How to Deal With Trust Issues

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  • Are you someone with trust issues? It's common for people in relationships to have some level of trust issues. In this video, we cover 6 tips on how to deal with trust problems.
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  • @Psych2go
    @Psych2go  Před 5 lety +1144

    Do you know someone who might need this video?

  • @JohnSmith-un1zj
    @JohnSmith-un1zj Před 4 lety +1538

    I want to be in love really badly, but I’m so scared of being abandoned or cheated on. My trust issues have fucked me up.

    • @nightlight2499
      @nightlight2499 Před 3 lety +69

      Relatable

    • @mssweets6119
      @mssweets6119 Před 3 lety +124

      Super ruining a relationship because of my trust issues....but he looks at other women’s bodies when we’re together so how the hell that helps my trust issues?

    • @takatoz2170
      @takatoz2170 Před 3 lety +41

      Welcome to the club it's really hard to trust when everyone you love so much betrays you
      I love a girl really beautiful really kind she is so perfect I end up running away from her
      Because I trust people I shouldn't so I feared she might be one of them even she is not
      I know you might think I am a p**** maybe that's true

    • @calib3r403
      @calib3r403 Před 3 lety +52

      All you have to do is face the fear, I'm still struggling and some how ruining my bonds with my gf and parents, it's like wearing a mask. But it's super hard to control your emotions. All blame goes to my ex who cheated on me and lied to me

    • @takatoz2170
      @takatoz2170 Před 3 lety +19

      @@calib3r403 the people you love the most have the power to hurt you the most it's really funny how true is it that's why I run and I regret it

  • @MosesEmmet
    @MosesEmmet Před 5 lety +1686

    Who are you texting?.... “nobody” (trust issues intensify) 😦

    • @hatoftricks7132
      @hatoftricks7132 Před 5 lety +50

      Tyrone texts back,you grab her phone and see the message.
      'long dick style'

    • @PGOuma
      @PGOuma Před 5 lety +14

      HatOfTricks 💀💀💀 *"O K A Y, WE'RE MOVING!"*

    • @Nikencycollects
      @Nikencycollects Před 5 lety +3

      lmao

    • @TheoErlangga
      @TheoErlangga Před 5 lety +51

      With who you're with?.... "friend" (trust issues intensify)

    • @calib3r403
      @calib3r403 Před 3 lety +36

      @@TheoErlangga she - ok I'm going to bed
      Me - ok good night
      Watches her being online for hours
      *Sus*

  • @megamattical
    @megamattical Před 4 lety +2147

    Person: is a real friend.
    Me: *S u s p I c o u s*

    • @genericchannel126
      @genericchannel126 Před 4 lety +125

      **questions their intentions**
      “Hmmm they must be a pervert”
      “Hmmm they just want my sympathy”
      “Hmmm they just want attention”
      Like fuck

    • @genericchannel126
      @genericchannel126 Před 4 lety +53

      Stop sugarcoating your intentions then i wont have trust issues

    • @lee5548
      @lee5548 Před 4 lety +6

      Fax

    • @Lavender1775
      @Lavender1775 Před 3 lety +5

      @@genericchannel126 EXACTLY

    • @xhellabentx
      @xhellabentx Před 3 lety +1

      Lmao great post

  • @anewloveofficial9137
    @anewloveofficial9137 Před 5 lety +546

    Trusting someone is hard but Knowing who to trust is even harder.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Před 5 lety +54

      Listening to our gut and emotions are important too.

    • @karamira7809
      @karamira7809 Před 3 lety

      Kindly Contact Mr. Crystal Louis * {WhatsApp /Telegram: +44 7520 648089 or crystalhacker1@gmail.com or IG = Crystal_hackers}* He is simply the best. I got full access to my partner's messages, calls, e-mails, and secret dating profiles. The best way to avoid a psychological breakdown after having to deal with infidelity is to make sure you are not just assuming your partner is cheating. Get the closure you deserve, Give your heart a chance to know.

    • @agripinams9592
      @agripinams9592 Před 2 lety +5

      Based

    • @puspitaartafajri6886
      @puspitaartafajri6886 Před 2 lety

      Gooddaammnn

  • @Absolhunter251
    @Absolhunter251 Před 5 lety +3843

    I have trust issues with everything, because people are cruel, and walked all over me for being so nice. So hopefully this will help me! Thanks for making this!

    • @juliajenssen2294
      @juliajenssen2294 Před 5 lety +81

      I know the exact feeling too... i hope it helps me too ^^ i wish you good luck!

    • @Absolhunter251
      @Absolhunter251 Před 5 lety +8

      Julia Jenssen you too! ^^

    • @Absolhunter251
      @Absolhunter251 Před 5 lety +5

      Peter Salucci I hope I can learn that too

    • @Absolhunter251
      @Absolhunter251 Před 5 lety +24

      Peter Salucci it does! From what I’ve heard! But sometimes you can’t love everything all the time i know. Since I’m a hyper sensitive person, I can’t love people as much, especially those who hurt me bad. I’m fragile and cold nature typed. Sooo... how can I love someone who has broke me? I can’t fix it anymore. Once it’s gone, it’s gone. But those who do treat me nice, I love them. Still, I hope we can learn to love. I’m rebuilding it to the best I can.

    • @petersalucci5444
      @petersalucci5444 Před 5 lety +6

      Absolhunter251
      Hey I’m very similar to that... I love people who care for me and
      Are nice to me, but I still try (key word *try*) to love my enemies.
      Once this guy called me a name, a very rude and hurtful one too,
      He didn’t like me very much for some apparent reason, anyway
      I was very upset with him and told my parents... and well they
      Wanted to tell the principal and I was like nooooo, but as you would
      Know parents don’t listen 😂 so the principal had a talk with
      Him. then this kid came up to me and asked why I snitched. I told
      Him a didn’t technically since it was my parents... anyway he told me
      That I somehow offended him (which I can’t recall but hey maybe I did?)
      So I said sorry, Even though I don’t think I did anything wrong and I
      Told him I would stop whatever offended him. He thanked me for that
      And now we are aye ok.
      It just shows that even if your not in the wrong loving them by taking on
      The blame can twist their expectations and turn a bad relationship around.
      It’s something I’m trying to teach my other friends but they still don’t quite
      understand yet aha. But they’ll get there :)
      Ps. Sorry if this is too long 😅

  • @bornvolcano
    @bornvolcano Před 5 lety +1663

    I've been hurt so many times that I'm scared to trust people. I can't even trust myself. I don't feel like I deserve the care and support of others, anyway.

    • @bbdn5123
      @bbdn5123 Před 5 lety +98

      Well... ur not alone. And we do deserve better. Unconditional love.

    • @bornvolcano
      @bornvolcano Před 5 lety +43

      BB DN wow, I... thank you for that... that means a lot right now. That was really sweet thank you!😊

    • @bbdn5123
      @bbdn5123 Před 5 lety +22

      Hey gurl, yw. It starts with ourselves, know who u are. Self love and putting up boundaries. Check Ross Rosenberg, he talks about self love deficiency. I haven't watched for maybe a year I was too stressed out, hmm maybe it's time for myself to go there again lol. I'm failing hard in life and being afraid for more hurt. I have cptsd and depression. My coping skills (what I can think of right now) are isolation, escapism and suppressing my feels. I'm researching from time to time about certain subjects and human behaviour (did this since a young gurl). I'm so conflicted cuz I know in my mind what to do to get better, but the emotions and feels put me off track. I was just watching this czcams.com/video/GgZPkyRMles/video.html hope it helps you. And there's the mbti personality test based on the works of psychotherapist Carl Jung a mother and daughter in psychology created it. It helped me in some extend and gave me new perspective in life. I'm an infj t, surprisingly I had taken the test when I was 15 and then totally forgot about it. But the beginning of this year when I took the test I got the same result and I got deja vu and remembered cuz of the picture shown when it showed the results. 3 days later I took the test again thinking it might be wrong and cuz of my emotions impacted it. Same result, with a slight difference in the percentages. Lol talk about trust issues against the outcome of the test and myself. Ofcourse take the outcome with a grain of salt cuz everyone has unique life experiences which develop us further in life. If I'm being real honest... I do have a glimpse of hope left that things will get better eventually God willing. So take care of urself and put ur faith in God, everything is possible! Much love, light and peace 🌟

    • @nightsky4988
      @nightsky4988 Před 5 lety +12

      I feel the same..

    • @bbdn5123
      @bbdn5123 Před 5 lety +18

      @@nightsky4988 my heart breaks, it's so unbearable to go thru that... I hope u have the tools and courage to go out and talk to someone u trust and if not that u find them. Meanwhile, I'm here. 💖

  • @s.l.schildberger7393
    @s.l.schildberger7393 Před 2 lety +106

    "Trust issues are developed when too much focus is concentrated on the pain, but not enough on overcoming the pain" That sentence really spoke to me, because its so true getting you trust broken hurts so much and all you want is to avoid that kind of pain in the future. But closing yourself off is making it so much worse!!! Because then you are forced to sit with your pain while being unable to move

  • @alexdaisy9016
    @alexdaisy9016 Před 3 lety +671

    How to deal with trust issues:
    1. Ask yourself how your reactions line up with reality
    2. Learn to be non-defensive when you communicate
    3. Let people know what you need and be direct about it
    4. Give people a chance to show you who they are
    5. Practice open-ended conversations that allow for disagreement
    6. Confront your tears and don't allow them to hold control over you

    • @dawidszewczyk5398
      @dawidszewczyk5398 Před 2 lety +4

      Thank you very much

    • @superjule
      @superjule Před 2 lety +16

      Actually 6. meant "confront your fears", not "tears". That's what she said, I think they just had a typing error in the video.

    • @logicss2893
      @logicss2893 Před 2 lety +3

      Welp i have adhd so I'll forget these anyway😔

    • @trevorphillips2250
      @trevorphillips2250 Před rokem

      I live in this part of the country everyone knows each other. Just didn't dare to ask the girl i liked cause her grandpa died recently i though i wait out 2-3 weeks. But she noticed i like her and she badmouth everything against me where everyone stands. Everyone in the country knows it and she talks bad about me. I though she really was intrested but seems i was wrong. Now people make fun of me no chance of actual friends or someone to love :(

    • @saschaburckhardt4972
      @saschaburckhardt4972 Před rokem

      What horrible fucking advice. “How to get over your trust issues: don’t have trust issues”

  • @StevenRoberts2021
    @StevenRoberts2021 Před 5 lety +3018

    I have trust issues, because people have lying issues!!!!

    • @akseytemme5456
      @akseytemme5456 Před 5 lety +211

      I have trust issues because being the only honest person in the room can be dangerous and vulnerable. Especially emotionally.

    • @rach3496
      @rach3496 Před 5 lety +52

      YES SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE AT THE BACK

    • @StevenRoberts2021
      @StevenRoberts2021 Před 5 lety +2

      @@xamberx8739 what's mood? What's that mean?

    • @StevenRoberts2021
      @StevenRoberts2021 Před 5 lety +30

      @@rach3496 I HAVE TRUST ISSUES BECAUSE PEOPLE HAVE LYING ISSUES!!!! IS THAT BETTER?

    • @rach3496
      @rach3496 Před 5 lety +11

      Steven Roberts MUCH BETTER THANKS😂😂😂😂

  • @lauryville
    @lauryville Před 5 lety +3643

    i trust animals more than humans because i know personally what humans are capable of

  • @trixie_nuit
    @trixie_nuit Před 2 lety +86

    Whenever I find my trust issues creeping in, I try to be as independent as possible. I might feel sad if people lie/cheat, but it would be more because of the time and energy spent on the relationship, not for the person itself. When things don't work out hank your lucky star!!!! Always keep your own personality, goals and values! It's not worth it to change who you are for anyone else but yourself.

    • @tautvydas3364
      @tautvydas3364 Před 2 lety +1

      This was a comment i was searching for. Thanks!

  • @dominiquetaegon1678
    @dominiquetaegon1678 Před 5 lety +84

    For me, it’s fear of rejection that stops me from opening up, it physically stops me from being honest with people I care about.

  • @brendakrieger7000
    @brendakrieger7000 Před 5 lety +725

    I mistrust people because they have proven to be untrustworthy. I give chances and I'm betrayed time and time again. Over and over💔

    • @thinkingofaname6233
      @thinkingofaname6233 Před 5 lety +18

      Brenda Krieger classic situations, why should we trust if others take advantage? Genuine question too so I’d love an answer from someone who doesn’t have trust issues.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Před 5 lety +23

      I see, do you ever plan on working through those issues? What have people done to betray you in the past? Are their actions forgiveable?

    • @brendakrieger7000
      @brendakrieger7000 Před 5 lety +19

      He lies about the same thing continuously. We tried couples counseling and he would just talk over me. He currently has his own apartment for the past 4 months. The primary issue is he lies about not leaving me again!! He swears it's the last time every time. But it's been 3 summers in a row!! He's gone for at least a few months at a time.I am going no contact the next time he pulls this stunt!

    • @thinkingofaname6233
      @thinkingofaname6233 Před 5 lety +29

      Brenda Krieger you really should cut him off for good, this guy will just use you and then when he finds a new woman he might not even toss you aside, he’ll just cheat on her with you. Cut him off completely.

    • @brendakrieger7000
      @brendakrieger7000 Před 5 lety +4

      I'm going to💔

  • @aaronlovelace9430
    @aaronlovelace9430 Před 5 lety +333

    I have trust issues with everybody, the worse is when is with your family, and i only don't have this kind of issues with a special friend...😥

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Před 5 lety +17

      Sorry to hear :( Why do you have a hard time trusting your family? Have they done things to hurt you in the past?

    • @aaronlovelace9430
      @aaronlovelace9430 Před 5 lety +15

      Psych2Go Yes, because my mom she was toxic and abusive, actually she is a good mom but... I can't,if can let my guard down cuz our relationship was really bad in the past.... And now my father still with this kind of behavior... And it's something that hits really hard to me 😥

    • @exprithon
      @exprithon Před 5 lety +4

      @@aaronlovelace9430 I'm so sorry to hear that, I hope it'll get better for you :) I were adopted at the age of 11 weeks, cause my dad left before I was born and my mom couldn't effort another child, so she gave me up for adoption hoping I'd have a better life than she has. A doctor told me that my trust issues are based on being abandoned by my father and "left alone" by my mother at a young age

    • @sourgumdrop5996
      @sourgumdrop5996 Před 5 lety

      Well then ur probably a kid?

    • @aaronlovelace9430
      @aaronlovelace9430 Před 5 lety +1

      Sour Gumdrop My age is 12

  • @mikka9368
    @mikka9368 Před 3 lety +20

    What holds me back is being consistently let down and I don’t know if its me or if Im just attracting the wrong types of people

    • @boricuafrican1
      @boricuafrican1 Před 3 lety

      what does let down mean? what is it you're expecting?

  • @MaximilianBerkmann
    @MaximilianBerkmann Před 3 lety +44

    Summary (for those who watched it):
    1. Ask yourself how your reactions line up with reality. 0:47
    2. Learn to be non-defensive when you communicate. 1:19
    3. Let people know what you need and be direct about it. 1:53
    4. Give people a chance to show you who they are. 2:28
    5. Practice open-ended conversations that allow for disagreement. 3:07
    6. Confront your tears and don't allow them to hold control over you. 3:33

  • @donttellmyfriends1749
    @donttellmyfriends1749 Před 5 lety +813

    This channel makes me wanna be a psychiatrist so bad

    • @moomootheflyingseapig5842
      @moomootheflyingseapig5842 Před 5 lety +6

      don't tell my friends Me too

    • @summersuetholz7884
      @summersuetholz7884 Před 5 lety +24

      I'm getting my masters 😊

    • @TheSkyIsFalling93
      @TheSkyIsFalling93 Před 5 lety +24

      Don’t be big pharma’s drug dealer. Become a psychologist and help people without prescribing potentially dangerous drugs.

    • @summersuetholz7884
      @summersuetholz7884 Před 5 lety

      @@TheSkyIsFalling93 I've tried medicine before and I have decided I never wanna prescribe it to anyone

    • @moomootheflyingseapig5842
      @moomootheflyingseapig5842 Před 5 lety +2

      I’m really just interested in psychology and stuff. I enjoy learning about it

  • @rachelmoran4896
    @rachelmoran4896 Před 5 lety +564

    Anyone have trust issues with fam????

    • @shirleyware9059
      @shirleyware9059 Před 5 lety +64

      Yes cause families are the first to hurt you!!!

    • @poppy4207
      @poppy4207 Před 5 lety +2

      Rachel Moran ye

    • @SevCaswell
      @SevCaswell Před 5 lety +41

      blood relations are usually enemies to be overcome, your real family are those you choose yourself

    • @shirleyware9059
      @shirleyware9059 Před 5 lety +9

      @@SevCaswell very true the real families are the ones we choose!!

    • @youngsama2374
      @youngsama2374 Před 5 lety +23

      Yes and they can easily get away with it. It's also tough cause people won't believe you either.

  • @brittanyg2529
    @brittanyg2529 Před 4 lety +31

    I’ve been watching this video every day. I met my forever after and don’t want to screw it up. He’s so patient with me and understanding. I know I’m not easy to love and I’ve pushed him away over and over again only for him to keep trying to get me back and prove his love. Even though I know it’s not healthy it’s not an easy thing to change. I’ve never trusted anyone

  • @Firas_Official
    @Firas_Official Před 3 lety +13

    I’m watching this video 17 times a day ..
    Just to ease up on my mind overthinking my trust issues
    Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video

  • @SevCaswell
    @SevCaswell Před 5 lety +227

    What holds me back is experience, every time I trust someone they betray me.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Před 5 lety +11

      Would you like to open yourself up to new experiences?

    • @bbdn5123
      @bbdn5123 Před 5 lety +8

      Not the nasty kind of experience ^

    • @mysseraefim7852
      @mysseraefim7852 Před 4 lety +17

      SevCaswell here's advice: Don't put your trust in dodgy friends/people. It sounds crazy, but it's for your on benefit. Friends might not always be the people you can rely on. Sometimes they can make you do crazy things that can hurt in many ways. It's better to have less friends so you can spot the fake ones. For people, don't be too nice to people you don't know. What I mean by that is don't give them offers like money and stuff. They could take advantage of you.

    • @manictiger
      @manictiger Před 3 lety

      @@Psych2go
      Yeah, sure. Burn me alive. That sounds fun. I am never letting my guard down. People are proven traitors. All you have to do is control their dopamine and serotonin and you can get them to turn on their loved ones.
      Promise them acceptance into a group, and they will do whatever you want them to. Everyone is a potential enemy and no one is a potential ally. The best I can brand them is "reasonable". That's my highest category. There are no f777ing allies.

    • @manictiger
      @manictiger Před 3 lety +1

      ​@@mysseraefim7852
      Don't put your trust in anyone. Categorize them. Highest category is "reasonable". Lowest category is "proven traitor".
      No one is permanently on your side. All friendships are temporary. Given enough time and experience, everyone is a traitor.

  • @tony2534
    @tony2534 Před 5 lety +446

    Last time i trusted someone
    They stole my heart.

    • @eda8233
      @eda8233 Před 5 lety +33

      I got it back for you here you go

    • @lekshmipillai151
      @lekshmipillai151 Před 5 lety +29

      More like broke it

    • @parkerpeter3024
      @parkerpeter3024 Před 5 lety +12

      yeah i know where youre coming from. a boyfriend of mine turned out to be lying and fake. We're here for you

    • @TheSkyIsFalling93
      @TheSkyIsFalling93 Před 5 lety +7

      Yup, happened to me with my first relationship in high school. It was years ago but it still hurts and I’ve never been able to hold down a relationship because I have really bad trust issues. Such is life though. I just take it one day at a time and try to work through it.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Před 5 lety +35

      Aww, I'm sorry. Some people will definitely break our hearts, but it's all a matter of trial and error. Have you put your heart on the line since?

  • @baibhavibanerjee2769
    @baibhavibanerjee2769 Před 3 lety +17

    "I can forgive u but never have the same amount of trust I had"- my thoughts

  • @fishyana1333
    @fishyana1333 Před 3 lety +8

    Thank you for this video. Recently, someone has tried to gaslight me into thinking I did something that in actuality they themselves did to make me feel guilty and dirty. Ever since then I’ve had trouble and even started doubting the intentions of people close to myself. I no longer feel comfortable sharing anything personal to anyone. After seeing this video I’m motivated to work on myself and my severe trust issues.

  • @aroma_tic
    @aroma_tic Před 5 lety +199

    I need this video a lot. Just moving into a relationship after a mentally abusive one, I need to learn how to trust others again if this relationship is going to work out. Not only that, but I also need to learn how to trust my friends again. Thank you, Psi.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Před 5 lety +15

      Aww, Claire I'm so glad you moved into a healthier relationship! Best of luck to you! Vulnerability and openness is key to getting better. ♥

    • @Rubenss24
      @Rubenss24 Před 2 lety +4

      Same here, why do I like this girl and wanna be with her and at the same time I don’t wanna be with her because I feel like eventually things will go bad, so why should I give it a chance…
      Man I just want some inner peace and set my mind free, im tired of always thinking of the future and can’t enjoy the present

    • @Jay-ur6mq
      @Jay-ur6mq Před rokem

      @@Rubenss24
      This is how I feel, it sucks to be constantly thinking all about the future in a way that gives you anxiety because of trust issues and past trauma.

  • @twebasenoi
    @twebasenoi Před 5 lety +323

    Also, trust people who have shown themselves trustworthy. And if they break your trust, tell them & give them a chance to rebuild the trust you had in them. Don't give up on the people who actually value your trust in them. 💕

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Před 5 lety +20

      Great advice! Love how open-minded you are to these experiences :)

    • @Lizzifer7
      @Lizzifer7 Před 3 lety

      @@karamira7809 keep reporting you for advertising

    • @gamedevyoutube3.030
      @gamedevyoutube3.030 Před 3 lety +10

      Fuck them all. If they do it once, they'll do it again.

    • @booo4720
      @booo4720 Před 3 lety

      Game Dev CZcams 3.0 thats trust issues

    • @manictiger
      @manictiger Před 3 lety +6

      ​@@booo4720
      No, it's intelligence. No one is permanently on your side. All friendships are temporary. Given enough time and experience, everyone is a traitor. Every time you forget that lesson, you will be punished. This is humanity in the 21st century.

  • @pumba7737
    @pumba7737 Před 3 lety +17

    I have major trust issues because of my last relationship. I never have been more hurt in my life... 3 years later i still have trust issues and walls. Hopefully i can break them down for the person i plan on spending the rest of my life with. Instead of hurting our relationship. Thank you for the video!

  • @mohini2752
    @mohini2752 Před 3 lety +7

    Confusion holds me back when people's actions and words don't match up

  • @devilcat8651
    @devilcat8651 Před 5 lety +97

    What hold me back from trusting others? People who lie and use me for their own benefit and then leave me in the dust. I had that happen all my life growing up, and so that taught me to be very careful of people. I trust very few people.

    • @CAT-yl8jy
      @CAT-yl8jy Před 3 lety +2

      I don't know what exacly you went trought but I think we kinda have the same reasons why we don't trust others.I also only trust 2 people.

  • @Dragon-King1232
    @Dragon-King1232 Před 4 lety +63

    I have trust issues when it comes to relationships cuz every time I get into one, I get cheated on or used as a rebound. I haven't been able to overcome my issues due to the amount of heartbreak I went through.

    • @zacharyburton6419
      @zacharyburton6419 Před 3 lety

      same

    • @_iam1533
      @_iam1533 Před 3 lety

      Atleast you get into relationships. I dont even feel like getting into one after the last one

    • @Dragon-King1232
      @Dragon-King1232 Před 3 lety

      @@_iam1533 My last relationship didnt end well either. Its gonna be months or even years before I get into another if at all

    • @_iam1533
      @_iam1533 Před 3 lety

      @@Dragon-King1232 I hope things get better for both of us 🙃

    • @Dragon-King1232
      @Dragon-King1232 Před 3 lety

      @@_iam1533 i hope so too

  • @KiaMiaProductions
    @KiaMiaProductions Před rokem +2

    I've learned respect is given, trust is earned. Ppl with lack of compassion or trust issues gave me trust issues. Discernment matters. What I'd think was depth were shallow. I don't trust anyone who doesn't trust ME.

  • @JuliunHarris
    @JuliunHarris Před 5 lety +86

    Literally needed this right now just started having trust issues with my friend last night

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Před 5 lety +5

      Hope things are going better for you today, Juliun. What happened between you two?

    • @Buzzity
      @Buzzity Před 5 lety

      Juliun Harris same!

    • @JuliunHarris
      @JuliunHarris Před 5 lety +1

      @@Psych2go Hi they are thanks for asking and he keeps making excuses for everytime I wanna hang out with him

  • @GA-mi2de
    @GA-mi2de Před 5 lety +49

    I think about 100% of people need this video

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Před 5 lety +2

      Feel free to share it with others to spread the awareness! :) ♥ Thank you for watching!

    • @avarose2038
      @avarose2038 Před 5 lety

      😂😂😂👌

  • @juliettaylor5914
    @juliettaylor5914 Před rokem +8

    Past trauma gives me trust issues, I'm a survivor of sexual abuse, but before being abused I had five months of a normal, non-harmful relationship with my abuser. That experience, plus not really having anyone who I can talk to fully about the effects of sexual abuse who doesn't respond to me like I'm crazy, outside of other survivors in support groups (who are angels!) has given me some trust issues, because I can't be real with a lot of people in my life, and it can be hard to feel safe when getting closer to people when that was the preclude to abuse.

  • @myfavoritepointguard446
    @myfavoritepointguard446 Před 3 lety +13

    A wise man once said,
    *Be careful who you let on your ship because some people will sink the whole ship just because they can't be the captain.*

  • @vladimirlenin4080
    @vladimirlenin4080 Před 5 lety +250

    Do "What to do if a close friend betrays you". I've been in this sutuation recently and it's just wierd

    • @briandsouza5177
      @briandsouza5177 Před 5 lety +1

      Well, they should make a video about this, btw just leave him, he/she'll come back with a complain and then answer it

    • @vladimirlenin4080
      @vladimirlenin4080 Před 5 lety +4

      @@briandsouza5177 i already left him. We barely talk now

    • @EpicBananaGlasses
      @EpicBananaGlasses Před 5 lety +5

      My old best friend did this

    • @lovenothate4489
      @lovenothate4489 Před 5 lety +2

      I'm just going through this, and it sucks ☹ Pretty much the reason why I have trust issues now-_-

    • @ConfusedJojo
      @ConfusedJojo Před 5 lety

      I was in that situation but thankfully, me and my friend have only grown stronger

  • @janap.938
    @janap.938 Před 5 lety +14

    "People often have trust issues because they are afraid of getting hurt." This sentence from the third section of this video is absolutely true and perfectly describes my situation.
    Thank you for sharing this video! Now I have some tips to think about. Hopefully it might help me to overcome my trust issues.

  • @slantzscuderia
    @slantzscuderia Před 11 měsíci +1

    This insight was very important to me. Thank you for taking the time to create it.

  • @uma9493
    @uma9493 Před 5 lety

    Since I discovered this channel back in June I have started seeing a therapist and life and much better now. Thank you for making me more aware about my mental health.

  • @doubled6501
    @doubled6501 Před 5 lety +13

    What holds me back from trusting others is knowing I might be manipulated..which is also why I barely open myself up to others

  • @matthewlewis911
    @matthewlewis911 Před 5 lety +22

    I've been deeply hurt in many of my closest relationships. As a result, I'm hyper guarded about who I let in.

  • @adendolan538
    @adendolan538 Před 4 lety +9

    My trust issues started when I was very young from my abusive stepdad and my fear of being hurt emotionally holds me back from trusting others

  • @TheBookloverforever
    @TheBookloverforever Před 2 lety +2

    It feels like in this day and age, it will be stupid to blindly trust people. Manipulation has become so normal, it's almost appreciated as a mark of a strong, smart person. Personal gains, fame, money, social-standing are more important than simple things like friendships and trust.

  • @minhphuongbui1642
    @minhphuongbui1642 Před 5 lety +25

    I'm positive and always see the good sides of others, which also makes me easily trust them. Also nice, sometimes "too nice" and introverted, I somehow feel relieved when knowing someone with trust issues. It makes me feel like I'm not a lone wolf, that people can be sensitive too so that we can connect, I can learn from their experience (they're mostly wise) and I want them to feel trusted by me (I admit I can't be reliable except being a procastinator :3)

    • @sparklenights5421
      @sparklenights5421 Před rokem +1

      you seem nice, i wish i could see the good in people again. But, you know, trust issues happened because of people and now i mostly see the bad. So i just want you to know, to keep being the strong person you are. And also, i love wise and mature people to. (me trying to break my trust issues-)

  • @kuskie3816
    @kuskie3816 Před 4 lety +8

    I was in a relationship with someone who was totally a narcissist and I just can't get over how much that hurt. I trusted them only because of manipulation and i hear the same things from people who WANT to get into a relationship with me and it scares me. I know this video is old, but honestly it's something i needed to hear right now. Thank you Psych2Go

    • @joshuagalloway5814
      @joshuagalloway5814 Před 3 lety +2

      This is me to a T. I just got out of a year long relationship with a narcissist and now I get alarm bells whenever I hear positive things from people. Really screwing with my head.

    • @kuskie3816
      @kuskie3816 Před 3 lety +1

      @@joshuagalloway5814 Time will heal it, even from this video a year ago I feel much better it took me around 5 years to figure it out, and I'm still not 100% in this, but I'm working on it by being social to new folks online. It's been helping. I hope you can find a way to heal, and perhaps even find a therapist to help guide you through this mess. I'm sorry friend, but, be strong and seek the path out of the pain and hurt. Good luck.

  • @deadkat5451
    @deadkat5451 Před 3 lety +5

    What holds me back for trusting other?
    Everything..

  • @colormericky
    @colormericky Před 2 lety +2

    I know its been 3 years since you posted this but I really needed to hear this. I guess I knew I had trust issues but i guess i haven't worked through it completely and thanks to to the video, i can see some areas where I can still improve. So thank you for that!

  • @snatchedt2223
    @snatchedt2223 Před 5 lety +40

    3:32 “Confront your tears” omg

  • @Nightfire613
    @Nightfire613 Před 5 lety +6

    I am what one might call "slow to trust." I'm incredibly wary of people and am very slow to open up. I'm also the kind of person who once my trust is broken, it never comes back, not really anyway. I got into a fight with my brother, someone I trusted implicitly, and during that fight, he crossed an unforgivable line. I haven't spoken to him in over a month, save a few short sentences at family gatherings for the sake of courtesy. It wasn't the first time someone I thought I could trust hurt me, but it was the worst.

  • @avrxse
    @avrxse Před 3 lety +1

    "Give people time to show their true colours." -Psych2Go
    I am going to keep this as my favorite quote, I'm going to use it so much! Thank you! The outro is so cool! ^^

  • @kiaracarbullido402
    @kiaracarbullido402 Před 2 lety +2

    “ …But you need to decide if it’s holding you back “ Needed to ask myself this question and realize my fear of putting my trust into someone with such an unfamiliar feeling of being able to trust someone was truly holding me back from something that can be great for me. Hopefully I can practice this everyday and grow enough not to let something good slip away.

  • @v.v365
    @v.v365 Před 3 lety +3

    I think media and my own childhood trauma (which my brain has locked away, for my own mental and emotional protection) has gotten me into the mindset of “everything is always going to be bad in some way. People can be terrible and ignorant and violent, and though there are some good things in the world, they are few and far between.” I need to start learning how to trust, probably just on a small scale for now, like with close friends and family.

    • @v.v365
      @v.v365 Před 3 lety +1

      Some annoying person you might wanna talk through those types of feelings with a therapist. Personally, I wasn’t ever physically abused, my mom was, and she protected us from further harm.

  • @jenna_n_goodwell_art
    @jenna_n_goodwell_art Před 4 lety +6

    "Let people know what you need and be direct about it"
    *did that*
    *was cast aside*

  • @connordestounis7039
    @connordestounis7039 Před 2 lety

    i just want to say that i am going through a hard time with trust right now and this really did help me out, thank you

  • @chamarlfrancis1066
    @chamarlfrancis1066 Před 4 lety +5

    My trust issues are the fact I am so insecure with myself but I always have a facade of confidence so I don't become vulnerable to people's toxicity. I feel like I'm never worthy enough for anything or anyone so I tend to close people out. Myself esteem is so low it's awful.

  • @banaberhane8873
    @banaberhane8873 Před 4 lety +11

    i never had trust issue until my recent ex boyfriend cheated on me with two girls. now i feel like everything a guy tells me is a lie and needs proof. uggg

  • @briandsouza5177
    @briandsouza5177 Před 5 lety +230

    Lol, i dont like to make friends so no need to trust anyone

  • @mori2984
    @mori2984 Před 3 lety +1

    This one goes out to my ‘friend’ that broke my trust so badly I still struggle to trust people even when I want to..
    Thaaaaanks 🥰🥰🥰😒

  • @la-xw6ov
    @la-xw6ov Před 4 lety +4

    everytime i get a new friend i cant help but think "how much is it gonna last? when will they leave me? when is the friendship gonna be over?"

  • @Filterfinder
    @Filterfinder Před 3 lety +5

    Trusting someone and being oblivious to signs they're untrustworthy is two different things. People need to be more observant of people's actions instead of giving unconditional trust right away.

  • @lucidpayments8804
    @lucidpayments8804 Před 2 lety +6

    I have the best guy in the whole universe and he’s for sure the one. I keep self sabotaging myself and if I don’t end up getting a grip on not trusting him when he’s done absolutely nothing wrong. I’ll lose him. I can’t lose him. I’m beginning therapy this week but trying to do some courses here

    • @yeshuaisking973
      @yeshuaisking973 Před 2 měsíci

      This is my exact situation. I’ve been destroyed in past relationships so there really is no trust left in me to give anyone. Self sabotage at its finest…. So good at it that I could probably teach an entire course on it. I finally met someone worthy of me and someone who has proven to me that he can be trusted. And all I’ve done is push him away. Getting a grip comment, I absolutely get!! I’ve said the same thing to myself because I know he doesn’t deserve to deal with the broken version of me and eventually, though he loves me, he will walk away because no one deserves to have to deal with issues caused by someone’s past. It isn’t fair to them. People always talk about healing from past trauma, I’ve researched and watched countless videos and nothing seems to help. Thinking about trying therapy myself.

  • @AoifeOwonifari-pd5tm
    @AoifeOwonifari-pd5tm Před 9 měsíci

    Not trusting people is not an issue, it is a blessing and a skill and i will not be working to change that thank you very much!

    • @blissvful
      @blissvful Před 9 měsíci

      then why are u here 💀💀💀

  • @Lucas-wn5wm
    @Lucas-wn5wm Před 3 lety +2

    for me im still alright to be kind and helpful to others but when it comes to others helping me i always tell myself nobody owes me anything and learn to trust myself instead of others this makes me feel easier. After past trust issues with close friends i feel this is still the best for me.

  • @kiichi689
    @kiichi689 Před 3 lety +7

    I know that it's a really complicated issue, and it's fine to be struggling to solve it. I've come to the point, when I can clearly see if I'm too suspicious to people I love, w/o any good reason but only cause of my betrayal trauma...and this is so difficult to speak up about it. I feel like it would either hurt them, or scare them off, because it makes you look hysterical...I wish we all can overcome it someday

  • @sarahgardiner1735
    @sarahgardiner1735 Před rokem +2

    The whole breaking old habits thing is very true. I'm way more used to people turning on me, ghosting me, or suddenly treating me as though I'm insignificant. And the first boy I ever kissed, turned around and kissed 7 other girls behind my back, 4 of which were friends of mine, while I was in the same room the next night. Not magical at all. When you're young and impressionable, the people you like and the ones who treat you like a friend become very important to you. When they suddenly stop talking to you for months while hanging out with other people, when your boyfriend tells you he likes the way you look but wants you to change your personality leaves a serious impact on you. On my birthday, I was surrounded by good friends and my current boyfriend who all love me very much. But I cried because I just didn't believe it or didn't feel like I deserved any of it. I'm having a hard time trusting that people are here to stay, and that they genuinely like me for who I am. I'm slowly getting there but it's taking me a lot of time to rebuild my trust in others, and believe that they're genuinely here for me.

  • @shwetakolekar1414
    @shwetakolekar1414 Před 2 lety

    Thanks for making this

  • @capridazenine3049
    @capridazenine3049 Před 4 lety

    I really needed this video today.. I feel hopeful that I will be able to fully trust in my relationship 🥰

  • @pixie6197
    @pixie6197 Před 2 lety +3

    For 10 years of my life (I’m going to turn 14 soon)
    I’ve been manipulated without even knowing it.
    I’m still in shock a 3 year old knew how to do that shit. I’m out of that hell hole now, but it’s still hard to trust. But this video helps me a bit

  • @ShadesOfAngels
    @ShadesOfAngels Před 2 lety +3

    I found it hard to trust people in my life because I had lacked a lot of trust within myself. I had been a people pleaser for a long time and I am at this point in my life where I am getting out of that. It is a rough process for me, and can definitely be emotionally stirring. It also came from experiences that I’ve had where people were doing things behind my back. I had lacked the proper skills and setting boundaries for myself and other people growing up. It made it hard for me to handle my emotions and the situations with people. Now, it’s getting a whole lot better. I’m learning now, and I’m in a relationship where I’m beginning to finally open up about things. There are times where I still feel insecure because of the disagreement of another, and other times I feel strongly to openly express myself. It’s a big flip-flop, and it’s a rough process as I mentioned. It’s very much worth it, and I see that as my angle to be completely cleared from everything that has held me back to trust people. That everything, is me.

    • @lailafinch
      @lailafinch Před 2 lety

      thank you so much for this.
      i just realised that the trust issues i have in my current relationship, are because i don't trust myself. i doubt myself so much so i doubt everything around me. my partner (of 5 years) has been so great and patient with me and i somehow still have something in me that's either doubting him or myself to trust him. he hasn't done anything to make me question him. it's just so hard and now i realise, it's me, i don't trust myself to choose the right person for myself. 🤧

    • @lithfoxx
      @lithfoxx Před rokem

      @@lailafinch “I don’t trust myself to choose the right person for myself” that hit me.
      Deep.

  • @chrisstevens243
    @chrisstevens243 Před 5 lety

    Love this channel.

  • @vanitysfantasy6233
    @vanitysfantasy6233 Před 3 lety

    Miss girl who ever this lady was speaking in this video was drop seeds on my garden now imma watch em grow

  • @americohagim1131
    @americohagim1131 Před 4 lety +5

    Most of my friendships were fake. That’s why I have trouble making new friends because I don’t think I can trust anyone.

  • @professionalretard2459
    @professionalretard2459 Před 4 lety +4

    Love how it’s just now I have been realizing that I have trust issues.
    I haven’t been friends with the best people and I have been used many times. And I thought that didn’t have any effect on me
    But I’m feeling the weight more and more every day and it sucks because I have a hard time trusting the people i know the most.
    I’m so scared of being used again. I’m so scared that I’m just as disposable as I always felt I was. And it makes me seem really needy and always needing reasurence because I’m always told it’s just in my head.
    And I had the courage to think the people that did bad things to me didn’t leave scares ;-;

  • @deez3000
    @deez3000 Před 4 lety +2

    Thanks for this, I'm starting not to trust my friends because I feel like I'm worthless to them.

    • @laylonie1633
      @laylonie1633 Před 4 lety +1

      you aren't worthless, and if nobody has told you this today I hope you had a great day (^^)

  • @landyarlan5031
    @landyarlan5031 Před 4 lety +1

    After my experience in Highschool and up to first quarter of College, I already developed a personality disorder. Paranoid Personality Disorder because of the bad things I experienced back then. Whenever new information come to me, I automatically doubt its factuality and credibility. Despite having a hard time, I am still improving myself everyday. I am trying to open up more and trust more to those who deserve it. I am making a progress though slow.

  • @newbornwiccan948
    @newbornwiccan948 Před 3 lety +8

    I can never trust anyone anymore because I've been manipulated and lied to so many times 😔😒🥺😤💔👀🧐

    • @KevinwayneeTv
      @KevinwayneeTv Před 3 lety

      I swear the same thing happened to me n it hurt so bad but instead of letting it break me I let it build me n fight against it cause I’m amazing Nd I’m not what family say I am I believe you can fight it also

  • @DoraFauszt
    @DoraFauszt Před 5 lety +12

    OMG this video just came at the right time. You literally read my mind LOL.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Před 5 lety +2

      Thanks so much for watching! Which point did you find most helpful? :)

    • @dodododododododo8216
      @dodododododododo8216 Před 4 lety +1

      Hi, I am commenting one year later to ask if you were able to get rid of trust issues and to have better relationship/friendship with someone after watching this video

    • @DoraFauszt
      @DoraFauszt Před 4 lety

      @@dodododododododo8216 hi! Ended up splitting. Turned out my gut feeling was right and I had all the reasons not to trust him!

    • @dodododododododo8216
      @dodododododododo8216 Před 4 lety +1

      @@DoraFauszt I am extremely sorry, I had similar experience. I hope you are doing okay now, you deserve better.

    • @DoraFauszt
      @DoraFauszt Před 4 lety +1

      @@dodododododododo8216 All good now,single but much happier! Thanks for caring! 🥰 hope you feel better too!

  • @fuckbeingbroke2
    @fuckbeingbroke2 Před 2 lety

    Thank you i really needed this

  • @khangembamkumar7274
    @khangembamkumar7274 Před rokem

    Thanks a lot for helping us, Ma'am 👍

  • @payyourloans683
    @payyourloans683 Před 4 lety +11

    some people with trust issues tend to be people who can read and spot lies from people ngl

  • @IzayoiArwena
    @IzayoiArwena Před 5 lety +29

    Yes i have trust issues because ive been hurt many times. And dumped by many lovers

  • @kevcockayne3636
    @kevcockayne3636 Před rokem

    Absolutely brilliant helped me alot 👍🏻

  • @jmacsss
    @jmacsss Před 2 lety

    Thank you so much. Just listening, I realized I know my new gf to the core and she wants this as bad as I do. We want a future together, so I know she will be true like I will. Such a relieving feeling. Thank you for this video.

  • @lara3540
    @lara3540 Před 3 lety +16

    I hate that I just isolate myself from everyone because of all my trust issues. I wish I could just reach out to people without having a panic attack or feeling guilty all of the time.

  • @dlkdjsjwjw1kks2
    @dlkdjsjwjw1kks2 Před 5 lety +24

    Press F to show Psych2Go love

  • @mattymobbs5125
    @mattymobbs5125 Před 2 lety

    More on why women never see when they in the wrong people. Good video thanks

  • @victorc4_1234
    @victorc4_1234 Před 2 lety

    @Psych2Go thank you so much for all that you do

  • @cherryocampo9845
    @cherryocampo9845 Před 3 lety +6

    I never trust anyone because I don't want to be attach to anyone and if I'm attach to other people they will leave me and I fear any form of abandonment

  • @farihamohamedhilmy4700
    @farihamohamedhilmy4700 Před 3 lety +8

    How to Deal With Trust Issues:
    1. Ask yourself how your reactions line up with reality
    2. Learn to be non-defensive when you communicate
    3. Let people know what you need and be direct about it
    4. Give people a chance to show you who they are
    5. Practice open-ended conversations that allow for disagreement
    6. Confront your fears and don't allow them to hold control over you

  • @user-hz5tk6im1i
    @user-hz5tk6im1i Před 2 měsíci +1

    the fear of being hurt and betrayed and used holds me back

  • @scrumptiouss
    @scrumptiouss Před rokem

    almost cried watching this, thank you

  • @jujuzzz9200
    @jujuzzz9200 Před 3 lety +4

    Personally, it's the fear of not being likable enough, and the mentality of "oh they're eventually going to find out all of my flaws and make fun of me....", then I will just back away... this issue is affecting every aspect of my life right now, but I have no resources to any therapy service... Idk what to do.

    • @tl9585
      @tl9585 Před 3 lety +1

      Man I feel you, I’m almost 20 and I still have never been in a relationship because of this thought. It sucks but if you would want, I’m here for you! What is your Facebook I’ll pm!

    • @geeblercobbler
      @geeblercobbler Před 7 měsíci

      Yikes...

  • @Addie931
    @Addie931 Před rokem +9

    I think i have trust issues but idk it might be a mental disorder bc i always think my friends are lying when they say “i cant call” and then i check all their social media and see what their doing or if their doing something else and then on their insta i might see them hanging out with other people so i think they dont like me as much and go off on them.. idk i might just be insane 💀

    • @shakfox8795
      @shakfox8795 Před rokem

      those who feel like they are being watched are typically the ones watching.
      i kno this as a watcher, myself.
      I will watch until I see ghosts begin to squeeze out from the clouds.
      A black bird will follow me when I run away and hide.
      "You know that everyone on the street has Ring cameras."
      CAH! CAH!
      "No one knows who you are. Everyone knows who he is."
      CAH! CAH!
      Lol.
      "Ring ring!"
      "Ring ring!"
      Old boo now has to shop at a new grocery store.
      🚨
      Ooops!!! Shakfox gotta go to jail now.
      Oh boo hoo hoo...
      Self-righteous suicide.
      Autsim.
      BPD
      Schizophrenia
      Apriprazole
      Trazadone
      Cognatives Behavioral Therapy
      Court date
      Psych meds
      Jail time.
      Court fees
      Medicaid
      Food stamps
      HUD List.
      Oh yeah.
      You deff want a mental disorder.
      Its tons of fun. Now you get to put all kinds of fun emojis in ur user name!
      WEEEEEEE!!!!

    • @Juicyfruit12345
      @Juicyfruit12345 Před rokem

      OMG

  • @tlmn779
    @tlmn779 Před 2 lety

    Thank you. You hit me right on the nail

  • @laurenloeffler7502
    @laurenloeffler7502 Před 2 lety

    This has helped so much. thank youu

  • @benwald56
    @benwald56 Před 5 lety +8

    I trust no one.. I eventually got to the point where I don't even trust myself, because of always wearing a mask and showing people the positive, energetic and enthusiastic spirit they want to see.
    When you have to act like an extrovert while being an introvert.

  • @the.dc.original
    @the.dc.original Před 5 lety +4

    First! Love your all videos!

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Před 5 lety

      Aww, we love you, too! ♥

  • @MontyRead
    @MontyRead Před rokem

    I've realized that over the years I just let go of the trust muscle, and don't really know how to trust... I guess I can practice and redevelop the trust muscle and make it work again.... thanks for this video!

  • @arielelijah1282
    @arielelijah1282 Před 2 lety +1

    Being too honest and wanted to please everyone leads to low in confidence especially saying “no” is very difficult.
    Balancing your self in every situation is really hard.