!
I wish I watched this before getting in a relationship or at least leaving it because you definitely changed my perspective and to be more mature. It's already difficult being young and wanting a relationship but now it's definitely different when you try to handle things through a mature light, you know? You spoke my entire relationship in this video and I feel like I heard you and I just wish I listened to what he was saying, you could've saved my relationship if I found you sooner.
Hey man, there is absolutely no pressure in reshooting a video if you get lost in thought. Ik deadlines are apart of staying in business, but never feel like you have to rush and push out an incomplete thought. I really appreciate you and your words of wisdom. Keep going strong, and may God be with you 🫡
This made me cry. Besides the relationship thing its that outside influences and him telling me how it affects someone and that touched my heart♥️😣. People always wanna mention the bad people always are negative they’ll never bring up the good idk why people hate good idk why people never mention the good its just crazy and dont ever say there is no good in life there is its just never shown as much anymore
You should be very proud of this conversation! It makes me think deeper. 😊
i love listening to this man talk omg
Thank you for being real, Shimon.
God bless u young man...ur doing amazing things for the Lord...u definitely helped me n so many others...stand in ur truth n authenticity.
I love your videos, there so personal and genuine, I’d love a video on long distance relationships if you ever find time
You’re like an ancient greek philosopher in the modern day, love you
Man, this video totally changed my view on this topic, You are so real, I feel like You are talking right to me. I am now healing from a breakup and this video helped me infinitely. Thanks for this content man.
Perfect timing, thank you shimon i really appreciate the effort you put on these videos, you've helped me so much 🙏
damn bro u js made me realise so much. ik u not happy about this vid but if u hadnt released this n sent it out to the world i wouldnt haev seen this and i wouldnt have felt this sense of clarity that im feeling right now. thanks bro
You may not have been happy with how this vid turned out but it helped somebody. Keep up the good work bro 🤙
Bro. Thank you for this video. It’s what I needed to hear
im 19, i haven't dated anyone well over a year. your video did help me realize some things, I've bashed my ex's many times for the pain and extreme trauma they put me through. one of my ex's who delt me the worse, physically and mentally. I'm friends with him because he changed. he wants to take me on a date on my birthday and while i care about him, i fear it'll all happen again, and i came to terms with the fact that I'm not in love with him, i do find myself missing his warm hand sometimes but I KNOW it that's not love, that's me missing what a warm hand feels like. it won't work. I'm not angry at him anymore, i told him i broke up with him because i needed him to understand things more, to be more mature and understand what he did. im proud of him, hes grown well and i hope both of us keep growing even if we never get back together. i want him to be happy. i didn't date him for his looks i dated him because i loved his heart. and despite me having low self-esteem. it's extremely low though I've gotten better with it. he thought out of everyone i was the prettiest, he protected me whenever i got bullied too, i had never seen such a thing and over time my feelings grew. him and i are young and though he fucked up badly, he grew, we grew. that's what i hoped for him. i still care for him and i always will. no relationship is perfect..., these are things ive learned.
Bro you basically explained the issues i had in my last relationship with my ex-fiance.
Thanks for sharing this man, it's a bit relieving to know other people are going through this shit aswell. I thought it was just me being fucking weird.
I started watching your videos a few days ago and I love them. Your advice is great, please keep making videos, you are amazing
It’s so crazy how you can similar situations with different people. I literally just went through that with my now ex girlfriend last week, her getting advice from her family on our relationship and like you said once that happened there went the relationship.
This popped up on my home page right after breaking up with the love of my life. The issues talked about in this are the exact things that led me to ending things. I didn’t have good emotional maturity and did a lot wrong but the main thing that made me do it besides the fights was the people around me telling me I should do it. If I didn’t talk about these issues to other people I wouldn’t have done it and lost the love of my life. The fact that this showed up 3 days after these problems put an end to my relationship is a miracle. Thank you brother.
I love the first note “not talking bad about each-other” simply a small thing of words with so much meaning , I mean it allows for each-other to grow and learn about it each-other , instead of arguing with each-other , learn from each-other and become better people all together .
Say mane, late night sesh hearing some real shit motivating🩸 god bless yo journey 💯
You make imperfection look perfect Shimon. Thanks for sharing this with us ❤
Yo videos are soothing bruv, keep doing what you’re doing man🏆🔥
Damn I endet a relationship exactly like you described years ago, feels so relaxing to finally life a life with no headaches anymore. I still have trust issues tho...
Honestly, this is who i look for in a person.
Hey bro, just passing by to thanks you a lot for Motivating me to start my own CZcams channel!🎉❤
I'm not going to lie, this video hit. This video actually hits me with everything going on with my life, and it taught me a lesson. This lesson may resonate with a lot of people, but this video actually taught me a lesson. Recently in my life, my friend has been going through some pretty shitty things in her life. i've never dated, but all I know is that he's been treating her pretty badly for a long time. Recently, he's been manipulating her and telling her not to be friends with us. He told her not to talk to people when he disregarded her own words. i love her a lot, bc she was there for me in a really bad time. I could never let her be hurt, and I made her man promise him at the start that if he ever made her feel horrible, I'd be someone to hate him, and I hate no one. But ofc he did. Of course, I scolded him a lot recently for it. But after that, I found out something about him. Me and my friend both did. He hurts himself.....to get her attention. He really likes attention, he loves her attention. And it's not normal but he's obsessed with her in a sense. However, the more I watch this video, the more I feel like an external force. Of course, I never want my friend to be in a bad position, but I feel bad for butting in. This video really came to me during this time. And I'm grateful but.....I really don't know how to feel about it. She was going through an abyss of hell and she needed someone. I think your point stands, however, if it really goes to an extreme level, I think having external factors is okay. Only if it goes to that extreme. However, you made me realise that being an external factor means I don't know everything, I probably only know the bad side. And that made me realise stuff. Thank you for bringing me to this realisation.
The conversation I needed. Nothing scripted, no insanely overly edited stuff, no obviously fake crying, no sugarcoating. Just a 100% real talk about reality. It's as if i was sitting there with you just listening and that made me feel so much better.
I just fell in love. This video is like a sign. Even if we won't be a pair now I know what to expect
thank you man. I sadly ruined my chance with the girl of my dreams not long ago man because I bashed her behind her back because I was so hurt and immature and now she is hurt and can't heal and I want to help. but that's why I'm here. to learn.
I honestly love watching these videos, man. I learn more and more about life, it all makes sense to me and I feel more at peace with myself.
You have a beautiful mindset ❤
Thank you man! You inspired me
Impressive my friend! I was one of your first viewers 6 months ago and now you got almost 300k subs! Such a thing but I'm growing as well! It's a great time for change. Keep it up and never let anybody let you down! Sending love 🥰
W video Shimon you always speaking facts
truly love ur videos :) i find them very insightful :)
I needed this. Thank you
My girlfriend can’t really work up the ‘courage’ to even talk to me at school, compliment me face to face, take a compliment or anything face to face related. I told her if she won’t talk to me at school but she will with others and won’t take compliments at school or generally have a nice conversation with me even if it’s brief, to not text me if she can’t do those things face to face, I told her how I felt and I reminded her how much I loved her. Am I the bad guy?
Straight facts brother
“ nothing external can fix what’s inside “ wow
Appreciate you the video gotta be water my friend. ❤
Chocolate covered strawberries on the dawgs is wild bruh but i fw the message😭🙏🏾
Thank you sir for your valuable time
Heavy thoughts sometimes wander a winding path. I never spent much time worrying about oversharing with others. I might want to start doing that. Thanks.
Too many people do the thing where they remember every bad thing you’ve ever done and bring it up in an argument later. That’s petty asl