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Let’s talk Lobola : Bride price, Dowry, Roora, Kitchen Party- from a Zambian Perspective
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- čas přidán 20. 01. 2021
- Hello everyone, today I am talking about #Lobola #roora #brideprice #dowry. What is dowry? Do we still need to be following such culture or norms in this day and age? This is an open conversation, sharing my perspective on the matter at hand. It will be beneficial to those who are not sure what the essence of lobola is. Therefore, I break down my understanding of lobola and why I think you should consider doing but of course it is up to you. This topic can get controversial, please don't be offended by anything said in this video there is no intention to offend anyone. Also, I touch a bit on #kitchen parties too. Are they sexist? Kaya let me know your thoughts.
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I love that you've shared this - it's so important that we remain rooted in our culture. I'm Zimbabwean and I felt so honoured when we wen through the process - it's such a beautiful custom and a sign of forming unity amongst the families. It's not about the amount of money or livestock but the respect, humility and gesture of good will between both families.
Congradulations on your lobelia journey x
Thanks so much Prim. I know many have no clue of the significance of lobola and I thought it would mean more it coming from a fellow young person like myself. You are also right, Lobola is more about the respect above everything thing material related.
Not Zambian but I believe we should hold on to our culture and traditions.
Agreed sis 💋 it is part of who we are
Very true, when most people move from Zambia they tend to forget about the culture for real. Love how you are a true Zambian at heart, inspiring!! 💕
Hey Nyanje, thank you so much for watching. I was unsure how this video would be received but so far, people can relate.x
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Great insight. I'm proud of where I come from, Zambia will always be me but I agree some questionable cultural things 😂 and especially having grown up 🇧🇼🇬🇧 BUT we must keep our culture. I'm in an interracial relationship and talking lobola was a special subject. But important to talk about for real
Oh yes there are certainly some aspects that I choose and others which I question. Most importantly, it is best to ask and be informed before ruling things out in my view. Glad you can relate x
Sisssssssss I am so happy that you made a video about lobola. I was one of those people who used to think the act of paying lobola is like purchasing a woman. Until today when I watched this video, I got to really understand what it means. You changed my perception on this matter definitely!!! I am so grateful for that❤️❤️
Kitchen Partyyyyyyy yessssssssss I love how you elaborated it. In Tanzania we do kitchen parties as well! I love attending them because there is just so much to learn.
I absolutely enjoyed this videoooooooo, very informative Sis!!!
This right here put a smile on my face because its exactly why I shared this video. I think it coming from a fellow young person, it carries more weight and my peers like yourself are more likely to listen than it coming from our elders because we might think they are just old fashioned. I am glad a played a role in helping you see things in a different light. I didn't know Kitchenparties are also done in TZ you know. Can covid be gone already so that I have my kitchen party please :)
@@Stephylately I agree with you Sis, the topic carries more weight when our peers speak about it🙌🏼. Yes we do kitchen parties, send offs, then the wedding!
I believe in lobola...I totally agree With everything you have talked about.
Glad we are on the same wave length x
Truly Zambian👍🏽. We indeed have to be proud.
I agree with you my dear & please don’t forget to upload your kitchen party video😊.
Thank you for watching Kanyanta. Ala whenever that will be , I hope I can share some clips
I definitely agree with you ❤️
Thank you sis x
I loved this video sis! And we would be totally lost as a people if we abandoned our culture and traditions as soon as we left our home country. I’m all for it and I was very excited to be able to experience the whole lobola thing - I’m equally looking forward to my kitchen party in the states! We have to represent our people wherever we are - also, my kids won’t have a choice in the matter, we will go through it 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 this was very informative!
Heyy sis! Iwe tell me about it. The richness of our culture is really underestimated to be honest. Glad you are equally embracing every single bit of the wedding process, from lobola to kitchen parties etc. We love to see it. As for the kids iye lol imwe they just have to understand mweh. Thanks for watching. I appreciate it x
Love this.. without our culture we are lost. Keep these topics coming ❤️❤️
Thank you so much my sister ❤️ honestly there are some cultures and Norms that are worth holding on to especially in the western world we live in now x
Your points are very well explained, i can only wish you the luck and enjoy the next phase in your life.
Thank you so much 😊
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I agree culture is very important 👌🏾💯
Glad you agree on this sis 🥰
Very well put you have done a tremendous job once again ❤️🙌🏾, we need to hold on to our culture it is indeed who we are and what sets us apart, i would have a kitchen party for sure, as per tradition i think its a beautiful tradition.
Aaaaw thank you so much sis. Staying true to my culture is something I can never shy away from. Glad we share similar sentiments and thank you for watching.
How much was your lobola price, because they are asking my son 20 000 dollar, while we are in south Africa, I want to have an idea
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Thank you 😊
Culture is evolving. It's not black or white like you pointed out with overcharging lobola so lots of Grey areas imo.
Absolutely! That’s why it’s important to educate those that might not know about it and the reasons why these cultures are done in the first place . The choice to go ahead is entirely personal . Thanks for watching. X
Hi Stephie. This is an interesting topic,and I would love to interview you on this issues in my radio show. I am based in SA ,and I would really love to have you in my show. Please can I humbly have your email address?