đŸ˜± What people think a panic attack looks like... Dr Julie

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  • @DrJulie
    @DrJulie  Pƙed 2 lety +13974

    Hi I'm Dr. Julie | Clinical Psychologist subscribe & follow me for lots more videos on mental health and psychology.
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    • @nikhatjabeen9107
      @nikhatjabeen9107 Pƙed 2 lety +129

      My daughter is suffering from hidden anxiety for years and I just found out, how do I make her feel better she dosent even have time please tell

    • @oddsnott2115
      @oddsnott2115 Pƙed 2 lety +52

      I have social anxiety disorder

    • @marcelaordonezmendoza5283
      @marcelaordonezmendoza5283 Pƙed 2 lety +37

      The first one looks like a panic attack, does it?

    • @user-kx2nr5wq5c
      @user-kx2nr5wq5c Pƙed 2 lety +24

      as a first year psychology student I have this everyday

    • @Justanotherequestrian1
      @Justanotherequestrian1 Pƙed 2 lety +18

      Great definition people ask me how it is I’m like you act normal but feel 
.

  • @jocelynllamas6600
    @jocelynllamas6600 Pƙed rokem +49364

    There was one guy in my entire career who picked up on my anxiety. Looking back, I appreciate his ability to pick up on it. I would (and still do) sit completely still, look straight ahead, and wouldn't say a word. He would tell me that everything was gonna be alright and remind me that he was right next to me. Good guy.

    • @nqzzxx16
      @nqzzxx16 Pƙed rokem +1342

      That is a good guy

    • @zwyubawx9756
      @zwyubawx9756 Pƙed rokem +905

      I want a guy like that 💜. Hope he's doing well.

    • @opticalsound4444
      @opticalsound4444 Pƙed rokem +1242

      I wonder if he had anxiety, too. It can be hard to spot if you don't recognize it. I've had anxiety my whole life, and oftentimes the people closest to me had no idea I was having a panic attack because I was very quiet. I'm glad you had him in your life, and I hope you're doing well.

    • @divyashrees9648
      @divyashrees9648 Pƙed rokem +153

      God bless him .. he was your Saviour, you are lucky

    • @lkeke35
      @lkeke35 Pƙed rokem +316

      People don't realize that at that moment what you are trying to do is "maintain" your equilibrium. You are just hanging on for dear life. That other way comes from actor's depictions of anxiety!

  • @wispyspirits2158
    @wispyspirits2158 Pƙed 2 lety +19299

    “I don’t believe you’re panicked, you’re really calm”
    No, Bertha, I’m dissociating while having flashbacks.

  • @maddyiskind
    @maddyiskind Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +254

    The struggle to act like you arent panicking so that other people dont notice your panicking 😭

    • @_hsp_me
      @_hsp_me Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +5

      Ya same here can you tell me more about you....I need someone

    • @Puppylove82-gv3gm
      @Puppylove82-gv3gm Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +7

      Yup! I just get up and walk in another room if I can. My husband knows exactly when I'm having a rough time because I'll quietly go in the other room and blast the fan in my face. He will just come in and rub my shoulders.

    • @aninditanair8754
      @aninditanair8754 Pƙed 2 měsĂ­ci +3

      Omg, this is so real.

    • @hopeg02
      @hopeg02 Pƙed 27 dny

      @@Puppylove82-gv3gmthat’s a good man❀

    • @Kristal205
      @Kristal205 Pƙed 5 dny

      I had chance
.
      I was alone in my room 😆

  • @Not_Maria
    @Not_Maria Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +78

    As someone with severe anxiety, this is true. I space out and stuff, it all goes down on the inside

  • @kuuchan9823
    @kuuchan9823 Pƙed 2 lety +8273

    Me: "I'm having a panic attack"
    Them: "but you look so calm"

    • @-zogekusari-3264
      @-zogekusari-3264 Pƙed 2 lety +316

      Me: "yeah, I would like to not make it worse by attention drawn to myself tyvm- 🙂"
      I tend to get it a lot when I'm walking past people, in that moment my only thoughts are the words "walk faster" repeating over and over again

    • @blissedits8842
      @blissedits8842 Pƙed 2 lety +98

      that happened when i lost my
      phone once, i was completely in my own world until someone said “you look so calm, how?!” and i was like “i don’t know”😭

    • @nereammc_99
      @nereammc_99 Pƙed 2 lety +11

      Yeah

    • @elizabethm4487
      @elizabethm4487 Pƙed 2 lety +101

      Anxiety: The person may appear calm on the outside and be frustrated, worried, restless, nervous, excited, insecure, or anxious on the inside

    • @skyy...1224
      @skyy...1224 Pƙed 2 lety +43

      Yahh.... it's so trueee...
      We just make ourselves look calm and normal from outside to avoid bunch of questions.....
      But from inside we are just getting eaten up by hundreds of emotions.....

  • @dyrun-me777
    @dyrun-me777 Pƙed rokem +3162

    That's true. I freeze up, I don't move. I sit. And I can't talk

    • @timidbear4204
      @timidbear4204 Pƙed rokem +16

      Same this is exactly me! Do you have selective mutism?
      Oh wait your talking about panic attacks? Oh I thought it was the whole time đŸ«€

    • @dyrun-me777
      @dyrun-me777 Pƙed rokem +70

      @@timidbear4204 not just panic attacks. If my brain gets to much info and I get stressed my speaking gets thrown out the window. I can end up being quiet for an hour or more. I don't know what it is. But, anxiety does make it worse.

    • @aklev5745
      @aklev5745 Pƙed rokem +4

      Same here

    • @pcnerd494
      @pcnerd494 Pƙed rokem +7

      @ella I had a test today in maths, near the end I completely froze up and was bawling and felt like I was gonna die, I cry when I have panic attacks to

    • @pcnerd494
      @pcnerd494 Pƙed rokem +2

      @ella I stayed for 10 minutes after the lesson and she was comforting me, the week before I went to a friends house and she was asking me if I enjoyed it etc . Thanks

  • @chang3227
    @chang3227 Pƙed 3 měsĂ­ci +368

    Golden teachers has been my go-to mushroom for months, it has helped in my recovery journey

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      @thrickthooter4403 Pƙed 3 měsĂ­ci

      looking at the good effects of psilocybin mushrooms on depression I had a test, the effects of just one dose of psilocybin mushroom gave me an amazing healing..

    • @kristahutchinson6519
      @kristahutchinson6519 Pƙed 3 měsĂ­ci +2

      I can't speak for everyone magic shrooms rejuvenated me, No doubt about that. It lifted an existential angst that I have been carrying for years. It never came back.

    • @mavahenderson7757
      @mavahenderson7757 Pƙed 3 měsĂ­ci

      Results have shown that one or two doses of psilocybin mushrooms given in a therapeutic setting, can make long-lasting changes in people suffering from depressive disorders.

    • @coryflores4964
      @coryflores4964 Pƙed 3 měsĂ­ci +1

      To hold a fresh psilocybin mushroom in one's hand is to possess the very nature of oneself. Their beauty meets their potency.

    • @mavahenderson7757
      @mavahenderson7757 Pƙed 3 měsĂ­ci

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  • @AlinaRaven
    @AlinaRaven Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +157

    I go through fazes of both. Sometimes, I'll literally scream and cry because I feel like I can't breathe, and other times, I freeze. It's like everything shuts down but is also running at an overwhelming speed.
    Thank you for bringing awareness to this! ❀

    • @katelovell625
      @katelovell625 Pƙed 4 měsĂ­ci +1

      For me, the sounds get distorted, and I get very disturbed by it.

    • @greenscreenasshole
      @greenscreenasshole Pƙed 3 měsĂ­ci

      Lol grow up

    • @bbgphoto
      @bbgphoto Pƙed měsĂ­cem

      Have you ever looked up autistic meltdown/shutdown. You probably should 😼

    • @bbgphoto
      @bbgphoto Pƙed měsĂ­cem

      @doggo7166 I just found out at 47 that I am high functioning Autistic and probably should have started an acting career for the amount of faking it I had to do all of my life. I hope you're getting through these better đŸ‘đŸ»â€ïž

    • @bbgphoto
      @bbgphoto Pƙed měsĂ­cem

      @doggo7166 also look up depersonalization/derealization 😉

  • @user-tw8uq4pr9k
    @user-tw8uq4pr9k Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +1908

    i love how she said “can also look like” and not “what it really looks like” because not all peoples’ anxiety looks the same, and most times people misunderstand that.

    • @KaylaDinan
      @KaylaDinan Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +8

      Ur so right

    • @movie_maiden
      @movie_maiden Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +8

      Fr my anxiety attacks looks different depending on the cause of the attack
      If I have to still do things during my attacks, like at work I stim by shaking my hand to get myself through the work or task until I can take a moment to calm down
      If I get stuck in a situation I can't control I'm hyperventilating & crying making myself choke on my own saliva.
      If I am surrounded by lots of people & im feeling claustrophobic I sort of switch off I try and shut down the thoughts so I don't freak out
      If im travelling on public transport or in very loud places the headphones 🎧 go on im blasting music in my ears and vibing to the music so I don't freak out
      It's situational & sometimes it's obvious that I'm struggling sometimes I can look fine...
      Actually I just realised that my anxiety is probably why I felt uneasy at work if the radio hadn't been put on (I worked in fast food, the music is for customers but tbh it helped me with the work) like it would be sort of quiet and you'll hear that people are talking eating and drinking and it just felt so icky without the music

    • @LordBananaTag123
      @LordBananaTag123 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci

      I usually kick at my legs till I can feel them again, and stab at my ears with my finger nails, for pretty similar things. @@movie_maiden

    • @MCheshire
      @MCheshire Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +9

      And on the first is written "always looks like", I liked that she didn't exclude any of the situations, because the first one is also true

    • @ahhwe-any7434
      @ahhwe-any7434 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci

      No it's the ghetto ppl for me. Every freaking day. I only get thrown off bc of ghetto ppl. Meanwhile all their daily mishaps: honestly have no clue what you're talking about . Gonna keep doing it too bc our lane is huger?...& We own it. Apply of meeded

  • @songindarkness
    @songindarkness Pƙed rokem +1903

    I was once told I couldn’t have much anxiety by a counsellor because I don’t really have the first kind of panic attack but later another therapist explained that holding a lot of tension and stress in the body and freezing is also anxiety.

    • @kristinehansen.
      @kristinehansen. Pƙed rokem +82

      Some people think anxiety and panic attacks are the same.

    • @gigga143
      @gigga143 Pƙed rokem +32

      yeah it’s so true
 i sometimes have panic attacks where i have to try and keep myself calm but i also hold a lot of tension in my body, my shoulders and neck always have muscle knots. even if i go to a masseuse and have them massages out they usually return within a day or two.

    • @DearReaderReadAloud
      @DearReaderReadAloud Pƙed rokem +44

      It bothers me a lot that there are counselors out there like that first one. I wish they'd all know pretty basic stuff about the main disorders they're supposed to have degrees in.

    • @unseelie63
      @unseelie63 Pƙed rokem +6

      ​@Kristine Hansen So true,and they aren't.I have panic disorder but I also have generalized anxiety disorder and they are truly do manifest much differently.

    • @mystic0screams
      @mystic0screams Pƙed rokem +5

      Yeah alot is in my head I'm panicking and wondering if anyone can see I'm out of my mind frantic. If it gets to unbearable I scream in a pillow for a lil while and go about my day.
      Horrible coping method

  • @yourlord5972
    @yourlord5972 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +98

    It’s that feeling when you’re so happy and then you let your mind drift into an infinite void of worry, staring ahead for what feels like forever thinking about things that just happened or happened years ago. I really wish it wasn’t this way but it is. I guess that’s why depression and anxiety are so closely related

  • @jaxxn932
    @jaxxn932 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +14

    I get both versions. My worst episodes consist of me getting so stressed out that when my boyfriend tries to comfort me and talk to me, I'll be looking at him and processing what he's saying, but then it's like my brain and body get so overwhelmed that I blank completely, I can't open my mouth to speak, and sometimes I'll cry and black out and not remember what happened when i wake up. My boyfriend tells me it's almost like the stress and anxiety paralyze me :(

  • @LoraLindemann
    @LoraLindemann Pƙed rokem +1893

    Sometimes you can't even express it, but feel it deeply

    • @kateclory4803
      @kateclory4803 Pƙed rokem +13

      the same

    • @nadew.02
      @nadew.02 Pƙed rokem +12

      Same

    • @catherinevaz6139
      @catherinevaz6139 Pƙed rokem +2

      Same

    • @vidushiagrawal1031
      @vidushiagrawal1031 Pƙed rokem +2

      Sometimes you feel it so deeply that you're not able to express it

    • @Stylomagic
      @Stylomagic Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci

      Good for you, that you can feel it. I couldn't and got ulcerative colitis. If you supress it so much, that you even don't realise you have panic attacks, then you get very, very ill after a while. But I am cured from it. Now I have both kinds of panic attacks that are shown in ths video and irritable bowel syndrome. Its way easier to handle than uc, but since I am in therapy, both will not stuck for a long time with me. I see already a lot of changes, panic attacks are almost completely gone and ibs I have only when I have trigger. I work arround the trigger and come closer and closer to them. I face the fears I have to get finally rid of them, because I am so tired to be afraid of something that happened almost 20 years ago. Also I am angry and by that I mean I sometimes wish to rip the people that have caused me so much pain, apart. But sometimes I try to understand them to forgive and both things are in me. I mourn and get angry and get panic attacks and then repeat. And sometimes I have days like the people in commercials, where everything is fine. And then the wheel of hell is spinning around again.

  • @Herocaa
    @Herocaa Pƙed 2 lety +1821

    Anxiety feels like the moment you hear end-Level-boss music but no boss is near you

  • @ashashey
    @ashashey Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +6

    I almost had an panic attack today because someone starting yelling at me when they almost drove into me 😅 They freaking chased me down the road to yell about how stupid I was even tho they turned when I had the right of way. There are cameras to capture moments like that and I’m glad they didn’t follow me home.

    • @SarahCarrizales-nk3ie
      @SarahCarrizales-nk3ie Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +2

      The other day a lady was doing the turnaround on the feeder road, almost passed the yield, and then stuck the finger at ME just because I mouthed “wtf” at her when she could have ran into me. Lol. It’s funny how people get angry at others even when they are at fault when it comes to driving mistakes.

  • @royalty_deadly_roses
    @royalty_deadly_roses Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +10

    Me : "i don't have anxiety"
    Also me : *has the second version of panic attacks*

  • @BeatrizViana13
    @BeatrizViana13 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +675

    Love how you specified “always” and “sometimes” because both reactions do exist and it 100% depends on the person, the situation, what triggered the attack, among other things

    • @eveewantspjmanpants570
      @eveewantspjmanpants570 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +10

      When I was younger and didn't realize what was happening, the first one occurred often. Now that I'm older, it's like a mix of the two. Staring frequently, but trying to calm myself down. The cold calms me down for some reason, so I have gum and mints to chew on to stay focused at work if I have one, and I won't talk, because I will still cry. Then I go to my car and cry my brains out, hyperventilate and then I calm down sometimes. But still can't solve the pit in my stomach I have for the rest of the day.

  • @elisedoesart1081
    @elisedoesart1081 Pƙed 2 lety +4778

    The first one is me at home in my room. But usually I'm just in my bed with tears swelling in my eyes. In public areas I just sit and zone out until I'm only thinking what I'm anxious about.

  • @ciarawilliams4359
    @ciarawilliams4359 Pƙed 2 měsĂ­ci +1

    I remember when I had a panic attack in the middle of cheer practice. I straight up said to my coach “I’m having a panic attack so I’m going to the locker room real quick”
    Her, (being sweetest person) allowed me to take as long as I needed to

  • @chiicken_
    @chiicken_ Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +6

    This is so true, one time I heard noises that's not real and thought someone broke in. I called everyone and when they came they thought I was lying, it's after some days I realized it's my panic attack that rarely happens. I sweat a LOT (I used air conditioner that night) and I kept trembling, shaking, crying in silence as if I'm trapped inside my hollow body unable to move.

    • @Jazzafrazz_dragons
      @Jazzafrazz_dragons Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +1

      I have undiagnosed anxiety and insomnia and to remedy it I listen to a meditation. On day my headphones died and didn’t listen to it. I stayed up all night analyzing every sound thinking someone is going to break in. My cat plays in the window and moves the curtains and I every time I swear I’m going to get mvrdered. Ps I know you shouldn’t self diagnose but I did anyway

    • @chiicken_
      @chiicken_ Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci

      @@Jazzafrazz_dragons haha the thoughts of going to get murdered is so relatable

    • @Jazzafrazz_dragons
      @Jazzafrazz_dragons Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci

      @@chiicken_ honestly tho

  • @dreamscometrue9578
    @dreamscometrue9578 Pƙed 2 lety +24073

    As someone with high functioning anxiety who would get yelled at for crying as a child, i resonate with this!

    • @thecelticcrone7927
      @thecelticcrone7927 Pƙed 2 lety +489

      We learn Early to Wear that Smile like a Mask & to Push Our ‘Feelings’ WAYYY DOWN.

    • @dreamscometrue9578
      @dreamscometrue9578 Pƙed 2 lety +331

      @@thecelticcrone7927 That is the truth! I see many people that were raised like that and today those teachings manifest in the forms of avoidant behaviors. Avoiding working through difficult feelings is a struggle of mine, and I often get overwhelmed to the point that I eventually break down.

    • @thecelticcrone7927
      @thecelticcrone7927 Pƙed 2 lety +64

      @@dreamscometrue9578
      Procrastination is my Boon. 😂

    • @Nebby1418
      @Nebby1418 Pƙed 2 lety +120

      Holy fuck.
      I just realized why this happens to me. Thank you for sharing

    • @smartchick6765
      @smartchick6765 Pƙed 2 lety +26

      Is it sad that u had SUPER BAD anxiety w ever since I was two

  • @ilikemydonutswithjaminthem5606
    @ilikemydonutswithjaminthem5606 Pƙed rokem +2527

    It hurts so much when people without anxiety tell you to grow up. As if you were acting like a shy child. THEY HAVE NO IDEA what anxiety feels like and that it's extremely challenging

    • @riv3r666
      @riv3r666 Pƙed rokem +74

      I can't agree more. It really does make me feel childish and it shouldn't, all because of people like that. Which really does just tack more onto the anxiety honestly. Very harmful. If only people would realize how much power their words have and can inflict so much damage.

    • @verysuscat
      @verysuscat Pƙed rokem

      You know what's worse? These people happen to be what you call "family".

    • @tuliptail5539
      @tuliptail5539 Pƙed rokem +47

      Exactly! Especially when they say that there are so many bigger problems in the world that your anxiety issues. Grow up , cheer up . Stop lazing around ...!!
      Hurts like hell!

    • @roxanne_
      @roxanne_ Pƙed rokem

      Or that people say you have a bitch face because you never smile or talk. 😃thanks Sarah duly noted but one thing you don’t understand is that I’m mentally not ok :)

    • @_je0njungk00kie
      @_je0njungk00kie Pƙed rokem +27

      Exactly. Which is why I refrain from voicing my anxieties about certain things that I think will be deemed “stupid”, “childish”, or “ridiculous”. I just think to myself “this is so ridiculous why are you even worrying about something like this??”

  • @leo_thebengal
    @leo_thebengal Pƙed 3 měsĂ­ci +1

    as someone with pretty severe anxiety both are accurate. its also so annoying when people tell you “your fine” or “stop overreacting” or “just calm down” like its that easy. thanks, i never thought to just tell my anxiety to stop!

  • @SunflowerBloom333
    @SunflowerBloom333 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +1

    I try to act as normal as I can even though I’m dying on the inside đŸ˜ąâ€

  • @katierages
    @katierages Pƙed 2 lety +1551

    Shaking, fidgeting and spacing out is also a huge thing for me when I get anxiety.

  • @xoxolorae
    @xoxolorae Pƙed rokem +3920

    Yes!! This is so important. Anxiety attacks are not the same as PANIC attacks, which can be more like the first part of her act. Anxiety attacks for me is when my mind starts to spiral and I feel sick and like I’m going to die. I generally will act strange - like either rock back and forth without saying anything or scratch my sides or my hands repeatedly. In public, I tend to stop dead in my tracks and just stand there.
    Had a lady recognize I was having an attack at the grocery store when she saw me idling with my cart in an aisle, stretching my hands out repeatedly. She asked me if I was okay and I simply shook my head no. She said “come with me for a second okay?” and proceeded to ask me my name, what I was at the store for. What kinda recipes I liked, etc. She talked me out of my freeze.
    Anxiety needs distraction. Our minds become fixated on the doom feeling and we spiral. It’s hard to snap ourselves out of it sometimes. One of the best things you can do for someone is just talk to them about anything besides anxiety. Just be normal and ask them normal questions. Eventually, your brain will re-wire itself and be okay.

    • @mynotificationsareoff..goc358
      @mynotificationsareoff..goc358 Pƙed rokem +11

      Nope

    • @amnestyvibes
      @amnestyvibes Pƙed rokem +111

      Awww I'm glad that she was able to help you. It sounds like you might have been dissociating. đŸ«‚

    • @erinnicole3170
      @erinnicole3170 Pƙed rokem +117

      Anxiety attacks for me are so much scarier than a panic attack. Panic attacks are mostly physical for me, like I'll start shaking uncontrollably. Mt first one I actually went into ER bc I didn't know what was going on. Anxiety attacks make me feel crazy. Like I'm losing my mind. And for those I just sit there not able to talk until I feel like I'm having a heart attack. My first one was literally the scariest moment of my life. I didn't know what was going on.
      That's so wonderful how that lady helped you though ❀

    • @xoxolorae
      @xoxolorae Pƙed rokem +65

      @@erinnicole3170 yeah exactly! it feels like we’re going crazy and we can’t stop it. And we almost always feel like we’re going to die. It’s so awful. That lady was amazing! I’ve never had a stranger know what’s going on like that. She was a little older and said her son who is 15, has severe anxiety disorder, which is why she recognized the patterns. It was honestly really nice and I snapped out of it pretty quickly.

    • @tiffanykip
      @tiffanykip Pƙed rokem +46

      She sounds amazing!
      I do the same with my panic attacks, i need to distract myself.
      I ask my partner to just tell me a random story.
      Other things that help for me is to "trick" my body, i get scared when my breathing gets faster and i cant control it.
      By tricking myself i get calm.
      I start to drink a lot of water or walk or even run for a bit.
      That way i make myself think i only breath faster because of the drinking/running.
      Cold also helps because i start to sweat when i have an attack, if youre super cold it helps to calm down too (for me atleast, it has to be like so cold you start to shiver)

  • @ChaseRice-vf1ow
    @ChaseRice-vf1ow Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +2

    As a person with very frequent anxiety I’m glad too see others understand

  • @chloehammerquist6150
    @chloehammerquist6150 Pƙed 3 měsĂ­ci +1

    Thank you for sharing this. I struggle with anxiety and both of these situations happen to me. ❀

  • @eireball
    @eireball Pƙed 2 lety +1413

    i like how they said “can also”

    • @rama-uh2gl
      @rama-uh2gl Pƙed 2 lety +4

      Same

    • @skyy...1224
      @skyy...1224 Pƙed 2 lety +1

      Yahh 😐...

    • @ggcntrl
      @ggcntrl Pƙed 2 lety +53

      instead of “actually looks like” exactly

    • @skyy...1224
      @skyy...1224 Pƙed 2 lety +3

      @@ggcntrl yahhh...

    • @rainyparade7867
      @rainyparade7867 Pƙed 2 lety +20

      exactly, cause mine can look like both pretty often.

  • @alexahughes4605
    @alexahughes4605 Pƙed 2 lety +28124

    then you get told off for “not listening” or “being in ur own world”
    15k likes!? you guys are unreal x

    • @isabellekennedy116
      @isabellekennedy116 Pƙed 2 lety +472

      I get told that all the time and it upsets me. I also get in trouble if I cry and I don’t get why it is a bad thing?

    • @luna_sunny1726
      @luna_sunny1726 Pƙed 2 lety +345

      And if you cry. The only thing people say is “stop crying” sometimes they mean well. Sometimes they dont :(

    • @olive-_-1633
      @olive-_-1633 Pƙed 2 lety +49

      LITERALLY

    • @goosegoeshonk19
      @goosegoeshonk19 Pƙed 2 lety +28

      Yes.

    • @starry.sk13s
      @starry.sk13s Pƙed 2 lety +134

      I hate when people do that bcs I daydream a lot when im stressed

  • @adxlla_editz
    @adxlla_editz Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +2

    Omg this is so relatable when i have anxiety

  • @solution42
    @solution42 Pƙed 2 měsĂ­ci +2

    I had 2 panic attacks in my life and it's something extremely frightening. I couldn't breathe, had a high heart rate, I thought I was gonna die so my whole body shut down. I couldn't see anything I collapsed and the only thing I was shouting was get some help. That happened because I was unaware that I dealed with high stress because it was normal for me at that time but my body couldn't deal with it. Only cure was: I broke up with my then boyfriend, quit university, don't speak with anybody just going for long walks in the forest and just relax. Since 2016 I never had this anxiety attacks again I started with university again, found a job, never getting into relationships just staying focused on my journey and dreams and go out more be more in the greens and sun.

  • @StewartFletcher
    @StewartFletcher Pƙed 2 lety +6253

    Whenever I feel genuine anxiety, I usually look very calm, almost statuesque.

    • @ourorchestra769
      @ourorchestra769 Pƙed 2 lety +13

      Me too

    • @InternetWAPx
      @InternetWAPx Pƙed 2 lety +111

      Yeah, because anxiety or panic can be paralyzing, to the point, you don't feel able to do much.

    • @wombats7221
      @wombats7221 Pƙed 2 lety +4

      Same

    • @jenniferyu2828
      @jenniferyu2828 Pƙed 2 lety +6

      Same here but anxiety has already had me inside out
      I cant quite describe what it feels like but yea almost as if u were about to die

    • @S1L3NT-M00N
      @S1L3NT-M00N Pƙed 2 lety +6

      When im alone in my room at midnight i look like the beginning of the vid but when i around people or just during the day i look like im lost in thought

  • @megansmerch1234
    @megansmerch1234 Pƙed rokem +879

    When I get a panic attack I don’t try to show that I am having one.
    I literally struggle to breathe.

  • @Lemonsugersweet44
    @Lemonsugersweet44 Pƙed 4 měsĂ­ci +1

    I love how there is a video to show people who do have anxiety to get over it or um not

  • @Vents01
    @Vents01 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +1

    I shake and I’m unfazed about it, it comes in different forms.

  • @blessedbeauty3989
    @blessedbeauty3989 Pƙed rokem +1894

    I had a panic attack in the middle of taking an important entry exam for nursing. My heart was pounding so hard I thought I was going to have a heart attack. I had to keep myself calm and whisper to the exam attendant that I was having a panic attack and asked if I could go to the bathroom (it was a really tense "official" environment where we had to leave everything in an assigned locker outside of the room, no hoodies, no coats, they even made a woman take off her headband.) I ended up putting cold water on my face and talking myself down and resumed the test. I passed and got my spot in the nursing program but I didn't think I was going to be able to finish initially.

    • @AT-pw9dx
      @AT-pw9dx Pƙed rokem +32

      Good on you for maintainong your composure!😊

    • @nottthereyet4872
      @nottthereyet4872 Pƙed rokem +55

      I feel so badly for you. I remember having panic attacks in my early 30s and thought it would never end. No one understands like another person who has experienced it.
      I'm in my 60s now and have been free from that nightmare for decades. I hope this encourages anyone who is going through this. I fought it naturally and made it out the other side.

    • @Zaaaane
      @Zaaaane Pƙed rokem +1

      Your lying for clout on CZcams comments. Honestly disgusting.

    • @Ikigai747
      @Ikigai747 Pƙed rokem +20

      @@nottthereyet4872 thank u! as a teenager who goes through this, this gives me hope really..

    • @nottthereyet4872
      @nottthereyet4872 Pƙed rokem +22

      @Silent Voice I'm not a doctor, but I personally feel there are a combination of factors that contribute to panic attacks.
      In my case, some personal stress, work stress (even though I loved my job), too much caffeine (which I completely eliminated from my diet), overthinking situations, and possibly hormone fluctuation at any age.
      I focused on a healthy balanced diet, physical movement, and leaning INTO the panic attacks by allowing myself to have many "ugly cries" ~ which actually helped my body release the angst.
      And finding a trusted "buddy" to help talk me down. Also, after receiving enough physical exams 🙃 to convince me I was NOT "going to die" ~ my headspace began to shift.
      I regained my confidence and my voice. A supportive environment really helps!
      It may take a little time, but I just know that you will be fine. 💕

  • @honeybunnydeadchannel.4737
    @honeybunnydeadchannel.4737 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +3336

    Im very thankful that you said "also" because people has different ways to try and calm their anxiety down. ❀

    • @aury__0005
      @aury__0005 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +43

      Exactly, for example it helps me to put the music on with my headphones at maximum volume and start dancing

    • @anonomous8649
      @anonomous8649 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +17

      Yup I experience both of these, but get extremely frantic during panic attacks as apposed to my outwardly calm anxiety attacks. It sucks either way 😅

    • @ettaetta439
      @ettaetta439 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +5

      ​​@@anonomous8649I experience both of these, but the reverse of you. I get overly calm when I'm having a panic attack and act like the first depiction when I'm having an anxiety attack.

    • @Weepwoopwop
      @Weepwoopwop Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci

      Fr!!! Like I’ve personally experienced both. Both kinds suck balls

  • @Klee.the.destroyer
    @Klee.the.destroyer Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +1

    The silence is so loud in my head, it gives me headaches.
    So I stopped worrying about the future.

  • @Nerd_kith
    @Nerd_kith Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +1

    Having dealt with both sides of this, I have to say this is soooooo true

  • @lalalaokaok
    @lalalaokaok Pƙed rokem +2572

    I always stay still, silent and sat when having panick attacks, you can’t bend or lay down because it’ll feel worse it’s like you’re gonna have a heart attack or die! or sometime you would just cry.

    • @sabrinagilmore
      @sabrinagilmore Pƙed 11 měsĂ­ci +45

      This is so true
 I already had so many of them and still, every time I get a hard one I think I’m about to die because maybe I’m having a heart attack. Does anyone else feel that weird pain (it’s like it’s in your veins) and numbness in your body when it happens? That what scares me the most out of all the physical symptoms

    • @muichirotokito1239
      @muichirotokito1239 Pƙed 11 měsĂ­ci +5

      My anxiety kinda look like I sit down or cover with my blanket and cry

    • @muichirotokito1239
      @muichirotokito1239 Pƙed 11 měsĂ­ci +7

      ​@@sabrinagilmoreyea my throat gets dry I heard that's pretty common in anxiety

    • @Millipedemike
      @Millipedemike Pƙed 11 měsĂ­ci +5

      ​@@sabrinagilmoreomg yes! just had one. I've never had one before sober. I only have these things when I smoke weed, and just now got to know this is actually a panic attack, and not a result of smoking (I don't smoke anymore because of this very reason) I also get this weird cold feeling near my ears, and it's like I'm being pulled back in time. super scary.

    • @Aki_SĂžra-san_n
      @Aki_SĂžra-san_n Pƙed 11 měsĂ­ci

      @@muichirotokito1239 Hello fellow tokito-

  • @sarlami0
    @sarlami0 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +439

    I get constant stomach pains, loss of appetite, disassociation, anxiety attacks, panic attacks, trouble making friends, over apologising, people pleasing, self blame. It’s hard, but I’m working on myself and people like you are truly lifesavers in these hard times. Thank you.❀❀❀❀
    Edit: I’m so sorry for anyone who feels the same way as I do. It sucks, but we can get through it! Stay strong guys, you can do this. (A lot of my issues have been getting better recently, hooray!)

    • @Stawrberii
      @Stawrberii Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +2

      You can do this!

    • @blueyeditz0fficial
      @blueyeditz0fficial Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +1

      Same

    • @YourGirlEYas
      @YourGirlEYas Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +1

      Same

    • @nutan9035
      @nutan9035 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +1

      Do u have bpd..??

    • @sarlami0
      @sarlami0 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +1

      @@nutan9035 I
 dont think so. I’ve been to a physiologist multiple times but she’s helped me more with more specific issues and I’m not having another session with her (not yet at least, will see how I go.) my symptoms are getting better, however. I’m on holiday with my family right now and I’m away from the things that have made me anxious (toxic (ex) boyfriend). I might look into it though, but I’m not gonna self-diagnose.

  • @Ava_Roblox0311
    @Ava_Roblox0311 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +1

    Thank you for showing me this, I am now realizing I do this everyday and a lot of people in my school does it, I might have anxiety now that I think about it, I wish I noticed this sooner😱

  • @UrFavMandi
    @UrFavMandi Pƙed 3 měsĂ­ci +1

    As someone with anxiety I can definitely relate


  • @cake_play7787
    @cake_play7787 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +961

    Im so happy she put "also" bc people experience anxiety in different ways ❀❀❀

    • @ssturniologirl
      @ssturniologirl Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +1

      FRRR

    • @lillyramirez2425
      @lillyramirez2425 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +8

      Right. People think I'm lying when I tell them I have anxiety just because I don't "freak out" in front of them.

    • @cake_play7787
      @cake_play7787 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +7

      @@lillyramirez2425 yeah like it can go both ways, some "freak out" and others look like they are calm

    • @UnknownBoyXD4
      @UnknownBoyXD4 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +1

      the second one is how mine are

  • @thestrugglingoptimist2541
    @thestrugglingoptimist2541 Pƙed rokem +1503

    Accurate. My anxiety can look like either one. Fore me, it depends on how I feel about the environment. If I realize it's actually a safe environment, my anxiety is actually more noticeable. However, if I am in a situation where I feel I can't trust the people around me, I usually disassociate in order to keep my anxiety mostly hidden.

    • @jannathepanna1674
      @jannathepanna1674 Pƙed 11 měsĂ­ci +23

      same same same although one time i had a severe panic attack in the public bus and had to leave early and just quick ran out and had a panic attack that was idk like one where i couldn’t hide it anymore like i threw my coat off and on the floor and almost threw up and sat on the ground trying not to panic until an old lady was walking on the sidewalk and i helplessly yelled help me but in like a sad voice and i started to break down and couldn’t say a word to her and she didn't fully understood why i was panicky but she did made me force to calm down and i said thanks im alright now and then i realised i left my bag with my wallet and anxiety help stuff like a puke-bag something to drink and eat on the bus. So yeah atleast i had my phone and headphones with me but still. its tough

    • @myrkflinn4331
      @myrkflinn4331 Pƙed 9 měsĂ­ci +11

      I do until I break... then the physical symptoms kick in and force me to act out or seek support

    • @MeowingFrog
      @MeowingFrog Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +3

      Same here, it always really does depend on the environment.

    • @Nothingbutdust_
      @Nothingbutdust_ Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +1

      Same, it often depends on the environment, but also on the nature of the anxiety itself.

    • @einaleMelanie
      @einaleMelanie Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci

      Wow I do the same thing, but I never actually realised I do until you mentioned it. At school, i’m dissociating the whole time I’m there. Once I got a panic attack because I couldn’t dissociate anymore.

  • @BuckBlaziken
    @BuckBlaziken Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +1

    As someone who had been diagnosed with anxiety, it’s actually more times than not silent and the person suffering has learned how to keep it internalized.

    • @ahhwe-any7434
      @ahhwe-any7434 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci

      I know but me also "f'n up" I'm sober, hmmk? Leave me alone. Well, drops some bills too. Then leave me alone

  • @Dinoclub2458
    @Dinoclub2458 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci

    This was me today, since it was my first day in year 7. I have no friends on my bus, but I’ve caught the bus before so it doesn’t matter, I had 1 friend in P.C, and none in the other classes, which really triggered me. If this happens to any one else out there, stay strong! You can 100% do this! Just believe in yourself! It doesn’t even have to be for school, it could be a new job, new city, or new country. Just believe, and stay positive!❀

  • @yanapopova4445
    @yanapopova4445 Pƙed rokem +917

    Anxiety can give you diarrhea also. You know you are anxious when you suddenly feel cramps and have to go to the toilet.

    • @katarzynakoscielska9431
      @katarzynakoscielska9431 Pƙed rokem +68

      OMG this 😭 internet hugs sister đŸ«‚

    • @christinabrausch2229
      @christinabrausch2229 Pƙed rokem +7

      yes

    • @anaistollerfield6826
      @anaistollerfield6826 Pƙed rokem +37

      I had a panic attack last Sunday
      During the lead up to it that day I couldn't use the toilet but once I had the panic attack it's as if my body was able to finally release it.
      It was like my body shut down for a couple hours and I didn't understand until after . Weird how our bodies work when stressed.

    • @eelast
      @eelast Pƙed rokem +23

      My gastric would act up, and sometimes i have a sudden attack of stomach cramp just because tomorrow i have to go somewhere like visiting a long distance relative, it's okay sis, keep in our mind, it's okay to make mistake everything will be alright

    • @janileecoleman1202
      @janileecoleman1202 Pƙed rokem +35

      Holy crap. I didn't realize this was a symptom I had with my anxiety until you just said something. I just thought I ate bad food every time it happened.

  • @fyndflow
    @fyndflow Pƙed 2 měsĂ­ci +1

    In mind, We often have images to accompany different situations. Unfortunately, when it comes to anxiety, this is the one that tends to dominate.

  • @AngelinaJones-bm7gy
    @AngelinaJones-bm7gy Pƙed 2 měsĂ­ci

    watching this just gave me anxietyđŸ€«đŸ§â€â™€ïž

  • @MAYBEE90
    @MAYBEE90 Pƙed 2 lety +581

    Ohh I felt this!! The anxiety feels paralyzing, like getting so anxious that you just sit in one place worrying like a statue.

    • @honeyk-pop2476
      @honeyk-pop2476 Pƙed 2 lety +5

      I also felt it đŸ˜¶đŸ˜¶

    • @jarmanpugh8486
      @jarmanpugh8486 Pƙed 2 lety +5

      Same here sometimes it's so bad that I just sit in silence and don't know what to say..😔

    • @ardianhesa4340
      @ardianhesa4340 Pƙed 2 lety +2

      This happened a lot during the college, but once I just “fck it I’m quitting” and my life got better

    • @creamcheeseontoast5714
      @creamcheeseontoast5714 Pƙed 2 lety +5

      And the worst is that 99% of the time it just makes the feeling worst too! You just focus on your thoughts endlessly.

    • @yeeyee2404
      @yeeyee2404 Pƙed 2 lety +4

      Yeah and the thoughts are endless and you feel like your in a loop

  • @chips726
    @chips726 Pƙed 2 lety +1883

    i literally just freeze up and lose control
    it’s terrifying, and i’ve developed this fear of *having* fear lmao

  • @VivianOpperman
    @VivianOpperman Pƙed 22 dny +1

    As a person with extreme anxiety this is so true!!! And then when someone asks if I’m ok and I just say ya but I’m really not đŸ˜…â€

  • @gacha._.lover2138
    @gacha._.lover2138 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci

    My anxiety is also often internal but people I know still notice it I appreciate it❀

  • @Miss_Prowlheart
    @Miss_Prowlheart Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +1030

    it also looks like being pleasurable and happy and cheery and then suddenly vanishing into the bathroom for quite awhile and reappearing, still cheery and pleasant
    edit: wow, many of you can relate, it seems! glad we're not alone in this ~ we can get through it!

    • @Lazygacha12
      @Lazygacha12 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +14

      Described me

    • @Miss_Prowlheart
      @Miss_Prowlheart Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci

      me 2@@Lazygacha12

    • @r3alityisnotreal
      @r3alityisnotreal Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +6

      Real

    • @InternetUser23469
      @InternetUser23469 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +13

      Bro I'm not the only one. I always lied and said I was gonna use the bathroom as a cover up and then I would just dry my tears and I even came up with my own technique.

    • @Miss_Prowlheart
      @Miss_Prowlheart Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci

      yeahhh i feel that so hard@@InternetUser23469

  • @samikshashahi1903
    @samikshashahi1903 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +2847

    Anxiety doesn’t often make noise, the thought of disturbing others can literally give u more anxiety
    Man I posted this six days ago and I got 1.6k likes. 1600 ppl who agree with me. This is real fucking sad

    • @DrDolphina
      @DrDolphina Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +59

      No but this literally me when I'm on the verge of tears in class.

    • @anaceweirdo1579
      @anaceweirdo1579 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +36

      Yes! I hate HATE being in loud places, it overstimulates me and then I become irritated and angry about it. But making noise in some situations IS UNBEARABLE to me.

    • @free4everinmyworld
      @free4everinmyworld Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +15

      This is the definition of majority my anxiety
      Making noise and bothering people, being hated by people etc

    • @rxni5519
      @rxni5519 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +3

      ​@@DrDolphina Same- and then they're like "Oh you're so calm and patient" I'M NOT 😭😭

    • @Excuseme911
      @Excuseme911 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +1

      fr!!!

  • @Taekaleaf
    @Taekaleaf Pƙed 2 měsĂ­ci

    I like how you said 'also', you aren't denying the first example

  • @Mythical-creature101
    @Mythical-creature101 Pƙed 3 měsĂ­ci +1

    This is so real ❀

  • @terraboo9922
    @terraboo9922 Pƙed rokem +401

    my anxiety actually looks like that I'm literally motionless and act as if nothing is wrong but I'm anxious or worrying about something

    • @maxgaming5353
      @maxgaming5353 Pƙed rokem +5

      Same are you okay now

    • @ccpr15
      @ccpr15 Pƙed rokem +14

      Same. I give off calm vibes but I’m dying inside.

    • @ro-fz1jt
      @ro-fz1jt Pƙed rokem

      Um people with anxiety do Look Like that your not the only one

    • @ro-fz1jt
      @ro-fz1jt Pƙed rokem

      Um people with anxiety do Look Like that your not the only one

    • @dellyb615
      @dellyb615 Pƙed rokem +1

      Me too

  • @-alex393
    @-alex393 Pƙed 2 lety +1023

    "what anxiety actually looks like:
    me: i thought i was the only one

  • @SinglePringle10
    @SinglePringle10 Pƙed 3 měsĂ­ci +1

    as a 10 year old who has anxiety but has not been diagnosed with anxiety disorder, I can confirm that this is true. Sometimes in the middle of the night I’ll wake up and randomly get anxious and can’t fall back asleep. I’ll get up and sit on a chair, showing no emotions but I’m actually shaking, and scared of I dont know what inside.

  • @mickeysbloodytampon69
    @mickeysbloodytampon69 Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    i really like that she put “also” because i see a lot of these videos and they say actually which isn’t true so thank you

  • @sharonbalbina825
    @sharonbalbina825 Pƙed 2 lety +238

    "You're always so calm"
    My mind: fire,fire,fire, fire everywhere

    • @Lizisblessed
      @Lizisblessed Pƙed rokem +1

      True, then they tell you that you're in your own world.

  • @Ur.fav.lia.2012
    @Ur.fav.lia.2012 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +327

    I had a panic attack before a dance recital and just leaned on the wall and tried to calm myself down

    • @Munchkinnn.
      @Munchkinnn. Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +3

      Cold walls are so good for that honestly

    • @Ur.fav.lia.2012
      @Ur.fav.lia.2012 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +1

      @@Munchkinnn. yea

    • @FairyKit
      @FairyKit Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +2

      When I get a panic attack I shake so bad, but I curl up on my bed and shake to wait until it passes. I got an anxiety attack when I went to the ER recently. My hands were shaking, but I tried to appear more calm. 😱

    • @Munchkinnn.
      @Munchkinnn. Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +1

      @@FairyKit when I had a panic attack I went a little red and I felt really hot like there was a heatwave and I was also shaking
      I ended up going home bc that happened in school

    • @zahrash8261
      @zahrash8261 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +3

      Same..

  • @ZN22740
    @ZN22740 Pƙed 2 měsĂ­ci

    When i have anxiety I remain silent . I go out with my infant daughter to relax now a days because I am the only one who takes care of her and if something happens to me who is going to take care of her . Or I talk to my family on phone but dont tell them about myself rather ask them their whereabouts. I learnt how to defeat my anxiety by simple things just because i have an innocent angel to take care of .

  • @I_lovepotatoes
    @I_lovepotatoes Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +1

    One of my friends, when we were in school he had anxiety and just by looking at him you wouldn’t be able to tell. He even had a pass to get out of lessons whenever he needed, he would also always chew on his pen, he could barely enjoy going on holiday because he was so anxious

  • @Robingrae84
    @Robingrae84 Pƙed rokem +785

    My former hair stylist told me I wasn’t anxious because I always look so calm. That was the last time I saw after several faithful years, I was just so put off by having someone tell me how I feel. Now I have an anxious hair stylist who also looks calm.

    • @606aichan7O7
      @606aichan7O7 Pƙed rokem +6

      【(àč‘â€ąÌă…żâ€ąÌ€àč‘)á”†á”’ÊłÊłá”ž for rambling quite a lot..】

    • @orchid4356
      @orchid4356 Pƙed rokem +33

      I mean don't people usually say "don't judge a book by the cover"? We always look calm on the outside but it doesn't mean there's nothing going on, on the inside. Like come on people you can't just tell us how we feel when you have no clue what's in our heads. I'm so sorry you had to hear that from someone I know it sucks so much, i go through the same too. I've even heard some people while I was at school saying I faked my anxiety attacks (because they make me pass out sometimes) even tho they didn't know me at all.

    • @anyagee9467
      @anyagee9467 Pƙed rokem +10

      she was your stylist, not psychotherpist. People are not required to know all psychological conditions. This could've been a teachable moment where you shared your story - instead you "punished" an unspuspecting person for not being god-like.

    • @preciousdunbar6240
      @preciousdunbar6240 Pƙed rokem +41

      ​@@anyagee9467 I don't think she was expecting her to be "god-like". It probably had more to do with being told *how* she felt. Sure it could've been a teaching moment, but I think people in general need to *stop* telling people what they *think* they *should* feel. It can come from a good but ignorant place - sometimes, but anyone's whose ever experienced those things usually get those statements from people who feel inconvenienced in a sense by you having an emotion/feeling that they don't approve of.

    • @littledarlingwendy
      @littledarlingwendy Pƙed rokem +32

      @@anyagee9467 I get your point but if she's been with her for a while and she probably told her like that she has anxiety and if someone then tells you no you don't you don't look like it, I don't think you understand how hurtful that is. I have several invisible diseases and people always tell me I don't have them and I usually tend to avoid them as a result of it because we don't avoid people to punish them, we avoid them after we try to educate them several times and they diminished our struggles. There's a huge difference

  • @davidm4566
    @davidm4566 Pƙed rokem +3278

    My psychology teacher gave the best advice when you start to feel anxiety: say, "bring it on."
    Because anxiety is basically the fear that you can't control a situation or the fear of feeling fear.
    When we recognize that we aren't in control and are OK with that and just don't care, making the fear lose power, the anxiety fades away like fog out an exhaust fan.
    And yes, I've struggled with anxiety and GAD for a good chunk of my life so I understand how strong it can be.

    • @eval4495
      @eval4495 Pƙed rokem +76

      Thanks, I'll try to keep that in mind and write it down. I've been feeling very anxious, worrying so much.

    • @ChrissyCastles929
      @ChrissyCastles929 Pƙed rokem +29

      I’m going to try this ❀ ty

    • @sundus928
      @sundus928 Pƙed rokem +94

      This is exactly how I'm fighting it. I say " Let's Go, Bring it on Baby ,I ain't scared anymore" . I put my hand on my heart and say "I must be kind to myself for being a fighter" . I can proudly say that it's been quite a few months since I last had an anxiety attack. The damage has been done though but I shouldn't be so harsh on fate , it could've been worst.
      I'm not doing anything for the Meantime, just resting the whole day and sleeping. My advise would be:
      "REST and be Kind to your Body, Give yourself Credit for putting up with all that pain , pamper yourself with Love coz you deserve the Whole world .đŸŒ»đŸ’›"

    • @sandysanders5137
      @sandysanders5137 Pƙed rokem +9

      @@sundus928 after 60 yrs.. be happy to maitain & sustain.. it is possible but itll take all u got.

    • @patriciacorrea8871
      @patriciacorrea8871 Pƙed rokem +26

      This makes a lot of sense. Most recently I’ve been telling myself so what or it’s perfectly normal to feel this way in this situation and it’s helped bring down the level of panic/anxiety in the moment exponentially.

  • @vinniethebee479
    @vinniethebee479 Pƙed 4 měsĂ­ci

    Thankyou for this, i would sot quietly with my elevated heartbeat, disassociating from everything, and even i didn't realise that i have anxiety for a long time.

  • @ariannagoss622
    @ariannagoss622 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci

    I’ve had panic attacks before. I haven’t been diagnosed with anything but nor have I been checked out. I was walking with my father one day just chilling and talking. When my throat tightened. I told him “my throat is tightening. Like that feeling right before you throw up.” He said “You need to chill we’re just walking around.” I didn’t know what he meant by that and so I told him it’s normal. In which for me at the time that was normal. It always happened. A few weeks later I finally learned that it was considered a panic attack.

  • @jWaspy
    @jWaspy Pƙed 2 lety +537

    Accurate, most of my panic/anxiety attacks are when I’m just sitting there.

    • @CarverP
      @CarverP Pƙed 2 lety +1

      I had one in the nurses office


    • @jWaspy
      @jWaspy Pƙed 2 lety

      @@CarverP omg those are the worst

    • @EmmaJohnsonShenanigans
      @EmmaJohnsonShenanigans Pƙed rokem

      there’s was a span of just 2 days where i almost had 3 full blown panic attacks like the beginning but was able to keep them silent and less intense than they started
      and yeah i feel u
      u ever had ppl ask “why do you look like a zombie/robot” or telling you to smile cuz i swear i’ll give them extreme anxiety+embarrassment about *everything* so i can laugh at them with a HUGE SMILE ON MY FACE

  • @lisaammerman9846
    @lisaammerman9846 Pƙed 2 lety +159

    This is why my parents assumed I was "too calm".

  • @pricklypear_v
    @pricklypear_v Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci

    Honestly media has made me think that I wasn't suffering from massive anxiety for years because I didn't have those big freak outs.

  • @GRACE_FULLVIBES
    @GRACE_FULLVIBES Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +1

    Honestly, I get really anxious in school. In like I'll, bring it up in a conversation that I have social anxiety like 85 percent of the time, and they'll be like, but you're so quiet.

  • @StarlitSwamp
    @StarlitSwamp Pƙed rokem +258

    This is so accurate. I was accompanied for a while by a social worker who was very kind, but who just didn’t understand when I tried to explain to him that I was in a constant state of panic. He’d say "But you’re not now, you seem quite calm," and I’d be screaming internally because I had no energy to argue, but whatever I looked like didn’t change the fact that my hands were shaking, that all of my muscles were so tense that I had horrible, permanent back pain, that the slow, even breaths I focused on drawing even as we were talking felt completely devoid of oxygen, and that my heart was pounding so hard that every beat made me fear the blood vessels in my head could burst from the pressure at any moment. I spent countless days lying perfectly still on my bed while being anything but relaxed. Even my parents couldn’t tell anything was wrong unless they caught me suddenly bursting into tears because I once again thought I was dying.

    • @nemobard
      @nemobard Pƙed rokem +7

      Oh, how I relate to this comment! How're you holding up these days?

    • @StarlitSwamp
      @StarlitSwamp Pƙed rokem +11

      @@nemobard Oh ! Thank you for checking up. â˜ș I’d say I’m in kind of an in-between where I have some good days and some still pretty bad, but overall I seem to be doing somewhat better lately. I have recurring bouts of depression and a lingering anxiety that manifests as various moderate symptoms (I suspect that part of it is an inevitable side-effect of my being autistic and constantly overwhelmed by *everything*), but at least I haven’t had big freaky panic attacks in a long time. I’ve been working on identifying sources of stress in my life and trying to either face them or reduce their impact depending on the case, and I have hope that I’m slowly getting somewhere.
      How about you, are you doing okay ?

    • @jadewu111
      @jadewu111 Pƙed rokem +2

      Similar to me exception is I burst into tears yearning to die as I feel like a burden and this feeling is so bad I think death is the only way out to make me feel better since am about to have a heart attack or stop breathing from the panic

    • @jadewu111
      @jadewu111 Pƙed rokem +2

      But don’t worry I am not actually want to die but have the idealization anxiety stops you from taking action like the popular quote of “depression makes one wanna die while anxiety makes me scared to die”

    • @StarlitSwamp
      @StarlitSwamp Pƙed rokem +5

      @@jadewu111 I get you and I sympathize wholeheartedly. I never truly wished to die either, but at times the panic attacks got so bad that they really felt like an impending heart attack (my poor parents had to rush me to the ER three times because I was hyperventilating so much that I couldn’t move or even feel my limbs anymore), and the prospect of dying came to seem like less of a torture than going through the same hellish cycle over and over again
 Oddly, the weariness of it all seems to have helped lessen my anxiety somewhat, as after a while I no longer cared whether I was actually dying or not. But looking back, I’m really glad I didn’t give up.
      Years later I still have anxiety symptoms, some days worse than others (in my case, I think some of it is an inevitable part of being alive), but it did get better, at least enough so that I can breathe normally again most of the time and enjoy many of the good things in life. Letting my loved ones in on what was going on (just the vague outline, so that they knew it wasn’t their fault and better understood how they could support me in my recovery process) has helped alleviate the weight I’d been carrying on my own. If I got through the worst of it, I know you can too, eventually, even if it seems hopeless while in the midst of it. Please hang in there, and don’t hesitate to reach out. You’re not a burden ; most of us will face hard times at some point in life and need help in one way or another. You deserve all the support you can get to heal.

  • @ToomerInnit
    @ToomerInnit Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +180

    I like how you said "what people think anxiety always looks like"
    Implying that it can look like that sometimes, and it does a lot of the time for me personally.

  • @Woof.qwert123
    @Woof.qwert123 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci

    As a people with anxiety, this is true!

  • @BeanSoupp061
    @BeanSoupp061 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci

    fact, i was diagnosed with anxiety and this is so true

  • @Anonymous-star
    @Anonymous-star Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +595

    The first example is when it's really bad and you just get so overwhelmed and just explode basically a breakdown...

    • @lillydachicOfficial
      @lillydachicOfficial Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +2

      This ^

    • @ericaallisonc
      @ericaallisonc Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +1

      Happened to me in my last quarter of my Fluid Power program. I forgot a term during a verbal application test for our programs load sending variable volume pump and it BROKE ME. It was so insignificant, but it was just the straw that broke the camels back.

    • @leaheljac
      @leaheljac Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +4

      Yes. I’m basically chronically anxious, so me doing any activity is what I look like when I’m anxious. The first example is just what it looks like when you get to a point where you can’t contain it.

    • @abbyjimenez3373
      @abbyjimenez3373 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +1

      Im like this inside. I hardwired my physical body to NEVER show signs out of necessity

    • @user-hd9ek7xc4p
      @user-hd9ek7xc4p Pƙed 4 měsĂ­ci +2

      As a person who has anxiety this is very true. It doesn’t show from the outside, but from the inside, basically everything is exploding.

  • @Batsy_NightMare
    @Batsy_NightMare Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +373

    I'm glad there's people in the world who understand that anxiety can be many different things and not just the obvious panicking. Sometimes, anxiety can be silent and if you at least call out for help then that's alright

  • @Sal.K--BC
    @Sal.K--BC Pƙed 4 měsĂ­ci +1

    Yup! I relate with the 2nd one! I often feel sort of frozen. Until recently (for decades actually), I didn't even realize I was actually having panic attacks because I expected panic attacks to be like the 1st one.

  • @brizzchizz7302
    @brizzchizz7302 Pƙed 3 měsĂ­ci

    I don’t know why, but that sitting ‘paralyzed’ in your chair shook me to my core. That’s exactly how it is at its worst with me.

  • @VivianeHuestis
    @VivianeHuestis Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +571

    just more proof that you never know what people are going through so be nice to everyone

  • @dellyb615
    @dellyb615 Pƙed rokem +104

    Anxiety is misunderstood so much, I’m glad you posted this. People just don’t understand at times.

  • @Bearhugs4Life
    @Bearhugs4Life Pƙed 2 měsĂ­ci

    As someone who has sever anxiety, yes this is true. We usually only show our panic attacks if we are comfortable around that certain person around us. I have them 10-11 times per day

  • @SpaceyGracie354
    @SpaceyGracie354 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci

    Even in one person, anxiety doesn’t always look the same! I’ve been peckish, I’ve been sitting frozen, I’ve been a lot of ways of anxious. Glad to have a friend who is able to make me feel less so.

  • @Omenvile
    @Omenvile Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +107

    Parents and teachers should watch this because some kids have anxiety including me. They just can’t understand how it feels. And my heart goes brrrr

  • @mauiryzamaliwat1420
    @mauiryzamaliwat1420 Pƙed 2 lety +452

    When I'm having anxiety attacks , I need to have something soft that I can hug or just touch :>

    • @yasmine2109
      @yasmine2109 Pƙed rokem +6

      Aww same :(

    • @fatimaissufficient
      @fatimaissufficient Pƙed rokem +9

      Kitty cats are perfect for that especially if you train it to sit on your chest when your still

    • @NYANCATM3L
      @NYANCATM3L Pƙed rokem +1

      Aye you want my fluffy 7 week old puppy? It’s a Pomeranian, soft also, perfect ✹

    • @NoOne-wt6om
      @NoOne-wt6om Pƙed rokem +2

      I still have stuffed animals

    • @fatimaissufficient
      @fatimaissufficient Pƙed rokem

      @@NoOne-wt6om how old r u

  • @rubes._
    @rubes._ Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +1

    ive been suffering from anxiety for years now and all of a sudden i get dizzy then worked up and sick and crying over nothing

  • @-.itsjust_cookie.-
    @-.itsjust_cookie.- Pƙed 4 měsĂ­ci

    mine always looks like the second one, my friend is starting to notice them, and when it seems bad it actually helps a lot to have someone to talk too. sometimes i just needed a hug

  • @qwenabellwynfell9778
    @qwenabellwynfell9778 Pƙed rokem +476

    The truth is anxiety and anxiety attacks can be so deathly quiet. The first time I had a panic attack, I had a cramping sensation in my chest around my heart, and it hurt to breathe. I thought I was having a random cramp that just kind of happens as a one of thing. But then it *kept* happening. Not a soul believed me. My own mother looked at me incredulously and asked “so what, are you having a heart attack or something?” (Sarcasm to prove a point on her end). Then I got that same pain after completely improving a poem for poetry week because I didn’t like the one I submitted.
    At that moment it clicked

    • @thepinanoplayer
      @thepinanoplayer Pƙed rokem +10

      Weird I get that feeling sometimes too
      Not so much anymore but it used to happen every now and then in elementary school and I would just sit down and breathe and it would eventually go away
      I’ve never been diagnosed with anxiety though so who knows đŸ€·â€â™€ïž

    • @TheReluctantVlogger
      @TheReluctantVlogger Pƙed rokem +19

      Similar situation for myself. The worse panic attack I ever had was in the passenger seat of a friend’s car. My heart was pounding so hard I could swear the other passengers could hear it. My face and neck went numb and were tingling severely, my palms starting sweating and I became very hot. I honestly thought I was gonna die for a moment from a heart attack or something, but the entire time I was completely still and silent. All I could think about was breathing in through my nose and out my mouth as calmly as possible so I didn’t start hyperventilating. It was truly awful

    • @jennyakuffo3418
      @jennyakuffo3418 Pƙed rokem +2

      ​@@TheReluctantVlogger that happens a lot to me

    • @Monica_MMO
      @Monica_MMO Pƙed rokem +3

      I once drove myself to the emergency room because I thought I was about to have a heart attack while driving. It was an anxiety attack. It was the first time I was diagnosed but had had them before.

    • @RubySeahorse
      @RubySeahorse Pƙed rokem +1

      @Zeniat Haroun exactly. I had a panic attack queueing to go into a GCSE exam (not because of the exam), no-one knew. When I sat down at my desk and the exam started I took some time out and just sat and recovered from the attack before turning over my paper and starting. I knew I could do the exam no problem with time to spare, and decided those first 5-10 mins were better spent recovering.
      My first ever panic attack was on a bus and I only let my dad know because I honestly thought I was going to throw up, and didn’t want to inconvenience anyone (the driver opened the door for a bit to get more fresh air in)

  • @sarahludo8482
    @sarahludo8482 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +505

    When I have a panic attack, I go straight onto the floor, lift my knees to my chest and just rock back and forth while shaking uncontrollably. Sometimes my panic attacks cause a sort of absence seizure for me, so sometimes I’ll touch my face a lot because it feels like I don’t exist.
    Whoever’s going through panic attacks or anxiety, you’re not alone. And I promise you, it does and will get better. 💜

    • @jessicamerced9116
      @jessicamerced9116 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +9

      Thank you for sharing your experience..My panic attacks feel like seizures too and also bring me to the floor đŸ„ș I feel weak and my whole upper body/shoulder chest area is so tense I can’t release it but I also can’t get up. My mom has a seizure disorder that’s triggered by pain or medications so sometimes I’m not convinced that they’re just “panic attacks”..I know that feeling of disappearing like I’m failing to exist and my soul is leaving my body. I wish I could see my brain when that happens
.it doesn’t happen often and I pray that it never does again.

    • @sarahludo8482
      @sarahludo8482 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +5

      @@jessicamerced9116 I’m so sorry you go through that! It’s always hard to believe people when they say they know how you feel, but I really do know how you feel💜💜💜 I wish you health and happiness for you and your mother 🌏🔼🌙💜

    • @mouli0235
      @mouli0235 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +6

      My panic attacks look like asthma attacks and hyperventilating sometimes leads to loss of consciousness and my heart feels like it would really burst out of my chest because of how fast the heartbeat gets

    • @dayana4654
      @dayana4654 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +2

      Lately i been having anxiety and cry myself to sleep over it... I'm in my 20's, I did get my license but I struggle driving especially when the sun starts setting (context: I only see with one eye) I also stutter and was bullied because of my stutter throughout elementary school so its sort of a childhood trauma for me, since I live in america which is very car centric society I can't really get a job (tried applying to ross, and other places nearby instantly got rejected due to no experience)
      I'm gonna search and start some quick jobs online (mainly trying to sell my digital scenery art) but obviously gonna take some time to actually start selling... but then there's my brother who always is like: don't be a loser, get a job. Get a life etc. And these thoughts eat me up that i always feel useless, and like I'm of no help to anyone because I can't get a "adult/normal" job due to my poor vision and anxiety on the road... I'm not going to college so I'm in a bit of a tough situation mentally and physically😭

    • @sooya_mangofficial
      @sooya_mangofficial Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +1

      Thanks so much for sharing your experiences everyoneâ˜ș.My panic attacks usually happen when I'm in really crowded places or in loud parties. It usually starts by a tight feeling in the chest followed by uneasyness and then I start loosing my breath. Tears flow down as I start shaking . I just want to be out if that place immidiately. Even tho it's really hard and only u urself know how bad it is and it's not a overreaction we have to learn techniques to keep ourselfves calm❀‍đŸ©č. Luckily my parents were always there when I had panic attacks so they always helped to calm me down ❀. Thank you for reading and take care❀❀‍đŸ©č

  • @siouxaldc.
    @siouxaldc. Pƙed 2 měsĂ­ci

    I remember I had a panic attack in front of my friend and she knew exactly what to do! I will always love her for that!

  • @madebyari_
    @madebyari_ Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci

    with someone with diagnosed (doctor and therapist) anxiety, this is very true. some of my panic attacks are just me zoned out and not aware of what’s around me but also some of them include heavy breathing, shaking, crying, etc.

  • @taniagreiersen
    @taniagreiersen Pƙed rokem +547

    At my worst I break down a cry uncontrollably never knowing when it’s gonna stop. I experience breaks in between the crying but then it starts back up again out of nowhere. After an episode like that I feel so drained that I just sit or lay down for hours without saying anything. It’s hard to explain the severity of it to people around me and making them understand.

    • @amreensaini329
      @amreensaini329 Pƙed 11 měsĂ­ci +4

      True same

    • @jannathepanna1674
      @jannathepanna1674 Pƙed 11 měsĂ­ci +14

      same i get really hysterical and i do look like the stereotype having a panic attack. But recently i found out that i have been having way more panick attacks but i just didnt realise as with the really severe ones i become loud and yelling or screaming and crying but i also have the ones where i can sorta controll it although its really tough and not look like something is odd

    • @ScarletBitch29
      @ScarletBitch29 Pƙed 11 měsĂ­ci +2

      I totally relate to this. Just had this episode few minutes ago and I just thought it's called a mere "breakdown"

    • @Emmy_2024
      @Emmy_2024 Pƙed 9 měsĂ­ci +1

      Same

    • @challenger_kaya4581
      @challenger_kaya4581 Pƙed 8 měsĂ­ci +1

      Same thing happens to me, not fun in a kind of household I live in

  • @debbsc5176
    @debbsc5176 Pƙed rokem +391

    People definitely need to know that panic attacks and anxiety are NOT the same. I've had several panic attacks that led me to either the ER or calling 911 because it feels like you're going to die! Anxiety doesn't necessarily look or feel like that at all.

    • @Hana1LuLu
      @Hana1LuLu Pƙed rokem +29

      My really bad anxiety attacks look more like Dr's first example, and I don't feel like I'm going to die, I just feel uber distressed and, on occasion, _want_ to die to get off that awful ride. Ever since I heard that "I thought I was going to die" distinction and how its a constant in all cases I've heard, I'm careful to say anxiety not panic attacks. But I also have anxiety flares where its best described as desperate escapism: I shut down, lay in bed, watch videos, or hyperfixate on something - anything! - and have the HARDEST time stopping whatever distraction I'm finding solace in.

    • @purplepianoist88
      @purplepianoist88 Pƙed rokem +22

      My anxiety felt like i was dying honestly. I thought i was having a heart attack or something. I couldnt take a deep breath, i couldnt get enough air.

    • @roxanne_
      @roxanne_ Pƙed rokem +17

      Everybody has had a different experience Debby.

    • @RubySeahorse
      @RubySeahorse Pƙed rokem +6

      My panic attacks are not related to my anxiety


    • @itsjusther.
      @itsjusther. Pƙed rokem +1

      I remember I had a panic attack. It was rly not fun. I was shaking and trembling and my chest felt really weird and I was breathing heavily. My mum asked what happened and I just said I was cold. She probs knew what’s was happening

  • @Liz-Jen.
    @Liz-Jen. Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci

    I have social anxiety and I’m honestly a bit of both at times. Like I’ll often do the hand thing and move around my room but I’ll also do the second one a lot. I also like the fact that you put “ what anxiety can ALSO look like “ because it showed that people can deal with and experience anxiety in different ways.

  • @SHARKXIO16
    @SHARKXIO16 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +1

    You forgot 1 thing smiling on the outside but dying on the inside anxiety isn’t always visible but most of the time it’s actually
    invisible