TYPES OF WOMEN TOXIC MEN HATE - HOW TO AVOID TOXIC MEN
Vložit
- čas přidán 13. 06. 2023
- Asalamualaikum all, todays video is one of the best videos I have made on this channel as it relates to speaking of toxic men so it's a must watch for those who want to avoid toxic men.
HAVE YOU SEEN THESE VIDEOS?
HOW TO BECOME A MORE FEMININE WOMAN - • HOW TO BECOME A HIGHLY...
HOW TO ATTRACT A GREAT MAN INTO YOUR LIFE - • HOW TO ATTRACT A GREAT...
GOD'S TIMING IS PERFECT - • GOD'S TIMING IS PERFECT
HOW TO APPROACH THE GUY YOU LOVE WITH DIGNITY - • HOW TO APPROACH THE GU...
HOW TO WIN YOUR HUSBAND BACK - • HOW TO WIN YOUR HUSBAN...
This video is created with the islamic perspective in mind however, whoever finds it relevant and beneficial is also more than welcome to take lessons from it.
Contact Me
Email: nafisaspearlz@gmail.com
Collaborations & Business Enquiries : nafisaspearlz@gmail.com
Coaching Enquiries: nafisatuakilu@gmail.com - Jak na to + styl
The way some of these men use religion to manipulate and control women 😠 it makes my blood boil!! There's a very fine line between being submissive and bring controlled. I'll happily submit to my husband (if I get married insha Allah) but the moment I feel suffocated, the moment I feel like he's controlling me, I'm out! We can't let our emotions get the better of us ladies! If you stay in these sorts of relationships, the pain will last as long as your marriage does (unless he's self aware and changes). The moment you leave, yes the pain is unbearable but you will absolutely get through it! THAT pain is temporary until you heal. My recent experience has taught me A LOT, it was less than a month thankfully but it was still hard. I surprised myself when I walked away as I didn't expect myself, literally on the spot decision after repeatedly being disrespected.
I’m not Muslim, but I love listening to your voice of wisdom, strength and dignity.
Great observation about a woman needing to be willing to face emotional pain in order to break off a relationship that’s not good for her.
I'm glad you made this video, I read lots about psychology, personality disorders, Machiavellianism and the dark triad of psychology in general. I'm able to spot a manipulative phony from a mile away. I rely so much on my intuition and mind instead of my emotions alhamdullilla. Your videos cover all the necessary info for any woman to have not just Muslims. I thank you and appreciate your efforts deeply
Thank you so much my dear. I’m so glad to hear on how clued on you are. All the best to you in every endeavour ❤
Could you suggest some books that you readed? Ineed some 😮
Wow sounds interesting. Suggest some books or smthh pleaseee
Al-Hamdu-liLLĀH
start off by reading more interesting dark triad books before you dig deeper into psychology (if you want) . I can recommend the art of seduction and 48 laws of power by Robert Greene, Beyond persuasion by Rebecca dolton, the killer across the table by John Douglas and mark olshaker. Psychopathic disorders by micheal craft. And for CZcams channels watch HG Tudor about narcissism or Sam vaknin or dr Romany. I hope this could help I read all of the books I mentioned before I started psychology 101
Toxic men run from these women
1) boundaries and also enforce your boundaries are rudeness for them, questioning his authority
2) a women who know about manipulation,manipulative tactics
3) make right decision despite being emotional, emotional intelligence
4) stand for herself
5) does not take responsibility for others bad behavior
6) who have someone to stand for them
Thank you, saving my time.
Thank you for your writing
May we die as true believers in Islam. Ameen.
Ameen ❤❤❤
Ameen
This sums up my marriage.. my ex husband was extremely toxic and only really every straightened up and listened when the male figures in my family addressed him. That look you gave and said Allahu Akbar 16:16 like you Dont even know what they are thinking, was the extract feeling I had towards the end of my marriage. I had to tell him the night he had to leave that I might want you but I don’t need you .. and I meant that with my whole heart and getting to that point of actually letting go of the marriage I held soooooo deep in my heart really really hurt. Till today it’s been 8-9 months since the marriage ended I still miss our life together but I don’t miss the chaos and the toxicity. Just sad that this was the only solution because toxic men don’t think they need to change their behaviour, they’d rather throw it all away than be held accountable..
Thank you sister for this video I will be watching it on repeat ❤
I’m so sorry to hear that you experienced this sister but Alhamdulilah that you are now in a place of peace. These toxic people rarely change like you said so I’m glad your male family members showed him whose in charge!
May Allah continue to protect us all.
@@NafisasPearlz thank you sis and Ameen 🤲🏾
May Allah swt give you strength sister Ameen and May Allah swt help the rest of us
May Allah swt grant you a husband that has the characteristics of prophet Muhammad pbuh ameen 🤲🏼
Summa Ameen
Story time! Unfortunately, I had a very difficult relationship with men in my life (grandfather, father) so I became vulnerable and then toxic men entered my life that really emotionally violated me. I don't really blame anyone. I just had weak boundaries because I feel I never really felt safe and I was always looking for that. I really felt that I had no where to go. Long story short, this has been my test and through these experiences I found Allah. I still have things that I need to work on. I could really relate to this video having a bucket load of life experience with toxic people (not just men but also women). Also, absolutely loving this channel. I want to ask if you can make some videos of building self-esteem, like how do we recognize if we have low self-esteem, how to build a higher self-esteem, connecting with Allah, etc.
I’m sorry to hear this, sister. I had to teach myself about dark psychology to make sense of the insanity that I was facing. Unfortunately, I was becoming very bitter from learning about all this, and realizing how so many people do the things they do intentionally. Anyway, long story short, it took really, really strengthening my Iman to get my heart back into order. Therefore, my suggestion will be to learn about healthy relationships, healthy boundaries, toxic relationships patterns, etc. etc. BUT, please, please, increase your ibadah, adhkar, charity, zikr because I found that without the noor of Allah I was getting too personally affected by all this new knowledge. This is a new chapter of your life, learning all this. Stick to it and you’ll be okay insha’Allah!
@Ana-rb7ws JazakAllahu Khairan Katheera for the kind words of motivation. Yes, I definitely need to increase in my ibadah. Please do make du'a for me. May Allah swt keep you steadfast and increase you in your iman.
I was in a marriage with a narcissist for nearly 5 years, at the beginning it was like a fairytale, but very quickly he revealed his true self.
I was the opposite to everything you described, and my ex was the epitome of a toxic man, doing the actions every textbook narcissist does.
Alhamdulillah Allah freed me from that marriage, and with His guidance and therapy I genuinely believe that I now have the traits you described.
Quick advice to all my sisters, stand firm and reconnect with yourself. Your body will literally give you signs when something is not right so do NOT ignore it. Make sure you have a good support system, and make dua that Allah guides you away from such toxic people.
@@Forgiveness9 May Allah make things easy for you and give you the strength to leave, ameen.
Assalamu alaikum! Just wanted to say that you're doing us women a great service. Horrible advice these days on CZcams on these topics. Thanks for being a breath of fresh air!
Walaikumsalam my dear sister. Thank you so much. May Allah continue to bless you also
JazakAllah khair sister.This is much needed for staying in peace . Allowing us hurting us women.
SubhanAllah...this video just hits the nail straight... especially the last point... BarakAllahu feeki❤️❤️❤️
Great video you really helped me understand that what I'm doing is the right thing because many people told me that I should not be so serious about my boundaries and I'm exaggerating thank you❤
SubhanaAllah!!!!! My Sister Shukran for these beautiful reminders Ma shaa Allah TabarakAllah and everything you talked about is the truth!!!!! 🤲🏾🤲🏾🫶🏾❤️
She knows her stuff. May Allah bless you. You are helping so many women out there, and men for that fact!
One of your most important and passionate videos Nafisa! Love it❤ BarakAllahu Feek
Masha’Allah sister i am happy i found you. Jazaki Allah Khair 🤲
Amazing contents, very educational, we need more women mentors like you ❤May Allah grant you the highest level of Jannah.
Barakallahufeekum and jazakallahukhairn. Allahumma barik alaihi aameen.
Thankyou for this video I've watched many videos about narcissistic mens and about mens manipulating womens .
Jazzakillahu khair my beautiful sister, I love your Videos ❤
Thank you! It's really helpful and useful.
wow,,,, great video,,,, keep them coming 👏
Thank you very much! This video is such a great reminder and even eye opener.
Recently I had to make a decision. I should choose either my potential spouse or my family. It really hurt because I already imagined a future together with him. I chose my family. And alhamdulillah it was the right decision. No man in the world is worth turning against his own family, because ultimately, they are the ones who can always be counted on. Family is incredibly valuable and nothing in the world can replace it. Men come and go, but mother, father, brothers and sisters remain.
Hello Nafisa! Allahuma barik youre making really helpful videos. Could you delve more into self esteem and how to improve it. the type of self esteem that is subconscious. Thank you!
Iam first also. Illaahoow wadnahayga ii caafi
Shukran Jazeelan!!😍🌹🌹🌹❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Maa Shaa Allah, just on point sist, may Allah increase you in knowledge and takwa.
Ameen and for you the same ❤
Sissss i love your channel mashallah. Keep being amazing and spreading your wisdom mashallah🥰❤️
Thank you, I will
Alhamdulillah for this video..I've always ever come across these kind of men and I was beginning to think I was the one with the problem.
But alhamdulillah,i kept my ground and I've never been happier😊
Jazakallahu khairan for this video sis! I’ve learnt so much by this video. You’re helping us sisters so much you have no idea. May Allah reward you immensely and grants you the highest rank of Jannah! ❤
Asalamu’alaikum I’m so glad ❤
Sister Nafisa giving us quality content back to back 😩❤️❤️🤌🏾 #QueenDoings’ Allahuma Bareek! May Allah reward you abundantly sis
LOL I don’t know how you came up with that hashtag #️⃣ but I love it. Thank you for supporting the channel and stay blessed dear. ❤
Much needed subject...Jazakallah khair
I must crown you for this as it hits the arrow🎯love it too🤩💛 May Allah continue to strengthen and protect us, Amin. Jazakumullahu khairan for always sharing❤
Ameen and thank you 😂
jazakAllah khair ma sœur, Qu'Allah augmente et bénisse davantage ton savoir. Tu nous aides beaucoup. merci encore ❤
Ameen. Waiyakum
Hmm, well done 👍 Masha Allah
Such a wise video, jazak Allah kheir
Waiyakum
Thank you my sister
Wow!!!! Thank you.
Ma Sha Allah❤ Very informative 😊
Alhamdulilah
Jazakallah khair ❤
Waiyakum
Excellent content that is sorely needed in this day and age. Every woman needs to listen to this on repeat!! Barakallahu feek sister Nasifa you are a shining star for the women of this ummah. May Allah reward you for the work you do❤️
Ameen and Jazaka’Allahu khairan for your duas ❤
Maa shaa Allah I felt every passion fire power emotions that came out of you in this video. Its amazingly beautiful to see how much you want the best for us sisters. May Allah increase your wisdom knowledge even more. Ameen. Love you sis ❤
Thank you sister, very powerful and informative I loved every second of this video ❤
Alhamdulilah and thank you for watching ❤
Dear Nafeesa. Your video has related to my life .i had an arranged marriage at the age of 19 . I felt after a few days that something is not normal in my life but was too naive . I had four kids .wanted to leave many times but didn't .now I realised that it was due to my weak boundaries . When I learned my boundaries ,then he started disliking me .after watching your video,I know that I have all the things ,a toxic man dislikes. . Now at the age of 75 ,living with a toxic man is unbearable . I have asked him for a divorce but he doesn't want to leave . My children Will support me if I leave him as they know the situation .
I had an arrange marriage last year. We live different countries and when I met him during the summer holiday, he was nothing I imaged. My dream came true turned into my worst nightmare. He was always busy with friends etc and had other priorities but from my understanding of his behaviour, he didn't want to be in the marriage. Then I was naive girl who believed in find a supportive partner. I let him walk over me, I never cried so much in my life compared to that summer. When I came back from the holiday, I was the only one call him, talked to his mum to ask him what he really want but each time he apologised and would say he will try. He would try for a couple of days then it would be same again. Then I was scared of divorce. Recently, he thought I told my cousins about our marrital problems that he said he would divorce me. I have been getting myself ready for divorce because I don't see my marriage going anywhere. But when I told his dad and my parents he said he said it because he was angry. He broke my trust around 3 to 4 times. Now I have changed. I'm no longer the naive 20 years old girl, I no longer try to please him just to like me etc. Now I'm trying to stand for myself which he believes is being disrespectful. Actually I'm still with him because of my faith in Allaah, but not in him. But I think my distrust in him is causing even more troubles. I'm always asking myself is he being honest? Am I overthinking stuff? Am I being fair? I hate it that I don't know the answers. Because regardless of what happened, I don't wanna be unfair.
Wow thanks sis Nafisa for sharing this
You’re welcome
another great video, thank you for sharing your advice 💙
Thanks for watching!
I followed this advice and it made the men with wrong intent run!
Nafisa, you are like an elder sister i never had. ❤
SubhanAllah! 🙀 💃 Jazak'Allah for sharing.
All you say is true sis big respect love you ❤
JazakAllah khair for this video, sister. I'm currently trying to get engaged, and mashallah your relationship videos have been very beneficial!
also, you should start a podcast! you speak very beautifully and I would be your first listener wallah 😊
Alhamdulilah I’m so glad to hear that. It’s better safe than sorry. May Allah continue to guide you to what is best ❤
Ohh My God'..how u explained...a good means of awarness n learning...thanks sis❤
My pleasure 😊
@@NafisasPearlz 😊🌺
Thank you sister.MarshaAllah, learn a lot 🙏🏾
Glad to hear that Alhamdulilah
I can really see your passion in this video. Could you please also teach us, how we can set boundaries.
Hugsss Nafeesa ۔۔۔۔ I wish۔۔۔۔ I wish i knew this a bit earlier but now i know ✋❤️
Alhamdulilah. It’s better late than never. Stay blessed
OMG!!! I feel u talk about my man ( husband). So control. So toxic. Everything you said is how he is.
Thank you ❤
Your Videos are so Good! Thank you sister! ❤
You are so welcome!
Thank you you are my fav youtuber greetings from Somalia❤🥰
Masha’Allah thank you so much
Thank you
Actually i when through some of this, but am glad i always had coaches like you, that Always helped me to a logical thinking, and decisions, even while my heart wanted to burst out bcuz of the attachment 😢, yess it was hard, but worth it.... thank you sis, for shading lights more on this❤🙌👏.... Allahumma Barik ❤
Great sister I love you for the sake of allah and please put a video for toxic women as I do have them in my life
This is me.thank you
This is completely true,,such men hate women who compete their understanding.
I love you my sister❤😢 may Allah subhana wa ta ala bless you. These were very great advices.
Thank you sister ❤
You are welcome
As Salamu alaikum
Yes Sista Queen teach powerful shut the door and through away the Key 🔑 Aoothu billahi min thou lik.. “ if you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything “ Ameen
May Allah continue to grant you his grace and mercy always. May you be bless always 🙏
I left someone who you basically described, it was the hardest thing even though I didn't know him for long. But he disrespected me and I won't stand for that, 4 weeks on and I'm still hurting and trying to heal because i had such intense feelings for him, he was perfect to me, but the manipulative things he said... I won't tolerate it.
I understand but sis, he wasn’t perfect for you and that’s why you left him. If he didn’t take to your warnings and change, he was never going to change so now you’ve left him teaching him the lesson that you are a high calibar woman.
Insha’Allah you will find a better man. Trust in Allah for that.
@@NafisasPearlz ❤️
@@NafisasPearlz I want u to make a video on something but I don't really want to say it in here, can I email you instead?
@@pamk380 yes do insha’Allah
Best advice
Looking forward to the video about how to set boundaries. Sister Nafisa, I can't thank you enough bcs your recent videos have helped me, especially this one, bcs I've been told I'm too nice, I can't stand up for myself, yet the same people will gaslight me and make me seem like I'm the problem when I call them out for their unacceptable behavior. Jazakallah Khair
Iam a new subscriber today
great
😍Maa'Shaa'Allah...This Vedio is A Womenhood Super Drug 👌 👍🏼 Baaraka ALLAHU FEEK Sister Nafisa❤
Lol, I love that expression. Thank you ❤
@@NafisasPearlz May ALLAH Almighty Increase You In All Goodness and Safeguard You From all Harm!!!
Assalaam Alaikum & Greetings to all,
I can relate to this video, I had some of the same experiences with toxicity within my relationship. I have gained the strength to release it out of my life. In the beginning I was guided by my heart, When I started to realize the toxicity, I began to stand up for my rights as a woman / wife & setting my boundaries with unhealthy situations. When I began to set boundaries, He began to become verbally abusive. I am happy now & feel more fulfilled without him. May Allah(God) be a comfort to other women as well all over the world who is or has experienced toxic relationships.
Can you actually make a video on enforcing boundaries and give several examples please? Thank you ☺️
Hello dear professor
Your lessons are really intersting and amazing,
thank you so much for your help and advice,
i really appreciate your job. I wish you peace and happiness under the sky of prosperity.
Take care and have a good time. All the best.
Your Student from Algeria
You see for this video,may Allah bless you in manifolds....wallahi you said it all....u r a psychologist 😊😊😊take your flowers again🥀🌷🌼🌹💐🌻
Ameen and may Allah bless you too in many folds!
I need this video now😭😭😭😭
Sister I look at you like my own sister. I love you so much and thank you so much for the good knowledge you’ve taught me a lot. May Allah bless you ❤😊
Ameen and May Allah reward you for seeking nearness to him my dear
Thank so much sister as from today I have an elder sister. You are such a good person may Allah continue to bless you
Assalam aleykum These topics are also very important in case of Jammah , like for the Ummah sisterhood
Hello sister,glad to hear you always.infact i watch the video like am in lecture room.your words, pples comments has been so helpful to me.even though somethings are late😢😢 but at least i can pick back bihzinillah.15yrs faa?am in my idah period,i just have to move on.pls sis nafisat,how can I get across to you one on one pls?whatup?from Nigeria pls
Alhamdulillah
May ALLAH عز و جل bless your heart ♥️ for making those videos, ALLAH عز و جل knows how much we need it, may ALLAH عز و جل give us strength to do what’s right
Ameen ❤❤❤
Just now realized that the moment i told him Im in no rush to get married because Im also trying to make sure im choosing the right person, is the moment he dropped me 😂 And thats how you know he wanted a woman who is easier to manipulate
MashAllaah sister beautiful advice . This will hopefully protect sisters from marrying the wrong man. Better alone than living with a toxic man who destroys your soul bit by bit. Self develop and be aware of your own naccistic behaviours. Recognise the red flags in him and yourself , make duaa for a righteous spouse and make continuous dhikr for protection.🙏🏾
What are the odds😂😂? I am first here today
Yes you are!❤
Nafisa Salam aleykum I've seen women be used and abused neglected and cheated on how can I ever feel optimistic, like a shift in my mindset to even want to marry a man in the future? I just want to be safe 😔.
Walaikumsalam. This sounds like trauma, please seek mental health treatment and always ask Allah to assist you to have hope again ❤
@@NafisasPearlz Thank you for replying inshaAllah I'll be able to afford that in the future.
May Allah make it easy for everyone 🙏
Shukran habibity sometimes i feel like am dealing With a narcissistic in a marriage of almost 8years
I’m so sorry to hear that. May Allah ease your affairs with him.
Love these videos! barakallahufikiii nafisa. Can you suggest some books? about this topic
Non that I know of. Pay closer attention to your and other people’s experiences in life. They can contain the greatest lessons.
I have lived with toxic marriage fi 42 years when he young he bullied me with his strength now he’s old he’s turned it with emotionally being weak but now as l have grown old lm losing my patience l just can’t take it anymore
I see what you're saying about enforcing boundaries, but to avoid defensive fights boundary management and negotiations come before boundary defences. The defences should be the last layer touched by accident but not stood on or pressed against.
Of course, boundaries around time/money can have more negotiation whereas boundaries for example about your body should not be up for negotiation at all.
Some toxic men are scared by firm boundaries, some like the challenge! But no toxic man can stand a firm believing woman on the deen calmly negotiating boundaries based on quran and sunna - the more a toxic man messes with that, the more humiliated and emasculated they will find their position AND the more they'll struggle to project/scapegoat those feelings onto the believing woman.
Islam is cryptonite to toxic narcissicism, alhamdulillah.
Thank you for this video
Just simply tell him that you don’t want to discuss such a matter with him.
Use that sentence any time he asked an inappropriate question and soon enough he will get the message!
Who is the supervisor's supervisor? Put your complaint in writing or ask how you can file a complaint Cite being discrimated against on the basis of your religion Use the word "discrimination" and "harassment" in your letter as they treat these cases seriously I'd also seek out a hijabi nurse/hospital worker and ask her who you should get in touch with as she may be more understanding and may point you in the right durection or suggest an entirely different solution altogether The best of luck
This is so true . This is my ex husband absolutely!!!!
I can't love you less sister may Allah reward you
What do you do when after many years of marriage and 2 kids you finally realise your husband is actually a narcissist and bully? How does a woman leave when the kids will be upset and affected by our separation/divorce? I had an arranged marriage and it’s a long story but I was incredibly naïve and it’s taken me incredibly long to figure out that he’s really toxic. Now I’m worried that he’s mentally is going to affect and shape my kids mentality. I’m
seriously unsure what to do.
This my case
❤
💯❤️
Ja
Please make a video on toxic parents, espeacially single parent aswell, who make you feel you owe them your entire life and shouldnt be doing anuthing for yourself
I will do. Thank you for your input