The Brown Culture | Lets discuss Brown Parents with
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- čas přidán 3. 07. 2024
- This PODCAST was done not to offend anyone but rather to bring awareness of the brown culture that is having an impact throughout most of the children's lives in South Asian. The objective of the video is to bring awareness to future parents of how some of their specific actions can be reworked on to improve mental wellbeing of their children.
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This PODCAST was done not to offend anyone but rather to bring awareness of the brown culture that is having an impact throughout most of the children's lives in South Asian. The objective of the video is to bring awareness to future parents of how some of their specific actions can be reworked on to improve mental wellbeing of their children.
Nafis vaia I've been following you since 2021 but honestly for the first time ever I'm going to comment here my life time experience with you especially about today's topic . You have been my favourite CZcamsr and I'm your regular viewer, silent subscriber. Actually vaia I've been living in China for 6 years & more than 2 years in Malaysia. I'm the only child of my parents. I got married during the peak time of the COVID 19 pandemic and then got divorced when I became the mother of my baby girl right after my baby's fourth month . Now I'm divorced and practicing in medical school as I'm a physician. After completing my MBBS and post graduation I'd become the golden egg of my parents. I'm not gonna blame them for anything but my parents are super conservative and super strict since I was seventh standard student. Till now they treat me like I'm a school going girl . It's their choice , their mentality but I'm crushing , surviving, fighting against the whole world as a single mom of a 2 year old baby girl . It's not easy life track for me but I'm not giving up . The reason of divorce and the cause of my suffering is devastating mostly for my toxic mom. A mother is supposed to be capable of love , genuine affection, primary caregiver and obviously the main supporting system for her children but hence my mom is none of it. She is mentally abusing me if I do not breathe with her permission at each single aspect of my life and my father physically, emotionally and earlier during my puberty life used to abuse me sexually assaulting me . Still now also whenever I do anything against their order / they punish me.
I don't know why I didn't commit suicide yet but I won't give up.
This is my real life now . But I'm gonna break this brown parenting cycle toxicity for my daughter. My ex spouse was aware of all of these but he left me and my baby right after baby birth and also we were separated when I was 5 months pregnant. I battled my post partam depression and also won PTSD. I had OCD previously but my mother was diagnosed with schizophrenia & psychotic disorders 3 years ago.
My father never wanted to help my mother as she needs medical aids. As a doctor I feel ashamed that I can't help my toxic mom . I am not capable of changing their personality or their chosen narcissistic highly sociopathic images but I surely can pray Infront of my Allah SWT & I can cry out , scream up to my lungs for hedayat. Please keep me in your prayers . I'm finally moving to Europe this year to pursue my PhD.
Firstly, thank you for always supporting me apu. I can only imagine what you went through after reading your comment. I am glad things are turning to be better now. Remember, patience is key to everything and you have been resilient throughout. You are truly an inspiration and having the courage to share a part of your life with us. I wish you all the best to your move to Europe. Be strong apu. I know you got this 💪🏻
@@NafisRafsanmuch more inspiring and motivating vaia you are honestly inspired by your vlogs and the education from your sweet kind family. You are lucky my brother because you have a healthy lifestyle and beautiful genuinely happy family members who are very supportive towards you and your dreams. From your Sweden vlogs actually I got inspired. I pray to Allah that for upcoming moves in Norway Insha'Allah I may be able to manage a healthy environment for my baby girl to raise her in an appropriate manner. I love your mom too . She is an idol in my eyes because she is the queen who raised a real gentleman like you . By the way, I am feeling much lighter now after sharing my story with you guys . My daughter's birthday is actually the date you made your CZcams channel on 28th of December 2020 . Isn't it amazing Vai ! Stay always like this way. Keep motivating us & much more positivity on your way. Love you vaia 💙
This Is A New Concept And You Are The Perfect Character For This Platform Hoping More Of Your Podcasts And Yes Don't Forget To Bring Chotovai In One Of Your Podcast
Everything u guys talked about was on point. We are living a very sad life. Want more podcasts from u bro :)
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3:58 good point
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Very well said ! 👍👍
Glad you liked it
It was a necessary video I could completely relate. Make such videos more
Truth of our culture
I agree with your points
Exactly this is why I'll never marry and have kids bcz i do not want to dump the generational trauma on a person who just arrived on earth and have nothing to do anything with it. As much as i want to raise a child in a proper way i know i will repeat the same mistakes my parents with me. These issues are very important, so decide to become a parent only when you’ve learned everything well and healed yourself properly. Just because everyone faced them dosent mean they are normal.
Exactly
I agree its parents responsibilities to instill proper value , religious sentiment and moral ethics and standard to their children . They say apple doesn't fall far from the tree. And Interfering in adult childrens life is like control freak attitude. One may tolerate parents controlling due to their love to their parents but will not feel or show that much patience with their significant others. Anyways But when nafia said his parents didnt let him to study business , considering present job market scenario seems like a good judgment from parental side . As bba mba holders most of them are unemployed. Hope he is doing great in his career . One thing also most people rely upon their parents judgement solely and blindly cause they think it has something good on it . They think its how Almighty will ne pleased. On that note my question is like then everyone should be topper , billionaire and high achievers. Due to parents supplication . Finally no one is faultless. Everyone will be parents one day but that doesn't make them saints and flawless. Transition of role make just 70-30 difference. Human are same.
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Nuha mamma ❤
Big fan nafis vaiya ❤️
Assalamu alaikum nafis vai..kemon asen....
Nuha ❤
I am a teenager girl my name is Riya. For my opinion vaiya it's really hard for us survive in a toxic environment and amio chay in future bidesh chola jete shudhu ay karona na better opportunity pabo Tay but Shantir jonno. Din shese ba Ami jakena 24/7 thako shekhanay Jodi peace na thaka bank Kori koti takau Kaja dibana so yup this my opinion pray for me 😊
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Still I hope everynight not to wakeup the next morning.
বাবা মা কে তুমি সম্মোধন না করলে ভালো সোনা তো। 😕
এত চিল্লা নির কি আছে ???? 😒😒😒😒😒
you had solid points and logic but approach could have been toned down.
Thank you and yes I could have toned it down but I got emotional in certain places. I will try to tone it down in the future discussions.
@@NafisRafsan I totally get it. When we talk from our personal perspective its hard to control our emotions.
@@NafisRafsan I appreciated the raw and true emotion though to be honest.
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