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Love this. I used to be cross eyed and wore glass throughout my whole adolescents before glasses were a fashion statement. I was teased and called ugly quite a bit. I did not, what some would say, blossom until college where I finally figured out who I was and who I wanted to be. Yes it took time but I slowly changed my appearance and how I presented myself. As my confidence grew so did my appearance. You can lose weight or get all dolled up but you will not see yourself as beautiful until you actually feel beautiful and this where the real change happens. Being teased your whole life makes it very difficult for people to gain confidence because it has been taken away and stomped on for so long. The media is of no help either. With all these so called perfect celebrities who get plastic surgery to change any flaw they feel they have makes us focus and obsess on every little flaw we have. People need to put down the media and really see themselves, love themselves, and quit focusing on society's standards of beauty and make your own. Trust me, the people who call you ugly that you think are attractive have insecurities as well. Those people just choose to point out the flaws in others to make them feel more beautiful. Love yourselves. You are your own worst critique.
I sometimes thought i was kinda attractive, especially in college, but it didn't matter. It actually kinda backfired. If youâre open to what it's like for guys, whose problem is more than losing weight or being confident etc. n open to what really attracts women, with sources numbered 1st and shown later, read carefully:
Most people find certain things in the opposite sex attractive, with LITTLE subjectivity, n rate symmetrical members of the opposite sex as more attractive AND in better health than their less symmetrical counterpartsâŠMen with higher degrees of symmetry enjoy more sexual partners⊠women are choosey. (1)
Women are becoming Obese at faster rates than men with more obese women around than men (2), but women rate 80-85% of men as below average looking while men rate 50% of women as attractive. (3).
In the last one hundred years of research, beauty seems to be the one thing that most reliably produces the Halo Effect. Itâs the most powerful 1st impression (it affects how your personality is seen/treated). (4)
Studies around the world, online or not, for generations, reveal women (say) they favor personality traits like confidence/honesty more than looks but their actions show that you usually only see women with a guy less attractive then they prefer because women value money/status in a mate more than men do, but are more picky/rigid (5) and âracistâ for short/long term dating compared to men. (6)
Girls will get the best they can get in the following areas, usually more/less in this order of importance/objectivity: handsome, tall, fit, wealthy, high statusâŠ.then her preferred race (usually white)âŠTHEN fashion/personality can SOMEWHAT, KIND OF matter TOO. With sexist/biased affirmative action, family courts, welfare, etc. women now need men less n so are more picky on looks, resulting in more single moms, incels etc. In 2008, roughly 10% of men under age 20 reported no sex (but women had more sex). In the following decade, the % of sexless men under 30 nearly tripled but the % of sexless women barely changed even though most women downplay their sex count and men usually overstate it. (7) For every woman whoâs seeking a relationship, thereâs nearly 2 guys who are too. (8)
Most people arenât able/willing to rate others very accurately, and most women are overconfident in their advice on how men attract women. They canât leap into a manâs body to understand, but even if given a pic of a man they claim isnât unattractive, they still can't use it to attract women. (9)
In addition to learning all the above from decades of experience/observing others, everywhere from K-12-University life to online apps, naturally or via experiments that me/friends did, using my instinct or peopleâs advice, you can verify all the above yourself by having some Arab lookin guy with a bad face/body/job approach some young âWesternâ girls in âREALâ life (or online) & upload the girlâs reactions, the % of girls who gave their number/flirted, if they were at least regular lookin gals who seemed sincerely attracted to him or 1 old/obese mom acting in desperation for attention or a steady provider to help babysit.
P.S Please see the "WAW" (What Attracts Women) series on channel FaceandLMS for now and/or click the sub/bell icons on my channel or channel Playitalready for possible future uploads with interesting details/facts on this n other stuff. I may see your comment IF you post it on my channel or Playitalready
SOURCES:
(1) Biologist R. Thornhill studying faces for over 15 years, (2) CDC obesity stats, (3) OKC/Tinder ratings by gender, (4) Study by psychologists K. Dion, E. Berscheid, E. Walster, (5) Professor M. FugĂšreâs study, (6) Standford study, (7) Data reported by Washington Post (8) PEW research (9) âTinder Experiment: 18 Yr Old Woman Tries Being A Man!â (Video on channel Alexander Grace)
and now your flipping beautiful!!
@@airplayrule Absolutely! Not all experiences are going to be the same for everyone. Any type of counseling and therapy is usually personalized and tailored to each individual. I feel like he just kind of gave a general idea to his concept. I just gave my personal experience as I found that I related to some of what he had to say but I completely agree that some people might not. Iâm sure if he would not give this exact same information to every client. Everyoneâs experiences are unique and different to them.
*You are your own worst critique.* That's why I've had bloody fists after playing video games.
You're a female your experience even as being ugly is nowhere close to ugly men, studies have proven this, an ugly female still can pull guys easier than some men above their look standards can pull girls you're experience as an ugly female adds NOTHING
Once you're called ugly, it becomes hard to believe when you're called attractive by others.
For real
Definitely can relate to this.
I also want to say....the boy needs professional, or spiritual, or just plain good hearted help. I wonder if he is the type to take it? Or is he the type to stew?
Because u are not
@@kaddhaficel2674 god knows what you look like.
Bro honestly this guy has had more dates than I did. Props to him for the courage
Same lol. He has a girlfriend now too
Melissa Apoka Batting average doesnât matter if you get the game winning home run. Good for him.
Yeha, I was amazed when he said it. Made me feel thus the more bad for him despite his effort somewhat.
Yep Iâm not way too ugly for love
But it hits different when you date someone but they just repeatedly tell you how ugly you are and how you are lucky to be even dating them. Its not much painful if you just dated once, but repeatedly? Mad Painful
It's funny how everyone thinks that you can just all of a sudden "go to he gym get dental work get good hygiene" it takes a long time and a lot of dedication, it's not easy at all
And genes play a big part
If you are willing to give it time, it's possible. Life is not easy unfortunately.
Exactly!
Looks matter to most people. Dude is being really dishonest with that man or with himself. If you are not honest you cannot help someone in that situation. Advise him to see a specialist like an orthodontist and that the road will not be easy, but it is possible.
Things that are worth having are never easy. It is for some people but those people want something thatâs not easy to have. Weâre all different. Stop focusing on how the thing you want others have
The problem with dating coaches is that they are not ugly. So when they present their advice it's coming from a totally different experience and lack of understanding. Confidence is important for ugly people, but it only goes so far.
Most realistic and mature take Iâve seen so far
Exactly, your value unfortunately is based on other peoples perception of you. It sucks, itâs like if 98 out of 100 people find you repulsive, then itâs going to affect you mentally, your self esteem will take a hit. People will treat you so badly based on how you look, even on a subconscious level. Its like if a good looking man were to have a conversation, everyone is glued to him, but if an ugly man tries to have a conversation, there wouldnât be one at all because everyone rushes to get out of there. So now, you feel unheard and unwanted.
He actually has a gf now, in case Anthony didn't watch that specific video
Oh god I hope he doesn't treat her like shit. I mean, he seems to really be into incel culture and theories. Poor girl.
@BurningSpirit definitely!!
@@dianana7371 yeah I hope it doesn't become toxic for either of them
Claro con ese pitty party
@@dianana7371 With all due respect: if you think all "incels" are potentially toxic and dangerous people, you're part of the problem.
I know that loneliness and rejection could make someone think and react in certain negative ways, but to go and say "poor girl" like that seems like an offense to a guy who just wants someone to count on and grow with. So many non-incels can be just as toxic and narcissistic too (if not worse since they have more "tools" and opportunities at their disposal than lonely people) so incel and narcissism aren't linked to each other.
This is how it goes. U say "I think I'm ugly" someone says "omg no ur not, ur very attractive " but still no dates....
They can't accept the truth and like to do mental gymnastics to say why looks don't matter. Always interesting to watch.
@@multicrogamer So you think looks matter?
One Girl:"Im ugly" *her friends*: u re attractive
One Guy:"Im ugly" *his friends* we already knew xd
@@aquacyanide From my research and thinking looks are 90% of attraction.
@@multicrogamer hm
Yt recommendations getting a bit too personal lately...
LOL
Im all for self acceptance, but I think if this guy got a haircut, orthodontics, a little skin care and got in the gym; over time it could make a huge difference. Not easy by any means but possible.
For a moment I thought you were talking about Anthony.
SideSwipe 904 I was thinking the same thing! Ortho is underrated, and it changes face a little bit too. And working out (even a little bit) + a bit of self care definitely goes a long way to how people are perceived by others
honestly the boldness he had to make this video made him attractive to me in some way, i wouldnât date him because i still donât know him but idk i just thought it was cute in some way sorry if itâs confusing
I think self love is needed more than anything. Feeling worthy, even when youâre alone however you look. I would only recommend exercise and gym training to get endorphins going and getting away slowly from his depression.
@@GrnG-zt2qs Nah the rest is also helpful for his depression. Anyy action you take to better yourself helps with that.
All the people saying "I don't get attracted to people based on looks" You're full of sh**, and you know it. Just stop it already, pleaseđ
That poor kid is objectively unattractive. Telling him to blame himself for rejection is the dumbest thing you could possibly do. If he lacks confidence it's because it's a natural reaction to being viewed as subhuman by his peers.
You know what the funny thing is? If you were a rich white person claiming that a poor black person just has to do this or that to become as rich and privileged as a white person, the rich white person would be laughed at for being so ignorant. And yet we let good looking men and women try to tell ugly people that they know what itâs like and that they have the answer to fixing how society treats you as an ugly person
@@frankiel3767 they have nothing to lose and could get whatever they want but still acting as if it took a long way to be on their positions. they might not recognize it and they might do. The thing is attractiveness would works %80-%90 for them.
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I agree
Plenty of Middle School students call other students ugly without much thought. As they age and become an adult, they will be less likely to blurt it out (social conditioning) but may still react in a distasteful way as a defense mechanism.
Actions speak louder than words!
Listen. Like it or not, you can't just swallow all this pretty bullshit. How we are is not entirely up to us: we are a certain way due to how we've been treated in our life and other factors :/ you can't magically expect someone unattractive to behave with the conference and ego of someone who's been filled all their lives with pretty experiences, that's simply mental
It takes time and thsts what matters
But you can tak responsibility for what you CAN change! And that's what this commentary above is about.
Yeah, it's not an overnight change. It's a hard work and time.
@@monikas.442 and what can he change unless he has a bunch of money to fix his looks
@@monikas.442 This shit is soooo old, my god! It's so tired, of course there's things we can all change but those things don't matter as much as the things we can't change, if they were we wouldn't be focusing on the things we can't change, if my personality or status or whatever mattered I wouldn't give a shit about my face and up until I started liking girls I genuinely didn't.
It's so interesting how we people tend to notice things about ourselves that no one ever notices. We hate parts of ourselves that most people would probably either not care about or even notice. This is why insecurity is one of the most unattractive things we could have, because we would look for someone to validate us because we can't validate ourselves.
It took many years and many bastards to finally validate myself and love myself.
I am happy with who I am and strive for betterness in my mentality. I have always had extreme difficulty finding a partner, and now at almost 30 I'm loosing hope. I don't let that distract me from my goals though.
I admire this person for telling his story, I can relate. Rejection, bullying and the feeling of loneliness is something I am too familiar with.
That's life.
very very true. I aspire to be a good person. not an attractive person. being grateful for what I have and trying to accept myself is the best thing I can do.
mass effect 3 was awesome, I wish they release a remake
@@OpenWorldGamer- haha! Well the ending was absolutely disappointing. But overall, great games yes.
@Bee Bop exactly, I don't depend on that at all. I was speaking about part of my past. And how i would like someone in my life now that I'm about to finish college :) but how I'm loosing that hope of finding it.
Funny thing is, i notice and hate things about myself, i completely ignore and don't care about in other people. It's dumb as fuck how i can't let go of things, i don't even devalue in others.
My boyfriend doesn't think he's attractive. When we met online, we didn't know what each other looked like. I fell in love with his personality and how he is as a person. He may not think he's an attractive person, but to me, he's the most handsomest person on Earth.
Handsomest hmmm i like it
Thatâs amazing. I wish you two an eternity of happiness
That's sweet †I wish you two all well
Hope the relationship is still going strong queen
U arint with him anymore
51 minutes??? This felt like 15 mins
yeah went quick
Facts
It felt like 25 minutes to me, oh wait Iâm on 2x speed
omg thank you for reminding me shit... i already had to go to bed đđ will be a difficult day tomorrow. Edit: I am going to continue to watch this video tomorrow
Oh my golly. I did not notice that until I read your comment lol
If a dating coach keeps telling you "you are good-looking" but you don't get the same outcomes than a legit attractive person, guess what?, you're not good-looking.
No. There is SO MUCH more to work on yourself. Social skills, lifestyle, etc. I know you might be hurting right now about yourself, but trust me-the world isnât so simple as to say looks are everything. They really arenât.
Anthony: most people look like him or me, normal people
Also Anthony: is one of the most attractive people I've ever seen
Yeah, i also think hes really attractive
Lmao seriously đ€Łđđ€Łđ I was thinking the same exact thing.
haha saame đ€Łđ€Ł
Ikr this guy clearly doesn't understand he's the peak of male attractiveness
I get Antony's point... Put a uncut hair, a not really fashion'esque pair of glasses and an awkward posture and they will get quite similar... But Antony haves six hundred thousand times more confidence, and believe me... Confidence gets physical.
Anthony, you're not ugly, you look average, so you can't understand what it's like to be ugly. And when, due to the reaction of the environment, you have not been able to build self-confidence since childhood.
I would consider Anthony attractive. Not average. Maybe not a 10/10. But probably an 8/10. He has a balanced face. Normal sized nose. Normal/Visible jawline. Not overweight. Teeth look good. No weirdness on the rest of his face or body.
Thank you!!
He isn't here to understand he is here to make sure he protects his income. Can't really sell you the "dating course" if he tells his main costumer base that they have no chance, or very low chances. Just another person using others misery for his benefit.
3 years passed i hope you escaped this incel mindset that is lying to you. looks do not matter
Dude said 20% of pulling women is looks and 80% personality??? đ đ€Ł đ Man,I'd like to be on that planet he's talking about for a day đ đ€Ł đ
No bro you dont understand, you need confidence and my coaching to get a gf
@@ernestoguevara4261 If only you showed a better attitude on your tinder profile when you swiped like on >6000 girls and got not a single match! HAHA YOUR PERSONALITY STINKS LOOOOOL
Personality matters but looks are really important. People need to stop lying. I gotta be honest I saw my crush and liked her before I got to know her and then her personality added onto her. Gotta have that physical attraction.
bro just hit the gym bro, like take care of your hygiene bro, and get a nice haircut, easy bro, you'll get all the pussy in your area, trust me bro
If you want a second date you need personality
"I love my nose now, I think it looks dope" best statement of 2020 by far
For real
Self-pity is a trap
This comment needs a 1,3k likes at least
Mambi WhoKnows thanks man, just hope more people can realize how destructive self-pity can be if used wrongly, itâs okay to feel sad sometimes but if everything in your life revolves around it, then youâre gonna be limited and fulfillness will be out of reach
â@Re nato To be fair, to be constantly surrounded by people having what you don't have, while also being treated less because you don't have it, is a difficult thing. Not at all saying self pitying is the answer (it's really not. Letting your emotions come and go - emphasis on that they're temporary, is healthy). I've only watched that video and his update video but he also said some stuff like he only got serious friends when he was 13, and they treated him that way too. And they kind of weren't even friends with him because of him, but due to someone else (his mom in this case). Soo... Just saying, it doesn't sound like he's had that good of a support system, so it's no wonder if he's not exceptionally skilled at handling something that can hurt so much in your day to day life.
@Re nato Ah nonono I think I didn't get my point across the way I hoped then. I believe his attitude comes from the challenges he's faced *because* of his appearance, along with the absence of support that people ultimately need to persevere healthily through tough life circumstances.
As it is now, his attitude is what's causing his problems, but I think that can be traced further back TO his appearance. Idk, those are my thoughts at least. I don't know how much you can relate to what he's going through, but I guess I can a fair bit, and it's not so simple as "you're not pretty", so much as a consistent bullying and being put down and excluded (which is actually scientifically, psychologically, proven to be one of the worst human emotions and the ones that we humans biologically are made to be very sensitive to. It also has a bunch of other mental problems that can develop from that feeling of exclusion. It's because we're social pack animals and all that, so we're supposed to want to work towards being included in the group.). You can't expect someone to walk just because you can, when their legs literally won't work and yours do. In the same way mentally you can't always expect someone to have made the best decisions, when those require resources (internal) that they literally don't have.
@Re nato Hi! Sorry for my answer coming a bit late (had lots of tests to study for).
English isn't my first language so I'm not 100% sure if those are rhetorical questions or not. I do think (or at least hope!) he is in one stage of healing from his past experiences though!
Sadly there aren't always people who have warm feelings for someone, at least not in their vicinity. It takes going out and meeting new friends and new people to find them, but that's absolutely worth it when one does!
Hope you're doing well, thanks for an interesting discussion!
He was affecting your business by telling the truth, so you made the video. But good looking people could never understand how does it feels to be ugly.
I used to be sad that i didn't look incredibly great. But then i realised that people won't gravitate towards me just cause of my looks but I'd get people who actually are interested in me so I'll be actually lucky to not have fake people.
Exactly I understand
I'm at the point where I don't care if theyre fake, I just want someone to hang around with ... I'm tryin to get out of this
As soon as he said he is not ugly i knew this video is BS and not honest. People that tell us ugly people that we are not ugly, you are just hurting us more because you are lying.
He isn't ugly and you are not either. You need to lose some weight though and that will do wonders for your looks. Beauty standards are not the same for all people.
He is not Ugly.
â@@MrA-ir3me Yes he is ugly, and beauty standards are similar for a lot of people, stop with this sugarcoating bullshit, you and a lot of people in this comment section are being so fucking disingenuous and you're not helping anyone by lying to them and telling them something that they've already heard dozens of times from other people spouting fake bs like you. If you're not gonna say anything insightful, don't say shit.
YOU LOOK LIKE ADAM DRIVER!! NOT THE DUDE . YOU!!
'It's all about personality' well, no, Tony, it's not all about personality. Especially at his age. And don't pretend like you don't get it. The guy is ugly, let's just be honest. It's not the most horrible thing that can happen to a person. It's not that great of a deal most of the time, but when it comes to dating... You know it does matter. And I know how much personality matters, but there is a certain point which you do not cross, even if the person has an interesting personality. You wouldn't date a 400 pound, hairy woman that's missing 5 teeth and has a huge nose, even if she had a beautiful personality.
But then again, I can't really feel attraction.
And btw, quit mentioning your nose. It's actually tiny. And I'm not just being nice. I am literally not ashamed to tell you how it is.
I agree.
You have to consider his experience growing up. From those friends who get free cigarettes from his mom to all those below average (or atleast how people mostly judge or stereotype them as) that he tried to date but their standards were just really high that he was repeatedly rejected over and over. Because those affected the way that he feels about life now, depressed, sad and just not happy about himself anymore.
He went through and experienced the most blunt people and straightforward friends ever. He isnt delusional, more like the opposite. I tell you, unless you are not considered really ugly in majority of people's judgement, you will never see/experience the worst of people's rude blunt toxic attitudes that comes out of them - the true colors of people. Tell me how it would be easy to get over that.
That's the ignorance of most decent looking people, it's useless to expect them to understand this. Just wait until someone replies to this and claims that i just have a "negative mindset" and a "victim mentality".
@@axis1198 I just hope plastic surgery advances so that more people with real flaws can benefit from it. It's sad, but needed today unfortunately. I am in the middle of surgeries myself, and i hope to god i get enough help so that my life's quality improves.
Celebrity culture is on the way out. So, itâs a good thing you arenât able to make the celeb shirts on budget! Ppl are finally starting to see that celebrities are just regular people and have no more inherent value than any other person. In many cases, the ppl most idolized have actually been propped up by handlers with selfish agendas. Celebrities want to be free too.
So true
Gosh I hope youâre right! đ€
Itâs adorable when attractive people proselytize about how other people should feel when not attractive, or should I say âuglyâ. Letâs stop with BS and hypocrisy. We all know that looks is what ppl notice first, and there are actual studies that more attractive ppl have vast advantage over not so attractive. It has nothing to do with shallowness. Itâs just an inate thing, simple biology.
Soo true !! Attractive people dont understand and never will, they get soo less rejections and more options!! how you can compare this i dont understand!
I agree to this.
But I also agree that itâs still a shallow way of thinking. When I went through puberty I was the UGLIEST... very very unattractive ( I may look well on my profile but Iâve came a long way, deffo better than before lol)
So I understand what feeling ugly and getting rejected is. But also I had a terrible personality.... idk something tells me it was my personal that was much more harmful than my face and caused people to hate me đ€·đŒââïžđ€·đŒââïž
Thereâs a lot to you that meets the eye than your looks, itâs a true thing. Almost all my guy friends/exâs were ugly. But when I liked them as them, I instantly saw them very attractive. Even the most attractive in some cases.
Not saying your opinion or anyone on this doesnât matter, this is just my take on.
But people base their attractiveness on the opinions of others, right? Which depends on your environment. Someone may seem attractive to you, but have loads of self esteem issues due to them not being seen as attractive by the people around them.
Invalidating someoneâs experiences unless you personally find them unattractive isnât the best way to go about things.
@@marinaSassygUrl88 nope, judging from your profile picture, youâre overweight and your face isnât chiseled. If you looked like you were carved out of marble you wouldâve been able to minimize your rejections, and your âbadâ personality wouldnât have mattered that much. Itâs okay though in sixty years to maybe tomorrow youâll probably die, and see if thereâs anything deep out there or if itâs just as shallow as you claim evolutionary disposition towards good genes is.
Poor guy. I empathize with him. I was called ugly in 5th grade by the most popular guy in school. It felt horrible. But then I got braces, learned how to groom myself better and do makeup/hair for my features, and mainly gained confidence and worked on myself internally. Throughout this process I gained more friends, got more male attention, got a few boyfriends here and there, but most importantly I felt better about myself. Now Iâm 20 and Iâm still learning more everyday on how to be a better me and how to love myself. Itâs a lifeâs journey for everyone.
I think the best thing I can take away from that experience is that not all attractive people are good people either. I learned early on not to see people for how they look but for who they are.
Were you called ugly only once in your life? Iâve been called ugly multiple times even recently lol. But i never really had a problem getting attention from guys
@@Diana-wk9qv hey ugly
not everyone can afford braces or had a good houehold to get good care (I was raised in a very reserved poor household where braces werent around and I grew up without; got lucky my teeth and jaw are not that bad health wise or look wise personally despite the lack of care I had and was it my parents fault? they did NOT WANT me to or them to be filthy, we simply didnt have the money and we started fighting to pay the bills cos we were forced out the house if we didnt buy it and we lived in a small village and had no car nor people who were willing to drive us cos they all were too selfish to help and were fighting and yelling at each other, especially my family in general), perhaps he has a form of autism (that yes, can cause poor care for health. my nephew had it bad when he was younger and it was proven cos he had a severe form of his autism that led him to ignore grooming). make up is never just the solution, but a good skin care that doesnt have to expensive is. the confidence and such I agree on. we have to try and work on ourselves, despite all. We still learn and change overtime, and we sometimes dont even realize it, but everyone should shut up about his teeth cos he has a very bad receeding lower jaw and that cant be just fixed with braces at that age I think. I had a friend who had a bad receeding upper jaw and she had braces but her upper jaw was so bad, she had to correct it with surgery with lots of risks.
Myrk FĂŠlinn no I agree with you. Even though I got braces I still have an over bite because thatâs just how my teeth naturally set in my mouth. But Iâm still very very thankful I was able to get braces. My dad paid for my braces and he doesnât make a lot of money at all. He works a minimum wage job but Iâm very lucky that he was still able to do that for me. I think Itâs one of the greatest gifts I couldâve received. Itâs great you were born with decent teeth! Haha that means you donât have to wear a retainer at night for the rest of your life lol! And I agree makeup is not at all as important as skin care. I mean the better the skin the better your makeup will look as well. I feel bad the guy has received mistreatment for his appearance. I hope he finds real love someday
Diana Muniz no I definitely had a period where I was made fun of for my teeth because they were just bad. It was a big overbite and one of my front teeth crossed over the other. I was also really skinny and scrawny too so people would be mean about that. The one that stood out to me the most was the kid in 5th grade. I kinda liked him too so it was really hurtful. But Iâm honestly glad those things happened cause idk who Iâd be if I didnât go through those things đ€·đŒââïž also Iâm sorry people have said that to you, Iâm sure your very beautiful :)
This entire comment section is full of people who would say "If you are homeless, just buy a house" to a homeless people.
No one is trying to understand the ugly man, you here to make your ego about how someone or you were in the "exact" same situation(which is not true at all) and got rid of that situation with "dedication"(which is not true at all). You are here for toxicity. Nothing else. You don't even understand how bad his situation are. You are just justifying actions of people who harrased the shit out of him.
Your reasoning for him to be harrased is as same as people who says "you should have wore more clothing" to raped women. You should consider your fucking reasoning and do more fucking empathy.
Heâs actually in a happy relationship now. It wasnât long after he released the video.
Entirely the opposite. This isn't "if you're homeless, just buy a house" it's "if life gives you lemons, make lemonade"
I dated someone who looked like him for two years. Personality is a HUGE factor.
Did you wear a beanie the whole time?!?
Nah. This picture was taken years after.
DurAAceLL sheâs not Tim Pool
I wonder, how tall was he?
I'm 5'2 it doesn't matter how tall he is lol. It's not hard to be taller
Man this is really dishonest. Vast majority of people wouldn't be able to look at this guy in the eyes
Back then when I was younger I gravitated towards those ppl like him. I always tried to give them appreciaton and love, so that they can feel beautiful. But fact is, it worked kinda in the moment but afterwards they stayed the same.
I think such ppl just need to get out of their pessimistic and hateful (towards themselves) view. No girlfriend can give you self esteem, if you hated yourself before, bc if she breaks up with you, you'll get even worse.
He needs to love himself before commiting to a relationship or friends with benefits.
This!
PERIODT.
Yep, you gotta love yourself before someone loves you. Building yourself will bring ppl you want in your life
I did that too. Same thing here. Insecure people never change no matter how much you give or do. It just doesnât matter.
But I'm a narcissist and I love myself more than anyone else. Still, girls don't love me.
2:00 Your analysis & feedback here is exactly what he found on CZcams, an attractive or decent looking person giving their opinion on the issue that is ignorant because they are not ugly. Minimising what he feels & knows are objectively unattractive features, or saying you experienced the same (as >normal guy) or raising the possibility that his failure is because his personality didn't shine (that requires the opportunity) is unhelpful copium that sounds really nice and performative to the attractive & normal people on the outside looking in at him.
Weirdly enough, he's in a relationship now and just said that this video was a drunk rant.
@@AnthonyRecenello sad though, because I think he's voicing a lot of people's feelings
@@legzfalloffgirl5148
How is it sad that he found success?
I don't understand comments like these. Anthony is telling this guy that looks are not the end all be all and you and other people's responses are just to tell him that it's not true? I mean what do you want him to do? Let this guy stew in bitterness for the rest of his life because you think he has no hope? Tell him he's ugly so you can have ammunition for your argument? People like you are honestly no better than the people who bullied him.
Blaming the victim and downplaying the pain that the guy has gone through by saying you had it just as rough as him (when you clearly didn't). This video was painful to watch. I hope he never sees this video in his life - it might take a real toll on his mental health.
He never said he had it as rough as him
How the hell did this guy even get the opportunity to talk to 500 girls in 2 years? I thought i had found the problem right there, surely he had a maximum of 2 conversations with each girl before asking them out
LOL! Yeah if you go around asking out every woman you talk to, you kind of get a bad reputation with women.
No, he just texted 500 people. It's a lot easier to ask people out online, but it's also much easier to get rejected.
itâs kind of weird when people are pushy are quick about it though
âHe looks like Adam Driverâ, bruh you look like Adam Driver đđđ
I remember being asked out by boys in primary school like this, and it was primarily humiliating cuz you knew you were like.. girl 99. It's worth saving your energy for people who really excite you, esp people who you find particularly funny and interesting, bc it's immediately obvious even as an adult when someone just wants ANYONE and.. you'll do. Nothing could be more unattractive! He openly states he pursues women he finds unappealing, so there's no way he would've been giving them a desirable energy
âVanity never ends.â - Anthony 2020
So what? Comes with the fucking package that is the human condition.
I am LIVING for your energy in your videos lately đ€Ł on a serious note, there's always something I learn and take away every video. I feel like social media is one factor in perpetuating physical insecurities in ourselves because it is such a visually focused platform. We sometimes compare ourselves with curated images (edited, photoshopped, specifically angled poses) of other people and then feel bad about ourselves. We're comparing ourselves with someone else's life highlight which is doing a disservice to ourselves. We are all worthy enough, no one's life is better than another person because there is so much that goes on behind the scenes of these seemingly "perfect" people with "perfect lives" that we don't see.
Anthony looks more like Adam Driver than him tho...??
Only the hair. In terms of facial structure the Swedish dude resembles Driver a lot more
@@bubbamike4743 I mean Anthony has the profile
@@bubbamike4743 swedish dude doesn't resemble Adam Driver at all.
I feel like the problem with that guy isn't about the way he looks, but about the way he speaks about others. If he contacts people "less attractive than him" and expects them to like him because of that, i am not surprised they say he is not their type. Typical incel
Agreed on the first part, he's not an incel though and never has been, he said that he didn't understand them once in a stream I think and seems fairly respectful towards women otherwise. Scarily enough, there are much worse guys out there.
No, he tried dating girls above him and on his level too but that never panned out either and he was dating "down" so that he wouldnt have to be as worried about his looks and he could be more worried about being a good dude, but that didnt work. You just really don't understand the struggle of unattractive men.
@Mayo Dog Couldn't have put it better bro, I'm an average looking guy, maybe teetering a little on the below side because of my current weight, but it's really easy for dudes that look above average to say shit like this.
Perhaps he grew up in a toxic environment? would explain a lot and it took the best of him, but he said in the beginning that he would try to ignore it, but he ept getting mean comments every other day and of course, we as humans cant just ignore bullying forever that is continuously eating at your confidence over and over again, right? He is not an incel, as far as I know from his videos, he's incredibly kind and I dont think he goes to scream at women for ignoring him. He's just very insecure, thats it.
exactly!
Ok, so let me get it straight. It is easier to have a great personality when you look good because then you are always appreciated for your looks. It boosts your self esteem and makes you more confident. If you are born ugly you can't do anything about it. Even if you have a great personality but look like a fucking golem you will be rejected. Think of it like a product. If it looks good you will buy it and if it is good you will keep buying it. That's the same with person, if you look good you will attract people and then it depends on you. But if you look like this guy, you won't be able to attract people and that's how things are. Look at your classic charm series, all the guys are good looking.
Exactly. So many attractive women on here claiming they were called ugly. When? When they were super young
@@NickOloteo they don't understand men. Simple.
@@NickOloteo yep there's on comment above of a girl who was called ugly one time in 5th or 6th grade comparing her experience to this guy experience and then saying "you just need to be confident". C'mon, you can't be more oblivious than this.
Not sure I agree. I worked with a young lady who had some serious physical flaws yet she was the one girl in office everyone clamored to be around. Her personalty was striking. Her husband may have also been considered âless physically attractiveâ, but they loved each other so much no one noticed their looks.
@@thevagabondsageinthewoods well what you are saying is anecdotal. If we look at a wide range of people from different backgrounds most often the most charismatic people are good looking or at least above average looking
I mean... the guy already had a whole lot more dates and relationship history than me so...
Just an observation about the girls he was texting when he was 15, if he thought of them as not very pretty and texting dozens at a time, women sense this and stop feeling attracted so people should have a good attitude and narrow it down to get to know someone
Teenage girls arent fully grown like teenage boys. perception is different. sure, giving off a weird vibe can ruin attraction, but with teenagers, attraction is usually short and very intense and as far as I was a teen and went to two different schools, met so many teens, its always peer pressure, gossip, expectations, romanticizing ideas that arent there. Sure, this guy didnt formulate it right, he is def influenced by peer pressure, but he's def not a bad guy. He'll develop as he ages, as much as teens do too overtime. Usually at least, in the best circumstances.
How do you sense things from text? Makes no sense. Only if you are truly overt it can be sensed.
How the heck are they sensing this bro?
@@uglydude4691 I'm guessing by the way he talks to words used you can get a sense when someone really wants to talk to you they will talk just to talk to you and not answer with three word texts and you will get a feel of how they want to talk
@@multicrogamer No, you can tell. I've had this happen to me many times. Guy acting fake-in-love with me. And sometimes they slip.
I donât know why but this feels like your big brother gives you advice. Love how calm he is.
Iâm ugly too but *it is what it is.*
I'm so blessed to had found this channel a couple of months ago, Anthony honestly talk about stuffs in a really realistic way, so it's really precious to me to hear these visions be spoken
I didn't like this video. I can't stand it when people downplay other people's pain. You really went off on a tangent before you even heard his story. It was very painful for him. The whole personality thing helps, but....It only helps a little in my experience. And why does everyone have to be an extrovert in order to be attractive? Why do I have to walk around acting like a social butterfly to be attractive when that's not who I am?
Tan Real, soy una persona introvertida y estoy a gusto se hacer amigos pero no me la paso riendo y socializando todo el tiempo.
Absolutely! On further reflection, though, it's more our sense of purpose, what we give to the world, than our cocktail party skills that lights a spark in others.
Honestly, if he had some orthodontic work done, cut his hair, got different glasses and went to the gym, he wouldn't look bad at all. Minimal changes can do a lot, it's not a question of plastic surgery or anything. Also, I can relate to what he says; I was also called ugly, boys didn't like me, didn't fight over me/chase me, bullied me, rejected me etc while other girls seemed to have no problem getting a boyfriend. But the past doesn't define me as it doesn't define you. With work on your personality and looks, you'll be way more attractive and interesting.
damn, stay strong champ
@Mr Zazovia Thank you for your wise words. Here a comment not from me but from the original video (being ugly : my experience). The, "Just fix yourself up and workout" comments are so one dimensional and kind of stupid, those people clearly missed the point. There's a lot more of factors that go into being ugly that people can't help. How are we supposed to change since we are born like that?
First of all, orthodontics fix your teeth, not much your jaw or the bones of your face, so no. If he cuts his hair he'll get worse, the hair is helping. Maybe a different glass would help, but that would be minimal. And most important of all, you're a woman, you can't relate. It's way different. Not even considering that you just said the problem with him is that he's different from what you think he should be.
Watch Animes ASAP mewing can work if he wants to changes his jaw.
@@goggle2233 Yeah, I've read somewhere he's doing it, he's better now but it only goes so far.
Just told my mum to call me beautiful and it turned into a whole lecture. Like mum I love you but I just want a compliment.
You look great today đđ»
I don't know how you look
I dont know how you look, but you are beautiful so go kick some ass and be your lovely self!đ
Forcing a compliment wouldnât make you feel good.
Thatâs Nigerian parents for you...
LOL âdoes he go on dates with that microphone coming out of his shirtâ? đ
To Anthony you donât even have a big nose đ
Ikr? Idl what it is about people that think they have a big nose, for no reason at all.
@@apollo5261 someone must have pointed it out. same with me. i used to have a friend who would nitpick things i never have noticed before. i was already insecure about my arms, so id always wear a jacket, never tank tops. and i hated my belly, so i covered them with my arms. but shed say how my face looks like doofensmirts, how my knees had too much fat, and how id chew to loud, how i had way to broad shoulders...so i started noticing these thigns too
Katrin idk sounds like she might be jealous of you
@@CardinalTetra idk. i meet her, i was pretty young, ingenuous and wanted a friend. she was very toxic, like movie toxic. shes emotionally blackmail me, threaten me, pressure me to do things she wanted to. she once pressured me to go to school even tho i told her i cant, i had too much pain. she didnt care and i gave in. then shed rant and change her mood completely, tell me her mom is not my taxi driver (her mom would take us to school). last time i talked to her, she would threaten me to reply to her texts. id ignore her, but she would msg me on all of my socials, telling me shed post pictures of me on instagram if i didnt reply. i ignored. and blocked her. then her mom would message me, telling me to unblock her, that she doesnt know what made me become so cold (like wtf). i told her no, her daughter is too imature and at 18 its pathetic to do bullying. she said we both need to grow up and i was like wtf. didnt reply anymore. but the cruel part is, that somehow she found out my sister died and she didnt care, she wanted her will, but that was when i realized how cruel she really is. like i already knew, but it was a stockholm relationship i guess. shed bully me every now and then, but id always went crawling back to her lol
@@katrin6388 thats awful, im sorry to hear that
Subscribed purely for your compassion. Great calm voice my dude, look forward to going through your content!
A naturally attractive guy is discussing the problems of naturally unattractive guy trying to say what to do to be attractive xD That's funny
I hate the separation of ânormal peopleâ and âfamous people, movie stars, etc.â like they are automatically known to be better or better looking. Celebrities would look like ânormal peopleâ without the pounds of makeup, plastic surgery, thousands of dollars on a camera, photoshop and filters... this is why people like me still hate themselves.
U r right that it shud not b like this. But it is, and the best thing to do, Ik itâs hard, as Anthony says is not compare rselves to others, especially movie stars. And U R BEAUTIFUL btw
@TacĂžs ăă Agreed it exists, but as Anthony says, do we really want to associate rselves with those ppl?
Adam Driver is conventionally attractive though. Like yes he has a big nose but hes not unattractive by western beauty standards. I agree with that a lot of attraction is based on how you present yourself and taking proper care of yourself and yes there are people out there that will find you attractive but i feel like saying that he looks like adam driver is a bit of a sugar coat but then again thats just my opinion
Every thing this dude says about adam driver is dead ass on the money ... I have gotten up and walked away from cute guys because they had no ethical backbone in casual group conversation .. Its All about how self aware and self possessed a person is 100
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Hello Anthony, hope you're doing well.
attractive people wouldn't really understand how hard is living and dealing with people reactions over ugly people looking. Being ugly is totally different than being unattractive. Looking does affects on personality, if you ever try to be confident, sociable, funny and just be yourself you'd face societies who made a system of beauty and ugliness relating them to good and bad traits. you'd never change the impressions on their heads if they don't want to, they gonna act offensively over anything an ugly person does or says because they're just looking for something to make them start bullying or fighting and be comfortable on their conscience sides and not be blamed on.You might not see people on real life acting this way because you're simply classified as 'attractive' to society. People aren't what they really are in front of rich and attractive people but they're themselves in front of unattractive and less people than them, that's how you're gonna see the world's reality.
80% of your attractiveness personality = 100% lie! Some people are just unattractive
yep. This people in the comments saying "personality is the most important thing" are the type of people that just can't be honest with themselves or the world.
Personality is only a part of what makes attractiveness.
@@hannsbananas you would
a pretty face is a healthy face and it's in our blood to know that
Edit :you got destroyed and called him a pea brain looool
And sed he is close minded soo mad đđđ€Łđ€Ł
"Healthy genetics "
@@hannsbananas you got destroyed and you can't accept it. emotions got to you and you scream ignorance. try to learn and become more knowledgable in what you preach.
I actually really liked the merch and the whole idea, usually when I see youtuber merch I dont think about buying them, but I would totally buy this merch it so amazing
dude i came here from one video about justin bieber and instantly became so drawn to what youâre saying like there was just a respect with how you reacted simply with what you saw. and i agree so much on all of it. and i even took down some notes for myself. many many people tell me i am really pretty. i should model. but ive always felt like im not enough. i compare myself to other girls that my ex chose over me. i question whether or not having brown eyes is better than my blue eyes when NONE of that matters at all. i simply just need to accept who i am and love that. and i could never understand why, my best friend who is noticeably visually unattractive, is so much happier than me in life. she fully loves herself and is confident and funny. she never apologizes for how she is or what she is. and that always inspired me but i didnt understand why i couldnt do that. why i always feel like my insecurities prevent me from doing things i like. or taking pictures with people i love. they say the harshest critic is yourself and thats so true. đ thanks to you i am on a path of self improvement. (which was always the goal but you really motivated me to push harder towards that
Youâre honestly the older brother a lot of us need. Thank you đđ»
AND this new iconic gear is fuggin GENIUS dude!! Seriously one of the most creative approaches to merch iâve seen!
I have never been rejected in my life.
Because I have never asked a girl out.
Damn I actually cried when he told the story about his mother printing pictures of celebrities with "ugly" noses :(
I remember my mother telling me similar things when I was younger :(
his mother was....no comment...
Why ? That was wholesome. đ
Yeah. I cried too. Except my mother would never- đ
I absolutely love the positivity of this video, my profile pic is old but I can I identify as a person who initially hated the way I looked but kinda like you said I worked on myself, and âgrew into my featuresâ and I love the way I look now.
Skip 5 mins in. Youâre welcome
I completely understand him. Nowadays world is very very into looks because of instagram. I cant even remember the number of guys who have rejected me because im too overweight for them (i go to gym but my genes make losing weight so hard for me), i have bad teeth (had braces but didnt help), i have this sharp long nose which definitely does not fit me. Because plastic surgery and instagram, people tend to want handsome people not people with personality. Whoever tends to diasgree, they have probably nothing wrong with their appearance. Guys like in this video tend to be single for very very long time
by bad teeth do you mean crooked or you have cavities?
@@metasequoia3097 Crooked and close together or missing teeth, has been what I've heard described as bad teeth.
@@jclyntoledo Crooked isn't necessarily "bad", as long as they are not growing in a way in which they impact (press against) other teeth. But obviously from an asthetic point of view it might be bad.
I've been told me face is ugly by numerous women. The main difference between men and women is that men are more likely to gravitate to a good body and women are more likely to gravitate to a good face.
When I was younger, I had the same insecurities. There were so many things I wanted to change about myself because I swore they made me unlikeable... then I went to college. I realize a lot of my insecurities came from being in an environment where black women were not seen as attractive. Once I went to college and became a part of a much larger group that had more than one standard of beauty, I felt better about myself. Getting braces made me more confident to smile more often. Being away from my overbearing mother gave me the chance to wear clothes I felt comfortable in and allowed me to explore hairstyles that made me feel pretty. Now 17 years after leaving home, I donât automatically feel like people are judging me the moment they meet me so I feel less paranoid about being around people. Sadly the only time I feel insecure is when my mother is around. I donât think her wanting to âpresentableâ for the big, bad world when I was a child made me fearful of going out into the world.
You're gaslighting so hard dude, just stop.
Honestly I sympathise with him because I'm also in the same boat and dealing with loneliness. This guy in the video actually got a girlfriend and he seems so happy now, his girlfriend and him are still together and they both look so happy and I'm glad he found someone :)
How is red pill a âdark sideâ of the internet đ
Iâm 14 years old and never hade a relationship in my life also Iâm decently ugly I always get made fun of for being ugly but this video has taught me many things I appreciate how you showed me that being yourself is your true beauty.
Oops I forget to say Thank you!
It's okay man. I'm 23 years old and I've never had a partner. Just take your time and work on your self love and purpose in life. Love and friendship will come your way when it's the right time for you
in my country (brazil) people about your age are not allowed to date by their parents. So keep calm
I disagree with you on the 'not my type' statement. That statement has nothing to do with personality when you are writing a girl you don't know. Usually this means that the girl doesn't find you attractive. However, that doesn't mean that you are unattractive. A girl might find you unattractive but another one might like you.
Not true at all. I am all for personality and if someone is racist, boring and sexist in a convo or other dealbreakers then that means they're not my type
@@jagelskardey Yes sure. You are all personality, uhum. How many times did I hear this nonsense from women ??? You look at the personality after you decided you found him attractive. If you didn't find him attractive, you don't care for personality. If I am not right, then please contact this guy with the glasses and find out about his personality. Maybe you are a match in heaven.
@@DiegoGonzalez-go2qy You know what? I can already see alot of his personality from his videos and humor is a huge factor for me and we don't have the same humor at all. Also he already has a lovely girlfriend. There are alot of guys who's not normatively considered attractive that I do find very attractive because of their personality. Check out Squirmy and Grubs here on youtube. The guy in a wheelchair with a disability is super attractive to me because he is so funny and charming and has great values. Many times I've dated guys that are super funny and charming while some other girls are like "you know you could get a hotter guy, right?" when they see a pic of him. I might not care very much about looks but do have super high standards when it comes to personality.
@Jack Schmitt yeah that might be true with some women and it's true with some men aswell. Listen, humor is personally my number one when it comes to attraction and honestly he doesn't seem very funny at all from the 5 vids I've seen of him. Why do you wanna force me to want to date him? Him and his girlfriend seems perfect for each other anyway
This is my favorite video and reaction of yours! So many valid points. I definitely go for personalities (I'm demisexual and it's impossible for me to be attracted to someone just bc of their looks. So Tinder is weird for me bc I never have a clue if they're my type) and from what I can see he doesn't have a very attractive one. He seems shallow, bitter and judgemental etc. Now I know that was his low point so maybe he's funny and all that but humor is super important for me in a relationship and it didn't seem like he had much of that. Also that was a really good point in the end when it comes to girls. It often seems like guys feel like just bc they're flirting with a so called unattractive girl, the girl should just be happy and let him sleep with her, no matter what. As if she owes him that. But there needs to be a connection. The way he views women made me feel really bad about myself, it made me question the intent of every guy flirting with me.
In today's society, humans can be hypocrites, I went through the same experience in high school of being called ugly and unattractive. Yet when I'm on their social media, they're looking for someone that is not about looks but personality.
The thing is... He starts to explain everything in a superficial way. Yeah, he was treated that way. I know that. But he is not different. He has categories, too. Maybe even harsher ones than the people he thinks of as beautiful compared to him. He draws so many lines that they turn into borders he cannot cross. He does not allow himself. He categorizes fat girls as not that beautiful and wonders why they are not attracted to him. Well, maybe they felt that. Cause fat girls are not dumb, lovey. And because they are fat they don't have to give themselves a 5 instead of a 10. What really matters is how you see yourself. It ain't easy to view yourself a beautiful and lovable when everybody around you tells you you are not. Nevertheless, love starts within yourself. And seeing everybody, including you, as a 10 til they showed you otherwise. Not the other way around. In a world full of 10s you will surely find someone special that is your personal 11 as you are to them. So... Instead of only catagorizing he should seriously work on his feeling of selfworth in therapy. Over and over again. And distance himself from people telling him he is ugly. Noone is. That is a word that is misused. And it should only describe an act. Not an appearance of anything or anyone.
everyone has categories. Beautiful people and ugly people. Fat and skinny. You can try to make this act that everyone is a 10, that's not true. You are just lying to yourself and the world. Your 10 can be someone that other people find ugly but it's still a 10 for you. A 4 for you will never be a 10. That's just the reality. You can stop categorizing people but
subconsciously you will approach people you find attractive more than the people you don't.
exactly! he complained a lot about how people said he was ugly, o whatever, but that's literally what he says about other people as well....especially girls, how fat they are, how huge their nose is....boy that's definitely a reason to not be their "type"
@@SofiGerardi17 let's be realistic, everyone has preferences, and no one likes to date people they find unattractive that's how the world works. He is ugly because most people would look at him and never see him as a potential partner and even if is ugly he is also not going to see woman whom he finds ugly has potential partners. Don't pretend that you are blind and the only thing that matters is the personality. If you like someone personality but you aren't attracted to them at best they are going to be your friend not your lover.
I love this, the moment you said âthatâs what someone shallow would thinkâ đ Iâve thought people werenât attractive, and then after talking to them and looks begin blending in with their personality and it can make a pretty person ugly or the other way around
just cause your not somebodys type does'nt mean theres something wrong with you.
"this dude looks like Adam Driver"
I SEE ITTTT
Yesenia J Ulloa Adam is so atractive but not handsome, still he is my crush
kelly vega I know me too haha. His hands are attractive tho haha
I dont see it.... I thought that about Anthony a little bit though. Lol
@@puppycatwiththefuzzypants5537 Yeah, I think it's one of those things that it's hard to objectively determine. Philip trevor brought up the asymmetry. Haiku Rutledge brought up the long face. Which are features that Adam Driver has. So I see what Anthony was talking about, but I wouldn't call them twins or dopple gangers or anything like that lol. I also kinda see your point about Anthony looking like Adam. Haha. It might just be the brown eyes, light skin, and dark brunette hair tho
i'm 15 years old and im lucky that im already learning stuff that alot of people only learns when they grow older not being able to find happiness
Yes, but make sure you are also taking action, or you are gonna regret all the wasted time. I talk from experience.
@@roqueserey646 A very vague and generic statement from your part tho.
@@sonyg0640 obviously, i don't know anything about his situation or what his goals are. But i know that he has to apply all that he is learning and take it seriously or all that knowledge will be of no use.
Im 10 years old guess im luckier than u since im younger.
@@layunic And you wont be 10 years old forever. It doesnt mean you will take action or able to apply knowledge.
It bugs me how he calls other people and girls ugly and fat. He even said the whole country of people can be ugly!!! Could it be that this is why girls didnât want to go out with him? Just a thought.
I was far from conventionally attractive and popular and Iâve always went out with guys like him, not popular guys, but each of them made me feel like the cutest girl in school!!!
Totally agree with all the rest
Yes. I feel sympathy towards this guy but also some of the things he is saying are kinda grossđŹ
Mayo Dog yeah, but short doesnât mean ugly. And ok, I am not picking on him saying fat (altho... but I get it, we are both from Europe, âfatâ is not a slur here). So a couple of things:
- wtf does it mean âa country where people are more uglyâ???? Like what the hell? What country is this? What kind of nazi nonsense is he saying?
- girls can pick up lack of admiration/lack of interest. And I agree with the rest of what youâve said on that topic, but here is the thing - the reason fuckboys and future abusers are so hard to resist is exactly this - they usually are charming in the beginning. And it takes years of growing up to be able to see right through that bullshit. But lack of interest is easily detectable. Like he is not trying or smth, or a condescending tone...
And I am not saying thatâs the case, I am just being hypothetical. He got a girlfriend in the end, and she seems to be positive for both of them
Mayo Dog ok, letâs hold the horses for a second. English not being his native language is a lame excuse (for me at least) . Itâs not my native language either. And in all 4 languages I sort of know âuglyâ means pretty much the same thing. It became a negative word way before our generation was born.
That word you didnât like me using adds my frustration and anger at the fact that there are people who still think that one whole nation of people can be prettier/more beautiful that another whole nation of people. Like what nation does he think is less beautiful (as a whole multi-min people group) than his nation?
But that doesnât mean I donât sympathise him. I get it. Itâs hard. He is lonely, he is drunk and he struggled. At the same time I think that it might be that he allowed himself to get lost in that negative state of mind and it doesnât take him anywhere. And his looks are not his biggest problem
Mayo Dog also, where I come from âshortâ means âshortâ. No correlation with being attractive or not. It actually is preferable for women to be short, and itâs ok for a guy to be short also. Plenty of guys in the US would be short, it could be an insecurity, it could be just a description. Ugly would never be âjust a descriptionâ. Would you really say âyeah, I love her, she is ugly but she has a good heartâ??? Really???
I hate responses like this. He's obviously ugly by modern dating standards. It doesn't help to deny reality. Rather than addressing where to go from there, this kind of stuff wastes everyone's time with the responder lying through their teeth for the sake of appearing like a good and tolerant person. It's not about you making yourself look better. It's about the original poster
0:15 'Fists of passion' sounds like a title for a really messed up adult's film.
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Honestly, I still hate my giant nose and I'm over the age of 30 years old, but I've been through three surgeries I had to undergo and I don't want to experience that level of pain for anything voluntary. Also, I'm a woman and I feel like I can relate to this guy's level of feeling rejected and alone -- I didn't make my first friends until I was 14 and I didn't get into my first relationship until I was about 20 years old -- but I feel like this guy's level of desperation are at significantly higher levels than mine, and I've been in an unrequited love situation for YEARS (and yes, it is genuine affection). But at least two out of the three relationships I've been in were healthy and I'm still friends with them to this day. Also, I feel like a lot of my own personal feelings of self-loathing and loneliness are more depression- and anxiety-related than anything.
Dude your mindset, attitude, & outlook is amazing. You're so uplifting and honest, it's like a blast of fresh air. I got misty eyed. Honestly, the dude looks like Paul Dano, so at first sight I associate him with intelligence & creativity, but that's me.
Anthony, I love you so much!!!â€â€â€ So much common sense, so much accuracy))) Please, can you do the video about how to define values??
I am not gay, but you seem like a really nice Guy. Good looking, confident, Kind and grown up. I like your Videos and keep up the work!
I really love Anthony â€ïž he's always in the premier chatting with us and he's always makes really good videos. Also when we give him ideas he listens. We will bradison videos so much you always clear out things we don't understand about tik tok couples. you said you were doing one of these but I really hope you do them joey King and Taylor Perez. Also Lana condor and Noah centineo. Anthony we appreciate you
wow iâm so excited for your merch line!! such an original concept :)!
For me I didnât care what I look like because I had such high self esteem, I didnât care that I did not have popular friends
Basically...the whole video is the coach saying he disagrees with the guy. I didn't see much in terms of practical advice. He did speak some truths, as in, he should try to be around people who do not value beauty as much. But at the end of the day? Everybody does. To varying degrees. And if you are unnatractive, life is way harder for you. It is what it is. Acknowledge this, improve on what you can, and live your life to the best of your ability. It's genetic lottery.
no. most people - if they keep their body fit - are attractive. you gotta stop it with "if you're ugly then you lost the lottery" and "everyones shallow" youre going to fall into the dark side red pill bullshit. you are speaking like someone with little experience in dating. most people who complain about this stuff have not spent a lot of time meeting people. so yes, this video is me saying he's wrong. and guess what? he admits it too. he now has a girlfriend and is happy and admitted he was just drunk af the night he made this video. its okay to get upset sometimes, but to wrap your whole identity around the red pill philosophy is setting yourself up for a jaded life.
@@AnthonyRecenello I don't disagree that keeping one's body fit can do wonders for their appearance,( that's why I said ''improve on what you can'') nor that wrapping one's identity around this sort of philosophy is dangerous- it is. I agreed with you when you mentioned that you can control certain things about your general appearence, like a better angle for photos. This is true. My point was this: there is no denying that beauty has a lot of power in this world. There are studies proving how attractiveness can lead you to simply being treated better( as if you are a better human being than others) and having a lot of opportunities in the world available to you.
Unattractiveness does the opposite: it can negatively impact your life in certain areas, like your social and dating experiences( not to mention self-esteem). To me, you came off as dismissive of both this fact and his life experiences in order to validate your argument and prove he is wrong. Like that was the most important thing to do in this situation : to say that he is wrong , and that's it. And you did the same in your reply.
I'm glad to hear he is in a better place in life. I came across his video-and yours- and found the things he said to be painful as hell, so I'm happy to hear he is doing better.
Peace
@@daniellima5791 I agree. But also disagree. Again, youâre giving red pill talking points. Being attractive can also make you seem less approachable and people can hold resentment towards attractive people.. treating them rudely.
I may say that he lives in sweden where the beauty standard to fit in society is quite high- the whole country is built-up from people wanting to look the same. Think of the groups in your class that looks the same - that group is representing sweden and its people. How people present themselves in sweden is quite overkill since most people make themselves prettier for just going to the supermarket. It's a cultural shock that especially americans notice that swedes have to look their best at all time- imagine being a teenage in this society. Unless if you live in a village there will be trend people EVERYWHERE. Sweden as a country do also have very acceptable appearences so seing an "unattractive" teenager or young adult is VERY unusual, since everyone is trying so hard to fit in. It's really about fitting in in sweden so people who don't follow the beauty standard in sweden is basically just an outcast that is hardly ever seen out in public. The unattractive here is normal in other countries so the standard is high but no one is talking about it. Sweden is a judgmental and fitting in based society-
Thanks for this. Wish it had more upvotes. I don't think most Americans will understand this because there isn't as much empahsis put on physical appearance in America compared to other countries. I kept wondering where he was from.
I didnt know this. This is crazy..
that age of sweden is long gone (with the tall blonde people being the standard) now it is filled with muslim immigration virtually everywhere and it keeps growing while the natives decline, it is a lot more diverse
I'm just here to say I truly recommend the Iconic audiobook
I really want someone to help him get a makeover like with clothes and his hair style because if he got help and advice on what things suit him more I'm sure he'd be automatically better looking than what he is. Plus if he found people that actually cared about him he would probably feel better even more.
If Anthony and this guy would have a baby together, that kid would look just like Adam Driverđ
P.s: Also, could you believe that just 2-3 days ago I watched the original video and wondered how cool it would be if Anthony would react to it? Pretty awesome if you ask međ
Well it came up in everyoneâs recommended, thats why it has so many views
This apparel looks great! Good job dude.
Yeah when I first heard his story I was completely floored that people actually treated him so horribly. I have a theory that it's because his insecurity is leading him to people who are also insecure and then they take advantage of it in the form of abuse to make themselves feel better.
I'm thinking maybe his parents were the ones who pointed those things out to him (Like his loose skin) that's why he makes a point of it.
Def possible.
When I was 10, cut my hair on my own once and thought I like it, but my mom came in and said âyou look like a boyâ to where I cried in my room for hours. We lived in a townhouse so the walls were paper thin, she could hear me. And she didnât bat an eye. Iâm 22 now and I still think I look like a fucking boy lol and Iâm tearing up typing this.
K C S so damaging :( Iâm sure thatâs not the only instance either. Therapy could help
Thank you guys for the kind words. I know this may seem like nothing to some people but this really scarred me, I know Iâm an adult now and I have the tools to overcome this, because I would do ANYTHING for my mother, and I understand that she wasnât stable herself when she would hurt me like this. Hurt people Hurt people! I forgive her, but Iâm still working on overcoming this.
@@kcs4652 That really sucks, you didn't deserve that.