Ship Life: Dating
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- čas přidán 21. 08. 2024
- When working onboard a cruise ship, you will most likely get very close to many people. However, when it comes to relationships, there are completely different challenges than on land.
Crew members may date other crew members, but fraternizing with passengers is prohibited. If your significant other or family are onboard your ship, as long as you get special permission from the higher-ups, you may be allowed to go into their passenger cabins, or even bring them into crew areas. Just make sure you know your allowances before doing something that could get you fired.
Somehow I watched this entire video....even though I dont work on a cruise ship.
tominator3 me too lol
My goal is to work on a cruise ship
me too
Ugh I am 16 min into this video and I have zero intention of working on a ship😂
“If you think dating is hard on land... Good luck!” 😅
My boyfriend and I are engaged before he went to work on a cruise ship with the goal of earning money for our wedding... We were together for 6years. 6 long years...but just 4months on board, he simply broke up with me through chat saying he doesnt know himself anymore and that he banged a coworker. This is probably the most painful year of my life. All my efforts of supporting him emotionally and financially were forgotten in an instant. Now I conclude, ship life is cruel. Even married men and women do casual sex on board with coworkers. I had so much faith on our love. But shiplife won. The pain is just too much. 😢 I am literally in tears while writing this comment. Its been a month since he broke up with me like I was nothing to him. It hurts so fucking bad. 😔😢
Gene Kersee Soldevilla I cannot imagine the slightest of what you are feeling. I wish you the best in life, people like you deserve infinite happiness. Stay strong!
oh girl, I feel you. I am sorry for you. I can imagine how hard it must be. But I wish you all the luck, all the love and happiness to pursuit a new love and to move on with your life. I have someone for 8 years now and I’m going to work on a cruise ship in three months and I am aware ship’s life is tough and unpredictable but regardless what I do or what I feel I intend to come back on land and proceed with my life and my babe because the support I’m receiving is huge and I will not disappoint or abandon my babe like this because I know how painful is gonna be... you will be fine. It hurts like hell but you will get over it. God bless you and help you on it. Focus on yourself!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Love the same is happening to me.
My gf is getting involved with someone on the ship just 1 week after the contract and she is changed.
1 week ago she was loving missing me ecc
Now that she is on the ship she changed her mind
Brother you say exacly what it is.
I brought my gf to italy after my 1 contract with carnival cause that was not an healty life and environment.
Spent thousand and thousand for this relatioship and now that she just started her contract i noticed that something is happening cause i clearly know how it works in there and i told her to refuse fuckers on board to protect our story but ive been accused of insicurity and jealousy
Few days ago she was missing me saying come here to work and now magically she say 'you don't own me '
I was really fighting for this relationship to take care of my gf,but as i knew before even telling her to don't fall in traps onboard,she just trow our story away for somebody that just met her trying to get some sex in the dirty cabins of that ship.
I knew all this would happen and your words confirm all i always tought and told to everybody.
Thank u brother
I feel so miserable even until now 😢 its like I was just a piece of garbage to him. We had so many plans for our future 😢 I am a filipina, I may not be as pretty as anybody else but I respect my body so well that I need not to have my nose done just to be beautiful.. my fiance slept with a Thai waitres, single mom, with a fake nose and is outrageously aggresive (would go to his cabin uninvited, drunk just to flirt and convince him to have sex). He himself told me about how completely opposite she was from me and how dirty the woman was and that he will never sleep with her.. but he failed. He slept with her. He gave himself up to her. They even dated 😢 One day I woke up and I received a chat from him saying he’s done with me and that they are together already.. with photos of them eating and sleeping together 😔😢
Yes, I admit. I wasnt a perfect fiance to him. We sometimes fight over the phone because I was also in the adjustment stage of the LDR thing. Both of us.. but I guess sleeping with other girl just to hurt me back isnt right 😔 its just not so right. We were so inlove.. but shiplife and sex won 😢
wow man, you are so detailed that at the end of your video am just like, "thanks. no further questions"
relation ships
Relationboats.
You make me want some coffee... I don’t even drink coffee
also, I watched this whole video.. I don’t even work at a cruise or ever plan to but I found it soooooo interesting lol
Me too hahaha
Yes that's true. I meet my husband on my first contract,We've stayed together 5 years on the ship ,and now we have 21 years together. My room mate that time a chinese girl ,start dating the dinning room manager,and now they are still together after 22 years ,with a kid together.
I worked on board italian cruise ships from 2014 to 2017 and found your videos by chance... now they're making me kinda nostalgic. I love your content and love the way you speak :)
I agree 100% with you Sean. Privacy is a huge deal on board.
Just wonderful, I have been researching "working on carnival cruise ships" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Jiyrianna Peyadelyn Plan - (do a google search ) ? Ive heard some incredible things about it and my friend got amazing results with it.
Wise advice
I was employed 2 years on transoceanic cargo ships
Your "dating affair" will be known and broadcasted from ship's end to end within days
And some are reminded about "marriage" when he or she returns to port!
Dating 101
Dating on a cruise ship ,visiting beautiful locations together , partying all the time doesn’t transfer well to land, staring at each other across the kitchen table as the rain splatters against the window on a Tuesday morning after getting up for work.
You have to think that the cruise lines are deathly afriad of a guest accusing a crew member of rape, no matter what the circumstances.
I worked on cruise ships for 3 contracts. Everything you say in this video is completely true! It's so hard to explain all this to people on land. They can't understand that you're in a relationship, even though you're on a ship for just a couple of weeks... The way you perceive time on board is just so completely different.
Amazing vid! A lot of thanks for keeping everything straight forward. Was just looking at ship work/jobs and a video started playing and the realism kept me watching!
Dating on the cruise ship is easyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy. Why? Because most of the women are single, and if they are attached, they are thousands of miles away and have no idea what is going on. The ship is got say 1200 crew. About 400 will be women but, 70 % of the crew is Asian and tend to stick by themselves. So the ratio is 60/40 even 50/50. The women are gorgeous. I have met so many nice women on the ship as friends even. It doesn't mean you are having sex with them, its just nice to socialize with them.
This was very eye-opening on this subject and I thought you explained it VERY well. Thank you.
Great insight mate and a great video. Of course you're a videographer! I've worked on ships on and off for five years and my biggest issue is how rife infidelity is on ships. You touched on it briefly but what is hardest for me is trust. I dated a girl for two months and then she dropped me for her 'boyfriend' who I knew nothing about. Turns out, the boyfriend also had a wife and two kids at home and she was his side hustle which she was perfectly fine to be.
Hi Sean I know a guy who left his wife and 5 kids at home to go work on a cruise ship and he never came back ... well to them anyway ... He met a Jamaican girl on the ship and married her had 2 kids with her and went Jamaica to live ... That was 15 yrs ago
I don't doubt it at all.
His home life probably sucked. The cruise ship gig was his way of escape.
I've never been on a cruise ship but I might be on one hopefully soon to work as a musician. Your videos are very informative. Thanks.
You are a great storyteller. You could narrate a TV reality show about people working on a cruise ship.
I'm going to a music school in August and cruise ships are a good job opportunity in the future. :)
you get it ?
Sounds like dating in a dorm but worse lol
Rena Farlow exactly
Very insightful, thanks for posting this because I was curious. I just became a subscriber and I’m looking forward to seeing your videos.
So crazy to hear! Starting my first contract soon so good to know
Epic Coconut I hope you have a great contract! What position? Let me know how it is when you get there :)
I'm actually a beauty therapist, so my position would be at the spa! I'm in London now for some training which I'm super nervous and excited for! I'll definitely will let you know how it is. Thanks for getting back to me :D really cool x
Epic Coconut I am so wishing to get a guest service Job on board.
Sean Price Made it on to Royal Caribbean Voyager of the Seas
Epic Coconut how have you adjusted?
0:49
Have crew members been with guests?
Yes
Do they get fired?
*YES!*
I just discovered your channel and inmmediately suscribed. The way you express yourself and make those sentences is awesome. Greetings from Mexico :)
Why is Seth Green doing a video on cruise ship dating?
Ha ha! He does resemble Seth Green!
Try mark Pellegrino. Lucifer in supernatural
So good lol
That's true man! I worked several years aboard cruise ships and every time I had a relationship, it followed the same pattern. Besides, the competition to get a girl onboard is brutal! The good thing about this competition, for me, was that I developed great skills to pick up girls at home. :)
I'm going to work on a cruise too. And the thing I'm most afraid is this brutal competition people keep talking about, coz there's always more men :/. I mean I really suck at finding dates on land I feel like I'm gonna have a nodate contract.
Have you ever had a roommate you didn't get along with?
Brianne Braud fortunately no. But I knew people who did. It can be rough. If it gets bad enough you go to your management and tell them you have to move. And it will take some time, but they can get you into a new room with a new roommate
I'm going to a job fair, info presentation next week for Norwegian. Been watching some of these vids, reading etc. Love your style. Some good info that I wouldn't have thought about. Kudos!
Kiefer Thomas I just signed up for one of their job fairs as well, good luck mate!
@@singularity1676 Right on! You too buddy.
I’ve just finished my first contract and I’ve got the exactly the same thoughts!
About privacy: I took a cruise that had a stop in Mare, New Caledonia. About the only thing to do in Mare is go to Yejele Beach (which is beautiful BTW). So while I was there--along with most of the other passengers from the ship--I saw that one of the entertainment staff (a man) was there with a woman who worked in one of the shops. ALL DAY passengers were coming up to them to say hello and chat for a few minutes. I felt so badly for them. I'm sure they just wanted to enjoy the beach together, but passengers would not leave them alone.
Such a pity really as there ashore time is especially limited. I have never worked on a cruise ship and I know crew are not garanteed ashore time at the ports they choose.
Just Captain and directors can flirt with gests
That's good news for me
You know what I mean?
Sounds like a big challenge and sounds a little bit sad for couples who are going to start working in this business. Good video by the way
I did a few years on ships. Your stories are spot on.
How is dating for gay employees on cruise ships? Are they treated differently? Are co-workers homophobic on other employees?. I know there are lot of gay employees working on the ships. I also know there are a-lot of employees that are from not so gay friendly countries.
Work on a Disney cruise ship. Disney is big on hiring gays.
How I can apply job
Maybe not homophobic but surely doesn't wanna sit through his roomate buddy getting busted out bareback in the same cabin I'm sure..lol
I work for cruise ships for long time and it is not allowed any type of discrimination regarding religion, traditions, nationality or sexual choices.
i really enjoy watching your video, thank you for sharing your experience
Thanks for the story about cruise ship relationships 💙🤍💜
It's really none of a company's business who you date.
Yeah but no company wants to hear afterwards that customers wont come back because they got banged in an elevator
@@davgg9621 They might come back for some sloppy seconds.
Dude. Do you have social media? You have a great voice to tell stories.
Thank you so much for the information. I will start my first contract next month btw.
Renata Aritonang That’s awesome! Keep me posted on your adventures!
Technical you could easily date your roommate without letting anybody know.
Very true, a good reflection on the realities.
Great video! You speak very well.
Time on a cruise ship drags like nothing else. Each day feels like a week.
How long is contracts for?!?! I'm fascinated by this
Your there for one reason only...Job first!!! This should not be permitted. Your personal life is on hold... It's a job and you just happened to be living there with room and board. Thank you
Just seeing this-never worked for a cruise line although am an avid cruiser. This looks sooo much like military in terms of being stationed at a isolated location with limited amount of people. High divorce rates-as once they leave these areas and are back into mainstream with a smorgasbord of people-they leave those relations they developed in those isolated areas.
28:32 if you think dating is hard on land.......good luck. epic lol
In the Navy, you have all of that plus all the fraternization rules about dating people of different ranks.
I was dating a colombian girl after 6 months onboard she went completely crazy , lots of anxiety n suddenly drinking everyday my suggestion would be really never get into a serious relationship
...No...just never with a Colombian girl...they are fickle....and can't make up their minds....
Awesome information and funny at the same time.
Do you see what he means?
"Dating"
Every word is true.
He went to shit
Heee goottt fired 😂😂😂
The way u speak, superrbb😍
My wifes Aunt does arts and crafts and her and her husband have been doing it for a few years now. They really enjoy the Ship life. Being they are well into retirement age, her job is more of a perk than an actual job. Her contract is pretty custom made and considered a specialty job. Much like booking a band or something.
Its a specific cruise liner and probably arranged through a friend. I worked in a hotel and to me working a cruise line would be pretty much like working at a hotel. A high end hotel no doubt, but yeah. Lots of college age kids for sure work those jobs. I started as a dish washer at a hotel and worked my way into a maintenance person after going into a bus person job, then moving into a Top tier bus person job, then because I got to know the staff and during the winter slower months was offered a maintenance position when it became available. I knew hotel work pretty much from all aspects by the time I got out of the business of working at hotels. Dating was difficult in a hotel environment too. Most were college age kids, working their way through, then leaving. I met my wife while working the Hotel.
Interesting talks! I have been contemplating working in a cruiseship and I've passed the Fleet interview and tomorrow is my Principal's interview. So I'll see if cruiseship is for me..... I've been working land based in Middle east and it was great. So I don't know what I will expect in Cruiseship
Miss Angela how did it go? Did you decide?
great video man, thank you.
If it's in the contract why are people making these decisions 😂
These videos are soo goood Man.
What if I dont want to date anyone? I am anxious but excited about this as well. No privacy is pretty bad though, .. at least was it worth it for the money? Thanks
I think it was worth the money, yes. It was worth it for 3 contracts for me.
@@CoffeeWithSean What are you doing now for a living ?
Bob Shaw I live in North Carolina and I work for Spectrum Reach in digital advertising
@@CoffeeWithSean Thanks for your reply . Small world I'm a Spectrum customer .
Bob Shaw haha that’s awesome. Well if you ever watch on the Spectrum TV app, those commercials come through me and my team
I think that the best thing is to be single on a cruiseship. imaging being in a relationship with someone off the ship and not being able to see them for 6 months? oh hell no!
@1:28 Moral of the story, if you do it do it smart.
@3:08 At least they should be smart about it.
Red Phoenix many cruises, many flings. As a passenger. Don’t be stupid, be VERY discreet. Very discreet. Sneaky, actually. None got fired, no one knew. Fun, really fun. I still have very fond memories.
People trust and send their better half.. In return they get cheated... Not only that person behave as though.. Their own wife or husband is way lower than the person they are sleeping with... Families break. It's just not good for weak and lusting hearted.. Don't send your better half if you find them bit changed.... Just don't.. Money is not everything.. Family is precious.
That’s pretty crap, imagine the honeys wanting to have fun.
One thing I thought of regards meeting co workers, what happens to the men who work mechanically, engine room, fitters and plumbers, which is an area where you rarely find any women at all.
My wife and I are entertainers, what do you think about that? What advise do you have ?
Jose Angel Gonzalez That’s a very ambiguous question. Do you have any specific questions?
I love your videos!
i didn’t skip not one second
I thought about working on a cruise ship until I saw an undercover documentary about how these ships with flags of convenience (eg:Malta) can end up paying you LESS THAN minimum wage and get away with it. Sounds like it really isn't worth all the hard work and long hours if the pay is so bad.
You answered my hypothetical question in the description damn you
There's alot of places that have a fast forward button .... It's a bit like dog years ! Saying goodbye must really suck
hey thanks for the videos! so i want to work on a cruise ship as an activities host, but i’m 18 so i have some time to gain experience. what kind of experience do you recommend i try to get? i know it’s not your exact position, but you were in entertainment. thank you !!
Anna Lohr hey. I think you should look into workin at summer camps. I worked At summer camps every summer during college. It gives you experience with activities and with kids. And a good second choice could be working on ships ad youth staff. If it’s hard to find an activities job. And then once you have ship experience you can move into activities staff.
Honestly ship is for earning and saving money not for pleasure and FUCK around specially you in a relationship.. loyalty and respect ✊
How do people get caught? I mean, is there someone constantly lookint at cameras looking for the crew going in the guests' rooms?
Luciano Classical Guitar yes. There is a department called Surveillance and it’s their job to monitor all the cameras. They work sort of in tandem with security
That's crazy!
I have another question, my buddy is working as a musician on a cruise ship right now and met a cute girl. He's docking on a port for 2 days or something, and the girl wants to get a room for them at night IN the city. Is this still illegal? Or once they are not on the ship these rules don't apply?
Luciano Classical Guitar tell him not to tell anyone and he should be fine. It is still against the rules. But in that situation he is much less likely to be caught.
LOL! worked on ships for years. Yep, it's a fishbowl. And crew really loves to gossip. I apparently was have sex on the couch in crew bar with someone when acutally We were sitting on separate couches separated by couch ends just having a talk and finishing our drinks after the afternoon open bar hours. Not even nighttime! That was horrible to have walk that gauntlet.
But I made great friends and had some great romance too. Great adventures. Cruise ships really make or break you. ON a lot of levels.
But rule one was know what you want. Do you want surface level? Then I looked for someone that was ending contract soon. You don't want someone hanging around in puppy love with you and you can't get away. There was always another relationship trainwreck happening that would serve as cautionary tale for other crew.
But fun topic and video. Very insightful.
it is not true about privace or can you hide dating of course you can if you want and know how to do, i was 2 yrs in relation but who cares about us we were not share that around
Bro, I've seen many crew sleeping with guest which didnt get fired...mostly from photo department...cant believe you've never seen that 😂
Thanks for Ur video! I feel U big time (i got 7 contracts on ships).
Like the saying goes, "Don't sh** where you eat". - BTW has anyone ever told you, You look like Deeks from NCIS:LA?
"Like the saying goes, "Don't sh** where you eat". " That is completely unrelated, ridiculous self-censorship.
For 6 months straight? Sure.
omg deeks yeeeees!! and i was wondering who he reminds me
well I'm a child of a 2nd engineer officer and a passenger who met up in the ship in 1981. They married and had me 2 years later. Back old days where better.
Are you able to get a job on a cruise ship if you have visible tattoos?
Papaya Papatya yes. But depending on the job and depending on where exactly that tattoo is. If it’s on your face. No. But I have one on my forearm and I was just fine. The Crew who worked in the Spa were not allowed to have visible tattoos. What job were You thinking?
what about a barber interested in working in a barbershop with a straight razor tattoo on his hand? ha great videos by the way, very informative
Bryce Wootton You would have to ask for special permission by the spa company. Unfortunately; the spa companies aren’t looking for cool hip stylists and fun interesting employees. They are looking to fill a mold so that guest service is the number one priority, not their employees.
What about deck officers are they strict on the tattoos that they have/ where they have tattoos?
Do all officers onboard have their own room deck and engine?
Connor Harvey everyone with Officer status gets their own cabin
max power, hilarious
@@johnfitton2399 yes they get their own cruise itself
I really enjoy the honesty’
dating is a headache these days
What the heck man? %30 women? What we gonna do then? Fight over a girl with parachute flares?
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"THE FIRST GIRL i dated was from Holand" 5:50 Playa
Hell no, cant believe that someone can find a luv on crui ship😂
working on a cruise is not much different working on a traveling carnival, were like a small city and gossip is even worst than a soap opera
Lol , you look like Lucifer from Spn series hahah
From an old seafarers the sin is not on doing it the sin is getting caught
When it comes to crew dating, what are most companies policies on an Officer or Supervisor dating crew? Is it permitted so long as they are not in your department or directly under your supervision? Or are Officers forbidden from fraternizing with crew? Would suck if your an officer rank and only choice is other officers.
ThGreatFandango good question. I never really heard any rules about it. For me it seemed anyone could date anyone. But the direct supervisor thing sounds right. If I had to guess I would say that’s the big rule. Can’t date your direct subordinance
you know what I mean....?
U know what I mean??
How to apply the cruise ship for job?
Dude u look tired..like deadly exhausted I could tell from the name of your channel 😶
I was about to say the same thing, he look tired.
This never happens to me. Maybe for the better.
What about a 3rd wheel or a 3some? LOL
omt07 I’m sure it happens. No one invited me though haha
Better not to have any relationship at all.