Why People Are Freaking Out About Sydney Sweeney, “Troll” Fetterman, & Special Ed Schools, & More
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00:00 - Special Education School for Disabled Kids Shuts Down Amid Disturbing Allegations
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"publicly funded private schools" are an oxymoron that should not exist.
Basically if the public schools suck, or don't meet your needs the amount of money they would have gotten for your kid (because public schools get funding based on how many students they have) and it's basically a credit to help pay for a private school. Maybe it's closer in a rural area, or in cases like this they cater to special needs students. Like a school for the deaf.
All private schools are funded by tax payers even tho it denies anyone that can't pay for it not just in taxes (there are tax benefits these schools receive just for existing even without kids in them). It is the true idea of theft from those that actually need it (the public schools).
Only in america 😂😂😂
@kingofhearts3185 the issue is that the money going to the private school could be going to a public school instead, and a public school doesn't have the same profit motives that private corporations do. Another financial factor to consider is the private school that is paid for by taxpayers isn't OWNED by taxpayers. A public school is owned by the community it's meant to help.
I'm not saying there's an easy answer, but the way governments will say "we don't have enough money to invest in good public schooling" and then turn around and give all this money to private schools (and not just specialist private schools, but all private schools) makes me so mad! It creates this negative feedback cycle for the public school, which is something I've personally witnessed
@niloc1229
If this is the shit that's happening in them, I agree.
I think everyone responsible for keeping that kid locked up for 3 years without a trial for stealing a fxcking backpack should do at least six years in prison.
That’s what I’m saying!
Even worse: since he never had a trial, it’s only alleged that he stole the backpack, because innocent until proven guilty y’know? It was a major violation of his constitutional right to a speedy trial that the 6th amendment guarantees. Literally in the bill of rights, and the legal system f*cked it up to the point that he killed himself
With 2/3 of that time in solitary
Wanna be even more pissed? Kalief Browder was most likely innocent. The prosecutors kept delaying his trial, then offering him a plea deal. Near the end of the 3 years, a judge even offered to let him go on time served if he would just plead guilty, and Browder still refused. The case was only dropped because the prosecutors lost track of the guy who had accused Browder of stealing his backpack.
To think they lock up adult r*pists for less time.....
I really relate to the Sydney Sweeney story. I developed large breasts early and was sexualized from a young age because of it. Grown adults would comment on my chest and how I was "showing it off" at age 13. Boys my age would stare, and one time I was groped. Of course, my school didn't do anything about it. I always got told to cover up because I was being "inappropriate" when I just wanted to wear what my friends were wearing. I had directors for school plays and musicals cast me as older women and show off my chest. It made me feel gross. I wasn't trying to seduce anyone, I was a kid.
Same! Contributed to gender dysphoria- I actually just hated the unwanted sexualization
That's fucked up, I'm sorry that happened
You know I read this... as a 33 year old guy... and can literally remember things like this happening to girls my age that developed early. The school plays showing lots of cleavage, problems with what they wore... and they were like the shyest nicest girl just trying to live not be "sexy". Never thought about it like that till reading this comment
I'm so sorry to hear that. I have a best friend who also has breasts on the larger side and she feels ashamed by it. She always gets hit on when she just wants to be herself. I try to help her best I can to keep her happy being herself. Hope everything has worked out better for you.
I’m so sorry you had to experience that. I can’t imagine how bad it must have felt :(
As someone who has a similar build to Sydney Sweeney, it is EXHAUSTING growing up as a teenager with a full figure, because EVERYONE HAS SOMETHING TO SAY ABOUT YOU. Clothes don't fit, boys make fun of you when you're younger and leer at you when you're a little older, guys decide it's completely fine to try and grab at you in the club, and even my grandmother has something to say. I've gotten used to it now, but mainly because I've gone the Billie Eilish route with most of my day to day fashion for half of the year, and in the summer I am a cardigan queen til I die. If I wore the kind of clothes my friends wear, I guarantee there would be a vocal minority of people who would assert that I am "looking for attention" instead of just wearing a tank top in 35C heat. I'd rather stay in the shade than get stared at.
At twelve years old, I was sent to the principals office for my shirt being "too lowcut", when I got to the office there was another girl wearing the same shirt who was flat chested meanwhile I was more busty. I was getting in trouble for wearing the same shirt she was when she wasn't punished for it. I can confirm that as a bustier woman a lot of the things I do/wear are sexualized when I'm simply existing.
I feel like the cut of the short is effected by bust though, wouldn’t having larger breasts lead to a higher cut? It’s a stupid dress code issue that shouldn’t have been an issue but I feel the same shirt fitting people differently is kinda valid
@@nateperkins9860 the point is cleavage in that kind of punishment. A lower cut shirt on a flat chested woman will usually be more ok because there's "less cleavage" or it's about tightness. "this is lewd because form fitting" on a bustier person but never on a flatter woman.
It's crazy that it's often ADULTS complaining about it when kids don't even care or notice until a big deal is made about it. They're trying to protect the pedophiles that work in the teaching industry, nothing more.
@@jovialgamer I mean i agree nobody should wear V necks
As a busty girl myself what Sydney said was very true. Even if you wore the exact same turtleneck sweater as the woman with smaller breasts/flat chest, some people will still try to find something sexual or flat out wrong about the way you dress. I'm so tired of us busty girls being perceived as some bimbo to the point where we're being sexually harrassed, dress coded, and body/slut shamed, especially since I'm also Asexual.
I agree. I’ve had a men literally run across the street to approach me, whole time staring at my chest and I was wearing a sweater. Clothing means nothing to these creeps.
@@SniperAsian I mean I never had creepy grown men looking at me in a wierd way, BUT I did had boys both in middle school and high school make degrading comments towards me.
As a man... shit, I didn't even know that was happening.... no, guys that i associate with are like that. Not that they don't exist, it's just wild to me that it's even a thing.
Also in the big chest+ace camp! It absolutely sucks when you realize you're just being seen as a sexual object, when being sexy is literally the farthest thing from your mind, let alone something you're actively trying to do.
Nothing you can ever wear is good enough, even binders don't completely solve the problem.
Like, I didn't _ask_ for these boobs, they just came like this. Simply having bigger boobs is not some kind of invitation, ya fucking creeps 🙄
Holy shit the number of times I was dress coded in high school for wearing the SAME THINGS my friends were wearing was infuriating. 😤
I got pregnant in 2018 and developed HG. It started out like normal morning sickness, and then over the course of 3 days, I went from having an episode once or twice a day to monopolizing the bathroom. I was living off of pedialyte and nectarines, and eventually swallowing anything would make me nauseous. 2 weeks later, I had lost almost 20 pounds and my family said I looked pale and gaunt. We went to the ER and I had to throw up on my way from the car into the hospital, prompting an aide to come help me into the lobby.
The doctor told me I was fine, didn't even give me Zofran. I was so starved and weak and miserable that I couldn't continue, and I terminated the pregnancy.
I’m so heartbroken you had to suffer so much and couldn’t carry to term, really insane that a doctor would look at someone in your situation and dismiss it.
@@biazachaon an individual basis, people are cruel and selfish, for the most part.
I got a breast reduction and it was one of the best choices I ever made. Not just for health reasons, but a huge part of it for me was it is absolutely exhausting to exist as a large chested person. I told a guy friend I was getting it done and they told me they were disappointed. It still makes my blood boil how uncomfortable and hyper sexualized in my own body I was, constantly. My only regret is I didn't do it sooner honestly.
People forgot that breasts are just these masses that are heavy asf.
From the age of 12 on, I was regularly referred to by older men as “jail bait.” I cannot even begin to explain how uncomfortable and unsafe that has made me feel to this day. I am in my mid twenties and I still don’t feel comfortable being alone with older men because I feel like I’m seen as an object. I wish that I could feel comfortable wearing whatever I want, but I feel so gross because of how other people have interacted with me.
I, and unfortunately many other women relate to your experience all too well. I’m so sorry you’ve been made to feel uncomfortable in your own body.
Let's not be disingenuous here, there's plenty of underage females that wear waaaay to skimpy clothing.
We were all in highschool, we all saw it.
I can only assume that's gotten worse due to Tiktok.
Men and females are fundamentally built different, its still creepy af someone would say that though. /Shiver
@@Giliveryou choosing to do whataboutism is part of the problem. Me and my sister used to get approached while wearing school uniforms. Some me are just creeps and has nothing to do with what you are wearing.
@@vanillameanfrappe Why only mention women being victims, as if it's not an issue for men as well? Remember, gender is a social construct.
I was called jailbait as a young child by grown men all the time as a kid and Im talking starting at 11/12. I never wore revealing clothing because I didn't want my body to be seen. I remember boys pulling my shirt up or outright grabbing my boobs. Shoot I had a teacher that MADE me take my sweatshirt off in typing class and he would come and lean over me and looked down my shirt, mind you this was 7th and 8th grade. I absolutely don't miss those times.😮
I am a special education teacher and I am horrified by everything in that story of that school. So many things that should not be occurring. People with disabilities deserve dignity, not to be ignored and abused.
Yes my wife is a sped teacher and just hearing about this is crazy. Don't get me wrong, I understand that we can talk about other things wrong with the public special education system like the fact that my wife classroom is too crowded for what her program should be. And that she has children who don't belong in her program as she's DD and the children are behavior (but she still tries her hardest because she loves his students and wants the best)
I work at a juvenile detention center and roughly 2/3 are diagnosed autistic (as am I) and it breaks my heart knowing at least some of these kids could have had a chance with proper support.
*disabled people
It's genuinely scary how quickly people treat those with disabilities worse than animals.
Am I crazy, thinking that while that guy is certainly a monster, a felony drug conviction shouldn't be used to demonize someone. Depending on the drug based felony in question, we should loosen the demonization around addiction. Sorry if this is out of place. It's just this story matters to me all around because, I am autistic. Though, I went undiagnosed the majority of my life. I did start off schooling in the special needs classes. I went on to become a drug addict because life and everything was really really hard for me, and it seemed to be much easier for others. I'm extremely uncomfortable in public places. I don't like being touched by anyone outside intimate situations. I have extreme ADHD paired with Social Anxiety AND Social Paranoia. Needless to say, I become an addict pretty early in life. I had my future derailed by my own addictions. After I got out of prison the last time, I finally started to see a psychiatrist and went and got a professional psychological diagnosis. Since learning why things are so different for me, I have started taking the proper medications and taken steps to rehabilitate myself and the cycle of thinking that would lead to the same mistakes over and over. I have been out of prison for over 10 years and have been sober for 7. Yet I can't get a job that is worth a darn to save my life. I don't qualify for any type of disability, and I have never been able to keep a traditional job in my life. It just sucks that my past of having addictions will haunt me forever and how in one way people will congratulate my strength to find sobriety while condemning my weaknesses I didn't know how to combat. I have no violent charges. I've never hurt anyone but myself, but it will follow me forever. So. I just don't get why it was brought up about this guy when all the other information tells us about him. While the felony drug charge is only used to demonize him. You don't have to use things to demonize a demon, their actions already do that.
Going to out myself here but the story about Sydney Sweeney rings really true for me.
As a woman with a larger chest size but who is quite small everywhere else, it was endlessly creepy. Men treated me like an object all my life, constantly talked about them, constant jokes made about them in my friend group. People treated me like I was older than I was at 13, 14 etc, I’m 26 now and older guys still hit on me all the time. I’d get comments like “why did you dress like that if you don’t want to be harassed?” yet I’d be wearing the same outfit as my other friends, or even just a normal t shirt. People wrongly assumed I was promiscuous in some way or dated lots of people just because of my body type.
The worst part is people constantly tell me how “lucky” I am or say “you’re a pretty girl so what’s the problem?”
They can’t understand that when you have a body that looks like some of the most objectified women in the world, that’s how you get treated.
People are making fan groups of Sydney’s mom because they “get to see boobs” not because she was a good parent who supported her daughter and gave her good advice. Makes me sick.
I did the same thing regarding hiding it, trying to wear oversized clothes, trying to make myself take up less space, crying because I couldn’t afford a reduction and it took me to now to realise that is so wrong.
While I respect any woman’s choice to modify their body however they want, it should never be because of other people’s treatment of you or because they make you uncomfortable, because once you change yourself for someone else, you’ll regret that forever.
Other people should learn the simplest rule in the world, DON’T make unwarranted comments about people’s bodies or treat them differently 🙃
I find that quote quite disgusting and not empowering at all lmao
It's not like the mom said "you're perfect as you are, you will learn to love yourself later" or some actually good parenting phrase, she was just like "You'll regret not having big titts in college" which I don't understand where the positive\uplifting part is.
The people cheering like drooling apes because they get to see some titts are just revolting imo, I don't see any respect towards her in those articles, I don't see any change in mentality that makes the situation better now 🤷♀
Said perfectly, much love
My best friend had severe HG with all 3 of her kids. She ended up in the emergency room multiple times, and it was very serious. She was told she was exaggerating by her first gyno, and even after she ended up in the ER, he tried to downplay it. She had to switch doctors a couple of times, and ended up primarily using a midwife. She was so excited when she saw the news about this breakthrough. I hope in the future, no one will have to deal with this.
Being a large breasted teenage girl was a horrifying experience and it got to the point where I only felt like I had value as a person if I was showing cleavage because it was my "best asset" and even 5 years later I'm still trying to undo the psychological damage that mindset had on me. I had my first training bra in second grade because my breast buds were too obvious and I haven't felt safe being braless in public since I was 12 and the rashes Ive gotten from ill-fitted, broken and worn out bras over the years would horrify people. It's rough being a girl but it's so much worse when you start to realize people talking about how you look
Sooo true, I do not blame Sydney for wanting a reduction. I did too. I remember being about 14 and overhearing grown men talk about how they thought I’d had plastic surgery and that my breasts couldn’t possibly be real while I was out walking in public. It felt so unfair lol
Horrifying is a good word to use for the situation.
It’s worse when they talk *at* you though, at 16 I remember a group of teen boys walked by me, looked me up and down and simply proclaimed: “slut” before walking away… hardly a break in their step… like, um.. thanks for your input ig, sir😅
i feel you, my shoulders have a little bent because i need to wear really strict bra strap from early age just to support my chest and it hurts
I relate to this so much. I remember dreaming of winning the lottery so I can cut them off, while also always showing because I thought I had to? Since they were the only attractive thing about me, or something. But I hated them. Now I'm fairly neutral.
@@natara658yes! I got called out for having big boobs on the beach by a group of older teen boys when I was 12. As if I had any control over it. And yes, they also called me slutty. I just... Wtf? I felt so violated.
Jesus girls have it so easy. Oh no my boobs are to big I’m getting too much attention from guys 😂😂 yall have it so good. Seriously trying to complain about this
I grew up a busty teenage girl; and I empathize a lot with her story. Hearing Phil verbalize some of what I went through made me feel unusually.. seen. The creepy experiences. The lack of control, the feeling of being prey, or being seen as an object. I was twelve, the first time I remember a grown man looking and talking to me like I was a grown woman.
I remember the year my breasts developed; I remember going back to school after summer, wearing baggy clothes to hide my 12-year old b-cups. I remember the first day we went to the pool that year, and the feeling of dread, and knowing that after that, they would KNOW.
I remember walking out in my one piece, and hearing a guy in my class shout, 'HOLY SHIT.' before they all clustered up. I remember the looks from the other girls who weren't my friends; from the gym teacher. I remember the humiliation; and trying to make sure I stayed hidden under the water and pretend I hadn't heard. I remember having to dodge the boys in my class, after that, when they'd try to 'accidentally' touch me.
I remember becoming 'That crazy b*, 'The sped kid', because Gray Rocking and responding physically became my go-to methods to dealing with it. You touch me, I slap your hand away. Touch me again, fingers get bent. Try to run up and snap my bra? Your ankles are forfiet.
I remember finding out, years later, the vulgar nickname they'd call me behind my back, that I won't share here. Worse than above. I remember wearing a matching t-shirt to my best friend, and being told I need to cover up with a sweater by a teacher, while she was fine.
Please, for the love of GOD stop sexualizing us just for existing. We shouldn't HAVE to consider chopping our breasts off just to be able to HOPE that some people will treat us like human beings. I'm watching my best friends' 12 year old girl go through exactly what I did, and it's killing me. Because there's nothing I can do.
Thank you for sharing your experience. As a guy we don't hear this at all. If we have female friends, they don't tell us this for whatever reason. So its easy to not know about it. And its often vice versa with mens issues (not trying to detract from what you're saying). I appreciate you sharing your story because we don't hear much about it. It's not about "awareness" we know it exists but its easy to forget it happens without hearing about stories like yours.
@@MasterGhostf We do try to tell people- at first. But we SO OFTEN get told to 'take it as a compliment!' or 'Maybe you were imagining it.' 'Boys will be boys! That's just how guys are!' or 'Oh, you must think you're hot shit! You're not that attractive!' You might not have been the guy saying those things- but when we hear that shit? That's when we stop sharing. It took me a long time to unpack all that shit from growing up and even be ready to admit that, hey. It wasn't my fault. I was just a kid, who existed. I wasn't 'asking for it'.
Thanks for listening.
Oh I was called jailbait by grown men all the time as a child, it was disgusting. I remember guys grabbing my boobs, pulling my shirt down/up, snapping my bra, I became confrontational as well because I was absolutely done. I'm sorry you had the same experience. Girls were horrible to me because me having boobs got the boys attention. It was an absolute mess and I don't miss it at all.
@@SlightlyDisturbed123 You are heard, definitely not by enough people. But I just wanted to say that you are most definitely heard. I wish men were studied more, because I full heartedly believe that men are the source of evil. and I'm not trying to come off as some kind of righteous man standing up for women. I am simply stating a fact, from the Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst - Carl Jung, who has studied humans as a whole, and has stated many times. "That men are the source of evil, and they need to be studied more" Sure you can argue some aren't. But that some DOES NOT even begin to scratch the surface of how many men, believe that when they catcall a young girl, or touch a woman in a very inappropriate way. They believe what they are doing is fine, or within their right... I am so sorry this world Is broken In so many ways, that I would argue It Is impossible to repair. I hope some day humanity can start a new, after purging all of the injustices of this god-forsaken rock we all call 'Home'.
I had to start wearing a bra at age 9 because they were already getting big and becoming a problem for the boys/men around me. Finding a top that wasn't overly baggy but didn't come off as trying to show my chest was impossible.
I suffered from HG during my pregnancy. I was 21, and would tell the doctors every appointment “I throw up about 20 times a day”. No help, was told being sick was part of it. I lost 27 pounds in the first 2 months. Would keep bags in the car because i could not go anywhere due to motion sickness. Also lost 3 teeth due to HG because all the bile and brushing, essentially what bulimia suffers go through. All while being judged for not working a job prior to my child being born, by all family excluding my husband who saw how much I was suffering.
Very happy to hear this may not be an issue with sufferers in the future, women are still too often ignored or not thought of in the medical research field. Left to suffer from things that could have simple answers, such as a hormone that causes HG.
I have PMDD which is a severe form of PMS so I'm familiar with the fact of women's health being under researched. I remember reading a statistic that there's been 5x more research on erectile dysfunction (which affects 20% of men) than on PMS which affects over 90% of women. It makes me want to scream honestly.
The only opposite disparity is in postpartum depression. Both men and women can get this but there's only ever a focus on women who get it.
Lesson of the story shit ain’t equal
I think you're right that but there's no point comparing as there's a real possibility that the males number is probably severely different as there's got to be quite a shame for some people.
As the daughter of a special educator in a public school and a former student who required an IEP, I can not stress how crucial it is to keep kids in their local communities. Resources HAVE to be directed towards public schools to allow kids with special needs to remain in their communities among their neighbors.
As a large chested person who felt like their breasts grew overnight, it's shocking and scary. I went from a kid who ran around, rolled around in the mud, rode their bike with friends to suddenly getting unwanted attention and having to really watch what I wore. What would look like a nice, cute top on some people would be considered, "slutty" on me because of my chest. I was considered a tom boy, and all of a sudden, puberty drove a wedge between where my mind was as a child and where I was treated like a woman. I still wanted to be a kid and not to be sexualized because of the body I didn't want.
You weren’t treated like a woman, you were treated as an object with boobs
tbf I dont think I ever got over this and I'm resentful to this day :)
The kind of clothing you "can" wear without being openly judged varies a massive amount, simply based on your body type, too. If you're athletically-built, or quite thin, tank tops and shorts are fine, in the summer. But, if you wear those as anything but, you're given a very different label. It doesn't matter if it's summer and scorching hot outside; if you want respect, as a curvy girl, you better be fully buttoned-up and baring no skin.
It's exhausting.
as a big chested person i never wore any dresses or shirts that revealed cleavage because i was scared i'd get too much attention. it's taken me to the last two years to get over that, ya i have big tits that's not going to stop me from wearing this cute dress i found.
In high school, I went to a charter school that had a very strict dress code. We had to wear tops with a collar and buttons. I was also already a DD (I'm rocking an F cup at age 33, and they are still growing for some crazy reason.)
Any well endowed woman knows that a button up top is hell. You either have to buy a top that's baggy and shapeless, which didn't work because we needed to tuck our tops, or if it's even remotely fitted around the bust area, now you have the impossible decision with the buttons. If you button them all the way up, you get the dreaded "gap", but if you leave the top few buttons undone, it's cleavage city. And an undershirt can only cover so much cleavage.
I also grew up in a small, ultra-Mormon, ultra-Conservative area, so my male friends felt entitled to say that I was doing something wrong because they could see my cleavage, and my female friends were snotty and judgemental. I remember breaking down one day, because I really felt like I could not win.
I've also never owned a button up shirt in my entire adulthood, and I never, ever will.
(I will say that the male friend who made me feel the worst about the cleavage situation reached out as an adult and apologized for it, so it has a happy ending.)
My wife lost 20lbs with her first pregnancy due to the nausea and it was so disheartening how little the doctor would do.
As someone who spent time in solitary it's a terrible awful thing and reduced me from a functioning human being to a delusional mess. I became psychotic after a few days of isolation. I lost all sense of reality. I mean straight up hallucinating, making up histories and social paradigms that don't exist and convincing myself that they were real. It was terrifying and I don't wish it on my worst enemy. Also I don't really have many enemies.
Yeah, we are just social creatures. That’s why I think in the correct circumstances anyone can go crazy.
I'm sorry you went through that. It seems to me, as someone who hasn't had that experience, like the most damaging aspects of solitary are the fact that the lights stay on constantly and there's no sunshine, so no way to sense the passage of time. Do you think the lack of social interaction alone would be just as damaging, psychologically, or could solitary be done more responsibly by letting those in solitary have some time outdoors away from others, or a window, and lights that that turn off each night like normal?
Did anyone else catch that quiet part that was said out loud??? Just finished talking about a young man that was jailed for 3 years with no conviction, then cut to the Mayor saying, "You really want to give these people due process? We don't even do that when we put them in jail!"
Yeah I heard that too, he wants to throw people in jail THEN perform due process
you're surprised? 🤣🤣🤣 Every liberal metropolitan city makes it their sole purpose to abuse people's constitutional rights under the guise of the "gReAtEr GoOd" lmaooooooo
RIGHT?! Like, wtaf!?
I'm from CO, visited NYC for the 2nd time in my life earlier this summer to attend my brother's graduation... Mayor Adams showed up unannounced and got booed off the stage. That man is trash
I’ve had a breast reduction and I do it 1000x over again!! Bringing up Sydney’s beauty and being young is a great point. I, for one, started experiencing pain and frustration trying to find clothes and bras (that cost an arm and a leg) to have support. I struggled finding bathing suits that supported me but also made me feel young and cute. Not being able to find clothes that fit me like everyone else killed my confidence and brought on body dysmorphia. The reality is that having natural big breast is painful and expensive!! I wish people would stop commenting on people’s bodies. I’m glad Sydney learned to love her boobs, but also, she has the resources to dress in a way to make her feel confident. If a woman wants a reduction, it’s not your place to comment whether or not they should. It’s their decision and we should support whatever would make us happy.
One of my good friends I used to work with suffered with agonising pain in her back for as long as I knew her. Couldn't agree with your perspective more.
I want one so bad 😢
As someone who suffers from Hyperemesis Gravidarum thank you for covering this story. It has been huge news for our community. While I may not get to benefit from this research, our daughters will. And that is massive.
Hello fellow HG mom, I also hope they can find a cure.. I for one don't think I'll be having any more kids but do hope no woman or my 2 daughters ever have to suffer with HG ❤
@@MoritAzul25 👋🏼 yes!
The hormone story is CRAZY. I got so sick from all day long morning sickness so bad that I lost 25lbs instead of gaining any weight during my pregnancy, was hospitalized weekly, and ruined my back molars from the constant acid.
I hope that this is a solution. I can't imagine the stress of your body preventing you from taking in food when all you want to do is provide nutrients for your unborn child. I wouldn't be surprised to see very slow research on this and comparisons made to Thalidomide.
@@justinpolley2490spent two months in the NICU. He was 8lbs 6oz 19in long. Healthiest baby in the ward, but two months premature. The nausea continued for a short while after birth as well and I was so malnourished by the time he was born, my dr advised against me breastfeeding. Forcing myself to eat and drink, I tried prescription anti nauseous meds, ginger root, preggy pops, ginger ale, peppermint, carefully approved teas… of course they didn’t work if it was this hormone.
I really hope this is a solution too! I’m sure you are right about it being a slow research unfortunately.
But man am I praying this information saves another mom ❤️
Regarding the Sydney Sweeney situation - growing up with breasts in general as a woman is a crazy experience. My sister is busty and developed early, so she had the issue of being sexualized no matter what she wore and hating her body because of it. I've always had a smaller chest (part of the itty-bitty-titty-committee) so I was bullied for having a 'boy body' and told things like "don't worry about wearing a top, it's not like there's anything to be immodest with." Which made me hate my body. Pretty sure we both grew up wanting to get surgery done to 'fix' ourselves.
Women are broken down into parts - boobs, waist, ass, legs. Not a whole person. And it's sexualized so early on, I think I was like 5 the first time someone made lewd comments about me and I know I'm not the only one with that story.
5? Dafuck?
@@ronswanson1410not super uncommon, sadly, by 5 I was already being SAd by the adult son of one of my father friends.
@@bluester7177 hopefully some justice was done to them.
ditto, my sister was busty and hated her body, I am in the ibtc and hated my body. I am now 32 and have smaller boobs than my 11 year old niece. I can't even imagine what her experiences are like. even as a smaller chested person who tried to wear push up bras when I was younger to "fit in"? I guess.. your boobs or your ass is all you were made to think about to make it look good for someone else to look at. such a weird thing and I hate it!
I don’t know if you meant it on purpose, but what you’re talking about has actually been observed in a study from the European Journal of Social Psychology. Essentially, when both male and female participants were looking at photos of men and women, they tended to perceive a man as a whole person (global cognitive processing), but took in a woman’s appearance by the individual parts of her body (local cognitive processing). It’s a pretty interesting study and it’s been used as a base for other studies.
With the jail story, it's always important to remember - At any given point, somewhere around 2/3 of jail inmates have not been convicted of a crime yet. Most of the other third are in there for probation violations and crimes that aren't serious enough to warrant a prison sentence. When your local sheriff and DA talks about being *tough in crime*, that's mostly who they're talking about. People who honestly could use a lift up, not a boot on their neck. But most Americans don't want the justice system to actually help people, they want the justice system to punish because it makes them feel better about their own shitty lives.
Literally every single woman I know- friend, relative, friendly coworker, etc. has a horror story about their doctor dismissing their concerns and refusing them necessary care. I challenge you to just ask the next woman in your life you see that you're close enough to to have that type of conversation and they will tell you. It's the world's worst 'OMG Same' game.
The Medical Research topic really hits home for me. As the survivor of a SCAD Heart Attack, a condition that effects 97% women vs 3% men, and was seen as a rare pre-post partum condition until the last 8-10 years ( but in reality seems to be the majority of heart attacks in women 45-55), and yet STILL is nearly unknown among a large majority of the medical establishment, I was terribly lucky when I had mine. Had I not lived in a larger city that happened to have two hospitals that had participated in SCAD studies, I might well have been told I was having heart burn or a panic attack and then been sent home, as SO many middle aged, healthy, not pregnant women are - only to return to the hospital later in full arrest, or to not survive at all.
The long term underfunding and sidelining of studying women's health issues has and does continue to have massive effects to so many.
Thanks for watching….getintouch
After hearing that horrific story on the Special Education kids.. they utterly failed those students. FAILED THEM. Across the board. My heart goes out to those kids and their families.
This ain’t even the worst school, phill reported on another one last year or maybe the year before ,that uses cattle prods on the kids when they misbehave. CATTLE PRODS. And despite pubic pressure it was ruled that what they were doing was COMPLETELY LEGAL AND FINE. It’s disgusting
Except for that one kid, god bless em
Zero surprise hearing a doctor accuse a woman of being dramatic. I and most women in my family have similar stories. All of which impacted our lives, some worse than others. I'm disabled now because of mine :)
my moms heart condition (over producing adrenaline or something?)went on diagnosed for twenty years because doctors insisted she was "dramatic"and "loved the attention "something we all including my dad knew wasn't true,tho he did agree with her being dramatic “¯\_(ツ)_/¯“
It's LONG overdue that doctors get some kind of penalty/punishment for doing this bullshit. This, and denying women a hysterectomy/tubal ligation/etc because "you might change your mind later".
@RYOkEkEN Did she ever take your dad with her to an appointment? My chronic fatigue was always dismissed as depression until I took my husband to an appointment and he gave his observations of my symptoms. Like magic I got an immediate diagnosis. No treatment but I can at least declare it on health paperwork for work now.
I'm sorry to hear that, it's so devastating when health professionals don't take us seriously.
Before I started transitioning, I went to the doctor to say "hey, when I'm walking, I'm getting shooting pains in my legs and electric-shock-like pain in my brain and it's making me feel light-headed" and my doctor told me that it was just a weight thing and to try to lose weight by _walking more._
A few days later, I passed out because of it and a day after that, it made me vomit, and soon, I genuinely couldn't walk anywhere so I ended up going to an emergency doctor at like 11pm. That doctor took me seriously and apparently luck was on my side that day because he was part of my GP practice. He sent recommendations to the first doctor about referring me to a podiatrist and neurology regarding what the second doctor had diagnosed as nerve pain.
A week later, I received a text message from my GP practice telling me that the first doctor had "forgotten" to prescribe me nerve painkillers and that a prescription for them had been sent to my nominated phamarcy. This was about two weeks after the first appointment.
About three years later, it finally got diagnosed as Functional Neurological Disorder. During that entire time, I had to fight for my symptoms to be taken seriously enough to be seen by a neurologist within two years of me developing random bouts of paralysis.
I find the sydney sweeny story particularly interesting. As someone who developed early and has spent my whole life with excessively large boobs the way people react to you and comment about your appearance can definitely take a toll sometimes in ways you don’t even realize. When considering a breast reduction for medical purposes I dealt with the very real worry that I would some how no longer be attractive or that I would be losing part of my personality because that has always been the first thing people look at about me and when people reference my appearance it is almost exclusively in reference to my boobs. The ridiculous notion that some how my self worth is tied to the size of my breasts has been ingrained in me subtly in everything from media to personal relationships since the age of 12 and you don’t even realize it is happening.
Oh, I am so sorry. Not about the boobs thing, I too have 'large girls'. It's the worry you won't be attractive or lose part of your personality. If people refer to you as "Meg with the boobs".. it's time to get better friends. I don't have to know you, to know you are so much more than mammaries.
Completely relate to this - I was terrified that I would no longer 'feel like me' or would lose what I'd grown to think of as an integral part of my personality, and I felt a bit guilty for not loving my body as it was. Not sure if you went ahead or not, but I'm 6 months post-op and I cannot recommend it enough. It's changed my life, I feel so free and confident. I'm not saying it's the right decision for everyone, but if the only thing holding you back is that you're scared you're going to lose a part of yourself, for me, it has helped me to become so much more.
US lawmakers really be out here saying "young people should only follow our propaganda" every time they talk about TikTok, that's what I take whenever one of those creeps open their mouth on the subject
You thinking half the population of Gaza being children 'cause of tiktok though 😂
They shouldn't get their info from tiktok or from them. Hamas videos on tiktok do make them stupid to think that extream religious terror organization is on the right
I really feel for Sydney Sweeney. My breast started to develop when I was 9. Like classmates accused me of bra stuffing to be cool when the thought couldn’t have been further from my mind. Accusations, rumors and the way grown ass men talked to me only got worse over the years. It’s truly disgusting what we have to deal with if we happen to develop early.
I’m in my mid 30’s and barely comfortable with my own body.
Mam they were t sexualizing you because you had boobs they were sexualizing your bc they were Ped++s. As woman can we stop pretending boobs are the cause of our oppression please?
I can only imagine what you've been through. I was the opposite. I was very skinny and developed late but I suffered street harassment so bad I had panic attacks and quit a job because I couldn't walk to the office without being harassed. I would hide under big winter coats but it did nothing. It was awful but I know that it's so much worse for women who are busty and heaven forbid they wear tight or low cut clothing. Just looking female is creeper catnip and the more feminine you look, the worse they treat you. You were never the problem. Your boobs were never the problem. Jackasses that act like animals are the problem.
I feel you when I was 13-14 I was constantly asked if I had silicone implants because of there size as well as just all the creppy grown trying to talk to and just look down my shirt
Haah, i don't believe you. Show pictures to prove it.
@@budgie9006 ew, really?
Yeah, busty women and girls definitely get unwanted attention. As someone with a bigger chest, I remember like 40-year-old guys looking at me or saying gross stuff when I was like 12. Honestly, though that's kinda just a problem with being a female. The number of friends I know who were sexualized at a preteen or teen by disgusting older men is astronomical regardless of their looks, size, chest size.... it doesn't seem to matter. It's gross.
wait until you find out that women do it to teen boys too. The gender is irrelevant.
When I turned 18 I was afraid of dating because I was scared it would just be dudes who were really just nonces but see someone freshly 18 and go “hey you’re legal”
Yeah, I wore big sweatshirts until my junior year of high school to hide my boobs. I didn’t like the attention from men and other girls. (I got comments while changing in the gym from other girls. Not all bad, I just didn’t want or liked the attention lol. )
I lost a lot of unnecessary weight due to a car accident & medication. now I’m part of the itty bitty titty community.
Jesus fuck, man. It seems like the older I get, the more I’m made aware of just how many pedophiles there really are out there. It’s distressingly more common than I had believed when I was younger.
It’s disgusting how many young girls have to endure those uncomfortable and perverse remarks and stares from men old enough to be their father if not grandfather.
@@casc7937 Surprisingly, it was other girls who made comments and passed judgement more than any guy. I'm sure they did so out of my earshot but the things girls said to my face. wow.
I was a "special needs" kid from about 1st-8th grade. I do have some fairly complex disorders, adhd, bipolar depressive, and possible dyslexia, but i really should never have been in that place. None of those disorders harmed my academic performance. What was really weighing on me as a kid was my home life, my dad left us when i was 5, a year before i went into schooling, my mom had been mostly absent that year. she had terrible addiction and suffered so much because of it. I a 5 year old was looking after not only himself but his 4 year old little brother. I was an adult at 5. Not ready for that not at all ready to be someone in a position lile that. But no one at school asked the right questions. No one looked into why i could be behaving like that instead they shipped me off to a place that if i even got the slightest bit angry they would ship me off to a "break room" which was just a padded room with nothing in it. This place helped me in many ways but it wasnt help i couldnt get from better sources. And from that experience i dont think they should be seperate they get away with too much abuse that kids already face at home.
I live in Washington state and have a son with multiple severe disabilities that resulted in him being kicked out of public school and sent to a special education school. I was initially really pissed that the ESD refused to place him in a specialized school within the state, but with the news about SOIL I'm glad he wasn't placed in an in-state school. I'm sad that my son is clear across the country from me for high school, but I'm glad he is safe, happy, healthy, and thriving in a school where the staff genuinely care about their students.
As a woman who was "blessed" to bloom early and have a large chest by 12 I got the attention of many whenever I wore anything "low cut" or "tight." I was much like Sidney. I went from enjoying dresses and skirts to oversized clothing, hiding myself, and being uncomfortable in my body.
It has taken me years to be even a little comfortable in anything that isn't 2 sizes too big. I still have issues not wearing a bra, even when I go to bed or am at home ALL DAY.
And she is 100% on if you have a large chest, it seems to be like you are trying to be seen or sexy, not just existing your body as it is. I'm just trying wear a tank top on hot summer days, not tempt anyone or show off
Thank you for talking about HG. I had it and it was awful, and truly almost killed me. My sister gifted me the article and I cried happy tears at the prospect of having another child without being sick and questioned about my sanity. I was told that I could be suffering from a mental disorder instead of HG. I can’t thank you enough for discussing it.
Right omg
I didn’t suffer as terribly as you but I still had hg with two out of three of my kids. every pregnancy I’ve lost weight it’s terrible. I’m sooooo happy that the next generation of pregnant women will actually have some help!
My luck though I had my 3rd this October and told everyone I’m done no more kids but now they have a solution for the morning sickness hahahahaha
I lost 30lbs in the first 3 months with my first, and 30lbs in the first month with my second. I was hospitalized for 7 weeks with my second. My doctor told me I would die if I had another child.
I wasn't able to enjoy even a moment of either pregnancy as I was fighting to stay alive.
I am so thankful new moms will not have to go through this.
@@kellieevetts2637 damn I shouldn’t even complain about mine it sucked but I was never hospitalized for my hg I had it but just not like that so sorry you went through that
I’m a mother of two special needs kids and I just went through setting my son up with the special education department in a public school. Hearing what happened to those kids is horrifying. Making the decision to send him to public school was difficult as it is, adding more fear into that choice is unconscionable. It honestly feels like just hoping for the best at this point
Exactly this. It's hard and there aren't as many options when your child has different needs.
Wow Phil 17 years feels like it was just yesterday I came across you on CZcams. I’ve probably watched every video you put out. I’m 19 years into my career and I’ve gone through it watching your vids. Here’s to many more years and best wishes to you and your family.
As the mom of a non verbal son, I am so scared of things like the first story happening. I don't know how I can trust anyone with my baby sometimes. How horrifying for those kids.
surprised you don't sympathize with that teachers. I cant tell you how many times ive had to get my boy in a choke hold.
@@JohnSmith-lc1ml I don't sympathize with anyone okay with choking out a child to the point that they throw up.
I can assure you there are good, tolerant people out there. I work with autistic children, and I've learned how to communicate with several who don't speak much (I don't have our truly non-verbal student but I've seen him around). Our kids are mostly thriving.
@@Camazotz-kz9wr Choking isnt what made that kid throw up.
@@JohnSmith-lc1ml Are you a doctor that inspected the kid yourself just after it happened?
To give my 2 cents, I used to be a door to door salesman for internet and we had to note down all our contacts in a very similar way to the new cop rule. It really is as simple as hitting a single button on the phone, typing 3 lines about info of who you talked to, what they said and clicking which label to give them (no contact, not home, interested etc.) and it really takes only 15 seconds per door/person. It certainly wouldn't "slow down important police work".
Idk if you actually are on a missing person case something like that would be extraordinarily time consuming. And like if they are in pursuit of a suspect how does that work if they ask if they saw them run by?
I was 35 days in solitary. It's fine if u have a strong minds but most criminals have the exact opposite of that. And yea its drives people crazy.
Regarding the Sydney Sweeney story-
I've been on both ends of the spectrum. I was a twig until 11th grade. I was teased for not having a feminine body. Then when I filled out, suddenly I was receiving all kinds of attention- most of it unwanted- that I wasn't used to receiving, some of it from the very people who taunted me and bullied me for "not being a girl." College was even worse, because I didn't develop a strong sense of self until much later in life, and it was extremely difficult to say jo to men who wouldn't take no for an answer. I was ridiculed and slut shamed for having so many guy friends, but they were reliable people who would turn away creeps for me when those creeps wouldn't leave me alone. It was a nightmare. I still to this day get hit on by men old enough to be my father. I've had men walk into my job hitting on me, using extremely inappropriate language, and then blaming me and slut shaming me when my female HR representative banned them from the location.
It's impossible to be a woman. Nothing is good enough.
Regarding Sydney Sweeney, I've been on both sides. Mine didn't come in until I graduated college. You're either made fun of for having "mosquito bites" or being called a slut for existing in a v-neck. There is not winning. Im with Sydney. These gals have been with me through thick and thin, literally. As long as they're cancer free, I'm happy
It’s the same for me. I was teased for being flat chested all through middle and high school, then in my early-mid 20s I hit like a second puberty. Even in my 30s I’m uncomfortable in form-fitting dresses, I don’t feel confident because of the weird attention it attracts
Remember when Jessica Simpson was shamed for having big boobs to such a ridiculous extent, to the point that people were treating it like a moral failing? Yeah.
Same! I went to flat chested and then overnight a size D, then a size DD, and then Size DDD, and now an F. I’m working on losing about 50 pounds more and then I am getting a reduction. The weight loss is not causing them to shrink.
same, I was a late bloomer - I was harassed in middle school for being flat chested, but once I turned 15 or 16, I grew to a DD. Both sides feel really crappy, but I definitely relate to what she said about feeling self conscious in high school, wanting to hide your chest or get a breast reduction. I’ve become less self conscious about it now but it sucks to have your body sexualized without your consent simply because you have big boobs.
Idk how to say this non weirdly I guess but whatever, idk why girls worry about the size of their body parts, it’s the same as guys worrying, and trust me, no guy actually cares how big they really are , I’ve known girls who had cancer who had to have them removed and never got implants and they were the hottest thing since sliced bread
I had severe morning sickness with my twins. The last pregnancy I had it & I couldn't keep it because I was so physically sick that I couldn't get out of bed. Everything was spinning. I wasn't able to eat anything & if I got a sip of water down it immediately came back up. I can't afford to stay out of work for 9 months & feed/house my children. I'm happy they figured out what causes it. Hopefully they'll get a fix for it when my kids have kids.
I'm done having kids but I had HG w/my 2nd twin pregnancy. It was awful. But my doctor did put me on a vitamin/otc regimen that worked well enough for me. I did not even realize that most people weren't receiving treatment of any kind for it. Man my heart goes out to you. HG is so rough.
@@shadowmatrx This was a while back way before recent discovery. They gave me anti nausea meds but that was as effective a tictac. I'd love to have another kid but with fear of having it again with me being over 40 would probably take me out. My twins came out a little small & I think that's the reason why since I was 39 weeks when I was induced. I can't believe you have 2 twin pregnancies. That's a lot of kids in two shots. I thought my 3 under 3 was too much.
This is really unfortunate and getting the morning sickness thing taken care of is really great. However the fact that people can't take time off work for medical conditions and be taken care of is a huge flaw of our system. Obviously it's a huge win, but also our corporate masters want us spending as much time working and making money for them as humanly possible while giving us just enough to not rise up and kill them (which I obv don't endorse but it sure seems like we are not kept happy, just not quite angry and desperate enough to lose our minds and fight back without regards for morality, safety or reputation). I taking a year off work each for both parents should be a given, and the fact that we're given so little leave for things like having a baby really proves how many people in this country aren't actually pro life as they don't care about healthy infant development.
My wife had hyperemesis gravidarum and I made the same Harry Potter spell joke. Jokes aside she went from 120 lbs to 104 lbs which is about 15% of her body weight. It was very traumatic because she had to be hospitalized for dehydration since even water would trigger vomiting and headaches. Glad someone is doing something about it. I feel like all you hear these days is random studies about zodiac signs and their effects on mice behavior.
Fetterman makes it difficult to advocate for people to get involved in politics. Because telling someone a year ago what he would be like now would make you seem insane but lo and behold, here we are.
I dont understand the hate, he's right. Not to defend Israel's reactions and the lack of accountability of the IDF, but there is crazy propaganda on Tiktok regarding the war. Istg have people forgot the idea of diversity of thought? You dont have to agree on every single issue to be of that ideology.
@@shplorf1977 homie, its a genocide. The IDF is doing a genocide. Definitionally. They are indiscriminately killing and systematically destroying Gaza to eliminate the Palestinian population. Netenyahu has been shopping around a resource extraction plan to get other countries to let him donwhat ue wants. An Israeli real estate company has started selling beach side condo lots. Netanyahu held a press conference where he swore they would build new settlements. So maybe, just maybe Israel is the bad guy.
@shplorf1977 people literally cheering for Hamas and identifying with Osama Bin Laden LMAO it is definitely radicalizing some of these kids
@@shplorf1977 tolerance of intolerance only leads to more intolerance we have some boundaries for this diversity of thought which must be respected
@@ar71498 maybe if the gov wasn't run by rich people with no principles that look like lizards on camera less young people would be radicle?
A girl I knew in highschool had to wear E cups by the end of 8th grade... She wanted surgery because her back hurt all the time, and the docs wouldn't let her get it because she was "too young to make that choice." They excused her back pain as her being overweight even though she wasn't fat, said she should lose 20lb, she told me her boobs weighed 15.
If it's a medical procedure that could negatively impact someone who I'd assume is still physically developing, I could understand doctors being hesitant. Especially if they're worried about it having too negative an impact. But to dismiss her as being "too young to make that choice" is bullshit, and if they're that worried about a negative impact they should make/find a way to help her deal with the pain properly. Dismissing her like that is the same as telling a fully grown woman who wants a hysterectomy "you might change your mind about not having kids later" or "what does your husband think about this?". It's bullshit.
Ugh I've had an H cup for the last almost ten years, complete with perpetual bruises from my underwire, and chronic back pain, and my insurance won't cover a reduction bc they consider it to be a cosmetic procedure. I'm so tired. Your poor friend 🥺 I can't imagine having developed that much by that age omfg
@@mistojen I think she did eventually get surgery in her early 20's but I didn't see her much after she graduated.
@@DavidGowers Definitely agree the doctors might have made a point about her physical development, I wasn't there, but she told me she felt like the doctors thought she only wanted surgery for aesthetic reasons, and that it was connected to her weight. I can't remember all the details cuz this was back in the late 00's, but I remember it as kinda the first time I ever really considered that modern doctors could be wrong about something.
@apollofell3925 I honestly don't they'd have made any kind of point about her development, but you're right that they could well have. If they did, though, they certainly don't seem to have made it the actual reason for saying no. They'd have been 'thinking ahead' and probably been too worried about depriving men in general of another set of tits to ogle, another women to objectify.
I had HG when I was pregnant with my oldest. I lost fifteen pounds in two and a half weeks. It lasted until I was seven months along.
No one took me seriously except for the people who saw me daily. I really hope this works for pregnant women.
Me too. I had HG w/my 2nd twin pregnancy. It sucked so bad. I lost 15lbs before my doc got it under control. So cool that they now know why & can get more consistent help.
I only got believed when I was found passed out at work in the bathrooms 4mths pregnant, I'd found out at 7week, been really sick since probably conception I thought it was a bad flu, dr confirmed morning sickness.. but it was all day, almost never ending. I woke when the ambulance was about halfway to the ER and just started dry heaving again non stop and they were so kind and mentioned maybe I had this cos wow, this is intense.
I was so dehydrated that my kidneys were almost non-functional. I'd been going to my GP almost weekly for about 2mths asking for help. The midwife also dismissed me in the one appointment I did have in those 2mths and wouldn't see me sooner because I wasn't that far along.
While everyone was very sorry, it didn't fix the broken trust. I'd been ignored and dismissed and almost very seriously injured because of it, let alone my baby. We came out of it relatively fine, but that's not the point. There shouldn't have been a baited breath to see IF everything would be fine.
I had HG and with lupus w extreme hormone sensitivity. I lost 70lbs dropping to 110lbs. I literally didnt eat for 2 months, so I had to have PICC line that gave me liquid nutrition into my heart. I still struggle with intense food trauma and water triggers me really bad. (Did anyone else get super smell sensitivity?)
No medicine worked. I got 2 dislocated ribs, a hernia from throwing up and needed to be hospitalized for 6 months in total because my PICC got infected, I had a fever of 104° so I ended up having a miscarriage in the ICU from renial failure PLUS after the nurses pulled my PICC I got blood clots from my elbow to over my heart needing 2 blood transfusions. And since they couldnt operate on me I had to stay in the hospital another 2 months getting blood clot medicine shot into my stomach all while I was carrying my stillborn daughter and still throwing up.
Than I almost died again during the emergency C-section and I asparated from throwing up during the c-section. The anesthesiologist was in disbelief he'd never seen anything like it. I don't think I wouldnt have survived if my mom wasnt an OBGYN and guided me through the whole thing. It caused me a lot of medical trauma.
Oh also I got MRSA blood infection from the c-section and was in the hospital another 3 months after my surgery. My family still jokes I had the bella Swan pregnancy from Twilight 😅
2 things
I am going to school to be a special education teacher and the story about soil was truly heartbreaking. I really hope that we as a society can find a way to care for everyone not just the easy kids.
2 as a girl who grew up well endowed I earned the nickname “porn star” in high school despite not even having had a significant other at the time also a young relative of mine went in a store with me recently and an older gentleman at least in his 50s felt like he was in the right to tell her he thought she was older than 13 because girls in his day and age weren’t as developed as she is. He literally stopped us on the way out of the store to say this… the entitlement some people feel like they have to objectify people in general children, women, men, nonbinary, is just so uncomfortable
I worked in a child care center for 3 or 4 years. There was one kid with special needs and they would often toss him into my class. The child really needed a stand alone care giver, they needed constant attention to prevent them from hurting themselves or others. I was never trained on how to care for them, they just dumped the poor kid on me and expected me to be able to care for them and take care of the 14 other kids in my room. It was extremely disruptive, caused alot of chaos, and was not fair to the child or to me.
As an nonprofit activist working primarily with high school and middle school LGBTQ+ individuals in Washington State, everything made sense in the first story as soon as you mentioned that the school was run by Fairfax hospital. The amount of horror stories I've heard from youth talking about their time in inpatient therapy at Fairfax Hospital is unreal. The level of neglect and greed Fairfax hospital shows to young people and their well-being is absolutely appalling.
I was going to say this. I was forcibly committed to Fairfax twice as a teen in the early 2000's and it fucked me up for years. I am amazed that they are capable of operating still. The entire network of hospitals should be shut down.
@@thestorygiver6217I’m so sorry that was done to you. I hope you’re doing okay now.
@@thestorygiver6217it’s insane that you can be “forcibly admitted” to a facility that is supposed to be providing aid… humans are fucked up
This is horrifying.
I legitimately started crying when I heard you say my name and read off my comment from yesterday’s video. I watch your stuff basically every day and it helps me get through the monotony of work and my daily schedule. Thanks for noticing and I appreciate the support and encouragement, love you Phil ❤
I wanna add my story is the same as many others when it comes to venturing out into the world and wanting to better ourselves. The gym should be a place where everyone is welcome because we’re all their for essentially the same thing (betterment and improvement)
Be more kind and welcoming, smile more and others will smile back
Congrats man. Can't have been easy. This random internet stranger is proud of you.
i hope you upload again, id love to hear your thoughts and advice.
I currently work in Japan as a assistant English teacher and Japan really tries there best to make sure all kids, disabled or not, have a normal education. One student ( who I’m unaware of his condition) looks almost vegetative but they still bring him to classes. These schools often have “himawari” or “sunflower” rooms when students get over stimulated, need special attention or have special lessons. They have their class and the sunflower class and I think its a beautiful thing.
On the breast thing I too developed young and kept developing. Im currently a 38 waste with a J cup which is cartoonish proportion. Random strangers or even sometimes off handed comments from guy friends are so unsettling to me. I love my breasts but I hope to get them reduced someday. Im suffering from major back shoulder and neck pain, I cant buy bras in the country I live in. And i get a ton of unwanted attention unless I wear tent like dresses. Even sometimes from my own students which is the worst. They also make it difficult to do activities. When I was developing, I was on swim team, and as I dove in the water would catch in my suit and pull it down. I would have to break formation to pull it back up. And I was so embarrassed I never told anyone. I eventually just quit swimming. Things like that or jump rope or running are so hard for me.
I love that she loves her body. I was also told to wait. Because my doctor thought I wasn’t done growing ( this was in middle school) and she was right. Ive only gone up one band size in my time as an adult but my breast just keep going😅
Love the show, see you next year 👋
My wife had HG. I was so focused on making sure she was fed, hydrated, and comfortable that I lost over 40 pounds because I had to neglect myself to make sure she and my child could be safe.
At one point early on we got so worried at the severe abdominal pain that we took her to the ER. After spending hours in the waiting room guiding her through breathing exercises we finally got a bed only for the ER doctor to dismiss us. He said "Have you heard of morning sickness?" and spoke to us like we were 14 year old children while we were both over 30 and EXTREMELY well read on pregnancy at that point.
Only in the paperwork did we find out he had diagnosed her with HG.
This is so sad, a geneticist had to force her way to funding, been a victim of the same thing she wanted to study. As a woman in STEM research this makes my heart hurt. What a hero she is, we have so much more to achieve and fight for.
I can’t even begin to tell you how happy I am with the HG breakthrough. I just had a baby and suffered with it my ENTIRE pregnancy. I literally was throwing up on the operating table during my C-section. I was in and out of urgent care the entire pregnancy. I had to get IV’s weekly to keep me hydrated, had to give myself suppositories every 4 hours, and had to go on disability for a short while because I simply couldn’t function. I threw up every 20 minutes for 24 hours straight at one point. It was absolute hell. Needless to say I’m currently of the one and done with kids mindset because I can’t imagine going through that again. But if there’s a cure?! We could have another baby!! I hope it comes quick as I’m about to age of out the pregnancy window as it took us 8 years to get pregnant. Such good news though! Because that shit sucks.
this is the very thing that makes me absolutely terrified of pregnancy. i have a very easily triggered vasovagal response and nausea is like torture to me. once i get dehydrated i don't stop vomiting. on top of that my mom was sick with me her entire pregnancy so i know i'm already at risk. this is encouraging
I had HG through both my pregnancies and have a similar story with my son 5 ER visits and weekly infusions until 23 weeks. That's a big part of the reason I had baby #2 so quickly was because of my insurance. I couldn't have that bad of a pregnancy without the insurance I have. Luckily I didn't have such a bad pregnancy with #2, I still had HG but I was only sick in the mornings and only had 3 ER visits vs being sick ALL the time. Although I can't tell you which was worse being violently sick for 23 weeks and it ending at 23 weeks or being sick for the whole pregnancy but only in the mornings. I just thank my OBGYN because she went to bat for me about getting my tubes tied after baby #2 because of how sick I get so happy I don't have to worry about it ever again.
It's wild to me that this break through is so new and I feel a little salty that it wasn't discovered 3 years ago.
I had horrible morning sickness. Lost 20 pounds in my first trimester. I went to the emergency room multiple times and I had to do a lot of arguing to get any answer other than "ya that's pregnancy" when they finally took me seriously because i couldn't even keep down water, I was prescribed a very strong anti nausea medication that is normally prescribed to cancer patients going through chemo. The medication kept me from puking but did nothing for the horrendous stomach pain. For three months I was in constant pain. Still had to work, cook, clean. I was just expected to get over it. Thankfully my son was born healthy, though 4 weeks early. All of this was compounded when I see a commercial for a lawfirm saying that if you took (the medication I was prescribed) while pregnant you're entitled to a settlement as it's been linked to brain development issues. Again, luckily, my son is now 10, and we've had no complications. There doesn't seem to be any urgency on fixing these issues. Women getting pregnant today are told the same things I was 10 years ago..
I’ve been watching your channel almost every day since the sxephil days in 2008 and your break at the end of the year always bums me out a bit. However, you work your butt off and I’m always glad you take time away from the grind to spend time with your family and friends. You have grown a lot as a person since then, and I’m glad to see that as an OG CZcams creator you are not only still around, but are still doing great, and haven’t gone completely insane or given it up. Thanks for keeping me in the loop!
Thanks…getintouch available for a convo…
I had a very similar experience growing up as Sydney Sweeny. I had larger boobs than many of my peers as a teen and it absolutely results in creepy experiences. When I was 16, a shop owner in Santa Fe tried to ask me out on a date and I responded with, "Sir, I'm 16." At which point he looked horrified and backed off immediately, but I high-tailed it back to the group I was with. I was also expected to cover up more because I just had more cleavage than my peers, so certain outfits that would be fine on my friends were "inappropriate" on me. Even now, at 34, large boobs can be a huge inconvenience and I feel for her so much.
I hope you are not trying to shame the shop owner who clearly thought you were of age in your story.
@@Rust_Rust_Rustbro shut up
@@Rust_Rust_Rust No, not at all, hence why I said he was horrified when I said that I was 16. He didn't mean to hit on a minor, but it was very uncomfortable for me as well.
I went from nothing to a D cup at 12. And I got rape at 13. For years, it was hard for some guys to make eye contact. I was considered at slut because I had big boobs. Teen boys lied about having sex with me. Girls bullied me. I gained weight and still got guys staring at my chest. I know small chested girls have problems too.
The SOIL story reminds me of the big exposé about US insane asylums by Geraldo Rivera. Looking into the horrid conditions that people were subjected to because they weren't 'mentally fit' was disgusting and to know this is still happening, now with KIDS, is harrowing. We've learned nothing.
Yeah, this country fails us disabled people day in and day out. That is coming from someone who watched their mother in state hospitals and who has survived the same type of schooling during my K-12 career...i know those "quiet" rooms, those are prison cells and torture...
@cielonehellofaservicedog4648 it's disgusting and it's torture. How are we supposed to be proud of being in "the land of the free" when ANY of our citizens are subjected to these conditions??? That's not freedom at all. Or safety. Or security. We spend trillions on occupying other countries but can't meet basic needs for disabled citizens and its awful.
We've learned a lot. Give yourself some credit. The fact that you are out spreading a good message shows, to me and many others, that we are learning. Learning is not easy and it hurts. Especially when you accept the truths. But you cannot grow unless you accept the truth.
Some people used to just deny it happened/s
Now you are out spreading good words. I grew up with no hope. No one knew who Rupert Murdoch was. Now ALL of you know who he is.
There is HOPE now. Real tangible hope.
The next election is more than serious for the future of the world. Either we change, evolve and grow, like normal humans to add. Or we go back to 'traditionalism', backward thinking bringing women's rights to nothing. Most real traditionalists are afraid of losing the morality of our previous teachings without realizing we can improve upon our teaching methods, and use that. Going to an improved system does not mean we have to sacrifice our 'traditional' ethics and morality- as long as they were already established good morals by society, we do not need to be afraid of change.
It's like trying to build a model-T in today's age. I mean, cool, Fords we're top of line back in the 50-60's. Do you see people buying model-T's today? Why do you think going back to an old system is the best? Not to discount the good that comes from it. Like in the above example, keep using the factories and improve the assembly line, dont blow up the factory just to start new.
@@twiggymorris406correct. Now focus your justified anger at the enemy that is stopping things. The Republicans in the senate. They are the arms dealers, the bomb and missile makers. Literally. Literally they are owned and run through as obstructionist lobbyists for the NRA. You think Lindsey Graham wants this to stop? No he is making millions off of legal arms dealings.
I ask you to consider that not 'all' people are good. And the disabled argument, all good people deserve dignity. Wholeheartedly with you.
And I can see the argument coming. Who are you to decide the good people. WE ALL ARE. Even in the constitution a jury of your 'peers'. It's not just one of us. Additionally, I think the bar for deciding the difference between good and evil is a pretty clear bar. If your iffy on that scale, you might be evil. Not acceptable for this society. These businessmen who claim to help people but have caused everything from each war we've been in to the Great Depression was caused by the 'fiscally conservative' (sarcasm) republican party.
And the blame lastly for saying democrats do nothing. They cannot do anything because the Republicans are literally governmental obstructionists. Keep looking at their tactics. It's almost always some form of blackmailing.
From my experience with special needs kids and the mentally unwell, there needs to be more screening and regular follow up for the people that are supposed to have compassion and take care of them. This is not a position for everyone!
I have seen too many get broken, and not be able to deal with cleaning shit and being physically and sexually assaulted all day.
We need people that will do this out of the goodness of their hearts (not for money) and not become vile. It’s not common, but the ones that I have seen able to take the shit with a smile and compassion are truly beautiful beings!
On the flip side I have seen some caretakers become worse than the broken people they are supposed to take care of. True villains.
Thank you so much for covering the special ed “soil” story. This was happening in my community and I had no idea until now. I really appreciated your coverage and I’ll be keeping my eye on it.
The Sydney Sweeny thing is exactly what they did to Billi Eilish. Before she turned 18 she refused to show her body and was ridiculed for it. As soon as she showed a bit of skin she was vilified and called names. She couldn't win either way.
There's no winning for women.
Who ridiculed her? Who vilified her? For sure wasn't the male population.
@@jasonalba7679men did vilify her, just didn’t seem like it because it benefited men for her to be seen as a whore, slut, easy, jailbait. Yet those are horrible things for a freshly 18 y/o to be viewed as by millions of men. Sexualisation is not respect, but disrespect. Value based on male hormones is not value
@jasonalba7679 You're on the internet, you can find out yourself, Mr. male population public defender
That's because Billie was a massive fucking hypocrite about it. She actively talked shit about women showing their bodies and using them to garner attention. What's she do as soon as she turns 18? BAM! Puts her body on display because she love the attention she gets.
As somebody who has autism and is familiar with the special education program I can tell you that it wouldn’t be hard for any school to do something like this. Most schools do treat their disabled/special needs kids with respect and dignity but there are still far too many that don’t. This is a problem that needs to stop and doesn’t have many adequate solutions.
Public schools have these rooms too, and it's not just the extra needs kids, any bad kids get put in there. I've seen some grueling stuff, even the walls inside of the room being broken. They only make the problem worse.
Morning sickness story- I lost my first pregnancy at 19 weeks because of HG. I almost lost my second. I dreamed of having a large family but stopped at 2 kids earth side because I couldn't handle another HG pregnancy. I still have PTSD which has made doctors actually laugh at me. I don't think anyone who hasn't had HG knows how badly it messes with your brain. I would lay on the bathroom floor after puking for hours feeling like I was going to die and scared that I wanted to. I was one of the "lucky ones" who received several medications. All of which I had to fight my insurance to cover and still they only gave me some relief.
I had severe HG for all of my pregnancies. My third pregnancy I lost 60 lbs from right before getting pregnant up to birth. I ended up having oligohydramnios and IUGR, which resulted in my son being born at 35 weeks weighing only 4lbs. My fourth pregnancy I couldn’t keep anything down and I ended up losing the baby at 21 weeks. Each time I went to the doctor they only prescribed me Phenergen and Zofran but neither worked.
I work in labor and delivery and have heard similar stories from my patients. I’m super excited that there’s finally a breakthrough but regret what myself, my husband, and my kids had to go through because this wasn’t researched sooner. I was so weak I couldn’t get out of bed, but my husband was furloughed during Covid so I had to work. I would sit at the nurse’s station with a bucket. I couldn’t sit through important procedures because even the smell of blood was enough to make me vomit.
As someone that is disabled and also works with special education kids that first story makes me sick to my stomach. The idea that anyone could treat kids like that is horrifying. At my job we’re forbidden from restraining because of how dangerous and traumatic it is.
I was in the GNETS program in Georgia for special needs kids. They would lock us up in a solitary confinement cell for hours every day if we acted out in any way. A child eventually hung himself in a cell. There was a high lawsuit and the AJC did a story on it a few years ago. It ruined my life.
As a person who needed accommodations early on for my adhd in the school systems, we have been failed. I was a private Christian school and they refused any accommodations to help me be a better student as simple as taking a test in a different room and sitting close to the front of the class. My mom pulled me out of the school and homeschooled me cause she saw that the system was failing us. Later on when I went to high school at a charter college prep school, they were extremely supportive and allowed me and others to have these simple accommodations. There’s great schools out there who want to see their students succeed, but sadly not every school.
Returning to comments about yesterday's show and the gym - I am a regular gym goer (lost around 60lbs so far), but I am always blown away by how strong some of the larger people at the gym are. We often forget that these people are soooo strong because of all the weight the literally carry. Seeing this larger guy go and leg press three times my weight, its insane! We are all at different places, and I love seeing those people try to better themselves having been there myself. But I totally agree, finding a gym where I felt comfortable was one of the biggest hurdles in starting that journey
I’m done with mergers and acquisitions. At this point whenever any company merges or acquires another I just stop doing business with them. I’m tired of the near monopolies that everything is leading to. It reduces quality and increases prices. It’s ridiculous and needs to end. Hopefully more people start boycotting these businesses and causes them to close.
We used to have antitrust laws that would stop shit like this....
@@johnwinchester9561 Well, if the government won't enforce competition, there's always piracy.
How do you eat then? All of our food is owned and produced by about 5 companies….
@@jaysonhuckaby6323 gardening and local. Costs more, but I’m supporting people that could use the business.
@@jaysonhuckaby6323All of our packaged foods. But if that’s what you’re living on that’s another issue.
Sadly the Sydney Sweeney story is very common with women in any industry. I’m a fan of Alana Pearce as well and she’s in the games Industry and constantly gets called out because she just exists and is well endowed. She literally mostly wears just regular t shirts and still gets called out. I hate it just because women have boobs it doesn’t make them more/less sexual that’s society putting that on them. And I feel like it’s mostly an American thing we lose our minds over boobs.
I like boobs as much as the next guy who's into women, but yes, it's fucking stupid and messed up how women get all this unwanted, immediate sexualized attention when they're just existing in public. It's like, there's a time and a place, and even if you're attracted to women, it's not right to just reduce everything about them to that.
I had hyper emesis throughout both of my pregnancies and I was so miserable and lost so much weight that put me in the hospital multiple times due to dehydration and doctors would not take me seriously. I'm glad to know someone else hopefully wont go through the same thing
I did it! I told myself I would stay informed this entire year. So, I never missed even one video from you, Phil! You're my favorite place to get unbiased news. Thank you so much! I feel like I actually understood life this year. See you next year!
My brother was sent to a private boarding school after our small public school lost its special education teacher and he lost an entire reading level. My mother argued for him to be sent to a place that had the resources to teach him. At that school for kids with learning disabilities he was traumatized over and over. It wasn’t that the teachers abused kids, but they didn’t have enough supervision and some of the kids were just kids with emotional problems, not learning disabilities. My brother was stabbed, beaten with tree branches, started drinking and eventually had to have his face reconstructed after one kid snapped and beat him so badly his nose was broken in 4 places. After that incident and the kid that beat him was able to continue going to school because his parents paid the school a lot of money, my parents finally pulled him.
Unless you have a ridiculously staffed school with like a 4:1ratio I don’t think it will work. Kids with learning disabilities often have other issues from how they have been treated and there will always be parents who just dump kids without major issues at these schools because they don’t want to deal with them. I don’t think having schools with only kids with learning disabilities is good. We need to figure out how to support these students in regular schools.
I used to work as a special education aide for a public elementary school in my city and while I loved working with the kids, the lack of resources and support was always so incredibly hard to contend with. One example that was particularly infuriating happened during my last year at that job. We had a young boy who had had brain surgery when he was born and, as a result, had an incredibly difficult time memorizing any type of information because those parts of his brain were comprised from birth. It took us a year to help him memorize the alphabet and a few basic words, but we were so proud of all the hard work he put into it and how far he had come despite the circumstances. However, because he was in the fourth grade at this point, he was still going to be required to take the state standardized writing test, and when we asked if he could get a scribe to help him with the essay portions, the state said no due to budget cuts. It was awful because there was just no way he could pass that test on his own due to circumstances beyond his control, but the state didn't care because it didn't align with the bottom line. Hell, it was my last year at the job because they were even cutting MY position, despite the fact that I was the one with their boots on the ground shadowing about neurodivergent 12 kiddos while they had the teacher I worked under spend most of her day filling out all kinds of paperwork (not to imply anything negative about the teacher, she was an amazing, loving person and did her best, but the nature of the job and all the bureaucracy attached to it just took her away more and more from the part of her job that she actually loved (working with the children) while I got to do that more but still got paid pittance for it).
All this to say that while I love the idea of a private school that works primarily with neurodivergent children and provides an environment for them where they can flourish with people who will be much more empathetic and capable of handling their specific needs, my worry is that the problem of money-hungry capitalism seeping into the schools will continue no matter what label (private or public) you slap onto it. So long as people, both students and teachers alike, are seen as products and means to an end where profit is king, the most vulnerable and least supported of these populations will continue to suffer the most. I really hope one day we as a society can arrive at a place where we eschew capitalistic concerns of profit and create facilities that just help kids for the sake of helping kids.
I’m disabled and in high school I went to a school similar to this one but it was very small. Every teacher I met was incredibly nice and kind hearted. My science/ math teacher alongside my mom helped me graduate. He was my fatherly mentor and I still talk to him. The only thing I didn’t like was this one kid but that’s high school and school in general. The teachers, the staff and most of the kids were a joy to be around and I loved it. They closed after my graduation but it was amazing. I wish they were still open so they could continue to help people like myself. If they were still open I’d recommend them whole heartedly.
Phil - thank you! you expressed something I’ve tried to express - “feeling like prey”. I cut my hair short in high school and was accused of being gay and mercilessly ostracized and verbally attacked, but it was better than feeling unsafe and it didn’t stop the sometimes literal attacks and being harassed- it just made them less often. I had a big butt and more than once a boy hit me so hard on my butt it left a hand print. That hopefully would never happen today but idk. It’s not women’s responsibility to change for men - it’s men’s responsibility to act better and not commit crimes.
Just another story showing just how little people actually care about special needs children. That was absolutely horrifying to hear about, but unfortunately not uncommon. I hope some of the trauma those kids had can be healed with time and love. Nobody deserves a “school” like that, least of all special needs/disabled kids. They deserve love and patience most of all.
They don't care about normal kids either, it's just normal kids can tell about the abuse.
I *hate* that this is true. @@rdy2dstry
It's another reminder that there are people out there who don't view disabled individuals or children as human. So disabled kids are sub human to them. It's disgusting.
As someone with autism who struggled with public school for many years, what helped me more than anything to get back on track was two things: an IEP (a personalized education plan that gave me more time for homework and the ability to work with teachers one-on-one more often) and an aid, Carla, who kept my attention on-task and was able to take me outside to calm down/decompress when I got overwhelmed sensorily or with the work. That moved mountains to get me where I am now, more than a private school ever could have. It disgusts me to see how these people took advantage of disabled kids, I wish them nothing but Hell.
Private schools have very little oversight when it comes to procedures, treatment and protocol. Public schools get a bad rap, but where I am, we have had people move to attend our public school system, because of the special education programs. It is not perfect, and due to the fact that as recently as 20 years ago, proper educational practices to meet students' specific needs just weren't there. Heck as a kid I got tested and because I was an over achiever and bright, they couldn't comprehend that I had learning issues. I learned to compensate and figure it out on my own. As an adult, I see all of the signs of ADD/ADHD. I had a college professor, notice it too. It doesn't help that the symptoms of it are very different in women and girls. As far as Autism, we as a culture are in its infancy in understanding. And every one's needs are so very different, there is no one right way.
the "Phil, you are Kenough" addition was absolutely beautiful and perfect for the segment, thank you to the editors LOLLL
thank you too Phil & team for another year of the show, it wouldn't have been half as bearable without you~ I wish you all a Happy New Year, and will see you on the doubtlessly wild ride that is 2024 :')
Thank you for using closed captioning! Going to miss you. I actually look for your videos 5 days a week. Sincerely hope you have a great holiday.
I had Hyperemesis 4 times, and it nearly killed me, in survivor's groups I was in I saw countless women have to abort their WANTED babies because they couldn't survive the intense, unrelenting, horrific, constant pain and suffering the condition can cause, and most of us who had the babies or lost them were left with symptoms like PTSD and postpartum depression, anxiety, and even psychosis which can also be life threatening to mother and baby. I can't explain it any other way than you are being tortured, starved, and dehydrated by your own body every hour of the day until you are no longer pregnant. Additionally, while it briefly gained interest when Princess Kate had it, for the most part everyone just thinks you have 'morning sickness' and are 'being dramatic' or flat out do not care. I lost so much weight I was hospitalized for being days away from total organ failure (i.e. death) and still my partner and family were unsupportive and unbelieving. I had to lose my job because I ran out of maternity leave while still pregnant and hyperemesis wasn't a covered condition so it was seen as elective. I would never wish it on anyone and I hope this is finally a cure and no one else's mother, sister, daughter, friend or loved one will have to go through this in any of it's forms again. Shocked to see this in the news but very, very happy.
Thank you for sharing your story. It is so similar to mine except my husband was incredible. My heart goes to anyone trying to make it through whether the pregnancy was wanted, planned or not.
I'm so sorry that happened to you and people in your life weren't understanding or supportive
Oh my God honey my heart goes out to you. I survived HG through both my pregnancies nearly dying both times. Thankfully my husband and his family were super supportive but even they got burnt out by 3 mo. During my first I got so bad that my spleen nearly ruptured and I was lIfe flighted to the closest city (we live in the rural desert 🏜). During my second pregnancy the HG got so bad my doctor told me to start recording videos for my first born is case I didnt survive because I refused to terminate. That profile picture of me is actual from during my second pregnancy after I lost 28lbs, I was literally skin and bones.
What's really crazy is when my water broke during my first pregnancy I INSTANTLY felt better, NO JOKE, it's like all the extra hormones left me like water draining out of a tub. I didn't realize that my water had broke a d my whole family was freaking out that I was sudding feeling so amazing that they made me go to the hospital for feeling better only for us to discover that I had lost all my water the day before and my baby was dying inside me, they had my baby cut out in under 20minutes the fasted C-section my hospital had ever performed from time of patient entering the ER.
What you said about it being so traumatic that some moms get PTSD I completely understand and even wonder if I might have some lasting issues from all the trauma. I desperately want more children but all my doctors have extremely advised against it even trying to pressure me into having a hysterectomy to sterilize me which I will never do.
Thank you so much for sharing, not enough people known or understand HG.
I had to go on disability from work as I was blacking out at work and couldn't walk a paper from my desk over to another desk. I worked with urgent response systems where we had 30 seconds from certain reports coming in to respond with our first code entry to acknowledge the problem to not lose a major company license as there were lives at risk. I can't do that when I am blacking out so I couldn't do my job anymore. I lost so much body weight. I was in and out of the hospital. It was horrible, absolutely horrible. I was sick until my throat was so raw that it was bleeding from being sick so much and I was then more worried because now there was blood. . . . it was a nightmare.
@@taylorbug9 thank you, it means a lot to hear
ive never had boobs and my sisters are huge. growing up people treated us very differently even if she dressed as modest/more modest than me. she was also subject to lots of predatory behavior and treated like she was promiscuous just for breathing :/
Thanks for great year of coverage Phil! Been here over a decade and hope to see many more
Merry Christmas and Happy holidays to everyone to loves and trusts Phil (and of course to the man himself) thank you to you and all your team for another amazing year! We love you and I watch every video you release and I'm so glad you are looking and feeling happier and healthier than ever. All the hugs Hannah ❤
I was a special education student my entire life, and the sad truth is that a lot of these "schools" are just plain abusive, hiring "crisis staff" who are simply thugs who's job is to either intimidate students into behaving, or hurt students in hopes of stopping a child from repeating behavior's. I've seen children get their heads put through drywall, bones broken, bloodied and then refused medical care. I personally was put in to a "restraint" that consisted of them bending my fingers backwards, yanking my hand far up behind my back causing serious pain and being insulted and berated, all because i was crying due to being screamed at by a teacher. To make it worse some of these schools are residential, as in the students live there so theres no going home and showing mom or dad your injuries making it MUCH more difficult for anyone to do a damn thing.
As a woman with a large chest (H cups) i have been treated VERY differently than girls with small chests. People always label me as a slut because i happen to have tits and they're visible no matter what i wear
Prove it
Same. I was in DD cups by the time I was 12. The amount of grown men that tried to talk to me was disgusting.
@@idkwat2say2uu
Same I lived in a small town and when I would walk to the grocery store to pick up snacks there would be men in their 50s trying to hit on me (I was 13 at the time)
I call 🧢 on that bogus story. Nobody ALWAYS label anyone a slut because you have tits, you want to be a victim so bad don't you.
Small chest girls also get treated like shit
Great show. Every story was very important and needed to be addressed. Keep it up Philip DeFranco, I just love the XXL news you bring.
The special education school story is my literal worst nightmare. I couldn't even make it through the entire story. My son is severely autistic and hearing these stories terrifies me. I know someday soon he won't be able to go to school anymore where he currently is and I'll have to find an alternative and constantly seeing stories like this about places that are supposed to HELP those who need it but instead harms them is absolutely heartbreaking and makes me trust people less and less.
As a parent of a child with Special Educational Needs, the first story made my heart hurt. My daughter goes to a mainstream school that do have (very few) SEN teachers, but no sufficient funding is given to them or the funding is often used for other thing within the school.
It’s sad but it looks good to inspectors to say they have special needs kids enrolled at the school.
Her needs are not being met (such as laying out a clear structure of her day, or toileting) and she also said when she was in preschool, one of the teachers shut her in the cupboard. Me and my wife are considering Home Ed - something we don’t really want to do because it will affect her social life/skills.
The socialization shouldn't suffer t ll if you get nvolved with the online learning communities. Just make sure it's not politically motivated group and you're fine (unless you prefer one, then you do you.).
The hyperemesis gravidarum discovery is so so important. I have a friend who had it with two pregnancies, the first unfortunately ended with her twins being born so premature due to the HG that they didn’t survive more than a few days. Her little girl from the second pregnancy thankfully survived, but even so she was told by the doctors that for her own safety she can’t get pregnant again, when originally she wanted lots of kids. I’m so thankful for Dr Fejzo putting in the work to find answers so hopefully, eventually, others can avoid the heartbreaks my friend and so many others have endured
the morning sickness news is quite a blessing, cause form week 9 of both my pregnancey i had 24/7 morning sickness, that has effected me and what i can eat even 10 years after the second kid was born, certain smells, certain consistencies still make me queezy.
i cant touch, eat or even look at cottage cheese for instance without having to leave the room, i grew up with my mother loving cottage cheese and i even ate it as a kid into my teen years as a snack. when i had my first my mother had to stop eating it for my visits to the house and to HIDE the container (or plan to not buy any) thats how bad some of the morning sickensses can be.
while i was preggers it was also a random factor of even the "know" foods that i was able to eat would change daily ... some days i would only be able to eat ramen noodles, some days i couldnt even eat ramen. i barely gained weight during the first pregnacy, i have a feeling the constant morning sickness was one of the factors that caused my first born to be born 13 weeks earlier. the second one i made it to term with but that wasnt good for me or my throat, cause that just ment i had the full 9 months of puking.
this means that the one factor that would majorly affect if i was to suragant for a future in law means maybe there will be something in place knowledge wise to help me possibly counter that constant 9 months of throat erosion
Thank you for giving us honest and accurate news🖤🖤 can’t wait to see you next year! Merry christmas and happy new year
When I was pregnant, I got food poisoning at a dinner party. (Dont eat at everyines house) and when i went to the hospital with my husband who was also sick they actually looked at me and said "you know morning sickness can happen any time of day" and i was furious. They didn't wanna help me at all they wanted me to wait for OB to open in the morning to get help for morning sickness while they treated my husband! It took multiple other people coming in from the same party for them to take me seriously and actually try to help. The way pregnant women pain is so often overlooked and scoffed at is atrocious.
You’re a drama queen, but if you dare to ask for the opinion of another doctor/nurse they acted like you kicked them in the guts…
I actually went to north west soil for 2 years during high school. It is insane seeing the issues that I experienced first hand being included on your show. Those quiet rooms they talk about are closet sized rooms like 10ft by 15ft with bare walls and nothing but a camera on the ceiling. I don't understand how isolating a child would help to calm them down, but they seemed to think it would.
The whole thing reminded me of the Troubled Teen industry: basically abusing kids in need for profit instead of helping the,. The Elan School specifically came to mind because they had kids in solitary confinement for literally months at a time. That woman at the of Phil’s segment made the comparison in my mind to Elan especially poignant, as Elan had a whole bunch of defenders, saying that *their* kids got better, when in reality their kids were forever changed for the worse by the experience. I’d much rather hear from former students like you than the parents who didn’t actually experience the thing.
Thank you, Phil! Happy new year 🎊
@Philip And Family have yourselves a merry Xmas and a great (hopefully better) new years
And cheers and happy holidays for the rest of the DeFranco followers and fans
It is amazing hearing someone claiming Tiktok gives a skewed perspective, as of every single form of news coverage isn't biased in some way
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so stop watching news and read up on the history instead of getting your info from 5 second videos. Crazy that the left is actively cheering on a terrorist group when a country just recently got 9/11'd by them. lmao.
_"The kids are supposed to get all their opinions from good old fashioned colonialist mainstream news, like their parents and grandparents before them! These ticky tockies are making them ask too many questions!"_
There are unbiased news sources like AP news, claiming that tiktok is unbiased and that the algorithm won't favor content you agree with is naive.
What gets me is how most of the online coverage of the attack against Gaza doesn't even need words. We can see how horrible the situation is. The idea that you can somehow twist the raw footage is crazy. Even the videos from IDF soldiers laughing and bragging about what they're doing is hard to make look good.