We’re not friends anymore - that's okay (friendship in your 20s)
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- čas přidán 8. 06. 2024
- Welcome to the Ezii Like Sunday Morning podcast! Today's conversation is with my friend, Precious Ada about…friendship! Maybe you’re losing friends, ghosting some, being ghosted, struggling to text back and maybe even battling jealousy because some people in your friend group are growing or achieving things at a rate that makes you feel left behind, let's talk about it. Please hit the subscribe and like button, and leave a comment below - it really helps this channel and conversation reach other people.
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0:00 intro
1:27 dilemma of the day
7:39 how did we meet
9:25 our 1st big quarrel
16:48 so what is true friendship?
23:37 listen to full episode on spotify
A couple of things I got from here:
- Friendship is actually more sacred than we think.
- It's a lot of work wrapped up in communication and vulnerability. Sometimes you might think you're "right" but humility is seeking what to do better and how to be better for our friends - leaving the self-ish desires.
- It's funny how God has been nudging my heart to study on friendship groups in the Bible. I'm glad to see David & Jonathan referenced 🥰
- It's important to know why we're Friends with people and discern the seasons our friendships are at per time.
- Accountability in Friendship is very important. To find a good friend is to first and foremost BE that good friend 🤍
Thank you so much, Ezinne and Precious. I pray that your friendship(s) continue to grow and blossom with Christ at the centre 🤍
I'll be sharing this with my community now - The Friendship Chain Community ♥
Wow!.... Very impactful ❤️
Thanks for this!
Yessss...this
This right here, is the comment!!!
I’m in that place in my life when I’m asking God for new friends.
Right now, i believe He wants me to be alone, to better me first as a person, so I won’t take those friends for granted when they actually come. And to see true friendship for what it actually is.
Thanks for this video Ezinne, and precious you have such a beautiful heart, glad you came to the podcast
Me too 😢
I hope he strengthens me to bare this stage in my life
Rooting for you, I hope you meet 'your tribe', I used to be in this space before until God gave me a circle of friends I'm eternally grateful to God for.
Just keep walking with God and working on yourself, with time they will come around❤
@@JulietChiamakaIke thank you 🤎🤎
Amen! 🤎
Sit right where God placed you, which is a consecration season. It will feel hard while in that season. However, when that season is over, the transformation will be mind blowing. And one by one God will begin to plant you where you're suppose to be in regards to friendship & life journey. Your perspective about things will change, too. I wish you well as you go thru this period.... stay encouraged 🎉
I’ve always been a precious. I do the most for people. I’m overly considerate, most times I put people first before myself: I’ve slowly started learning and understanding that I can’t do this for everybody. Everybody is not my friend and that is totally fine. I give so much to my friendship and I’d like to get that back too. Thank you for having this conversation❤️
Watching all ads cos Ezinne must get the bag...purrr
And retire early 😂😂❤
😂😂😂 exactly
😂 💕
It takes two good and strong people to have this conversation.
Many of us have lost good friends because of pride and desire to get more than we give.
This thing is mutual commitment, respect, accountability, forgiveness etc.
Hmm to get more than we give, I never saw it from that perspective
I hate having hard conversations and being vulnerable. So, when I’m hurt by my friends I never talk about it, I just brush it off because I’ll get over it.
Honestly, I do get over it, but I don’t think it’s a healthy approach.
I get it too and I used to be like that but there is a kind of freedom that comes with being vulnerable with a friend. A person you trust. We don’t have to be hard all the time. Being vulnerable helps you to get to another level in your friendship, the more the vulnerability and accountability, the deeper your relationship goes. It makes it easier to come out of problems when they do come up. Realize that we need people, no one is an island. To go higher and be greater, we all need people.
communication is so important in friendships as much as relationships. you find people ghosting their friends and just moving on meanwhile that friend is hurting.
I feel so glad to have discovered about Ezinne Zara at the early stage of my youth/adult life so there are quite a lot of mistakes I can avoid. ''Everyone is not your friend and you cannot be there for everyone'', I relate to that a lot and accommodating everyone into your circle would cause an explosion at some point which will not affect just you. Thank you Precious and Ezinne, God strengthen you both for His good work.
Me too, I have learnt so much from her❤
This is so on point. I’ve recently been praying for God’s help to be humble, graceful, and to see people the way God sees them. This selfish wokeness trend doesn’t sit well with my spirit.
I don’t think you want to see people the way God sees them. As someone that prayed the same prayer years back, what you want is to be naive and understanding of who they are irregardless of what they have done.
@@eniolabaki3850why would you want to be naive?
Precious comes across so much like Somebi.
I'm watching her and I sense Somebi so much.
There's a quietness to her spirit that is so endearing even though she's a bubbly person.
I appreciate her presence on this episode today.
I always hear especially in this time and age. Friendship is complicated. But I heard here, Friendship is not complicated, you are just doing it with the wrong people...Wow!
Bruh this describes the relationship I have with my sister 22:50
I always feel like she doesn't get me. Like she's still using the information she knows about me from previous seasons to relate with me in my current season.
I love this conversation . It really resonates with me .
I am at a space where i dont really have friends ,i had a fall out with my former friends and needing new friends is what im trusting God for .
Also we do have different seasons with different friends at that time and space . That is qhat im learning even as i grieve the friendship.
At the same time as im trusting God for new friends im also actively relating with different people just to see if we can be good friends .
Youre not alone girlie , you got this ♥️
This conversation has inspired me to show up more for my friends in a way that allows them to FEEL seen by me.
Friendship is a lot of work. Being a very introverted and quiet person makes it quite challenging.
From having to communicate to having hard conversations when there's a misunderstanding. I usually just want to forgive the person in my heart and move on. But in the long run, it doesn't help.
I also look forward to learning extensively about "boundaries in friendships" "managing expectations and how to shoot your shot at people you desire to be friends with aside from praying (which is important)
I felt God telling me to reconcile with my former friend/roommate so i reached out and tried to have the hard conversation, they made me feel so foolish and stupid 😢and didn’t even give me any audience
I cried.
I don’t think I’d ever talk to them again
4 months ago I got betrayed by 2 of my closest and longest friends. Right now I don’t have any friends and I’m constantly praying and working on myself for the new friends that would fit in this stage of my life.
Wow ..may God continue to strengthen you and prepare you for your divine friends / sisters in Christ 💓
@@maggielugano9857 amen
Thank you 🙏
Just experienced this with my friend but rather I had a feeling in my spirit not to reach out and let things go as it was time but I disobeyed decided to just let her know I still care for her regardless the things she said to me made me doubt my self and what I was feeling initially 😢
Wow.@chisomnnamani. My story is similar to yours, it’s so similar it’s shocking. I lost two friends too. One is a roommate, the other is OUR friend. It felt like I was butted out of the friendship by the two of them. It’s been 5 years now but I felt a connection with you when I read your comment.
@@ha-ra-chi3767 friendship loss can be very hard 💔
It’s sad that it’s not talked about enough
I’m healing ❤️🩹
Omo, to the person asking that question, she may be your friend, but you’re not her friend o😩
😂 😂 😂 😂 i'm screaming
Correct
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Wow, saying someone is not your friend is not a bad thing. This one right there is what i needed to hear
One thing the Holy Spirit is also teaching me is realising that everyone has their perspective on things. It takes humility and strong in-built esteem to accept this and be willing to listen to other people’s views.
I may be right, they may be right too. Seek first to understand...then to be understood.
I'm glad you mentioned this in your book too, I felt attacked!😂
Thank you Ezinne❤
Very true! There are seasons for friendship, if you drift apart, don’t force it! Sometimes you reconnect and others times never. Just don’t see yourselves as enemies. Lots of wisdom in this conversation. God bless both of you richly 🙏🏽.
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It is soothing to see people processing the break up of their friendship, I have desired the same for some of my lost friendships...
How can I love this podcast more than once. precious is saying deep things. For the longest time I have been burnt out cause I have been pouring myself out places that didn't appreciate me. So I recoiled and I have had lots of peace since then. I do pray for real friendships, the inner court kind that Precious talked about. The kind tailored for me.
I feel so dragged on that spot of 'Have hard conversations'. It's really not the easiest thing to do especially when you're living through it. But then something our guest said; "You can't just have and dump friends". I'm praying for God's grace to finally have those conversations.
I always say that as children of God, we owe every one in Christ brotherly and sisterly love - unconditionally, but friendship is intentional and my.
I really needed this video, thank you Ezinne! 💜
This humbled me in so many ways. Thank you Ezinne and Precious ❤❤❤
This was much needed and i learnt a lot. Thank you, Ezinne and Precious❤️
Dear Lord I pray for humility and I want to be a better person to people around me. Thank you Ezinne and Precious ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for bringing Precious on board, she was indeed vulnerable. I can relate to the narration of everyone being her friend and experiencing heartbreaks and burnout, the Lord recently took me through a separation and audit process in friendship, which prompted me to redefine what friendship meant to me.
This was so beautiful. Thank you for showing me the sacredness of friendships ❤
The fact that I could relate so much to this video. I was literally in a bad situation with a few friends and I’m certain I didn’t handle it well. Thank you so much for this beautiful message ❤
I love this. Thank you Ezinne and Precious ❤❤
This is so educative, thank you Precious and Ezinne for sharing this
This!❤one podcast was able to get me thinking A LOT, and helped understand and deal and even heal ALOT. Thank You❤
I am super grateful for this post❤because nobody ever talk about friendship breakups
Thank you for being obedient and having this hard conversation 🥲🤍
I love to see real conversations like this... thank you..
Look at the video quality!!!!!!🔥
Thank you so much for this video. It has done something to my spirit. Thank you!
Honestly, this is the best thing I've watched this week. It's so honest and true and wise. We need to learn to have hard conversations.
You guys are so wise!!!
This was such a wholesome conversation.
Off to listen to the remaining parts🏃🏃
Listening to this podcast made me think what will happen if I and my bestie drift apart.
I pray that our beautiful friendship stand the test of time
I’m just so happy that you are back 😭🤍
Thank you Ezinne,this is beautiful❤
I was telling God that I miss my best friend and I felt lonely. And this podcast just came on!! I’m so happy God heard my heart. Thank you so much Ezzine ❤️
Thank you so much, Sis Ezinne and Precious😊🥺🥺🤭.
We should have hard conversations.
(Though it isn't easy).
I initiated one with a friend, I think 5 months ago. I owned up to my faults, and the one I didn't even see any wrong in doing, but I ended up being dragged by this so trusted friend, which didn't see anywhere he had faulted.
I remembered just like that day, I shed hot tears, that I couldn't almost made it for the test I was having the next day.
That was the first hard conversation I tried, it took me lot of energy, thoughts 😭😭😭😭😭, being a highly introverted and shy person.
I feel bad and terrible till now, but this past few days, God has been helping, because I don't know, and I don't like why I feel so guilty unnecessary even when I've thought about the situation well to see if I ever did any wrong.
Nevertheless, I will have the conversation with others when needed again. And if both both parties are cool, we go on. If vice versa, we put off, but being cleared that I'm at rest having done my part🥺😊.
Thank you so much once again. Your friendship will flourish, in Jesus name.
This is one good, Hard talk that's needed in our time. So much to unpack from this. Thank you so much for this Sis Ezinne. God bless you.
This is so exceptional. Well done Ezinne & Precious🥺🤍
I loved this conversation, everyone cannot be your friend. There are acquaintances and there are friends, different levels of communication and commitment. Thanks for sharing.
Ezinneeee, I have not watched this but seeing your contents makes me happy. I love you Zara! ♥️♥️
Exactly what I needed especially in this season I'm in. In all honesty letting God see you as you are even when you are in the wrong and you taking a step back to evaluate yourself even when the process seems slow,as far as God is involved, it may seem a lot but it's worth it.I keep praying to God to give me wisdom and give me the right friends that are for me as everyone is actually not meant for you as you may think based on your own understanding.
Mmm love love love this... great conversation... God bless you
I have been praying about this particular topic. Thank you Lord❤️.
This is so enlightening. Friendship is something I struggle with, I don't even understand why it's so hard.
I'd really love it if the full version of this episode was posted here on CZcams but nevertheless, thank you for your vulnerability 🥰
This!!!!! The last video on my channel was a friendship video with my close friend. We didn't talk to each other for about a year as well. It was crazy but the moment we got back together, nothing can ever come between us. Friendship is a BIG deal for me.... Sometimes having those difficult conversations are really really important. And, never force friendships!!!...
Love this video so much.. Thank you for sharing.
Such an interesting Convo, I enjoyed every bit of it. God bless you both.
I think Precious speaks like Somebi.
I too muted some friends because i didn't want to feel hurt in feeling left out or forgotten. Like i was the only one making efforts to see these ppl, so it wasnt even because of a fight , i just didn’t want to keep feeling bitter towards them
This is me, story of my life. 😔
Excellent discussion!! God bless you both and may He continue to you wisdom. 🩷
About the first question, I relocated out of the country and I can tell you for a fact that your friendships won’t remain the same forever 😂not when there is time difference and long distance wahala.People grow and people outgrow each other but please let’s not be resentful about it.Iz not a do or die affair,life is not supposed to be that hard.
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😭 sighhh
So timely! God bless you ❤
Thank you for this ❤️
Thank you for this podcast.. it gave me a different perspective about friendship. 😊
Ok first off, I didn’t know Precious Ada was this cool. I LOVED LOVED this conversation!! SO Needed! ALSOO, I thought of David and Jonathan as well few mins before Precious Ada brought it up 😌😌
Haha, yes I’m cool rahhh🤪😂🤍
Thank you for this conversation.
I love this so much!
This is a really nice video and very insightful ❤. God bless you ❤️
The podcast ended suddenly, I really enjoyed the conversation!
“This is a heart you’re dealing with.”
I thought I was just gonna listen to a convo. But this comment put my relations with others into a new perspective.
Absolutely beautiful episode♥️
I can relate with Precious so so well!
God bless you guys
This really spoke to me.
I'd probably ask God more for his help in my friendships
Love this the quality everything ezinne everything!
Thank youuu!
Absolutely!!
Love the set up 😍
God is good, thanks to God for this! God bless & strengthen you, ezinne. ❤️
God bless you, i really needed this
Where have you been Ezinne? Missed you so much. Good to have you back
This conversation was so wholesome. Wow❤
Dear 20 something brought me here,I like the atmosphere around you,it's safe❤️
This was so wholesome 💕
I love to see God answering my prayers. What are the odds that this is the topic you would start with? I'm having issues with my friendships and I've been battling with how I feel and what is the right thing to do. Definitely some sound advice here, God sees me and He cares enough to answer me. Thank you once again.
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Thank you for this 👏
God bless you Ezinne ❤
I loved this podcast episode💜
I really love your friend now
So much insight🤲
This is so informative 😊🎉
I'm always here!
Learnt a lot.
Do more series.
You inspire me, Ezinne.
Notification gengggggg💃💃😂
This is a very timely video sis Ezinne. Thank you ma for this.
I have a question tho. How do one handle friends and one’s partner cos some friends may think they are entitled to “all” of you and demand more unknowingly.
How do you strike a balance with friends that seem like they are intruding into your marital life.
Having this understanding of what true friendship is by your co-host.
Jeeeeeez! Watching this I've seen how much I've grown and how much effort I still need to put in to be a better friend. The fear of letting people know that we care just because we feel they will throw it back at us just puts us in a really bad place.
With everything I've learned from this podcast going forward, I'm committed to having difficult conversations and being a better person when it comes to friendship.
If I do most in the friendship I will give you space, it is not by force but I hold no grudges because forcing it is not good at all.
I use to talk to my secondary School best friend everyday but now we only talk on our birthdays . I tried to build it again but nothing
thank you
i'm 20 and i'm learning
The story is so relatable, but I've just let go, now, as an introvert , I need to strive to form new relationships
This was wholesome.
Thank you❤
The editing >>>
We were a trio and we scattered around the world for school and now one of us is just not friends with us anymore. I think she’s outgrown us and at first we tried to get her back but then we realized it just wasn’t working so we let it be ❤ the Holyspirit spoke to me in that moment about the way seasons change I felt a bit better afterwards
This right here is the same thing that happened to me, even though I still miss our friendship I still have to accept it in a good way.
@@ebierebere exactly! 🥹
I enjoyed this episode soooo much 🥹❤️❤️