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  • čas přidán 25. 01. 2021
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    I always suspected many women desired much more physical aggression and domination in the bedroom however very few guys have the confidence or know how to do it. I recently watched a course on how to do it by a guy who has slept with 500+ women. He saw this as the most common theme amongst all the women he had slept with.
    Most fantasies of domination I believe have an evolutionary purpose and theme corresponding to getting to breed with and be under the protection of the strongest, smartest, best equipped man. But that doesn't mean you actually have to BE the strongest, smartest guy....you merely need to know how to take the actions he might take. And that is easy to do with a course like the one I took (review coming soon).
    What if you're like the opposite of a chad or whatever. Will women buy it? My answer is yes because it is a skill that is SO high in demand and so FEW chads know how to do it. Although the CHADs seem to be the men from a woman's evolutionary fantasies...they don't know how to take the actions these evolutionary alphas would have taken. That is where someone who simply has studied and learned a little about escalating physical dominance can rise to the top.
    If you're super nerdy you're in good company since most kinky people are nerdy. Most of the best doms I've seen are nerdy.
    Women will absolutely see you differently if you know how to do this.
    I think it would give one confidence too knowing you have a skill women crave and even pay to experience.
    Anyway lmk what you think. This vid was a little all over the place but I hope it's helpful. The description says it better than the video maybe.
    And if you've gotten something from my videos and want to buy me a coffee or send me a note or a tip, I would greatly appreciate that.
    venmo: mynonleatherlife
    paypal: mynonleatherlife@gmail.com
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    Thank you so much for watching and commenting!
    -Victoria

Komentáře • 567

  • @MrXTeKkNo
    @MrXTeKkNo Před 3 lety +357

    WRITE A DAMN BOOK MAKE SOME PASSIVE INCOME YOU DESERVE IT

    • @johnevans6053
      @johnevans6053 Před 3 lety +10

      I was just getting ready to tell her to write a book also. I don't know what her background is, but it is obvious she is wise beyond her years.

    • @Thadon33
      @Thadon33 Před 3 lety +10

      Agreed with everything posted above. She’s very wise and her heart is in the right place wanted to help men. I’d certainly grab a copy of that book 📖

    • @soaringeagle5227
      @soaringeagle5227 Před 3 lety +2

      @@mynonleatherlife please do write a book or create an online program.

    • @ianhinson2829
      @ianhinson2829 Před 3 lety

      No one reads books these days. They watch CZcams videos.

    • @ianhinson2829
      @ianhinson2829 Před 3 lety

      @Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus Idiocracy isn't really a word. Even if it did exist it would mean government by idiots. The correct word is idiocy.
      Speaking of idiocy, what's the rest of your comment supposed to mean? Nothing that I said complained about her videos not being "how-to" enough. You made that up.

  • @cbraat27
    @cbraat27 Před 3 lety +245

    Victoria: When I was a stripper...
    Me: *spits out drink*

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  Před 3 lety +53

      lol!!!

    • @xthindiesel166
      @xthindiesel166 Před 3 lety +7

      Facts 😂

    • @gr_egg
      @gr_egg Před 3 lety +4

      @@johnnyparsnips7641 psychos are almost always emotionally abusive tho

    • @gr_egg
      @gr_egg Před 3 lety +9

      @@johnnyparsnips7641 you gotta be a broken man to want a broken girl

    • @gr_egg
      @gr_egg Před 3 lety +1

      @@johnnyparsnips7641 get laid

  • @wstan1410
    @wstan1410 Před 3 lety +248

    She's gonna have 10k subscribers by the end of the month. I don't understand why the algorithm finally blessed us but it was long overdue. Do your thing Sweetheart.

    • @MrXTeKkNo
      @MrXTeKkNo Před 3 lety +6

      she needs some editing and a book and she will be set bro

    • @jyranechjm5766
      @jyranechjm5766 Před 3 lety +20

      I'm from the future, I'm here to tell you that you're a prophet. Everything you said came true.

    • @ishmealoj
      @ishmealoj Před 3 lety +6

      12k now, lets give it 30/50k by march

    • @Zaysoto
      @Zaysoto Před 3 lety +1

      Currently 31k 😎

    • @jrosales976
      @jrosales976 Před 3 lety

      @@jyranechjm5766 😂

  • @SilverNova111
    @SilverNova111 Před 3 lety +122

    You might not b a dating coach but your advice is better than theirs .

  • @jurgenchristiansen6075
    @jurgenchristiansen6075 Před 3 lety +142

    Women don’t admit anything like this because they don’t want to appear weak and submissive. Men have to be confident enough to approach them. Thank you for admitting the truth girl, it really helps build men‘s confidence. 👍

    • @thatguyinthecomments8921
      @thatguyinthecomments8921 Před 2 lety

      I think is part of the kink, is a congruence test

    • @petroglyph79
      @petroglyph79 Před 2 lety +9

      Yeah but men have to overcome womens facade of strength when they dont want be feminine.

    • @jurgenchristiansen6075
      @jurgenchristiansen6075 Před 2 lety

      @@petroglyph79 amen

    • @andjelkovicjasmin2954
      @andjelkovicjasmin2954 Před 2 lety

      That's not the entire truth. feminism tells women and girls that being submissive and feminine is weak and bad and because of that and because the fear to be judged as a slut, women and girls hide her slutty side. feminism was invented by "men" to destroy other men. Guess who that men are. You have no clue! who and what THEY are.
      A feminine woman is a strong woman, a feministic "woman" is NOT! a woman. A feminine girl is a strong girl, a feministic girl is NOT!
      Videos such as these don't build your confidence, the heroes journey build self-esteem, confidence and the trust in your abilities. You can watch as many videos from her as you want, they and she will NOT only not make you a man, she and they will NEVER make you a man.
      Knowing what women and girls NEED is not enough, you must become a man.
      If you wanna dive deep into the mysteries of the REAL WORLD and breakout of the matrix, you need Orlando Owen as your mentor.
      Only men can initiate men, but men can initiate women, but women can not initiate men, this is not just a opinion, that's one of natures laws!
      Welcome to my world, the world of the hardcore alphas.

    • @georgeelder8415
      @georgeelder8415 Před rokem

      Once this has occurred, it's transformative....

  • @iAM80tv
    @iAM80tv Před 3 lety +269

    I Never never never listen to a Woman about Relationship Advice But for you i made an Exception ...You really Talking!!

    • @antoine7828
      @antoine7828 Před 3 lety +21

      If you have relationships with women you should listen to them about relationships lol .

    • @gr_egg
      @gr_egg Před 3 lety +22

      @@antoine7828 whatever women say they want, just do the exact opposite

    • @wingnutmcspazatron3957
      @wingnutmcspazatron3957 Před 3 lety

      If you'd like another good one for a refreshing take, JessicaJ is very honest too. I even bought into her online course, worth every penny.

    • @andjelkovicjasmin2954
      @andjelkovicjasmin2954 Před 2 lety

      @@antoine7828
      Yep, I agree.

    • @cuts240
      @cuts240 Před 8 měsíci

      Female
      Advice is nonsense

  • @gapy18
    @gapy18 Před 3 lety +48

    Funny thing, just because i am a more introverted type of person all people think I am shy. But it's not the same, I have the confidence to make eye contact with girls and talk to them.

  • @ideasandtrucking
    @ideasandtrucking Před 3 lety +35

    This channel is literally a GUIDE to female nature

  • @JourneyMN
    @JourneyMN Před 3 lety +23

    I don’t know how a channel with only 7k subs came into my feed but I’m glad it did.
    Thank you for your content.

  • @gd8205
    @gd8205 Před 3 lety +91

    This is refreshing. After divorce from a 15 year vanilla marriage, the first three women I was with, to my absolute surprise, wanted to be dominated. They patiently taught me and I picked it up, getting better and better. It didn’t come naturally but now I can’t control myself in those sexual moments where I take total control. And the feedback has been glowing. Thanks for bringing light to this and I have subscribed to listen to your reminders that I need to never relapse to vanillaism lol

    • @gd8205
      @gd8205 Před 3 lety +8

      @@mynonleatherlife I felt a huge increase in confidence. And it snowballed...it led me to self improvement, watching videos from awesome people like you, books, courses. I’m a sponge. The culmination of experience, pushing the envelope and experimenting with dominance and the various forms of knowledge like your messages just push me further in being comfortable and confident in my masculinity. In these times it’s easy to lose that. I feel exploring my masculinity leads to amazing experiences. Hearing your perspective of this is awesome because most girls aren’t as vocal on explaining how this makes them feel like you have. I mean I know they feel it. But hearing it from a woman is great to hear after the investment I’ve put into myself as being a genuine masculine guy.

    • @gd8205
      @gd8205 Před 3 lety +7

      @@mynonleatherlife oh. I also discovered I love being called daddy by a younger girl lol

    • @murphsviews
      @murphsviews Před 3 lety +2

      Awesome stuff man, death to vanilla! 💪

    • @lucajack007
      @lucajack007 Před 2 lety

      Can someone help me what Is a Vanilla marriage ?!

    • @satoshinakamoto7253
      @satoshinakamoto7253 Před 2 lety +4

      read the unplugged alpha by rich cooper.

  • @ryano7220
    @ryano7220 Před 3 lety +29

    This is a really informative video and very articulate.
    From my experience, the key to successful domination (not just sexual) is understanding what your partner wants and needs, then providing this assertively and proactively.

  • @_Trakman
    @_Trakman Před 3 lety +53

    This is super helpful.
    Honestly you helping creates a win-win for men AND women.

  • @kwokone
    @kwokone Před 3 lety +1

    have watched so many guru's PUA masters etc etc but NONE of them can match your info !!! very much appreciated for sharing your insightful thoughts and ideas very very very helpful

  • @Far7anR
    @Far7anR Před 3 lety +6

    The Fearless Man, as in Brian Begin? Oooh I love that you two connected, I love the both of you, and seeing you both connect makes me feel like things are coming together and and unifying to a common understanding.

  • @formallyknownasjojoemc3174
    @formallyknownasjojoemc3174 Před 3 lety +38

    You mention dominance and the first thing I think of is how much I hear testosterone levels in men are down and are getting lower and lower with each passing generation.

    • @bezimienny5149
      @bezimienny5149 Před 3 lety +6

      Thats why modern women are so angry all the time

    • @crystalous
      @crystalous Před 3 lety +2

      @@bezimienny5149 Is it the case or is it caused by the angry women?

    • @bezimienny5149
      @bezimienny5149 Před 3 lety +6

      @@crystalous it's a case. Women are frustrated because they can't find stronger and dominant man. Some of them can, but there are not enough man like this for every woman. The cause is mainly that man today spent the majority of his life in sitting position which makes or bodies weak. Weak bodies leads to low confidence and thus weak mind. It's simplification but I know you will understand this. Women hate weak man.

    • @crystalous
      @crystalous Před 3 lety

      @@bezimienny5149 the owner of the channel cannot accept my Truth and deletes my comments!!!!

    • @murphsviews
      @murphsviews Před 3 lety +5

      A lot of additives and hormones and so-on in foods these days also have a strongly testosterone reducing effect. Probably on purpose.
      The less testosterone guys have the less guys will end up in jail and committing serious violent crimes etc.

  • @user-qm2ce4us9t
    @user-qm2ce4us9t Před 3 lety +103

    Gold . I love the way you express yourself honestly

    • @brennendehexe7934
      @brennendehexe7934 Před 3 lety +7

      It is risky actually. The more I like it. Like any taboo. I think that feminism and pc-culture is trying to make us believe that there are no differences between man and woman. From my own dating experience I can say that I have met radical feminists who liked to be dominated. But their view is that they have been brainwashed by patriarchy to have obedient fantasies. I dont roll with chicks like that anymore bc they will always switch from wanting their sexual desires fulfilled to blaming you for being a macho for having the same likings. And in times of metoo that is very risky. So thanks for your videos honey.

    • @ideasandtrucking
      @ideasandtrucking Před 3 lety +2

      100 percent same I appreciate u!!

    • @ChaosTitties
      @ChaosTitties Před 3 lety

      What font is that?

  • @whoismysterionguy
    @whoismysterionguy Před 2 lety

    Ok... After now watching some of your clips with wonder, iv got built on to intu what i just wittnessed. It comes down to the beauty of raw power and the way it moves and animates... From a 1st glace tapping into honesty in such a practical manner is work of a Genius ... without getting too far in praises, on the other hand, is nature doing its dance, business as usual. Humanity has so many scars we all secretly sense it. The propotion of the catalyst your project offers is monstrous. In an age of deceptive separation, this is the sort of revolution that is writing history. I wish to yoa and all to enjoy this symphony of healing and thus truly get into the dance we are instrumenting

  • @ungabunga6735
    @ungabunga6735 Před 2 lety

    How have I not seen this channel sooner? So much great info. Thanks for making these videos

  • @LongblackExtrashot
    @LongblackExtrashot Před rokem

    So helpful, I really like how you explain what you mean and are not ambiguous but clear, detailed and precise. I also appreciate you breaking down stirlings course

  • @deondreabrown
    @deondreabrown Před 3 lety +121

    I love how you keep it 1,000. MOST women don’t have the nuts to say what you say, and you say what you say with no fear.

    • @jonathanleal399
      @jonathanleal399 Před 3 lety

      @@mynonleatherlife Alright so I know the guy you meant to respond didn’t respond, but hell here’s my opinion. Your other videos i’ve watched I can agree with most things you talk about including this video. And other videos you’ve talked about feeling the different feminine and masculine energy/vibes, but still being aware their the opposite sex. Is crazy to me because in a way that’s how I see you we have very similar thoughts, ideas, and things we agree on, but yet I still am aware

    • @jonathanleal399
      @jonathanleal399 Před 3 lety

      @@mynonleatherlife **That your the opposite sex like Where similar in mentality, but. we sense eachother different sex energy masculinity/femininity, but anyways 😂 just found it crazy, and we’ll keep it up like that manz said up there ^ I like that you just keep it 💯

  • @Hugex97
    @Hugex97 Před 3 lety +40

    Guys, just do this. Whenever I talk to my Chad friends they say the same: "I don´t undestand how women like it". Don´t be abusive, be sexy, kinky and dominant. You and her are going to enjoy much more

    • @marcusnielson5487
      @marcusnielson5487 Před 3 lety +15

      It's hard for some to see the difference between dominant and abusive

    • @king_supreme1102
      @king_supreme1102 Před 3 lety +13

      Yeah I agree with Marcus. For me personally, once I believe deep down that something isn’t right then it’s really hard for me to feel any other way about it. I just can’t wrap my head around how women like to be dominated. Why do they want to feel used. At the same time I know exactly why, but I just can’t get my mind to believe that it’s true if that makes sense. To me being dominant feels like I’m abusive, and I don’t want to feel like I’m abusive.

    • @tgreg1103
      @tgreg1103 Před 3 lety +1

      @@king_supreme1102 you and me both

    • @gottabecajuste
      @gottabecajuste Před 2 lety

      @@marcusnielson5487 by poopo

    • @lucasrodrigues9766
      @lucasrodrigues9766 Před 8 měsíci

      @@king_supreme1102 maybe you are actually submissive

  • @fisher7636
    @fisher7636 Před 3 lety +1

    Very intuitive and such a soothing voice as well. Nice to listen to at the office. Thank you girlie.

  • @randywhite2154
    @randywhite2154 Před 3 lety +28

    I don't know if I completely agree with th comment about video quality and structure. If you were in a highly polished background with degrees hanging all over the walls, I for one would not be any more impressed by you. You are truly gifted. I see it without 4K resolution!. Your brilliance will see your channel gain millions of views. Take all you are worth with pride and joy. So far, you are already a superstar! Keep being you, loving what you do. Please.

    • @Thenoobestgirl
      @Thenoobestgirl Před 2 lety

      I agree with Randy. A better camera, a nice background and a better light setup will go a long way in attracting more viewers.

  • @JuanCruz-yi9gy
    @JuanCruz-yi9gy Před 3 lety +4

    Looking forward to your q&a with fearless man.... plus I already read the book you recommend it’s called mode 1, it definitely upscaled my inner game a little much more. Really good book. Thanks for what your doing.

  • @jaamaan123
    @jaamaan123 Před 3 lety +1

    You make your points very accessible. Nice one !

  • @agr8fulson
    @agr8fulson Před 3 lety +39

    one analogy that might resonate with the more nerdy demographic or the core audience for this kind of content (like me!) is a video game analogy. when guys play certain video games, i believe they are tapping into a deeply rooted, primal warrior spirit that is intense and powerful and incredibly arousing/satisfying to men. tap it; drop the remote and take that straight to her!

  • @alexbastos3164
    @alexbastos3164 Před 10 dny

    Always good to listen to you .

  • @kittell6486
    @kittell6486 Před 2 lety

    Victoria, you're incredible!. You're filling in so many holes in my little mind.
    I'm a widower, so haven't dated in a VERY long time, hence I've been watching videos for several months, more than 6 hr/day (I'm retired). Whichever header/title peaked my interest, I'd watch, rarely the same channel more than 3 - 4 times/day. I've been watching yours EXCLUSIVELY since I found you several days ago. 😸
    I'm learning sssoooooo much about women , , , I just can't describe it, other than thank you. --and I thought I understood.😲
    btw: you said something about being anxious. You're human, and this shows it, thanks. Not some polished, rehearsed, talking head, but human. On anxiety, I don't know how, but rather than fighting it, I use it to energize myself. Sum: obviously being human validates your video.

  • @Pyraus
    @Pyraus Před 3 lety +7

    Wow congrats on the collab w Fearless Man! Great group of guys.

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  Před 3 lety +2

      Thanks a lot. I totally agree that they are great. I was extremely impressed tbh.

  • @shubkale376
    @shubkale376 Před 3 lety +16

    The CZcams algorithm is on your side , and your content is on point.

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  Před 3 lety

      Yea I know I’ve wondered if some young guy at CZcams struggling with women, watched my vid liked it and helped me out or something, and thanks

  • @mrrjh5609
    @mrrjh5609 Před 3 lety +12

    7:25 “She will love it!” 😂😂 I subbed you’re great

  • @elektriceye
    @elektriceye Před 5 měsíci +2

    This was a badass video. I think smart guys struggle with women the most. But this flips the script. Men, be more dominant. Be a gentleman, be polite, but be empowered, it drives the ladies crazy.

  • @KBonilla
    @KBonilla Před 3 lety +1

    Keep these videos going!

  • @RelaxationRefugium
    @RelaxationRefugium Před 3 lety +7

    Thank you for your videos Victoria. It is very rare that you have this topics addressed by a woman.

  • @VegasD702
    @VegasD702 Před 2 lety +1

    You are the best coach male or female on yt hands down...

  • @kayswayofflow8064
    @kayswayofflow8064 Před 3 lety +7

    This channel is very valuable. You really explain female nature in a way I’ve never heard it before but my mind is in 💯 agreement with what you are saying. Keep doing your thing and blessing us with this gold.

  • @TheFearlessMan
    @TheFearlessMan Před 3 lety +1

    It was an awesome convo!!

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  Před 3 lety

      It really was!! The fearless men are awesome. So much fun. Thanks for having me.

  • @jayplay9621
    @jayplay9621 Před 3 lety +3

    You should add an affiliate link for the program your speaking about. That way it helps you, your audience, and sterling. Win. Win. Win.

  • @thaboshikwambane
    @thaboshikwambane Před 2 lety +7

    The core thing is to do the psychological work required to be truly dominant.
    That’s the difference there between the chef and the cook.
    You can follow recipes and you might make a few good meals but you’re not a chef. You’re a cook that follows recipes.
    If the usual ingredients aren’t there, you’re stuck

  • @nilemiddleton194
    @nilemiddleton194 Před 2 lety

    Superb advice! Domination is an area I KNOW I lack lol
    Not from what I've been told. Just by the fact my natural behavior is comedic which is a clear indication of that of a person who's not all that dominant in sex (at least for me that is)! So yes, again, old ass video or not I still needed to hear this😁 THANK YOU‼️

  • @matasuki
    @matasuki Před 3 lety +3

    Basically get Sterling's course. After just listening to the guy on Fresh and Fit. Every vide seems like you are dropping a gem. That segment about the nerds, chiwawas and lazy Chads is the kind of thing I have never heard before.

  • @danlee8225
    @danlee8225 Před 3 lety +1

    Victoria, you are amazing! Your advice is golden. I second you writing a book. You have unique way is explaining these subject matters precisely. You also have a niche market. Thanks for your work. Monetize your talent 😉

    • @danstylus1
      @danstylus1 Před 3 lety

      @@mynonleatherlife I third book!

  • @alexspectre962
    @alexspectre962 Před 3 lety +1

    Thanks for the advice. It's appreciated.

  • @Raymond-rr5iv
    @Raymond-rr5iv Před 3 lety

    I love your videos. I'm learning new things. Shortly into your video you mentioned Sterling Cooper so I You Tubed him. But I'll be back to watch the rest of yours ....

  • @sunnisukumar
    @sunnisukumar Před 3 lety +1

    So much good advice, as usual from you, Victoria. Thank you.

  • @forester4ever
    @forester4ever Před 3 lety

    Awesome! Sweet words.

  • @stever2118
    @stever2118 Před rokem

    Just found this channel. Thus stuff is gold. Thanks Vctoria. New subscriber!!

  • @Adrian-xu3xi
    @Adrian-xu3xi Před 3 lety +4

    This women taught me a lot in a hour lmao

  • @derNachbar97
    @derNachbar97 Před 3 lety +16

    This might be the number one chanel on advice for men about women. Deadass. No pick-up, none of that red pill stuff, nothing. If you manage to just up your video quality and give it more of a structure, this channel will blow up. More then it does already ^^

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  Před 3 lety +1

      Thanks Thomas. I appreciate that compliment very much. Ur right about the video quality and better structure.

  • @sebastianreyes7917
    @sebastianreyes7917 Před 3 lety

    Keep it up !👸🏼

  • @DonTheMoron716
    @DonTheMoron716 Před 7 měsíci +2

    Dominance is usually not a good thing. Confidence is what women like. Sometimes, I don’t know where you’re coming from.

  • @ankityadav6447
    @ankityadav6447 Před 3 lety

    Good content. You got yourself a subscriber

  • @williamvictorr
    @williamvictorr Před 3 lety

    Hey I wanna see the video abou the course you took! I'm Subscribed and waiting. And good job, finally youtube recommendations worked

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  Před 3 lety +1

      Thanks William I’m hoping to be able to interview him soon and go into depth there about it. Thanks a lot for subscribing too

  • @ndu-eluwachimela1147
    @ndu-eluwachimela1147 Před 3 lety +1

    Ur advice is honest sincere and natural especially in the aspects that relate to the primal nature of women. Well done.

  • @B1LLBILL
    @B1LLBILL Před 8 měsíci

    This girl is upto something💯

  • @anthropomorphicOrange
    @anthropomorphicOrange Před 3 lety +1

    I admire your honesty and your insights into the male/female dynamic. I wish I had a female friend like you to talk to when I was younger. Unfortunately, I don't have an Instagram account and have no desire to get one; otherwise, I'd send you a message about specific issues. Nonetheless, I like to hear you perspective. I agree with other people who have commented on your videos: this channel is underrated.

    • @anthropomorphicOrange
      @anthropomorphicOrange Před 3 lety

      @@mynonleatherlife I prefer Twitter. I do have an account on Facebook. I’m not a big fan of Facebook, but I’d send and receive messages on there.

  • @roboldgoth816
    @roboldgoth816 Před 27 dny

    Another top drawer video, perfect

  • @alihall4397
    @alihall4397 Před 11 měsíci

    Thank you for your honesty. You have just comfirm everything.
    May God bless you., And thanks.

  • @TheBlanco951
    @TheBlanco951 Před 3 lety +9

    FINALLY A CHICK I CAN ACTUALLY LISTEN TO. I love your brutal honesty. It's pretty metal of you.

    • @SunSurfer-ws7vk
      @SunSurfer-ws7vk Před 2 měsíci

      I just know your white because only white people say shit like "pretty metal of you"

  • @abdelrahmanali7139
    @abdelrahmanali7139 Před 3 lety +3

    I love that you don't put any makeup

  • @mosthated.e.2422
    @mosthated.e.2422 Před 3 lety +1

    You just earned a new subscriber keep it up 😎

  • @juancpgo
    @juancpgo Před 2 lety

    hell yeah, I'm gonna be that chihuahua 😂
    on a serious note, this channel is awesome 👍, great work

  • @maxedgardogarcia
    @maxedgardogarcia Před 2 měsíci

    This lady is the translator we needed from the femenine mind to brothink

  • @_Trakman
    @_Trakman Před 3 lety +5

    Please review that course, it looks good but quite expensive

  • @Extrapua
    @Extrapua Před 3 lety +11

    This girl know da truth. 1st time i can say - this women know the truth and i have massive experience in dating

  • @mrgee1959
    @mrgee1959 Před měsícem

    I totally agree. I’ve been dominant all of my adult life. If you have any South Carolina, let me know.

  • @aa19nn
    @aa19nn Před 7 měsíci

    Thank you for this great video. Could you link the course you took so we could take it too?

  • @robertfinkelstein2787
    @robertfinkelstein2787 Před 3 lety

    Great educational videos but a question would be what course did you take that you learned more about domination

  • @mg43472
    @mg43472 Před 3 lety +29

    Thanks mom for making me a sensitive guy.. this totally goes against the grain of what I always was taught about women.. To realize that women want sex.. and want it hard and kinky and to be dominated.. I can do that.. (if I was to get that chance these Covid days). Men want sex.. women want romance and hugging etc.. so wrong.. I have been following a therapist that suggests that men have been tamped down in their desires and taught toxic shame.. Its a really hard barrier to break thru. I used to be more care free about it and I was a whole lot more successful. As I get older I don't want to sleep with every girl but do hesitate to approach woman I find desirable sometimes fearing they would find it obvious that I just want to jump them.. They want you to approach and want you to succeed. Still sorting it all out.. a total rewrite.. Thanks for the videos!

    • @SteveWKk
      @SteveWKk Před 3 lety +2

      Moms.......movies......tv.......the school system.......
      They all suck the masculine out of us..

  • @user-vy4pg9hc4v
    @user-vy4pg9hc4v Před 6 měsíci

    my best teacher on youtube

  • @human1505
    @human1505 Před 3 lety

    I am hooked to your videos.

  • @mrrjh5609
    @mrrjh5609 Před 3 lety +10

    7:16 “ I hate puns but I think I just made one” 😂😂😂

  • @StaaaaNzHD
    @StaaaaNzHD Před 3 lety

    Errgh I keep seeing your videos everywhere !! 😂 your really scratching someone’s balls at CZcams lol. The CZcams algorithms really loves you haha

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  Před 3 lety +1

      I know right maybe a guy on CZcams got something from my video and is being my guardian angel out there at CZcams HQ

  • @martinmoses1342
    @martinmoses1342 Před 3 lety

    Good one

  • @SuspiriaX
    @SuspiriaX Před 6 měsíci +1

    "Man up!" this has never helped me before.
    No women who said this has ever tought me something with it.
    They just say it, it makes me feel bad, nobody wins.
    Relinquish all judgment. Reject but don't judge.

  • @randywhite2154
    @randywhite2154 Před 3 lety +7

    You said, "I'm not a dating coach etc,... I'm just a normal person. Well, I don't know how normal". LOL! You are so phenominally honest with us, and yourself. Which is exactly how everyone should be in a perfect world, Victoria. I reached that level of awareness, 15 years ago, but I never was enlightened to the fact that women might enjoy being told how, when, or what, to do. For my whole life, I've seen this as being browbeaten, because I grew up watching my dad beating my mom to a pulp every wknd. My mom would never leave him, so at 14, I left them. I swore so hard that I'd never be like him that in spite of becoming the perfect dude, as my mom convinced me that I was (yes I know...),that I was more Dork, than "dick". Two beautiful wives that I loved to the max left me, (the so right TV hubby and dad) and I couldn't believe my eyes or my life. If they had the guts and honesty you posess maybe I wouldn't feel so ripped off of a good life. I Have had a good life, but it would have been more like a great "TV family" than a bad day in a blender. I'm not sure where I just went, but I came here to say, watching you be "YOU", in your videos, gives me peace. And YOU are as delightfully refreshing as an ice cold Dr. Pepper, after great sex on a hot August night! Your boyfriend, in your interview video, seems and sounds so cool. And I bet you couldn't chase him off with a stick. Good luck. Much love, and thank you so much for the help, Doctor Vicky! ( I hope you didn't hate that.) ❤☺

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  Před 3 lety +1

      I loved it!!! Thank u for sharing ur story... the fact that u left at such a young age is very courageous. Wish u got the tv family, u deserve it! And thx for the kind words about my bf too.

  • @pakal494
    @pakal494 Před 3 lety +1

    If you add some of the links you mention in your description It will be of great help

  • @jaamaan123
    @jaamaan123 Před 3 lety +7

    How about this one :) I think I can be quite dominant naturally but somehow mostly focussed on beeing nice, now I am unlearning all that stuff and it is a interesting journey

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  Před 3 lety

      any tips for others on the journey?

    • @jaamaan123
      @jaamaan123 Před 3 lety +1

      ​@@mynonleatherlife I guess my main point would be that you learn to communicate with yourself in the most honest way to find out what really moves you and why certain things turn you on. In part of my journey I started feeling very drawn to be submissive myself with my specific kinks. It was a big step to confess these to myself and later to my wife. But to explain this in the best way I decided to reverse this submissive role and give to her what I truelly desire. Because I know so well what turns me on in the submissive role I could use that knowledge and experience to lets say groom her into that role with my "tricks". But I think the main part in this all is beeing honest and dare to share your deepest desires. For the first years of my marriage I was silent about these kinks and did not dare to share them, up to a point that I started thinking I would have more luck with strangers. Until I realised the there would be no easier person to share this with than my own wife who I know loves me. I hope this helps other people to have their own fulfilling journey and if anyone has more questions I do not mind to share some more of what I learned and experienced. Jaamaan123

    • @jaamaan123
      @jaamaan123 Před 3 lety +1

      @Calamity We where young. I got to learn most about myself back then but learning to be together was the new challenge for sure. Still happy after 25+ years

  • @winnersneverqult
    @winnersneverqult Před 7 dny

    I fucking love you for these gems.

  • @keithbrunson7190
    @keithbrunson7190 Před 3 lety

    This is the best video I have ever seen. I have no interest in slapping a girl in the face, but your ability as a unique coach is very very good. Nice job!

  • @beatfrombrain
    @beatfrombrain Před 3 lety

    This is very interesting and has the ring of truth, but I'd like to get your analysis of what women want, *when*. My point being, I've been told by multiple women and I believe it's true through experience, that what women want sexually shifts through their menstrual cycle, i.e. more domination around their periods, and more cuddly after the period, or something like that.

  • @PhantomFilmmaker-jd9ho
    @PhantomFilmmaker-jd9ho Před 5 měsíci

    Bless you 🙏

  • @annother9520
    @annother9520 Před 3 lety +11

    Great videos. But a problem:
    Everything you propose is at odds with the framework set up by modern (and indeed, the original) feminism. If a man is dominant, satisfying taboo fantasies, it gives the woman the option to enjoy it OR if, she alternately decides (at any future date), to use it to destroy the man by claiming it constituted sexual abuse. If the man is a truthful person, and doesn't lie about his dominant behaviours, it will incriminate him according to the modern definition of abuse.
    Kamala Harris slept with Willie Brown: mentioning this was related to her progress would be slut shaming and wrong, according to feminist rules. However, if she subsequently decides that she didn't benefit sufficiently, she instead can turn on the man and have him disposed of for his abusive behaviour of a vulnerable junior.
    If women (subconciously or otherwise) want partners more dominant and capable than them, then it is mathematically impossible (literally) if women themsleves also want to consitute half of the leadership class and economic structure, and to not take a disproportionate share for the responsibility for child raising.
    If you have an economic structure tending towards concentration of wealth, it will result in a small quantity of men able to take advantage of women. And in a world where fidelity is a deprecated concept, the core of manhood will feel unworthy. The riots by Trump supporters are a distant consequence of the inherent contradictions in the modern feminist world.
    Or perhaps, why not let Jeff Bezos retire and gradually impregnate the whole of womenhood from his mansion whilst also handing them the remaining handful of senior management jobs after automation is complete?
    All these non dominant men you slept with did have the ability and knowlege of how to dominate: they could all have broken you in half if they wanted. But why should you (not you personally, but in a general sense) deserve to experience it when the consequences of them for unleashing that energy could be so deadly to their freedom or careers?
    You seem very smart. Perhaps you can educate womenhood that they are collectively asking for the impossible.

  • @dtingleff
    @dtingleff Před 3 lety +11

    When a guy feels most aggressive toward a girl is probably when she's indifferent to him. He wants action, but unfortunately she's uninterested. So his desire gets angry. This is when he would naturally want to dominate.
    However, once a girl accepts him, that's when he feels calm... even nurturing. It's a paradox for the woman's fantasy. He has no reason to be dominant if the only reason to do so is that she's asking him to "act that way"... which might even mean he's being obedient.

    • @dtingleff
      @dtingleff Před 2 lety +2

      @NagolbudThis video (if I remember right) is about being dominant over the woman you're having sex with.
      On the other hand, regarding what you said, I agree with you. If a woman likes me and desires me, I would feel soft and nurturing toward HER. The environment is a different story.
      We might be on the same page. It's these guys who are into BDSM that I tend to disagree with. They want to act out a fairytale with their girlfriend/wife where they pretend to be dominating her even though they love her.

  • @jselectronics8215
    @jselectronics8215 Před 3 lety +1

    Forty six years my wife and I never discussed our fantasies. But it was good.

  • @thegentlemantraveler3498

    If a man feels dominant in other areas of his life he's better able to dive into this. Whether it being the dom or the sub.
    Some men who have to be dominant in every other area of his life want to be subs.
    But for most men, if they have their physicality, career, and finances on point, they will be able to exhibit this type of dominance easily.
    It all comes down to their mentality of being secure in themselves and knowing that in order to please their woman, they must dominate her mentally, emotionally, and physically.

  • @fabricio7wagner
    @fabricio7wagner Před 7 měsíci

    I think that differs from one to another. Some are more kinky and some are more sensible. Can't generalize. The talk about what sorts of dominant traits the man must have and in what way are more complicated to discern. And then we fall in the classic: just be yourself.

  • @gcanaday1
    @gcanaday1 Před 3 lety +7

    I'd like your recording volume level to be higher. You are difficult to hear in some environments. Devices can only be turned up so much.
    You have solid points, though. I like hearing them.

  • @Alyyboyy
    @Alyyboyy Před 3 lety +1

    I like How you Kind of freestyle and process while talkin:)

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  Před 3 lety

      thanks Alyyboyy

    • @randywhite2154
      @randywhite2154 Před 3 lety

      Isn't it excellent? And she's very good at finding the right words she is looking for. Very literate and has a very strong vocabulary!

  • @adrienne4934
    @adrienne4934 Před 3 lety +54

    How to be more dominant 101: “I am a God of war. I don’t care if we talk or fight.” And damned well mean it.

    • @adrienne4934
      @adrienne4934 Před 3 lety +3

      @@mynonleatherlife a Comanche warrior from the 1800’s said this. Not my own thought but I live by it.

    • @everydaydre1185
      @everydaydre1185 Před 3 lety +1

      @@mynonleatherlife did I have a leather life

    • @colinogorman8279
      @colinogorman8279 Před 3 lety +1

      I like it

    • @Go4Yourz
      @Go4Yourz Před 3 lety

      What’s does this mean? I’m not sure.

  • @universebecomingltd
    @universebecomingltd Před 3 lety

    Nooo!!! I think you're very much a beacon on the subject! You just said something that made me realize what's going on with you a little bit more. You said you're a former stripper. AW HA! Now you make more sense to me. Prior to you saying that I was thinking to myself. . . Who is this girl? But yeah, I think your work in that area made you have human sexuality in mind more often than not and that expanded your mind quite a bit on the subject. That coupled with your high intelligence-backed curiosity and strong libido makes you more than qualified to be doing a CZcams channel like this. I think you're doing an amazing job! I've only seen around 8 of your videos but every one of them has impressed me quite a bit.
    Yes, I agree with everything you said here in this vid.

  • @oscarborge2543
    @oscarborge2543 Před rokem

    Hi,
    I cant find the interview you did with Stirling. Did you delete it?
    Your content is great, keep up the good work, and thanks for being so authentic and brave to talk about these topics

  • @ErikaWagoner
    @ErikaWagoner Před dnem

    In most experiences I’ve been in or heard about the woman becomes the dominant/male persona, and the men actually become the submissive female vulnerable persona. It’s not always about men wanting to dominate a woman when a man is very powerful and is every day life. Sometimes he likes the thrill of being vulnerable one 8:47

  • @esotericgamedev
    @esotericgamedev Před 3 lety

    Amazing amazing amazing video

  • @andrewjones4605
    @andrewjones4605 Před 3 lety +3

    Excellent info, however, the title lead me to believe you were going to teach us How.

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  Před 3 lety +1

      Ha ur right sorry, probably should have titled it why not how

  • @ZapatosVibes
    @ZapatosVibes Před 8 měsíci

    Did you ever do that interview with Brian at The Fearless Man? Curious to see it if you have the link. Thanks!

  • @bla2220
    @bla2220 Před 3 lety +3

    In defensive men. We have been trained since we hit puberty that we cannot just take our woman. Even if that woman is our wife. We are trained to basically tiptoe around sex until we're in the bedroom with women. And a lot of women will not even discuss it outside of the bedroom. This is why I firmly believe and appreciate when a woman will be open and honest about her wants.
    And it has gotten worse for men since the me too movement now men are being more trepidation concerning women and living out fantasies.

  • @rippedup4546
    @rippedup4546 Před 3 lety +9

    So would you say if a woman is being aggressive and bossy towards a man, she wants him to go off on her?

  • @molloyfan9229
    @molloyfan9229 Před 3 lety +3

    This was a great and very inspiring video, but I was dying to hear some specific examples of what guys should do. Can we get that?

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  Před 3 lety +2

      Yea ur right specific examples are where it’s at...I’m going to heed ur advice and try to be less abstract

    • @molloyfan9229
      @molloyfan9229 Před 3 lety +1

      @@mynonleatherlife you did that one video where you interviewed your boyfriend, that was great but even better would be a video of maybe top 5 very specific examples of things he does or says in the bedroom that really work well. Glad I subscribed, very unique channel with great insights!

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  Před 3 lety +1

      @@molloyfan9229 that is a fantastic video topic. Thank u for that idea, I’ve been wanting to do one like that for a while but I like the way u phrased it

  • @neilk1116
    @neilk1116 Před 3 lety

    Great video, so where can we learn these dominant moves?

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  Před 3 lety

      Idk if u saw it but I just interviewed stirling about his course which is a great way to do it