Why resent a woman just because she's not attracted to you? If you reject a nice woman because you aren't attracted to her, does that mean you "screwed yourself" out of a good woman? You don't have to hate on a woman just because she's not into you. It's petty/childish. Just move on and you'll eventually/hopefully find a woman who likes you as well.
barkerpoo, from my experience they string you along and give you the illusion they're into you. So sometimes the signs are there that the other person seems attracted to you. But for whatever reason in a female's illogical mind, she'll insist you settle for friendship especially after your feelings become clear to her.
How is it cruel? When someone rejected you and express that they still value you as a friend, you are given an option to stay or leave. If you make the choice to stay, then you should be expected to witness them developing their love interests, of course they are not gonna put their life on hold for you. You choose your own suffering.
I just came home from a date, that i was dating about 2 months and she said i just want to be friends, i have to say it felt like i just got run over by a train.
Same thing for me but it has been 3 months and she told me she wanted to be friends on my birthday, and she told me that she’s the one for me and that she loves me and everything (she didn’t mean that she loved me as friends either)
After being a friendzoned all through my late teens and 20s hearing a woman say to me anything along the lines of "being just friends" is something I never want to hear again in my life!
They jerk you arround. Be direct. If she is not into you, you have to let her go. You deserve better. You're a great guy and want to be with someone that gets the real you. Passion. Energy. "Hey, let's do something together". It's that simple. Don't waste your time and charm into someone that's label you as "just a friend". Caring and loving someone, is not that complicated. Being exited for someone new, get to know eachother, it's awesome. As long as she available and want to invest some time with you i said, go for it.
A lady I've been speaking to did that to me today. We planned a date next weekend. She called me up and said she is interested in friendship because there is nothing bad in adding more friends. Guess what, I told her I'm not interested in that. You could tell she wasn't expecting that response. I told her I wanted something serious and haven't got time for friends. I knew she wanted to friendzone me because she wasn't interested. But I dogged the bullet. Good luck to her. Guys be upfront with what you want. You are the king.
Well said to many other women to meet. I wish more guys would do this approach instead of putting these dead weighted women on a pedestal and sucking up to them. Move on and show them that you are able to find someone else that will give what it is your looking for. Well said.
You could have turn that ship around! You could have said ok and ignore and avoided her for a while. When she is ready she will come to you and fuck her.
@@fredflinstone9774 that never works cause she has other guys giving her attention. By him saying no right then and there sent a message. Not a message saying he's going to ignore her but he respects himself amd knows what he wants. Ignoring her is playing a game where he'll ultimately lose
Do yourself a favor. If you ever hear someone say, "I want to be your friend," best to move on. And forget about them. If they say, "I'm not ready." Leave and move on. Friends is just a nice way of rejecting you. If you have no interest in the person and they want to be friends, then ok but if you feel strongly then being a friend is a dead end.
@@sultanpuppy26 exactly same situation here... this pretty face cute nice girl wants to stay friends and a fellow worker. I rejected... and i ignored her ont whatsapp for 5 days. Out of nowhere she whatsappt me this: Hi do you work tomorrow? ( i ignored her for 3 hours) Then she said:" i srsly want to talk with you...bcuz if we see each other at work it will be a awkward situation and i dont like that... I did that before on the second week and she ask my ither fellow guy worker why i didnt look at her or say hi. And this fellow worker told her that she is playing with me and she said no...i got feelings for my ex BF.... Okej i took that and tried to figure it out. She told me everything about her ex bf. That her ex stalks her. Threatens her. And i was like let me handle thag guy i k.l him so he wont stalk you again and she got mad ... Why are you mixing with it? And i tlld her to make her feal ease...but noooo she still had feelings for himm.... So 3 months later she called me and said she miss me and likes me but onlu as friends... ( her other 5 guy friends were every weekend at her home ) but she never invited me. Even tho i asked if i can chill at her home it was always :no only fam and friends... Then i asked her what am i for u then? Friends right? And she said :" not thag good 1..." and i told her to remove me from her mind and ive got other things to do in my life instead trying to understand her . So i quit the convo... 7 days later she calls me again and says she misses me... soooo at the end i learned this 1. Psyko girl with psyko ex feelings 2. I was the only guy who she could EASILY talk about her daily issues ( bcus she knew i would always understand her feelings and never made her black once) 3. She loved attention from me. Just for DISTRACTION against her daily life problems 4. While VIDEO CALLING me talking about other guys like :" omg today 1 guy send me a msg on instagram like blablablabl) ( talking about other guys to make you jealous or give you a sign like ; your a nice guy but im not interested in you. Not bcuz how you are from the inside but from the outside ( tho im more handsome as her ex ( other women at work says so). 5. Never saying cutey. Or pretty or handsome boy/man or "you are good looking " ( compliments) but she did the opposite to the other guys giving compliments. 6. And most important of all!: When you have realised all of this. You try to move on with your life and meet another women which could be better for you ( another fellow worker she also works with) and this lady srsly likes me. Always sitting nexg to me. Touchs my hair. Smells my parfume on my body. Everyday she sees me at work she says:" finally therr is the handsome boy. So she is the 1 i can vibe everyday....but she is not prettier from the outside then the othet pysko girl woth the ex boyfriend issues... But this psyko girl gives me much attention bcuz of the other female fellow worker. She is jealous that i wont give her attention anymore... So shorty said ALL THESE GIRLS WHO LIKES YOU AS A FRIEND BUT GETS JEALOUS LATER: THEY ARE ALL ATTENTION WHORES.
What about if they just got out of a bad relationship I mean a really bad one and she wants to give it time? But we hang out and go places every now and then?
I got rejected by a girl. Weeks later I interviewed for a new job and posted about it on social media. And out of nowhere this same girl texts me "Congrats on the new job. So are we ok friendship wise". A couple weeks later she texts me "What are you doing later". WTF??? What are you contacting me for after I leveled up in life?
I never responded to any of her messages. I just ghosted her and moved on with my life! Eventually, she got the idea and unfriended me (Thank God)! Guys, have some self respect, focus on your purpose and be a higher value man!
Men and women aren’t designed to be friends. It’s amazing that people (mostly women) believe that this is possible. It’s only possible,in my opinion, because the guy just accepts being friends with a woman he’s attracted to even though it will make him miserable ☹️
I won't be friends with a woman I'm attracted to,....but I will be friends with woman where we're not attractive to each other but we get on well and enjoying each others company :)
@@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 If a woman is open to date a man then brings up lets be friends a man will take it as i am not interested ! The whole purpose of dating is to find someone that's into you. A man will initially go into the date looking for a lover and companion you are already friends in a sense dating so the topic of friends shouldn't even arise unless there is reason for stalling. If the subject lets be friends is a code to restriction. It is the woman projecting logical terminology to a man that she is not interested. So most men will take it like unless they are a needy! Most men out of self respect and the woman's will move on. Nothing mixed about it. Also you want a man to have feelings but feelings can not get involved that is exactly why he moves on so he can invest in something real elsewhere not like Tom cat ! A real man a genuine man that you all crave for but you expect them to hang around with no common sense. No good being the hunter whilst she is feeding another camp ! The dating arena is so twisted and full of cancer.
Hung out the other day with a girl I was crushing on for a while. Had a great time with her and followed up about catching a movie and she hit me with the “sure but let’s just be friends” line. Now I know some people pine over girls and think being friends first can lead to future dating opportunities but my bullshit meter went off the chart when I got that. What got me there was the fact that I was the one always one initiating texts and she would usually go a few days between responses. When she did respond it was always one or two words at most. Simply told her I wasn’t interested in being friends, wished her all the best, and deleted her contact info from my phone. When you are looking for a relationship you need to be direct and clear about what you want and don’t be afraid to speak your truth. Time is your most precious resource. Always be a gentleman but don’t waste your time chasing a fantasy.
Talked to a female I thought we hit it off great good back 2 back texts good phone combo then boom she said "I feel a vibe but I feel friendship vibes", I replied "I appreciate you telling me you have a good one". I talked too much to her and probably came off needy. I remembered a dating coach Corey stating 70/30 with contacting and convos I dropped the ball.
its all about numbers game, you just simply don't wanna be friends with a women. According to Corey, say that "i'm only interested in you romantically not in friendship, if you change your mind give me a call." that simple and get the hell outta there.
But how can you establish a partnership with someone if you can't even imagine yourself liking them as a friend? Relationships based purely on desire don't build strong bonds.
@@alexanderl9721 can you imagine ending up becoming best friends with the girl you like that she starts telling you stories of guys she been with and all the stuff she has done, the pain and torment.
@@joseavila2443 I guess i'm lucky. The girl i like has no sexual or romantic desire in other people so i can avoid that. And people i know are well aware that i find sex disgusting so one talks about their sex life with me. But yeah, otherwise i suppose it must suck to listen to that when you're in love with her. Trying to put myself in your shoes here so yeah, i'd probably find it very distressing. It might be healthy to let go in that case.
@@alexanderl9721 im planning to cut her out of my life completely, i feel kinda guilty becuase she been a good friend and we actually planned a lot of stuff. yesterday was my last attempt at anything, we hanged out and had a good time and i told her lies and did everthing i could. Its better than i move on and talk to orher girls.
@@joseavila2443 Well, i see that it's not an easy decision but perhaps it's for the best. Does she know how you feel about her? If you feel guilty about cutting her off without a reason then perhaps you should let her know why you decided to do so. I have been ghosted out by people in my life without knowing the reason why and it hurts just as bad as falling for someone who doesn't feel the same way. I mean, i don't think you want to hurt her. Besides, this can be only temporary. Here's what i did and it worked out for me. Don't cut her off for all eternity but take a long break and let yourself heal. There will come a moment when you're ready to see her again and you two might become good friends. Anyway, take care.
I had to walk away from an ex that initiated contact multiple times but refused dates, the only person that cares about me, gave me hot drinks when I was sick, calling me to check on me when I was involved in a riot.. but all in a non romantic way. I told her that I am interested eroticly and nothing else, it broke me really bad as I could feel her sadness in her responses but I stood my ground. It hurts so much that I push away the only person that cares about me. I hate myself for doing that and I am in pain right now but I refuse to be the phone guy, the male girlfriend. The just friends guy. I told her what I want and we ended the phone call. I did the mistake to develop feelings and now I pay the price.
How's it going now man? Been introspecting a lot, listening to a lot of various opinions on stuff online. Some say that men simply don't value platonic relationships enough because of the desire to be masculine--others say that if you have feelings for a woman as a man, and she tells you no, that it's healthiest to 'drop' that relationship, possibly because we as men are hyper-romantics and will keep pining for her forever, even if we stay as 'friends.' I wonder perhaps if a platonic relationship forms right from the start--and it has to be mutual. Is when a guy likes a girl from the start, has intentions of dating her, and is rejected, is that when the platonic relationship becomes unfeasible? Still curious about your current situation though.
Yep, had this happen this morning. Went on a few dates and felt like we had hit it off, kissed, then she went cold suddenly. Asked if she was free to do something, she replies "Yeah but I feel it should be just as friends". I said "Nah, haven't got time for that, hit me up if you change your mind" and left it there. The rejection sucks and it's shit when you feel like you hit things off, but life is to short to be playing games with people, I know what I want and she aint giving it, her loss onto the next one.
All the women that I wanted did not want me and the ones that wanted me I did not want them. And that is why I don't date or ever had any relationship and I am age 67 soon to be 68.
I can remember I went out on dates with lots of women and not one ended up into a deep loving relationship. Some men gets it easy while some men like me gets it hard.
Recently had this happen and she couldn’t understand why I did not want to remain friends. She’s seeing someone currently. But told me I’d make the perfect bf but the timing wasn’t rite 🤣🤣
Met this woman we hit it off fantastically clicked on everything probably the most comfortable I've ever been with anybody in my life. Then she hit me with she just wants to be friends if I want anything more she doesn't need me in her life. I said okay bye, I think she's sleeping in her car down with the homeless people nowadays.
most men in general don't know how to properly put rejection in perspective so women normally just say what is necessary but also enough to allow you to draw up the conclusion on your own. if an honest heartfelt 'no' was all it took, most women wouldn't feel burdened by rebuffing someone they're not interested in.
Sad seeing all these boys in the comments saying "why is coach apologizing for their behavior or why is he defending them?" Hes not hes teaching you what their behavior means and what women are really telling you.
As a single female who is no longer interested in dating anyone anymore because the whole experience is just "too emotionally draining" and unpleasant for me, I can admit that the "I just wanna be friends" statement only surfaces AFTER something about the guy is making me feel "bad" about myself. Humans will instinctively "pull away" or "avoid" contact with situations that generate PAINFUL emotions and feelings. I hope this information is helpful for anyone who wants to understand WHY someone may initially be willing to engage in the idea of a "possible relationship" but then suddenly pull out the "let's just be friends" card. Good videos. Great channel.
I think it just boils down to the man isn’t checking the boxes in her mind that is making her attracted to him. So the interest drops to “let’s just be friends.” The biggest mistake a man can do after that is chase. Just tell her I’m not looking for friends. Let me know if you change your mind though.
I think the biggest things I've seen in my life was my personal traumas from ADHD Childhood divorce I've shared with her Spiritual things only christians can understand Age difference She's 55, I'm 27, not really a valuable relationship if possible She told me I was attractive and handsome I know for a fact she was not a gorgeous looking lady beyond her athletic body. So the reality is that women can pull away from any Man if 1) He's awkward (doesn't matter how much game or money he has) 2) Lacks confidence from failed attempts (Women can sniff this) I don't understand a woman's physiology but it's tough to read if your not use to emotional intelligence 3) If you eliminate sex, you will see her true colors that she never really wanted you.. some people just want sex and they make it known. 4) Women don't care about your self improvement or how many women you've been with. That's only until after the relationship is known to her decisions of marrying you or so 5) Women will test you. Be aware
Im happy when a woman tells me no thats a closed door thats god saying i got better for you i love a no i dont have to deal with problems i dont know bout
I’ve said this to guys I feel that don’t make enough effort. I really liked one guy I told this to. Because I felt he wasn’t what I needed in my life. He didn’t take it well.
Had a woman who I began dating, confessed her feelings for me, expressed high interest in the beginning but shortly after a bad date we had she gave me the “I just want to be friends” speech which left me totally confused and shocked! I thought she was into me!! She went out of her way to talk to me and keep me interested... it made no sense! I took it was a nice way of rejecting me but the more confusing part is she still reached out and kept in touch with me (to check if I was still interested I guess) but after a while I had enough and told her to STOP contacting me because I still had feelings for her, she apologized and actually wanted to give things another shot after that........ the thing is...... after a month of dating again she brought up the same things and said she wanted to move on! If a girl comes back to you after things like that it’s best to not allow her back into your life! Move on
What happen in the bad date? That was the issue to her! Then you did it again. You have to find out what happen! Many exes months later would tell me the real reason why they left me. One thought I hated her children. Another one thought I hated her mother. Another one said I was boring and decided to cheat on me! Really stupid reasons.
My ex wife broke up with me and wants to be friends and the next day she’s calling to hang out already ? Wtf is going on ? I go out with her we have a nice time but as friends . And yet she gets mad at me when I don’t tell her I love her still when she doesn’t say it back ? I’m confused
She's not interested!!! It means she's just being polite, if she says she just wants to be friends, take it from me - she means it!!! And if she says she has feelings, it means she just wants help with building work, or lifts to the shop etc👍👍👍👍
What if i did not give the "give me a call if you changed your mind?" speech. Would it make a difference? would this mean I'm not leaving the door open? But I did reject her offer of being friends only.
A woman who REALLY wants a friendship won't ever say: "I just want to be friends." It's totally unnecessary. She'll be a friend without making such a statement.
I have a few so called female friends that constantly contact me I get back to them when I do unlike years ago(BEFORE CCW) I would be available these days I make it clear WHEN I'M NOT AROUND I'M FN AROUND FOR SOME REASON THEY WANT MY PHYSICAL ATTENTION ALL OF A SUDDEN "HEY I THOUGHT WE WERE JUST FRIENDS" ;)
Because she wants the comfort and security of having you as an emotional safety net Walk away brother you’re better than that Trust me you don’t wanna be around that when she’s talking about other dudes and her girl Bullshit Again I say walk away you’re better than that
If she says friends only and you accept it does NOT mean you can call her to see if she wants to go for lunch or anything. It simply means she wants you in the background as someone to message for an ego stroke when she's having a bad day. You will NEVER meet her in person, your messages will be ignored but she may communicate from time to time just for validation. If you reply she will know that someone is interested in her and that's all she wants. Any further attempts by you will be rebuffed.
It's hard to love a woman due to them want something more, you can give free of charge, no return, to show you want nothing more than affection, you feel happiness when they're around. And when you tell them how you feel... You normally get the "I just want to be friends." Line... Then your heart lays on the floor shattered... and all you can do is either (A: Keep trying there has to be a light in this potential two seat cave of love...) (B: Give up.. try again... and again etc... until you find that MATCH )or (C: Majorly stop and give on trying to love again and assume a good majority of woman out there are basically the same...)
Hey mate can you please help me. I have fallen for a lady who is broken. We have been seeing each other for a year. We have been physical regularly. She says she just can't do a relationship and says I need to seek another lady. When I start seeing a lady she gets all upset with me, so I stop we can't be seen anywhere in public because if anyone sees us, they will think we are in a relationship. Which she can't do. She has told me several times she loves me and the very next day will deny it. What should I do, im despite mate please help 🙏 we are currently doing 1 week with no communication. To apparently see if she can handle not communicate with me she starts a new job tomorrow so after 2 days of no communication I message her to wish her well she said thanks but remember no communication for a week? Your advice is much appreciated.
Just be a great friend shitty relationships will just end and if the guy she likes starts to get jealous then respect the relationship and move on and be free.
Because it doesn't work like that. You cant force your will on someone that's unwilling to compromise, that's not just dating that's life. You get met with resistance and possibly a restraining order.
If she wants to be friends sure. Don't expect me to spend money on her. If you want to be more than friends tell her. If she don't you can accept it or move along
His advice doesn't apply to everyone, only to a certain group of women and it seems like that's all he knows. Let's see, if a demiromantic woman wants to be your friend it doesn't mean that she will never develop feelings for you as they develop those through friendship. Some women will rather get to know you first. Not everyone falls for you from the get go. Besides, would you like a woman for her shallow perception of who you are or a woman that loves you because of who you actually are and because she got to know this person that you are. If a woman clearly states that she could never see you as her partner/lover it's because you're not what she wants and it's best not to pursue her because she's not someone you're compatible with anyway. But what pisses me off are men who would befriend a girl, spend time with her and then ghost her or leave her simple because she doesn't see you as a potential romantic partner. Imagine if your friends did that to you. It can hurt more than you hearing "i just wanna be "friends"
you asshole..nobody can be friends with someone he loves..keep yourself in that place and your gay partner roaming with someone else..how would you feel..not good no. ...thats it
@@jonathongrabs Are you sure you're not confusing love with lust? Love is about appreciation, not about possession. But then again, I don't think love is an actual thing. It's an ideal concept that is built on a lie. But yeah, You're right. You can't be friends with someone you want so much. I wrote that last comment while I was trying to convince myself to stay friends with a girl I like but at some point I couldn't take it anymore. However, my reason to think that It's impossible is because of the imbalance I'm the relationship. If you really care about someone and want to offer them so much and all they can acquaintanceship (and let's face it, when most girl say "let's be friends they don't mean actual friendship, you're merely acquaintances) then this relation is foundamentality unbalanced and unfair.
hes only with her so that he can get a serious relationship. no dude wants to be friends with a woman hes romantically attracted to. what part of that do you not get???
6 month pregnant ex girlfriend broke up with me on Thursday says she needs space and doesn't want a relationship anymore says wants to obligated to just her kids says too much work she doesn't feel like doing. We been together for 9 months and I love her. She has 2 daughters before me. We lived together and I moved out on Thursday after we broke up. I text her today and checked on her and replied and said just checking on you and the kids she responded we are friends and don't think seeing each other right now is a good idea,but she wants me at all the doctors appointments with her. The kids love me our son is due_July 31st. I love her and will be there for my son but also want her back. What do I do please help and her sister moved in with her as well. She's been single for 6 years before me.
I like a girl who likes someone that lives in another state but the guy is incarcerated , she says she doesn’t want to have sex with me but is having sex with another person , she recently told me on Friday that she doesn’t mind talking to me but there can’t be no kissing or sex, I told her I’m not gonna respect the no kissing or sex rule what should I do!
I met a girl which I like so much.. I ask her out but she responded with the message below shat should I do? I wouldn't say am disappointed, I think you're a great guy and am privileged to have me in your heart but I would only want us to be friends, nothing more just because I don't want to get attached to anyone for now.
if you are ok with being friends, mean that you don't expecting more than that like being "In relationship" with the girl.. and you totally fine with that.. then it's okay to have friendship with her.. the idea of rejecting friendship with girl, is when you think and expecting her as a dating partner.. guy usually think that it's okay to be friend and stay close to her to prove that he's the best guy that worthy for her, and expecting that she will develop feeling the same as him.. but in fact.. once you accepting her friendship offer... it means that you close the opportunity as her boyfriend
Some girls will want to get to know a guy first as friends. Without any ulterior motives. So they know for sure. This can’t rlly b generalized to all women. Most women, butnot all
Partnership is about something more than wanting to fuck someone. Actually, some people don't care about looks at all. I don't. I think that all women and men are actually somewhat ugly. But i can like someone's personality.
Not even. When your talking to someone to get to know them first you don't wanna be just 'friends". You guys may not habe sex but there will be more than just friendly things going on.
You obviously dont get it. When girls do that you're back up, Mr nice guy, poindexter, you ain't getting anywhere with her and never will unless shes absolutely desperate and you are her last resort
if she saids we should just be friends? but i felt like we were in a relationship nd broke up and got back together and moved away for a month and half and just wants space and time to herself and is coming back soon what should i do to make her want me back as a lover and a girlfriend?
I'm a woman and knew this guy for a while from the gym. We got along so well and after 2 months of not seeing each other he asked me out casually which was great. He wanted me to plan everything, offered no suggestions where to go out despite me dropping a huge hint, tell me when and where I'm there. Up until 3 hours before we were meant to meet absolutely nothing. I told him to come to my place for a movie night for 8pm. It got to 9pm and he hadn't left yet (I found out he was with his friends chilling) and I said we should rearranged he's clearly busy. He then got annoyed at ME for cancelling on him LOL. He ran over and we actually had a really great night just watching movies. Things i thought were fine, he messaged saying he loved our evening, it was chilled and we laughed then his messages stopped. They were more sporadic and when he did message he wasn't reading my msgs properly. I then said let's be friends, is this what you want? not because I didn't like him but because of how he was treating me, he completely changed. He responded if thats what you want then. I asked if he was ok?. Nothing for days. I left it to give him time. A guy who likes a girl doesn't keep a girl waiting for no reason, a guy doesn't ignore you, he listens and responds. He initiates things. I felt he felt he had me already so no effort had to go in and especially as our personities gel. I know I'm better than being kept waiting and with no apology. If I treated him how he treated me people would say I'm entitled etc. I thought maybe we are better off as friends and we can continue our jokes etc. Some people make better friends than boyfriends. I was just being honest and he wasn't respectful. We messaged a bit just jokes and stuff and I haven't heard from him in a week? Thoughts?.
All these dudes here saying, "Be clear about your intentions." I have been doing that and girls will still do the same things. They keep me around and let me pay for dinner and make me think it's going somewhere and then reject me after I ask if they want to do anything more intimate or even just go to the beach or go to a park on the weekend. I will stop talking to them and they'll try to hit me up to do the same thing all over again. It is driving me crazy.
What if you’ve just met her? And she says she wants to be friends but doesn’t rule out a relationship directly) surely this early you can’t expect them to jump the gun?
Im sure you’re over it, but I hope you learned to walk away at the first sign of indecision. You shouldn’t be with anyone that has to be convinced of your worth
Hi coach, I got a conendrum for you : what does it mean when a woman says "I want us to be friends, I'm not sexually attracted to you", whilst at the same time saying "I don't want to predict the future or anything but it could change". .. While also talking to you every day by messenger, even when she's on a 2 months "no tech" retreat, because "she likes talking to you so much and she doesn't want me to forget her, she'd like to pick up where things were when she come back".. Saying on the one hand "'it's egotistical but I kinda hope you don"t find a grilfriend soon, because you'll be less available for me.. even though I whish you to be happy"... And with all this, you would have the knowledge that she has not loved anybody in her life (in her owh words), never had sex that was really great, even thought of going on dating sites for asexuals... and she keeps wanting to talk to you all the time, says it will be so great when she comes back from her retreat to have walks with you and watch movies and stuff, says last time she was at this retreat she had nothing going on, but now she has you so it's harder... but still wants it to be platonic... but can't wait to get back to do stuff with you... and you're the only person she's breaking her "no tech" rule for... Quite a conendrum, isn't it. What to do ? Of course I am thinking I should extend the affection I feel to other women, and in fact I do and strangely, that has made me a lot friendlier to women I meet at the park, but to complete the picture, the fact is we are both handicaped, not young (me 50 and her 41), and at some point she told me "friendship and love is kinda the same for me". I don't think "she's playing you" or "she likes the attention" is in play here... she wouldn't talk to me for hours if that was the case, and she wouldn't say I should try to meet other women... even though lately she has not brought back this subject.It's been more "stuff we will do when I come back, it will be so great". And she does have other male friends but apparently I'm the only one she feels this way about.
shes yanking you around. nothing more nothing less. you are her back ups back up. the last resort when no one wants her. tell her straight up that you do not want to be friends. its either I love you and we should be together seriously or fuck off, im not your paddy whack.
What does it mean your dating a women for a year than now she says she just wants to be friends but still hang out and do the same thing but as friends not as bf and gf?
Want your crush have interest in you? Just don't show interest in her :) -ignore her -Avoid her - talk with people around her - Don't talk to her - do not greet her With this. She will place you in her brain like why the fuck you do this kinda things to her. After few days she will approach you. This works most of time when you tell her your feelings before...:)
What if it's a case where your friend told your crush you like her but you never approach her. A few days passed and you still haven't talk to her and your friend went to her again and ask about it and her response was "I like him as friend." She may assume you are a quiet or shy person because you don't talk much. How would you tackle that situation?
I'm trying to friend zone a girl at the moment I don't know how she'll take it I'm willing to meet her but I will only meet her if she agrees to it what do I do do
If You are the one trying to "friend zone" her. Then , I would do nothing. I would not call her, and if she calls, tell her you are busy until she gets the hint. Why keep her as a friend? (unless you don't have any guy friends)
If you friend zoned her she’ll definitely not get enough of you.Because they do not like to be friends on and that will definitely turn on because you’re not available valuable and it’s a challenge
Why are there so many negative comments about friend zoning A guy. I know alot of woman do that but there are few of em who just doesn't feel that way about him at all, When a girl friend zone a guy, in few cases it means she wants to stay loyal to him to be there for him in his rough times and she thinks it's not achievable if she becomes his GF, the whole scenario flips 180 degrees. So if you have a Female friend who wants to stay friends it means she would feel guilt if she somehow messes things up being your gf or either she know that you can find a more wonderful person than herself, or maybe she isn't ready to flip 180 degrees...
I have a friend, actually my best friend. I totally experienced this girl-friend vs girlfriend. I can't stay away from her although she said she loves me but not in love with me. We are together all the time. I even tried to express that I need space. She insist we need to remain best friends but not cross the line. It's killing me...
I know how you feel,., it's killing me too.,., but i am preparing to tell her my feelings about her and give her the take another step or leave that friendship,., because you're wasting your precious time of finding somebody else !!
Bro, I'm going through that right now! I'm staying in that place in the relationship until I find someone who, of course, would start as friends, but then grow deeper. I also try to stay away. Not call, or email her too much. I found that after a week and a half , or two weeks she will call to hang out for lunch or coffee, etc. I agree to meet, but I tell myself "REMEMBER, IT AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN WITH THIS ONE". I psych myself out by saying this in my head over and over again!
Johnny Ingram she’s lying trying to give you false hope or she’s trying out other guys to see who is the best option. If I were you gonna would just cut her off
You fucked it up my man it've happened to me once, she told her friends that i'm boring.. the best move you can do is to move on & let that bitch go away. Girls they come they go You'll find another one and you will progress.
Any woman that tries to friend zone you, walk away from the relationship as she clearly is not good enough for you. What she is telling you is cryptic "I want you to watch me hook up with someone else right in front of you." Screw that crap. Walk away.
maybe someone can decipher this girls behavior, had a girl tell me just wanted to be friends. texted for a couple months and finally hang out for the weekend, we end up hooking up. after still texting frequently and asked was the hook up just fun or something more. says still just wants to be friends. she wants a FWB right?
damn this happened to me ... same exactly situation .. however i did not except friendship i told her that im only interested in her romantically and that if she ever changes her mind and she wants to go out on a date with me .. to go ahead and contact ,me and i walked away.................................................................................
It's funny I met this woman and one of the first things she told me was, "I just can't seem to find a good guy that has hes life figured out" mind she had a boyfriend and was in a very unhealthy situation that made her unhappy and heading to depression, I have been there so I know the signs. Hold and behold I am the guy she was talking about she could never find, I figured might as well stick it in her face and tell her. I fell for this woman the moment I saw her we spend some days together and we had SO MUCH in common I never felt or had something like this. In the end I felt that she was complaining about stuff that could have been easily fixed in her life, she just wasn't willing to and that's where I draw the line I have my life together I have a house, a car a good paying job, lots of benefits I want to push my partner to be there very best. She told me that she knew I was the person she needed in her life that I would support her in becoming the person she wanted to be, yet her action's showed me the complete opposite and she pushed me away. Loving someone is also letting go, so I did what was best for myself and I let her go. I had only known her for a week but still it felt as if I had lost a soulmate (I am not overreacting) I think she understood, she wasn't ready maybe she wil never be. Life goes on.
DON'T DO IT!, the "friendzone" is more depressing and hurts worse than having the self respect to walk away from the rejection to find someone else that loves you! The only further contact a woman will get once she friendzones me going forward now is NO CONTACT! The friendzone is filled with anger and bitterness
Once a woman is a friend of mine, she just screwed herself out of a good man.
I don't play games when it comes to my friendships and love interest.
loredelamore totally agree same here
Why resent a woman just because she's not attracted to you? If you reject a nice woman because you aren't attracted to her, does that mean you "screwed yourself" out of a good woman? You don't have to hate on a woman just because she's not into you. It's petty/childish. Just move on and you'll eventually/hopefully find a woman who likes you as well.
barkerpoo man they make me look desperate asf, I don't hate on them
barkerpoo, from my experience they string you along and give you the illusion they're into you. So sometimes the signs are there that the other person seems attracted to you. But for whatever reason in a female's illogical mind, she'll insist you settle for friendship especially after your feelings become clear to her.
How is it cruel? When someone rejected you and express that they still value you as a friend, you are given an option to stay or leave.
If you make the choice to stay, then you should be expected to witness them developing their love interests, of course they are not gonna put their life on hold for you. You choose your own suffering.
I just came home from a date, that i was dating about 2 months and she said i just want to be friends, i have to say it felt like i just got run over by a train.
See the comment above.
Loool
Same thing for me but it has been 3 months and she told me she wanted to be friends on my birthday, and she told me that she’s the one for me and that she loves me and everything (she didn’t mean that she loved me as friends either)
Very sorry smh
Sorry to hear that!
After being a friendzoned all through my late teens and 20s hearing a woman say to me anything along the lines of "being just friends" is something I never want to hear again in my life!
They jerk you arround. Be direct. If she is not into you, you have to let her go. You deserve better. You're a great guy and want to be with someone that gets the real you. Passion. Energy. "Hey, let's do something together". It's that simple. Don't waste your time and charm into someone that's label you as "just a friend". Caring and loving someone, is not that complicated. Being exited for someone new, get to know eachother, it's awesome. As long as she available and want to invest some time with you i said, go for it.
A lady I've been speaking to did that to me today. We planned a date next weekend. She called me up and said she is interested in friendship because there is nothing bad in adding more friends. Guess what, I told her I'm not interested in that. You could tell she wasn't expecting that response. I told her I wanted something serious and haven't got time for friends. I knew she wanted to friendzone me because she wasn't interested. But I dogged the bullet. Good luck to her. Guys be upfront with what you want. You are the king.
I'm so happy you ended up doggy-styling her!
Well said to many other women to meet. I wish more guys would do this approach instead of putting these dead weighted women on a pedestal and sucking up to them. Move on and show them that you are able to find someone else that will give what it is your looking for. Well said.
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You could have turn that ship around! You could have said ok and ignore and avoided her for a while. When she is ready she will come to you and fuck her.
@@fredflinstone9774 that never works cause she has other guys giving her attention. By him saying no right then and there sent a message. Not a message saying he's going to ignore her but he respects himself amd knows what he wants. Ignoring her is playing a game where he'll ultimately lose
Do yourself a favor. If you ever hear someone say, "I want to be your friend," best to move on. And forget about them. If they say, "I'm not ready." Leave and move on. Friends is just a nice way of rejecting you. If you have no interest in the person and they want to be friends, then ok but if you feel strongly then being a friend is a dead end.
what if you work with them and have to see them everyday
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@@sultanpuppy26 You don't eat where you poop!
@@sultanpuppy26 exactly same situation here... this pretty face cute nice girl wants to stay friends and a fellow worker. I rejected... and i ignored her ont whatsapp for 5 days. Out of nowhere she whatsappt me this:
Hi do you work tomorrow? ( i ignored her for 3 hours)
Then she said:" i srsly want to talk with you...bcuz if we see each other at work it will be a awkward situation and i dont like that...
I did that before on the second week and she ask my ither fellow guy worker why i didnt look at her or say hi. And this fellow worker told her that she is playing with me and she said no...i got feelings for my ex BF....
Okej i took that and tried to figure it out. She told me everything about her ex bf. That her ex stalks her. Threatens her. And i was like let me handle thag guy i k.l him so he wont stalk you again and she got mad ...
Why are you mixing with it? And i tlld her to make her feal ease...but noooo she still had feelings for himm....
So 3 months later she called me and said she miss me and likes me but onlu as friends... ( her other 5 guy friends were every weekend at her home ) but she never invited me. Even tho i asked if i can chill at her home it was always :no only fam and friends...
Then i asked her what am i for u then? Friends right? And she said :" not thag good 1..." and i told her to remove me from her mind and ive got other things to do in my life instead trying to understand her . So i quit the convo... 7 days later she calls me again and says she misses me... soooo at the end i learned this
1. Psyko girl with psyko ex feelings
2. I was the only guy who she could EASILY talk about her daily issues ( bcus she knew i would always understand her feelings and never made her black once)
3. She loved attention from me. Just for DISTRACTION against her daily life problems
4. While VIDEO CALLING me talking about other guys like :" omg today 1 guy send me a msg on instagram like blablablabl) ( talking about other guys to make you jealous or give you a sign like ; your a nice guy but im not interested in you. Not bcuz how you are from the inside but from the outside ( tho im more handsome as her ex ( other women at work says so).
5. Never saying cutey. Or pretty or handsome boy/man or "you are good looking " ( compliments) but she did the opposite to the other guys giving compliments.
6. And most important of all!:
When you have realised all of this. You try to move on with your life and meet another women which could be better for you ( another fellow worker she also works with) and this lady srsly likes me. Always sitting nexg to me. Touchs my hair. Smells my parfume on my body.
Everyday she sees me at work she says:" finally therr is the handsome boy. So she is the 1 i can vibe everyday....but she is not prettier from the outside then the othet pysko girl woth the ex boyfriend issues...
But this psyko girl gives me much attention bcuz of the other female fellow worker. She is jealous that i wont give her attention anymore...
So shorty said
ALL THESE GIRLS WHO LIKES YOU AS A FRIEND BUT GETS JEALOUS LATER:
THEY ARE ALL ATTENTION WHORES.
What about if they just got out of a bad relationship I mean a really bad one and she wants to give it time? But we hang out and go places every now and then?
I got rejected by a girl. Weeks later I interviewed for a new job and posted about it on social media. And out of nowhere this same girl texts me "Congrats on the new job. So are we ok friendship wise". A couple weeks later she texts me "What are you doing later". WTF??? What are you contacting me for after I leveled up in life?
I never responded to any of her messages. I just ghosted her and moved on with my life! Eventually, she got the idea and unfriended me (Thank God)!
Guys, have some self respect, focus on your purpose and be a higher value man!
Wow you dodge a bullet man
Men and women aren’t designed to be friends. It’s amazing that people (mostly women) believe that this is possible. It’s only possible,in my opinion, because the guy just accepts being friends with a woman he’s attracted to even though it will make him miserable ☹️
That's why I ask women to not let me down easy, I hate it when they do that and I feel disrespected, just be upfront with me.
FriendZone
Are you married now
I think Corey Wayne should teach women how to say things straight forward instead of wanting men to guess their feelings all the time.
How us he gonna sell books then
I won't be friends with a woman I'm attracted to,....but I will be friends with woman where we're not attractive to each other but we get on well and enjoying each others company :)
That how your feelings get involved. Either your serious with us or not. Don't be having mixed messages to us..!!!
@@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 If a woman is open to date a man then brings up lets be friends a man will take it as i am not interested ! The whole purpose of dating is to find someone that's into you. A man will initially go into the date looking for a lover and companion you are already friends in a sense dating so the topic of friends shouldn't even arise unless there is reason for stalling. If the subject lets be friends is a code to restriction. It is the woman projecting logical terminology to a man that she is not interested. So most men will take it like unless they are a needy! Most men out of self respect and the woman's will move on. Nothing mixed about it. Also you want a man to have feelings but feelings can not get involved that is exactly why he moves on so he can invest in something real elsewhere not like Tom cat ! A real man a genuine man that you all crave for but you expect them to hang around with no common sense. No good being the hunter whilst she is feeding another camp ! The dating arena is so twisted and full of cancer.
Robert Collins totally agreed bro💯
100% I told myself a man who likes a woman simply cannot be friends or best friends with that woman.
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Hung out the other day with a girl I was crushing on for a while. Had a great time with her and followed up about catching a movie and she hit me with the “sure but let’s just be friends” line.
Now I know some people pine over girls and think being friends first can lead to future dating opportunities but my bullshit meter went off the chart when I got that. What got me there was the fact that I was the one always one initiating texts and she would usually go a few days between responses. When she did respond it was always one or two words at most. Simply told her I wasn’t interested in being friends, wished her all the best, and deleted her contact info from my phone.
When you are looking for a relationship you need to be direct and clear about what you want and don’t be afraid to speak your truth. Time is your most precious resource. Always be a gentleman but don’t waste your time chasing a fantasy.
More about the book less about answers..Thank you Coach Wayne
Talked to a female I thought we hit it off great good back 2 back texts good phone combo then boom she said "I feel a vibe but I feel friendship vibes", I replied "I appreciate you telling me you have a good one". I talked too much to her and probably came off needy. I remembered a dating coach Corey stating 70/30 with contacting and convos I dropped the ball.
This video is actually really good. Thought it was going to be another dumb relationship coach video but it was actually really insightful.
COACH WAYNE IS LIFE
Simple. She just wants to fuck around.
its all about numbers game, you just simply don't wanna be friends with a women. According to Corey, say that "i'm only interested in you romantically not in friendship, if you change your mind give me a call." that simple and get the hell outta there.
But how can you establish a partnership with someone if you can't even imagine yourself liking them as a friend? Relationships based purely on desire don't build strong bonds.
@@alexanderl9721 can you imagine ending up becoming best friends with the girl you like that she starts telling you stories of guys she been with and all the stuff she has done, the pain and torment.
@@joseavila2443 I guess i'm lucky. The girl i like has no sexual or romantic desire in other people so i can avoid that. And people i know are well aware that i find sex disgusting so one talks about their sex life with me. But yeah, otherwise i suppose it must suck to listen to that when you're in love with her. Trying to put myself in your shoes here so yeah, i'd probably find it very distressing. It might be healthy to let go in that case.
@@alexanderl9721 im planning to cut her out of my life completely, i feel kinda guilty becuase she been a good friend and we actually planned a lot of stuff. yesterday was my last attempt at anything, we hanged out and had a good time and i told her lies and did everthing i could. Its better than i move on and talk to orher girls.
@@joseavila2443 Well, i see that it's not an easy decision but perhaps it's for the best. Does she know how you feel about her? If you feel guilty about cutting her off without a reason then perhaps you should let her know why you decided to do so. I have been ghosted out by people in my life without knowing the reason why and it hurts just as bad as falling for someone who doesn't feel the same way. I mean, i don't think you want to hurt her.
Besides, this can be only temporary. Here's what i did and it worked out for me. Don't cut her off for all eternity but take a long break and let yourself heal. There will come a moment when you're ready to see her again and you two might become good friends.
Anyway, take care.
I think I will have a coaching session just to say thanks for all those years of advice.
You married now
I had to walk away from an ex that initiated contact multiple times but refused dates, the only person that cares about me, gave me hot drinks when I was sick, calling me to check on me when I was involved in a riot.. but all in a non romantic way.
I told her that I am interested eroticly and nothing else, it broke me really bad as I could feel her sadness in her responses but I stood my ground. It hurts so much that I push away the only person that cares about me. I hate myself for doing that and I am in pain right now but I refuse to be the phone guy, the male girlfriend. The just friends guy. I told her what I want and we ended the phone call. I did the mistake to develop feelings and now I pay the price.
This was very well said. There is absolutely NO POINT in maintaining contact with that person if neither one of your needs are being met. Right?
How's it going now man? Been introspecting a lot, listening to a lot of various opinions on stuff online. Some say that men simply don't value platonic relationships enough because of the desire to be masculine--others say that if you have feelings for a woman as a man, and she tells you no, that it's healthiest to 'drop' that relationship, possibly because we as men are hyper-romantics and will keep pining for her forever, even if we stay as 'friends.'
I wonder perhaps if a platonic relationship forms right from the start--and it has to be mutual. Is when a guy likes a girl from the start, has intentions of dating her, and is rejected, is that when the platonic relationship becomes unfeasible?
Still curious about your current situation though.
Yep, had this happen this morning. Went on a few dates and felt like we had hit it off, kissed, then she went cold suddenly. Asked if she was free to do something, she replies "Yeah but I feel it should be just as friends". I said "Nah, haven't got time for that, hit me up if you change your mind" and left it there. The rejection sucks and it's shit when you feel like you hit things off, but life is to short to be playing games with people, I know what I want and she aint giving it, her loss onto the next one.
Did she ever come back
It's crazy being a "friend" to me is like women wanting us to be their best gay friend.
@@j718wn exactly
Did she come back
@@JJ-vp3bd No mate, but it's been two years and I'm in a happy relationship currently.
Great Video! Just be her friend. Please move forward to someone else. You deserve better.
All the women that I wanted did not want me and the ones that wanted me I did not want them. And that is why I don't date or ever had any relationship and I am age 67 soon to be 68.
I can remember I went out on dates with lots of women and not one ended up into a deep loving relationship. Some men gets it easy while some men like me gets it hard.
I feel you bro.. same story not a single commited relationship yet
Any updates for both of you
This feels like a sports interview
looooooool
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Same
Bret Farve gives dating advice as a second job.
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Good message Corey!
Recently had this happen and she couldn’t understand why I did not want to remain friends. She’s seeing someone currently. But told me I’d make the perfect bf but the timing wasn’t rite 🤣🤣
What a piece of work
@@j718wn Yep….An 3 years later…Every so often she will slide into the DMs….It’s cute and comical lmfao
@@anthonyromano6921u should go for a bang
Any more updates
@@JJ-vp3bdshe’s envious of the life I’m building with my spouse while she runs through bf’s. Gotta love social media for that lol
Met this woman we hit it off fantastically clicked on everything probably the most comfortable I've ever been with anybody in my life. Then she hit me with she just wants to be friends if I want anything more she doesn't need me in her life. I said okay bye, I think she's sleeping in her car down with the homeless people nowadays.
*thats why you keep your options open lol , and just go out and have fun. Eventually you find someone you click with*
I wish man, I feel socially broken
Have you found anyone
Thanks coach.
I’m sorry but I heard that Mr. Wayne and instantly though of Fox talking to Bruce about the latest Batmobile upgrades.
If she says: "I just want to be friends," she doesn't really want that.
What you mean
What do you mean
@@JJ-vp3bdshe wants you to get a clue and kick rocks
@@louio What do you mean
most men in general don't know how to properly put rejection in perspective so women normally just say what is necessary but also enough to allow you to draw up the conclusion on your own. if an honest heartfelt 'no' was all it took, most women wouldn't feel burdened by rebuffing someone they're not interested in.
Sad seeing all these boys in the comments saying "why is coach apologizing for their behavior or why is he defending them?" Hes not hes teaching you what their behavior means and what women are really telling you.
To avoid us coming to the wrong conclusion just be upfront and honest.
I dont know why but when I hear the word "Friends" and "Friendship" I makes my skin crawl. xd
Every guy does what I use to do was hit her with the I thought we was already in a casual type relationship anyway which really wasn’t a lie though
As a single female who is no longer interested in dating anyone anymore because the whole experience is just "too emotionally draining" and unpleasant for me, I can admit that the "I just wanna be friends" statement only surfaces AFTER something about the guy is making me feel "bad" about myself. Humans will instinctively "pull away" or "avoid" contact with situations that generate PAINFUL emotions and feelings. I hope this information is helpful for anyone who wants to understand WHY someone may initially be willing to engage in the idea of a "possible relationship" but then suddenly pull out the "let's just be friends" card. Good videos. Great channel.
What’s an example of something that would make you feel bad
I think it just boils down to the man isn’t checking the boxes in her mind that is making her attracted to him. So the interest drops to “let’s just be friends.” The biggest mistake a man can do after that is chase. Just tell her I’m not looking for friends. Let me know if you change your mind though.
what a load of bullshit. if something about the man if making you feel bad about yourself, go to a therapist and work on it.
I think the biggest things I've seen in my life was my personal traumas from
ADHD
Childhood divorce I've shared with her
Spiritual things only christians can understand
Age difference
She's 55, I'm 27, not really a valuable relationship if possible
She told me I was attractive and handsome
I know for a fact she was not a gorgeous looking lady beyond her athletic body.
So the reality is that women can pull away from any Man if
1) He's awkward (doesn't matter how much game or money he has)
2) Lacks confidence from failed attempts (Women can sniff this) I don't understand a woman's physiology but it's tough to read if your not use to emotional intelligence
3) If you eliminate sex, you will see her true colors that she never really wanted you.. some people just want sex and they make it known.
4) Women don't care about your self improvement or how many women you've been with. That's only until after the relationship is known to her decisions of marrying you or so
5) Women will test you. Be aware
Awesome video Cory awesome
My response is "I have plenty of friends" and kick them to the curb.
Im happy when a woman tells me no thats a closed door thats god saying i got better for you i love a no i dont have to deal with problems i dont know bout
big UP DUDE!
This must have been one of CW’s first videos.
Looks like your in a sports interview
Well he is the Coach after all
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It does and it's like it always seemed familiar but I never made the connection. Lmmfao
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English premier league 😂
I’ve said this to guys I feel that don’t make enough effort. I really liked one guy I told this to. Because I felt he wasn’t what I needed in my life. He didn’t take it well.
Are you single still hiws your dating life
Had a woman who I began dating, confessed her feelings for me, expressed high interest in the beginning but shortly after a bad date we had she gave me the “I just want to be friends” speech which left me totally confused and shocked! I thought she was into me!! She went out of her way to talk to me and keep me interested... it made no sense! I took it was a nice way of rejecting me but the more confusing part is she still reached out and kept in touch with me (to check if I was still interested I guess) but after a while I had enough and told her to STOP contacting me because I still had feelings for her, she apologized and actually wanted to give things another shot after that........ the thing is...... after a month of dating again she brought up the same things and said she wanted to move on! If a girl comes back to you after things like that it’s best to not allow her back into your life! Move on
What happen in the bad date? That was the issue to her! Then you did it again. You have to find out what happen! Many exes months later would tell me the real reason why they left me. One thought I hated her children. Another one thought I hated her mother. Another one said I was boring and decided to cheat on me! Really stupid reasons.
My ex wife broke up with me and wants to be friends and the next day she’s calling to hang out already ? Wtf is going on ? I go out with her we have a nice time but as friends . And yet she gets mad at me when I don’t tell her I love her still when she doesn’t say it back ? I’m confused
Yeah, I think you're right. No reason to pursue a dead end...
She's not interested!!! It means she's just being polite, if she says she just wants to be friends, take it from me - she means it!!! And if she says she has feelings, it means she just wants help with building work, or lifts to the shop etc👍👍👍👍
So then women shouldn’t be mad when we don’t wanna be friends with them. Because then I’ll be like lying to ourselves, right.
Unless of course you've previously hooked up and messed her around, then she's wary of trusting you, so you will need to earn that trust back 😊
By the way great video
I need help if I'm in the early stages of going out with a girl what should I do about valentines day
What if i did not give the "give me a call if you changed your mind?" speech. Would it make a difference? would this mean I'm not leaving the door open? But I did reject her offer of being friends only.
hello i just saw your video and i liked it but i do need a little help
A woman who REALLY wants a friendship won't ever say: "I just want to be friends." It's totally unnecessary. She'll be a friend without making such a statement.
I have a few so called female friends that constantly contact me I get back to them when I do unlike years ago(BEFORE CCW) I would be available these days I make it clear WHEN I'M NOT AROUND I'M FN AROUND FOR SOME REASON THEY WANT MY PHYSICAL ATTENTION ALL OF A SUDDEN "HEY I THOUGHT WE WERE JUST FRIENDS" ;)
She says we’re friends but she texts me like we are together smh I didn’t by get it
Walk away my friend save yourself the hurt and trouble
Because she wants the comfort and security of having you as an emotional safety net
Walk away brother you’re better than that
Trust me you don’t wanna be around that when she’s talking about other dudes and her girl Bullshit
Again I say walk away you’re better than that
She likes the attention.. 😅
Stop giving her your non sexual attention if she’s not giving you anything sexual
One thing Corey always says is don’t do the texting thing. It’s easy to fall into that, but it’s a trap that ultimately leads to failure.
Low key I hated your work but god damn your a hero
If she says friends only and you accept it does NOT mean you can call her to see if she wants to go for lunch or anything. It simply means she wants you in the background as someone to message for an ego stroke when she's having a bad day. You will NEVER meet her in person, your messages will be ignored but she may communicate from time to time just for validation. If you reply she will know that someone is interested in her and that's all she wants. Any further attempts by you will be rebuffed.
A girl told me that n we met the next day, this girl is just mixed signals
I get the rejection, what I don't get is them insisting on using friends for protection, resources, and emotional support.
I met someone like that and she told me don't want to be physical and want to be friends and will make me cookies ! I did the same took off! lol
It's hard to love a woman due to them want something more, you can give free of charge, no return, to show you want nothing more than affection, you feel happiness when they're around. And when you tell them how you feel... You normally get the "I just want to be friends." Line... Then your heart lays on the floor shattered... and all you can do is either (A: Keep trying there has to be a light in this potential two seat cave of love...) (B: Give up.. try again... and again etc... until you find that MATCH )or (C: Majorly stop and give on trying to love again and assume a good majority of woman out there are basically the same...)
That there is dead on my friend...
Yup
Answer: respect her decision and back tfo
Hey mate can you please help me. I have fallen for a lady who is broken. We have been seeing each other for a year. We have been physical regularly. She says she just can't do a relationship and says I need to seek another lady. When I start seeing a lady she gets all upset with me, so I stop we can't be seen anywhere in public because if anyone sees us, they will think we are in a relationship. Which she can't do. She has told me several times she loves me and the very next day will deny it. What should I do, im despite mate please help 🙏 we are currently doing 1 week with no communication. To apparently see if she can handle not communicate with me she starts a new job tomorrow so after 2 days of no communication I message her to wish her well she said thanks but remember no communication for a week? Your advice is much appreciated.
Hello Mr. Wayne, what if she says she wanna be friends but still kisses you. How do you advise me on this?
Just be a great friend shitty relationships will just end and if the guy she likes starts to get jealous then respect the relationship and move on and be free.
Just make a move. If she rejects you, at least then you’ll know.
Why can't she jus love you like you love her
lol i know right
Guys stop fucking complaining and get a damn DIGNITY!
Because it doesn't work like that. You cant force your will on someone that's unwilling to compromise, that's not just dating that's life. You get met with resistance and possibly a restraining order.
Ignore her for a long time like I did. 2 years of no contact after being shutdown, now she won't stop texting and I just keep muting her.
She can. It is your job to not mess up things and prove you are different from the other guys that helped her create this mindset.
If she wants to be friends sure. Don't expect me to spend money on her. If you want to be more than friends tell her. If she don't you can accept it or move along
His advice doesn't apply to everyone, only to a certain group of women and it seems like that's all he knows. Let's see, if a demiromantic woman wants to be your friend it doesn't mean that she will never develop feelings for you as they develop those through friendship. Some women will rather get to know you first. Not everyone falls for you from the get go. Besides, would you like a woman for her shallow perception of who you are or a woman that loves you because of who you actually are and because she got to know this person that you are.
If a woman clearly states that she could never see you as her partner/lover it's because you're not what she wants and it's best not to pursue her because she's not someone you're compatible with anyway.
But what pisses me off are men who would befriend a girl, spend time with her and then ghost her or leave her simple because she doesn't see you as a potential romantic partner. Imagine if your friends did that to you. It can hurt more than you hearing "i just wanna be "friends"
you asshole..nobody can be friends with someone he loves..keep yourself in that place and your gay partner roaming with someone else..how would you feel..not good no.
...thats it
@@jonathongrabs Are you sure you're not confusing love with lust? Love is about appreciation, not about possession. But then again, I don't think love is an actual thing. It's an ideal concept that is built on a lie. But yeah, You're right. You can't be friends with someone you want so much. I wrote that last comment while I was trying to convince myself to stay friends with a girl I like but at some point I couldn't take it anymore. However, my reason to think that It's impossible is because of the imbalance I'm the relationship. If you really care about someone and want to offer them so much and all they can acquaintanceship (and let's face it, when most girl say "let's be friends they don't mean actual friendship, you're merely acquaintances) then this relation is foundamentality unbalanced and unfair.
@@alexanderl9721 dude. you're the biggest simp iv seen in a while.
hes only with her so that he can get a serious relationship. no dude wants to be friends with a woman hes romantically attracted to. what part of that do you not get???
6 month pregnant ex girlfriend broke up with me on Thursday says she needs space and doesn't want a relationship anymore says wants to obligated to just her kids says too much work she doesn't feel like doing. We been together for 9 months and I love her. She has 2 daughters before me. We lived together and I moved out on Thursday after we broke up. I text her today and checked on her and replied and said just checking on you and the kids she responded we are friends and don't think seeing each other right now is a good idea,but she wants me at all the doctors appointments with her. The kids love me our son is due_July 31st. I love her and will be there for my son but also want her back. What do I do please help and her sister moved in with her as well. She's been single for 6 years before me.
I like a girl who likes someone that lives in another state but the guy is incarcerated , she says she doesn’t want to have sex with me but is having sex with another person , she recently told me on Friday that she doesn’t mind talking to me but there can’t be no kissing or sex, I told her I’m not gonna respect the no kissing or sex rule what should I do!
I met a girl which I like so much.. I ask her out but she responded with the message below shat should I do?
I wouldn't say am disappointed, I think you're a great guy and am privileged to have me in your heart but I would only want us to be friends, nothing more just because I don't want to get attached to anyone for now.
It's a very late response xD but she is not interested in you :(
Hope you found your love though :)
I had a girl reject me by saying, "I think I might be lesbian." I got the drift. 😂
i have a question but what if both of you are ok being friends.
if you are ok with being friends, mean that you don't expecting more than that like being "In relationship" with the girl.. and you totally fine with that.. then it's okay to have friendship with her..
the idea of rejecting friendship with girl, is when you think and expecting her as a dating partner.. guy usually think that it's okay to be friend and stay close to her to prove that he's the best guy that worthy for her, and expecting that she will develop feeling the same as him..
but in fact.. once you accepting her friendship offer... it means that you close the opportunity as her boyfriend
Some girls will want to get to know a guy first as friends. Without any ulterior motives. So they know for sure. This can’t rlly b generalized to all women. Most women, butnot all
john p No, it’s a known fact that women know within 7 seconds of seeing a guy to whether they would fuck him or not based on pure physical attraction
Partnership is about something more than wanting to fuck someone. Actually, some people don't care about looks at all. I don't. I think that all women and men are actually somewhat ugly. But i can like someone's personality.
Not even. When your talking to someone to get to know them first you don't wanna be just 'friends". You guys may not habe sex but there will be more than just friendly things going on.
You obviously dont get it. When girls do that you're back up, Mr nice guy, poindexter, you ain't getting anywhere with her and never will unless shes absolutely desperate and you are her last resort
wish i knew this when i was sibgle
sir which book
if she saids we should just be friends? but i felt like we were in a relationship nd broke up and got back together and moved away for a month and half and just wants space and time to herself and is coming back soon what should i do to make her want me back as a lover and a girlfriend?
I want to be friends again
When they say they don't want to be serious...
......they just don't want to be serious with U.. 💣
So true.. 💯
- @Acharich
I'm a woman and knew this guy for a while from the gym. We got along so well and after 2 months of not seeing each other he asked me out casually which was great.
He wanted me to plan everything, offered no suggestions where to go out despite me dropping a huge hint, tell me when and where I'm there.
Up until 3 hours before we were meant to meet absolutely nothing. I told him to come to my place for a movie night for 8pm. It got to 9pm and he hadn't left yet (I found out he was with his friends chilling) and I said we should rearranged he's clearly busy. He then got annoyed at ME for cancelling on him LOL. He ran over and we actually had a really great night just watching movies.
Things i thought were fine, he messaged saying he loved our evening, it was chilled and we laughed then his messages stopped. They were more sporadic and when he did message he wasn't reading my msgs properly.
I then said let's be friends, is this what you want? not because I didn't like him but because of how he was treating me, he completely changed. He responded if thats what you want then. I asked if he was ok?. Nothing for days. I left it to give him time. A guy who likes a girl doesn't keep a girl waiting for no reason, a guy doesn't ignore you, he listens and responds. He initiates things.
I felt he felt he had me already so no effort had to go in and especially as our personities gel. I know I'm better than being kept waiting and with no apology. If I treated him how he treated me people would say I'm entitled etc.
I thought maybe we are better off as friends and we can continue our jokes etc. Some people make better friends than boyfriends. I was just being honest and he wasn't respectful.
We messaged a bit just jokes and stuff and I haven't heard from him in a week?
Thoughts?.
All these dudes here saying, "Be clear about your intentions." I have been doing that and girls will still do the same things. They keep me around and let me pay for dinner and make me think it's going somewhere and then reject me after I ask if they want to do anything more intimate or even just go to the beach or go to a park on the weekend. I will stop talking to them and they'll try to hit me up to do the same thing all over again. It is driving me crazy.
Read the book dude
What if you’ve just met her? And she says she wants to be friends but doesn’t rule out a relationship directly) surely this early you can’t expect them to jump the gun?
Im sure you’re over it, but I hope you learned to walk away at the first sign of indecision. You shouldn’t be with anyone that has to be convinced of your worth
Any updates
Hi coach, I got a conendrum for you : what does it mean when a woman says "I want us to be friends, I'm not sexually attracted to you", whilst at the same time saying "I don't want to predict the future or anything but it could change". .. While also talking to you every day by messenger, even when she's on a 2 months "no tech" retreat, because "she likes talking to you so much and she doesn't want me to forget her, she'd like to pick up where things were when she come back".. Saying on the one hand "'it's egotistical but I kinda hope you don"t find a grilfriend soon, because you'll be less available for me.. even though I whish you to be happy"...
And with all this, you would have the knowledge that she has not loved anybody in her life (in her owh words), never had sex that was really great, even thought of going on dating sites for asexuals... and she keeps wanting to talk to you all the time, says it will be so great when she comes back from her retreat to have walks with you and watch movies and stuff, says last time she was at this retreat she had nothing going on, but now she has you so it's harder... but still wants it to be platonic... but can't wait to get back to do stuff with you... and you're the only person she's breaking her "no tech" rule for... Quite a conendrum, isn't it. What to do ? Of course I am thinking I should extend the affection I feel to other women, and in fact I do and strangely, that has made me a lot friendlier to women I meet at the park, but to complete the picture, the fact is we are both handicaped, not young (me 50 and her 41), and at some point she told me "friendship and love is kinda the same for me".
I don't think "she's playing you" or "she likes the attention" is in play here... she wouldn't talk to me for hours if that was the case, and she wouldn't say I should try to meet other women... even though lately she has not brought back this subject.It's been more "stuff we will do when I come back, it will be so great". And she does have other male friends but apparently I'm the only one she feels this way about.
Run to the hills bro!
shes yanking you around. nothing more nothing less. you are her back ups back up. the last resort when no one wants her. tell her straight up that you do not want to be friends. its either I love you and we should be together seriously or fuck off, im not your paddy whack.
What does it mean your dating a women for a year than now she says she just wants to be friends but still hang out and do the same thing but as friends not as bf and gf?
Two words - FUCK THAT.
Well the Wayne's are clever than they appear
Want your crush have interest in you? Just don't show interest in her :)
-ignore her
-Avoid her
- talk with people around her
- Don't talk to her
- do not greet her
With this. She will place you in her brain like why the fuck you do this kinda things to her. After few days she will approach you. This works most of time when you tell her your feelings before...:)
what if she just doesn't like you that much and just want u to be a friend? that's possible
What if it's a case where your friend told your crush you like her but you never approach her. A few days passed and you still haven't talk to her and your friend went to her again and ask about it and her response was "I like him as friend." She may assume you are a quiet or shy person because you don't talk much. How would you tackle that situation?
Kymani Wilson n
Grow a pair and talk
What should I do when someone says she likes me and says she wants a realationship then changes her mind
run forest run!
Wtf changed her f ing mind. Fly to the moon and say bye bye
I'm trying to friend zone a girl at the moment I don't know how she'll take it I'm willing to meet her but I will only meet her if she agrees to it what do I do do
If You are the one trying to "friend zone" her. Then , I would do nothing. I would not call her, and if she calls, tell her you are busy until she gets the hint. Why keep her as a friend? (unless you don't have any guy friends)
If you friend zoned her she’ll definitely not get enough of you.Because they do not like to be friends on and that will definitely turn on because you’re not available valuable and it’s a challenge
Why are there so many negative comments about friend zoning A guy.
I know alot of woman do that but there are few of em who just doesn't feel that way about him at all, When a girl friend zone a guy, in few cases it means she wants to stay loyal to him to be there for him in his rough times and she thinks it's not achievable if she becomes his GF, the whole scenario flips 180 degrees.
So if you have a Female friend who wants to stay friends it means she would feel guilt if she somehow messes things up being your gf or either she know that you can find a more wonderful person than herself, or maybe she isn't ready to flip 180 degrees...
ohh. shut it.
I have a friend, actually my best friend. I totally experienced this girl-friend vs girlfriend. I can't stay away from her although she said she loves me but not in love with me. We are together all the time. I even tried to express that I need space. She insist we need to remain best friends but not cross the line. It's killing me...
I know how you feel,., it's killing me too.,., but i am preparing to tell her my feelings about her and give her the take another step or leave that friendship,., because you're wasting your precious time of finding somebody else !!
How ironic. I'm about to do the same thing. I've been biting the bullet and tried to be just friends. Not working for me.
Bro, I'm going through that right now! I'm staying in that place in the relationship until I find someone who, of course, would start as friends, but then grow deeper. I also try to stay away. Not call, or email her too much. I found that after a week and a half , or two weeks she will call to hang out for lunch or coffee, etc. I agree to meet, but I tell myself "REMEMBER, IT AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN WITH THIS ONE". I psych myself out by saying this in my head over and over again!
Yeah, I'm passed that now. I've moved on. Just let it go. I'm too Alpha for that crap.
@@craigdfinn what ended up happening with this woman any updates
She doesn't feel the same way as me but she thinking about it
Johnny Ingram she’s lying trying to give you false hope or she’s trying out other guys to see who is the best option. If I were you gonna would just cut her off
why do women tell you to calll them then right after the date
To see if your weak enough to do it. It’s a test
i was dating my girlfriend for a month now she told me she just wants to be friends?
help plz
Progress?
You fucked it up my man it've happened to me once, she told her friends that i'm boring.. the best move you can do is to move on & let that bitch go away.
Girls they come they go You'll find another one and you will progress.
You didn't hit it right.
Any woman that tries to friend zone you, walk away from the relationship as she clearly is not good enough for you.
What she is telling you is cryptic "I want you to watch me hook up with someone else right in front of you."
Screw that crap. Walk away.
She got what she wanted, kick her to the curb and walk away.
maybe someone can decipher this girls behavior, had a girl tell me just wanted to be friends. texted for a couple months and finally hang out for the weekend, we end up hooking up. after still texting frequently and asked was the hook up just fun or something more. says still just wants to be friends. she wants a FWB right?
Stop asking where you stand with her, instead read the book!
She is worried that you might like her more than she likes you. If there was sex involved, maybe she just enjoys that.
Coach, what do I do when... “read my book”. Eehh
what if she was your gf for 2 years, she dumped you, afther 1 year you reach out, ask for a date, she says yes, but only as friends?
damn this happened to me ... same exactly situation .. however i did not except friendship i told her that im only interested in her romantically and that if she ever changes her mind and she wants to go out on a date with me .. to go ahead and contact ,me and i walked away.................................................................................
Why would you reach out? She had her chance she blew it
When a woman gives me the friends zone speech, I just hang up on the bitch or walk away. Fuck that shit.
She want to be friend? Why not..
It's funny I met this woman and one of the first things she told me was, "I just can't seem to find a good guy that has hes life figured out" mind she had a boyfriend and was in a very unhealthy situation that made her unhappy and heading to depression, I have been there so I know the signs. Hold and behold I am the guy she was talking about she could never find, I figured might as well stick it in her face and tell her. I fell for this woman the moment I saw her we spend some days together and we had SO MUCH in common I never felt or had something like this. In the end I felt that she was complaining about stuff that could have been easily fixed in her life, she just wasn't willing to and that's where I draw the line I have my life together I have a house, a car a good paying job, lots of benefits I want to push my partner to be there very best. She told me that she knew I was the person she needed in her life that I would support her in becoming the person she wanted to be, yet her action's showed me the complete opposite and she pushed me away. Loving someone is also letting go, so I did what was best for myself and I let her go. I had only known her for a week but still it felt as if I had lost a soulmate (I am not overreacting) I think she understood, she wasn't ready maybe she wil never be. Life goes on.
DON'T DO IT!, the "friendzone" is more depressing and hurts worse than having the self respect to walk away from the rejection to find someone else that loves you! The only further contact a woman will get once she friendzones me going forward now is NO CONTACT! The friendzone is filled with anger and bitterness
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