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  • Romeo likes strong-built women, so is wrestler Shani his match made in heaven?
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Komentáře • 227

  • @flowergirl7260
    @flowergirl7260 Před 8 měsíci +275

    Two wonderfully un-usual people who were destined to meet and show us something about being authentically yourself. Thank you.

    • @rachelbailey-no2pp
      @rachelbailey-no2pp Před 5 měsíci +2

      I thought what a romantic date 🌹 He picked up the bill like a true gentleman.

  • @Berighteousone
    @Berighteousone Před 8 měsíci +72

    He was great she seriously confused. He would have treated her like gold .

    • @laurynbrewitt9668
      @laurynbrewitt9668 Před 4 měsíci +3

      There's nothing wrong with him, her or their interaction. They didn't have chemistry is all 😊

  • @stephanieh4466
    @stephanieh4466 Před 4 měsíci +55

    Lol I can't get over that she said, you don't do that in a restaurant! Lol then bangs on glasses, burns plastic eyelashes and licks the bill😂🤢

  • @linkcell
    @linkcell Před 5 měsíci +67

    Did she friend zone him? I was not expecting that.

    • @Ladybirdtaj
      @Ladybirdtaj Před 3 měsíci +5

      Exactly the chemistry was 💯 percent there lol ' surprised at that 😮

    • @HopeandaPrairieFarm
      @HopeandaPrairieFarm Před 2 měsíci +9

      @@Ladybirdtaj - Just MHO, but it appears that she thinks fireworks = soulmate. Doesn't typically happen that way. He's a perfect match for her and she seems blinded by some romantic notion that doesn't exist. Even if it were to exist, it'd probably be short lived once the fireworks blew out. This guy's the real deal.

  • @TradingTheBias
    @TradingTheBias Před 8 měsíci +58

    What a shame. They could have been a good couple.

  • @TheEcstaticFool
    @TheEcstaticFool Před 8 měsíci +130

    This show does a magnificent job of matching people! I am always blown away. I love how unique and true to themselves they both are.

  • @kfitz192
    @kfitz192 Před 8 měsíci +135

    I thought they made a lovely couple. He may have pushed it too far when he picked her up but the rest of what was shown was unusually funny.

  • @colaboytje
    @colaboytje Před 8 měsíci +107

    They seemed perfect for each other.

  • @jasminaj3682
    @jasminaj3682 Před 8 měsíci +58

    She was so drunk by the end 😂Also she’s gorgeous!

    • @NK-oi2ni
      @NK-oi2ni Před 8 měsíci +17

      That and a combination of being on the spectrum probably.

  • @BeautyBeauty-di8xq
    @BeautyBeauty-di8xq Před 8 měsíci +101

    She’s learned over time to adapt to people’s behaviors even though it makes her uncomfortable
    My 15 year old autistic son does this
    She acted cool with him but really wanted to get away
    He was intense
    Which is fine he’s just being himself
    Both great unique individuals

    • @alexaf2744
      @alexaf2744 Před 5 měsíci +9

      Yeah she looked trapped. No wonder so many autistic people suffer from claustrophobia. She was masking. But yeah I actually think he was sweet. Just not her thing. I love she did say no at the end 🤘

    • @dani-elle-au9935
      @dani-elle-au9935 Před 2 měsíci +2

      She's a wrestler...not like she's not used to being physical...she just hadn't given him permission as he's a stranger.

    • @citytrees1752
      @citytrees1752 Před měsícem

      yes, this.

    • @citytrees1752
      @citytrees1752 Před měsícem

      @@dani-elle-au9935 That would have turned me off him forever. Even though he got better through the date, I wouldn't have got over the alarm of it.

  • @kathleenmartin7498
    @kathleenmartin7498 Před 8 měsíci +28

    Sometimes couples don't start out with that "spark". Their friendshio might lead to something deeper.

  • @bettyfuller6940
    @bettyfuller6940 Před 8 měsíci +125

    Sweeping a girl of her feet literally on the first meeting...I don't think is a good idea 😂

  • @ThomasMitchell-uu6id
    @ThomasMitchell-uu6id Před 3 měsíci +7

    at first i was like nah this guy is a tool, ended with me saying wow hes a top guy

  • @ascendwithemily
    @ascendwithemily Před 8 měsíci +56

    FINALLY. AN ACTUAL REAL DATE WITH REAL PEOPLE . WHO ACTTTTUALLY GET ALONG❤

    • @Berighteousone
      @Berighteousone Před 8 měsíci +1

      So you have to have Autism to be real? I've seen hundreds of real dates

  • @IntrovertLeo22
    @IntrovertLeo22 Před 5 měsíci +12

    I wonder what is the update about him. So sad, he is friend-zoned. He deserves so much better.

  • @rimantasbuivydas2321
    @rimantasbuivydas2321 Před 6 měsíci +28

    I thought they matched so well strange she didn’t want him

    • @powerup9035
      @powerup9035 Před 2 měsíci

      She was much taller i think that was it

    • @rimantasbuivydas2321
      @rimantasbuivydas2321 Před 2 měsíci +3

      So it’s all about physical appearance doesn’t matter that they connect so well

    • @citytrees1752
      @citytrees1752 Před měsícem

      She wasn't feeling the chemistry.

  • @adamsawicki1221
    @adamsawicki1221 Před 8 měsíci +35

    Her little reactionsounds were so funny 😅

  • @ralphlyda4545
    @ralphlyda4545 Před 8 měsíci +128

    It could absolutely have been a great date if Romeo hadn’t picked Shani up without her permission! He really ruined his chances. One hopes he could recover after seeing her a few more times & being normal. They could be quite a good match.

    • @aron.gortman
      @aron.gortman Před 8 měsíci +7

      I thought it was dope.

    • @ProdavackaDivu
      @ProdavackaDivu Před 8 měsíci +41

      @@aron.gortmanLet’s not touch people without consent especially in classy public places where it adds additional humiliation

    • @anne-mariezack
      @anne-mariezack Před 8 měsíci +2

      They have sexual tension and that’s all we can gleam from this clip

    • @Berighteousone
      @Berighteousone Před 8 měsíci +7

      ​@@ProdavackaDivuLighten up KAREN

    • @ENFPerspectives
      @ENFPerspectives Před 8 měsíci +4

      @@ProdavackaDivu Agree, but dont touch people without consent in public or private.

  • @DanandJoely
    @DanandJoely Před 8 měsíci +32

    She has a terrific personality

  • @Sophie-cw7bf
    @Sophie-cw7bf Před 6 měsíci +14

    I hope they are together man this is too cute my gosh

  • @NecroMorrius
    @NecroMorrius Před 5 měsíci +12

    Heh as the husband of an autistic wife I could tell from the moment she said hello! Lovely couple

  • @LeMerch
    @LeMerch Před 5 měsíci +14

    What did I just watch..
    That was brilliant 😂

  • @tdkj0k3r94
    @tdkj0k3r94 Před 4 měsíci +6

    Can’t believe this guy first action to he is picking her up she look terrified by it haha.

  • @intallpines
    @intallpines Před 8 měsíci +43

    I hope he will continue to pursue her. They seem perfect for each other. It may take a few tries before something takes off.

    • @melinmove
      @melinmove Před 5 měsíci +12

      No he should not, No means no, and she obviously knows what she is looking for and it's not him. Being "perfect for each other" does not exist, it's only in fairy tales.

    • @melinmove
      @melinmove Před 3 měsíci

      @@degrotekoningwouter what

    • @Filippenzen413
      @Filippenzen413 Před 3 měsíci

      ​@@melinmove Ooh thats so sad. 😢

  • @joshnanyabiz6668
    @joshnanyabiz6668 Před 5 měsíci +11

    "Do you wanna lick it as I paid for the bill" A line I'm sure all men have wanted to say at least once, but he actually said it the mad man xDDDDD

  • @margkropf5541
    @margkropf5541 Před 5 měsíci +15

    People fail to comment on The young man physically picking up a woman he has just met. Brazenly unacceptable!!!!

    • @Sandrocas
      @Sandrocas Před 3 dny +1

      i thought the same, disrespectful of personal boundaries

  • @walkwithmeASMR
    @walkwithmeASMR Před 5 měsíci +6

    They are perfect for each other. I hope he doesn't give up

    • @johanwitters
      @johanwitters Před 19 dny

      Of course he gives up, so he should. There's no escaping the friend zone. And in the rare event it happens: it's a terrible idea. Besides... There's plenty of fish in the sea. No point chasing one that doesn't want you.

  • @targetedterry7660
    @targetedterry7660 Před 4 měsíci +11

    I feel like he may be on the spectrum too

    • @shoelacedonkey
      @shoelacedonkey Před 4 měsíci +1

      That's what I thought as well... ADHD perhaps. Nothing wrong with either btw ☺

  • @charlottesaxon5634
    @charlottesaxon5634 Před 8 měsíci +22

    They are adorable 🥰🥰🥰

  • @sanaaakhtar
    @sanaaakhtar Před 4 měsíci +3

    That’s a real shame…they could have been such a great couple!

  • @meredithr9824
    @meredithr9824 Před 8 měsíci +43

    Yeah. Are we sure they're not both autistic?

    • @B_27
      @B_27 Před 5 měsíci +10

      That's what I was wondering.

    • @CompetitiveEllisy
      @CompetitiveEllisy Před 3 měsíci

      Thought it was both until I seen this comment

  • @leigh7507
    @leigh7507 Před 8 měsíci +32

    I think men are more forgiving of autism in women than women are of dating an autistic man.
    Likely because women with autism are better at masking and men are quite visual so if she's autistic they will look past the social shortcomings

    • @LeMerch
      @LeMerch Před 5 měsíci +8

      My wife has autism and she’s literally the best thing that’s ever happened to me. ❤
      Everyone has something.

    • @mercifulmermaidtarot2630
      @mercifulmermaidtarot2630 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Knowing a man has autism wouldn’t put me off of giving him a chance. I think people sometimes assume that if they’ve met a few autistic people, they’ve met them all. Like anyone else, they are all unique individuals.

    • @user-hx7ud4xe1n
      @user-hx7ud4xe1n Před 2 měsíci

      I think that might be due to the fact that women are naturally more clingy, affectionate and like to be close while people on the spectrum really appreciate their independence and naturally express the same things differently while men are ok with being naturally more distant. I don`t know if I worded this correctly but that was my initial thought.

  • @kosmosavnordlys
    @kosmosavnordlys Před 8 měsíci +13

    There is something so punk rock about them ❤️

  • @Sophie-cw7bf
    @Sophie-cw7bf Před 6 měsíci +4

    I love this lady I pray my son grows to be as confident as her thank you ❤❤❤❤

  • @robbhays8077
    @robbhays8077 Před 4 měsíci +11

    I don't think she was saying she just wanted to be friends. She was saying she wanted to try again without all of the weirdness.

  • @gears244
    @gears244 Před 8 měsíci +44

    What was going through this guys mind that he thought it be a good idea to pick up this woman the very first encounter he has with her 😳🤔😆😂
    That is something someone does typically when people are more comfortable with each other, that made me uncomfortable just to watch and her reaction was understandable 😅

    • @PROVOCATEURSK
      @PROVOCATEURSK Před 8 měsíci +4

      His parents are from two really weird cultures.

    • @albertvirgil4471
      @albertvirgil4471 Před 8 měsíci +3

      I think it was the fear of rejection, which made him do that unexpected thing. I think he tried to separate him self from the pack in order to make her see him more unique than the others. In the end her judgment is the final the one which counts.

    • @stoicwarrior346
      @stoicwarrior346 Před 8 měsíci +2

      @@PROVOCATEURSK And your culture would be?!

    • @leezlvontrapp
      @leezlvontrapp Před 7 měsíci +3

      I think the producers gave him a little whisper to do it because of the wrestling thing. These dates are mostly staged.

  • @beatpirate8
    @beatpirate8 Před 8 měsíci +8

    she reminds me of girl in clueless

  • @daniellerichard1385
    @daniellerichard1385 Před 8 měsíci +17

    What an incredible young woman.

  • @djpamelamc
    @djpamelamc Před měsícem +2

    I hope they both meet up again.

  • @JasmineDev
    @JasmineDev Před 5 měsíci +2

    These two are awesome together!!

  • @user-sl4cd2sz5l
    @user-sl4cd2sz5l Před 25 dny +1

    He only drinks water cuz he's cheap ! And why on earth are you picking her up like that ? The music playing was funny lol

  • @nutellajizz9459
    @nutellajizz9459 Před 5 měsíci +2

    Lmao theyre both so funny and looney i quite like itttt

  • @believeinyourself7511
    @believeinyourself7511 Před 8 měsíci +2

    I like his hair in the interview portion

  • @irina383
    @irina383 Před 8 měsíci +6

    It is as if I just saw a scene from a romantic comedy. I thought they were totally for each other. I guess she was masking and mirroring his behavior, not really vibing with him.

  • @devvyas8215
    @devvyas8215 Před 2 měsíci

    I have been watch first dates episodes and just laughing and giggling at some of the episodes. It's fun to watch this show.

  • @lackerbitandersson6241
    @lackerbitandersson6241 Před 7 měsíci +3

    Both rather wild and lovely 😂

  • @jolineackerley6289
    @jolineackerley6289 Před 4 měsíci +1

    This was so sweet ❤

  • @Sophie-cw7bf
    @Sophie-cw7bf Před 6 měsíci +5

    This is so bloody cute I’m in ore with the both of them 🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩

  • @susiegross1853
    @susiegross1853 Před 8 měsíci +16

    Licking a menu???? Ughhh 🤢🤮

  • @albertvirgil4471
    @albertvirgil4471 Před 8 měsíci +24

    I got second hand embarrassment from watching that. It was unique and unexpected, but if that floats her boat I don't judge. Sometimes opposites attract each other very well.

    • @CanMoose
      @CanMoose Před 4 měsíci

      I've been married 49 years to my opposite. Yes, it can work out well.

  • @brokenwideopen
    @brokenwideopen Před 8 měsíci +37

    I don’t know which part I liked the most…Romeo’s rogue too-soon stranger scoop, ripping off false eyelashes to then burn at the table candle or leave in the water glass for the restaurant staff to deal with , orally assaulting the check presenter that is likely teeming with germs, or the shameless flex and pec reveal. Then her calling it really weird when she contributed to half of the weirdness. You can be a little goofy on a date but this was just…unusual and bad mannered.

    • @leezlvontrapp
      @leezlvontrapp Před 7 měsíci +2

      I felt secondhand embarrassment whilst watching this. Eep! No thank youuuuu. Goodness gracious. I think your recap was so perfect and you gave me a chuckle. 😂😂 Thanks! 😊😂

    • @user-pd3el7yt7s
      @user-pd3el7yt7s Před 5 měsíci

      Rogue too soon stranger scoop 😂

    • @truth_hunter
      @truth_hunter Před 5 měsíci +2

      Yeah, I think both of them did weird things. It wasn’t only him she was part of it. Either she was doing those crazing things to feel connected to him or she’s just like him. So if she was faking her crazy stuff then she isn’t comfortable with herself. Also, I notice he is a very deep thinker and in touch with his emotions and others. Maybe, his feelings were too strong for her.

  • @lucillebalinska5868
    @lucillebalinska5868 Před 4 měsíci +2

    He is a nice guy but I would also be freaked out by being physically picked up by someone I just met. Save that for the second date bro 😅

  • @linkcell
    @linkcell Před 5 měsíci +3

    now that's how you seal the deal: licking the tab. 😅

  • @user-js5iz6yj3u
    @user-js5iz6yj3u Před 8 měsíci +2

    quite a nice match !!

  • @hasanboss1852
    @hasanboss1852 Před měsícem +1

    Yessss he said it from the start. A lot of girls can’t put up with reality omg

  • @victoriagolston7514
    @victoriagolston7514 Před 7 měsíci +1

    This is awesome

  • @samantha0lee
    @samantha0lee Před 5 měsíci +4

    Less pressure these guys are smitten. I love them!

  • @imagegotbeats
    @imagegotbeats Před 4 měsíci +4

    I know this fool did not just pick up this girl in a restaurant off the first meet up 🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️ My lord!!!! Creep vibes

  • @richlikeg3722
    @richlikeg3722 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Good match, both weird but still compelling

  • @Lizbeth36961
    @Lizbeth36961 Před 4 měsíci +3

    It grossed me out when she licked the checkbook 🤢

  • @bosnian8487
    @bosnian8487 Před 5 měsíci +1

    they are so cute and unique😊

  • @victoriaa.m956
    @victoriaa.m956 Před měsícem

    My fav couple

  • @Phraeyah
    @Phraeyah Před 3 měsíci +1

    What a pair of cuties 🥰

  • @manilkasheran2934
    @manilkasheran2934 Před 8 měsíci +6

    They definitely have the best friends vibe but since the guy is interested in more....it's better to part ways!

  • @rachelwong3474
    @rachelwong3474 Před 5 měsíci +1

    This is beautiful date

  • @ProfessorJay-sc6vd
    @ProfessorJay-sc6vd Před 6 měsíci

    The ending was the weirdest part about the 😮😅

  • @simondo451
    @simondo451 Před 2 měsíci +1

    There are red flags all over this guy!

  • @asalu0000
    @asalu0000 Před 11 hodinami

    He’s perfect

  • @fatcatontario
    @fatcatontario Před 8 měsíci +10

    The menu licking was a bit grotesque for me😅

  • @Sunny_Banani
    @Sunny_Banani Před 4 měsíci +1

    Why just not give it a go he is a realy good match for her understanding ect

  • @fakamatalamai69
    @fakamatalamai69 Před 8 měsíci

    OMG so much funny one 😂😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉❤

  • @mistyvance4544
    @mistyvance4544 Před 8 měsíci +2

    I knew they played the goofy music for a reason.

  • @Winterflowers1
    @Winterflowers1 Před 22 dny

    They're gorgeous especially him👀

  • @bakareolatunde5895
    @bakareolatunde5895 Před 8 měsíci +1

    l love dem both

  • @darkerbinding6933
    @darkerbinding6933 Před 8 měsíci +2

    She friend zoned him. 🫤

  • @danielaw7720
    @danielaw7720 Před 5 měsíci

    All of that and bro ended up in the friend zone 🥲

  • @ashleys1220
    @ashleys1220 Před 3 měsíci

    The ending was a shocker for me 😂 i thought it was a match. It definitely was a weird date.
    I don’t think she got over him lifting her up at first sight lol

  • @JamesCraigWhoop
    @JamesCraigWhoop Před 8 měsíci +2

    I have two boys on the spectrum. My oldest 16 yr old acts so much like her minus the alcohol

  • @Jonty161
    @Jonty161 Před 2 měsíci

    I think theres room for growth there.

  • @frankmeyer1433
    @frankmeyer1433 Před 5 měsíci +5

    I thought sharing the fact that she was diagnosed with autism (On the first date) this was not necessary as it was not evident in any shape or form at that stage, coupled with her licking the menu and then pulling off her lashes, were all signs that she was not going to take this relationship any further, I am convinced that if she was smitten with her date, these behaviours would not have materialised. She is a bit too goofy and at times talks too much without listening to her partner.

  • @chloeclo8958
    @chloeclo8958 Před 6 měsíci +1

    two cool people Xx

  • @TheLHacademy
    @TheLHacademy Před 8 měsíci +5

    UMMM ok?

  • @TheIntunecatu
    @TheIntunecatu Před 8 měsíci +19

    This was v hard to watch. Cringe.

  • @tinaroberts5858
    @tinaroberts5858 Před 3 měsíci

    She does look better without the false lashes!

  • @embisonjones4996
    @embisonjones4996 Před 6 měsíci +6

    "alot of girls can't put up with reality" 😂😂😂😂😂 Tell em

    • @Lizbeth36961
      @Lizbeth36961 Před 4 měsíci +2

      He struggles with depression and anxiety then goes to talk about “reality” as if he’s superior. YIKES

    • @degrotekoningwouter
      @degrotekoningwouter Před 3 měsíci +1

      @@Lizbeth36961Classic PUA vibes, including the weird dress style.

    • @ppumpkin3282
      @ppumpkin3282 Před 2 měsíci +1

      @@Lizbeth36961 It's an odd thing to say, and probably true, most women are looking for the perfect guy, but that doesn't mean he thinks he's superior. Maybe to direct and honest.

  • @EnergeticMan
    @EnergeticMan Před 8 měsíci +2

    Weirdness Rules.....

  • @cameronx8711
    @cameronx8711 Před 3 měsíci

    This was the weirdest date I’ve ever seen , hands down 😊

  • @unboundcycling4288
    @unboundcycling4288 Před 8 měsíci +7

    She miss a great opportunity to find a man like that

    • @maartjegoede9330
      @maartjegoede9330 Před 8 měsíci +3

      Ahh a man knows it better than the actual person.... Lovely

  • @burak_aviator487
    @burak_aviator487 Před 5 měsíci +3

    She speaks like Kat Dennings from 2 Broke Girls 🤔

    • @joannenix8497
      @joannenix8497 Před 24 dny +1

      I agree , I was thinking the same thing.

  • @robertgelblum5154
    @robertgelblum5154 Před 8 měsíci +16

    This was one of the oddest First Dates I've ever watched! They're both oddballs in their own way. He is way too cocky - his picking her up right upon meeting was bizarre. I have to admit that I was entertained, and maybe that's all First Dates is about. I thought that she was warming up to him and was actually going to say Yes to a second date. (He obviously was into her.) But I was caught off guard when she just wanted to be "friends" - a smart choice by her but I thought that seeing all his big muscles was clouding her good judgement.

  • @joannenix8497
    @joannenix8497 Před 24 dny

    Update?

  • @Annagracie24
    @Annagracie24 Před 5 měsíci +1

    The title of the video is a bit unfair when he mad3 it a "weird" date (her words!)

  • @bethfreschi9171
    @bethfreschi9171 Před 8 měsíci +8

    I think she was judging him for his weirdness. 😅
    ...but shes the same. Lol

  • @deerheart87
    @deerheart87 Před 5 měsíci +5

    He's Italian ?

    • @joannenix8497
      @joannenix8497 Před 24 dny +1

      Half Russian half Italian.

    • @AnonymousTruthTeller
      @AnonymousTruthTeller Před 2 dny

      He's hot af with the most beautiful eyes I've ever seen. Seems like a good guy really. Just that he needs to brush his teeth, look a bit yellow 😅

  • @parametr
    @parametr Před 8 měsíci +6

    Tbh, pretty sure they are both in the autistic spectrum.
    Both cool, though. Thumbs-up for both.

  • @giannishen
    @giannishen Před 8 měsíci +4

    They will marry! 👌

  • @jones2277
    @jones2277 Před 6 měsíci +2

    he just needs to calm down a bit. like don't invade her space. i hear that's a big thing with people on the spectrum. otherwise, i still see some potential. she just has to be blunt about her boundaries. and he has to respect them.

  • @taaappp
    @taaappp Před měsícem

    Typical in today’s dating….
    The date goes GREAT like Tony the Tiger!
    And then gets friend zoned!

  • @loonytu1
    @loonytu1 Před 8 měsíci

    Wow

  • @dsds3968
    @dsds3968 Před 4 měsíci

    The music ruins this.