Battling Phobia & Anger As Teens: Our Mental Health Struggles | Wired Differently | CNA Documentary
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- What happens when the child in the family becomes a danger to others or starts developing irrational fears?
Benedict, 15, has trouble managing his anger. During one of his anger fits at home, he points a knife at his father. His anger management issue comes to fore when his school expels him for throwing a table at his teacher and punching her in the face. His father, Teddy, decides to engage a counsellor to help Ben control his anger.
Keeri, 16, develops an irrational fear of holes and stickers. She starts to shower in the dark to avoid looking at the drain hole. Her family can no longer eat out at hawker centres because of her fear stickers on the table. Fearing the stickers on her sister’s belongings, Keeri also moves out of their shared bedroom, to camp out in the living room. Her sister, Yu Kee, tries to look for a professional therapist to help Keeri conquer her fears, but she decides to quit midway through.
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That boy has only a very limited time to correct his explosive temper before it lands him in jail. It's very frightening when a boy who looks like he's almost fully grown has temper tantrums like a toddler. Throwing a desk at the female teacher's face and then punching her in the face and kicking her? That's not just one lashing out followed by horror at what he'd done, it's sustained - and I didn't see much evidence of remorse.
i agree with you, he was simply blaming the teacher the whole video, and thats his rationale to hurt her. rather than reflecting on himself, his emotions and actions. i think we should also protect the teacher. if the teacher has been hurling negative words, it should be brought to the school leaders and intervene from there, it is not a good excuse to hurt a teacher physically.
Some schools just have very fucked up teachers. From their lack of interested in working with the parents to help the boy u know they are fucked up.
There are still teachers who are childish enough to mock or pick fight with kids. From the lack of enthusiasm to work with parents to help the boy u know the school is messed up.
At the end of the episode, Keeri stated, "it's not funny...my mental health". I personally know of youths and even young kids struggling to make sense of their self-worth and coping with stress and phobias. In S'pore, the young among us face tremendous stress. They can't cope and often stress manifest into heightened anxiety and fears. Do we brush them off as not smart even, spoilt, weird, attention-seeking, bad tempered,etc? Mental health issues are real. Have we not seen an increase in mental health related incidents in the news in recent years? We should leave more encouraging and empathetic comments instead of mean and unkind remarks here. It takes courage for these two young people and their family members to share with us their ordeal. Spare a thought for them reading the comments posted. Thank you.
But in her case, she want attention and when she lost it, her brajn tried to find a thing to make people look at her and talk to her, pay more attention to her.
Thats why she used mental illness to for it
I also have the sticker phobia !! up until today I’ve never heard anyone talk about it, it’s great to see some awareness.
@Mocha 2606 honestly I’m not even sure what it is, that’s what makes it hard not knowing why you feel like this. i find personally that I just feel so gross when I see them and something that triggers the feeling even more is being cold. also you don’t have to actually see a sticker to feel that what you can just imagine it in your head.
is it about the stickiness of the sticker? or that it feels dirty? seems normal to me
@Mocha 2606 dude a phobia isn’t as technical. it doesn’t depend on the dimensions of a sticker or it’s shape size colour wtv. also the levels of phobia a person has differs.
phobias are usually developed by past traumatic events, even childhood incidents one can’t remember. it’s the way their brain has been wired to feel gross/anxious when they encounter the trigger.
i think for sticker phobia simply the existence of a physical sticker on things is enough to trigger it. some might have the phobia to a less extent, and only peeling stickers may discomfort them. but really it depends on the person and you can’t categorise the triggers as similar for each one.
also just putting it out there,there’s nothing wrong with trying to gain an understanding of things but the way you are questioning that person is coming off too strong. don’t put someone in a spot they don’t owe you to explain their mental health to you.
This Matthew Woo fucker from IMH should not be featured, he scam the trauma patients for ang pow money, got caught was fired from IMH and his business was poor. That y he lobby to appear on TV with the help of his high ranking colleagues
@Mocha 2606 The fact that you're asking 'in detail' may trigger them even further which in no case is helpful/needed if there isn't anyone around to calm them. If they want to be treated let's leave it to a professional instead :) and in any case if you're still curious about the phobia please do your research online instead of questioning them even more.
Omg… the dad really loves Benedict. Such a heartfelt love.
Hi CNA,
After watching this story, my wife and I see a lot of parallel between Benedict and her behavior since she was a child. From our mental disorder journey and after many diagnosis, we finally found a psychiatrist that correctly identified my wife with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). We highly suspect that Benedict may also have BPD. This disorder is often miss-diagnosed as it covers a wide range of mental behavior. The intensity of emotions are experience much higher than an average person for someone with BPD. Whenever he blacks out, it's called dissociation and it's a protective mechanism triggered by the body to protect him. The treatment that have been very helpful for my wife is called Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). I hope that CNA can relay this information to Benedict and his father so that they can get the help they need. BPD from our understanding is not well known in Asia and hence it could be missed as a possibility when he was being diagnosed. People do get better from BPD but it requires a lot of help, commitment, patience, and love. There is hope :).
Wired Differently NEVER means something is "wrong" with you! You just see and feel things in your way. To be frustrated, angry, scared, happy, sad, etc are ALL emotions we have. We ALL have to feel these and learn how to work through them. Good Luck Lil' Sister and Brother, Love You❤️
What a beautiful post. ❤️
Yes we all have our problems and we need to take charge and learn to overcome them, its not going to be easy
@@somethingaboutbeaute Thank You, Sweetheart 🌺
This Matthew Woo fucker from IMH should not be featured, he scam the trauma patients for ang pow money, got caught was fired from IMH and his business was poor. That y he lobby to appear on TV with the help of his high ranking colleagues
why must the video editor add in so much triggering content IN this video that is trying to make people who suffer from these phobias feel like they aren't alone?? like we get it from the definition, you don't have to add in so many cut away footage of the holes or the stickers lol. the holes one is especially annoying since a phobia of them is actually pretty common
OMG IKR like my friend told me abt this and I was like uh FEAR OF HOLES? I HAVE TOO then erm not even one min they show the caipng and the kopitiam chairs WITH HOLES (I only watched like 0:48 now sia. Haven't even start alr triggering)
I know right. I have goosebumps just watching it. I have some phobias too
I think it’s for the people who dont really “get it” how stickers and holes are so common in every day life. Seeing it leaves a bigger impression to me than just merely hearing about it.
@@daydreameraj9777 ur right i think instead the vid shld have contained some sort of trigger warning/content warning for those that suffer frm the actual phobias in this video
@@julia-ti6to that's true! DaydreamerAJ makes a good point but I was also thinking in perspective of people w these phobias. A short TW/CW before airing the episode would have helped ...
As a younger sister with an older sister...Keeri's conversation with Yukee was annoying me in the beginning. She forgets that Yukee has her own life and Yukee is her sister, not her caregiver. Yes, I will love for my older sister to spend as much time as possible with me and my sister feels the same but in the end, we are two people with our own lives. But I'm glad they ended their conversation amicably (hopefully).
Kerri and Benedict are such brave young people to share about their struggles! Kudos to their family members and therapist/ counsellor for helping them to become better versions of themselves. We are all works in progress, so please be patient with ourselves and others!
Not brave but need attention
CNA Insider always has the best docu series. Keep them coming.
Totally appreciate this video to let us better understand some of the mental health struggles that the youths or anyone are suffering from. Really feel very touched and encouraging to know that Keeri and Benedict are coping better and this definitely improves the relationships they have with their families and friends etc. All this are possible becos of the great love their families have for them! Jia you too! Totally agree with Keeri that mental health wellness is a serious business for everyone!
Kerri should fix her own issues, not blame her sister. She is avoiding her issue
Kerri is so selfish
All the best to the two teenagers. Stay healthy and happy. Thank you (you and your family) for sharing your story. I am rooting for all of you.
Thank you, Benedict and Keeri for opening up to share your vulnerable selves like this. Very brave of you. Only thing id like to add is that everyone - including teachers, your family members, may also be going thru their own challenges so misunderstandings or unfortunate incidents happen.
Their problem were normal
1) The older sister is awesome! Her patience and persistence is something to be admired. 2) Hope they can fix their eczema (there are lots of natural treatments out there to control the flare ups).
3) In the case of the anger management kid, would be curious to hear from the 2 teachers he assaulted - I wonder if they’re traumatised at all?? Especially the second incident!! 4) In the same anger management case, I’m no expert, but it would seem he might need continual therapy into his adult years too - his violent reactions to the triggers (that are actually quite common in the workplace and day to day adult life) are worrying.
for 3), I think I can tell you my own experience as a teacher. I'm currently working as a elementary school teacher in Korea and few years ago, I had a boy with high functioning autism and anger issue in my class. He wanted me to let only him speak during the class, not any other students. If I didn,t, he got really violent. One day, it got really serious so he threw desks and chairs to me and swore and screamed at me. I immediately called the vice principal so he took the kid outside and he was seperated. But since then, I was really afraid of him and I felt really depressed every morning because I had to go to work and see him again. Everytime I saw him enter the classroom, I felt sick and threw up and I started to sweat. So I think that incident was definitely traumatizing for me and it will always be during my whole career as a teacher. And another thing that made me really sad was that his classmates wrote about that incident and how shocked and sad they were on their diaries.
So yeah, sometimes I think 'I wish I could be a better teacher to him.' or something but you know, eventually teachers are human, too. It was really hard to be in the same place with someone attacked you with genuine anger.
I have trypophobia, it’s awful when the triggers appear when you least expected them too, my skin crawl up my arms and the back of my neck. I didn’t know it’s a condition until about 5 years back, when I was younger, I didn’t know why I felt that way. I would consider my case as mild, so I just look away.
Same here. I used to not understand how can anyone not fear those images until I learned that's it an condition. I would literally scream and throw my phone if I chanced upon triggering images.
@ I literally learned what it is cos in secondary sch my friend said she had trypophobia (and you know like phobias have all these weird names with greek or latin origins right) so I wanted to find out what it meant .. and I googled it. I've since been convinced (don't do it y'all) that the images section of Googling trypophobia is possibly the #1 cause heh 🙃😌
Same 😭
@ same, and for my case I would feel as if my hands and feet have holes on it and some maggots come out of it. And I have to scratch both my hands and foot to get rid of the image in my head. Gosh, I even do that while type this comment 😣 it's so terrifying.
Edit : and I also thought that this thing must be scaring anyone, bcs it's just too frightening.
I don’t have trypophobia but sometimes I see those images of that stuff and it makes my skin crawl and makes me feel disgusted. So I think some of them are really bad that could get anyone so I think it’s understandable to have trypophobia.
I would love to see THIS series continue. ❤️
You can feel Benedict’s dad is so proud of his progress! ❤️
This Matthew Woo fucker from IMH should not be featured, he scam the trauma patients for ang pow money, got caught was fired from IMH and his business was poor. That y he lobby to appear on TV with the help of his high ranking colleagues
I think the sister very calm, level headed and a problem solver. Very lucky to have her as a sister. And media do transmit out sublime messages. So it is better to be more choosy on what videos we watch
The sister is so nice and caring, really
This Matthew Woo fucker from IMH should not be featured, he scam the trauma patients for ang pow money, got caught was fired from IMH and his business was poor. That y he lobby to appear on TV with the help of his high ranking colleagues
Seems like the way some adults talk to students needs to be corrected too. Labelling is such a no no.
My exact sentiment!
Those struggling with mental health, you guys are not alone ❤ remember this 💟💪🏽
As someone with trichotillomania and dermatillomania (hair pulling, skin biting/picking), two behaviors thought of as weird or even gross, I related to this video. Petition for more mental health awareness documentaries🤔
Warning, skip the segment on stickers and holes. I wish I'd been given this warning so here it is. You can skip to 5:06. You're welcome.
Edit: Okay, you might have to keep on skipping segments since they are interlaced.
That Dr Matthew Woo sounds so scripted, cold and robotic. It is no wonder his patient feels so disengaged.
"Ok you're very tired." Shouldn't his next sentence have been something like "you feel like taking a break? Should we take a break for 10 minutes?" Instead of "you want to rate the picture again?" I can see why she doesn't like seeing him, cos neither would I.
I agree haha. Unlike the Uncle chua. Heaven and earth.
@@coregunner55 the way Uncle Chua interacted with Andric who has autism in the other video is also very engaging and heartwarming :)
@@coregunner55 Thot so too. Uncle Chua seems really caring and validating to Benedict's feelings.
Maybe Dr Matthew is stressed out in fronta camera?
No idea why Dr Matthew gives me the feeling of "ah i'm working for the money of course, why will i care for other people..."
Basically, no empathy when he's a Dr is a huge turn-off?
Also, Dr matthew told her sister that the patient seems to "improve" since the first time she came her phobia was 8, and then 3rd sess onwards is 4...
Dr Matthew, HAVE IT EVER occured to you that because you're so un-empathetic, she doesn't want to see you anymore even when her phobia is still 8, she prefer to lie to you because you ain't treating her properly/well? It seems to me that your cure is "face your phobia , it will recover"
Apparently it doesn't work like that. Else i can be a doctor too, you just reminds me of typical old boomer mindset.
1)Why scared? Don't scared la
2)Why unhappy? just be happy la
3)Face ur fear la, else how recover
I can read your mind, can i be your doctor now?
I have aerophobia - fear of flying. It started suddenly when I was about 30. Before that, from my uni days in the UK up to the first few years of working life I flew often and thought nothing of flying, in fact often enjoyed it. But now I only fly if I really really have to, and even then after taking a prescription tranquilliser.
You should fear the plane crash
I have a friend who has the same phobia. I met her when I was studying in China and she's from Russia. Every school semester, she takes the train from Moscow to Beijing which takes 7-8 days instead of flying because she's scared of planes.
@@p01104 Appreciate your comment. I fully understand your friend and would do the same in her place. But from Singapore air travel - unfortunately for people like me - is practically the only mode of transport to go to another country, other than Malaysia.
@@beautyandthesimp why u telling ppl what to fear sia
@@wilhelmmarsch pick air bus not boeing. Boeing plane crash ike in China.
Finally someone actually brought awareness to Pittakionophobia, no one takes us seriously ever
I have a HUGE phobia of ceiling fans. I can't help thinking about the tragedy that would result if a spinning fan breaks off the ceiling and starts butchering people beneath it. Needless to say I never sit or walk anywhere near spinning fans.
phobia and just being cautious is completely different thing.
This Matthew Woo fucker from IMH should not be featured, he scam the trauma patients for ang pow money, got caught was fired from IMH and his business was poor. That y he lobby to appear on TV with the help of his high ranking colleagues
waa, it must have been difficult to be in classes especially!
I have trypophobia too and watching this documentary is very torturous for me (when all those scenes suddenly appear)
Chua Sze Siong is an example of a good therapist, he is not so clinical but empathetic and vested in the success of their clients. Being a counsellor is not just getting the credentials for it, you may have all the qualifications but not be good at helping your clients. You have to have the skill of persuading your client to make the change.
oh my god finally, I feel so seen with the fear of stickers. It’s like, every time I see a sticker that isn’t perfectly flat and clean, I can only imagine all of the hair, dirt, and bacteria that sticks to the adhesive, it’s disgusting. I totally relate to wanting to wash my hands every time I touch one. Hell, I almost had a breakdown because an apple sticker got into my salad once and could barely touch the rest of my food after that even with my family forcing me to eat.
This is the comment that I'm looking for! I was scrolling through just trying to find out if I was the only one here with the fear of stickers and I am glad that I'm not the only one feeling this way. Till today, the kind of stickers that I fear the most is price tag stickers. When I was younger, I could almost never step into mama shops or take the window seats in the old buses because someone would always paste some sort of sticker on the wall. It was so triggering that I almost always gagged seeing one. I couldn't tell anyone about this fear because there wasn't a label for this condition (?) of mine and no one would believe me :(
i think i can cure your phobia.. if you feel disgusted by how unhygienic the sticker is… just remember your hands that touch all surfaces.. watch dettol advertisement showing the bacteria 🦠 under the scope . I think you will feel better .. knowing that everything around you is dirty too..
Your phone screen protector is a sticker as well
Awesome doc. I have anger issue when I flat, step 1 motivation it makes me quite, good feeling.
This Matthew Woo fucker from IMH should not be featured, he scam the trauma patients for ang pow money, got caught was fired from IMH and his business was poor. That y he lobby to appear on TV with the help of his high ranking colleagues
i am glad this series was produced, i also do have a tropophobia and its really triggers me a lot.
Benedict's previous school is definitely a school with issues if they could not even "TRY". They should definitely be evaluating the teacher's behaviour, always remember that even teachers are not perfect, if they are unsuitable to be teaching, the school MUST do something. A wrong attitude towards children, can ruin them for years or their life.
This dude threw a table at his teacher and hit her. What the school did pales in comparison to what he did. Teachers have to be strict about deadlines, because time management is very important for the future. While I think it's not correct to call students useless, her intent to scold procastinators is not wrong.
@@lioexa600 Scolding stops working once people reach a certain age. it might work on children below 12 but once they reach a certain age, scolding just sounds like noise and drives people away.
@@lioexa600 ik him rn he quite chill already
🍓 the sad thing about both of them is
for the girl, her sister is not gonna be for her for life, she has to live her own life
for the guy, his dad is not gonna live as old as him to take care of him forever
I think thats why they go to therapy/counselling now. So that as they grow older, they will learn how to manage these issues by themselves. It will take time and support. And so nothing is sad abt that.
This Matthew Woo fucker from IMH should not be featured, he scam the trauma patients for ang pow money, got caught was fired from IMH and his business was poor. That y he lobby to appear on TV with the help of his high ranking colleagues
By any chance, does Kerri have another health issue, in correlation to her phobia's? I noticed that her skin has a severe discoloration. Maybe, there are other underlying circumstances surrounding the phobias. A great question to have asked her, is how did you arrive at the conclusion to feel about the stickers & holes the way that you do? I have found, that asking questions in this manner (possibly) helps the person to identify why they truly feel a certain way about something...the real, real reason...not a (possible) mask facade of a true reality.
it's eczema. I do agree her case is bad. the older sister also have it. pretty untreated maybe coz she scratched it often
Pretty sure it's just eczema which is unrelated.
I can't watch this because I am afraid to see the pictures with the holes. Very cool to share these stories. We are all different. I got the fear from a friend who had the fear and put the idea in my head.
@CNA Insider - Would suggest turning comments off videos on mental health especially those featuring younger people like this one, who might be watching and reading the comments directed at them anonymously.
Yeah. I just saw someone say that we should be telling them to get over it and that this generation is a failure.
@@wilhelmmarsch yeah they definitely ought to disable the comments when it comes to minors. I came upon someone commenting on the younger sister's appearance, and it was not a good one.
U got a good ,sister , she’s not for her convenience ,she love u . U should feel her more
I think these are good mental health and disabilities awarness videos. Not many understanding of some people conditions. I always had enxiety issues all my life. And been living today as adult with agoraphobia and panic disorder for a whole 12 years now. I avoid situations I fear of having a panic attacks. Trying to find ways to recover ❤️❤️🙏
Remember yourself growing up and recall how many troubling thoughts and problems crept up in your mind your life and how it affected your future. To be in fear of the unknown and finding it hard to deal with problems.
I wished they had subtitles on this. They do at some points but I wish they did for the whole video. I have bad hearing so it can be hard for me to understand different accents. For half the video I couldn’t understand whet was being said.
I fear lots of holes too.. gross..... i don't know why.. i never even noticed it until One day i looked at phobias coming across that word.. and then all the images i looked pertaining to it freaked me out... yuck... then it dawned on me that im afraid of holes.. and spiders, and heights.. and small spaces. I also kinda fear singaporian accent.. I dont know why
yukee is such a great sister
When they showed the pewdiepie video at 3:53 I was like "knn I got triggered" QAQ
It's great to see the sharing of their situation and experiences in vid. To understand that there are such cases out there for many who may not be aware.
As for Keerie, glad that she has not given up and continued with the therapy and able to slowly walk out from her conditions.
As for Benecdict, glad that he is improving.
Anger management, is always not easy. Even for adults. Having this vid, it is very educational to let parents know the importance of guiding their children in anger management. When there are things that kids deemed as unfair, what is the right channel to resolve, how to handle...and seek help.
There are many things that children are exposed to...not only environment in school, but from their own home, the media as well. All these different exposures subconsciously have an impact on them , shape their values, thinking and behavior.
I would also advocate that , a school beside is a place to impart knowledge, it would be good to guide the children about anger management from young be it day one from school.
In the older days, children may be more naive and lesser exposure ( no internet, no cellphone, not so much TV..)compared to what the current generation of kids are going through and exposed to.
Other than anger management, there could be something else to educate the kids from young. ...both from family, parents , schools and government to prevent or mitigate the so called mental health issues we are seeing today
Benedict is a nice person, just tat people push him to the wall. But I sincerely wish the best for him
My phobias are house lizards, rotten/falling teeth and needles.
The weirdest one I can't explain was those black trailer bumpers on the UK Disney VHS tapes I used to have: czcams.com/video/vs9Ij3JQ900/video.html
Was it the surprise factor or the unsettling music to my ears? That phobia was only resolved once I swapped those for DVDs and eventually, streaming.
22:57 : of course she is becoming more agitated, how could you make someone imagine their own phobia? not a good approach in trying to deal with her struggles. just my thought - i don't know how psychology works tho, i just felt uncomfortable watching the session between keeri and the psychologist.
I feel like Benedict might be a narcissist. More doctors should look into whether he is a sociopath as he shows glaring traits of these types. If this is not identified early on, he’ll definitely face a lot of trouble in the future as well as the people around him.
I wonder how Benedict would feel if someone else does the same to him. Get into an explosive violent tantrum with him.
worrying how little theraphy a lot of these people go through, not a single mention of a doctor ou psychologist to see what could be the root of these fears and conditions.
Benny out here shooting bus photos for those pics they use to prove you’re not a robot!
Never notice such a long name in the ends of ^ia^ phobia , trypophobia etc hard to announce n remember of any kinds of health or mental condition. Its strange
I have the sticker phobia too! I never understood it and my parents think I'm crazy but it really sucks.
The stickers made my hair stand too
Being scared of stickers is just disappointing by itself. 😂
its hurt when people said u are too emotional n tht my fam when i said i am afraid of holes...😣
It's so hard to live with a narcissist. They need professional help. regular people can't help them.
Omg I have a phobia of stickers too
May I ask why
I also deal with aphobias. I no like dogs. I fear that dogs will know I am scared of them and that they will chase me and bit me and kill me
That gross drainage hole - arrggghhhhh....... I need EMDR to forget it now.
I am phobia of blood and once I watch 24 hours of A&E in Uk I passed out
Thank you for these documentaries that keep Singaporeans think about issues that are true and relevant in our day and age. However, I feel that your documentary in this case might be lopsided, but that’s my personal opinion and I could be wrong. To Dominic, I understand what you are going through and I understand the pain his parents must be going through but as a viewer, I cannot help but wonder if his parents were apologetic for their child’s action. To throw a table at a teacher and then went on to punch at HER, just because he is different, is that rally alright. In the documentary, the producer/director did not address this issue. I can only imagine what the teacher must be feeling when she saw the documentary because it reinforces the idea that she was at fault. To be honest she might be over it but what if she I was not. I imagine that she was just doing her job thinking of what is best for her students but her intentions might have been misconstrued to be lack of sympathy or empathy for her students. For all you know her decision was based on what she thought was best for her students but due to the circumstances it might have been perceived otherwise. I am not commenting on what any party concerned but I think CNA need to be more comprehensive in your reporting. But that is my opinion. I stand to be corrected. And if I am mistaken, I do humbly apologize. Just my two cents worth
So the teacher did nothing wrong by shaming him and telling him that he won’t have a bright future? 🙄
I think i understand where ur coming from! And i also think that they are apologetic abt his actions (just that it wasnt shown). Reason why we feel like its lopsided is because the focus here is different. Either way someone is going to feel like crap for what theyve done and in this series the focus here is on mental health struggles. Lets say if the teachers were to see this documentary, we can only hope that instead of self-blame, they can think abt what are the things that they can improve on and work together (which is also mentioned during benedicts counselling sessions)
The teacher might not have done something egregiously wrong, as the other students were able to keep calm at the injustice but Dominic was not. So the therapy helped Dominic with regulating his emotions when there is injustice, and not merely to bring up issues with the teachers so that they can be nice to him all the time. The therapy also helped him deal with a heightened sense that everyone was judging him and setting him up to fail, while other people in his age group would be less sensitive to it. Maybe the documentary did not emphasise this aspect enough and instead put too much blame on the teacher instead of saying that teacher acted in what she thinks was best at the point in time. My own thoughts, some people's experiences have just moulded them to be less compliant to authority. Coupled with the fact that a growing teenager has not fully understood things like "shut up and don't bring trouble to yourself" or other forms of understanding about how the default world works and how you should conform to the default to make it easier, naturally, some people are just not going to be very comfortable in the school system.
However, I feel it is unacceptable that the school and school counsellors did not manage to address this issue, or provide some accommodation and advice to his teachers as he progresses through counselling in school, which we all know takes time.
You mentioned whether it is alright just because he is different - it is hurt, it is not alright from a moral standpoint. But so what if it is not alright? We want to help the child right? That is why there is no emphasis on the idea that assault is wrong and bad because we all know it is not right.
I'm also not sure why you think the parents should be apologetic on behalf of Dominic - that is very strange to me. The apology should come from Dominic.
It's great to see the sharing of their situation and experiences in vid. To understand that there are such cases out there for many who may not be aware.
As for Keerie, glad that she has not given up and continued with the therapy and able to slowly walk out from her conditions.
As for Benecdict, glad that he is improving.
Anger management, is always not easy. Even for adults. Having this vid, it is very educational to let parents know the importance of guiding their children in anger management. When there are things that kids deemed as unfair, what is the right channel to resolve, how to handle...and seek help.
There are many things that children are exposed not only environment in school, but from their own home, the media they are exposed too will have an impact on them , shape their values, thinking and behavior.
I would also advocate that a school beside is a place to impart knowledge, it would be good to also start from young , be it day one from school about anger management.
The older days children may be more naive and less exposed ( no internet, no cellphone, not so much TV..) to what the current generation of kids are going through and exposed to.
Other than anger management, there could be something else to educate the kids from young. ...both from family, parents , schools and government.
Going through puberty somehow - luck his father is doing something to help. 😊take care. U r a good father no matter what…… 😢 he will feel u mostly that will help him the most 😊
That pewdiepie video even made me uncomfortable….pls put content warning before showing things like that…
Before showing holes and stickers ?😂
IKR
Yucks
Pewdiepie is the one to blame
Keeri jiayou!
I have a fear of stickers they disgust me especially when am eating
I know it sounds weird but I have a fear of zombies and paranormal activities. I have a fear of amphibians and reptiles too haha!! Can't touch them.
This Matthew Woo fucker from IMH should not be featured, he scam the trauma patients for ang pow money, got caught was fired from IMH and his business was poor. That y he lobby to appear on TV with the help of his high ranking colleagues
Colleen Ballinger also has a fear of stickers!
It’s sad to know IMH can’t help with their issues.
Knowing the kids I nsec school , both kids here would definitely be bullied or made fun of…..
I have phobia of butterflies, and dry vomiting will be triggered even just by looking at the emoji
Sorry, I can't continue watching this. I, myself have tropophobia.
I have quite a number of phobias, one of which is trypophobia
My youngest brother has a phobia of flowers. At first I didn't believe it. I thought he simply wanted attention. But then I remembered ever since he was a baby he would cry whenever flowers were brought near him. My aunt was marrying one day and we had to put up flower decorations. My youngest brother was an infant at the time and everyone else were busy preparing for the wedding so I had no choice but to carry my brother in my arms while decorating the tables with flowers. He suddenly errupted in tears and it took a while to figure out the reason. As long as he's far away from the flowers, he would stop crying. But if he was brought near the flowers he would start crying. He's 12 now and would run away as soon as he sees a flower pot in sight. He would also get angry at me if I try to play a prank on him by chasing him with flower pots. Surprisingly, he's okay with flower patterns. He said it's only printed and are pictures so he's fine with it. He's not fine with the ones physically shaped like flowers, whether the real ones or the fake plastic flowers for home decoration
ah so essentially he is afraid of flowers which are 3d looking
@@edits_yikes7225 Yes, the actual shaped flowers, even if it's the potted plastic flower one would use for decoration he would still be afraid. However he's fine with printed flower patterns you see on plates for example
If you are hurt by words must try your best to never make people say it. Not throw tables cause you got no time management. SMH so many ways to deal with this situation. Really shows how bad this dudes mental state is. Messy.
Those stickers do look disgusting!
Critical
It is also clear that she does not only suffer from stickers and holes, she suffers from a skin condition too :((
when Keeri say you only want to solve the issue, but isn't that what therapy is for? to build a routine to help you get better? i don't know maybe i'm just naive. Wouldn't you want to get over the phobia? I know phobias are unexplained but still, i guess i'm just unsympathetic and unempathetic. There's definitely no quick fix like her older sister states.
I have trypophobia and pittakionophobia:(
Phobias - extreme fear not feeling disgusted
Phobias deal with irrational fear and aversion. She has a aversion type reaction to stickers. It's a phobia.
🤣 They have folks believing good is evil and that evil is good. They are always changing the meanings of words and making up words - They turned men and women into powerless, mindless, hu mans/ who?mans.
Kids have mental trouble because they are lied to about everything, including the true nature of our existance, the life we are forced to live is a contradiction to our nature,, and we forced to rebel against our natural instincts/ our conscience/ con;opposite-science.
We are forced to learn lies and to obey evil masters throughout our formative and our marrying years. And forced to rebel against our creators/ what we know to be good and right in our hearts.
Fear, anxiety, guilt, and shame which causes mental issues and phobias - are all feelings that mean we are not living right, that we have "gone against the natural use of ourselves/ we are living in sin" / malfunctioning. Every feeling good or bad is important, and it means something. If its a bad feelings, it means there is something bad that we need to fix, or something bad we need to stop doing, or to get away from.
And Sometimes bad feelings are demon spirit frequencies influencing our minds and folks think its mental issues, when in fact its demons screwin with them, and devil/rebellion led by lucifer worshippin docs hiding the cause of our problems from us .
More often than not these days - folks mental issues are caused by demon spirit frequencies, that we naturally, automatically sense with our hearts and minds. Hearts and minds are mankinds built right in operating system, hard drive, and 2way spirit frequency radios all in one Our creators laws and directives, and core traits are our original core operating system program.
Anyway, I got carried away there - point is - they are always lying to kids, changing the meanings of and making up words, and the docs of science and his(lucifers)story, cause kids mental issues.
@@REPDC4LIFE you've missed the satire
@@REPDC4LIFE death will be a nice cure
If you believe anything in your mind it will become real. I feel sorry for them. I control my mind! I pray someone helps them 🙏🏽
I have phobia of 🐍 Snakes
these therapies are really for people with underdeveloped frontal lobes, to put it nicely.
I feel sorry for that first girl. The internet is kids’ worst enemy. I hope life treats her well and rewards her with a maid. 🤦🏻♀️ She’s 16, she should be cleaning that bathroom drain, already.
There’s something about the way Yukee talks about her sister Keeri that makes me feel uncomfortable. It may just be because I have younger sisters myself and can’t image saying the things Yukee says to my own sisters. That’s going to be quite hurtful… Dr. Matt’s way of speech with Keeri feels insincere and apathetic. Even if the therapy works, not building rapport with their patients and making them feel uncomfortable in the clinic seems counterintuitive to helping them.
Keeri if you chance upon reading this, I have younger sisters around your age and will gladly take you in as another younger sister to be loved and cared for. Let me know if you ever want an extra big sister :”) My heart goes out for you, please take care!
I’m here
Hi Wonker, I have the same phobia, 加油！ 🙋♀️💪🏼
Yeah. I don’t think she really understands Keeri’s point of view. I kinda feel like she doesn’t *want* to. She’s nice tho, she doesn’t get angry with Keeri.
@@wilhelmmarsch no you’re wrong. She’s angry all the time but it’s not like she’s gonna say that on set.
Wonder how they are doing now in 2024, have they gotten better ?
Is it just me but after watching dis vid, u just randomly get a lil triggered from stickers or holes, just me?
I have a fear of people with phobias 🙄
I agree. That's a rational fear. Nothing is more dangerous than a human who is out to hack your privacy and ruin your life.
Good documentary, but I wish you wouldn't bring the triggering images up on screen so often! By your own stats, 15% of people have trypophobia - so please be mindful of re-triggering people!
These phobias seem more like first world problems
No idea why Dr Matthew gives me the feeling of "ah i'm working for the money of course, why will i care for other people..."
Basically, no empathy when he's a Dr is a huge turn-off?
Also, Dr matthew told her sister that the patient seems to "improve" since the first time she came her phobia was 8, and then 3rd sess onwards is 4...
Dr Matthew, HAVE IT EVER occured to you that because you're so un-empathetic, she doesn't want to see you anymore even when her phobia is still 8, she prefer to lie to you because you ain't treating her properly/well? It seems to me that your cure is "face your phobia , it will recover"
Apparently it doesn't work like that. Else i can be a doctor too, you just reminds me of typical old boomer mindset.
1)Why scared? Don't scared la
2)Why unhappy? just be happy la
3)Face ur fear la, else how recover
Even at the end, even if she says she recovered... You really think so? You're judging her based on the points SHE GAVE.
She don't even want to see you anymore cuz you're not helping her. But oh well boomer.... Bet that didn't ever occured to Dr Matthew.
Just wanna chop chop, end sess, get $$.
Yes felt that too, scrolled down to see if anyone expressed it (so i didnt hafta type :D)
keeri is just selfish lol. thinks she's the only one that matters.
I have found my people I’m still a minor so when it’s picture da6 they hand out stickers that say picture day tomorrow for people to not forgot I’ll tell my teachers I can’t have one because I’m afraid of stickers my freinds will chase me around with them and my best friend tried putting one on me as a joke I screamed and he said it’s just a sticker it’s not like it can hurt you
😥
🍓🙆♀️
Looks like she to be blinded
benedict is just a sigma male
Strawberry 🍓 generation Mari Malaysia sure kena
she needs her sister the most, yet her sister is busy and more focus with her work and life...
Everyone have their own life to live, own dreams to pursue. Why must she be bogged down by her sister. Of course it is nice if she is willing to.
Why should the sister be parentified? It is not her obligation. You'll know how hard it is if you've been there. Everyone has shi going on in their lives. You may never know this is her sister trying her best.
Also you will never understand the frustration living with someone who cant clean up after themselves and you having the uncalled responsibility (physically and financially) to go the extra mile to always buy food back home + face the mess after she eats/ showers. Hope elder sister gets a house of her own soon.