What to know BEFORE you hire a NANNY [from real nannies]

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  • čas přidán 11. 09. 2024

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  • @sophiaholmes2048
    @sophiaholmes2048 Před 4 lety +212

    Another way families can make nannies feel special: if you're comfortable with it, send pictures of the kid occasionally when we're not working. I grow to love the kids i work with and a sweet pic while you're on vacation will always make me smile! (a family i worked with for a long time just moved away and yesterday I got a pic of the kids on a backyard picnic, it made my day)

    • @jess_hover
      @jess_hover  Před 4 lety +10

      Sophia Holmes yes! That’s a great suggestion!! Thank you!! ❤️❤️

    • @jennaepratt
      @jennaepratt Před 4 lety +7

      Yes- LOVE! Could not agree with that more- have been a full time nanny for 6 years and that is a huge sweet thing to do.

    • @mrc79
      @mrc79 Před rokem

      You must be so amazing to be comforted and uplifted by that on your off time. How can I get a hold of you to watch our baby lol

  • @alycecline5053
    @alycecline5053 Před 4 lety +82

    Before I was a mom I was a nanny for many years, to a bunch of different families. Everything these ladies are saying is so true. It's really great when you find the perfect family/ Nanny Dynamic and it just clicks I am still really close to a couple of the families that I nannyed for one of the moms was even in my wedding the families become a part of your family, and you just had this special bond with the kid even when they're older. The first family that I had the kids were in diapers and now they're teenagers and we still have this really close bond.

  • @JonathanNYCity
    @JonathanNYCity Před 3 lety +34

    We're one of those families that has a camera in every room... and you wouldn't believe how many times it has saved the nanny! So many times when we've suspected new nannies of maybe goofing off or causing some kind of problem, we've found out through the video that our suspicions were misplaced. In fact, one nanny we had, we thought she seemed a little lax and lazy when we first met her. So, in the beginning we'd check in with the camera a few times a day - and every single time we found her working her heart out and loving our kids so sweetly! Without the camera we never would have known what a great job she was really doing! (We gave her a raise shortly afterwards).
    In another case, a very sweet and energetic girl we hired, turned out to anything but energetic after we left the house! She would seat herself down in the most comfortable chair in the room and not move an inch until we got back. She had never been a nanny before and really didn't know there's more to it than just staring at the kids as they run around the room! Knowing that, gave us a base from which to work with her and help her begin to understand what we needed and expected from her. She turned out well in the end, but it was only through the knowledge we gained from the cameras that we were able to get a sense of what kind of guidance might help her.
    After we trust a nanny, we never bother to check in with the cameras... it's not like we have that much free time on our hands, which is why we need a nanny in the first place!
    The cams have also helped us a couple of times when one or the other of our kids has had an accident and we really needed to know what happened but they were too young to tell us. So, if some problem like that comes up, it's good to know the video is there in case we need it. It's not always just about the nanny.

    • @hannahscott6604
      @hannahscott6604 Před 2 lety +1

      as long as they disclose the cameras and they trust me enough to not use the voice feature of the cam to talk to me and tell me what to do using it, I'm fine with them.

  • @emilyutsch8247
    @emilyutsch8247 Před 4 lety +42

    Child care providers deserve the world! A lot of time they have more awake time with the kids than the parents do in the early years. You all rock!

  • @MaeisbeforeJune
    @MaeisbeforeJune Před 4 lety +42

    As a mom of two kids this was super enlightening. I’ve wrestled with the decision between daycare or nanny care and always felt intimidated finding/hiring a nanny!

    • @jess_hover
      @jess_hover  Před 4 lety +4

      MaeisbeforeJune yay! That’s exactly what i hoped for this video! That it would help make things a little clearer for moms like me & you :)

  • @matthewman249
    @matthewman249 Před rokem +3

    Single dad here. It's tough not having support. Here I am learning.

  • @KlauPool
    @KlauPool Před rokem +5

    I like everything said.
    I am also a nanny/babysitter. And I always tell my families that Cameras are WELCOMED! but previous notice is appreciated.
    Why!?
    This does keep sitters on our toes. Also it is a way that a good honest sitter can protect herself from false claims. Parents can also see if the sitter is a great match to your family and your child. Last but not least... you have to make sure your baby is SAFE!! You can't trust anybody blindly. There are terrible cases of abusive sitters... let's make sure your child is safe!! A good sitter that is aware and logical about this dangerous world, would understand. It might make her feel a little uncomfortable at first, but she shouldn't take it personal.

  • @3Bnannylounge
    @3Bnannylounge Před 2 lety +6

    I’m
    A nanny and this was so inspirational to listen to I’ve just begun my journey to helping and nurturing children. May the bright blessed journey begin and I thank God in advance

  • @ashleesymcox
    @ashleesymcox Před 2 lety +8

    I had our nanny pick out food that she likes from instacart and made her a basket of her favorite foods for when she’s over!

  • @babycakes8434
    @babycakes8434 Před 16 dny

    The baby making all the noises is so cute😊I miss that a lot. I have been nanny for more than 17years, and I am looking for a great new family now.

  • @tomachang432
    @tomachang432 Před rokem +2

    I am a nanny have been in the field for few years now. parents always prefer day care, i have not had the opportunity to work in a day care but i have always found a difference between kids that are going to day care and kids that are being nannied around the same age groups. most of the family says they need their kids to socialize by going to the day care centre.
    so what i have seen the difference was i always expected the kids who go to day care centre are smarter than the children who are privately taken care off, though it might not be the same case for every nanny, I am finding the kids who go to day care dint know how to count or stack or say the alphabets. while the kids that were nannied till they were 3 and start the preschool were far more smarter and was easy in the school too. and the one who goes to day care does not listen to what we have to say, are agressive, throws thing at you, makes angry faces at you and yells at you and i have to run away or stop taking care of the kids that go to day care and takecare of them after school. am i over thinking or is it same with other nannies too.
    i prefer nannying infants who dint go to day care but making them ready for school thats until 3.

  • @khidomogotsi9122
    @khidomogotsi9122 Před 3 lety +8

    I’m a nanny in Turkey 🇹🇷 I really wish our bosses here in Turkey could watch all this videos because we are still treated bad especially we Africans our salaries low but the job lot working up normal hours.

  • @MoonstoneElements
    @MoonstoneElements Před 4 lety +8

    I love this video so much! I’ve been a nanny for over 13 years and I’ve had some amazing travel experiences too. It’s such a rewarding job. I completely relate to all your tips and stories. 👶🏼 now I’m actually 6 weeks pregnant and finally started back up my nanny job that I was working at before the quarantine. It feels great to be back to work with the little ones 🥰

    • @perzer3177
      @perzer3177 Před 2 lety

      Wow that is awesome. Since u have a kid now are you able to take them with you?

  • @sarastojakovic1484
    @sarastojakovic1484 Před 4 lety +30

    Thank you for this video! I am 22 years old and have grown up taking care of babies/kids. I've had multiple babysitting jobs here and there but I've never been a full time nanny until now. I absolutely love it and have been with my family almost a year. I have decided that I want this to be my career so my question is any tips for that? How can I be the best and get paid more? How do you handle when you get pregnant and have your own family? Is school really necessary to get paid more? Thank you

  • @stupidintellect2474
    @stupidintellect2474 Před 4 lety +15

    You are all so beautiful, and it's so wonderful to see you all gel with each other. 💕

  • @stupidintellect2474
    @stupidintellect2474 Před 4 lety +9

    Oh my gosh, I'm only 20 seconds in but I just had to comment on Wilson's baby suit. 😍 Just adorable! My son has a similar one in the same colour but it's cotton but knitted effect. Babies are just the cutest❤️

    • @jess_hover
      @jess_hover  Před 4 lety +3

      Aw thank you! The brand is The Simple Folk and their stuff is so cute and comfy!!

    • @stupidintellect2474
      @stupidintellect2474 Před 4 lety +1

      @@jess_hover thanks! ❤️ I'll have to look into the state of shipping nowadays, being in the UK

  • @TravelSeets
    @TravelSeets Před 9 měsíci +1

    I make $28/ hour for 1 child and overtime pay. 10 days pto 5 sick days and guaranteed pay when the family goes on vacation as well. I’m in Austin, tx as well.

  • @BabySleepTeam
    @BabySleepTeam Před 2 lety +4

    Love the insight from these nannies! Think it is super tricky with having the Mom at home when they are being looked after by another caregiver. The kids can always play up! Thanks so much for sharing!

  • @rebeccathompson2333
    @rebeccathompson2333 Před 4 lety +7

    Really enjoyed this video as a nanny...are you going to upload more nanny videos? I think that would be really interesting. There's not a lot on the topic uploaded! Thanks for posting

  • @ThrivingNotDying
    @ThrivingNotDying Před 3 lety +3

    I'm an educator looking to get into nannying in the LA suburbs. I had no idea it was so competitive! I'm hopping to find a position soon. Great Video!

  • @R3sp3ctMyGam3
    @R3sp3ctMyGam3 Před 2 měsíci

    When you say "don't hire someone you don't trust", well.... that's pretty much impossible for two main reasons:
    i) There is no inherent trust between the parent and a professional baby sitter (and I mean someone who isn't family). No matter how many positive recommendations and good first impressions, the parent will always have some reservations at the back of their heads
    ii) When you let someone look after your child, there is SO much at stake (i.e. your child's well being) that simply you can't absolutely trust anyone other than you.
    So my point is that there is no way a parent can 100% trust a nanny anyway (and probably that's the healthy thing to do), but they obviously will still need to get one (they one they trust more than the other ones!) to take care of their little ones because sometimes there's no other way to get by.

  • @danarv89
    @danarv89 Před 3 lety +1

    Have never done a nanny so this is very helpful specially when you’ve hit almost every point.

  • @kristinapeterson5459
    @kristinapeterson5459 Před rokem +2

    This was so helpful! I'm going back to work soon and looking into a nanny because daycare hours simply don't cover my 12 hours shifts. I'll be home sleeping off night shifts while she'll be there, and I want her to feel comfortable in our home! Do you guys think printing out our naptime/bedtime routines is too overbearing, or crazy? I want to set her up for success, but don't know how prepared I should be even after talking over expectations :')

  • @kimanei5359
    @kimanei5359 Před 3 lety +3

    Full time nurse and a traveling husband with 5 kids I’m considering 😩😩😩

  • @auntkaty1528
    @auntkaty1528 Před 3 lety +3

    Such a great video! It takes courage to go on video and talk about this subject! Thanks for sharing!

  • @HS-ko7oi
    @HS-ko7oi Před 7 měsíci +1

    These nannies sound like they are balling

  • @Monicamcs
    @Monicamcs Před 3 lety +11

    8:45 - Already looking down at people like HER just because she got to experience being privileged for half an hour. 🤦🏻‍♀️ There are people who are truly rich and are so humble.

  • @AnitaVargas
    @AnitaVargas Před 3 lety +3

    I’m a nanny in Brazil !! Loved this video ❤️

  • @Brookes-Beauty
    @Brookes-Beauty Před 2 lety +1

    i really want to travel with a family! that just seems so fun that i can work and actually see new things! but i love my job! i want to be the best that i can be for the kids at all times

  • @ruthnoronha8206
    @ruthnoronha8206 Před rokem

    Nannying has to be your passion not a side gig. That’s my point as to why so many people have issues with Nannie’s. They don’t see this job as a duty to teach, entertain and creat a daily plan to prepare the child for next stage like preschool.

  • @MoralGovernment
    @MoralGovernment Před 2 lety

    I used to work for an employer that would often not show up on time, no call, no text, nothing. She started doing it more and more until it was every day. Then I got mad when she wasn't even giving me overtime pay in my paycheck. She got mad when I quit.

  • @Spool-Stead
    @Spool-Stead Před 3 lety +4

    I am curious about how nannies handle special needs kids? I have tried many daycare facilities and once I mention I have 3 kids and one is special needs I never get any response from that daycare.

  • @mrc79
    @mrc79 Před rokem

    With all the abuse stories, can’t imagine not having cameras but I see how that can be intimidating

  • @theartofbeingyou9875
    @theartofbeingyou9875 Před 2 lety

    Great video! I'm a nanny too :) I also loved how you filmed this. It was beautiful to see you convey a message while still living in the moment. It felt like feminism.

  • @customfittedinc
    @customfittedinc Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you we appreciate this I'm having such a hard time finding your Nanny babysitter child care cuz I'm just scared to leave my child with anybody I have attachment issues even though I could use the help so thank you for the information ladies

    • @damadoms4676
      @damadoms4676 Před 2 lety

      Release the fear and trust your intuition.

  • @hannahscott6604
    @hannahscott6604 Před 2 lety

    depends on how the family uses the cams. It is ALWAYS more pressure

  • @meshacaudle2551
    @meshacaudle2551 Před 4 lety +1

    Much needed conversation. Thank you for sharing

  • @samanyt2967
    @samanyt2967 Před 2 lety +4

    What setup would you suggest to an actor mom? I know asking someone to stay late isn't desired but how do you suggest handling the needs of last minutes bookings and needing to extend time if being on set goes longer?

    • @babycakes8434
      @babycakes8434 Před 16 dny

      Some nannies have unlimited flexibility, and others don't. It is important to present that scenario, and ask if they will be OK with it. Some nannies won't mind, but others will not do it. I don't mind, but at the same time we might have some appointments scheduled, so it is good to ask. It is also good to have a back up nanny, who might help if the full time nanny is not able to stay.

  • @hannahscott6604
    @hannahscott6604 Před 2 lety

    I have not had to run errands but I have needed to do light housekeeping

  • @Jo_thi
    @Jo_thi Před 4 lety +3

    Loving all of your video! 💕😊👍🏼

    • @jess_hover
      @jess_hover  Před 4 lety +1

      Jo beautee thank you!! ❤️❤️

  • @voidLogicx
    @voidLogicx Před rokem +1

    Young nannies will sleep with your kids. Don’t recommend. The truth they won’t bother tell you. I’ve been a victim of this when I was younger myself.

  • @charliefoster3221
    @charliefoster3221 Před 2 lety +1

    Is it possible tp ask for a German speaking nanny? The character in my book wants her tp teach the twins German.

  • @mariaskoozynska3486
    @mariaskoozynska3486 Před 4 lety +8

    Mums AND Dads, sometimes just two or one dad, let's remember that

  • @jenniw9853
    @jenniw9853 Před 4 lety +4

    Quick question. I work nights if I hire a nanny so I can sleep a few hours during the day how would you guys as nanny's feel about that

    • @MrJuliestar09
      @MrJuliestar09 Před 4 lety +4

      Totally fine!

    • @user-jt4nu9fy6q
      @user-jt4nu9fy6q Před 4 lety +4

      It’s your schedule and your kids! Totally fine.

    • @OhSoSimply
      @OhSoSimply Před 3 lety +1

      I've done this before. It's totally fine.

    • @Evettecord
      @Evettecord Před 3 lety +1

      What would the pay be in that situation, on average?

  • @TravelSeets
    @TravelSeets Před 9 měsíci

    I’m signed on a contract for a 10 month old, 45 hours a week, no screen time allowed for the kid and I find it hard to entertain a child 7 hours of the day( he has 2 naps). How do you guys fight against boredom? I don’t want to have to go on my phone

    • @chazolia
      @chazolia Před 9 měsíci

      Do you have baby classes around or allowed to have playdates?

  • @elizabethhennessy7480
    @elizabethhennessy7480 Před 2 lety +2

    Is it okay to ask religion/spritual questions? Like say if you value religion would it be acceptable to ask them how they would treat certain religions and to encourage our children to be raised with religions

    • @jess_hover
      @jess_hover  Před 2 lety +2

      Yes i think it’s fair to know what people believe and value before welcoming them in to be a primary caregiver to your kids. I always ask. ❤️

    • @blowitoutyourcunt7675
      @blowitoutyourcunt7675 Před 2 lety

      As a career Nanny, I've always said no to teaching religious curriculum. I would never undermine what a child is taught by their parents or their church/religion/beliefs but I won't teach a religious curriculum. Having said that, I have worked for Christians, Atheists, Sihks, Hindus and Muslims without trouble or strife, in fact I learned a lot! I think it's always fair to ask these types of questions of nanny in the interview process so you both know if you are compatible.

  • @oliviaromeiser7122
    @oliviaromeiser7122 Před 4 lety +2

    Great video idea!

  • @hannahscott6604
    @hannahscott6604 Před 2 lety

    a nanny and a babysitter is NOT THE SAME!!

  • @estrellita2912
    @estrellita2912 Před 4 lety

    I loved this video!!! 🧡🧡🧡

  • @cuddlebabe6130
    @cuddlebabe6130 Před 2 lety

    GREAT Video this helps ALOT!

  • @scrumptiousjdp
    @scrumptiousjdp Před rokem

    I don't think a potential employer is supposed to ask your age in the interview... can lead to age discrimination... right?

  • @notkaren2118
    @notkaren2118 Před 3 lety

    this was so helpful!!

  • @elijah8565
    @elijah8565 Před 10 měsíci

    Hey, I am 23 years old I am going to have my first kid when I am 27 or 28. I want to start learning now the best way to parent. Any books or podcasts you would recommend I check out? ❤

  • @alex-talk
    @alex-talk Před rokem

    is this video for regular people or rich people nannying specifically?

  • @s.forsalwa8312
    @s.forsalwa8312 Před 2 lety

    Is there any spacial education should be taken before being nany or babysitter??? I am mom of 4 and know very well how to take care of a child or children...i want to be babysitter ...what will you suggest me???

  • @bluelotus49
    @bluelotus49 Před 5 měsíci

    Great vid. Thanks

  • @sladjanastevanovic4020

    What to do if kids accept nanny ok but for mommy its something that annoys me

  • @stephanies2982
    @stephanies2982 Před 2 lety

    I made it till 8:46, peaceeeee ✌️

  • @hannaverlie6747
    @hannaverlie6747 Před 4 lety +2

    I find this so interesting! Nannying isn’t really a thing in Norway

    • @talya9089
      @talya9089 Před 4 lety +2

      Wow! Is there a specific reason?

    • @sarah-kg3ix
      @sarah-kg3ix Před 4 lety +4

      @@talya9089 I don't know about Norway, but in Spain they are not many nannies because usually kids go to the nursery / school depedind the age or they are with their grandparents. Here it's very common that grandparents take car of their granchildren.

    • @hannaverlie6747
      @hannaverlie6747 Před 4 lety +3

      @@talya9089 It was more common before, but most the kindergartens are well funded by the government and they put a lot of money and resources into making them a good learning and caring environment for the children, so most children start there when they are one year old. It's cheaper and "safer" than a nanny (since we dont have systems in place to ensure the quality of the nanny, but many to ensure the education and quality of the kindergarten teachers). And the parents gets paid time of work until the baby is one year, so most people do not need a nanny that year either.

  • @MsSogo100
    @MsSogo100 Před 2 lety

    They stop crying as soon as parent is gone! Every time

  • @emmilyn362
    @emmilyn362 Před 4 lety

    You could also get or become an au pair

  • @mamabear71234
    @mamabear71234 Před rokem

    nanny with her bae feet on the couch is a red flag.

  • @nishagutierrez398
    @nishagutierrez398 Před 4 lety

    Hi there, hopes all ok
    I'm looking nanny, I'm 51 years old but still fit to work as Manny, I have experienced for taking care of baby for more years, Ii have certificate of caregiving and certificate of first aide,I'm recently living in Dubai, hoping u can help me looking of this opportunity thanks for this video

  • @FredelitaTomas
    @FredelitaTomas Před 11 měsíci

    What age limit ma'm

  • @Jigglypuffpuffpass
    @Jigglypuffpuffpass Před 3 lety

    Omg why do I want to do this

  • @jennaepratt
    @jennaepratt Před 4 lety +1

    6 min mark ha... shelter in place to prevent spread of disease, but still put spoons back and forth to eachothers mouth.

    • @bprins8
      @bprins8 Před 4 lety +6

      jennaepratt haha yeahhhh I was pretending to put it in my mouth. I wouldn’t actually share a spoon with Wilson even when shelter in place isn’t a thing.

  • @thisismyburner347
    @thisismyburner347 Před 3 lety +2

    I would never in a million years allow the one on the far right to watch my kids.
    She seems to be more focused on getting close to celebrities than actually doing childcare....

  • @TomAndZel
    @TomAndZel Před 4 lety

    Good day,I'm interested and looking for a job as a nanny... I'm from Philippines a Bachelor of Science in nursing graduate....I have 2 kids and already have 2years experienced of taking care newborn, toddlers....I can assure you that im a good nanny of your newborn or kiddos....looking forward to meet my future nanny job....tnx

  • @claudiajade624
    @claudiajade624 Před 3 lety +1

    Nannie cam? No way. Such an invasion of privacy. If u can't trust the person then you shouldn't have them as your nanny imo

    • @lolajtek3676
      @lolajtek3676 Před 2 lety +9

      I as a nanny question families that do not have nanny cams.

  • @witchplease77
    @witchplease77 Před 2 lety

    I was watching an old ep. of Love It or List It from 2014 and the husband was a real piece of work! He and his wife are expecting a Nanny and just updated the basement, 90% of which was devoted to a sports/ game area for the husband. Meanwhile, the Nanny's room is virtually a closet in the basement--it's so small it's practically a human rights violation!
    What's worse is, the husband wanted to stay, and he refused to give up any of his sports room for the Nanny! Meanwhile, he was okay with expensive structural changes to the house that benefitted him and his wife, and kids. I think his wife saw how selfish her wealthy husband was being and stopped him from spending endless amounts of money on the home, which wasn't working for them.
    He must have been an only child because he seemed to care about no one but himself. And Nannies should have greater minimal standards by law!