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This loner personality/against alphas a g e n d a is pushed hard by p o w e r s that c o n t r o l e a r t h - its seriously lame hearing these sookies. Trust me, there are more wannabes than actual Sigmas, sigma males are akin to lone wolves, which means they prefer to hunt on their own mostly because others dont like that type of wildness, which also means they are skilled as an entire pack on their own. also means they are tested frequently and growing up would of been in more altercations than even an alpha and won them all, because 1. we dgaf, 2. most dimwits and alphas dont recognize what we are and underestimate us, and most ppl who claim to be sigmas are too fruity and never had a life like that. Real Sigmas are silent Apex predators, they float between multiple packs and mostly have Alpha friends because they are the most relatable. A lonewolf is only thought as one when its alone, other times it blends in with the pack effortlessly. ppl think sigmas are out side of the hierarchy, but in truth they run multiple packs and usually leave an alpha in charge in their absence. Also very likely were part of a single pack in their youth and leading it and broke it in search for adventure where we cant take the entire pack with us. Are u telling me, a type that is the smartest wont eventually figure out to be THE BOSS, make millions and dominate? Seriously follow the LOGIC. "BECAUSE WE CHOOSE NOT TO" IS A THE BATTLE CRY OF A WEAKER TYPE. If you cant relate to this, i guarantee you are not a sigma, likely a confused/wannabe gamma or outcast beta like a bad employee who refuses to fall in line and definitely NOT a SIGMA. Understand this type is being watered down for the sake of the YT a l go ryth m. Why? because it is a rare type, and betas are very common. ppl want more l i k e s. Personally, while I had multiple groups of male friends when I went out, mostly I would go clubbing with 3-4 Females and still pick up, since my early 20s. If I have a gf, it would be her plus. With photos to prove. Anything else is beta tendencies and def not Alpha or Sigma. This watering down BS to cater for the beta range stops now.
We Sigmas are brave and beautiful survivors. Sooner or later we eventually we refuse Despite all the struggles, we refuse self betrayal. To all sisters in this journey, brave on with a fiercely open heart! The world needs you 🧜🏼♀️💙
Thanks. I have struggled but my stoic nature helped me achieve highly in academic study and research. I attained business prosperity. However I always self reflected. It took me until my early 60s to literally walk away from time wasters. I knew them before but gave them some credence for their position. I don't do that anymore. Literally it's like sod off and don't use my strength as your sticking plaster. Heal your own wounds if you actually want to. I'm a lot happier. My rebellious nature and humanistic view still causes problems with some idiots. But I will go on.
Yeah, well...now I am in stage of my life, that I do not pay flying f*ck to who thinks what about me and doing just me...of course, I do not hurt others, but I do not let others to manipulate me or hurt me. I am not taking internally any fucked up projections of soc iety on me or try to force my ideas into society...Take me as I am or take a hike, sweetie. 😂😂😂
The survivors of Narcissistic abuse by family members & others are literally now Sigmas.......we can smell people's intention by simply standing near them, look at their facial impressions, body languages, micro movements & the way they talk. We got no one in our lives.....we are all alone in this world......very few friends, relative, family members & a spouse that's all we got.
I am alone , I feel that it's safer for me to be alone. Misunderstood is normal. Quiet is safer. Turn pain into strength. Finding where I fit in, still searching.
For years and years I have said this. That I don't read minds but I read intentions. That it isn't magic but the combination of subtle gestures, movements, behaviors, etc that enable the ability to just Know what someone intends to do. So often I have wished to be wrong... It's so much better to periodically become a complete hermit
WE do survive, we are overcomers, but at what cost? I am lonely, distrustful, and I lack the level of vitality I was born with. After so many yrs. of being 'beat down' /I suffer greatly. Hopes of finding real joy are fading, very quickly now... A word to the young, leave the ones who are crushing your spirit, no matter what!
I found the right therapist and everything has changed - there is hope! I feel more fully myself than ever before (in my 50’s) and for the first time I like being me more than pleasing others.
I am a Sigma! Vitality ground down, fighting for my life, fighting to keep my actions to not spiral out. At 56, very difficult but we can do it! My life has always been about transformation, and wrangling with this slow death could be a rebirth. This gives me hope. Darkest before dawn! Keep up!
Turn off your phone. Go for a walk where there are not any people. Don’t think about your problems, or anyone else’s. You are there to go for a walk. Reconnect with nature and your self. Find your center amidst the raging storm inside of you. You are in that storm. Calm the storm, and rediscover your self. Learn to love you again. That is the first step. It will be ok again.
At 52, I am afraid that I am beginning to suspect that 'ignorance is bliss' and that my half-century's long drive for truth could and should have been spent on much different endeavors.
I am a sigma woman of 70 and a lot of my battery came from trying to resign or conform over and over to the whims of others. I was a rebel often confrontational to defend my free spirit and the more I took a stand the more those around me from childhood to adult would do all they could to control, break or bend me. Only now at 70 will I walk away from everything and everyone that does not serve my happiness. Consequence is I am alone a lot but it’s freedom.
I am 75 and I remember being forced to go to a Catholic elementary school ....with violent nasty Irish nuns, and my friends all went to public school. This set me apart from my childhood block buddies. I HATED THAT SCHOOL and I rebelled. While being a good student....i rebelled against the idiotic brainwashing. When it came time to take the test for Catholic High School....I simply didnt take the test. My father never forgave me and punished me by eventually disinheriting his only child and making my daughter into their "Golden Child." She lives in lavish luxury while I struggle to make ends meet because they stole the home I poured all ny life's money into when they told me it was my inheritance from my grandmother who paid for the home....wanted me to have it...but it was in my father's name. After they cut a deal with my ex husband to get custody of my daughter, they got all my alimony and child support and when that stopped and the kid was grown....they evicted me from the home I had poured my life's blood into and over $150,000 because they told me it was my insurance for my old age. My daughter spent their money wildly on stupid things , fancy cars, boob jobs, tattoos and then tattoo removeal...while I lived frugally, never taking a nickel from my parents and putting myself through college....She stole money from employers, did drugs, destroyed their car, partied and lived a wild life of excess and was rewarded while I was ostracized. In the end, we only live in one room at a time....we are born alone and die alone. In spite of everything I have been through, my only regret is not telling them the truth ....that they ae despicable people....
Same. My mother is a narcissist. She was always jealous of my love for animals. She hated that I loved them so much. I tell younger people to be very cautious of others. Humans are predators and should be treated accordingly. You have to watch them for a good while. Not just around you, but around others as well. Watch how they treat children and animals, public workers such as waiters in restaurants, how they react to others when driving, and listen to comments they make that devalue certain people or groups. They can dress nice, say all the right things, and still be completely horrible.
To all sigmas, regardless of any genders, who have been abused (and to all who were abused), know that you all are extremely resilient. To go through and having to rely on yourself for support. You all should be very proud of yourselves! I am not talking about arrogance, but rather to be proud that you all went through and overcome difficulties! Be proud of yourself.
Oh man I just had a heavy sob session reading that. When I'm really down and out I try to tell myself I'm good I don't deserve the mistreatment. For soooo long I would beat myself up with the same words that were used against me. It completely broke me, I didn't recognize myself, I hated myself. I started to write, and that's something I tell myself now looking back at my notes. That I'm proud. I should be proud! Cus I'm not that person anymore. Take it as you want, I fought so hard to get here. And I'll be damned if I let anyone rob me of my light again. We should be SO proud!! Noone else can see your struggles so you know what it took to get you here. Be proud. I love that message so much. Ty for reminding me!!!!!!!! I hope you all are having a wonderful day ❤
I am 50 and fully identify as a Sigma female being abused in the childhood by narcissistic parents. I struggle my whole life with the feeling of not fitting, of being cold, etc. And I continued to have toxic relationships with friends and lovers just because that’s only what I knew. Recently I quit everything, my husband, my comfortable life, my family because the burden was too high. Everyone was very surprised. I just vanished with all my stuff. I am finally realising who I am thanks to your videos. Thanks a lot !
@@valerievandermotten2414 Taking care of yourself matters very, very much! I am happy you are making positive choices for yourself -- everyone deserves freedom and power over their own lives. There are great therapists out there, also. Healing is a journey. You are not alone. Take good care. Enjoy your life on your own terms with no guilt. 😊
These words brought tears to my eyes...every single word relates to my life, in detail. I managed to forge a decent life for myself in marriage although always with words of blame and shame. He finally left when my disability became too much after 29 yrs. Alone, without children or family I shred every layer of life and pain. Now at 65 I am aware of my greatness and bravery in all I had to deal with in life. The fight is finally all over and my life is surrounded by beauty. Not one person truly accepted my childhood trauma and chose to label me troublesome. I was always kind and thoughtful but people just do t deserve it . I love myself , my dog, my home and garden. I'm lucky. I thank the universe.🙏
I love you. You are here for a reason. Never forget that. And always stay bright. I can tell just reading your message how beautiful you truly are. It's a shame they could not see it, but in the same way it's also beautiful as they don't deserve your light anyway. Keep shining lovely ❤ you filled me with inspiration and warmth. Thank you. We got this❤ we got us❤
This helps me understand myself. My entire life was filled with expected duties for the family and my mom told me I was stupid all the time. Almost every significant person in my life has betrayed me. I taught myself to turn pain into power and am now a successful entrepreneur and I am alone. I am healing from a recent betrayal by my ex boyfriend and turning pain into power and will immensely and intensely enjoy giving all those people that betrayed me the middle finger in the most graceful and quiet way. Because success is the best revenge. 1,000 times fall down, 1,001 times stand up. Be strong people, it eventually feels good. I love you all, spread it around because this world needs it.
As a result, due to their life experiences some sigma persona drawn to spirituality, some becomes leader, some as a trainer/coach. This introvert nature helps them to gain hidden knowledge, to enhanced their intuition power, very sharp mind and ability to read others mind and their activities silently. Thus, in other words it is the people who makes her strong having strong leadership mind and lead others. Thanks to those who made beautiful personality in me. Here I embrace my personality.😊
Your comment is greatly appreciated and your reflection is truly insightful. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts, it adds a valuable perspective to the conversation.❤
Yes, they're naturally observant, which is enhanced by their path. But it is not a personality, which is something you acquire/develop, nor it is "given" by anyone. It's very similar to an archetypal path, which has its roots in instinct. Shaped by experience, it drives one's actions. People may incorporate certain sigma traits as part of their growth journey, but to truly walk a sigma path isn't a choice. It's tied directly to your NATURE, and as such, it's inevitable.
This reminds me of a song sung by Whitney Houson... "Everybody searching for a hero People need someone to look up to I never found anyone who fulfill my needs A lonely place to be And so I learned to depend on me I decided long ago Never to walk in anyone's shadows If I fail, if I succeed At least I'll live as I believe No matter what they take from me They can't take away my dignity Because the greatest love of all Is happening to me I found the greatest love of all Inside of me"
Omg. I used to sing this song all the time when I was a little girl. I was raised by my alcoholic Dad. Only child. Wow. Crazy the feelings I feel as I see these lyrics for the first time in years. Thanks for sharing.
I just discovered that I'm a sigma female and I can't get over how accurate everything is, even my hardships are accurate and I'm just at the very beginning of discovering all of this. I am so mind blown!! I'm so grateful cause this is a big, huge puzzle piece. Have been asking Jesus to help me find my true self and true identity and then I stumble over this 🤯🤯 whaaaat? Now everything is making sense. I'm a sigma female ♡
Now i understand myself better. I thought i was truly stubborn, don't talk much about my pains and experiences, kept almost everything within me. Sometimes i just wanted to explode. As most of my family members say all the time "why are u so different than the rest?"
I'm definitely her. 😢 Rough. Still on a path to surviving as an adult now. I am a survivor who didn't give. Everything I relate to with an exception of having emotionally or physically available parents parents. They both were damaged. So they couldn't do a good job raising Healthy children. I didn't understand because my mom's parents was there 😔
I come from a family with 7 kids, and I was totally the black sheep. I have one sister and she was a narcissist, and was the worst of all of them. I was hurt a lot, and constantly rejected, so I turned out to be a Sigma! Life happens, we just have to try to learn from it when it does! I'm 55 and have two brothers, and my sister is all that's left. I finally realized that I had to walk away. About 4 to 5 years ago! I don't need them!
My father was the narcissist, my mother and sister his enablers. I was 17 when I walked out of their lives. It would have been 15 but I didn't have a safe place to stay at 15.
hi sweetheart how are you am a sigma male and i have done alot for my whole family and i done the same dont need them i have always wanted to met a sigma female as a friend as i have never met a sigma male or sigma female so if want a chat i would welcome a chat take care stay true to yourself dont change for anyone or for anything
Exactly! My boyfriend says I'm just nosey, or crazy, because I watch everything and study everything and everyone it's just curiousosity and a awareness of things other people aren't aware of.
Sadly she is me. Every single one of these is me. Daughter of a narcissistic mother that chose me as her scapegoat, and a father that has no defenses because of his own traumatic childhood coupled with the horrors of Vietnam. I am incredibly hard on myself because of this. I have recently decided that I do not wish to continue these struggles. I wish to put my armour down and be who I am meant to be. I can only accomplish this by letting go of all of them and walking forward alone. I just keep reminding myself that I have always been alone, the only difference is the final inner acceptance.
This honestly made me cry😢. I’m a loner but put on a bubbly cheerful facade.😢I was called difficult and stubborn, add, and I was misunderstood. I could never express my concerns.
I had a mother that was controlling. It was hell growing up with her. I got pregnant at 17 and moved out with the baby’s father. It was the only way to escape her and I'm glad I did. I was traumatized by her and I had to do a lot of work to find who I was. It took many years but I did it. I do have triggers but I know what to do when the memories surface. Thank you for this video.
BS!! Your spirit slowly dies including the potential of who you were suppose to be..your mind and soul will crack over time and never heal particularly in this upside-down world. Stop this nonsensical trope! 😮
2:02 we grow up to become assertive, confident and extroverts yet with an avoidant attachment style, we fear intimacy of every kind, we are loyal and trustworthy but we don't trust anyone apart from ourselves
Im still healing from 40 plus narcissistic years but I am alone and extremely happy. I always make me happy, make the best of what I have to work with ❤ glad to know theres many of us
Make no mistake. If you are constantly looking for someone to punish or get revenge on. You are not healed and have no business doing anything else but healing.
Same, I have a dysfunctional family and few friends but I've never had anybody to relate to... I'm a deep thinker, I crave connection but only find superficiality which doesn't satisfy my needs albeit I'm happy to help everybody
We moved every 3 years due to Dads military service. As a child I was aware of the world as a mystery to be revealed. Trauma hit me very young, so young that my parents still have difficulty with how I could remember anything from age 3. But the trauma never left me, instead it followed. With every move, I watched my brother and sister cry when saying goodbye to friends. This taught me at a young age to not get attached to anything or anyone. With every move, every mile driven down a highway to a different state, I suppose I recognized then the rareness of reality. My mother, father, brother, sister, moon, sun and stars where the only thing real in my world. As a teenager, I had mastered fitting in and putting strangers at ease, even as a loner. In the many friendships of life, nothing matters more than depth and without it, I'd rather stay silent.
Yes agreed, this resonates with Sigma. Well Sigma Females are very loving caring, nurturing, curious to know or learn things, seeking for a guidance, motivation, moral support from people around her but when she finds pressure, and she realize people and the society around her, are mentally sick they themselves are stuck and struggling with their own problems, then she keep herself mum. As she grow adult and she will changed herself frm extrovert to introvert. There she deal her problems by herself with her divinely gifted compass that is her intuition, ability to understand things, knowledge and with her inner strength. There she realises inner peace, and solitude are best tools and technic to overcome the situation. There the Sigma personality will born😊 Thanks for sharing the video.Thanks for sharing the video.
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I am 69 and now my adult daughters expected me to conform to a societal norm of being a grandmother. I dislike continuing to cater to children after having to cater to my siblings, as I am the eldest of six children and I have had to cater to them since the age of seven. I married young and had five children by the age of 28. Now I am free to do as I please and standing my ground to be free and unattached to anyone.
I'm learning so much about myself as a sigma woman and I'm at a point in my life when all the negative emotions have been hidden inside for too long and I want to safely explode or discover who I really am without causing harm to those around me. Please do send in more videos to guide me.
Because of these traits I have led a very unconventional adult life. I raised very independent children, in spite of my own damaged self and continued need for healing. Sadly, I am an adult orphan and my husband has emotionally abandoned our marriage. He has been my one person with whom I could be vulnerable and grow.a something has caused him to give up on himself, on me, and on our relationship. It feels very lonely to be in this situation. If I were actually alone, I do not think I would feel such loneliness. Degenerative disease has made my body weak and unreliable, kin spite of my strong will and spirit. This also has .put me into a position in which I am trapped. Illness Interrupts my attempts to find freedom from this oppression. I am continually thinking of ways that I can escape or create a solution to this heavy problem even as I maintain hope for reconciliation and revival in marriage. This reminded me of my unique gifts and strength at a time when my confidence is fading.
I’ve discovered since my father died in2011 he was a malignant narcissist who abused me as a child as a scapegoat . My mother turned a blind eye to it and is 85 years old and is herself abusive. She’s passive aggressive and still pours acid on me as I speak of my CPTSD and autoimmune disorders I got from the stress abuse and nobody protecting me. My mother says I should take my abuse to the grave. I’m embarrassing her and the church who covered it up too. She tells me I’m going to h*ll for talking about how my father abused and assaulted me. He threatened to murder me and bury me in the backyard. My mother is still covering up saying it’s making a bad name for God and the church. I’m the victim but I should cover up what my abusers did to me.I have remembered things I suppressed my entire life. I was taught to normalize it. I internalized everything and blamed myself as that’s what abusers teach their victims that it’s their fault. I always felt inherently flawed like I was undeserving. I’m trying to heal myself knowing I came through the fire and need to reprogram my twisted thoughts about myself. I never knew who I was and even questioned if I truly existed. I’m trying to hold on and become somewhat of the fragmented person I should have been. Abuse has destroyed my soul. I know I’m some sort of empath, but not sure which one. I have a lot of anger and unresolved hurt inside me I need help with. I have cut ties with the gaslighters and lying deceivers in my family. I have friends who are now my family as they have experienced terrible abuse as well as children. We have bonded through our terrible painful past.
I have had a very similar experience and background and now that I am close to my 70s I am finally peaceful and happy most of the time. It takes a lot of work and finding those friends who have had similar experiences will help you. Good luck to you.
@@traceyarnaud8433 thank you so much my abused friends have helped me so much. They understand like others cannot imagine. I’m so glad you’re at a happier place. I’m trying to get there but my mother is trying to prevent that for me. If I take it to the grave I will never heal. She’s 85 years old and can do what she wants it’s just sad she can’t be here for me. She thinks she’s normal but snapped a long x ago. She’s a terrible hoarder who never cleans her home living in filth. We lived in filth as children too. She’s as warm as a cold 🥶 fish. She’ll never apologize and say she’s sorry for her terrible choices that hurt me so badly. Before my father died he asked for forgiveness. I have forgiven him but I don’t think I’ll ever get that from my mother because she believes she’s the victim. Sadly she doesn’t even see what she really is. I had to break contract with her and my other narcissistic family that carry on the family curse. I’m glad I never became a narcissist or passive aggressive. I have two wonderful empathic sons and 3 beautiful grandchildren. I need to focus on them. They are all the family I have besides my current wonderfully supportive husband. Best wishes to you ❤️
My dear ❤, your soul can never be destroyed. You'll see that after your healing process, you'll become really strong 💪 I'm glad that you finally broke free from the abusers. And as far as the abusers go, all that I can say is that what goes around comes around....that is universal law and you cannot escape it. Love & Light to you 💓🙏
It’s uncanny how familiar your story feels, thank you so much for sharing. Today I’m turning 47 and it’s been 3 years since I cut ties with my whole family. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through, my saving grace is my husband, first person to treat me with respect and show me what it feels to truly be loved.
Finally! I get it. I had a narc mom and an overprotective dad. Stifled my feelings. Tried to fit in but never could. Dad still says I'm stubborn. Ended up in abusive narc relationships.
I had the reverse, but mum always took dad's side, so he kinda won in the end! They both lived and died together, but separate from their 3 kids, especially myself, the middle child who always worked outside the box and copped hell for it! The odd one out, that was me!
thank you very much for this video...this is a very accurate depiction of me & it actually helps to know that there are others "like" me... that there is nothing "wrong" with me...
Hello, I am allready 73 years old. Over and over I was trying to elliminate all the wrong reaktions, but I still am over and over on the same point. I am so tired of it and do not know whether it is realistic to believe for healing. God bless you all Helena
I came across your comment while having never heard about sigma women before really. Though healing is possible and the age does not matter. learn about your thoughts, about your emotional states and trauma that shape our reactions. You said, you want to react differently. So, it's about understanding where your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors come from. First steps of change are awareness and understanding, there are five steps. ❤ I believe in you.
I am a Sigma, I must say to myself constantly concerning the reactions of other people "Be cautious, this is here, what we can never go so far to understand and we stay by now where we are!" I have grasped with time that before you see someone as a source of any real and important information you have to make sure this someone spreads really Love in his life: for others, for his doings or for himself. Otherwise all his orality must be crap... Thank You!!:))!!👍🌷🌈🌞💟💫
Pressure to conform when in childhood and more pressure to insure the prevention of unhappiness and /or loneliness in adulthood. But no encouragement to find her own path for her unique existence. Such is the world and social norms . It’s a disregard for the importance of someone’s life to not follow someone else’s path.
How do you know 🤔 "Being called names becomes a constant reminder that you don't fit in. Adopting a sweet persona becomes their survival strategy". Trying to walk about the world as my actual self has been absolutely painful and harrowing. Just existing as myself is enough to make strangers hate me. I've been diagnosed with Autism. Definitely resigned myself to a life that is unfulfilling because I don't see a way out.
I’m sorry you are in pain. I’m 67 now and felt like you in the past. My solace and my times of joy come from nature and being alone with my pets, books and art. It isn’t easy but I hope you find a way to be in this difficult world. You are not alone.
I always been a outcast/blacksheep , the villain of the family and people that will never understand me 🤷🏻♀️ well most of my life is along and I’m cool with it
It is not easy to sway me, but this is so accurate, it has a solid honest description of how I experience the world. It also strikes me, that listening to this, gave me a sense of positive recognition in myself. It would depend on someone hears these points, if they see these as negative traits, then that taints their view of a sigma woman. I hear it in strength and fortitude and arriving at sovereignty, success to me! So love this channel, subscribed just now!
you described me and my entire life in this short video, whereas my own people never even tried to understand me for once, I've always been judged for who I am and what I am and its tiring and heart breaking, bcoz of what all I've been through or I've faced in my life I've become quite detached now from everything even from life itself.
I had no idea. I want to support a hurt sigma woman by giving her someone she deserves and also respecting her needs and situation throughout. I have to earn her trust with actions and will work to that hope of a beautiful future for both of us after we get to know each other and if we want it. Also I wish that I was less selfish and nicer all the time.
And be truthful to her because ones she found you are not honest you are dead for the rest of her life no matter what you say or do after that she is finished with you. Sigmas are best friends and partners but they can cut people from one day to another without even ever wanting to see them again.
I've never known what's a "friend " during my entire childhood. I didn't have anyone I could trust, no family members, none.Now, I don't feel emotions at all.
@veraasentista4837 it was bad to hear about your suffering, I believe now you have become clever, defensive and strong woman, that is called Sigma. Keep going as a strong woman 💎🌹👍
Begin by becoming aware of your belief that it is your duty and responsibility to nurture and rescue others. That’s how the covert attracted and trapped you, was he took advantage of your compulsion to heal and prioritize other people’s needs above your own needs. Be kind to yourself - you are on the dawn of your own destiny and awakening! You are precious and worthy of safeguarding your deepest being. 🌸
This is a very accurate video 😔 I am finding that facing awareness about many of these facts is both great and exhausting at the same time. Also when I try to explain these concepts to my over controlling mother she just does not get them. She doesn’t even listen or tries to understand my reality so it is quite a challenge that some need to accept. My mom will not learn or change at 80 years old so I guess I simply need to accept that I will not have that loving easy going mother daughter relationship that some have. I am happy for them, truly, I just wish I could have get to know what that is too ❤. Very good video thank you ❤❤❤
My own mother died several years ago at age 87 and she was my main tormentor. I went no contact when it became clear that she didn’t love me or have my best interests at heart. You may need to do the same if it’s really bad. Good luck to you.
When I was a child of 6, I painted a blue Christmas tree in my Christmas painting class. My teacher was outraged at my tree not being green, and she tore it up in front of the entire class.
Pressure to conform when in childhood and more pressure to insure the prevention of unhappiness and /or loneliness in adulthood. But no encouragement to find her own path for her unique existence. Such is the world and social norms . It’s a disregard for the importance of someone’s life to not follow someone else’s path.some people are not supposed to get married . And that doesn’t apply only to eunuchs. Some people choose to become eunuchs for reasons that society does not understand and doesn’t care to. But they speak evil of what they don’t understand anyway.
I won't bore you with my journey but let's say mommy dearest didn't have anything on my mom. I can relate to every single thing you said. And then some. I thank Jesus for helping me in my times of hardships and helping me over come the hateful negativity growing up. I am Grateful for my relationship with you. Amen. Lessons learned and maturity over the years within
Only 58 still attempting to define who I am, while recovering from the hurt!❤ Attempting to put my life together, always lived under my means!❤ Thoughts, small accomplishments never celebrated!❤ Very true most comfortable with me!❤ No one understands but the author of this channel does!❤ It’s such a relief to know there is others!❤ Peace & Blessings!❤
I relate to this, self discovery through creative expression has been my saving grace and supported me going deeper into my internal world whilst expanding more into the external. Such a rewarding path that I love sharing with others, we are all always creating ❤
How can I heal myself from all that scars, I have started questioning my worth, thank you for giving words to my feelings, I can't coop with this world
Cutting the people who makes you feel that way and try to find love in yourself more as in others, you can start with gratitude videos or motivation for self love. There are many in you tube.
Hi, I came acroos your comments .Anyway, how I can heal myself all that scars. I believe to start loving yourself everyday and if you can walk away any toxic situation and people just allow yourself to walk away and make peace with yourself.I want you to know that you are not alone in this world and we are all connected and no matter how far or near?Have a bless day and never give up because tomorrow is another day and God loves you..
I have almost always felt like an imposter in my own life. The only time I truly feel like me is when I'm by myself. I'm not anti-social, I just don't feel like I fit into the molds that others expect of me. Over coming the trauma of being raised by a very toxic narcissistic mother and having a very toxic narcissistic sister as been a very long journey. I take life one day at a time.
The challenges and how deeply they can wound a sigma are accurate, but not a sigma's response to them. They'll exhibit detachment, isolation, aggression, self-harm even, they'll become more observant and quiet, but never resort to people pleasing. Sure, they want to feel liked, but they won't change who they are for it; what they learn with time is to stop caring when people reject them. They DO have a sense of self from an early age, diffuse, it's true, but enough strong to know who they're not and guide them, and an intuition that sees through people; if they are pushed to act against their beliefs, they do so consciously, rather than to please, confusion or poor sense of self. Non-conformism is too structural to their profile to be taken away as narrated. That is why they're rare. They're not affected by trauma the same way as other profiles.
I don't know... I'm 100% Sigma, but the part about people pleasing made me cry because it was so real. I wouldn't "do anything" to please people, but I know now that my efforts to roleplay/not rock the boat/not draw attention and just get home to my "safe place" are devaluing. I'm 45 and all of this feeling isolated is finally making sense.
@@shellyshell311 If that was your effort, then you don't have a sigma profile. There might be some traits in common, but by not displaying its most defining one early on, it’s clear you don't have its nature.
Thank you for this video as I have found myself in it. What a liberating experience. Something I have known but now I see it is a "thing" and it is many of us. SO I joined this community to help me understand me even better and read other Ladies stories! All the best to all of you here in the comment forum. Jana
In my childhood I was sure that my parents are not really my biologucal parents, this was my bekief, always wanted to find answers why I am so different. I was unloved. And remain a kind of outsider in my whole life.
I didn't know about this thing called "alpha, beta, sigma, etc personalities" had this not pops up in my recommendations...now im learning even more about myself and some of my friends..
Looks like all points true for me I will listen to it again * PS so, all points still valid, but 3 (I think). People pleasing went away about 20 years ago. Especially those people, that ain't my family members or close friends. I did mistakes, yes I did. I understood it not long ago. I am just very angry for now. Separating lentils from peas in my soul. I'm at point 4. And 5. Actually working in the real garden. Just making some sence of it and in attempt to control real (not torny, but just dirty) vines . Real wild vines. I do need physical exercise and something that I enjoy doing it. Your video was quite useful for me, since I don't have close narcissistic relationships, only some neighbours that are dysfunctional and mentally (probably) unhealthy. Thank you for the insight and many valid points. It is very important to me and very useful
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100% accurate. Thanks for sharing! Just curious: why this spread of youtube videos on Sigma females and why associated with stoicism?
I too want to know why.
Damn. Living in a state of perpetual confusion. That describes the first 48 years...
You got me at 💯 perfectly, exactly. Thank you for your understanding.
This loner personality/against alphas a g e n d a is pushed hard by p o w e r s that c o n t r o l e a r t h - its seriously lame hearing these sookies. Trust me, there are more wannabes than actual Sigmas, sigma males are akin to lone wolves, which means they prefer to hunt on their own mostly because others dont like that type of wildness, which also means they are skilled as an entire pack on their own. also means they are tested frequently and growing up would of been in more altercations than even an alpha and won them all, because 1. we dgaf, 2. most dimwits and alphas dont recognize what we are and underestimate us, and most ppl who claim to be sigmas are too fruity and never had a life like that. Real Sigmas are silent Apex predators, they float between multiple packs and mostly have Alpha friends because they are the most relatable. A lonewolf is only thought as one when its alone, other times it blends in with the pack effortlessly. ppl think sigmas are out side of the hierarchy, but in truth they run multiple packs and usually leave an alpha in charge in their absence. Also very likely were part of a single pack in their youth and leading it and broke it in search for adventure where we cant take the entire pack with us. Are u telling me, a type that is the smartest wont eventually figure out to be THE BOSS, make millions and dominate? Seriously follow the LOGIC. "BECAUSE WE CHOOSE NOT TO" IS A THE BATTLE CRY OF A WEAKER TYPE. If you cant relate to this, i guarantee you are not a sigma, likely a confused/wannabe gamma or outcast beta like a bad employee who refuses to fall in line and definitely NOT a SIGMA. Understand this type is being watered down for the sake of the YT a l go ryth m. Why? because it is a rare type, and betas are very common. ppl want more l i k e s. Personally, while I had multiple groups of male friends when I went out, mostly I would go clubbing with 3-4 Females and still pick up, since my early 20s. If I have a gf, it would be her plus. With photos to prove. Anything else is beta tendencies and def not Alpha or Sigma. This watering down BS to cater for the beta range stops now.
'Being alone is the only time we truly feel safe'
Yeah. This one hit me.
That hit me hard, too.
I agree
yep agreed
Definitely ❤
We Sigmas are brave and beautiful survivors. Sooner or later we eventually we refuse Despite all the struggles, we refuse self betrayal.
To all sisters in this journey, brave on with a fiercely open heart! The world needs you 🧜🏼♀️💙
Thanks. I have struggled but my stoic nature helped me achieve highly in academic study and research. I attained business prosperity. However I always self reflected. It took me until my early 60s to literally walk away from time wasters. I knew them before but gave them some credence for their position. I don't do that anymore. Literally it's like sod off and don't use my strength as your sticking plaster. Heal your own wounds if you actually want to. I'm a lot happier. My rebellious nature and humanistic view still causes problems with some idiots. But I will go on.
Yeah, well...now I am in stage of my life, that I do not pay flying f*ck to who thinks what about me and doing just me...of course, I do not hurt others, but I do not let others to manipulate me or hurt me. I am not taking internally any fucked up projections of soc iety on me or try to force my ideas into society...Take me as I am or take a hike, sweetie. 😂😂😂
I'm just working that out! Thank goodness
@@user-qd6qi4wd7osounds like you’re the idiot.
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The survivors of Narcissistic abuse by family members & others are literally now Sigmas.......we can smell people's intention by simply standing near them, look at their facial impressions, body languages, micro movements & the way they talk. We got no one in our lives.....we are all alone in this world......very few friends, relative, family members & a spouse that's all we got.
I am alone , I feel that it's safer for me to be alone. Misunderstood is normal. Quiet is safer. Turn pain into strength. Finding where I fit in, still searching.
For years and years I have said this. That I don't read minds but I read intentions. That it isn't magic but the combination of subtle gestures, movements, behaviors, etc that enable the ability to just Know what someone intends to do. So often I have wished to be wrong... It's so much better to periodically become a complete hermit
@@ponderthis6102look inwardly for that
And some don’t even have that,
But God is still good 😌
I'm a male, however I relate precisely and incisively to what you've stated in your video comment.
WE do survive, we are overcomers, but at what cost? I am lonely, distrustful, and I lack the level of vitality I was born with. After so many yrs. of being 'beat down' /I suffer greatly. Hopes of finding real joy are fading, very quickly now... A word to the young, leave the ones who are crushing your spirit, no matter what!
Sadly, same here...just ground down..the resilience has died.
I found the right therapist and everything has changed - there is hope! I feel more fully myself than ever before (in my 50’s) and for the first time I like being me more than pleasing others.
I am a Sigma! Vitality ground down, fighting for my life, fighting to keep my actions to not spiral out. At 56, very difficult but we can do it! My life has always been about transformation, and wrangling with this slow death could be a rebirth. This gives me hope. Darkest before dawn! Keep up!
Turn off your phone. Go for a walk where there are not any people. Don’t think about your problems, or anyone else’s. You are there to go for a walk. Reconnect with nature and your self. Find your center amidst the raging storm inside of you. You are in that storm. Calm the storm, and rediscover your self. Learn to love you again. That is the first step. It will be ok again.
At 52, I am afraid that I am beginning to suspect that 'ignorance is bliss' and that my half-century's long drive for truth could and should have been spent on much different endeavors.
I am a sigma woman of 70 and a lot of my battery came from trying to resign or conform over and over to the whims of others.
I was a rebel often confrontational to defend my free spirit and the more I took a stand the more those around me from childhood to adult would do all they could to control, break or bend me.
Only now at 70 will I walk away from everything and everyone that does not serve my happiness. Consequence is I am alone a lot but it’s freedom.
I'm 55 and I am her the same❤
I’m 70 !
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I am 71 and have become the same.💖
I am 75 and I remember being forced to go to a Catholic elementary school ....with violent nasty Irish nuns, and my friends all went to public school. This set me apart from my childhood block buddies. I HATED THAT SCHOOL and I rebelled. While being a good student....i rebelled against the idiotic brainwashing. When it came time to take the test for Catholic High School....I simply didnt take the test. My father never forgave me and punished me by eventually disinheriting his only child and making my daughter into their "Golden Child." She lives in lavish luxury while I struggle to make ends meet because they stole the home I poured all ny life's money into when they told me it was my inheritance from my grandmother who paid for the home....wanted me to have it...but it was in my father's name. After they cut a deal with my ex husband to get custody of my daughter, they got all my alimony and child support and when that stopped and the kid was grown....they evicted me from the home I had poured my life's blood into and over $150,000 because they told me it was my insurance for my old age. My daughter spent their money wildly on stupid things , fancy cars, boob jobs, tattoos and then tattoo removeal...while I lived frugally, never taking a nickel from my parents and putting myself through college....She stole money from employers, did drugs, destroyed their car, partied and lived a wild life of excess and was rewarded while I was ostracized. In the end, we only live in one room at a time....we are born alone and die alone. In spite of everything I have been through, my only regret is not telling them the truth ....that they ae despicable people....
I have never heard of a “sigma woman” before but this video astonishingly describes me perfectly.
Right?! I literally froze and started listening to him describe me so specifically. It’s validating
With all the things that happened to me - narcissistic abuse and CSA - I felt very alone. These videos show that I have a community.
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Me too
You are not alone. ❤
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People have been the bane of my existence.
Same. My mother is a narcissist. She was always jealous of my love for animals. She hated that I loved them so much. I tell younger people to be very cautious of others. Humans are predators and should be treated accordingly. You have to watch them for a good while. Not just around you, but around others as well. Watch how they treat children and animals, public workers such as waiters in restaurants, how they react to others when driving, and listen to comments they make that devalue certain people or groups. They can dress nice, say all the right things, and still be completely horrible.
I understand you completely. Could be my words.
I don't like people, crowds or being out in public. I avoid people I know just so I don't have to speak to them.
I do t want anyone to suffer but I’d rather not be around them. 😅
And mine.
To all sigmas, regardless of any genders, who have been abused (and to all who were abused), know that you all are extremely resilient. To go through and having to rely on yourself for support. You all should be very proud of yourselves! I am not talking about arrogance, but rather to be proud that you all went through and overcome difficulties! Be proud of yourself.
Oh my goodness I just burst into tears. Yes to go through hardship and relying on yourself for support shows such strength and resilience.
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Oh man I just had a heavy sob session reading that. When I'm really down and out I try to tell myself I'm good I don't deserve the mistreatment. For soooo long I would beat myself up with the same words that were used against me. It completely broke me, I didn't recognize myself, I hated myself. I started to write, and that's something I tell myself now looking back at my notes. That I'm proud. I should be proud! Cus I'm not that person anymore. Take it as you want, I fought so hard to get here. And I'll be damned if I let anyone rob me of my light again. We should be SO proud!! Noone else can see your struggles so you know what it took to get you here. Be proud. I love that message so much. Ty for reminding me!!!!!!!! I hope you all are having a wonderful day ❤
@@jaeebaee2353 Remain Strong 💪
@@laurafeher9694 Thank you for your support, you as well💜
I am 50 and fully identify as a Sigma female being abused in the childhood by narcissistic parents. I struggle my whole life with the feeling of not fitting, of being cold, etc. And I continued to have toxic relationships with friends and lovers just because that’s only what I knew. Recently I quit everything, my husband, my comfortable life, my family because the burden was too high. Everyone was very surprised. I just vanished with all my stuff. I am finally realising who I am thanks to your videos. Thanks a lot !
Glad You're Standing In Integrity🌿
@@valerievandermotten2414 Taking care of yourself matters very, very much! I am happy you are making positive choices for yourself -- everyone deserves freedom and power over their own lives. There are great therapists out there, also. Healing is a journey. You are not alone. Take good care. Enjoy your life on your own terms with no guilt. 😊
I understand
These words brought tears to my eyes...every single word relates to my life, in detail. I managed to forge a decent life for myself in marriage although always with words of blame and shame. He finally left when my disability became too much after 29 yrs. Alone, without children or family I shred every layer of life and pain. Now at 65 I am aware of my greatness and bravery in all I had to deal with in life. The fight is finally all over and my life is surrounded by beauty. Not one person truly accepted my childhood trauma and chose to label me troublesome. I was always kind and thoughtful but people just do t deserve it . I love myself , my dog, my home and garden. I'm lucky. I thank the universe.🙏
I love you. You are here for a reason. Never forget that. And always stay bright. I can tell just reading your message how beautiful you truly are. It's a shame they could not see it, but in the same way it's also beautiful as they don't deserve your light anyway. Keep shining lovely ❤ you filled me with inspiration and warmth. Thank you. We got this❤ we got us❤
@@jaeebaee2353 your words mean alot....thank you so much....sending love 🙏
This helps me understand myself. My entire life was filled with expected duties for the family and my mom told me I was stupid all the time. Almost every significant person in my life has betrayed me. I taught myself to turn pain into power and am now a successful entrepreneur and I am alone. I am healing from a recent betrayal by my ex boyfriend and turning pain into power and will immensely and intensely enjoy giving all those people that betrayed me the middle finger in the most graceful and quiet way. Because success is the best revenge. 1,000 times fall down, 1,001 times stand up. Be strong people, it eventually feels good. I love you all, spread it around because this world needs it.
Inspirational
You just described my life to the t … I feel you 💙☺️
Same, I found that pain brought out the productive and creative side of me.
😢Mee too@@RealWorldReport
. Then? Drugs,alcohol wth money earning, status, name, no life n death,
As a result, due to their life experiences some sigma persona drawn to spirituality, some becomes leader, some as a trainer/coach. This introvert nature helps them to gain hidden knowledge, to enhanced their intuition power, very sharp mind and ability to read others mind and their activities silently. Thus, in other words it is the people who makes her strong having strong leadership mind and lead others. Thanks to those who made beautiful personality in me. Here I embrace my personality.😊
Your comment is greatly appreciated and your reflection is truly insightful. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts, it adds a valuable perspective to the conversation.❤
We also start businesses.
@@annohalloran6020 Let the almighty bless to flourish your business, All the best 🤲👍🌹🌹😊
Yes, they're naturally observant, which is enhanced by their path. But it is not a personality, which is something you acquire/develop, nor it is "given" by anyone. It's very similar to an archetypal path, which has its roots in instinct. Shaped by experience, it drives one's actions. People may incorporate certain sigma traits as part of their growth journey, but to truly walk a sigma path isn't a choice. It's tied directly to your NATURE, and as such, it's inevitable.
@@manuandrade2484 You are right, I appreciate your thoughts, Thanks for sharing 😊🌹🌹🤝👍
You described my childhood exactly, I suffered so much pain at the hands of abusive parents and an early marriage.
Same! 😢
Number 5. Yeah that definitely took its’ toll.
At What age you got married
This reminds me of a song sung by Whitney Houson...
"Everybody searching for a hero
People need someone to look up to
I never found anyone who fulfill my needs
A lonely place to be
And so I learned to depend on me
I decided long ago
Never to walk in anyone's shadows
If I fail, if I succeed
At least I'll live as I believe
No matter what they take from me
They can't take away my dignity
Because the greatest love of all
Is happening to me
I found the greatest love of all
Inside of me"
Love that song ❤
❤ that song identifies us Sigmas
Omg. I used to sing this song all the time when I was a little girl. I was raised by my alcoholic Dad. Only child. Wow. Crazy the feelings I feel as I see these lyrics for the first time in years. Thanks for sharing.
I just discovered that I'm a sigma female and I can't get over how accurate everything is, even my hardships are accurate and I'm just at the very beginning of discovering all of this. I am so mind blown!! I'm so grateful cause this is a big, huge puzzle piece. Have been asking Jesus to help me find my true self and true identity and then I stumble over this 🤯🤯 whaaaat?
Now everything is making sense. I'm a sigma female ♡
Same here!!! I knew I was an INFJ a few years back but Sigma INFJ TRULY explains a lot more!
Myself included. Completely blew me away. This is comforting for me.
Sigma male here similar journey, been called weird all my life even by siblings and parents, it is a relief to understand oneself a little better ✌️🍀😎
@@steburdekin this is true. Initially a heavy weight, yet, completely worth the journey.
@@selinadavies4297 indeed, I'm so glad it's not just me, and even happier that there are female counterparts out there✌️💚🙏 best wishes 😎
Now i understand myself better. I thought i was truly stubborn, don't talk much about my pains and experiences, kept almost everything within me. Sometimes i just wanted to explode. As most of my family members say all the time "why are u so different than the rest?"
We can read energy quite easily. It's like being a psychic. It's our superpower ❤💪🏼
Good to hear how sigma females survived in damaging environment😊
I appreciate your comment! Thank you.
Thank you☺
I'm definitely her. 😢 Rough. Still on a path to surviving as an adult now. I am a survivor who didn't give. Everything I relate to with an exception of having emotionally or physically available parents parents. They both were damaged. So they couldn't do a good job raising Healthy children. I didn't understand because my mom's parents was there 😔
@@ladyzinada5341 Well that's how you came up an incredible beautiful Sigma woman 👍👍🌹😊
Can we send a blessing for our Gaza sisters up here. ❤️💚🖤
Finally at fifty seven I have an answer to my strange life.
Same. Exact same.
One year behind at 56, but same applies
Many more years behind 68, struggled all my life wanting to fit in. Glad I don't care anyone
I come from a family with 7 kids, and I was totally the black sheep. I have one sister and she was a narcissist, and was the worst of all of them. I was hurt a lot, and constantly rejected, so I turned out to be a Sigma! Life happens, we just have to try to learn from it when it does! I'm 55 and have two brothers, and my sister is all that's left. I finally realized that I had to walk away. About 4 to 5 years ago! I don't need them!
My father was the narcissist, my mother and sister his enablers. I was 17 when I walked out of their lives. It would have been 15 but I didn't have a safe place to stay at 15.
hi sweetheart how are you am a sigma male and i have done alot for my whole family and i done the same dont need them i have always wanted to met a sigma female as a friend as i have never met a sigma male or sigma female so if want a chat i would welcome a chat take care stay true to yourself dont change for anyone or for anything
@@seanhamilton2434 very nice to meet you
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I can't tell you how many times people have tried to make me an alpha to them, or how people misunderstand my quiet inquisitive time.
Exactly! My boyfriend says I'm just nosey, or crazy, because I watch everything and study everything and everyone it's just curiousosity and a awareness of things other people aren't aware of.
Sadly she is me. Every single one of these is me.
Daughter of a narcissistic mother that chose me as her scapegoat, and a father that has no defenses because of his own traumatic childhood coupled with the horrors of Vietnam.
I am incredibly hard on myself because of this. I have recently decided that I do not wish to continue these struggles. I wish to put my armour down and be who I am meant to be. I can only accomplish this by letting go of all of them and walking forward alone. I just keep reminding myself that I have always been alone, the only difference is the final inner acceptance.
I am very lucky to have had a sigma grandfather. He was the calm, sane rock in my otherwise abusive childhood.
This honestly made me cry😢. I’m a loner but put on a bubbly cheerful facade.😢I was called difficult and stubborn, add, and I was misunderstood. I could never express my concerns.
I had a mother that was controlling. It was hell growing up with her. I got pregnant at 17 and moved out with the baby’s father. It was the only way to escape her and I'm glad I did. I was traumatized by her and I had to do a lot of work to find who I was. It took many years but I did it. I do have triggers but I know what to do when the memories surface. Thank you for this video.
I can relate to your experience. ❤
Beautiful Tribute To Inner Strength
Now I understand... I am a victim of narcicist...
Not a victim but a survivor
That which does not destroy you, makes you strong
And/or gives us a mutha uva black sense of humor
Not always
BS!! Your spirit slowly dies including the potential of who you were suppose to be..your mind and soul will crack over time and never heal particularly in this upside-down world. Stop this nonsensical trope! 😮
2:02 we grow up to become assertive, confident and extroverts yet with an avoidant attachment style, we fear intimacy of every kind, we are loyal and trustworthy but we don't trust anyone apart from ourselves
Im still healing from 40 plus narcissistic years but I am alone and extremely happy. I always make me happy, make the best of what I have to work with ❤ glad to know theres many of us
Make no mistake. If you are constantly looking for someone to punish or get revenge on. You are not healed and have no business doing anything else but healing.
In my case, not even a partner, no a family member, and friends that cannot understand my inner world.
It's the first time I've heard about sigma...
Same, I have a dysfunctional family and few friends but I've never had anybody to relate to... I'm a deep thinker, I crave connection but only find superficiality which doesn't satisfy my needs albeit I'm happy to help everybody
We moved every 3 years due to Dads military service. As a child I was aware of the world as a mystery to be revealed. Trauma hit me very young, so young that my parents still have difficulty with how I could remember anything from age 3. But the trauma never left me, instead it followed. With every move, I watched my brother and sister cry when saying goodbye to friends. This taught me at a young age to not get attached to anything or anyone. With every move, every mile driven down a highway to a different state, I suppose I recognized then the rareness of reality. My mother, father, brother, sister, moon, sun and stars where the only thing real in my world. As a teenager, I had mastered fitting in and putting strangers at ease, even as a loner. In the many friendships of life, nothing matters more than depth and without it, I'd rather stay silent.
Yes agreed, this resonates with Sigma. Well Sigma Females are very loving caring, nurturing, curious to know or learn things, seeking for a guidance, motivation, moral support from people around her but when she finds pressure, and she realize people and the society around her, are mentally sick they themselves are stuck and struggling with their own problems, then she keep herself mum. As she grow adult and she will changed herself frm extrovert to introvert. There she deal her problems by herself with her divinely gifted compass that is her intuition, ability to understand things, knowledge and with her inner strength. There she realises inner peace, and solitude are best tools and technic to overcome the situation. There the Sigma personality will born😊 Thanks for sharing the video.Thanks for sharing the video.
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What a great description of a sigma woman coming into her own. Your comment resonates, thank you.
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I am 69 and now my adult daughters expected me to conform to a societal norm of being a grandmother. I dislike continuing to cater to children after having to cater to my siblings, as I am the eldest of six children and I have had to cater to them since the age of seven.
I married young and had five children by the age of 28.
Now I am free to do as I please and standing my ground to be free and unattached to anyone.
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I'm learning so much about myself as a sigma woman and I'm at a point in my life when all the negative emotions have been hidden inside for too long and I want to safely explode or discover who I really am without causing harm to those around me. Please do send in more videos to guide me.
Turning 40 tomorrow. This is so me. Every last word.
Because of these traits I have led a very unconventional adult life. I raised very independent children, in spite of my own damaged self and continued need for healing. Sadly, I am an adult orphan and my husband has emotionally abandoned our marriage. He has been my one person with whom I could be vulnerable and grow.a something has caused him to give up on himself, on me, and on our relationship.
It feels very lonely to be in this situation. If I were actually alone, I do not think I would feel such loneliness. Degenerative disease has made my body weak and unreliable, kin spite of my strong will and spirit. This also has .put me into a position in which I am trapped. Illness Interrupts my attempts to find freedom from this oppression. I am continually thinking of ways that I can escape or create a solution to this heavy problem even as I maintain hope for reconciliation and revival in marriage.
This reminded me of my unique gifts and strength at a time when my confidence is fading.
You're Doing Well Now That You're Listening Here
Right now, I am you. Understand you fully. ❤
I’ve discovered since my father died in2011 he was a malignant narcissist who abused me as a child as a scapegoat . My mother turned a blind eye to it and is 85 years old and is herself abusive. She’s passive aggressive and still pours acid on me as I speak of my CPTSD and autoimmune disorders I got from the stress abuse and nobody protecting me. My mother says I should take my abuse to the grave. I’m embarrassing her and the church who covered it up too. She tells me I’m going to h*ll for talking about how my father abused and assaulted me. He threatened to murder me and bury me in the backyard. My mother is still covering up saying it’s making a bad name for God and the church. I’m the victim but I should cover up what my abusers did to me.I have remembered things I suppressed my entire life. I was taught to normalize it. I internalized everything and blamed myself as that’s what abusers teach their victims that it’s their fault. I always felt inherently flawed like I was undeserving. I’m trying to heal myself knowing I came through the fire and need to reprogram my twisted thoughts about myself. I never knew who I was and even questioned if I truly existed. I’m trying to hold on and become somewhat of the fragmented person I should have been. Abuse has destroyed my soul. I know I’m some sort of empath, but not sure which one. I have a lot of anger and unresolved hurt inside me I need help with. I have cut ties with the gaslighters and lying deceivers in my family. I have friends who are now my family as they have experienced terrible abuse as well as children. We have bonded through our terrible painful past.
I have had a very similar experience and background and now that I am close to my 70s I am finally peaceful and happy most of the time. It takes a lot of work and finding those friends who have had similar experiences will help you. Good luck to you.
@@traceyarnaud8433 thank you so much my abused friends have helped me so much. They understand like others cannot imagine. I’m so glad you’re at a happier place. I’m trying to get there but my mother is trying to prevent that for me. If I take it to the grave I will never heal. She’s 85 years old and can do what she wants it’s just sad she can’t be here for me. She thinks she’s normal but snapped a long x ago. She’s a terrible hoarder who never cleans her home living in filth. We lived in filth as children too. She’s as warm as a cold 🥶 fish. She’ll never apologize and say she’s sorry for her terrible choices that hurt me so badly. Before my father died he asked for forgiveness. I have forgiven him but I don’t think I’ll ever get that from my mother because she believes she’s the victim. Sadly she doesn’t even see what she really is. I had to break contract with her and my other narcissistic family that carry on the family curse. I’m glad I never became a narcissist or passive aggressive. I have two wonderful empathic sons and 3 beautiful grandchildren. I need to focus on them. They are all the family I have besides my current wonderfully supportive husband. Best wishes to you ❤️
Therapy helps people suffering form trauma.
My dear ❤, your soul can never be destroyed. You'll see that after your healing process, you'll become really strong 💪 I'm glad that you finally broke free from the abusers. And as far as the abusers go, all that I can say is that what goes around comes around....that is universal law and you cannot escape it. Love & Light to you 💓🙏
It’s uncanny how familiar your story feels, thank you so much for sharing. Today I’m turning 47 and it’s been 3 years since I cut ties with my whole family. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through, my saving grace is my husband, first person to treat me with respect and show me what it feels to truly be loved.
Story of my life!
My also unfortunately
Me too
Waiting through life in an armour explains it so well
Finally! I get it. I had a narc mom and an overprotective dad. Stifled my feelings. Tried to fit in but never could. Dad still says I'm stubborn. Ended up in abusive narc relationships.
Same story 😢
I had the reverse, but mum always took dad's side, so he kinda won in the end! They both lived and died together, but separate from their 3 kids, especially myself, the middle child who always worked outside the box and copped hell for it! The odd one out, that was me!
This has Been very validating for me. I'm grateful. It's been a painfully lonely journey
Yet videos like this help ALOT! Thank you
thank you very much for this video...this is a very accurate depiction of me & it actually helps to know that there are others "like" me... that there is nothing "wrong" with me...
Tears welled up as I was listening to this! I feel so understood & supported! Thank you! 💖
Hello, I am allready 73 years old. Over and over I was trying to elliminate all the wrong reaktions, but I still am over and over on the same point. I am so tired of it and do not know whether it is realistic to believe for healing. God bless you all Helena
Hello, I came acroos to your comments.
To answer that question and is it realistic
to believe for healing? Yes, if you desire it
from with in.
I am 72. My fervent hope is to heal myself before I die.
correct..@@XiaoGuanYin104
Try hypnotherapy
I came across your comment while having never heard about sigma women before really. Though healing is possible and the age does not matter. learn about your thoughts, about your emotional states and trauma that shape our reactions. You said, you want to react differently. So, it's about understanding where your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors come from. First steps of change are awareness and understanding, there are five steps. ❤ I believe in you.
This is me 😢 growing up. It hurts when everyone or someone don't understand you. Even though your just being yourself.
I am a Sigma, I must say to myself constantly concerning the reactions of other people "Be cautious, this is here, what we can never go so far to understand and we stay by now where we are!" I have grasped with time that before you see someone as a source of any real and important information you have to make sure this someone spreads really Love in his life: for others, for his doings or for himself. Otherwise all his orality must be crap... Thank You!!:))!!👍🌷🌈🌞💟💫
Pressure to conform when in childhood and more pressure to insure the prevention of unhappiness and /or loneliness in adulthood.
But no encouragement to find her own path for her unique existence.
Such is the world and social norms .
It’s a disregard for the importance of someone’s life to not follow someone else’s path.
How do you know 🤔
"Being called names becomes a constant reminder that you don't fit in. Adopting a sweet persona becomes their survival strategy".
Trying to walk about the world as my actual self has been absolutely painful and harrowing. Just existing as myself is enough to make strangers hate me. I've been diagnosed with Autism.
Definitely resigned myself to a life that is unfulfilling because I don't see a way out.
I’m sorry you are in pain. I’m 67 now and felt like you in the past. My solace and my times of joy come from nature and being alone with my pets, books and art. It isn’t easy but I hope you find a way to be in this difficult world. You are not alone.
I always been a outcast/blacksheep , the villain of the family and people that will never understand me 🤷🏻♀️ well most of my life is along and I’m cool with it
Sigma females ✨ So beautiful, so divine.
So alone, it seems
@@starscreamthecruel8026 not always our fault, and often by choice. A sigma female can stand alone.
@@starscreamthecruel8026there is a huge difference in being alone and being lonely. Being alone is strong and by choice
Truly ☺️
Hey I’m in Montana too😃
Love it here✊❤️
I wish they wouldnt use such huge breasts
I'm a Sigma woman and I absolutely loved this video... I just subscribed ❤
I resonated with every word, every image and embrace the circle of this Sigma journey. Peace to the World.
Wow, I was told that at 5 years of age I was different. No one understood me and neither did school. This explains everything.
It is not easy to sway me, but this is so accurate, it has a solid honest description of how I experience the world. It also strikes me, that listening to this, gave me a sense of positive recognition in myself. It would depend on someone hears these points, if they see these as negative traits, then that taints their view of a sigma woman. I hear it in strength and fortitude and arriving at sovereignty, success to me!
So love this channel, subscribed just now!
you described me and my entire life in this short video, whereas my own people never even tried to understand me for once, I've always been judged for who I am and what I am and its tiring and heart breaking, bcoz of what all I've been through or I've faced in my life I've become quite detached now from everything even from life itself.
I had no idea. I want to support a hurt sigma woman by giving her someone she deserves and also respecting her needs and situation throughout. I have to earn her trust with actions and will work to that hope of a beautiful future for both of us after we get to know each other and if we want it. Also I wish that I was less selfish and nicer all the time.
Give her true friendship❤
And be truthful to her because ones she found you are not honest you are dead for the rest of her life no matter what you say or do after that she is finished with you. Sigmas are best friends and partners but they can cut people from one day to another without even ever wanting to see them again.
@@mireladzinic2598 Haha 😆 well said 👍
I've never known what's a "friend " during my entire childhood. I didn't have anyone I could trust, no family members, none.Now, I don't feel emotions at all.
I can relate. At 60, my closest friends and family have passed. I have a lot of acquaintances, but only 1 or 2 friends.
Yes, I was sexually abuse from 3 to 14 incest, went to therapy for 15 years. I consider myself as a sigma female!!!❤
@veraasentista4837 it was bad to hear about your suffering, I believe now you have become clever, defensive and strong woman, that is called Sigma. Keep going as a strong woman 💎🌹👍
You are a beautiful survivor my sister
You are a beautiful Survivor. You are a black ⚫️ 🖤 swan! I love you and I see your pain. I am sorry for your suffering.
I'm so sorry!!! I was the same age 3 until I was 8....I am so sorry for your pain!!! I just found this concept of sigma female.
Wish you peace and sanctuary of mind🤍🤍
I am a sigma female married to a covert narcissist for 28 years. How do I move forward.
Begin by becoming aware of your belief that it is your duty and responsibility to nurture and rescue others. That’s how the covert attracted and trapped you, was he took advantage of your compulsion to heal and prioritize other people’s needs above your own needs. Be kind to yourself - you are on the dawn of your own destiny and awakening! You are precious and worthy of safeguarding your deepest being. 🌸
This is a very accurate video 😔 I am finding that facing awareness about many of these facts is both great and exhausting at the same time. Also when I try to explain these concepts to my over controlling mother she just does not get them. She doesn’t even listen or tries to understand my reality so it is quite a challenge that some need to accept. My mom will not learn or change at 80 years old so I guess I simply need to accept that I will not have that loving easy going mother daughter relationship that some have. I am happy for them, truly, I just wish I could have get to know what that is too ❤. Very good video thank you ❤❤❤
My own mother died several years ago at age 87 and she was my main tormentor. I went no contact when it became clear that she didn’t love me or have my best interests at heart. You may need to do the same if it’s really bad. Good luck to you.
Wow, there is power and comfort and knowledge. Thank you for this bit of acknowledge.🍁
When I was a child of 6, I painted a blue Christmas tree in my Christmas painting class. My teacher was outraged at my tree not being green, and she tore it up in front of the entire class.
Dear God! I'm so sorry that happened💖🌱💖
Pressure to conform when in childhood and more pressure to insure the prevention of unhappiness and /or loneliness in adulthood.
But no encouragement to find her own path for her unique existence.
Such is the world and social norms .
It’s a disregard for the importance of someone’s life to not follow someone else’s path.some people are not supposed to get married . And that doesn’t apply only to eunuchs. Some people choose to become eunuchs for reasons that society does not understand and doesn’t care to. But they speak evil of what they don’t understand anyway.
I won't bore you with my journey but let's say mommy dearest didn't have anything on my mom. I can relate to every single thing you said. And then some. I thank Jesus for helping me in my times of hardships and helping me over come the hateful negativity growing up. I am Grateful for my relationship with you. Amen. Lessons learned and maturity over the years within
'I know you all', who made my life a living hell. My survival is my revenge.
All the points described above are all true ,I have gone through that,but once I complete my degree I'll follow my path of life ,once I leave home!
Only 58 still attempting to define who I am, while recovering from the hurt!❤
Attempting to put my life together, always lived under my means!❤
Thoughts, small accomplishments never celebrated!❤
Very true most comfortable with me!❤
No one understands but the author of this channel does!❤
It’s such a relief to know there is others!❤
Peace &
Blessings!❤
I relate to this, self discovery through creative expression has been my saving grace and supported me going deeper into my internal world whilst expanding more into the external. Such a rewarding path that I love sharing with others, we are all always creating ❤
They say I have my own world, but I call it "my comfort zone"
We dont fear the unknown. We just often settle because we want peace so badly.
How can I heal myself from all that scars, I have started questioning my worth, thank you for giving words to my feelings, I can't coop with this world
Neither I..I think counseling Hunni. Only way I have been overcoming
Counselling. Find the right counsellor and you find a safe place to find your true self.
Cutting the people who makes you feel that way and try to find love in yourself more as in others, you can start with gratitude videos or motivation for self love. There are many in you tube.
Thank you everyone for ur suggestions. I m grateful and sincerely appreciate ur courtesy 💓 💛
Hi, I came acroos your comments .Anyway, how
I can heal myself all that scars. I believe to start
loving yourself everyday and if you can walk away
any toxic situation and people just allow yourself to walk away and make peace with yourself.I want you to know that you are not alone in this world and we are all connected and no matter how far or near?Have a bless
day and never give up because tomorrow is another day
and God loves you..
Thank you gor understanding me💞🙏
As a recovering people pleaser, I can definately confirm this.
I have almost always felt like an imposter in my own life. The only time I truly feel like me is when I'm by myself. I'm not anti-social, I just don't feel like I fit into the molds that others expect of me. Over coming the trauma of being raised by a very toxic narcissistic mother and having a very toxic narcissistic sister as been a very long journey. I take life one day at a time.
Narc mom and sister. Alcoholic dad. I’m a sigma. Just heard of it from this video!
I so love this channel. Pure synchronicity.
Stripped to the bone in 13 minutes. Good Lord ! 😮
A.I. ?
i have never felt more seen. instant subscribe. thank you for all your content.
So many relatable comments "I can give myself flowers" MC
Really spot on. Thank you.
I’ve never felt more understood.
Wow, it's hard to believe I've lived decades without knowing this about myself! I'm totally a Sigma woman. Never heard about this before today!
This video just showed up for me. This makes so much sense to me. I'm finally understanding why I am the way I am.
The challenges and how deeply they can wound a sigma are accurate, but not a sigma's response to them. They'll exhibit detachment, isolation, aggression, self-harm even, they'll become more observant and quiet, but never resort to people pleasing. Sure, they want to feel liked, but they won't change who they are for it; what they learn with time is to stop caring when people reject them. They DO have a sense of self from an early age, diffuse, it's true, but enough strong to know who they're not and guide them, and an intuition that sees through people; if they are pushed to act against their beliefs, they do so consciously, rather than to please, confusion or poor sense of self. Non-conformism is too structural to their profile to be taken away as narrated. That is why they're rare. They're not affected by trauma the same way as other profiles.
Very well said.
I don't know... I'm 100% Sigma, but the part about people pleasing made me cry because it was so real. I wouldn't "do anything" to please people, but I know now that my efforts to roleplay/not rock the boat/not draw attention and just get home to my "safe place" are devaluing. I'm 45 and all of this feeling isolated is finally making sense.
@@shellyshell311 If that was your effort, then you don't have a sigma profile. There might be some traits in common, but by not displaying its most defining one early on, it’s clear you don't have its nature.
Everything here is me. And an Aries ♈️ on top of that.
Me too😊
aries rising scorpio sun
You nailed it! Thank God for true healing and forgiveness! ❤
The pictures are always so beautiful it really adds to the videos entertaining /information !❤
0:24 I want to thank my dad for being the narcissist that he is ..he made me a sigma
Thank you for this video as I have found myself in it. What a liberating experience. Something I have known but now I see it is a "thing" and it is many of us. SO I joined this community to help me understand me even better and read other Ladies stories! All the best to all of you here in the comment forum. Jana
In my childhood I was sure that my parents are not really my biologucal parents, this was my bekief, always wanted to find answers why I am so different. I was unloved. And remain a kind of outsider in my whole life.
THANK YOU FOR THIS...! INDEED GOD IS GOOD. I NEEDED THIS.
I didn't know about this thing called "alpha, beta, sigma, etc personalities" had this not pops up in my recommendations...now im learning even more about myself and some of my friends..
THANKYOU, from one sigma woman to another 💝
The misunderstanding is deliberate and meant to continue making sure there is poison “injected”
You can not tear ones heart out and eat it and say its just a scare. Youve got to be kidding me. That is why I use such counter measures. 🎉🎉
Looks like all points true for me
I will listen to it again
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PS so, all points still valid, but 3 (I think). People pleasing went away about 20 years ago. Especially those people, that ain't my family members or close friends. I did mistakes, yes I did. I understood it not long ago. I am just very angry for now. Separating lentils from peas in my soul.
I'm at point 4. And 5. Actually working in the real garden. Just making some sence of it and in attempt to control real (not torny, but just dirty) vines . Real wild vines. I do need physical exercise and something that I enjoy doing it.
Your video was quite useful for me, since I don't have close narcissistic relationships, only some neighbours that are dysfunctional and mentally (probably) unhealthy.
Thank you for the insight and many valid points. It is very important to me and very useful
To be different is in some ways to be an outcast that is the nature of humanity
You nailed it!!! I am a sigma female and I am not sure I would be able to articulate it so accurately! Bravo and thank you!