Thanks to you Tony and all your videos on how to date and weed out grown boys and keep my Legs closed. I found my soul mate and we just got engaged and planning to marry next year.
Alot of men don't even want to put in the effort in the dating stage. We can't even think about building healthy marriages if the dating scene is messed up.
True but discussions like this is pulling up roots and it starts with ourselves. We can be the cream that rises to the top- as long as we stop accepting what’s beneath us. Dating isn’t that bad when you consider that, do your part and wait. The husband supposed to find us and we gotta know him when we see him. Happy dating!
Im African born and it is interesting that continental African men aspire to marriage. When you arent married as a man at 30 or 35 yrs old people start asking you questions lol.
Black men really been missing the mark for me. My own uncle told me to be open to dating outside my race but I didn’t listen until recently. Now I’m open to other races more than ever. More BW should explore their options if they want to get taken off the market. Just not enough healthy brothas to go around for us all & that’s fine by me. Great talk TG. I can appreciate the breakdown and the depth & the layers of this all 😯
Many black man aren’t raised and condition for marriage during their upbringing. Many haven’t even been taught about true manhood and haven’t earned that right of passage into manhood (ie what their role is, protector, provider, financial stability etc…) Many are stuck male phase, like literally just a male. It’s sad 😢
We are now several generations of a growing majority of boys being raised by single mothers. And mothers cannot teach boys how to become men. Thus, the problem repeats itself and expands while doing so. You want to fix the problem? Fathers need to be involved in their sons lives. This includes mothers stepping back and letting it happen. That's his child too.
I don't know if it's just me or what but black men aren't even into dating and going out anymore. Seems all they want to do is come to your house or / apartment watch movies crash eat up your food and then later on try to get you to have sex with them without putting out any dating efforts whatsoever. So with that said marriage is definitely nowhere on their horizon. No way no how. They're all about giving very little and minimal effort into being with any woman I assume.
@@anthonynosike I guess I thought of fetishized groups as having a much easier time, since they fulfill everyone's fantasy? I didn't consider the downsides.
This video really made me want to cry from how true it is. I’m in my mid 20s and realizing this as I’ve become older is truly depressing. I’m just praying everyday that my life is protected.
I've been single most of my life (age 45) and have dated men of all different ethnicities; Black, Latin, Asian, Native American and White...never met a Black or White man who didn't cheat.
Absorbing this word at 25, been listening since I was 23. Thankful for perspectives and advice like yours coming from a place of peace ,it's not many of them out there. Thank you sir for standing out, blessings to you always!
I haven't watched the video yet. But I'm sooo happy I married early cuz it seems sad out here. I don't even see nobody getting at nobody no more. Ppl just pass by each other and that wasn't the case back in the day and I'm only 29 but have definitely seen a difference from when I was younger until now. It's sooo sad. Maybe social media was the death of reality?
Black women collectively should raise their standards. No sex before marriage or at least serious commitment, get to know me as a friend first, pre-marital cousenling. lying, cheating, disrespect, lack of emotional intelligence= deal-breakers.
I pray one day I get married and don’t have to settle. I’m open to grow with the right man but I don’t want to accept the bare minimum. Sometimes these messages are hurtful to hear and I have to take a break because I get triggered so many times. But I have been trying to nurture the part of me that settled the last time so it doesn’t happen again. Thank you to Mr. and Mrs. Gaskins showing that a good healthy marriage is possible.
@@shutit4024, but she's a woman that's speaking to women and she's right, black women need to stop selling themselves short and settling. They first need self love and respect and get to know who they are first. Women in general make it to easy for men that's why they are not getting married because the women have very little standards and are willing to give a man wife benefits without them being a legit husband or fully committed and submitted to them. As my grandma use to say, why buy the cow when you getting the milk free. Black people in General, men and women need to fully surrender to JESUS CHRIST and he will bestow his gifts upon Them and restore them back to their rightful place as King, Queens, and Priests, After all they are his ROYAL FAMILY AND LINEAGE and don't even know or believe it. A ROYAL PEOPLE that are lost. The descendants of the children of Israel. Tribe of JUDAH. The CROWNS of GOD.
I would like to see a video that's not giving the no Father's in the home excuse for why men are choosing not to get married or take care of families. There are plenty of BM with fathers in the home that are still not commitment minded or family oriented. And per their report they had great fathers, that were providers and protectors, but they are still choosing not to be. The simple answer is they don't see the value in marriage or want the responsibility. Men can get what they need without marriage period. And a few women closing their legs won't solve anything. It has to be a collective, but women are too busy competing with each other to work together.
I think hispanic men are the sweetest. They’re hard workers and are very giving to others. You see them on the street selling food and when you have a conversation with them, they are so humble and kind. A lot of black guys like to make fun of people and put others down with no remorse. Not all of course, but a lot do. I don’t see how they’re the nicest men.
I’m excited for your growth in production and setting your videos up in a way that elevates you and your family 🎉🎊. I also appreciate you still willing to do ‘old school’ style videos with you being able to be your authentic self. The many faces, impersonations, and lip smacks are TOP TIER!! Love the message and enjoyed the laughs.
Thank you! I pick up alot of the same energy I have, in men have. I see men checking me out like women, arguing like women, asking me how did I get that. These are career men too! Let me just say, some of these men arent just black men. I think the male dominant power of raising a men is truly missing.
You just elaborated and put into words and delivered exactly all I thought about life in this aspect of black man white man dynamics, relationships, etc. And I a have never been in America either. God bless you. You know things that I unusually know too.
I’m convinced Tony seen my face when he said black men are the nicest men you will ever meet 😆. Good video. I agree a lotta people are confused from media and not having good examples in the home or parents that are teaching. After much water wading and mountain climbing, I will open up another, race, nationality, or culture. All men will get the same scrutiny tho.
Thanks for this message Tony because it is much needed. I agree that some black men and black women have not been raised in a two parent home. Back in the day it is was more black marriage at that time then it is now. Black men don't understand the importance of being marry and how it important it bring the generation gap of wealth. Most black women do want to be marry to black men but in some cases they are not ready or don't ever want to be because they have got to comfortable and some don't want the responsibility. Black women will have to venture out into other races of men. Until black men see the importance of marriage and these unrealistic expectations of marriage. Then black women will have to look beyond just having a black husband.
OMG..... YES, THIS IS THE REALIST VIDEO EVER BEEN MADE! You are speaking nothing but TRUTH and FACTS! I'm glad you're honest enough to give it to us straight and you never seem to fail with your delivery. ENORMOUS THANK YOU!!!
Tony gasket I thank God everyday that you exist. I thank God that he is pouring his words into your mouth... we are listening to you... and hearing you...God will continue to bless you.
I'm Blessed to know my father, 1950s man. One of my life's immaterial goals is for him to see things work out for me. My faith in God is strong, and my father looks up to me for it. I can, I will, I must: be financially free, be married, be a father.
@@hymnodyhands thank you very much. The past 8 years (age 28 - 36) has helped me to see how rare it is that a black man knows his father and the strange systems in place to keep us all divided (father | son | daughter | mother). I'm thankful that I can share with people, both offline & online, parts of my family life & history. I was previously aware through Pop Warner football and growing up along with everyday people that black families are sometimes broken, but in my latter 20s I was exposed to how widespread the issue is. I'm thankful to be a living example that black fathers & sons being in good fellowship, even in imperfections, are real.
Hey Tony this is the kitchen table. It's in depth and the message is delivered. Then we got like the car Chronicles and others and they're awesome as well. We're good, your wisdom reaches regardless. God bless you and your family.
When you're working on yourself or going through some things marriage is not the focus. For me I just don't want to be bothered if I'm going through some things.
Facts! And like you said it’s a season. When we get done working on ourselves the desire will come back because God created us for love and companionship.
Listen youare a very intelligent receptive young man. And hilarious. You're sense of humor is so wonderful and honest and from history and facts and being able to put it all together to help folks is a true gift. Keep it up. I am a very white single mom business owner and I can appreciate this difference in perspective homey.
Thanks for this perspective. It certainly helped me rethink mine. Black women don't have to consider their marriage pool limited to black men as you mentioned. Whatever they choose, women definitely do need to prepare themselves for marriage. "The cream rises to the top." Where is God in all of this? I think the hurting and unconfident black men and women need to consider the source of healing. Pursue relationship with God first. He'll heal and prepare you and your mate for each other.
I have to be honest, Tony....lol, I really didn't think you would be this real, considering, I believe your audience to be diverse. All that to say, I appreciate you keeping it 💯 all the way....keep up the good work, and may God continue to bless you, your family, and your ministry
It really sounds that regardless of what race they come from they all need work on themselves. We need to become experts on recognizing the red flags 🚩🚩🚩 Tony teaches the red flags to watch out for, and I am so much the wiser now. I was blessed to have met my husband when I was 33. He has since passed away. The one man I dated, since his passing some years ago, was a hot mess! 🥴😖
this so true being married twice to black men who came from single parent homes, I just wish more of this information was out there in the 1990 early 2000 I'm getting married again my choices will be so much better, I'd would advise if you wanted to get married, please really pay very close attention to your partners up bring seek professional marriage counseling not one session but multiple sessions over a long period of time
“Black men are the nicest men in the world “. As a Black woman who have dated men from different backgrounds, that is not only facts, it is TRUTH. We really do have the best men in the universe. Love this message Tony. POWERFUL 💥
I think it's the generational cycles of racism, abuse, and trauma that makes black men not marry as others do. I truly do agree that black men are nice indeed.
If ya the nicest then why is the HIV rates so high in BW. Last year I took care of a woman that is pregnant and during her routine exam found out she was HIV positive because of her long term Boyfriend sleeping behind her back with other men and women. Now the child has to take HIV test from birth every month until 1 years of age. Explain to me how is that being nice? If BM are so nice why is the marriage rates so low? If BM so nice why are single mother rates so high? If BM are so nice why do they dangle marriage in the face of BW who they know want to get married. A BM will be with a BW forever even have kids with her but never marry her every year he promises to marry her but he knows he will only make her an enternal GF. How is that nice? The cheating, physical and emotional abuse, and being financially cheap to the women they are with how is that being nice?
You are speaking truth. And you crack me with the story tell8ng. You are great. So great. I am miserable and don't want to be single but I always am. I het mad at men for not doing what I want when I want. Lots of pain behind it, not getting what I want from relationships with a man. My soul mate died before we could get married and it started with that 23 years ago. Anyway. You are so smart. I like listening to your shows.
I’m in my early 20s so all I can do is speak on my experience but yea I’ve noticed this. I’ve have gut feelings like relationships aren’t for me especially since I’ve never been in one, until recently for some reason I have been desiring one and have been trying to talk myself out of it because most of the black guys I like , end up liking non-black women which is fine but then I ask myself why am I liking them? It got so frustrating earlier this year to the point where I was just had a mindset that I shouldn’t like black men because most of them like non black women and if he does like black women she has to look a certain way(which again is fine but frustrating when you have feelings for them). I mean I remember my freshman year of college (i go to a hbcu) and there would be a few white girls on campus and they would get snatched up so quick. I just realized that I don not like this feeling of wanting a romantic relationship and that I want to go back to how I used to be (not caring for a relationship/men) and focus on me because it was really messing with my mental and how I felt being a black woman
The black men liking non black women is heavy in the south!! I noticed when I do get approached they are from The East Coast. East Coast black men tend to still like black women. I mostly attract Chicago and New York men!
REMEMBER: God made eight billion people on this earth... plenty of men available. Prepare yourself to receive WHOEVER God chooses for you. It is a process... but go to the Lord and do the work so the state of many Black men does not cause you to despair.
Yeah I’ve noticed this too. Most successful non-ghetto black men tend to date and marry non black women. It’s sad that the appreciation of the beauty of a proper black woman (not light skin/bi-racial/blonde Beyonce), but some one dark skin with Afro hair is not appreciated to the same extent by a lot of black men. But focus on yourself girl, the right one will come when the time is right. Be open to guys who might not be physically your perfect type, attraction is important, but attraction of the heart and soul go way beyond skin colour.
Because they can get the milk for free... too many women willing to lay down on their backs with no expectations. A man gets his needs filled. I know because I love a black man and see what he does. There is so much immorality in the world.
You're jusr a misogynist. "Laying on their backs" hasnt affected other races of women from getting married. These men are not raised to be husbands. Its that simple.
Great video. My choice is to be my best me & locate my beautiful woman of God to marry and have children. Compared to my background, demographic, surroundings which involves: settling, delaying & avoiding marriage, living together, being married but not working toward the best marriage & family that you can have, etc.
People should date or marry whom they feel is the person for them, be it black, white, yellow, blue or whatever. As long as they're both not broken people and want the same things. Too many people just don't take the time or are even willing to start working on themselves and to heal from whatever brokenness that they carry. Unfortunately too many men, especially black men don't want to do the work of healing, so how can they know what marriage looks like, a healthy marriage. So if you're looking to get married, find someone who has done the same healing work as you, they're race shouldn't matter, that's all I'm saying.
Thanks to you Tony and all your videos on how to date and weed out grown boys and keep my
Legs closed. I found my soul mate and we just got engaged and planning to marry next year.
Congratulations 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@@lauramapani3627 3 years of listening to this man helped me
Congratulations
Congratulations!
Congratulations 🎊
Alot of men don't even want to put in the effort in the dating stage. We can't even think about building healthy marriages if the dating scene is messed up.
Ain't that the truth
The sad truth
Facts!
Yes this is across all races it isn't just a black man issue.
True but discussions like this is pulling up roots and it starts with ourselves. We can be the cream that rises to the top- as long as we stop accepting what’s beneath us. Dating isn’t that bad when you consider that, do your part and wait. The husband supposed to find us and we gotta know him when we see him. Happy dating!
Black men are not being raised for marriage...that's deep.
Im African born and it is interesting that continental African men aspire to marriage. When you arent married as a man at 30 or 35 yrs old people start asking you questions lol.
Facts. I been said this. They weren’t raised to be husbands nor active/good fathers.
“Hurting me with the truth is better than comforting me with a lie.” 💯‼️
Black men really been missing the mark for me. My own uncle told me to be open to dating outside my race but I didn’t listen until recently. Now I’m open to other races more than ever. More BW should explore their options if they want to get taken off the market. Just not enough healthy brothas to go around for us all & that’s fine by me. Great talk TG. I can appreciate the breakdown and the depth & the layers of this all 😯
Or for those who want to stick to their race try men from other nationalities. There are lots of black men all over the world.
Bye bye 👋
So true. I only had 1 american boyfriend in my life. American men not my type. They are least likely to get married as well
@@brandonwayne6131 I swear good riddances black women doing us a huge favor anyway lol.
Many black man aren’t raised and condition for marriage during their upbringing.
Many haven’t even been taught about true manhood and haven’t earned that right of passage into manhood (ie what their role is, protector, provider, financial stability etc…)
Many are stuck male phase, like literally just a male. It’s sad 😢
What is the solution?
And worse than all that, they won't bother to be truth seekers.
Same with you western women. You Thots are not wife material either lol
True. Some of us aren’t raised for marriage. I wish I was
We are now several generations of a growing majority of boys being raised by single mothers. And mothers cannot teach boys how to become men. Thus, the problem repeats itself and expands while doing so.
You want to fix the problem? Fathers need to be involved in their sons lives. This includes mothers stepping back and letting it happen. That's his child too.
I don't know if it's just me or what but black men aren't even into dating and going out anymore. Seems all they want to do is come to your house or / apartment watch movies crash eat up your food and then later on try to get you to have sex with them without putting out any dating efforts whatsoever. So with that said marriage is definitely nowhere on their horizon. No way no how. They're all about giving very little and minimal effort into being with any woman I assume.
Its not just you. Some just want to sit in your face but seem to want nothing romantic at all. Its really weird.
@@imanniway8820 Yes it really is.
Do you think it's because they're used to being fetishized, similar to Asian women? They probably want to do the least and expect the most in dating
@@memememmee7794 we are fetishized and its horrible.
@@anthonynosike I guess I thought of fetishized groups as having a much easier time, since they fulfill everyone's fantasy?
I didn't consider the downsides.
This video really made me want to cry from how true it is. I’m in my mid 20s and realizing this as I’ve become older is truly depressing. I’m just praying everyday that my life is protected.
The world is huge. There are many black men who are not afraid of marriage. Sky is the limit!
@@geneticnomad8720if there are many we would see it
Some men tend to say, "marriage is just a piece of paper"...
They are so concerned about the outer look of a woman and not looking for a woman with in character and standards
I've been single most of my life (age 45) and have dated men of all different ethnicities; Black, Latin, Asian, Native American and White...never met a Black or White man who didn't cheat.
Peace and Blessings unto you brother Tony and your family. Thank You for all you do for us.
Absorbing this word at 25, been listening since I was 23. Thankful for perspectives and advice like yours coming from a place of peace ,it's not many of them out there. Thank you sir for standing out, blessings to you always!
Best one yet. Be blessed! From Trinidad and Tobago 🇹🇹💯❤️
I haven't watched the video yet. But I'm sooo happy I married early cuz it seems sad out here. I don't even see nobody getting at nobody no more. Ppl just pass by each other and that wasn't the case back in the day and I'm only 29 but have definitely seen a difference from when I was younger until now. It's sooo sad. Maybe social media was the death of reality?
👏🏾👏🏾💯💯👏🏾👏🏾
💯🎯💯
BINGO!!!!
Word💀😪
This comment. 🤞🏾💯and I’m 29 too.
Black women collectively should raise their standards. No sex before marriage or at least serious commitment, get to know me as a friend first, pre-marital cousenling. lying, cheating, disrespect, lack of emotional intelligence= deal-breakers.
It’s so many moving parts to all of this. Good lesson Tony ✨
Thank you Tony this is so true …as a woman appreciate your transparency and insight this conversation is so enlightening!!!!! God bless
Because a lot of them aren’t marriage material. End of video.
I pray one day I get married and don’t have to settle. I’m open to grow with the right man but I don’t want to accept the bare minimum. Sometimes these messages are hurtful to hear and I have to take a break because I get triggered so many times. But I have been trying to nurture the part of me that settled the last time so it doesn’t happen again. Thank you to Mr. and Mrs. Gaskins showing that a good healthy marriage is possible.
Sis, so many of us are right there with you. It is very difficult out here but we gotta keep pressing on. 🙏🏼💕
I'm right there with you girl. ❤❤
TG, finally!!! You laid it out so well! Thank you so much for the work that you do.🙏🏽🙌🏾💯 This video will be shared MULTIPLE times.👑🤎🔥
“I ain’t telling you what I think” TG….. y’all better get this message 💜💜
I'm invited to a wedding every month. The ones that want to will
This too!!! I’m taking a SM break and I don’t have that many couple friends but I see a lot more black love IRL and it’s inspiring
@@mwright0428 The negative is always shown more than the positive on SM!
Sadly, not enough women require marriage before giving birth.
And not enough men require marriage before fertilizing an egg.
@@shellylen4582 We are in agreement: these men are not marrying women.
It goes both ways though
@@shutit4024, but she's a woman that's speaking to women and she's right, black women need to stop selling themselves short and settling. They first need self love and respect and get to know who they are first. Women in general make it to easy for men that's why they are not getting married because the women have very little standards and are willing to give a man wife benefits without them being a legit husband or fully committed and submitted to them. As my grandma use to say, why buy the cow when you getting the milk free. Black people in General, men and women need to fully surrender to JESUS CHRIST and he will bestow his gifts upon Them and restore them back to their rightful place as King, Queens, and Priests, After all they are his ROYAL FAMILY AND LINEAGE and don't even know or believe it. A ROYAL PEOPLE that are lost. The descendants of the children of Israel. Tribe of JUDAH. The CROWNS of GOD.
@@shutit4024 Exactly! What doesn’t go both ways is men being in the lives of their children after birth as women are.
These messages keep getting better and better! Truly eye opening 👏🏽
Thank you for sharing the Truth! We ladies need it. It is bring healing to the nations. Never stop sharing your God given knowledge.
Truest message ever spoke. Pass it on everyone 🙏💙
no lie here!
Tony, you nailed this one! You told the truth...stay bless!!😇
I said it once and I will say it again and again.
Tony.. You are doing the Lord's work..
God Bless You.
You know you don't have to apologize for being real. People call me a savage but never a liar.
I would like to see a video that's not giving the no Father's in the home excuse for why men are choosing not to get married or take care of families. There are plenty of BM with fathers in the home that are still not commitment minded or family oriented. And per their report they had great fathers, that were providers and protectors, but they are still choosing not to be. The simple answer is they don't see the value in marriage or want the responsibility. Men can get what they need without marriage period. And a few women closing their legs won't solve anything. It has to be a collective, but women are too busy competing with each other to work together.
I appreciate your truth telling. It takes much courage to share what’s inside - consistently at that. If you are cancelled, I’ll still listen. Lol
Wow, today hit different. TG, this was straight talk no chaser. You are the big brother I never had.
Thanks TG
I think hispanic men are the sweetest. They’re hard workers and are very giving to others. You see them on the street selling food and when you have a conversation with them, they are so humble and kind. A lot of black guys like to make fun of people and put others down with no remorse. Not all of course, but a lot do. I don’t see how they’re the nicest men.
I’m excited for your growth in production and setting your videos up in a way that elevates you and your family 🎉🎊. I also appreciate you still willing to do ‘old school’ style videos with you being able to be your authentic self. The many faces, impersonations, and lip smacks are TOP TIER!! Love the message and enjoyed the laughs.
Thank you! I pick up alot of the same energy I have, in men have. I see men checking me out like women, arguing like women, asking me how did I get that. These are career men too! Let me just say, some of these men arent just black men. I think the male dominant power of raising a men is truly missing.
This is one of the realest videos I have heard from Tony. Keep them coming Coach!
Hello December! Have a blessed & cheerful month BT! Blessings ✨️💫
“A man is a man, and every man comes with his own set of issues”‼️‼️
Keep Telling The Truth That’s What We Need In This Life Time.😊❤
Loved everything you shared! Thanks a million!
Eye opening!! I have dated/married other races and my own all my life. So insightful to hear - Ty!!
I am over here dying🤣........who told this man about "the fupa" though! 😂I'm getting the message too. Bless ✌
I had to Google it 🤣🤣
Thank you!! Stay honest!! I ain't mad at you.
As always, perfect message! Stay Blessed 🙏🏼
You just elaborated and put into words and delivered exactly all I thought about life in this aspect of black man white man dynamics, relationships, etc. And I a have never been in America either. God bless you. You know things that I unusually know too.
Just popped in listening as I’m driving! I’m sure this will be another great piece of great information and advice from Tony. The best out there. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Yes, love to listen when driving or listening at work.
My goodness what a Word! Listened to this again.
Me too!!
@@dublingirl1691 🙌🏽
Thank you for what you are doing. It is truly appreciated. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Be blessed sir.
I’m convinced Tony seen my face when he said black men are the nicest men you will ever meet 😆. Good video. I agree a lotta people are confused from media and not having good examples in the home or parents that are teaching.
After much water wading and mountain climbing, I will open up another, race, nationality, or culture. All men will get the same scrutiny tho.
Mine too. I can't count the number of nice blacken Ive met one one hand... 2
@@shellylen4582 Lol, I’m right there with you. I’ve met 1 and a possible in my life.
@@akilahbatyah6505
Like a bad spades hand... 🤣
Thank you for always telling the truth mister Gaskins! You've given this 20-year old young woman hope for mankind🙏🏼💙
I loved your video that tells women to say all questions aren’t good questions. Like yes, why tell all of your business to a stranger
These videos are life changing.
Thank you so much for this message ♥️🙏🏾.
Yes, it's great having both parents in the home!! In a healthy relationship between them.
Amazing message! 👏 TY
Thanks for this message Tony because it is much needed. I agree that some black men and black women have not been raised in a two parent home. Back in the day it is was more black marriage at that time then it is now. Black men don't understand the importance of being marry and how it important it bring the generation gap of wealth. Most black women do want to be marry to black men but in some cases they are not ready or don't ever want to be because they have got to comfortable and some don't want the responsibility. Black women will have to venture out into other races of men. Until black men see the importance of marriage and these unrealistic expectations of marriage. Then black women will have to look beyond just having a black husband.
That was a very very good teaching with a lot of nuggets.
OMG..... YES, THIS IS THE REALIST VIDEO EVER BEEN MADE! You are speaking nothing but TRUTH and FACTS! I'm glad you're honest enough to give it to us straight and you never seem to fail with your delivery.
ENORMOUS THANK YOU!!!
No apologies necessary. Keep on keeping it real ❤
Thank you so much for this ! Such wise insight. ❤🙏🏽
1 minute and 30 seconds in and I'm already chuckling 😅 Good stuff!
Tony gasket I thank God everyday that you exist. I thank God that he is pouring his words into your mouth... we are listening to you... and hearing you...God will continue to bless you.
The foot comment got me! 😆 🤣
...Then the pro-athelete thing, and the consistency with the sock.
Grateful for your honesty 🙏🏽❤️
I'm Blessed to know my father, 1950s man. One of my life's immaterial goals is for him to see things work out for me. My faith in God is strong, and my father looks up to me for it. I can, I will, I must: be financially free, be married, be a father.
Ok somebody else like ET! Glad to see ya here!
MUCH RESPECT to you and your father!
@@hymnodyhands thank you very much. The past 8 years (age 28 - 36) has helped me to see how rare it is that a black man knows his father and the strange systems in place to keep us all divided (father | son | daughter | mother). I'm thankful that I can share with people, both offline & online, parts of my family life & history. I was previously aware through Pop Warner football and growing up along with everyday people that black families are sometimes broken, but in my latter 20s I was exposed to how widespread the issue is. I'm thankful to be a living example that black fathers & sons being in good fellowship, even in imperfections, are real.
Amen. 🙌🏾
@@lauramapani3627 🙌🙌
You are so awesome. Thanks, yes, God is using you
Hello Mr. Gaskins,
I looked at this video and it was the truth. It had me really thinking. God bless you.
Hey Tony this is the kitchen table. It's in depth and the message is delivered. Then we got like the car Chronicles and others and they're awesome as well. We're good, your wisdom reaches regardless. God bless you and your family.
When you're working on yourself or going through some things marriage is not the focus. For me I just don't want to be bothered if I'm going through some things.
Understandable
I’m the same way, especially if I’m trying to fix things in my own life.
Facts! And like you said it’s a season. When we get done working on ourselves the desire will come back because God created us for love and companionship.
@@mwright0428 perfectly said.💜
@@mwright0428 Amen!!❤❤
This is another topic that needs to be discussed. I'm on lunch enjoying this. Thanks Tony.
Thank you, Tony! Men who are real, and authentic will stab you in the chest. And Tony, you definitely did that with nothing but the TRUTH!
Just because, thanks for all you do.
yes please make a video on men in waiting because we need help too
💯💫🙌 No need to apologize you haven't told one lie! The truth will set you free drop the🎤💥
Keep speaking the truth Tony 💪🏾
very, very, very informative video. thanks Tony
FACTS!!! Love this video. 🎉
Always on point Tony.
You stepping Bro Tony, but tell it ‼️💯❤️ 🎯 point Blank period
Listen youare a very intelligent receptive young man. And hilarious. You're sense of humor is so wonderful and honest and from history and facts and being able to put it all together to help folks is a true gift. Keep it up. I am a very white single mom business owner and I can appreciate this difference in perspective homey.
Thanks for this perspective. It certainly helped me rethink mine. Black women don't have to consider their marriage pool limited to black men as you mentioned. Whatever they choose, women definitely do need to prepare themselves for marriage. "The cream rises to the top." Where is God in all of this? I think the hurting and unconfident black men and women need to consider the source of healing. Pursue relationship with God first. He'll heal and prepare you and your mate for each other.
Facts! Ima screen record these points to share.
I have to be honest, Tony....lol, I really didn't think you would be this real, considering, I believe your audience to be diverse. All that to say, I appreciate you keeping it 💯 all the way....keep up the good work, and may God continue to bless you, your family, and your ministry
It really sounds that regardless of what race they come from they all need work on themselves. We need to become experts on recognizing the red flags 🚩🚩🚩 Tony teaches the red flags to watch out for, and I am so much the wiser now.
I was blessed to have met my husband when I was 33. He has since passed away. The one man I dated, since his passing some years ago, was a hot mess! 🥴😖
this so true being married twice to black men who came from single parent homes, I just wish more of this information was out there in the 1990 early 2000 I'm getting married again my choices will be so much better, I'd would advise if you wanted to get married, please really pay very close attention to your partners up bring seek professional marriage counseling not one session but multiple sessions over a long period of time
the truth will set you free he desires truth in our inner man keep pounding mighty man
“Black men are the nicest men in the world “.
As a Black woman who have dated men from different backgrounds, that is not only facts, it is TRUTH.
We really do have the best men in the universe. Love this message Tony.
POWERFUL 💥
I think it's the generational cycles of racism, abuse, and trauma that makes black men not marry as others do. I truly do agree that black men are nice indeed.
This is a whole lie‼️‼️‼️‼️ this hit to be a man posting this comment
What lol? Y’all are now gaslighting yourselves! You don’t believe that.. please tell me you don’t lol
@@itsHappening-ry2ef why do you think its a lie?? Its not like we were ever racist and enslaved most of the worlds population like......
If ya the nicest then why is the HIV rates so high in BW. Last year I took care of a woman that is pregnant and during her routine exam found out she was HIV positive because of her long term Boyfriend sleeping behind her back with other men and women. Now the child has to take HIV test from birth every month until 1 years of age. Explain to me how is that being nice? If BM are so nice why is the marriage rates so low? If BM so nice why are single mother rates so high? If BM are so nice why do they dangle marriage in the face of BW who they know want to get married. A BM will be with a BW forever even have kids with her but never marry her every year he promises to marry her but he knows he will only make her an enternal GF. How is that nice? The cheating, physical and emotional abuse, and being financially cheap to the women they are with how is that being nice?
You are talking about what I've thought about but thought I must be mistaken. Thanks for the confirmation!
That is true, black men are some of the nicest and giving.
You are speaking truth. And you crack me with the story tell8ng. You are great. So great. I am miserable and don't want to be single but I always am. I het mad at men for not doing what I want when I want. Lots of pain behind it, not getting what I want from relationships with a man. My soul mate died before we could get married and it started with that 23 years ago. Anyway. You are so smart. I like listening to your shows.
I’m in my early 20s so all I can do is speak on my experience but yea I’ve noticed this. I’ve have gut feelings like relationships aren’t for me especially since I’ve never been in one, until recently for some reason I have been desiring one and have been trying to talk myself out of it because most of the black guys I like , end up liking non-black women which is fine but then I ask myself why am I liking them? It got so frustrating earlier this year to the point where I was just had a mindset that I shouldn’t like black men because most of them like non black women and if he does like black women she has to look a certain way(which again is fine but frustrating when you have feelings for them). I mean I remember my freshman year of college (i go to a hbcu) and there would be a few white girls on campus and they would get snatched up so quick. I just realized that I don not like this feeling of wanting a romantic relationship and that I want to go back to how I used to be (not caring for a relationship/men) and focus on me because it was really messing with my mental and how I felt being a black woman
The black men liking non black women is heavy in the south!! I noticed when I do get approached they are from The East Coast. East Coast black men tend to still like black women. I mostly attract Chicago and New York men!
REMEMBER: God made eight billion people on this earth... plenty of men available. Prepare yourself to receive WHOEVER God chooses for you. It is a process... but go to the Lord and do the work so the state of many Black men does not cause you to despair.
Yeah I’ve noticed this too. Most successful non-ghetto black men tend to date and marry non black women. It’s sad that the appreciation of the beauty of a proper black woman (not light skin/bi-racial/blonde Beyonce), but some one dark skin with Afro hair is not appreciated to the same extent by a lot of black men.
But focus on yourself girl, the right one will come when the time is right. Be open to guys who might not be physically your perfect type, attraction is important, but attraction of the heart and soul go way beyond skin colour.
@@planetChristie definitely!! Also in Ohio and Boston. I heard DC as well.
@@hymnodyhands Amen!!
Because they can get the milk for free... too many women willing to lay down on their backs with no expectations. A man gets his needs filled. I know because I love a black man and see what he does. There is so much immorality in the world.
Exactly
You're jusr a misogynist. "Laying on their backs" hasnt affected other races of women from getting married. These men are not raised to be husbands. Its that simple.
THANK YOU TONY ‼️
You are correct sir! 🙏
Great video. My choice is to be my best me & locate my beautiful woman of God to marry and have children. Compared to my background, demographic, surroundings which involves: settling, delaying & avoiding marriage, living together, being married but not working toward the best marriage & family that you can have, etc.
Thanks!
People should date or marry whom they feel is the person for them, be it black, white, yellow, blue or whatever. As long as they're both not broken people and want the same things. Too many people just don't take the time or are even willing to start working on themselves and to heal from whatever brokenness that they carry. Unfortunately too many men, especially black men don't want to do the work of healing, so how can they know what marriage looks like, a healthy marriage. So if you're looking to get married, find someone who has done the same healing work as you, they're race shouldn't matter, that's all I'm saying.
This new generation of thugs are not always looking out for the sisters neither 💯
Good stuff Tony👏🏽