Baby Led Weaning - trusting your child
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- čas přidán 1. 03. 2022
- No one likes to be forced.
Even for the fun part of life, forcing won't work. Imagine forcing to bungee jump or sky dive when you have a fear of heights.
What about forcing Education, marriage or a career. Forcing leads nowhere.
❓Then why is forcing a child to eat, normalized? Most of us have gone through force feeding as a child or have seen it happen. Why do you think some adults force children to eat?
👉 Adults assume they know more about the child's stomach & appetite than the child themselves.
👉Adults assume the child doesn't have boundaries. Everyone, including a baby has the ability to say No when there is a breach in boundary. Understanding body boundaries is very important to understand consent & to prevent sex abuse.
👉 Adults associate food with love. Food is for hunger. Forcing a child to eat is not a way to love your child. In fact long back, force feeding was a very common punishment in prisons (check image above).
👉 Adults have unrealistic expectations about the quantity a child can take at a certain age & it can lead to force feeding.
👉 If sensory processing issues, chewing issues & other underlying problems affect the child's ability to eat & they go unnoticed or underdiagnosed, adults might force feed. These issues can be identified by a feeding therapist.
🍎There are many more reasons, but in long term a child that's force fed can end up with a very negative relationship with food & can have eating disorders, issues in regulating intake, inability to understand satiety, inability to chew, to control appetite, to understand hunger cues, emotional eating, food aversions, inability to try new food & can even create hatred towards food.
🔥If someone doesn't like sex or any particular element in sex, for example oral sex, forcing them can't be a solution. Just like misconceptions about sexuality can lead to long term issues in adulthood, parents' ideologies & beliefs about food habits can cause problems in adulthood too.
Let's be more mindful with our kids' eating habits. Remember we're not just raising children, but tomorrow's adults too.
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Thank you Swati for guiding me to start Baby led weaning through your workshop.I came to know about BLW when I was pregnant,as l have seen many forcing and distracting babies to eat I wanted to try this method .I tried gathering all information about the method , mentally got prepared to follow this but was not sure how to convince my families.So attended your workshop with my husband so that we both will be aware of what we are going to follow and convince our families.Really ur session was so much of fun and knowledge.Today I am a happy mom who enjoys babies meal times .Yes there is mess 😀😀...but it's so good to see your baby eats food by themselves.
wow. ! love that you not only empowered yourself but your whole family. !
Beautifully said👏🏼
Thank you Maya. Wish I could hear you earlier. I had done traditional weaning only.
Thank yu it helped me to learn alot. All your videos are useful for new mothers 🥰👍🏻
My kiddo is 14 now... wish i had come across something like this earlier....all the best to new moms out there
Dear Maya, I am Parvathy and I am writing to you from Copenhagen. I recently happened to see your videos. My son , Dhruv is 1 years and 7 months old, and we have been practicing a mix of BLW and conventional weaning. I do conventional feeding with him in the morning breakfast before I go to work and he goes to daycare, but when we are more relaxed in the evenings, I follow BLW. In his daycare too, it is largely BLW, although they help kids at times. So now my son has even started eating with spoon, if we just help him fill it up. He also happily eats with either of his hands. Recently, Dhruv's pedagogues complained that he throws food, and they said it is because he has a bit of developmental delays (he was born prematurely) or it is just bad manners. At home I never took it very seriously before, probably because I looked at him as a child. Of course I said to him no at times, but also thought he should learn and explore. But when Dhruv's pedagogue said it could be a bad manners, I started worrying me a bit. How can I teach him not to throw food. Do kids at this age, eat food with out throwing food? Thank you.
Great topic i tried conventional method with consent and boundaries because my baby have some allergic and digestive issues.
Thank you so much chechi!! ♥️♥️
Super informative.
When is your next eating by myself session scheduled. I could not find details on your website
Thank you sister.. Can you plz do a video on month wisebaby food.
Good information.. thank u dear.. my baby is near 6 mnths..i will follow this
Yeah .I agree.. even when child says done distract feeding is whats done here
Thank you so much 😊
Thanks for sharing 👍
Until I had my child, I believed children do not eat well unless forced. Though I attempted BLW only after my child turned one, it was a real game changer. It made mealtimes so enjoyable for both her and me. The biggest merit of BLW besides encouraging body autonomy and eating as per one's need is that the child develops a positive image about food and becomes open to trying new food. The golden rule during mealtimes is zero pressure. Thank you for the video🙂
Wonderful! Thank you for sharing 😍
@@mayasamma-malayalam4666 ഫുഡ് എത്ര കൊടുക്കണം എങ്ങനെ കൊടുക്കണം എന്നൊക്ക പറയുമോ. ഇവിടെ അടിച്ചു കഴിപ്പിക്കുന്ന രീതി ആണ്. സെരിയായ രീതി പറയുമോ
@@maathusajith6915 baby decides how much to eat and how to eat. Hitting will create a very negative relationship with food. Kindly do not do that.
@@maathusajith6915 Baby's age?
Good information ma'am ... 👏🏻👏🏻
Thanku for the new information ❤️
Is mixed weaning (BLW&Conv) confuse baby?
Can you do a video on Adolescence eating habits
Very good topic dear...hope this video reaches more & they practice it appropriately. Even I tried BLW with baby..though he throws away most of it, he takes in what he needs. Inspite all, weight gain is good & he is doing well.
Maam, can you please do a video on co-sleeping? :)
Thank you dear for this video. Ende molk solid feeding start cheyarayi. Njangal baby led weaning cheyyannan തീരുമാനിച്ചത്. Pakshe വീട്ടുകാരുടെ ചീത്ത kekkumallo എന്ന പേടിയുണ്ടായിരുന്നു.6 months exclusive breastfeeding ന് തന്നെ ഞാന് നല്ലത് കേട്ട്. Ee video കണ്ടപ്പോൾ നല്ല confidence കിട്ടി. ചീത്ത വിളി ഒക്കെ ഒരു ചെവി കൂടെ കേട്ട് മറ്റെ ചെവി കൂടെ kalayaalo.
All the best Amina. First cheetha vili & "thondayil kudungum" dialogues undaakum..but kunj kazhikunne kaanumbo thaaaane athang nirthikolum
yes thats what you need to do. ignore the whole world but just do what you feel is right.!! this philosophy is not just for parenting but everything else.!
Baby led weaning kooduthal learn cheyyan patiya group enthenkilum undo
How can i attend the workshop?
Can we use mixing these two ways?
What is the advantage?
first comment😍😍😍
Informative 👌👌👌
Dear Maya, Can u pls make a video on dealing loneliness that one feel after marriage..
Super video. Lot to learn. Gentle parenting basic topics video cheyyamo, why we dont yell at child, why we should validate their feelings, what is a tantrum and how it should be dealt. I could not find a good video on these topics in malayalam. I want to make my mother in low understand these. If i say directly, i fear it would hurt her feelings. I really want to educate her so that she stop doing these to my son.😥
there is a video already on the page.. can do more ..
Mam.. Ethil parayuna book name and ath evdane kitum enne one parayuo... I am new mom.. So enk basic ayitulla kurach kariygal ariyan vendi ane.. Please rply mam
Ethoke follow cheyan valare agrahamund.maximum kunjinte thalparyam anusarich kodukan try cheyyarund.palapozhum veetilulla mattullavarda vaak kekathe kunj vendann parayumbo nja nirthum.but challenging ayit thonniyat njan engane vasipidich kunjinum enikkum eshtapetta reethil food kodukkunnu ennal kunjinu weight koodunnumilla.valare confused anu end follow cheyyum enn.serikum 8 month ulla kutty etra food kazikanam ethoke timing il.ethinte oppom breastfeeding engane ulpadethanam.plz tell me
Our baby was born 1.5 month preterm. Can we start baby kead weaning at 6 months?
Njan BLW arinjath Parenting junkie enna channel vazhiyan.ende mol 1 vayas kazhinj 6 month akumbo muthal ipo 5 vayas akuna vare vaayil food itt kodthitila.people around u commented on me .and then when she was 2 nd 3 all were surprised that she is eating by herself.Im.from Kanhangad kerala
Any updated paediatrician in Kochi? Our last paediatrician hasn’t even heard of BLW 😞
Paeds don't study this method or anything. Extra information and modern parenting practices vayichu manasilakkan thalparyam ullavar aarengilum undengilaayi.. Ivide in coimbatore I had to ask my child's paed to get to know about this and he learnt more about this. Ente workshop aanu Ivide ulla paeds okke attend cheyyunnathu.. Now he's a favourite among all parents who wish to follow baby led weaning.
@@mayasamma-malayalam4666 Sherikum😒blw engane undennu chodikana poyatha cimaril avduthe paediatric enne cheetha vilichillenne ullu entho thett cheyunna pole but still I didn't lose my hope njn blw cheyyan thanne theerumanichu now she's 8 months ithuvare no regrets😊
@@swathi_95 good job
Maam. My girl is 2 year old. She only eat mashed food. She not even eat fruits, veggies, biscuits, cakes etc. Can i start blw in this time?
Mam can u help me my baby have 2 .5 yr..but she is not able to feed her self.how can I start at this age.i have no idea
Baby led weaning kond working parents nu pneed onnoode elupamarikum alle, kutty thanne food kazhikarakumallo 1 1.5 vayas kond
Yes. Perfect for working parents.
Do babies always chew their food? Is there a possibility that they swallow the food without chewing?
no they learn.. but ist imposrtant ypu leanr about gagging and choking too.. thats all part of BLW training programs and also it is all writtn in the books i suggested.
@@mayasamma-malayalam4666 Thanks for the reply :)
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ഏതൊക്കെയാണ് finger foods....?
അത് മാത്രം കൊടുത്താൽ മതിയോ?
Babies learn to eat all kinds of food in this method. Try the resources I mentioned.
@@mayasamma-malayalam4666
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Just a doubt, will there be a possibility of the baby swallowing the food, creating choking or any other concerns?
Finger foods soft texture il ullath appropriate size il cut cheyth koduthaal choking chances kuravaarikkum. Also kunjine upright sitting position il maathrame food provide cheyyavu.
no they learn.. but it is important ypu learn about gagging and choking too.. thats all part of BLW training programs and also it is all written in the books i suggested.
But if i let himself have food, he just plays with it and throws away instead of trying to have it.. why is that so
How old is the baby?
@@merlinthomas7993 1 yrs and 4 months
he does not have a connection with food. thats what you need to try to establish. plenty of ways to do that. try my workshop or read the books i have suggested.
Can i start at 19 months
yes anytime
Breastfeeding by lying on bed ..is it good? Good aanenn njan research cheyth manassilayi. But 2 pediatricians said not to breastfeed in lying position
you can.. will do a video on this
@@mayasamma-malayalam4666 thanku..
@@mayasamma-malayalam4666 njn working mom aan..ende kuttikk 6months complete aavunnadundinde 2days munb rejoin cheyyanam..appol oru 5.5 okke aavumbo breast milk allade endhelum food try cheyyavuo
ഞാനും BLW ചെയ്ത mother ആണ്. Thats super good. ❤
Good ❤️