HARVARD negotiators explain: How to get what you want every time

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  • čas přidán 4. 09. 2024

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  • @suleyldrm5299
    @suleyldrm5299 Před 20 dny +21

    This is the best explaining video I ever watched. Her voice also very helpful. Thr content itself just excellent!

    • @jessica76311
      @jessica76311 Před 5 dny

      True! Her voice is very engaging. I was only coming here to save the video for later but I kept watching on. I've even subscribed without checking what the channel is about! Though I can tell from the channel name.

  • @batman4329
    @batman4329 Před 13 dny +73

    This assumes both parties are logical and are negotiating in good faith.

    • @edan2629
      @edan2629 Před 9 dny +3

      dead right....
      most poor ppls negotiation arent logical at all, its ego, interest, this that and then some....

    • @simplesample4939
      @simplesample4939 Před 8 dny

      @@edan2629 how do you cope up with this circumstance then?

    • @THEMOMENTOFBIRTH
      @THEMOMENTOFBIRTH Před 5 dny +2

      Exactly.

    • @maartenvz
      @maartenvz Před 3 dny +2

      Did you watch the video till the end as your statement is addressed from the 8 minute mark and on...

    • @maartenvz
      @maartenvz Před 3 dny

      ​@@simplesample4939watch the video till the end as this is discussed for multiple minutes from the 8 minute mark ;)

  • @whatthefunction9140
    @whatthefunction9140 Před měsícem +237

    My wife is definitely winning

  • @husbandandwifeteamak
    @husbandandwifeteamak Před měsícem +23

    Amazing insights! Learning negotiation strategies from experts can truly transform your approach. Mastering these skills helps us achieve our goals effectively. Thanks for sharing!

  • @DunBossNyakundi
    @DunBossNyakundi Před měsícem +17

    I like the new style of summaries but i love when its only THE HAND doing it.. it sticks more if you DRAW AS YOU EXPLAIN THE POINT!!!! ... Thanks God Bless your efforts

    • @Well_Read
      @Well_Read Před měsícem +1

      Would you say it matters if the channel shows the person talking?🤔

    • @DunBossNyakundi
      @DunBossNyakundi Před měsícem

      @@Well_Read Yes ..its unique the way it is and personally i love it........ NOT comparable with what everyone is doing nowdays..copying copying copying!

  • @almachavez6814
    @almachavez6814 Před měsícem +10

    Thank you! I always tune in and am very excited when new videos drop.

  • @rosenkechichukwunwendu1561

    I love the way of understanding

  • @user-ve5nk5le7s
    @user-ve5nk5le7s Před 12 dny +1

    This is wonderful and amazing negotiations that navigate individual processes in different organisation ❤

  • @Pronellyllon
    @Pronellyllon Před 15 dny +2

    Thank you for the video. It's always very helpful. Although I have some convincing to do, I believe these skills will also be helpful for the convincing. My problem is that there are regulations we need to comply... but my colleagues are completely against it. As the regulations are final, I doubt there is room negotiate for a different outcome. We cannot come to agree to a half compliance to regulations. I can, however, try to listen to their worries and see if I can change their minds or perspectives.

  • @biasweet643
    @biasweet643 Před 22 dny +20

    Wondering if someone can negotiate the palestine - Israel issue

    • @Asdrvbhjmkkgdcbkllhf
      @Asdrvbhjmkkgdcbkllhf Před 19 dny +4

      How do you not have 3,000 replies to this comment already?

    • @YoMoyg07
      @YoMoyg07 Před 18 dny +4

      Candidates:
      The UK - which facilitated the return of the Jews in the 20th Century
      The US - already showed prowess to do so by way of shuttle diplomacy (RIP Henry Kissinger). Also, can persuade ally Israel to agree to a ceasefire. Also, can plead to Arab allies to assuage Palestine (Hamas) to do the same.
      EU - Because they have leverage too.
      The UN - it should have from the start but the US always vetoes actions sanctioning Israel via the Security Council.
      Two cents have been dropped.

    • @TheHugoDelgado
      @TheHugoDelgado Před 14 dny

      I would add to your question considering the Palestine-Israel conflict negotiation history.

    • @MandRGeneralplc
      @MandRGeneralplc Před 14 dny +2

      🤣 the issue never be solved...because its a spirutual war...two very different entity fight for the same land...the issue is not tolerance...the issue is distroying the other one...u see...they fight to distroy not to tolerate or coexist ...

    • @casioamplifier
      @casioamplifier Před 11 dny +1

      Yes. Israel is an actual country. While there is no country called Palestine except in the minds of isl@mist t3rror1sts

  • @DavidMANZI_093
    @DavidMANZI_093 Před měsícem +13

    This is amazing! indeed I need to be a wonderful negotiator... Thank you!

  • @TsetanDorjay-oc2xm
    @TsetanDorjay-oc2xm Před měsícem +3

    Thankyou so much .. my life improving because of your videos..

  • @karichmapyar
    @karichmapyar Před dnem

    I become addictive to your channel it's the first youtube channel I wait for its new videos to see. ❤ thank you so much😊 ❤😊

  • @rienzitrento8397
    @rienzitrento8397 Před měsícem +12

    The cake is basically the same as king Solomon deciding whose baby belongs to the real mother

    • @eddyhenry5050
      @eddyhenry5050 Před 17 dny

      I doubt ,I fell there is a bit difference .
      In this case the orange doesn't belong to either of them .

  • @DesmondDaCyborg
    @DesmondDaCyborg Před měsícem +4

    Thanks I tried reading that book but it was so boring. The voice over summary and animation make it seem interesting I’m going give it another chance

  • @warlockpaladin2261
    @warlockpaladin2261 Před 22 hodinami

    First, haggling is a form of negotiation that is often a hassle we would prefer not to be entangled in. Second, if your enemy is able to walk away then you have lost.

  • @KokayMate
    @KokayMate Před 21 dnem +9

    These situations mirror todays western situations.
    Great accomplishments, Companys etc begin with mutual interest, knowledge and dedication. The second is great leaders. These traits are however rare nowadays.

  • @La1Neese
    @La1Neese Před měsícem +4

    Thank you for all of this awesome material that you continue to present. CZcams recommended a channel that is doing the same type of whiteboard stuff with the same books-and its crap.
    You, my dear are a rockstar!!!
    Keep doing what you’re doing !

  • @moseschileshe9297
    @moseschileshe9297 Před měsícem +15

    One of the best channel ever❤❤❤ when are you summering think and grow rich

  • @AnuragMehta
    @AnuragMehta Před měsícem +3

    Excellent inputs. Really worth introspecting and applying !!

  • @warrenbradford2597
    @warrenbradford2597 Před měsícem +3

    I need to take the time to be a harvard negotiator. Thank you for informing me!

  • @dantonshepherd9705
    @dantonshepherd9705 Před měsícem

    I've learnt (and reinforced) quite a few concepts from your video. Thanks for sharing. Do keep it up!

  • @showxating9885
    @showxating9885 Před měsícem +1

    1:07 Everyone who's ever split a bag knows this one.
    My standard for negotiations is when both sides are equally dissatisfied a balance has been struck.

  • @maartenvz
    @maartenvz Před 3 dny

    Great examples of coveys 3 interpersonal habits from his classic the 7 habits of highly effective people.

  • @CharlotteGrayson-z3w
    @CharlotteGrayson-z3w Před měsícem +6

    I finally hit 80k today that's a personal record. Thank you for all the knowledge and nuggets you had thrown my way over the last months. Started with just 9k two months ago, 2024 is amazing!

  • @cheazarjr
    @cheazarjr Před měsícem +4

    The landlord analogy is bs. 😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @jr.rasentertainment4074
    @jr.rasentertainment4074 Před 17 dny +2

    Nicely said. Thanks for the advice

  • @ivangunawan6700
    @ivangunawan6700 Před měsícem +3

    Another great video book review. Thanx very much Elvin

  • @user-gy4qp3nf1s
    @user-gy4qp3nf1s Před 7 hodinami

    Very informative 👍

  • @user-kf1me5zr6f
    @user-kf1me5zr6f Před 9 dny +2

    can you get them to work with Hamas and Netanyahu?

  • @user-ej9qv8uq4f
    @user-ej9qv8uq4f Před měsícem

    Good advices , for me I use the same strategies to finish any negotiation n I'm always gains respect n full trust in myself

  • @josephcuellar7661
    @josephcuellar7661 Před 13 dny +2

    Don’t see this working with narcissistic…

  • @harshilmodi3590
    @harshilmodi3590 Před měsícem +5

    How would you negotiate divorce alimony with your wife?

    • @mary-vb7fm
      @mary-vb7fm Před 14 dny

      😅😅

    • @brysonwest93
      @brysonwest93 Před 4 dny

      What's the usual standard? How do the experts establish alimony? What's a fair standard for alimony?

  • @HenryOkiya-or5pc
    @HenryOkiya-or5pc Před měsícem +5

    I love your work u have changed me
    😊

  • @ابراهيمروساريو

    You are the winner! Your idea may not work sometimes.. but you gain money through viewers😂

  • @lor3999
    @lor3999 Před 3 dny

    When husband & I were newlyweds , we literally had the window argument upon going to sleep over & over. Some nights he’d see it my way, other nights I’d sleep on the couch. Eventually I discovered & could afford cashmere.

  • @adhiraj_18
    @adhiraj_18 Před 15 dny

    00:02 Negotiation is not about winning or losing.
    01:26 Negotiation is about finding mutually satisfactory solutions.
    02:48 Show you care and understand their interests to get them to listen.
    04:20 Negotiate effectively by focusing on fair standards and inventing options for mutual gain.
    05:43 Embrace differences in negotiation to lead to creative solutions
    07:10 Building relationships before negotiation boosts success rate
    08:39 How to handle difficult situations in negotiation
    10:08 Negotiation is about collaboration and finding mutually satisfying solutions.

  • @donnegociador
    @donnegociador Před měsícem

    Focus on Interests, Not Positions
    Effective negotiators focus on the underlying interests of all parties, rather than merely their positions. By understanding the motivations and concerns of each party, leaders can identify potential areas of common ground and work towards mutually beneficial solutions.

  • @rosenkechichukwunwendu1561

    It is good to have cordial understanding

  • @honchoabhi
    @honchoabhi Před 15 dny +2

    Simply brilliant.

  • @ngo73221nc
    @ngo73221nc Před měsícem

    Thank you. I missing listen to your voice. I bought most of the books you suggested. This book is so helpful

  • @mamadbr2845
    @mamadbr2845 Před měsícem +4

    I appreciate you and your videos❤

  • @Esther-vr8fc
    @Esther-vr8fc Před měsícem +1

    Very useful video. Thank youuuu❤

  • @Ffsdevgj
    @Ffsdevgj Před 17 dny

    What do you do when “destiny” gives you a lot of B.S.? This is where we get our sense of justice and injustice.

  • @AllinOne-co7gw
    @AllinOne-co7gw Před měsícem +1

    Hi little bit better. You're great as usual, but Imagine inviting your paymasters suggestions on way forward. He will return you to your desk with a promise to "fix it" soon as his way fwd. My paymasters act like that.😅😅

  • @rosenkechichukwunwendu1561

    Negotiations is very important

  • @rosenkechichukwunwendu1561

    Making peace on both sides

  • @sriharshaguthikonda5323

    What if there is only one room so that you can open the window or not open the window in first situation?
    And in second situation, what if you are the only one person who is going to cut and distribute, then the other person who was not there at the time of cutting has an issue?

  • @ashikshetty2672
    @ashikshetty2672 Před měsícem

    "Negotiation is finding a solution leaving both sides happy"

  • @rosenkechichukwunwendu1561

    Giving each other opportunities to air view and ideas

  • @rosenkechichukwunwendu1561

    Mutual respect and love

  • @rosenkechichukwunwendu1561

    Standing on the truth and ground

  • @Elilmu_Nur
    @Elilmu_Nur Před 13 dny

    The examples here works only for kids and for easy situation to deal with.
    In real life situation are much much complicated.

  • @someutubchannel69
    @someutubchannel69 Před měsícem +1

    I'm sure my wife read this book!! 😅😅😅😅😅😅 She always gets away with HER way!!!

  • @m_shajan1132
    @m_shajan1132 Před 12 dny

    Beautiful explained mam ❤

  • @emmy638
    @emmy638 Před 7 dny

    When negotiating think of a win-win outcome

  • @brandoncave-wynter6987

    What if the negotiation is regarding someone’s inability to recognize their faults or n a relationship? You have to talk about them thus making the conversation personal.
    Both sides have to be willing for negotiation.

  • @brandoncave-wynter6987

    Look up the book Never Split The Difference. You’re welcome.

  • @ngo73221nc
    @ngo73221nc Před měsícem +1

    Very useful information

  • @abhijithvm3166
    @abhijithvm3166 Před měsícem +1

    I don't know how much this technique works in real life. The video I really enjoyed and it's quite good actually then the issue feel that including a real life story of anyone or creating a random story based on each topics it's really it's really worthful. Then another issue like the video didn't share how to improve our negotiation skills and including thats thing I think it's really worth.

  • @gurpeetsingh9173
    @gurpeetsingh9173 Před 24 dny

    The fact that nobody talks about the book whispers of manifestation on borlest speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance

  • @rosenkechichukwunwendu1561

    Taking life sample and easygoing

  • @user-mf1xc3zb2t
    @user-mf1xc3zb2t Před 13 dny

    So if 2 trained negotiators go against each other, they both get what they want? I don't think so...

  • @poojanoza8151
    @poojanoza8151 Před 25 dny +1

    You my friend have gained a loyal subscriber! You sound like we are 2 friends having a convo. Never would have though that learning something can be this interesting!! Keep making videos!!

  • @miroslavczadek
    @miroslavczadek Před 18 dny +1

    Excellent theory

  • @podcastmariapopa1
    @podcastmariapopa1 Před měsícem +1

    Hope you are a real person❤ WHO reads the book, summarise....i 'm so fed up with the AI .😅 Great insights ! Thank you !

  • @musaeyymmbagaiii9143
    @musaeyymmbagaiii9143 Před 13 dny +1

    Very Usefull

  • @tpot559
    @tpot559 Před měsícem +2

    The first example is a bit of a cop out. What if they both want to stay in the same room with the door closed. Now that’s a situation.

    • @ekejavictor9323
      @ekejavictor9323 Před měsícem

      Same question I wanted to ask.

    • @laurmito
      @laurmito Před měsícem

      You might encounter other similar situations, just apply the same principle onwards.

    • @robdiamante7543
      @robdiamante7543 Před měsícem

      That's easy. Hand them both a knife and find out who really cares

    • @jacobj5567
      @jacobj5567 Před měsícem

      Just turn the heat on and open the window. The librarians dad will come get triggered for wasting electricity. The other 2 men will get uncomfortable and leave.

  • @myvisionataglance
    @myvisionataglance Před měsícem +1

    Great video❤

  • @cappuccino12345
    @cappuccino12345 Před měsícem

    Sure it was a useful one , thank you mem

  • @_benon
    @_benon Před 11 dny

    I'm in love with your voice! 😔

  • @rosenkechichukwunwendu1561

    Based on understanding

  • @lyrontrayofficial820
    @lyrontrayofficial820 Před měsícem

    This is really lovely. Thank you ❤

  • @g.ramanan5190
    @g.ramanan5190 Před 24 dny +3

    The underlying assumption is that the actors to the negotiation are not bad actors . In case of bad actors , it’s a clear case of win or lose.

    • @maartenvz
      @maartenvz Před 3 dny

      Did you watch the video till the end as this topic is discussed for multiple minutes...

  • @imranbhat2158
    @imranbhat2158 Před 3 dny

    Negotiations put you in a weaker spot,meant to make you a loser.... My better half always wins in negotiations...

  • @rosenkechichukwunwendu1561

    Having aggrement first before negotiating

  • @oscar9558
    @oscar9558 Před 16 dny +1

    Your voice is as beautiful as your skills are. Amazing video.

  • @scienceoffinance1778
    @scienceoffinance1778 Před 9 dny

    Negotiations is Economically viable outcomes

  • @LindaLieffers-m6y
    @LindaLieffers-m6y Před 8 dny +12

    Great content and I thank you for breaking it down!! Even in the current crypto dip, I'm happy I can smile back at my portfolio of $19,000 made from my weekly trade within a short period❤❤❤❤

    • @EmelieBorglin
      @EmelieBorglin Před 8 dny

      Hey bro please teach me? Or atleast give me some tips where i can learn from?

    • @Somenchakravarty
      @Somenchakravarty Před 8 dny

      The problem we have is because Most people always taught that " you only need a good job to become rich. These billionaires are operating on a whole other playbook that many don't even know exists.

    • @BraveIntrovert
      @BraveIntrovert Před 8 dny

      It is remarkable how much long term advantage people like us have gotten by trying to be consistently not stupid, instead of trying to be very intelligent.

    • @LarissaEremeeva-n9h
      @LarissaEremeeva-n9h Před 8 dny

      I was big on gold and silver but a few months ago I discovered Bitcoin and Ethereum. Listening to lots of stuff from Sir Harvey Barrett FX has been really helpful in my journey.

    • @CanalCheong
      @CanalCheong Před 8 dny

      Mr Harvey Barrett FX was my hope during the 'bear summer' last year. I did so many mistakes but also learned so much from it, and of course from Harvey Barrett FX

  • @drshoma
    @drshoma Před měsícem

    Do these summaries get monitized by CZcams or its flagged as copyright violations??

  • @AAhmed79
    @AAhmed79 Před 23 dny

    great, very good, thanks for sharing,

  • @Getbetter2023
    @Getbetter2023 Před měsícem

    It was really informative video ❤

  • @jocysatu1038
    @jocysatu1038 Před měsícem

    We should ask the question "Are we both winning?"

  • @maartenvz
    @maartenvz Před 3 dny

    Fantastic video with a misleading clickbait title. Perhaps done on purpose to educate win/loss mindsets?

  • @Hrg_g
    @Hrg_g Před měsícem

    Hi @Elvin, i am one of your subscriber for long time. I like your videos explaining books and ideas. Do you have any videos about Inverse/reverse thinking. If not and thinking of making one, pls make long videos. I would love that.

  • @volodymyr411
    @volodymyr411 Před dnem

    Accidentally I'm on your English version channel, will be good also to improve this language... Here a part of book "human action" by Ludwig Mises

  • @FulfilInsight
    @FulfilInsight Před 14 dny

    Love your ideas!

  • @drewmotley1507
    @drewmotley1507 Před měsícem

    Who are you? Creator of this content.
    In negotiations the otherside needs to know you( rapport)
    So how is it you know all this?
    Good presentation

  • @markbrajkovich311
    @markbrajkovich311 Před 14 dny

    This is a lesson for children

  • @felixmilome
    @felixmilome Před 5 dny

    My crush doesnt even want to talk. How will i negotiate?

  • @harithapasya1522
    @harithapasya1522 Před měsícem +1

    I watch most of your videos and I like them. But sorry to say this, By watching this video I felt bit boaring. I hope may be the book is quite dry 😊

  • @francia6263
    @francia6263 Před měsícem

    I ❤️step #4, person over problem!

  • @user-cw1ys8xg3q
    @user-cw1ys8xg3q Před 25 dny

    I like you work and i know you really like to help people i need to know what tool are you using to generate such amazing animation and tank you for your help

  • @unityforall-md4fl
    @unityforall-md4fl Před 23 dny +1

    My own interpretation on negotiation is just to be inclusive and utilize level 2 logical mindset instead of level 1 emotional association without inclusive logical reasonings.

  • @CosmicBrain21
    @CosmicBrain21 Před 13 dny

    Interesting, the video talks about ‘fairness’ but every book I’ve read about negotiation always say to avoid the topic of what’s fair. In ‘Never split the difference’ the author made the example that if someone took your family member hostage and demanded $100K, what would a fair price be to get them back? The answer is $0 because they shouldn’t have kidnapped them and the $100K is completely made up.

    • @dainaa_d
      @dainaa_d Před 11 dny

      Yeah totally agree, and that example about orange directly highlights that splitting the orange 50/50 what is considered “fair” is not a good idea, if only it was discussed prior then both sides would have gotten a 100% of what they wanted.

  • @rosenkechichukwunwendu1561

    Polite way of approaching issues

  • @Scorpio-gb8ss
    @Scorpio-gb8ss Před měsícem

    Would love to watch a Video your way of Napoleon hill "Think and grow rich" if you don't mind of course 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @normanbalian
    @normanbalian Před 8 dny

    in real life this never works, someone is always in bad position and someone in strong position, the employee and boss, the home owner and the renter, rich and the poor, most people they don't have a say, and that's how it is , more you ask, less they will give you.

  • @mnvsaikiran
    @mnvsaikiran Před měsícem

    Wonderful and useful

  • @jjz3562
    @jjz3562 Před 8 dny +2

    this assumes there is no power imbalance between 2 negotiators, and both are capable of empathy. makes this entire thing worthless tbh