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The reality of pretty privilege - my pretty privilege experiment.

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  • čas přidán 16. 08. 2024

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  • @benitakipela
    @benitakipela  Před rokem +2

    My body shaming experience - czcams.com/video/69KywK68o4s/video.html

  • @Alexia24601
    @Alexia24601 Před rokem +146

    When I was in high school, boys used to make fun of me and tell me I was ugly. I believed them and never tried to improve my appearance. Then in college I got contact lenses, started to wear makeup, got a more flattering hairstyle, and started wearing more fashionable clothes. Suddenly, I started getting a lot more attention from guys. When I would go home to visit, even the boys who had made fun of me were really friendly. It was strange. Same me. Same face, same hair, same body.

    • @nawal10
      @nawal10 Před rokem +14

      How was it the same when u said u changed and wore contacts makeup fixed your hair and clothes? I'm glad u took better care of yourself tho and continue to for yourself 1st 🙏🏽

    • @alexandrean6657
      @alexandrean6657 Před rokem +5

      Annnnd now I want to watch Princess Diaries lol.

    • @NoName-sp5dp
      @NoName-sp5dp Před rokem +4

      @@nawal10 because she didn't get surgery or nothing changed makeup isn't surgery. We still see big nose regardless of the contour etc

  • @Fetusss
    @Fetusss Před 2 lety +160

    I'm ugly without makeup. So when I'm out without makeup I'm invisible. One day I did my makeup, a full face of makeup, did my hair, wore nice clothes to school One day, and I felt a difference. It was a feeling. I got compliments. Even a boy went out of his way to open the door for me when he saw me from far away.

    • @iAmaze87
      @iAmaze87 Před rokem +20

      Ugly ppl usually are ugly no matter what. Sorry u r probably not ugly hun. Just regular chic. Which is usually nice n decent just not dolled up like a celeb. 😊

    • @NoName-sp5dp
      @NoName-sp5dp Před rokem +8

      Definitely not ugly if you only need makeup. Lol trust me

    • @Cristina-co5om
      @Cristina-co5om Před 9 měsíci

      If you were truly ugly people would make fun of you without makeup on.

  • @sarahrrk
    @sarahrrk Před rokem +58

    80% of the comments are calling themselves ugly without makeup…. Do not underestimate yourself , if you call yourself ugly , you are making it easy for others to call you that . You are more than beautiful, more than enough. What goes on inside reflects the outside! So speak about yourself wisely and change your point of view

  • @nownalolo2999
    @nownalolo2999 Před rokem +33

    If you're turning heads with no makeup and "regular" clothes on, then you're beautiful.

  • @damali6490
    @damali6490 Před 2 lety +52

    The point that should be made to all young girls is that chocolate colored girls can have pretty privilege. I too am chocolate colored and have always had pretty privilege.
    You don't have to look like Beyonce. You just must put your best foot and attitude forward. And you will succeed in life and love

    • @benitakipela
      @benitakipela  Před 2 lety +5

      Love this, I totally agree!

    • @nownalolo2999
      @nownalolo2999 Před rokem

      Brown women can have pretty privilege. Did someone say that brown girls/women can't have pretty privilege?

    • @blacksea6608
      @blacksea6608 Před rokem

      Yea if In Africa

    • @misskayla._4167
      @misskayla._4167 Před rokem

      @@blacksea6608 wtf? boy get your racist ass out of here i live in america and people literally treat me like a goddess nice try, ugly.

  • @iuliaionelapetcu1411
    @iuliaionelapetcu1411 Před 2 lety +198

    You make a valid point, but I do wonder if you perceive yourself to be prettier when 'made up', because based on this video I find you to be a very beautiful woman. You have symmettical features, clear, glowing skin, full lips, straight, white teeth, I would say you're pretty whether dolled up or not. It's also important to remember that male attention is cheap, a lot of them tend to gravitate more toward the ostentatively made up look because they sexualize women.

    • @robin-leighsolomons3873
      @robin-leighsolomons3873 Před 2 lety +8

      I’m confident with who I am. Content. For the most part , I rarely wear makeup. It’s all about how one carries oneself. Also I don’t like being the center of attention. But I’ve had my fair share of privileges. But as females we should all embrace how unique we are and have a healthy self-esteem.

    • @benitakipela
      @benitakipela  Před 2 lety +26

      You're right, I think alot of it had to do with the way I perceived myself on both occasions. Thanks for your kind words 💚

    • @bri.decode
      @bri.decode Před rokem +1

      So true

    • @angelr5694
      @angelr5694 Před rokem +2

      There's studies on this. There's literally something called the halo affect. It's not always about how someone perceives themselves the reality of it is you can perceive yourself one way but be treated by the world another.

  • @user-rm5ql9vh2d
    @user-rm5ql9vh2d Před 2 lety +63

    Their looks open doors for them , this is soooo true I completely believe that looks are related to luck,the more beautiful you are, the more is better your luck 🍀🍀

    • @benitakipela
      @benitakipela  Před 2 lety +6

      So true!

    • @sugarzblossom8168
      @sugarzblossom8168 Před 2 lety +4

      Your luck isn't based on how beautiful you look but how people behave towards you is

    • @user-rm5ql9vh2d
      @user-rm5ql9vh2d Před 2 lety +2

      @@sugarzblossom8168 your look is not all your luck 🍀,I agree but it's a part of your luck , beauty is luck ,money is luck ,nice and caring people around you is luck ,loving husband or wife is luck ....ect ,everyone has one or some of those that's mean he has some of luck and if you have a lot of them or all of them which is so rare that's mean you're soooo lucky

    • @sugarzblossom8168
      @sugarzblossom8168 Před 2 lety

      @@user-rm5ql9vh2d true I agree that being born beautiful is due to luck and the rest too
      But some of them can due to you being born pretty so it might not be lucky to have those things but have those things because you were born lucky to be beautiful
      I am sorry but I can't really pit my thoughts into words

    • @t.a.yeah.
      @t.a.yeah. Před 2 lety +1

      @@user-rm5ql9vh2d But a loving husband may not be really loving, if it depents on your looks.
      It's also a dangerous way of thinking, because people tend to think/say "You have everything, you are beautiful, you must be really lucky." But that's not true, I also had everything, but I was depressed. How you feel is not always connected to these things.
      Just have that in mind.
      But I guess chances are higher.

  • @Samuel115s
    @Samuel115s Před 2 lety +65

    I thought everyone knew that pretty privileged was a thing since forever.

  • @Isabellazsda
    @Isabellazsda Před rokem +12

    Pretty privilege is real enough from my experiences. I wear glasses but I've found when i wear contact lenses my employer is much nicer to me . He's less snappish and moody. It's not just him I've noticed this in other areas of my life as well. People have treated me differently when I have looked more attractive.

  • @DW-es2en
    @DW-es2en Před rokem +53

    Love it or hate it, people treat us the way we treat ourselves. If you put effort in your look, it raises your confidence & people will treat you as such. If you don’t even try, you will feel less confident and be treated as such.

  • @tatisloveoth
    @tatisloveoth Před 2 lety +98

    Lmao at people in the comments trying to gaslight you; that seems to be the default reaction whenever women openly share their experiences with not meeting societal beauty standards, they try to, as people in my country say, "conceal the sun with a single finger" AKA invalidate others' reality.

  • @victoria9535
    @victoria9535 Před rokem +8

    I have pretty privileged. I'm a latina-American and I have green eyes with curly hair and I'm 4'8. My father is red skin Mayan from el Salvador 🇸🇻 but I got my light skin from my mother side 🇨🇴. So I guess yeah I do have pretty privileged but people see your looks but if you have a shifty personality people will avoid you. People has told me that I'm pretty but I have a good aura. You know can read me like a book . So yeah pretty privileg is real. Pretty looks opens doors but personality and having a good aura people will love you 😍 ❤️ 💗

    • @benitakipela
      @benitakipela  Před rokem

      That I'd so true - personality does matter!

  • @Cantetinza17
    @Cantetinza17 Před 2 lety +43

    When I was a smaller size (curvy size 6) I didn't have to pay for nothing I hardly had to raise a finger. Now that I'm overweight its way the opposite.

  • @Cottondandy0
    @Cottondandy0 Před rokem +8

    True, I experience the same treatment as well. When I don't put effort into my appearance people will just brisk past me and be rude ,yet when I put in a bit of effort then people are much kinder, smile more, greet me, stare at me and etc. But personally I don't treat people based on their appearance, I treat people based on how they treat or look at me, if you smile, I'll smile back, if you're mean, I'll ignore you...looks play no part.

  • @carrington2949
    @carrington2949 Před 2 lety +137

    Did anyone ever tell you that you bear a striking resemblance to Candace Owens? I do not agree with all of her politics but regardless she is absolutely gorgeous.

    • @benitakipela
      @benitakipela  Před 2 lety +36

      No, this is the first time. Thank you for the compliment ☺

    • @AboveRubiesTV
      @AboveRubiesTV Před 2 lety +62

      Yes!! She looks like Candace Owens mixed with China-Anne MCClain ✨💁🏾‍♀️

    • @carrington2949
      @carrington2949 Před 2 lety +12

      @@AboveRubiesTV Yessss. I can see both now.

    • @nataliekhanyola5669
      @nataliekhanyola5669 Před 2 lety +19

      I personally don't find Candace Owens gorgeous, she is pretty though. I think this youtuber is better looking than Candace.

    • @Paola01.
      @Paola01. Před rokem +2

      She is sharing an experience, there is no politics involved. Just a talk about how superficial society is, that’s all.

  • @jayyy735
    @jayyy735 Před rokem +19

    Im confused by some of the comments lol pretty privilege is a thing and it has tangible/statistically proven effects outside of dating such as employment and criminalization. Confidence and aura doesn’t change these issues large scale realities.
    And its also layered you can be pretty with and without makeup and have more pretty privilege with makeup regardless of confidence. You can be pretty and dark skinned but still lack pretty privilege relative to what avg and pretty women of lighter skin tones experience.

  • @dimphompahlele2064
    @dimphompahlele2064 Před 2 lety +27

    This is so true and sad. I have seen this and experienced it as well.

  • @shalawndudley2094
    @shalawndudley2094 Před rokem +6

    I worked in fast food and other customer service oriented jobs in the past and don't recall giving more attractive people better service. Not to say I'm some perfect human being, but that would have required a lot of fakeness on my part on a daily basis. Of course we tend to stare a little longer at a person that we deem more attractive.

  • @Unknown-individual
    @Unknown-individual Před rokem +12

    You never really understand pretty priviledge until you experience it.

  • @wendywatkins7366
    @wendywatkins7366 Před 2 lety +38

    I have pretty privilege with make up …. Without make up I have no privilege at all😂

  • @ijuneberry
    @ijuneberry Před 2 lety +18

    Muslim women who wear niqab ( covered face ) defies this concept. Ofc they have harder time getting jobs too even with all the qualifications

    • @benitakipela
      @benitakipela  Před 2 lety +5

      I didn't know that was something Muslim women struggled with!

  • @s.w.126strawberry6
    @s.w.126strawberry6 Před rokem +8

    I would prefer if you all would hear her out and not gaslight her experiences. It may not be a privilege, but it is an advantage, so stop saying it’s fake or all in her mind, like lmao. Just hear her and countless other people’s experiences. We may be wired to like pretty people, but does that mean that you should treat those that may not pay attention to their appearance or aren’t conventionally attractive as if they’re non existent and deserve less respect???

  • @robin-leighsolomons3873
    @robin-leighsolomons3873 Před 2 lety +231

    Obviously if you make yourself look good you’re going to attract attention. Pretty privilege generals apply to women or males who are naturally gorgeous. Not just pretty. Not just privileged by looks but the confidence and their charisma. It’s not that deep though. Having a meal is a privilege, having love from a supportive family is a privilege. Beauty fades …. And that’s why people are insecure cause we’re not accepting ourselves. And this pretty privilege BS is nonsense. We all like shiny things . So if you look rough no one is going to care

    • @benitakipela
      @benitakipela  Před 2 lety +28

      You made some valid points there, thanks for sharing that.

    • @hellothere8347
      @hellothere8347 Před 2 lety +3

      You actually right!

    • @sugarzblossom8168
      @sugarzblossom8168 Před 2 lety +34

      But I am not going to treat someone better than the other because of how attractive I find them

    • @vliciouss
      @vliciouss Před 2 lety +1

      .

    • @changedmyusernameagain7654
      @changedmyusernameagain7654 Před 2 lety +37

      Sorry but that's not how the world works. People are horrible and you may not, but they 100% treat you differently based on looks

  • @bedinabebe4521
    @bedinabebe4521 Před 2 lety +13

    I feel this also applies to men & couples. Trust, in America many people treat women like the only thing they deserve is The Morgue when they reach middle age.

  • @apricotsapricotsapricots
    @apricotsapricotsapricots Před 2 lety +8

    You look like Ryan. She has full make up on. You're both very pretty women.

  • @applecrumpies224
    @applecrumpies224 Před 2 lety +28

    I don't know with or without make-up people treat me the same for the most part. As humans we are genetically wired to look for an attractive mate and that has many variables such as family environment and social constructs ie beauty standards indoctrinated by mediums of entertainment. They all shape our attraction map and are the defining factors for finding someone attractive. I'll give an example, I was running an errand and on the way into the bank the security opened the door for me. I don't know him and was pretty much covering my face. I had a wig on and sunglasses. I think people just want to label themselves when they are really just fishing for attention and compliments. I've had some people treat me pretty shitty and ignore my needs and I recall dressing relatively okay. You said it yourself you went to the airport dressed in your pajamas and old braids. People ideally decide in 10-30 seconds if you are attractive enough to approach. It's not rocket science being in public dressed a certain way will get you different responses. I think you are very pretty. Don't fall for this label and attach yourself to obsessive thoughts about "pretty privilege" doesn't matter which part of your life you're trying to apply it to. It's not this complicated not all people have to consider you pretty to do whatever it is your looking for. This culture ir just to much and honestly I'm tired of seeing it and wish creators would stop pandering to this non-sense. It's the equivalent to thigh gaps no one fucking cares about that.

    • @DelayedNotDenied
      @DelayedNotDenied Před 2 lety +7

      I want to reply to that first bit you said. I don’t think we’re genetically wired to look out for certain thing but more so taught and conditioned through various ways like media or even at home. How would you know what is pretty/ugly u less someone told you.

    • @t.a.yeah.
      @t.a.yeah. Před 2 lety +4

      @@DelayedNotDenied Yes, for that just have a look at the history of beauty (Karolina Zebrowska has a good video on this). But genetically we're looking for healthy partners, I guess.

    • @janellerush2004
      @janellerush2004 Před 2 lety +3

      @@t.a.yeah. health and physical attraction aren’t the same. There are are healthy out here still deemed as not attractive

    • @t.a.yeah.
      @t.a.yeah. Před 2 lety +1

      @@janellerush2004 That's what I tried to say. ^^

  • @proudly_precious
    @proudly_precious Před rokem +4

    This issue is multifaceted. it's not just about being born with naturally beautiful features or makeup another factor can be being put together, looking polished, and looking like you take good care of yourself. If you are dressed up looking like who did it and ran people are gonna treat you accordingly. dress how you want to be addressed.

    • @nownalolo2999
      @nownalolo2999 Před rokem

      If your clothes are clean and not worn out, is that okay with you?

  • @flothescientist
    @flothescientist Před rokem +13

    It's kinda pointless to blame pretty privilege on society, the patriarchy, or misogyny. At the end of the day, our brains are all wired to like attractive people/things. BUT IMO 90% of people could make themselves more attractive if they really tried, instead of sulking and being angry, resentful, and ugly (on the inside and out lol).

    • @tokyocrystal
      @tokyocrystal Před rokem +2

      This is true, self love work is hard especially if you went through trauma or going through some sort of mental illness (ie. Depression)

  • @MsJBaaba
    @MsJBaaba Před 2 lety +39

    Although I agree that there is truth to pretty privilege based on outward appearance, I would be remiss if I did not point out your dip in confidence on your trip back especially compared to the other woman. It’s not always the prettiest one who gets the most attention. Sometimes it’s the one who smiles and is super confident in her skin. 😉

    • @benitakipela
      @benitakipela  Před 2 lety +4

      You're absolutely right, I didn't think about it that way. Confidence has alot to do with it!

    • @DelayedNotDenied
      @DelayedNotDenied Před 2 lety +5

      Sometimes yes but not most.

    • @matshadi1999
      @matshadi1999 Před 2 lety +14

      There are plenty of make up wearing, pretty women who aren't confident at all but everyone is so fixated on their looks they miss the pretty person's insecure nature. And should the said pretty person verbally express their lack of self confidence everyone acts surprised.

    • @MsJBaaba
      @MsJBaaba Před 2 lety

      @@matshadi1999 This is very true too.

  • @Shygirl2469
    @Shygirl2469 Před rokem +1

    When I was a child like 5 me and my sister went to McDonald’s I didn’t think anything of it until the cashier said I’m so cute she’ll give us food for free people at school make fun of me but I experience pretty privilege outside of school I don’t understand

  • @genovasquez8361
    @genovasquez8361 Před rokem +2

    I love your hair

  • @nickole6601
    @nickole6601 Před rokem

    UGH THIS CONTENT IS EVERYTHING 💖💖

  • @abhishekchaudhry80
    @abhishekchaudhry80 Před 6 měsíci

    I was dating some girl casually (she was way out my league honestly). I told her, that she literally has to serial killer for me to not date her. She is working in medical research. The best part is she like foot shorter than me. She is perfect and I have assured once I get a job, I will literally sweep for her off her feet and marry her.❤

  • @perlyshell
    @perlyshell Před 6 měsíci

    that guy whose mugshot went viral and later become a fashion model IS the definition of pretty privilege

  • @rickylumo8666
    @rickylumo8666 Před rokem +1

    Another thing is that a woman who is made up and well dressed signals her confidence and willingness to be approached for social conversation, such as giving directions, etc.

  • @QueenJuliana89
    @QueenJuliana89 Před rokem +2

    You are beautiful ❤

  • @um_from_umbridge7285
    @um_from_umbridge7285 Před rokem +2

    I learned I had pretty privilege after being S.A.’d a number of times by a number of men no matter how many ways I tried to prevent it even by not showering/brushing teeth and getting extra stinky to try and prevent it. I even wear baggy clothes and no makeup to try and deter them. Careful what u wish for.

  • @vanillafire2652
    @vanillafire2652 Před 2 lety +2

    Hello girl!! I m your 37 adonné, love your experiment

  • @fidelmundende9051
    @fidelmundende9051 Před 2 lety +4

    lol... thanks for sharing this... just keep it up.

  • @fujoshiotaku5832
    @fujoshiotaku5832 Před rokem +1

    Pretty privilege is when random people try to make small talk with you in the most random moments-

  • @EARTHLORE64
    @EARTHLORE64 Před 2 lety +5

    ignore it.... Sooner or later you're going to realise those with the looks are just as susceptible to bad behaviour are dysfunctional family 10 year plus cocaine habit & drug addiction illicit behaviour allsorts live your life the way you want too. find god

  • @jlcii
    @jlcii Před rokem +9

    Okay, to me, the pretty privilege thing is a total crock. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and not everyone thinks everyone is beautiful because a good handful of people do. Not to mention, this feels like a gateway into other forms of accusations of privilege. What about intelligence privilege? Education privilege? Athletic privilege? Hell, good cook privilege? Almost anything that involves somebody having an advantage over other people can be construed as a form of privilege, so then what is safe? Do we all now have to just walk around checking our privilege all day when it comes to us having an advantage over someone else strictly by coincidence or life itself? It's one thing if we're talking about social constructs like race or wealth, but pretty privilege, really?

    • @tjlnintendo
      @tjlnintendo Před rokem +3

      Technically, having a brain that works is a privilege. Some people may be born at a disadvantage with a non nuero typical brain.
      Having food is a privilege.
      Being in a country where there is education available is one as well.
      And of course, being conventionally attractive has its advantages. Humans are animals, so we have that primal irge to treat better looking people differently.

  • @okcatalina
    @okcatalina Před 2 lety +1

    im very ugly without makeup but still i get treated respectfully with stares just as i do when im wearing makeup.

  • @nigerjenkins6372
    @nigerjenkins6372 Před 2 lety +1

    That is so True

  • @rationalatheist9824
    @rationalatheist9824 Před rokem +1

    Kardashians came to my mind before anything. The examples you used like Beyoncé for example can’t be an example of of pretty entitlement as her vocal range is at a abnormally talented range otherwise she probably would’ve died out after destiny’s child or never came to spotlight at ALL.

    • @benitakipela
      @benitakipela  Před rokem +1

      I feel that yes she is super talented..but I think compared to the other girls she might have been favoured based on her looks/complexion. (I might be wrong tho)

    • @desbest4
      @desbest4 Před 6 měsíci

      @@benitakipela Beyonce is more favoured, because her dad is a record label manager for the same label that signed Destiny's Child, depite Kelly Rowland having a better character and versatility to her voice and better appearance.

  • @amara75284
    @amara75284 Před 7 měsíci

    I'm sorry but that airport experience is really fake, everyone treats me very well but not because im pretty, but because im very educated with everyone i meet, and of course everyone is gonna treat you well at the airport, you're paying for it🤦🏻‍♀️

  • @iAmaze87
    @iAmaze87 Před rokem +1

    I think u have pretty privilege au natural. That’s lovely

  • @jelly.212
    @jelly.212 Před rokem

    Your looksmatch is currently fighting in the Jungles of central africa

  • @caesarc.954
    @caesarc.954 Před 2 lety

    Is this pretty privilege, or just the female version of smartness makes the man'? Cause they're 2 different things imo

  • @lorileon2816
    @lorileon2816 Před rokem

    You're gloating

  • @proudly_precious
    @proudly_precious Před rokem

    A lot of y'all are really insecure and it shows.