Being Non-Binary & Trans (LGBTQ+) In South Africa (Soft-Spoken ASMR)
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- čas přidán 6. 07. 2024
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Non-binary & trans in Africa: Living as non-binary &/or trans (LGBTQ+) in South Africa
TIME STAMPS!!!
0:00 Intro & history of being non-binary (LGBTQ+) in Mzantsi
10:42 Gender pronouns in South Africa explained
19:06 Being a member of the LGBTQI community in South Africa
23:10 Being gay in other African countries (Uganda & Zimbabwe)
25:42 Conclusion & outro
Thanks for watching.
Please, please, please more wisdom wednesdays on topics of your choice. You're a great presenter, so calm and collected, no drama. Like a balm. I will check out the channels you mentioned and Shanspeare: she's such a bright star!
Yes, definitely!!
From a non-binary follower, it makes me so happy to hear you cover LGBTQ issues in such a respectful and informed way. I loved learning about Xhosa singular vs. plural they/them pronouns!
I haven’t even watched the video yet (went straight to the comments section first 😅) but I’m also nonbinary and happy to see an ASMRtist I really like make a video about this topic.
@@TBSxDRUMS yeah lol it’s always a gamble of like, “will this be a feel-good video or one that stomps on my soul? guess I’ll roll the dice!”
Grateful for Cyve and the way she always finishes off my day with a little affirmation💞
I went straight to the comments because I was so worried 😭
Same!! This is the best thing since Scottish Murmurs inclusive intro
I thought Cyve was about to come out to us I was like yassss ahaha
as a trans person living in a very conservative area, i really really appreciate you taking the time to not only educate people about lgbt topics, but to do so in a respectful and educated way❤️
i love your username
South Africa is very progressive laws and constitution wise but the actual people are still very conservative and I think access to better education and exposure is what’s missing- even in affluent areas.
I live in the suburbs and the people around me aren’t that intolerant, so I’m not really in the closet but my safety and peace of mind comes first. I avoid potentially putting myself at risk.
Edit: I’m just really proud at how serious the South African government takes unlearning what was put on to us due to apartheid and colonialism
Better education will also prove how much of a bs this non binary is tbh.
@@maribart4237 if you don't understand it, say that. Calling it "bs" makes you sound silly
@@maribart4237 just say you’re transphobic and go
unfortunately homophobia has existed throughout human history, perpetrated by all races, skin colours, religions and non-religions. we almost dont exist in the history books, at all. if we look through 5000 years of recent human history, we either dont exist, or were killed or shunned if identified. only in rare instances to we have any proof that gay people were not treated that way, but its only in certain areas for small pockets of time . stay out there. i hope one day lgbt will have our own country like every one else, where there's more safety
@@maribart4237 Better education might show you the gender binary was acually an invention of English Puritanism that was forced upon the colonies during the era of the British empire, with many indigenous cultural understandings of gender being stamped out
*I nearly melted into the surface I was sitting on at **1:30** when you pronounced the FULL name of who we call here in the states, Nelson Mandela. You said it so magnificently and beautifully that it created so many tingles. Plus I never knew Mandela’s full name was so long! Exceptional video.*
I had no idea either! The sound of his full name is so beautiful.
It’s actually not long , the first part of what she said was a honorific , his real name is Rolihlahla Mandela ( Nelson is the English government name given to him because Africans were forced to have English names during apartheid times)
i'm studying abroad in SA this semester and as a member of the LGBT community this video was helpful, thank you ❤️
have fun!
The mosquito spray made me laugh when you were like "OH GOD" lol
Sociology stuff like this is super interesting to me, especially this topic since I was raised by gay women in the 90s in the middle of the U.S. and growing up to be bi and nonbinary myself. Seems like it's always a person-to-person reaction to someone else everywhere, huh?
THANK YOU for showing that you can be religious while still supporting the lgbtq+ community! i just know this is going to mean a lot to a lot of people.
Not only was this well-presented, researched, and put together - it’s so relaxing! I would love to see more like this. I’m a queer person living in the USA so seeing LGBTQ history cross over with ASMR explicitly is cool as hell! Amazing video!!
The mosquito part was hilarious! 😆 Great video
As a nonbinary viewer, it made me happy to hear you speaking on lgbt issues so respectfully ❤️ it’s interesting how languages and cultures work so differently. I love watching your videos. This was a nice surprise :) thank you lots!
I’m transgender so one of my favorite creators covering the topic of LGBT people, makes me really happy. Thank you for being so inclusive and informative as always. ❤️
This was so insightful! Being LGBT, its so interesting learning about what is it like in other countries for other members of the community! Edit to add: I would love more videos on current affairs! That would be wonderful!
As a nonbinary trans person this was a treat to watch!! Thanks so much for being inclusive and for talking about queer issues in your culture :D
In finnish language, we have the same kind of structure with pronouns. We only have "hän" which is gender neutral and could be used for a man, a woman or someone in between ✨
The same for Filipino
this got me thinking that i speak Siswati and a handful of other african languages and gender is implied in many of those. its so normal for me that the only time i interrogate it is when i am speaking German ( which is my dad;s native language ) and mine of course.
moi toinen suomalainen!
For the chinese language female and male pronouns are pronounced exactly the same but its written differently!!
There’s an HBO documentary I watched with my parents called The Legend of the Underground, it’s about Nigerian LGBT+ men who flee their country to escape discrimination & persecution. I thought it would be fitting for this topic, I recommend checking it out if anyone is interested in learning more about the kinds of persecution the LGBTQ+ faces. A quick warning: this documentary does contain some violence
Thank you for talking about this topic! I appreciate it!❤️🌈
I really like the idea of having Wisdom Wednesday! I love learning about your culture and hearing your perspective, and I personally really love informative ASMR videos.
Thank you for this video, as a member of the lgbtq community i think what you're doing is wonderful work and so important.
this is so interesting!! (not normally a commenter, but i wanted to show my support for you and this topic) :)
edit: would love to see more wisdom wednesday videos like this!! whatever you'd wanna to talk about, i'd listen
All of this is pretty interesting linguistically speaking. As a translator I face lots of difficulties when trying to translate the "new" or better said, updated terminology regarding gender issues and LGBTQ+ issues. Just the pronouns thing is a whole mess since in my language and many others there are no neutral pronouns, they're all gendered.😅
Yes especially in Spanish for example you can’t even use a plural pronoun because those are also gendered.
@@fighterflight I don't know Spanish well, but I know it somehow; there are a masculine word “humano” and a feminine word “persona”; both of them can be used to refer to humans regardless of their gender. So it could be said both “El humano es alto. Él es de 2 metros.” and “La persona es alta. Ella es de 2 metros.”, and similarly in plural, about anybody of any gender because the pronouns would refer to them as the the “humano” or “persona”. Is that right? I use things like this while speaking Czech, and I think that it's correct there.
Obviously haven't watched it all yet as that would be impossible but I'm so interested and excited to hear about this! Thank you so much for being so relaxing yet informative! 😇💖
im a non binary south african, and i really appreciate this
Me:”wow, this topic is so interesting, I’d love to hear more about it”
Also me:* trying to keep my eyes open because her voice is just so relaxing *
commenting cause my girl deserves support💁🏽♀️
I love your Wisdom Wednesday ideas. I fell asleep on the sofa listening to this and came back to finish it when I woke up because it’s interesting!
I think a video about the high femicide rate in SA would be interesting, if you feel comfortable covering it. I had to do some industry research on South African clients for a job last year and was mortified at how often I’d search a name and find it linked to the murder of a woman. I know there have been protests about it since then
ASMR Wisdom Wednesdays sound amazing! The videos where you share facts and talk about interesting subjects are my absolute favourite, and I find that I get way more tingles just listening to you talk rather than trigger videos. I love hearing about subjects the that interest you, like science! I’d also be interested to learn about climate change in South Africa and if it is having any impact on where you live. Thank you so much for making great videos :)
Me too!
Thanks so much for this video! Seeing the parallels between the ongoing Canadian apartheid system against Indigenous communities and South Africa makes it very apparent to me that gender expansive people across the world are struggling against these systems. The system here still maintains binary gender, it has an option for an 'X' on people's documents, but they are still forcibly gendered as either male or female. And the 'X' can be a target on some of them, as having that 'X' singles them out as gender expansive.
Not to be insensitive, but "male" and "female" aren't genders, they're sexes, which aren't the same. There are only 2 sexes, male or female, so I don't understand why this is an issue.
@@RoyalReyna the issue with putting people in one of only two available sex category options affects trans, nonbinary, and intersex folks at large. When people have mixed sexual characteristics, that complexity gets erased, and medical systems are not able to care for this complexity, as one example. Sex is complicated, because you are trying to put more than 32 human characteristics into one of only two categories. And sex as a system in North America is a part of how expansive genders are forcibly erased- trans people ourselves do not neatly fit into the strict categories of male and female as they exist today. If we are willing to expand our conception of how we see gender, I think it's only fair to expand how we understand sex, because it is also more complex than we've been told it actually is.
@@ParadoxHorde I just don't think it's really that complicated. You can be whatever gender you want, that's your identity and expression, but with sex you have to chose. If you are a female and intend to remain such or intend to transition then you'd select female. If you are a male and intend to remain such or intend to transition to male then you'd select male. While I sympathize with intersex people, they aren't a large group. To me, it's like picking which vitamins you take: there's only two and I don't think that's exclusionary, everyone picks and your pick is your business. If you want to transition that's fine, but we all pick. It has nothing to do with your gender or personal identity. I just don't think it's a big deal
@@RoyalReyna that may be easier for you to say if the model of sex as a binary already fits you. But being asked to pick one of two options that doesn't actually make sense for people with mixed sex characteristics is a logistical and social challenge. If you both sets of sex organs, your life in a strict this/that world gets a lot more complicated. If you're willing to lend that it's plausible to change and accommodate trans people, I think you can also lend that same empathy to sexual diversity.
@@ParadoxHorde As far as I understand, most intersex people have their sex chosen by their parents shortly after birth, and only possess one set of functioning reproductive organs despite having both sets of genitalia, so to me it seems that the choice has already been made for them, so I still don't get why it's a problem. The whole "binary" system to me perpetuates gender stereotypes by promoting the idea that being "binary"--the gender that matches with your sex--is the standard or is normal while everyone else is "nonbinary" or abnormal. I disagree with this. If sex and gender are different, then we have to stop linking them together and making assumptions about one based on the other. Gender is a construct, one that we can work to either eliminate or expand, allowing people to be who they are and who they want to be without the constraints of these rigid gender roles. Sex is not a construct, it is a biological fact. You can change it if you want, it's not as rigid as some would like to make it seem, but it's not that complicated. We can add a box for intersex people (although intersex would technically be both sexes.not a different 3rd sex) but I don't see any alternative to this.
As a linguist I'm fascinated by the topics you bring up! I totally believe that the language shapes the way we think. There's so much wisdom we can learn from African languages ❤️
As for the Wisdom Wednesday, podcast/commentary style is not only going to be a treat for us regular viewers, but might bring more attention to the channel ⭐ And your channel deserves so much more love! 💕
I am nonbinary, I have neutral they/them pronouns (English has had singular they/them since the times of Shakespeare, it just often was vernacular instead of proscribed grammar), and I loved how you approached this topic, also my favorite character in this one is the mosquito, love that you kept all that in. Very tingly bug spraying xD
7:23 - 8:45 is me when I see a wasp, except I’m far less calm about it lol! 😂
The mosquito part absolutely killed me lmao! Thank you for imparting your wisdom to us. Love your voice!
Really interesting video! Really enjoy your videos and would love to learn more about politics, history, etc that is taking place in African countries (I personally didnt learn a lot about it in school)
Thank you for this informative and very relaxing video! I love your voice and mannerisms so much and also that you share so much knowledge and culture on your channel!!
This video was so interesting and well presented. As a trans person, I appreciate you taking the time to talk about this and would love for you to do more Wisdom Wednesday videos!
As a trans person myself I love the video, great job as always.👏Thank you so much for educating people 🏳️⚧️💗
also, hearing you talk about important topics is both informational and very relaxing😌👌
Hey! Cheers from Brazil
Absolutely down for the Wednesday Wisdom asmr idea 😊
I love soft spoken/whispered informative videos!
It was really nice to hear you talk about this topic and I'm happy you got inspired by my comment on your other video :) You spoke really well about these important things. Wisdom wednesday sounds like a really good idea and I would be interested! We also have only they/them pronouns in the finnish language so it's fun to hear it's the same with xhosa😃
Came to check for the Finns' replies! :D languages with gendered pronouns are annoying to deal with! And not just pronouns, don't get me started on un/une, die/der, el/la.. 🤯
@@dontwanagivit1860 Yes! I studied German and it was so annoying and hard to remember with all the masculine, feminine and neutral words!
As a nonbinary person I'm so happy to see you making this video, fills me with love🥰
When I saw the title I got so excited because I am non-binary! I live in America, though, so I’m interested to hear about how South Africa treats LGBT+ people.
I love these videos. As a Nonbinary person its interesting to hear how people like me are treated in other countries. Thanks for working so hard on all of your videos!
Done in such a respectful and interesting way, thank you ❤️🏳️⚧️
Thank you 😃❤️
I think that listening to you talk about current events or African cultures and languages is super calming and entertaining!!
I tend to listen to ASMR either to sleep or relax, so I would personally love seeing both types of videos from you!!!
The slow and measured way in which you speak with your beautiful accent and voice...so relaxing. And educational! Thank you.
Thank you for covering this topic!! Very interesting and informative!! I’d definitely love to see you cover similar topics in a wisdom wednesdays segment
Omg I also love Khadija, Tee Noir and Shanspeare!! And thank you for this video, I had no idea gay marriage was legal in SA!
I absolutely love the idea of you speaking about serious topics like this in ASMR videos, because it's both educational and relaxing, which is amazing, it's different from other ASMR-tists! So please keep doing this, we have sooo many ASMR videos on CZcams just doing triggers and such, but you are the first one I've come across who has talked a lot about serious or educational topics, we need more of that and educate people! 👏
Thank you so much for the work you put into videos like those!
Commenting because I would love this kind of video either in a regular format or in an asmr style. It was really nice to learn more while also relaxing ❤ it took a lot of daily pressure off my soul but also made me feel like I was better educated for having listened.
I would LOVE Wisdom Wednesdays! Personally, I get more ASMR tingles from hearing soft spoken explanations than I do from the typical trigger sounds that many people seem to like so I think Wisdom Wednesdays fit perfectly with the ASMR format. Your voice is soothing and helpful no matter what you’re discussing and it would be a huge bonus to get to learn more about the South African people and culture!
This was a really interesting video; please continue making these Wednesday Wisdom videos! I find this soft spoken format more relaxing than traditional triggers. It feels like relaxed conversation with a friend
100000% more of this! Your videos are soothing no matter what, and this was so interesting to hear about.
Maybe this type of ASMR is more to help one focus/do repetitive tasks vs. Sleep, as I definitely want to pay attention rather than drift off, but honestly I think I prefer it ♥️
Thanks for all your great content!
I love this video so much! It is so important for people to broaden their horizons, so thank you so much for helping me do so. Also, we have all the same favourite youtubers! I love this video essay-esque ASMR video. It educates me and calms me! ❤
This was recommended to me and I’m so glad! You’re a great ASMRtist and the video was so interesting. Thanks for your hard work!
Thoroughly enjoyed this, yes I would love more wisdom wednesday videos! The volume of your voice and everything was perfect for this.
This video is super interesting and happy you spoke about it! Would love more topics like this. You don't hear a lot about LGBTQ+ stuff from SA and Africa in general
if you look for it youll find it, and its truly horrific. :( there's some lgbt groups (mostly small with little to no local or community support) they are always needing all kinds of help and support if you ever feel into it :)
I love this, you always put out such great vids! Would love to see more content like this, the way you present information is very concise and clear but respectful and warm :)
I love this stuff. I literally had asked another South African CZcams about lbgtq+ culture there. I love educational information. Please upload more like this.
I loved the part where you paused and tried to spray away the mosquito haha also I thoroughly enjoyed your explanation of how the system works I feel like I learn so much from your channel while also being relaxed
i haven’t watched yet, but i’m so excited to learn about this!! i love ur teaching videos and this is a great topic
this video was really interesting! even if you decide to keep doing wisdom wednesday without an amsr style i’d watch them because i don’t hear much about what life in south africa is like
i also thought you did a good job explaining lgbtq+ issues thoughtfully without being offensive. thank you for putting care into talking about our community :^]
Very interesting! I would love more Wisdom Wednesday videos.
This was incredibly informative and interesting! I loved learning about the Xhosa pronouns. Thank you for making this video!
Wisdom Wednesday sounds perfect. I love learning about other peoples cultures and their current affairs.
You are very beautiful and talented! Thank you for your time.
It's so cool to learn about all of this! We also don't have gendered pronouns in the Finnish language
LOL the break to pull out the raid fkn killed me. Thanks for the vid!! Love your informative asmr
I would love to hear more video essays! This is super interesting and insightful!
Great video, as always! Educational and relaxing 😊 Thank you for covering this topic!
I love these educational videos so much! I love learning so much and it's so fun to see learning and ASMR go together :)
Before seeing your videos I only really knew about apartheid in south Africa and now I know so much more. Thank you!
i could listen to you talk all day. Lovely video and important topic
Love this idea, haven't seen anything like it before! I'm getting both relaxation and education, subscribed immediately! 🤩 Thank you. 🙏
I would love to see more wisdom Wednesday videos! I started watching you for your ASMR but to be honest its videos like this that have kept me watching your channel consistently, thank you for all the hard work you do and for sharing your perspective!
Awesome education you have blessed us with. I am curious to know does the Xhosa culture accept homosexuality?
This was very interesting and educational! I definitely would like to see more wisdom wednesday videos
Great video!
Also TIL mosquito spray is actually pretty tingly haha
Is there any other ASMRtist that uses this medium to educate, and thus to improve us as individuals? Because I do not know of any. This woman is very unique and valuable to us. Her intelligence is fierce, with which she cradles us to sleep. I'm in awe! If I was god, I'd have her have 2 million subscribers
Love this series and especially this topic was super interesting!! And super calming. Thank you
I would love my rude, Hispanic-hating, judgmental, super-critical, uber-conservative South African boss to watch this.
Edit: so glad to see the braids again! Your braids are always so beautiful, seeing you with long, straight, blonde hair was really odd
This video was fascinating! I subscribed to your channel because you provide a unique opportunity to learn about a culture in a calming setting. I think wisdom Wednesdays would fit really well on your channel. I would definitely watch them!
This was super interesting!! Thank you for putting this together. I’ve learned so much from this channel and in the most chill way. Very underrated ASMR channel
Edited to add that I also love the idea of Wisdom Wednesdays!
This is such a good video! Relaxing and informative/interesting. You’re really good at whispering and telling a story 😊 so respectful too!
omg thank you so much for this!!!! i was so excited to see this video come out, being nonbinary myself :D thank you for all that you do!!!!!!!!!
I enjoyed this video very much and wouldn't mind having more. I still get ASMR feels from them anyway. ❤️
This was great. Please continue this and make it a segment/series on this channel
Which microphone are you using in this video? Love the quality and size of it!
I really enjoyed this video! Thank u for it
it is so amazing that we have such access to hearing stories like this. thank you so much for the informative and relaxing video! i was wondering, do you have resources for learning more about this topic :D
This has become my favorite ASMR video. Knocks me out and relaxes me every time.
This was super interesting! Thank you for sharing this information with us. I'd love a Wisdom Wednesdays format, especially since your voice is so nice to listen to :D
Yes I love these types of videos, and honestly it is still very ASMR because of your lovely voice! For a wisdom Wednesday I would love to hear about healthcare in South Africa. Here in the US it is a big topic always and especially now, as healthcare workers are struggling, there are shortages of supplies and blood, and costs are very high. What is the situation in South Africa? Have you had good experiences?
i love the concept of wisdom wednesdays! i also really like it with your soft-spoken voice. your more educational videos are some of my favorite videos of yours
Love this vid and would love to hear more videos like this. I love video essays too and love a couple of those channels too! This was really good asmr too. I loved the bug spray sounds too😂😂
I love your Wisdom Wednesdays! Such an insightful topic too, thank you so much for sharing 💕✨
I love the way you explain things, it's so relaxing! Thanks for picking such an interesting topic, too 😊
I appreciate this video so much!🌈❤️ thank you for making this!❤️ I would love to see more Wisdom Wednesday videos, I’m always eager to learn about current affairs in other countries
I thoroughly enjoyed this! Your explanation of the singular and plural they/them and the ID numbers were do informational 💜Thank you🤗Keep it going!!!
1. Thank you for talking about this!!! As a nonbinary fan I really appreciate this, specially since there's not enough ppl talking about this from an African perspective.
2. I love your ASMR videos but I'd also love to hear you talking about stuff in a video essay style!!! Yes to both!!!!
3. OMG I LOVE SHANSPEARE I was so happy when you mentioned her, she's brilliant 💖✨
Ahhhhh I love Khadija, Tee and Shanespeare too!!
Very pleased to see this on your channel! Thank you for the relaxing explanation 🙂
This video was fascinating. I always love listening to you share about SA culture and history and this topic provided so much insight. Side note: that bug spray break took me out. The mosquito said, “actually, let me break down this topic for the viewers at home.” 😂
Love your soft spoken videos. Happy new year lovely! xxx