Only one ex of mine ever mentioned couples therapy was something we needed to stay together. I broke up with her the next day and never looked back. I am with someone now for 10 years who loves me for who I am.
Couples therapy isn't a punishment. It's an opportunity. I am glad you are with someone you love, but if you begin struggling and love your relationship enough to want to change to help it, please don't resist therapy. It's an incredible growth experience.
@@MaryJoRapini Thanks. My point was not really so much about Therapy being a punishment but rather that people should love each other for who they are without needing them to change. One thing I learned is that people are going to either be happy or they are always going to find issues. Most of the time it's a lot easier and makes more sense to just find someone else who appreciates you. My significant other and I have arguments and disagreements, of course, but in over a decade therapy has not come up once and we never met an obstacle we couldn't conquer.
@@WallStreetWill86 I totally get it. I think when people go into a relationship not wanting to change they set a precedent that makes it more difficult to make changes. You are right, you cannot change your partner, but everyone changes until they're dead. Change is inevitable. It sounds like your ex wanted you to change for the relationship which IMO is ok. But....she forgot to appreciate you and tell you how wonderful you are as is. If you had felt appreciated, I think you would have seen areas you could and wanted to continue to work on within yourself. My guess is your new partner appreciates the man you are, and that makes you more willing to change for the good of the relationship. It's more about appreciation than acceptance, change or anything else...Really appreciate you writing back. I think these convo's help others.
@@WallStreetWill86 You're savage bro haha but right on and well said! Therapy can become a weapon for controlling people to manipulate their victims. They are either going to accept you for who you are or they should go waste someone else's time.
Can one continue in a relationship after being abused for years? I mean with couple therapy? Does therapy help one forget and forgive? What if one can’t do that? Would therapy be any good at all?
You know how to articulate things very well. Communication is vital
I needed to here this
I agree therapy is not going to work if one person doesn’t admit they are also wrong and also haven’t been a good partner
Only one ex of mine ever mentioned couples therapy was something we needed to stay together. I broke up with her the next day and never looked back. I am with someone now for 10 years who loves me for who I am.
Couples therapy isn't a punishment. It's an opportunity. I am glad you are with someone you love, but if you begin struggling and love your relationship enough to want to change to help it, please don't resist therapy. It's an incredible growth experience.
@@MaryJoRapini Thanks. My point was not really so much about Therapy being a punishment but rather that people should love each other for who they are without needing them to change. One thing I learned is that people are going to either be happy or they are always going to find issues. Most of the time it's a lot easier and makes more sense to just find someone else who appreciates you. My significant other and I have arguments and disagreements, of course, but in over a decade therapy has not come up once and we never met an obstacle we couldn't conquer.
@@WallStreetWill86 I totally get it. I think when people go into a relationship not wanting to change they set a precedent that makes it more difficult to make changes. You are right, you cannot change your partner, but everyone changes until they're dead. Change is inevitable. It sounds like your ex wanted you to change for the relationship which IMO is ok. But....she forgot to appreciate you and tell you how wonderful you are as is. If you had felt appreciated, I think you would have seen areas you could and wanted to continue to work on within yourself. My guess is your new partner appreciates the man you are, and that makes you more willing to change for the good of the relationship. It's more about appreciation than acceptance, change or anything else...Really appreciate you writing back. I think these convo's help others.
@@WallStreetWill86 You're savage bro haha but right on and well said! Therapy can become a weapon for controlling people to manipulate their victims. They are either going to accept you for who you are or they should go waste someone else's time.
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Can one continue in a relationship after being abused for years? I mean with couple therapy? Does therapy help one forget and forgive? What if one can’t do that? Would therapy be any good at all?
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