Trauma Specialist: Do This to Release Your Trauma’s Negative Energy & Rediscover Yourself!

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    Welcome back to The School of Greatness! Today, we're joined by Dr. Frank Anderson, a leading trauma expert and psychiatrist. Dr. Anderson opens up about his challenging journey, growing up in a traditional Italian American family that was both intensely loving and painfully unaccepting. From enduring six years of conversion therapy starting at just six years old to breaking the chains of generational trauma, Dr. Anderson's story is one of courage, healing, and the transformative power of embracing one's true self. Today, he's here to share insights on how to navigate through personal traumas and to help us understand the profound impact of acceptance and love.
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    0:00 Intro
    00:04:44 - The Journey of Healing
    00:09:04 - Therapy and Suppression
    00:13:44 - The Difficulty of Living an Authentic Life
    00:18:38 - Healing from Anger and Releasing Trauma
    00:23:20 - The Four T's to Trauma Healing
    00:28:04 - Connecting with our Inner Wisdom and Healing from Trauma
    00:32:58 - The Power of Corrective Experience and Release
    00:37:28 - Finding Love and Healing
    00:42:17 - The Divide of Us and Them
    00:46:49 - Reliving Traumatic Experiences
    00:51:14 - The Many Parts of Ourselves
    00:55:54 - The Cycle of Caretaking and Seeking Love
    01:00:25 - Parenting Patterns and Emotional Triggers
    01:04:53 - Healing Trauma and Prioritizing Self-Love
    01:09:36 - Setting Boundaries with Love and Compassion
    01:14:17 - Releasing Trauma and Healing Yourself
    01:18:51 - When to Seek Extra Support
    01:23:37 - The Complications of Medication Use
    01:28:04 - Starting the Work and Overcoming Shame
    01:33:10 - Shame Cycles and Healing
    01:38:27 - Learning to Love and Heal from Trauma
    01:43:23 - The Complexity of the Human Experience
    01:48:00 - Stress and Trauma's Impact on Autoimmune Conditions
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  • @lewishowes
    @lewishowes  Před 21 dnem +152

    Thanks to Dr. Frank Anderson for sharing his wisdom with us! Leave a “YES” if you enjoyed this and share the biggest moment for you. And make sure to subscribe to never miss out on inspiring content like this again CZcams.com/lewishowes

    • @jeffconley819
      @jeffconley819 Před 20 dny +4

      I’m 60 plus and mostly been messed up my whole life. A childhood with a abusive mother and a father that looked the other way. I’m at the end of my life so what’s the point of trying to get straightened out. It seems pointless this late in life .

    • @franhart7414
      @franhart7414 Před 20 dny

      ​@@jeffconley819Everyone carries some sort of trauma. You're 60 so you could be here on this beautiful planet for another 30 or 35 years. Do your best to raise your awareness and learn how to be happier. Millions have and so can you. Just open the door/s. Enjoy your life

    • @petrakreuzwieser3408
      @petrakreuzwieser3408 Před 20 dny +2

    • @petrakreuzwieser3408
      @petrakreuzwieser3408 Před 20 dny

      ​@@jeffconley819 If it's for the last five minutes in your life, that you can feel the love inside of you, it wont be too late... it's never too late.

    • @gemi9i1
      @gemi9i1 Před 20 dny +7

      Yes a thousand x’s! Related so much to Frank & his experience with his parents & have been drawn to your @lewishowes journey as well. Ty so much for addressing more than one topic & especially discussions regarding mental fitness, how were affected by the past (esp in childhood & traumas). One of the Best & my empathy grows from this beautiful conversation. Thank you sincerely Dr. Frank & Lewis. 🙏♥️🔥

  • @IamCoachCourt
    @IamCoachCourt Před 20 dny +156

    “You don’t need gurus, you know what’s best for yourself!”
    This is the absolute best

    • @kathylibby3676
      @kathylibby3676 Před 20 dny +2

      So my cousin thinks she has her family dynamics figured out without counselling. Dubious. None of her 7 siblings agree with her conclusions.

    • @IamCoachCourt
      @IamCoachCourt Před 20 dny +1

      @@kathylibby3676 I mean, clearly if there is some sort of psychosis going on it’s obvious. I think he was referring to the other people.

    • @oambitiousone7100
      @oambitiousone7100 Před 18 dny +1

      What if your gut is telling you to do something wrong, like leave your spouse for someone else?
      As in, screaming that THIS is what you need? The gut is fickle.

    • @frankanderson8507
      @frankanderson8507 Před 14 dny

      yes, 100%

    • @CALredhead
      @CALredhead Před 12 dny

      @@oambitiousone7100Until we get good help - counseling, meditation, etc - it's pretty hard to know whether it's our 'gut' talking to us or just the part of our self that we constructed & learned to listen to in order to get along in the world we exist in.

  • @elainec5333
    @elainec5333 Před 19 dny +181

    The Four T’s to Trauma Healing
    1. Thank your trauma responses. Thank your protective responses. Thank drinking. Thank binge eating. Thank suicidal thinking. Thank the depression and anxiety. Thank your responses bc they’re just trying to stop the pain.
    2. Trust that you have what you need inside to heal. Don’t need a guru. Trust your gut. Trust your intuition.
    3. Transform. What doesn’t serve you doesn’t belong to you. Witness experience and share the story, thoughts, feelings and physical sensations. Share whole experience without reliving it but be with it but not in it. Disconfirm the trauma. I’m loved. I’m seen. I’m important. Relational repair. I love myself. A friend loves and cares about you. Can love the other person who harmed you. Corrective experience after share. Release is possible. Body shakes. Feel lighter. Energy releases. Pain dissipates. You become you again. It’s freeing to let go of trauma. Reclaiming yourself.
    4. Take back your power. Become you. You’re more you every time you release something. I can love and move on despite… Forgiveness is not condoning. If you choose to it’s more for you but you don’t have to. Who hasn’t harmed or been harmed? Forgive self. Trauma blocks love. Love heals trauma.

    • @stefaniakonstantinidou981
      @stefaniakonstantinidou981 Před 16 dny +12

      And 8f that does not work ask Jesus to heal you and follow Him. He healed me. No more fear, cptsd, depression. No daily practises. I am strong in Jesus. " come to me all who are weary and I will take your burden bc my yoke is light". God bless

    • @gab31282
      @gab31282 Před 15 dny +11

      Thank you for taking the time to summarize it. Very much appreciated.

    • @frankanderson8507
      @frankanderson8507 Před 14 dny +4

      yes, 100%

    • @tanyabaughn3639
      @tanyabaughn3639 Před 13 dny +1

      Facts☮️💟✝️🦋 thank you!

    • @ambergibson7381
      @ambergibson7381 Před 13 dny +4

      Great Summary❤️‍🔥Thank You!!

  • @dianeclayton4936
    @dianeclayton4936 Před 19 dny +70

    I talk to my parts in the car all the time. I don't need to close eyes or meditate. I talk to my inner parts just as I would a close friend. ❤

    • @austintaylor55
      @austintaylor55 Před 18 dny +4

      Same :) IFS has helped give language and framework for facilitating the parts work

    • @JDr709
      @JDr709 Před 18 dny +1

      I’m love you and you’re energy! You need to take a step forward for someone else or yourself maybe. You’re on the next level brother(or sister). Pay it forward.

    • @Yourfavshopper
      @Yourfavshopper Před 15 dny +2

      Omg me too!

    • @frankanderson8507
      @frankanderson8507 Před 14 dny

      awesome

    • @allisontaylor1818
      @allisontaylor1818 Před 14 dny +1

      Your inner child , such an important part of you.

  • @oaktreedialogues6318
    @oaktreedialogues6318 Před 20 dny +64

    "You don't have to carry stuff that isn't yours". This idea of trauma as holding somebody else's negative energy resonates with me. It makes sense for trauma as a relational injury.

    • @damarisamaya5142
      @damarisamaya5142 Před 19 dny +3

      I think part of that is bc we feel guilty for any reason, for me guilt has make carry that energy that doesn’t belong to me

    • @frankanderson8507
      @frankanderson8507 Před 14 dny +1

      wonderful

  • @lauragoodman3378
    @lauragoodman3378 Před 14 dny +30

    Thank you. I've been on a healing journey most of my adult life. The last few months were dark, I was in my head in a negative way. I remembered a skill given to me during counseling. I needed to go back and rescue me from my trauma, and love me and tell me I am safe and loved and whatever else that me needed to know. So I started to do this with every trauma I could remember. I thanked me for the trauma response because it protected me, and told me I didn't need it anymore. Oh and a whole lot more. A week ago I looked in the mirror, smiled at me and felt peace, and I felt me, for the first time. I looked at me and loved me, I am 61, and proud of me. Then I found this podcast, and you supported me and gave me more guidance. Thank you.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 13 dny +5

      You are loved 🙏👏

    • @frankanderson8507
      @frankanderson8507 Před 7 dny +2

      So beautiful. ❤️

    • @annaak7849
      @annaak7849 Před 7 dny +2

      ❤❤

    • @pimmspimms5462
      @pimmspimms5462 Před 5 dny +4

      This is so, so beautiful. I have a diagnosis of Complex PTSD as a consequence of childhood abuse. I’m in therapy - my psychologist is using the Internal Family Systems modality on me - and have begun to talk to my younger, traumatised parts. There’s something magical in rediscovering your inner child. There’s something magical in loving your inner child in all of the ways that your parents didn’t. I hope that, one day, I will reach a place of peace for everything that I’ve been through, pride for surviving… and then let the trauma go from my body, mind and emotions. You’re inspirational to me! You make me want to keep going. Continue to love and look after yourself always, 🕊️ x

    • @dianemorrell9638
      @dianemorrell9638 Před 4 dny

      ​@@lewishowes
      but I'm not and know it.

  • @chriestinenpape
    @chriestinenpape Před 20 dny +72

    When you think you could never have had any more deep, thoughtful healing podcast from Lewis and his guest.... I love his podcast more and more

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 20 dny +8

      Thank you! Appreciate you and your support🧡

    • @Hooch737
      @Hooch737 Před 20 dny +2

      You Are NOT wrong!!!! So right, always a good discussion

    • @magdalenanarolewska4934
      @magdalenanarolewska4934 Před 16 dny +1

      What an amazing discussion. Thank you ❤❤

    • @frankanderson8507
      @frankanderson8507 Před 14 dny +2

      I am so glad it has been helpful

    • @TS-iv9ml
      @TS-iv9ml Před 2 dny +1

      Love the AND teaching moment ❤ I needed to hear that as I'm finally at a place & understanding to do this! As an Empath, it takes so much energy & time to get here. You two are perfectly placed and timed for so many of us, thank you so very much!! The healing and holding...boundaries.. perfect!! It's okay to do for you & NEEDED ... Craniosacral Therapy is helping where my disconnect is so I can heal 🫂

  • @terrahillman151
    @terrahillman151 Před 20 dny +91

    I agree with Frank about releasing trauma makes us look younger. Stress energy and trauma energy age humans. And makes us sick. There is no illness in healed humans. Only love and complete health. And youth. 🙌🏼❤️

  • @mindbodymedicine
    @mindbodymedicine Před 17 dny +31

    A psychiatrist who doesn't push drugs and is relatable. I admire him and I loved this podcast. Dr. Anderson, thank you for your dedication to help those with trauma. I have the utmost respect for you.

    • @roseofsharon7551
      @roseofsharon7551 Před 15 dny +5

      AND he doesn’t suggest no-contact as a healing option. Supposedly 20% of youth today are going no-contact; it’s insidious that so much of the mental health industry is promoting the break up of families.

    • @tinydanceryoutube
      @tinydanceryoutube Před 15 dny +1

      And Lewis too!

    • @tinydanceryoutube
      @tinydanceryoutube Před 15 dny

      ​@@roseofsharon7551read his story. He divorced his family to find himself years ago. That's why he is who he is today.

    • @frankanderson8507
      @frankanderson8507 Před 14 dny

      wow, thank you for those wonderful words, so glad it was helpful

  • @l2sunshine173
    @l2sunshine173 Před 17 dny +24

    Whenever an negative emotion triggered by trauma takes over my body, I stop and i talk to it" I hear you, i aknowledge you but i don't need you today. You are from the past and it is ok to leave.We are safe now".
    I then sit and feel where it is in my body, breath, and feel it leaving my body. I am no longer trying to carriy it around.

  • @nancysmyth-gray1698
    @nancysmyth-gray1698 Před 8 dny +5

    Kids totally know correct behavior. At 10yrs, I remember a trip to Europe with my mom, watching her not being nice to the “help”. My daughter at 10yrs said to me, “I don’t like the way your mom speaks to you.” Ugh!

  • @abstract20
    @abstract20 Před 20 dny +129

    “Trauma blocks love. Love heals trauma.”
    Sounds like quite the conundrum to me.

    • @pupplylove3003
      @pupplylove3003 Před 19 dny +11

      It is. That’s why it’s so hard to do

    • @Eleerm
      @Eleerm Před 19 dny +4

      This is true for me. But things are starting to change.

    • @anthonycavallero6637
      @anthonycavallero6637 Před 19 dny +2

      Paper . ✂️.🪨..

    • @dakine4238
      @dakine4238 Před 19 dny +7

      True, I believe part of it is developing self-love and compassion toward yourself.

    • @vickibazter3446
      @vickibazter3446 Před 19 dny +7

      @@pupplylove3003 good point. I believe we store our trauma memory in our body. I think body and breath work far surpass talk therapy to deal and break patterns. Not Easy.

  • @allisontaylor1818
    @allisontaylor1818 Před 17 dny +23

    Still working on this journey called life... i hit rock bottom 3 years ago and have had therapy since...so many feelings I kept inside, no boundaries, door mat,abuse, yelled at my kids, alcoholic parent , alcoholic myself...etc. Boy , have I come a long way since then. Learned alot of great things about myself.

    • @frankanderson8507
      @frankanderson8507 Před 14 dny +3

      keep going

    • @pimmspimms5462
      @pimmspimms5462 Před 5 dny +2

      You CAN do this, Allison. There will be low and hard times along the therapy route, but everything will be worth it. I grew up with an alcoholic father and know the deep pain that it causes. By healing your addiction, you are giving an extraordinary gift to yourself and your future… and, in turn, your children. Keep going! I’m sending love to you, 🕊️ x

    • @allisontaylor1818
      @allisontaylor1818 Před 5 dny

      @@pimmspimms5462 thank you so so much...i feel the love as I weep.

  • @middleofnowhere1313
    @middleofnowhere1313 Před 18 dny +23

    I'm with Dr. Ramani. My forgiveness must be earned. It is not a door prize for the undeserving. Love myself when they didn't, yes i do. Those who deliberately made my life awful deserve and get nothing from me.

    • @autygris1
      @autygris1 Před 16 dny

      Haven’t watched this, was wondering if this goes against what Dr. Ramani says?

    • @HumanityRisingNow
      @HumanityRisingNow Před 15 dny

      Sounds like you still need to heal my brother/sister 🙏

    • @frankanderson8507
      @frankanderson8507 Před 14 dny +3

      from my perspective, forgiveness is more for the person doing the forgiving than it is about the other person. I appreciate your view.

    • @northofyou33
      @northofyou33 Před 11 dny +2

      @@frankanderson8507 Very true. My malignantly narcissistic mother abused me badly, but I am in the process of forgiving her. Not for what she did to me, but for the fact that she was a damaged person who had no idea what she was doing to me. I haven't fully forgiven her, but things are shifting, and I feel so much better about myself already. I'm doing it to empower myself.

    • @jcepri
      @jcepri Před 20 hodinami

      @@northofyou33 My parents are both deceased. I'm working on pretending they were enlightened when they passed to the other wide and want to reach out to forgive me. It's up to me to accept their apology so I can forgive them.

  • @TheBams1026
    @TheBams1026 Před 20 dny +74

    One of THE best interviews I have ever listened to. No doubt this came across my feed for a reason.

  • @Dawn-tv1bk
    @Dawn-tv1bk Před 19 dny +37

    Pleasing others is really a protection of self.

    • @SethNobrega
      @SethNobrega Před 15 dny

      Would you elaborate on? That’s an interesting take and I’m legitimately curious? Thank you!

    • @godzillamanstreb524
      @godzillamanstreb524 Před 15 dny +3

      Yes protection from further abuse …..you try to please your abuser…..iow….fawning

    • @SethNobrega
      @SethNobrega Před 14 dny

      Wow that’s amazing. I never knew that term before but considering the last two (psychologically/physically abusive) relationships I left, dots are starting to connect 🤦‍♂️

    • @Dawn-tv1bk
      @Dawn-tv1bk Před 14 dny +2

      @@SethNobrega I’m saying that pleasing others is really a protection of self because at its core we don’t please others simply to make them happy. We sometimes please others to make them happy so they will be happy with us and think highly of us and like us. Can someone please someone else simply from a pure heart to make them happy because they love them and care for them, yes. But people who are chronic people pleasers often do it to protect themselves from the pain of not being liked or they want to be seen as this amazing good person. I speak from experience as a recovering people pleaser🥰😊

    • @Dawn-tv1bk
      @Dawn-tv1bk Před 14 dny +2

      @@godzillamanstreb524pleasing someone to prevent abuse is called survival. I actually don’t call that people pleasing. It’s survival until you can get away🙏🏼❤️

  • @kathylibby3676
    @kathylibby3676 Před 20 dny +30

    Generally speaking people who face their life trauma will get better. Those who don't choose to go on a personal quest will become bitter. Choosing to become better rather than bitter has served me well. And I'm still working on getting better.

  • @NixTheNarcissist
    @NixTheNarcissist Před 19 dny +32

    The problem with this is with complex trauma and dealing with narcissistic abuse is that loving them doesn’t work. It’s the opposite of helpful. Love isn’t the answer with them. Yes you can love yourself but loving them only In turn hurts you more in the long run.

    • @crystalburkhardt
      @crystalburkhardt Před 19 dny +6

      Agreed! This is my experience with the narc in my life

    • @elainec5333
      @elainec5333 Před 19 dny +4

      I wouldn’t even give a narcissist a wedge bc that’s too much attention than they deserve.

    • @oaktreedialogues6318
      @oaktreedialogues6318 Před 19 dny +11

      With narcissists, the idea is to love them from far away. You need to detach from them since hating them uses too much emotional energy. Detach, then look at them from a new perspective of universal love , without expecting anything from them.

    • @MayaRoseSpokenWord
      @MayaRoseSpokenWord Před 15 dny +4

      My advice is love them from a far for your healing and let your inner child hate them with you... I hope this makes sense. It is the hardest healing because as Dr Ramni said, or maybe it was Lisa A Romano, that we are hard wired to love them and a part of us always will so I think it's best to surrender to the love of their sad story and the pain that caused them do what they do while honoring the anger and hatred in a sacred space that has nothing to do with your interaction with them.. good luck it's not easy to find the love but when you do it is so freeing and that doesn't mean you ever need to set eyes om them again. Good luck and much love to you❣️❣️❣️

    • @frankanderson8507
      @frankanderson8507 Před 14 dny +3

      I feel differently. Loving them, frees you from being negatively connected to them anymore. But I appreciate your perspective.

  • @whytchywooo
    @whytchywooo Před 13 dny +11

    100% of humans have experienced trauma, thanks to 2020 events and what followed.

    • @Michael-fn2fu
      @Michael-fn2fu Před dnem

      Birth is in itself traumatic, so therefore, it started long before 2020, and the trauma we all faced no matter what side you were forced to take

  • @magicalpatterns
    @magicalpatterns Před 10 dny +5

    FINALLY SOMEONE speak about IFS internal family systems. Thank you 🙏🏼 is the absolute best therapy for trauma. Not only because is so extremely effective but because the therapist’s goal is to teach how to do it to yourself and let you go. Brilliant work discovered by Dr. Richard Schwartz

  • @warrenisaac5634
    @warrenisaac5634 Před 2 dny +3

    This is an episode that everyone should see, if not for themselves then for those they love! There is plenty for everyone to take away from this episode! I will rewatch this one again and again. You provide so much healing for those that follow you and I for one am greatful. Bless you Lewis and Frank!

  • @elainec5333
    @elainec5333 Před 19 dny +19

    He’s genuine and doesn’t hold back on what’s important and helpful. He whole heartedly cares and wants to help. You can feel it.

  • @florianewu1886
    @florianewu1886 Před 20 dny +22

    Exactly, when a parent realizes that their triggered trauma self wounded their children, it feels like a moral injury. The shame needs to be healed also. I am also a Repairer. Wholeness is when we have re-integrated and self parented all the parts of ourselves. Ty for such an insightful interview! :)

  • @gailyhanna510
    @gailyhanna510 Před 19 dny +10

    Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.💜

  • @susanoker4780
    @susanoker4780 Před 20 dny +15

    I was once told that "Forgiveness is setting a prisoner free. And then realizing the prisoner, was you".
    Carrying that anger or hurt or negative emotion does not hurt them or affect them. But it hurts you. It affects you. That has always stuck with me.

    • @michellemonet4358
      @michellemonet4358 Před 17 dny

      But anger is a stage in grieving.

    • @susanoker4780
      @susanoker4780 Před 16 dny +2

      @@michellemonet4358
      Agreed. Anger is a stage of grief. But holding on to that anger, carrying it around with you, where, when you talk about the memories, you are right back in that moment, just as angry as when it first happened, that is not grief. That is trauma. And the only one being hurt by it over and over again, is you.

    • @frankanderson8507
      @frankanderson8507 Před 14 dny

      yes 100%

  • @mariakarinabarrientos1656

    YES! Cried every “aha” moment. I love your channel! Please continue to share insights and healing practices into the world. I have so much interest in your work. Love and kindness be… Thank you !

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 6 dny +1

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @ElisPalmer
    @ElisPalmer Před 7 dny +2

    What a beautiful conversation. Thanks so much ~🌟

  • @lesliemorgan3091
    @lesliemorgan3091 Před 15 dny +5

    This is the best explanation of dealing with trauma I've ever heard. Thank you guys!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 15 dny

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @EpicLoveInstitute
    @EpicLoveInstitute Před 13 dny +2

    The chemistry and attunement between the two of you is off the charts!!! How you just "felt" each other was priceless. Such an amazing interview. Frank is one of my IFS heroes!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 13 dny

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @sandyokeeffe2203
    @sandyokeeffe2203 Před 19 dny +12

    Frank Anderson is a huge leading voice in the trauma treatment field. I appreciate him so much for all his beautiful work. He is truly amazing

  • @andreavanda5402
    @andreavanda5402 Před 15 dny +7

    This one REALLY hit home! Dr. Anderson is such a gift. Lewis you are one special person with a HUGE heart. Thank you for bringing hope and healing to this world. ❤❤❤

  • @JaneAmericanIrish777
    @JaneAmericanIrish777 Před 20 dny +16

    Repairing starts with forgiveness and understanding. Forgive what was done. Seeing how it effects your life. The hardest is to understand when it pops up.We learn what to do till we are in that trigger .
    If we fall back. We have to forgive ourselves for not being perfect and tap ourselves on the back when we do overcome a trigger or a emotional response. We have to take into consideration that others we deal with might be masking their trauma as well. So you might trigger them.
    I get the wounded walk away or ghosting. When things are difficult to address we run. We all have that fight or flight response . It's freeing when we face it .Thank you for this video. Lots of trauma in my life. It bothers me when others say your using it when your trauma when your not ! This is only because you told them and they are using it to beat you with or put you down. It ticks me off. It's hard to confront when the people are no longer in your life. My father beat the hell out of my Mom and even tried to kill her. My easy memories are sleeping in the basement hiding behind boards with my Mom as he came in drunk and dragged her upstairs by her hair beating her ! He was a product of his childhood. My Mom was a product of her childhood. Both were broken and created broken next generations. It stops as you see how in your life that trauma effects you .
    I learn that it's like a dopamine hit to emotionally go back to that same negative patterns. I see when I do it but it's a best that I created.
    Healing In my thoughts starts with you. My fight or flight is what I have to identify more. That need to run or react to negative things. To not get into your own head or follow patterns that lead you to tgat sane kind of abusive situations.
    People are good to talk to but do not live your experience. They can offer a shoulder only. Drugs are a bandaid. All drugs keep in mind came from nature. Now keep in mind that most qho went off were on strong drugs and therapy. Like I said it's a consistent effort for those who are in a deep mental breakdown. The problem in this Society is we give drug's like pez dispensers. To people who don't need it and end up addicted or doing more drugs ! Do not address the root. That is a desire and finding the tools to heal. Natural cures for depression. Medical treatment for complete breakdown only. With follow up. A majority of us are in imbalances because of our diet and lifestyle as well. Once again thanks for this video .

  • @Emolisst68
    @Emolisst68 Před 11 dny +4

    This is the BEST podcast I’ve listened to! Thank you thank you thank you!!! 🙏 😊

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 11 dny +1

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @michelehoover777
    @michelehoover777 Před 20 dny +13

    Wow! This was so powerful! I have been working on trauma recovery for years but this really hit home. I would love a follow up with Frank Anderson on how to help out kids early so we can help release any trauma already caused and how to prevent further small t traumas with our kids. ❤

  • @carolafriesen904
    @carolafriesen904 Před 20 dny +18

    I was a y care taker of my parents.My mom was prescription drug addict.My dad just worked all the time.Had to take care of my siblings.Unlike other people I no longer wanted to take care of people when I got older.

    • @vickibazter3446
      @vickibazter3446 Před 20 dny +4

      So sorry about that burden. 😞 I hope you can parent yourself or find nurturing to feel safe. It's seems unfair.

    • @frankanderson8507
      @frankanderson8507 Před 14 dny

      sorry for your pain, healing possible

    • @patriciaberliner8050
      @patriciaberliner8050 Před 12 dny

      Thank you for your enlightening contribution. I felt I had to protect and defend my mother from my father throughout my childhood and on into adulthood. This could have had a significant influence on my choosing not to have children.

    • @janswimwild
      @janswimwild Před 7 dny

      Compassion fatigue is very real. You need your compassion now, and that’s ok. Take great care of yourself, you are worth it.

    • @pimmspimms5462
      @pimmspimms5462 Před 5 dny

      I’m sorry that you didn’t have the childhood that all little children deserve. It’s time to give to yourself now. Pour into yourself. Do what restores and replenishes YOU. It’s time, it’s time, it’s time. I hope that your future brings healing and peace, 🕊️ x

  • @lalitaholmesstressfreefast1897

    Yes, you can look younger releasing trauma. I had a client who was told after a session she looked like a 16 year old. She was in her 50's at the time. I am constantly being told i look 10 years younger than i am

  • @anikalee9012
    @anikalee9012 Před 20 dny +124

    I don't have anyone to share. So I stay in my body imagine Cristal Lord Buddha inside me give me compassion that I can feel with my whole body. I took me tree years I keep releasing many feelings I never know I have.

    • @RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose
      @RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose Před 20 dny +20

      If you are alone, then please write it down to vent & read about some healing techniques of professional psychologists to cure. Choose your favorites so you can give your heart a chance to heal. And never be chronically harsh to yourself when you have hard times because mostly, it's also one kind of trauma response to bl4me yourself (not always your fault). Much love & kisses❣️♥️🫂♥️

    • @michellecook-hill431
      @michellecook-hill431 Před 20 dny +2

      @@RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose kisses??? A little much.

    • @jessicamadrid5799
      @jessicamadrid5799 Před 20 dny +12

      Try inner child healing. You witness your own pain and comfort and show up for yourself. It works and you know what your younger self needs more than anyone else.

    • @2minuteschallenge599
      @2minuteschallenge599 Před 20 dny +6

      Much love & kisses. You are blessed You are unique You are a Survivor You are one of a kind You are real You are a beautiful living human being with so much energy to share. Keep moving forwards ❤

    • @elenaangheluta
      @elenaangheluta Před 19 dny +3

      Wow ..this what your wrote you are aware of how deep is ? It’s huge congrats to you and happy you did it , we are never alone ❤

  • @mariadodds2042
    @mariadodds2042 Před 20 dny +15

    Frank is a great teacher. His transparency is very refreshing. I've just ordered his book 'Transcending trauma.' Thank You.

  • @BeNice524
    @BeNice524 Před 15 dny +4

    I feel your spirit doing this interview Lewis. Stay strong brother 🙏🏼

  • @nkundwashanice574
    @nkundwashanice574 Před 11 dny +2

    The questions Lewis asks is exactly what I ask myself before he asks. Bless you for being a good interviewer. You were born to do this😮

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 11 dny

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @tenalemasters6802
    @tenalemasters6802 Před 20 dny +6

    Forgiveness is not for the other person, it’s for you. Find a way to forgive it’s so healing

  • @EcomCarl
    @EcomCarl Před 19 dny +9

    Dr. Frank insights on releasing negative energy from trauma are truly transformative. 💫 Understanding the role of shame and embracing the journey of healing can empower us to live more fulfilling and authentic lives.

  • @MichelineNaderOfficial
    @MichelineNaderOfficial Před 11 dny +1

    ❤❤❤ YES! When we can release the trauma stored in our body, not only can we enjoy life more, but we can show up as a compassionate leader and create an entirely new version of reality. Thank you Dr. Frank and Lewis for inspiring so many people through your dedication to increasing awareness and having conversations like these!

  • @48dette
    @48dette Před 12 dny +2

    This is amazing! I had so many aha moments! I just wanted to add as people may find this interesting, I suffered abuse my whole childhood but managed to push it away to the furthest part of me & bolt the door shut. Then in my adulthood after my father died, I married & had kids then slowly things started to arise.
    I was very confused because I had the symptoms of feeling unworthy & not good enough, but didn’t know why. After my first child was born my father came to me in a dream, he was crying I realized that this wasn’t just a dream, it was a message he had planted the first seed to my recovery. & this was the beginning.

  • @audreycisneros3512
    @audreycisneros3512 Před 13 dny +3

    Thank you for this! Loved this segment.💜

  • @marshareed1438
    @marshareed1438 Před 13 dny +1

    I have CPTSD. I’ve done everything possible to get rid of the trauma. Then I turned 50 and I got traumatized! I couldn’t bounce out of it! I decided that I had to get away from the toxic person in my life. I took a self sabotaging path but it worked. I got better than divorced.
    Now I’m working out again & I’m dreaming of my next journey on a continuous basis!

  • @Suzu52
    @Suzu52 Před 17 dny +4

    This is the first time I ve heard Dr.Anderson...I will now seek out his books and more videos....I appreciate his honesty...I wish both my adult sons would do self work like this....we all need it.

  • @IngridCAlves
    @IngridCAlves Před 15 dny +2

    As a boy naturally playing, discovering, experimenting what he little time sees of life was taken abruptly the possibility of to just continue playing life as if it was totally wrong. Children often sees and understands when adults are wrong but often learn what life presents . It shocked him attracting to so became what he could have learned . It’s somewhat almost an unconscious , and conscious revenge power .
    Trauma : you either learn or repeat.

  • @saraafshar-md8ic
    @saraafshar-md8ic Před 17 dny +2

    I am dealing on daily basis with trauma that has happened to me in the past .Dr Anderson's gives me comfort when I listen to him and how he explains everything......🙏

  • @lacrews10
    @lacrews10 Před 17 dny +3

    Thank you so much for your venerability and honesty. This is such enlightening conversation! This gives me hope for the world because you two are holding this frequency. Heal yourself heal the world. And I love how these two men are expressing their feminine and masculine energy in balance. Love it so much.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 17 dny +1

      Appreciate your feedback, thank you so much for watching!

  • @Annemarie...Annemarie....

    Òmg this man is incredible.
    From a people pleaser because of a very dramatic childhood.i have spent all my life until the past 4 years,I only stopped because of more trauma of being bullied the past 9 years,
    I am angry at myself worrying about the very people that have bullied me..their loss they would have had if I had told on what they did/ doing.
    Now I am being kind to myself,don't be angry,it's the last part of the people pleaser experience,
    Now the voice inside says your being silly,snap out of it...let it go.
    Lewis you are a lovely gentle,kind beautiful man,I am so very sorry for all your hurt...you had to live thru,
    You are helping so many people with what you are doing,with the guests you have,
    You are loved..

  • @spinnettdesigns
    @spinnettdesigns Před 17 dny +3

    I'm about the age of Frank and similar in the drive for intellect etc. and I had several of these shames and I think that the neglect is the worst. Yet, after 20 plus years of therapy and every other health protocol known to man, its been totally worth it. Going from "I'm nothing" to mental health is the best feeling in the world. Please continue everyone and thank you Lewis for bringing these great helps to the fore.

  • @twylabryant7197
    @twylabryant7197 Před 19 dny +7

    Sometimes it’s not just protective. It’s necessary to distance yourself from family members for sure. When you’ve tried everything but the pain they keep inflicting on you doesn’t stop you have to have a healthy boundary. You do not have to stay in those situation’s and there’s nothing wrong with you when you need to do that.

  • @aprililes8355
    @aprililes8355 Před 14 dny +2

    Excellent talk!! I am so grateful that finally a credible Truma doctor explains everything in layman and easy to understand terms!!!! He is so real & down to earth!!💖 Love this talk!!!! You give me hope!!!🙏💖

  • @user-py2hq3ud2h
    @user-py2hq3ud2h Před 13 dny +1

    YES - I learned why I did not prioritize myself - now I know it was all about survival

  • @penniroyal4398
    @penniroyal4398 Před dnem

    I went to the bookstore today to buy this book and it’s not stocked yet but I requested to have one saved for me when it does come! I am looking forward to read and use it to recover from all the pain, trauma and suffering I’ve gone through in the 64 years I’ve lived this life so far 🙏

  • @florentinaguggenheimer6557

    This man is a sweetheart. His voice reminds me of the guy on Schitt's Creek. Comforting♥️

  • @HappyCat1111
    @HappyCat1111 Před 14 dny +4

    Wow, really feeling the intellectual compensation! Getting my second degree plus other diplomas and certifications, wondering how many degrees will it take to prove my worth..damn, that hit home!

  • @bronwyndotjohn
    @bronwyndotjohn Před 8 dny +2

    Such a wonderful insightful video. When they mention the use of drugs to help, they should always be used as a crutch rather then a cure. There will always be pain through recovery, building strength through pain, knowing what hurts you, not taking that out on others? Creating knowledge on what harms you (boundaries). If try as you might to heal but the pain causes a shut down, take something until the brain can recover. But rehabilitation is necessary to truly heal. You were injured, maybe by therapy you could heal, maybe you needed a crutch until you healed. But true healing comes from knowing how the injury occurred , repairing the damage and preventing it from happening again.

  • @Pheistyherbalist
    @Pheistyherbalist Před 13 dny +1

    I loved when Dr. Anderson broke down IFS. I grew up in a big West African family and it’s easy to get swallowed in the group dynamics!!
    Another great episode Lewis!

  • @clarisamompremier8005
    @clarisamompremier8005 Před 14 dny +3

    I loved this interview. I have not heard another guest refer/defer to other experts as much, it was so refreshing!! I also loved all the experts he was referring to..Brene Brown, Dr. Shefali..Dr. Becky..Dr. Dick S.... etc....

  • @colleencarr3470
    @colleencarr3470 Před 10 dny +2

    I love the “And” story bc I have that situation in my own family. Thank you for this communication platform and the in-depth valuable information that was shared with the audience. I think the forgiveness is part of the healing. It is always for your benefit. The “us” & “them” is all about separation. But I believe separation is necessary when the abuser does not stop the abuse. I still forgive that person & see the light & darkness that is in all of us but I also chose to protect myself & that is a way I show self-love to myself.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 10 dny

      Thank you! I really appreciate the feedback!

  • @infinitewavesofhealing
    @infinitewavesofhealing Před 19 dny +11

    I just can't believe he's 60! He looks amazing! Healing really does wonders.

  • @KotobukiGirl
    @KotobukiGirl Před 14 dny +1

    OMG. I've still got a limerence object that is the compilation of my abusive narcissist parents. I know on every logical level that he's a creep; I haven't gone a day without obsessing over him for over a year. What I would give to feel that release! How truly wonderful.

  • @chevvalah1085
    @chevvalah1085 Před 17 dny +2

    Yes. I found that i have trauma that i kept trying to tell people about. Nobody understood so i would just shut down and panic more. But i started recording myself telling the story and ranting, and i would go back and give myself advice, because now that the emotions are out, i can tap into the inner wisdom and actually work on fixing

    • @cherylm5002
      @cherylm5002 Před 17 dny

      You are not alone, it does get better once we get the sh*t out❤

  • @DominionAnako-bb7ry
    @DominionAnako-bb7ry Před 21 dnem +30

    Ah, negative energy... it's something we all encounter from time to time. When it comes to dealing with negative energy, it's important to protect your own well-being. Surround yourself with positive influences, practice self-care, and focus on activities that bring you joy. Remember, you have the power to choose how you respond to negativity. Stay positive and let the good vibes flow! 😊✨

  • @ArunaS-cy4ob
    @ArunaS-cy4ob Před 3 dny

    Yes, yes , yes...thank you Dr Frank Anderson and Lewis

  • @danielledigiacomo8950
    @danielledigiacomo8950 Před 13 dny +1

    This was one of the best talks about trauma and therapy I’ve come across. Thank you for introducing me to Dr. Anderson.

  • @PhotoAmbrosia
    @PhotoAmbrosia Před 15 dny +4

    Recovery! What you are recovering is your true self!

  • @gigiciniski9580
    @gigiciniski9580 Před 20 dny +7

    THANK YOU DR. FRANK ANDERSON ❤ You are Great! ❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 20 dny +2

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @aureliere
    @aureliere Před 19 dny +5

    What a lovely conversation on healing with Dr. Frank. His loving kindness and compassion shone through. Thank you Lewis and team for bringing him to your platform.

  • @jonathan_mcguinness
    @jonathan_mcguinness Před 13 dny +2

    The description of trauma is so Powerful ❤

  • @MayaRoseSpokenWord
    @MayaRoseSpokenWord Před 15 dny +2

    This is so good and so needed. Comprehensive, holistic and honest. I wish I had this info before I sunk myself into the cycle of bad-ish therapy.. it was a great education but I'd rather have had lemonade than squeezed all those darn lemons... Thank you for this...

  • @allisontaylor1818
    @allisontaylor1818 Před 17 dny +3

    Everything he says, makes sense and have dealt with most of his points.

  • @marlene447
    @marlene447 Před 19 dny +4

    Wao this got me crying. Journey to self healing on its way! Thank you!

  • @aprililes8355
    @aprililes8355 Před 14 dny +2

    You're welcome Lewis. I would love to hear another talk from Dr. Anderson again! However many of your podcasts have such amazing content!! Thankyou for all that you do!! Your work is sooo important!!🙏💖

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 14 dny

      Appreciate you and your support🧡

    • @frankanderson8507
      @frankanderson8507 Před 7 dny

      So glad this was helpful and yes, I agree. Lewis produces such great content.

  • @maevebutler4641
    @maevebutler4641 Před 16 dny +3

    Yes.
    I enjoyed listening to you sharing the conversation you had with your younger self..so beautifully articulated & very moving
    Excellent interview from listening to you both sharing experiences and how to heal our traumas.

  • @maureensidor3532
    @maureensidor3532 Před dnem

    After many, many traumatic experiences starting at 8 years old- I am now 43- I now understand and acknowledge that while, yes, some of these experiences I was victimized, but I am not a victim. In fact, I am resilient and am a survivor. These traumatic experiences propelled me into the highest version of myself. I had to go through these things to find my true self and began to love myself for ALL that I am, all that I am not. I am exactly where I'm supposed to be. Even in my darkest moments. I THANK the universe for these things - it made me stronger, wiser, and not the victim. And I still do the work, the internal work. Self growth is never done.

  • @klanderkal
    @klanderkal Před 14 dny +4

    In my case, the trauma's has ruined my life. Back to back to back horrible traumatic events has shattered me badly. The joy of life and living has gone.

    • @sal13luckyforme
      @sal13luckyforme Před 6 dny +1

      I feel exactly the same

    • @klanderkal
      @klanderkal Před 6 dny

      @@sal13luckyforme Hope we can find our own way... to accept? .. or as they say,.. move on?
      ... It's more than 4 family members dying and my best friend.
      It's not only, having to sell my classic car I've own since forever. I didn't check my stock investment, I didn't know it was crashing, there goes my life's investment of $779,000.!!
      My stress was SO extreme, I got insomnia and anxiety. I then made a horrible mistake at my Job.! And I lost it. After 20yrs, I just lost my dream job! That job was more than just employment to me.
      I'm totally crushed.
      All my hopes, dreams, desires.... all my joys, my identity, my structure.... and my only source of social interactions.... gone.
      My Insomnia is horrible, the anxiety is like panic attacks at any time, I'm unable to go outside. Then,... there's the anhedonic depression.
      .... I was suicidal. But, im now.. Just suffering 24/7. My life will never be the same,... but my mind and myself just want that...
      I feel horrible, because many of my misfortunes are mostly my fault.
      Sorry for trauma dumping on you.
      Hope you can recover 🙏...
      🫶✨️

    • @klanderkal
      @klanderkal Před 4 dny

      @@sal13luckyforme how you doing?... feeling better?
      🙌

  • @petrakreuzwieser3408
    @petrakreuzwieser3408 Před 20 dny +3

    Thank you ❤
    I always belived that all of us have love (the light) inside of us. No matter how many borders, or walls, we have- or the experiences made us- build arround.
    LOVE ❤

  • @franhart7414
    @franhart7414 Před 20 dny +11

    We all have trauma and baggage. This is one of the most enlightening educational videos I've seen on the things mentioned. Thank you so much 🙏

  • @marials9245
    @marials9245 Před 20 dny +5

    IFS is such a powerful and beautiful therapy, if done correctly then healing will inevitably follow. I have really enjoyed the interview!

  • @theonlytheone
    @theonlytheone Před 2 dny

    I needed this. I have been trying to find someone who could help me understand what I was going through, and yes, it does confirm what my feelings have been trying to tell me about my wounds. When that understanding clicks, the healing and transformation happen. But yes, you can heal, but it does help to have someone who has gone through the same trauma pain in order to guide you. Like yeah, I have been there, and yes, you can heal

  • @miyukiharley
    @miyukiharley Před 19 dny +3

    Yes , feeling like you are nothing because of seeing yourself as only having Value because I accomplished this or that thing.

  • @TamaraBassinello-gn4ic
    @TamaraBassinello-gn4ic Před 19 dny +2

    A huge YES to this. I love Frank Anderson’s work and this interview is truly a must. Thank you Lewis for bringing him on. I am a big believer in the IFS model and have myself experienced a whole lot of healing, transformation and release from it. Those four Ts Anderson walks us through are tremendously helpful and practical. I love it.

  • @nicoledryden1389
    @nicoledryden1389 Před 19 dny +3

    THIS WAS A GREAT EPISODE! I feel everyone should watch this, so much we may take in and learn from.

  • @marycorkery2111
    @marycorkery2111 Před 20 dny +4

    Cranio Sacral Therapy is also a wonderful therapy that brings a somatic release

  • @itiaharts
    @itiaharts Před 20 dny

    Thank you so much for sharing Frank Anderson with us on TRAUMA. OMG, this has been one of the best programs I have heard and seen. Blessings!!!

  • @maddie9185
    @maddie9185 Před 20 dny +1

    What a great interview. Everyone needs to listen to this. Trauma blocks love, love heals trauma.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 20 dny

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @fayesmith5813
    @fayesmith5813 Před 19 dny +2

    This message is so huge. It could possibly be the missing link to my healing. Thank you for giving me the gift of internal freedom 😊❤

  • @shellytjohnson
    @shellytjohnson Před dnem

    “I’ll tell you what happened to me. We’ll start there” 😂 Absolutely love this man 🫶

  • @priscillacook9194
    @priscillacook9194 Před 5 dny

    I raised my children the best way I knew how, (apparently it was lacking) so in their adult years they lbecame my bullies , I've had a massive heart attack and now I'm fighting for my sanity and peace, I'm moving on without them ... I think I've let them hurt me as much as I can handle ... no more
    Everyone has an opinion on what you should do about it, but they don't tell you how... so thank you for this ❤

  • @MonicaRodriguez-jm8qk
    @MonicaRodriguez-jm8qk Před 7 dny +1

    Lewis this episode was so meaningful, thank you.

  • @nataliastashkevych2228
    @nataliastashkevych2228 Před 17 dny +1

    Thank you, Lewis, so much for such a great guest! It is powerful. I have a lot of trauma, and I am just starting the healing process. Love from Ukraine ❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 17 dny

      You're welcome, appreciate you and your support!

  • @Mia-nm4im
    @Mia-nm4im Před 19 dny

    I love you I love I love you. Thank you for your light Frank and Lewis, love you.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 19 dny

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @Staying_aliveforwomen
    @Staying_aliveforwomen Před 20 dny +3

    This here is a lesson in humanity.How love @compassion wisdom liberates.I❤ ur both. The peaceful calm is felt in their spirits

  • @UHURUIZENN
    @UHURUIZENN Před 20 dny +7

    Well done!!! This was one of the best videos I' seen on social media. It's caused me to reflect on myself as a child whois now a parent. 🤔 "To Be Loved." who does not want or need that? Thanks to both of you for this insightful, deep, and open conversation. 😊🙏

  • @Lovebuzz11-11
    @Lovebuzz11-11 Před 20 dny

    all of everything we are given is for our spiritual growth, clearing and learning from within. ❤❤❤

  • @oaktreedialogues6318
    @oaktreedialogues6318 Před 20 dny +2

    I love the "AND" teaching : can i love you AND acknowledge that i was deeply hurt by you?

  • @mysticgardener2704
    @mysticgardener2704 Před 18 dny

    This is awesome! After living in trauma/cptsd for 60 years IFS is the key to finally healing for my internal system. Now I’m sharing it w my family and friends to spread the healing for all