How Cheating & Infidelity Starts

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  • čas přidán 17. 11. 2020
  • How cheating and infidelity starts in long term committed relationships and how to prevent it if the signs are there.
    In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who has been following my work for three years. He has been married for twelve years and has two kids with his wife. His wife has become very friendly with a former male coworker of hers and they often are texting each other, sometimes even late at night. He was supportive of her “friendship” with this guy at first, but recently she met him out for drinks. He has since gone through her phone and seen text exchanges that are mostly friendly, but sometimes they are flirty and inappropriate. He doesn’t have a good feeling about his wife texting, flirting and now meeting this guy out for drinks. He asks my opinion.
    “Attraction is not a choice. Chemistry and effortless conversation happen naturally and cannot be forced. It flows like water. When men and women interact, attraction and chemistry are revealed, not created. When men and women who are either unhappy in their lives, their relationships or they are simply single and searching for love interact, the potential for cheating and infidelity arises. People who are in exclusive monogamous relationships should not be spending time with members of the opposite sex without their partners or other people being present. This is simple respect for those who are in committed relationships. People who violate these sacred boundaries are inviting attention, validation, and romantic interest, and are creating the conditions for cheating and infidelity to happen.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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Komentáře • 403

  • @gebrazer
    @gebrazer Před 2 lety +40

    My experience is that once baby girl progresses to actually interacting with another dude, she has been checked out for months already, if not years. No way to come back from that from within the marriage and living together. Even if she wanted to “work on the marriage”, the trust is already gone. My man needs a lawyer asap to ensure a proper custody arrangement and move on.

  • @NZYoungTurk
    @NZYoungTurk Před 3 lety +93

    So much for the bro code too. Dudes these days have no respect for anybody's relationship including a marriage -- you can only hope they find themselves to be in the same situation with someone they're really into.

    • @Josh-fp2qn
      @Josh-fp2qn Před 10 měsíci +1

      Or they end of taking a dirt nap.

  • @asdf4678z
    @asdf4678z Před 3 lety +77

    Oh man.... betrayal is a hard pill to swallow. After the initial shock wore off and my emotions came down I knew it was over. I couldn't go back. The damage just cut too deep. 😔 Cheaters might say they can change and maybe some do but I'm not willing to wait around for a grown person to grow up. Life is too short. NEXT!

    • @westdiddy4825
      @westdiddy4825 Před rokem +10

      We don’t worry about the ex we worry about the next

  • @avve9001
    @avve9001 Před rokem +36

    I was in this situation with my ex. She asked for permission to see this collegue that was "just a friend". I said OK because I didn't want to appear insecure, though I had a bad feeling about it. Of course she cheated on me. Lesson learned, if you can't trust your girl then the damage is already done and you should walk away. A proper girl who loves you wouldn't do anything to break your trust.

    • @Josh-fp2qn
      @Josh-fp2qn Před 10 měsíci +10

      Bro, damned if you do damned if you don’t. If you told her not to see her colleague she would have accused you of being insecure anyway. Bottom line, she was going to cheat no matter what you said.

    • @avve9001
      @avve9001 Před 10 měsíci +3

      @@Josh-fp2qn Yeah. In hindsight I should have just told her I can't trust her anymore and we should go separate ways.

  • @epicbehavior
    @epicbehavior Před 3 lety +56

    You shouldn’t have to tell someone not to cheat. If you’re doing that, it’s already over.

    • @Josh-fp2qn
      @Josh-fp2qn Před 10 měsíci +2

      And then they throw it back on you like you just didn’t pay attention to her enough. Bullshit. Excuses for being a cheater.

    • @epicbehavior
      @epicbehavior Před 10 měsíci +1

      @@Josh-fp2qn That’s true though. There’s a void that can’t be filled:

    • @paulwilliams7700
      @paulwilliams7700 Před 6 měsíci

      Tou have to walk away

  • @Monkey-pq5zt
    @Monkey-pq5zt Před 3 lety +140

    How are you suppose to even come back from this? I would stop liking my wife if this was me and not even want to fix this

    • @DamonWatson
      @DamonWatson Před 3 lety +23

      Same here I wouldn’t accept the fact she was willing to loose me

    • @filipefigueiredo9847
      @filipefigueiredo9847 Před 3 lety +13

      @@DamonWatson I wouldn't even tolerate picturing her having her back blown out by another dude
      It would be physically impossible for me to stay, I'd leave immediately even if I had to live in my car for a while until I sorted myself out
      P.S.: jealousy is a natural instinct in men, because in marriage we quit our natural sexual strategy (unlimited access to unlimited sexuality), in exchange for making sure that the fucking kid is ours (that we aren't being cucked)

    • @hellosirimlookingforcrackg776
      @hellosirimlookingforcrackg776 Před 3 lety +5

      There is no real way to bounce back, the best bounce back is to bounce her out the house and out your life cos she'll more than likely fuck the dude anyway, unless it's already happening and she ain't telling her husband

    • @samspade5850
      @samspade5850 Před 3 lety +6

      Maybe hire a Magnum P.I. to build a case and put you in more favorable position when shit hits the fan. 💯😃

    • @darkalan1562
      @darkalan1562 Před 3 lety +3

      You don't

  • @noblewolf9364
    @noblewolf9364 Před 3 lety +70

    I know why I been married multiple times. And had lots of different relationships. I would not have stuck around.
    Once they start acting in this manner I move on. Trying to be logical is a waste of time. Cut your losses and leave

  • @Josh-fp2qn
    @Josh-fp2qn Před 10 měsíci +20

    Too many ppl have no integrity. This is why I choose to remain single. I watch coworkers flirt, go on breaks together, etc and they are either married or have boyfriends or girlfriends. I don’t trust women or men to be faithful. So disheartening.

  • @JTHigh11
    @JTHigh11 Před 3 lety +70

    Too nice. Completely unacceptable behavior.

  • @romesrepublic
    @romesrepublic Před 3 lety +33

    People will only treat you how you allow. This guy is displaying a lot of weakness. If you're in a relationship, neither of you should be hanging out with the opposite sex alone. As Corey said, it's just plain disrespectful. Unless you're in an open relationship.

    • @kiddytube3915
      @kiddytube3915 Před rokem +3

      It’s so fucked though. As a secure attached person, you just don’t know how to handle when your partner does stupid shit like this..
      Need to set firm boundaries and if they reveal who they are, kick them to the curb side as soon as you can.

  • @Escobaz96
    @Escobaz96 Před 3 lety +28

    It happens to the best of us. I would say the majority, most just don't know or haven't found out yet. Although he didn't play his game properly, we all try to justify things for them at some point. There are women who will give you all the right answers and behavior but totally switch up behind your back.

    • @callanc3925
      @callanc3925 Před rokem +1

      @@Spector06111 If they always have something bad to say to you about their friends and/or family, then best believe they have something bad to say to their friends and/or family about you

  • @alisontoro3524
    @alisontoro3524 Před rokem +11

    THANK YOU SO MUCH! I just recently broke off a one year relationship with someone who was “just friends” with a coworker and had the audacity to sneak around behind my back. I walked away and never looked back and my partner tried to run back to me. I’m no door mat to have someone running all over me. I definitely said hell no, and continue to happily date and meet new people. Following your work I have no problems meeting people and moving on. I have read your book over 10-15 times throughout all the years and it has definitely improved my dating life a lot. Low quality partners are bound to happen, but you teach how to handle all the situations. You are definitely my favorite relationship coach. I’m forever grateful for your help.

    • @ryanvandy1615
      @ryanvandy1615 Před 2 měsíci

      Good. Hopefully this woman learned a valuable life lesson .

  • @Actavian1
    @Actavian1 Před 3 lety +76

    This is painful to watch

    • @Nick-ue9of
      @Nick-ue9of Před 3 lety +3

      Holy crap ya

    • @gizellegoffney5515
      @gizellegoffney5515 Před 3 lety +6

      😂 I’m 1 minute in and I feel you but gotta walk away when they act up and find a better one! Abundant mindset

  • @HuskyMoving
    @HuskyMoving Před 3 lety +67

    Guys.....if you're reading this learn from my mistakes. Set your boundaries quickly, let them know the consequences. When they step over the boundaries leave immediately. Otherwise you're sending a very strong message about what you'll accept

    • @jamesm2135
      @jamesm2135 Před 3 lety +6

      100% correct!

    • @shakaj1525
      @shakaj1525 Před 3 lety

      need some help guys. I have been liking a girl for a while now she has been sending me choosing signals too. Her friend knows i have a thing for her but i dont give her a lot of attention and validation. Ive gotten a few shit tests here and there as well but tried to stay unemotional. My friend told me that her friend said that my crush will be staying the midday shift at work, (we all work there) so why doesnt he stay there to keep her company or something along those lines. I wasnt there when the interaction took place. Should i check her friend on that or should i just let it be and is it not that serious?. I dont wanna make it seem like i care too much or should i just ask her what s up with that? I should add that ive known her friend for few years now i considered her a friemd also kinda

    • @Extremaduur
      @Extremaduur Před 3 lety +6

      Way ahead of you. I have quit relationships altogether. 0% chance of being cheated on.

    • @jamesm2135
      @jamesm2135 Před 3 lety +3

      @@shakaj1525 - Don't ask her friend shit! Stepping up and just asking her out is what you need to do. It takes balls to do it but that's the only way. She'll either say yes or no. If yes, awesome! If no, then it's her loss and you move on. Don't allow yourself to get hung-up on her, such a waste of time.
      Good luck!

  • @Shaken0071
    @Shaken0071 Před 3 lety +16

    my Ex of 4 years did this to me 2 years ago. she hung out with my best friend and texted and called him when i had no idea. one day while i was out of town. She accidentally hooked up with him in my damn bed. our apartment. I worked with my best friend and had to see him everyday for a year as i just started the job as he stole my gf. Coach Corey has been my therapy through this. because that event destroyed my friend circle my love life, confidence and my job. I moved to Atlanta this year and hope to meet better people. Thanks Coach, i was so depressed 2 years ago but now I see the light in all the cheating my ex did.

    • @Xsilif
      @Xsilif Před 3 lety +2

      How did she “accidentally “ hook up with him in your bed?

    • @Shaken0071
      @Shaken0071 Před 3 lety +3

      @@Xsilif I was out of town for an interview, and she got drunk with him with some mutual friends and brought him back to my apartment I payed her way for. She said they had a magical moment and she knew she was in love. Obviously she had been emotionally cheating for months. I also knew my friend wanted her for a long time, but I always felt bad for him. Not anymore, I cut them both out of my life and they got the cold shoulder. Never let the wolf in the family den where the sheep are. She and I let him in through the front door, because I was such good friends with him and his family that this would never happen, until it did!

  • @elsquibbs
    @elsquibbs Před 3 lety +60

    When your SO starts doing shady shit, you can totally feel it.

  • @nickroach2845
    @nickroach2845 Před 3 lety +20

    This is so spot on. I lived this, but didn't have Coach in my corner. I am now 7 years divorced and still haven't been able to tell my ex how her actions hurt me. On top of that, I have no trust for any women now. Tough to put it behind me without telling her how horrible her actions were. 22 yr relationship over like that because I didn't act like a man....

    • @foryou1324
      @foryou1324 Před 3 lety +20

      You acting like a man wouldn't have necessarily made the relationship go better..
      Some women cheat, some don't.
      Don't beat yourself over her decision to throw it away because you only hurt yourself twofold.

    • @JT-rk8ix
      @JT-rk8ix Před 3 lety +12

      There is no reason for you to tell her how her actions hurt you. That is not the process of forgiveness and ultimately letting go.

    • @JT-rk8ix
      @JT-rk8ix Před 3 lety

      @@robman7109 you must be a sourpuss

    • @Scrubbull23
      @Scrubbull23 Před 2 lety +16

      It's not your fault. A loyal wife would have tried to sort it out inside the marriage. I am going through the same thing at the moment. Don't blame yourself. It was her alone

  • @billfetterhoff2913
    @billfetterhoff2913 Před 3 lety +44

    Kevin from sales strikes again!! 😩

    • @carlmarch9591
      @carlmarch9591 Před 3 lety +7

      Or was it Steve from accounts 🤔😂

    • @d2svpcfp
      @d2svpcfp Před 2 lety +3

      Kevin, Steve, Chad, AND Tyrone.

  • @Hawtload
    @Hawtload Před 3 lety +29

    that story literally made me sick to my stomach

  • @fatgirlboy9341
    @fatgirlboy9341 Před 2 lety +6

    hurts when i hear stories like this

  • @kelseyloushin1343
    @kelseyloushin1343 Před 3 lety +15

    Thanks, Corey. This is interesting to watch, cheating and pre-cheating behaviors are symptoms of bigger issues. It's important to keep working on the relationship so it doesn't get to this point. Once you get complacent, things change. I've seen this happen a million times and it has happened in my past. I won't put myself in a situation that puts my relationship at risk, but if my mate isn't working on us then other attention becomes appealing. It's my job to tell him what I need, not to avoid him, get pissed and not say anything and go looking for attention. It's also his job to connect with me and let me know that he wants me, respects me, etc. It takes two. I suspect this guy hasn't looked at himself at all. This stuff didn't happen over night...

  • @harshjones1688
    @harshjones1688 Před 3 lety +12

    I couldnt understand my situation. I was the first person she ever introduced to her parents and whole family. She said she was going to meet a guy friend of 13 years at a park as he was leaving the city, i said cool no issues. Started raining that day and so last min she tells me shes just going to go to his place 1 on 1. Erm got bit uncomfortable but still said cool enjoy. Weeks later after a random convo, accidentally came out, found at shes previously slept with him but she didnt tell me about this. She said nothing happened that night but how can you trust someone after that. She played it out like i was insecure. Safe to say shes been put back where she belongs. On the streets!

  • @MikeThaPhilosopher
    @MikeThaPhilosopher Před 11 měsíci +7

    This man literally changed my life and how I interact with women (for the better of course).. About 6-7 years ago I went through a really bad break up after being cheated on.. and ever since I started following Corey I’ve learned so much.

    • @Josh-fp2qn
      @Josh-fp2qn Před 10 měsíci

      Yeah, you learned that you can’t trust men not to hit on your women and you can’t trust your woman to not cheat.

    • @jackburton219
      @jackburton219 Před 9 měsíci

      ❤❤iuh 2:26 io❤n I ik8 juju

  • @filthyrodriguez9415
    @filthyrodriguez9415 Před 3 lety +23

    Do more of these how cheating start videos Coach. Quite interesting!

  • @RollerCodsterWFEW
    @RollerCodsterWFEW Před 3 lety +6

    Great video topic as always Mr Wayne! 👍 more knowledge for my mind 🙂
    You have made my relationship, and dating life so much better and easier to handle.
    People listen to this guy! It works!

  • @filthyrodriguez9415
    @filthyrodriguez9415 Před 3 lety +11

    One shouldn't have to tell your wife these things. She should know by now how to handle herself.
    revenge would be pointless too. Let her make the mistake and she can explain it to the family.
    When you spy don't forget to make copies of messages etc she can't later on deny. Build a case.
    Sometimes divorces can get messy. Be prepared.

  • @jkmeans
    @jkmeans Před 3 lety +17

    First, I do not claim to be a relationship coach such as Corey, nor am I a psychologist - but I have read Corey's book a few times. After spending the last few months reading all of Rollo Tomassi's books, as well as listening to Rich Coopers "Before the Trainwreck" podcast, I have learned more about myself and intersexual dynamics than ever possible.
    Having said that, I have some advice for this man, and most of this advice comes from personal experience.
    a) Hypergamy is real. Look it up. Don't believe me? Look it up.
    b) Stop being a Beta-pleaser.
    c) There are kids involved and shit's about to get ugly. Get familiar with family law in your state, now.
    d) In the words of Corey, "A girl's male friends are just friends she hasn't fucked yet"
    e) In the words of Rollo, "Women have girlfriends and boyfriends, if you're not her boyfriend, you're her girlfriend"
    I know this is out of context but, reverse it.
    f) In the words of Rollo, "Women fuck who they want, and Men fuck who they can" but it's reversed when it comes to Marriage - "Women marry who they can, Men marry who they want"
    g) In the words of Rich Cooper, "Women don't care about your struggles - they hang out at the finish line and pick the winners
    h) You cannot negotiate desire
    i) Don't try to save your marriage - I know that's not what you want to hear, but most marriages are not repairable after infidelity. Once genuine burning desire for the other person is gone, you will never have what you once did. 50 percent of marriages end in Divorce, and 80 percent of those are initiated by women.
    j) You have a serious case of loser-denial if you think these 2 are "just friends". Whether or not they have already slept together is irrelevant. Actions speak louder than words and the Medium is the Message. Get. Out. Now.
    k) Do not argue with her about it - you will never win an argument with a woman and it just makes you look weak. Men think rationally, women (surprisingly, do not) think emotionally.
    l) Don't try to trap her or catch her. Accept that the damage is done. As Corey said, just because she is being upfront with you about what she's doing doesn't give her the right to do that. All that does is give her a free pass to say, "Well, I wasn't lying to you" or "I was being honest with you" in hopes that you accept that as an offer of an apology.
    m) Don't even get me started on the tattoo nonsense.
    n) Read Chateau Heartiste's "16 Commandments of Poon" and Rollo's "9 Iron Rules"
    o) Smile and know that soon, she will be a Single Mother of 2 and no guy will want anything to do with her.
    p) Hit the Gym. Work on yourself.

    • @carlmarch9591
      @carlmarch9591 Před 3 lety +3

      Well said mate agree with all of that

    • @michaelburkett5068
      @michaelburkett5068 Před 4 měsíci

      o) is dead on. Once Chad thunder dick is finished with her and the divorce is final she will find dudes that want to knock her off. No real man wants to raise some other guys kids.

  • @evolicious-x
    @evolicious-x Před 3 lety +20

    It starts by the cheater being a lying p.o.s. and hiding things. Even if you're completely unaware. You shouldn't have to be looking at every little thing they do that is suspicious, like constantly seeing what they are doing on their phone. But once you figure it out, just leave. Cheaters are pathetic cowards.

  • @CY3ER
    @CY3ER Před 3 lety +4

    I've been seeing your ads lately so I had to stop by and show some appreciation. Your book & newsletters have had a meaningful impact on my life and continues to shape who I am becoming. I'm 24 years young and was introduced to your videos when I was 22. I still have a lot of personal growth to undertake so I'm still listening and reading from mentors like yourself. Thank you Coach!

  • @julzluvzdollz
    @julzluvzdollz Před 3 lety +14

    This is really sad and totally inappropriate. Shame on the wife for doing this to her husband. She should leave if she’s going to act this way.

    • @Josh-fp2qn
      @Josh-fp2qn Před 10 měsíci +1

      Im a singe guy of 35 and these videos are so disheartening. I do not know why these people are even in relationships if they are just going to cheat?

  • @castlerc
    @castlerc Před 3 lety +6

    I couldn’t agree more. Been there twice. Never again, period.

  • @sjm07400ex
    @sjm07400ex Před 3 lety +1

    Another great one corey much love from NY god bless u brother

  • @element769
    @element769 Před 3 lety +56

    Lol. Women like to refer to almost everyone as their friend because they see it as a broad term that has a wide range of meaning.
    It's a sneaky way of saying exactly what they mean while not saying exactly what they mean.
    A friendship is a Platonic relationship where you go out of your way to bring that person into your life even when it's not convenient for you and vice versa for them.

    • @callanc3925
      @callanc3925 Před rokem

      If she says "hes *my* friend" then chances are she at least sees him as only a friend, but if she says "hes *a* friend" then either shes banging him, plans to bang him, or already banged him in the past.

  • @slickrick4129
    @slickrick4129 Před 3 lety +48

    The fact that she’s doing these things means that he’s screwing up. But it also means she’s screwed up. He married the wrong one

    • @sunitafisher4758
      @sunitafisher4758 Před 3 lety +20

      🌸 I don’t think he screwed up, perhaps he wasn’t being spicy enough or bringing excitement to the relationship like he once did.
      However hearing what the wife has done so far, if I were him I’d start moving my money to my own account and prepare for a divorce
      She’s hot & ready for something else & cannot be stopped. Sounds like she’s in love & lusting
      My ex got like that, I found out by his odd behaviour and decided to check out his phone. Much to my horror he was having an affair
      I acted quickly & quietly, I left him and he actually cried because after he lost me he realised what he had & lost. Too late I don’t go with cheaters
      I’m with someone new that watched Corey so hopefully he knows how to behave like a real man

    • @asdf4678z
      @asdf4678z Před 3 lety +6

      @@sunitafisher4758 they don't consider you when they are cheating. They really think they can have their cake and eat it too. They act shocked when there are consequences. 🤷‍♀️

    • @Cyrx686
      @Cyrx686 Před 3 lety

      It doesn't mean he married the wrong one. It's been 12 years my guy. And if you've read the book then yeah he's probably been off his game or something is happening that we don't know about.

    • @keyprince5344
      @keyprince5344 Před 2 lety

      its not a reason if he screw something so she have to leave

  • @AlwaysPim
    @AlwaysPim Před 3 lety +7

    Have an escape plan ready and actually consider leaving. It's difficult to turn things around at this stage. Walking away is the right thing to do if she's unwilling to compromise. You're gonna want to be ready to mean it and stick with your values and principles. You'll lose her but you won't lose your sense of self, self-worth and self-respect. Loss is scary but you will also gain things that you can't imagine right now. Life has a way of balancing out the bad with good. I wish you well.

  • @clouya
    @clouya Před 3 lety +3

    You nailed this one

  • @MrMolecularscientist
    @MrMolecularscientist Před 3 lety +5

    Great video. Hits Home. Though, my wife (ex now) was a bit more subtle. If I had followed CCW earlier I might have seen the signs. Meh, I'm better off / have a great woman in my life now.

  • @punerebel
    @punerebel Před 3 lety +12

    Hey Corey!!!
    Write 3%man Ver 2.0 talking about Purpose, Pickup, Foreplay, Sex, Infidelity, Hypergamy, Sexual Market Value and Winning the dating game. Your knowledge is priceless.....Make it Happen Brother!!!

  • @erickandrade1921
    @erickandrade1921 Před 3 lety +2

    Corey this is a great video

  • @thomv5591
    @thomv5591 Před 3 lety +43

    #1. This chick is already sleeping with this dude or she would not be saying "love you, miss you"
    #2. She would love for her husband to pursue a new relationship cause she is emotionally detached from her husband and attached to the other guy. Plus it would make her the husband the fall guy for their divorce.

  • @voiceofreezn8018
    @voiceofreezn8018 Před 3 lety +16

    The fact that she even has these feelings means that situation has already gone WAY TOO far..in her heart she's already f**ked him..sorry..she'd have to go..she obviously has ZERO respect for that dude or their relationship

  • @ramses8847
    @ramses8847 Před 3 lety +45

    Classic girl: "I don't know how it happened it just happened". Never can take responsibility for their actions.

    • @Xsilif
      @Xsilif Před 3 lety +1

      Men don’t take responsibility either.

    • @VoiceOfThe
      @VoiceOfThe Před 3 lety +4

      @@Xsilif
      Women always try to shame men when they are faced with an uncomfortable truth about female nature.

    • @Xsilif
      @Xsilif Před 3 lety +1

      @VoiceOfTheSoul Cheating is not a “FEMALE nature”. Cheating has nothing to do with gender. The statement sounds as if ONLY women cheat and men do nothing wrong. Please don’t tell me that men never cheat because I know many and one who even told me he cheated on his wife with 30 women!

    • @Xsilif
      @Xsilif Před 3 lety +1

      @Charles Pearce they don’t get pregnant on their own 🤷🏼‍♀️

    • @ZackScriven
      @ZackScriven Před 3 lety

      @@Xsilif that's lacking accountability. They do decide to get pregnant on their own.

  • @MrRPBishop
    @MrRPBishop Před 3 lety

    Too Damn Funny!!! Cory Wayne acting out’, “ It just kind of happened!!!” 🤣

  • @sj122s
    @sj122s Před 3 lety +25

    He should have bailed early on... He went way too far with it... If a woman ever shows interest in another man... Game over... Move on...

    • @mjc21706
      @mjc21706 Před 3 lety +8

      100% I went through this, end it NOW!

  • @tonytang4381
    @tonytang4381 Před 3 lety +6

    My advice to the people in these situations is to walk away and live a good life. Be a "rock-star" version of yourself. Time is precious and fleeting. We will be old one day.

  • @simonhellier7281
    @simonhellier7281 Před 3 lety +9

    I was on the other end of this, with a married woman inviting me out. Lovely lady but I declined, as it’s a bad scenario.

    • @Stephan5916
      @Stephan5916 Před 2 lety

      @Simon Good on you. I think most men would have said yes and banged the wife.

    • @Josh-fp2qn
      @Josh-fp2qn Před 10 měsíci +1

      Good for you not being a scumbag. 👍🏻

  • @PizzlesTechTime
    @PizzlesTechTime Před 3 lety +3

    First comment Corey! Ty for all u do!

  • @pam164
    @pam164 Před 3 lety +10

    There is def something going on between her and this guy!

  • @user-vv3zs6en8p
    @user-vv3zs6en8p Před 3 lety +18

    Even if the spouses “friend” is not single ; they can still cheat on their spouse with your spouse.

  • @adibee88
    @adibee88 Před 3 lety +18

    Attraction & Chemistry between this man's WIFE and her "FRIEND" are highly evident.
    She's already SHOWING thru actions, that the Levels of RESPECT she holds for their marriage is almost non-existent/drastically declined.
    If he DOESN'T kill this behavior off, his next email he'll be telling Corey that his wife, "doesn't know what happened but they were talking over drinks, and next thing she knew, they were having sex."🤷🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️

  • @sebastianrodriguez8692
    @sebastianrodriguez8692 Před 3 lety +15

    I used to think that you just had to be "alpha enough" for her not to cheat on you. With Corey, I've learned that this is all about values. You can be beta and instead of cheating, she will simply leave you, recover from some time, then she'll start dating again.

    • @macioluko9484
      @macioluko9484 Před 3 lety +15

      The reality is that you could be the best 3% man and literally do everything right and still get cheated on. See the many examples of this on channels like Donovan Sharpe or EIC. This is why a true 3% man's number 1 priority is always his mission.

  • @amineech-cherif2386
    @amineech-cherif2386 Před 3 lety +23

    If I were him, I would date another woman, and have her come to my house and literally have my wife watch her sitting on my lap. If she says something, I would say oh we are just friends.

  • @illswagr1
    @illswagr1 Před 3 lety +4

    Learned this lesson the hard way. But there’s also a thin line on this topic on looking insecure

  • @chrissullivan3057
    @chrissullivan3057 Před 3 lety +4

    So much deja vu. Those kids are in for some hard times.

  • @berineayala4767
    @berineayala4767 Před 3 lety

    Always good shit

  • @dylan1159
    @dylan1159 Před 3 lety +72

    Most women won't outright cheat on you, they'd line up a replacement first and then dump you. If you take crap from a woman and don't stand up for yourself, she will see you as a doormat and will resent you. She will realise that she can do anything to you and you'll just take it, she will keep pushing your boundaries until eventually she starts sleeping with other men, so stay masculine, be the leader and pass her tests by not tolerating disrespect. If you guys need any help, just ask.

    • @hushanimation2855
      @hushanimation2855 Před 3 lety +2

      It is the same the other way around. Men do the same.

    • @shakaj1525
      @shakaj1525 Před 3 lety

      need some help guys. I have been liking a girl for a while now she has been sending me choosing signals too. Her friend knows i have a thing for her but i dont give her a lot of attention and validation. Ive gotten a few shit tests here and there as well but tried to stay unemotional. My friend told me that her friend said that my crush will be staying the midday shift at work, (we all work there) so why doesnt he stay there to keep her company or something along those lines. I wasnt there when the interaction took place. Should i check her friend on that or should i just let it be and is it not that serious?. I dont wanna make it seem like i care too much or should i just ask her what s up with that?

    • @SteveDobbs-hj7fc
      @SteveDobbs-hj7fc Před 2 měsíci

      Dead on. How do they line up the replacement though? And when do they usually start talking to the replacement before breakup?

    • @dylan1159
      @dylan1159 Před 2 měsíci

      @@shakaj1525 if you're getting choosing signals, eye contact, she asks you questions etc. Then ask her out.

    • @dylan1159
      @dylan1159 Před 2 měsíci

      @@SteveDobbs-hj7fc they'll be messaging guys all the time, you have to always be solid and masculine otherwise they'll break up and move on.

  • @Wrathofkala
    @Wrathofkala Před 3 lety +1

    We totally need an update on this one....

  • @Dropofwaterinthesea
    @Dropofwaterinthesea Před 3 lety +1

    Thank cory

  • @Hawtload
    @Hawtload Před 3 lety +9

    This was like watching an episode of Black Mirror.

  • @adamkornecki8263
    @adamkornecki8263 Před 3 lety

    Love it

  • @ForTehNguyen
    @ForTehNguyen Před 3 lety +9

    You vs the guy she tells you not to worry about

  • @gaurovsoni
    @gaurovsoni Před 3 lety +1

    core on fire.

  • @elylopez5482
    @elylopez5482 Před 3 lety +3

    Hi Corey! I love that you are posting videos more frequently. I understand that people in a couple still need to have their own friends but married people with friends of the opposite sex opens up "other possibilities". One thing leads to the other an then... "It just happens?"...
    Thanks for your videos Corey!💜💕

  • @stevieG.
    @stevieG. Před 3 lety +6

    I hope the guy reads the comments because some of them will be from guy's like me who the EXACT same thing happened. He appears weak not telling her to 'pack her bag's.. but I can tell all you single guys with no children that his natural desire to keep the family unit together and probable deep longstanding love for her will crazily override this. Saying 'what if I were to be friends with a 22 year old hot chick etc' is pointless because they both know that unless he is a multi-millionaire that would never happen. She, on the other hand can have muliple guys in her orbit all wanting sex with her. - Sadly, the marriage is over, it's gone rotten now. I feel for the dude cos it's a jouney I wouldn't want any guy with a family to have to go through.

  • @grey7757
    @grey7757 Před 3 lety +4

    Today while celebrating my birthday I thought it would be awesome if Corey drop a video .
    What a beautiful gift!!!

  • @straightcashhomey1261
    @straightcashhomey1261 Před rokem +5

    No one mentioning the guy trying to bang another man’s wife and break up a family. What he and the wife are doing is despicable.

    • @Josh-fp2qn
      @Josh-fp2qn Před 10 měsíci

      Special place in hell for these degenerates.

  • @VictorSadkov
    @VictorSadkov Před 8 měsíci +2

    so fucking painful to listen to his episode. Well, that means I need to listen to it. Thank you, coach!

  • @kaybase6967
    @kaybase6967 Před 9 měsíci +1

    That’s why :
    1. You don’t rely on someone else for your happiness.
    2. You don’t let anyone walk all over you.
    3. You walk away easily when someone disrespects you because you don’t owe anyone an explanation after that .
    4. You treat others as they treat you.
    5. You don’t get married.

  • @vincem2320
    @vincem2320 Před 3 lety +2

    Coach do they sell your book and Barnes and Nobles? I want to buy myself one and my other friend too who really needs this info

  • @rickburgunder1687
    @rickburgunder1687 Před 3 lety +1

    Come onnn mann!

    • @lukehart7225
      @lukehart7225 Před 3 lety +1

      There was a coworker, who I found out has a boyfriend and I feel she may like me.. I was going to ask her out but, I won’t

  • @Don-pk2uy
    @Don-pk2uy Před 2 lety +1

    Not always , i was set to be the side guy before i even entered the relationship with her. Only by looking at her phone did i see who she really was

  • @ernestolopez23
    @ernestolopez23 Před 3 lety +9

    It never ceases to amaze me how some of these guys just let it happen and pretend its ok 🤦🏻‍♂️ how naive and delusional can you be? just cut that off already

    • @downtostandup
      @downtostandup Před 3 lety +7

      Being in love makes us real stupid

    • @magicj599
      @magicj599 Před 2 lety +2

      as a friend once said, the heart wants what the heart wants. Even if it becomes pain and misery.

  • @asecknsolo
    @asecknsolo Před 3 lety

    i think u need a little bit of lighting coach great videos

  • @themanman165
    @themanman165 Před rokem

    My gf is a flight attendant n yesterday she went out with a coworker for dinner but came right back to the hotel I just don’t kno how I should feel about it…in her profession they always all go out after a long flight working together n may I add they don’t kno each other n they don’t fly together at all it changes every flight

  • @lestatvamp8865
    @lestatvamp8865 Před 3 lety +11

    Push too hard they’ll claim you’re insecure 🙄

  • @thecanadianwill
    @thecanadianwill Před 3 lety +11

    how would i handle this with any of my women? "speech is silver but silence is golden".
    i let me actions speak and its funny how these women start to freak the F out when i start to draw away and seem to be loosing interest in them.

    • @bernardo_d2141
      @bernardo_d2141 Před 3 lety +5

      Indifference from the man makes them loose their shit 100 % its a scientific fact 👌

    • @butskiiueepp1625
      @butskiiueepp1625 Před 3 lety +1

      This is so true man. When you stop acting like you care it’s funny how they try harder to get your attention/validation. I use this all the time in my relationship. I’m loving, but when I notice she’s becoming indifference, I back off & let her come to me

  • @one7decimal2eight
    @one7decimal2eight Před 3 lety +4

    It starts if she sees you as the guy that she "settles"for. If she has to pursue you, and you tell her no from time to time and don't care whether she's there or not, she will be uncertain. And her not wanting to have you boot her out of your life if she views you as a catch. If she has to try, and you don't orbit her, and you make it clear that if she gets out of line you'll walk away in the snap of a finger, the chances are very very low of her cheating.
    So be the guy she looks at as the top guy. If you're not, do not get involved with her on a serious level. There are women out there right now that will view you as a catch. You just have to find them. If you want to find them that is.

  • @returnoftheschaef2084
    @returnoftheschaef2084 Před 3 lety +3

    I can’t see how anybody would ever put up with that shit

  • @HONdAVE
    @HONdAVE Před 3 lety

    C'mown Maannn!!

  • @calanorrecords2887
    @calanorrecords2887 Před 3 lety +4

    Set those boundaries quick!

  • @DanTrustsTheFathersPlan
    @DanTrustsTheFathersPlan Před 3 lety +2

    It starts with the beta! A-1 topic & video Coach💣💥

  • @davidp2888
    @davidp2888 Před 3 lety +14

    5:51 Everything from here forward is a huge red flag in my opinion. She's already stepping out on him.

  • @user-dt1kk1yc3q
    @user-dt1kk1yc3q Před rokem

    How should I address it if she keeps mentioning this guy? Part of me wants to say something but I am not sure if it is a shit test or not. We live together and have been together for 3.5 years. I read the book 3 times and was able to change my behavior and have changed some things but she still is mentioning this guys name positively.

  • @eltonmorgunov
    @eltonmorgunov Před 3 lety +5

    Dude I really wanna know the outcome of theses kind of stories !

  • @martineastland2455
    @martineastland2455 Před 5 měsíci

    With a single look and the thought that follows

  • @ericblair5365
    @ericblair5365 Před 3 lety +6

    I don’t do just friends.

    • @EdwardGFunk
      @EdwardGFunk Před 3 lety +1

      me n your mom started out as friends. it was a slippery slope bro.... we aren't friends anymore

  • @briggs1420
    @briggs1420 Před 3 lety +2

    On my boyfriends account. Dude, she should be wanting to spend her time with you as your friend and wife. Or you both going out with him and his date as couple friends. The fact he's single is not appropriate for friendship at all. You need to make couple friends.

  • @alexanderroller-knapp3201

    “Ohh baby you.. you got what I need...! But you say he’s just a friend, but you say he’s just a friend” from the great theologian Biz Markie! 🤣😂🤣

  • @ScottBlackula
    @ScottBlackula Před 3 lety +44

    She's crying and confessing to him because he left the job? Yeah she only sees her hubby as a therapist or gay male friend. All her attraction is to the other man.

  • @bustinacupp7440
    @bustinacupp7440 Před 3 lety +6

    9:14 haven’t laughed this hard in months

  • @nevnev112
    @nevnev112 Před 3 lety +32

    The relationship is over

    • @dannboy9698
      @dannboy9698 Před 3 lety +2

      Probably been over for a while she’s just now starting to not give a fuck what he thinks

  • @manuelz2305
    @manuelz2305 Před 3 lety +1

    Great advice coach
    I hope he gets his balls back
    I used to be him

  • @4eyemustsin
    @4eyemustsin Před 3 lety +53

    It starts with guy friends, Snapchat and onlyfans.

  • @buzzcountry1178
    @buzzcountry1178 Před 3 lety +37

    This woman is checking out Bro. She has the 7 year itch per say and is about to leave. She wants to quit work and bust you for child support and spousal. Get a lawyer.

  • @CalvinJamesJr
    @CalvinJamesJr Před 3 lety +2

    💯🔥💯🔥

  • @jmd12127
    @jmd12127 Před 3 lety +11

    The tattoo is a passive-aggressive way of saying, “This is MY body, not yours, and I will do what I please with it - up to and including screwing another guy.”

  • @isaka1293
    @isaka1293 Před 3 lety

    I have been dating a girl some months now. She asked what are we. I joked it. Then i stopped take text intiative. I met her random and I found out somethings wrong. After that she never sent me text as before. Should i call her? Its 3 weeks since

    • @sargeklein
      @sargeklein Před 3 lety +6

      Bitches they come they go, Saturday through Sunday Monday, Monday through Sunday yo

  • @tintingengen5601
    @tintingengen5601 Před 3 lety +2

    Ha, Corey you are so old fashioned in some ways. It is good to see as it stops me putting you on a pedestal. I love your stuff, by the way, and am currently up to 11 times with the 3% man. Your advice here is spot on, it is only your ideas that they shouldn't see men without you that is so old fashioned. Mind you I am polyamorous and so are my long term partners. I did the 25 year marriage long ago. I'm 64 now. Love your work and have found that older married women who are my sex and intimacy clients, really like it as well as it sets out truthfully what they still want from their long term husbands.

    • @noneofyourbusiness918
      @noneofyourbusiness918 Před 3 lety

      What do you mean by sex and intimacy clients?

    • @tintingengen5601
      @tintingengen5601 Před 3 lety +1

      @@noneofyourbusiness918 I am an adult sex and intimacy coach - which means that I am working with people's odd sex lives and relationships and why they do and don't work they way they would like them to. Corey gives great insight as regards both dating and some elements of failing ling term relationships. And so I recommended his book the last time to a couple in their 70's with over 50 years married.

  • @flexo334
    @flexo334 Před 3 lety +1

    What I want to know is how did he not see this coming. He must have gotten complacent at some point but surely she would have warned him and he ignored it? Either that or SHE BELONG TO THA STREETS!!

  • @aimeepare4188
    @aimeepare4188 Před 3 lety

    Following you on Parler now Coach!