"get it out of my system", "it will go away". You hit the nail on the head. Same thoughts for so many like you and I. it doesn't work that way. God wants us to be good, productive people. Sexual orientation is not important to God-he loves us.
Strange, that. I had exactly the same thoughts for so many like I, and like you too. Another weird thing: I know what god thinks too. I know what he wants, when he wants it, and how he wants it done as well. And I really really know what’s important to him. It’s such a shame that many other folks are not as full of certitude as I and you!
@@GarethJefferson Strange how we are alot alike. My life has been good for the most part. But, I kept so much inside and now don't know how to be happy, fulfilled. Kind of lonely at times.
I think most gay men atleast think if i were str8 it would be easier. But after some time and with the right people around u realize there can be the same happiness no matter the orientation.
Taking the LDS references out, these stories work just as well for me people like me who was raised as a Southern Baptist. I am 71 and lived in that religion trap until I was 41. The God I was being presented with early in my life was so wrong. People had twisted and misinterpreted scripture to suit an certain bias. Love wins every time. Still a believer. Still in church. Still a minister. Still trying to show people a loving God.
Thanks for sharing your story Andrew, I went through pretty much the same thing and also thought I was the only one ever to go through it. It is so relieving to find these videos and stories online to help me not feel alone. It has been just over a year now since my divorce was final after 5 years of marriage. It has taken a lot of time and self-reflection and counseling but I am finally starting to feel good about it all. The love and support of my close friends and family has been really helpful too!
U'r great. I once had an LDS friend and he was so conflicted. I don't know what happened to him but he was very intelligent and educated. I'm hoping he found his balance in life.
Thanks, but even though he was into older guys I was like his second guy and he went on to figure out his life and we lost connect. Very intelligent guy but having a very hard time with his LDS background. Just hope he's OK now.
I am see this seven years after you made it. I hope your life is good. Most everyone I know have all found their lives got better and as they age they have had good lives. Thanks for putting this out there you never know who it will help. By the way you’re a good looking guy. God bless you
i can relate to a lot of the same things you went through. except one thing, I still can't come out. The thought of disappointing family kills me. Thank you sooooo much for sharing your story, Andrew!
"The thought of disappointing family" may I ask how old you are? If you are over 21 and your family cannot accept accept you for who you are, they don´t deserve a place in your life. You were not born to fulfill other peoples expectations. You know the expression "the gift of life", right? Your parents gave you this gift, they made you who you are. They are not entitled to take that gift away from you.
I enjoyed watching your video. It was You all along, the one person who made it most difficult to come out to. But, it's ok, see, society made you feel this way. I thought you would never get through it but you finally did. God loves you and so do many others so be strong, proud and live a happy life. Seek your happiness and live. Life is short, share it with someone. Thank you for this video.
Thanks so much for sharing your story Andrew. I’m 66 years old and have been out since my twenties but it is still powerful and poignant to me to hear stories like yours. It’s not an easy journey for any of us regardless of our backgrounds or situations. We all relate to the pain you describe. I especially related to the feelings of guilt for leading girls on. And just wanted to say, you are super sexy and seem like a wonderful guy. Hope you have found an equally wonderful boyfriend by now.
Thanks for sharing your story, I really enjoyed listening to you. You tell it with sincerity and depth. It's tragic that the Mormon religion forces people to suppress their true selves and pushes them into marriages which can't be sustained. What a shame that you had to spend over a decade of your life in struggle. You are a really handsome and attractive man. I guess you must be 35 by now ...and I wish you all the very best and hope you have found happiness.
I was married 16 years faithfully! Like you i put it in the back of my mind. Divorced the same year you got married. I’m still not where I need to be but have come out to a few. I’m 51 now! I am taking one day at a time. Best of luck to you Sir.
Andrew, you are to cute for. words. That aside [wicked smile] I have had a few experience's - relationships with LDS men, and like you're self they were just tortured souls. Anyway.....You are still veryu young, so all my best for you to look forward, and feel assured to a great life!!!
All these stories have many things in common. Basically, realization that you are different, shame, fear to be rejected and bullied, denial, inner struggle, effort to conform to the church or other people's standards, and at the end self acceptance.
You overcame a lot of church/community teaching to get where you are. I'm proud that you were finally overcome your community standards and pursue your life as you wish. Nice work!
You can't really help how you truly feel. I get that. No one should care because it doesn't matter, and it's none of their damn business to begin with! I don't even see how anyone should think they need to 'come out.' Who cares what the small thinkers will think? It's sad that so many are scared shitless of their feelings and bodies, and are compelled to afflict others with what they choose to try to impose what they think one should be due to their own fear, religion, ignorance, or maybe their own damn repressions. Total bullshit is what that is. Just be happy and as good as you can be to those in your path through life. What really taught me to think this way was when a great long time male freind made a move on me, quite shocked, I had to reject it as gently as I could because he was such a great person, and I kind of knew he was probably gay anyway. But it was a hell of an awkward moment. I remember feeling terrible when I realized the courage it must have taken for him to open up like that and be turned away. Sadly, he disappeared, and I haven't seen him for many years. I just hope he's okay, and happy because he absolutely deserves to be.
I can totally relate to your story. Mine is almost identical. Technically, I'm bisexual, so I married my first wife, with the idea in mind, that if I had a woman in bed with me every night, that "maybe" my homosexual attractions would "go away." Naturally, they didn't. I tried praying my homosexuality away, I tried drinking and drugging my homosexuality away, and that didn't work either. I began Prayerfully Studying the Holy Bible, and GOD revealed to me, that HE does NOT make mistakes. And that HE created me to be a bisexual, and really more "gay" than straight. And HE showed me through his word that contrary to popular "man-made religious OPINION" and "false man-made religious Interpretation" that a persons sexual orientation, is not only "not a choice" but it's also "not a sin." And it's also not something that GOD is going to "fix." Because GOD doesn't "fix" what is NOT broken. GOD Bless you on your life's journey.
so true I have done research on this and still am going a journey partially like this and concluded that it is about the emoitiol closeness bond between two people that love each other very much is what God meant to be and those that only like people sexually not emoitally are meant to stay celbercy
Sounds like this guy was only recently out to himself before making this video. I could be wrong but was sensing that he still had a lot of shame...spoke a little halting, couldn’t look into the camera, etc. vid was 3 years ago...hoping this man has done well in the interim and become more comfortable with himself. It was a lot to process in the short time between coming out to himself and making this vid...maybe happened a little too quick. I had a very similar story and becoming comfortable with my self took a while...years and years of learned negativity to get rid of. my heart goes out to him and hope he’s doing well and happy in his life now
I can sympathise with this young man, knowing that he has been subject to indoctrination by the rigid teachings of the LDS church. I am now 89 years old, but back when I was 25 I came out to my parents who then tried to pressurise me to date a "nice girl" and everything would work out. I can remember saying at the time, "what sort of a life would the girl have with me showing no sexual interest. That stopped the discussion right there! Subsequently I met a nice guy and we were in a relationship for nearly fifty years before he died. My family eventually came to accept the situation. I am grateful that my insights as a young man prevented my having to go through these agonising thought processes.
it would be so nice if SAME SEX ATTRACTION could be so difficult if people feel it, then it must be something.... years of wasted life HIDING GOD BLESS YOU
@@patcola7335 Big of you to notice. Smug? Superior? Saved? You have no more insight to the workings of the universe than anyone else. Quote from your bible, and I'll quote from my Superman comics - neither of them are real.
@@patcola7335 the Old Testament is not history. And prophesy - on what provable science is THAT based? It's as valid as astrology. But then, you are not likely to sway from your superstitions.
Believers will tell you that God doesn't make mistakes; he made you the thoughtful, kind, intelligent person that you are. And, he just happened to make you gay too :o) Unfortunately, some of his followers will try to tell you that you are a mistake, even an "abomination", depending on how they (mis)interpret the Bible. The problem is theirs not yours. Thank you for sharing your story. Yes, some men don't reach this point until they are in their 60's and have been married for 40 years. Your enlightenment came much sooner. Enjoy life; it is very short! Best from Indiana!
No other way around it you seem like such an amazing man, my God I would date you in a heartbeat you have a an amazing aura about you, it just so many amazing men from the salt lake area but you are something else you just seem so amazingI haven't finished watching your video yet I just had to comment,you're you're somebody I would love to have a conversation with!!!!😊
Andrew, just as an OBTW, you are not slow or out of the ordinary in any way for the way you treated your recognition of being gay; trying to bury or outgrow that ‘phase;’ hoping ‘the right girl’ could save you from your homosexual attractions; thinking that you could and should marry...all of it. Many of have walked that same path. Years ago there was the ‘men’s movement’ in California (80s - 90s) and it was a sort of priesthood for secular guys who wanted to be close to other men of all orientations. I met many men who had married, stayed married, raised families, and were finally ready to lift the veil on their innate sexuality in their fifties and sixties. So, relax. Be you. Love yourself. There’s a lot to love under your hat. You’re strong. You will be fine. Look for the real you and invite that guy into your life. Soon enough, you will find someone to genuinely love with a love you haven’t discovered up to now. And, he will be lucky to find you.
It took me years of dating and one broken engagement to a woman, along with reaching the age of thirty, before I was able to fully accept my homosexuality and come out. A deeply conservative and religious upbringing creates a personal hell of self-hatred when you are taught from day one that who you are is an ugly abomination. Like you, I was pleasantly surprised at the level of acceptance my family and friends gave me when I finally worked up the courage to come out. Now, at age 55, I am happily married to my wonderful husband of 12 years and life couldn’t be better! Sometimes I regret the lost years of my youth that I spent in stubborn denial and internalized homophobic torture, but, considering how good things are now, I’m convinced the path we take and where we end up happens exactly the way it should. Thanks for telling your story and best wishes to you.
When you're growing up, you hear homophobic comments and words from everyone, - family and friends. Then one day it hits you - they're talking about me! That's when the panic and shame starts. Oh my God, how do I get out of this situation? Am I gonna be like this forever? Why is this happening to me? Then you realise that you have 3 options; 1) Commit suicide. 2) Tell everyone and risk being disowned, ridiculed and even beaten up - sometimes by family. 3) Disappear, go somewhere new and start your life again as the real you. You hear people say "It's a phase, it'll pass". But then you realise that no phase lasts that long and then the realisation that you are stuck like this forever. There's no escape and no changing who you essentially are. When I came out, I had to drop a few 'friends' who suddenly didn't like me for what I had never done before. They just hated me. Getting them out of my life was the first step and I surrounded myself with people I could/can trust. My father took a very long time to accept me, even though I really felt that he never did. My mother and sisters were fine about it. My mother gave me a big hug and said "It changes nothing, you're still my baby boy" My younger sister is very protective of me and if anyone is homophobic to me in her presence, then God save their soul, she is ferocious. At the end of the day, LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO PRETEND, MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY FIRST. THEN MAKE OTHER PEOPLE HAPPY. Sometimes you have to be selfish. If someone can't accept you, cut them out of your life (That includes family members and so-called friends) Now I feel NO SHAME. I LIKE COCK - deal with it - this is my attitude now. Don't let names and words upset you. Yeah, I'm a fag - and what?!? DEAL WITH IT OR FUCK OFF!!!!!!!
As a straight female, you need to tell every girl whose heart you broke why you couldn't commit to them ' because you were and are gay. Each of them will feel SO much better.
These ppl never seem to just accept the fact that there is no good reason to keep going back to a religion that hates them...its not a god....it's man ...for lack of a better phrase ... take the good parts with you ...the hell with friends and elders that cannot see the error of their ways....that said one doesn't have to be mormon to have very similar experiences
He recognized that he had same sex attraction. He lived in denial. He tried running away from it by doing all the things that people deem “normal” like dating girls. Dating girls didn’t work out. He came to terms with being gay. Came out to family who were supportive. The end. I just saved you almost 17 minutes of torture. You’re welcome.
Beautiful guy - but strange. You would expect him to end by saying how he's begun to date guys and how things have turned out. I'd like to know more ! All that effort directed at the girls. What about all those gay guys out there. He's a nice and attractive man.
Canta Libre For myself, I’m not certain I ever blamed God as much as I suffered in many ways. Tried to pray the gay away. There was a point as a young man that came very close to suicide for many reasons. Over many years, and from guidance from three wonderful pastors, I came to some truths and realizations. Fred isn’t broken and God doesn’t make mistakes. It did happen and was not a good time in life. All very true.
You are doing what many people do when public speaking. Using the phrase 'You know" over and over. Your story is inspiring but try to conciencessly correct that.
God didn't fix you because you were never broken.
Nowadays I am 50 y.o. and the only thing I can tell people is that: Life is short and youth is yet shorter. Waste no time.
You are going to help a lot of guys in your situation by sharing your story. Thank you.
"get it out of my system", "it will go away". You hit the nail on the head. Same thoughts for so many like you and I. it doesn't work that way. God wants us to be good, productive people. Sexual orientation is not important to God-he loves us.
I couldn't have said it better.
Strange, that. I had exactly the same thoughts for so many like I, and like you too. Another weird thing: I know what god thinks too. I know what he wants, when he wants it, and how he wants it done as well. And I really really know what’s important to him. It’s such a shame that many other folks are not as full of certitude as I and you!
@@GarethJefferson Strange how we are alot alike. My life has been good for the most part. But, I kept so much inside and now don't know how to be happy, fulfilled. Kind of lonely at times.
Wow what an amazing man you are. Intelligent, articulate and blisteringly honest.
Wow all of those wasted years with trying to figure things out.... str8 people dont go through this do they damn.
Religion is crippling. If you seek spirituality, you'll find it in nature.... not a church, temple, or mosque.
I think most gay men atleast think if i were str8 it would be easier. But after some time and with the right people around u realize there can be the same happiness no matter the orientation.
No, heteros don't go through this horrible phase but....we are stronger for it.
Thank you Andrew. I am 33 and haven't told my family yet. My friends have known but my family is gonna be tough
Taking the LDS references out, these stories work just as well for me people like me who was raised as a Southern Baptist. I am 71 and lived in that religion trap until I was 41. The God I was being presented with early in my life was so wrong. People had twisted and misinterpreted scripture to suit an certain bias. Love wins every time. Still a believer. Still in church. Still a minister. Still trying to show people a loving God.
You're very sweet and cute. Best of luck to you! ❤️️
You really are blessed. You are a great missionary of God's grace.
Thanks for sharing your story Andrew, I went through pretty much the same thing and also thought I was the only one ever to go through it. It is so relieving to find these videos and stories online to help me not feel alone. It has been just over a year now since my divorce was final after 5 years of marriage. It has taken a lot of time and self-reflection and counseling but I am finally starting to feel good about it all. The love and support of my close friends and family has been really helpful too!
U'r great. I once had an LDS friend and he was so conflicted. I don't know what happened to him but he was very intelligent and educated. I'm hoping he found his balance in life.
+Patrick Batchelder thanks for the comment! Maybe it's time to get in touch with him?
Thanks, but even though he was into older guys I was like his second guy and he went on to figure out his life and we lost connect. Very intelligent guy but having a very hard time with his LDS background. Just hope he's OK now.
Andrew, you are an amazing young man. Thank you for having the courage to share your story with the world. Your video was a great blessing to me.
I had almost the same life , but I’m glad that we both made it through.
A Lighthouse of hope!
I am see this seven years after you made it. I hope your life is good. Most everyone I know have all found their lives got better and as they age they have had good lives. Thanks for putting this out there you never know who it will help. By the way you’re a good looking guy. God bless you
i can relate to a lot of the same things you went through. except one thing, I still can't come out. The thought of disappointing family kills me. Thank you sooooo much for sharing your story, Andrew!
"The thought of disappointing family" may I ask how old you are? If you are over 21 and your family cannot accept accept you for who you are, they don´t deserve a place in your life. You were not born to fulfill other peoples expectations. You know the expression "the gift of life", right? Your parents gave you this gift, they made you who you are. They are not entitled to take that gift away from you.
Very sweet and inspirational young man! Best wishes for a happy & fulfilled life!
I enjoyed watching your video. It was You all along, the one person who made it most difficult to come out to. But, it's ok, see, society made you feel this way. I thought you would never get through it but you finally did. God loves you and so do many others so be strong, proud and live a happy life. Seek your happiness and live. Life is short, share it with someone. Thank you for this video.
Thank you for sharing. Thank you a million.
Food for thoughts
Control and hypocrisy is the backbone of most religions.
So many different stories. I'm amazed.
Thanks so much for sharing your story Andrew. I’m 66 years old and have been out since my twenties but it is still powerful and poignant to me to hear stories like yours. It’s not an easy journey for any of us regardless of our backgrounds or situations. We all relate to the pain you describe. I especially related to the feelings of guilt for leading girls on. And just wanted to say, you are super sexy and seem like a wonderful guy. Hope you have found an equally wonderful boyfriend by now.
Thanks for sharing your story, I really enjoyed listening to you. You tell it with sincerity and depth. It's tragic that the Mormon religion forces people to suppress their true selves and pushes them into marriages which can't be sustained. What a shame that you had to spend over a decade of your life in struggle. You are a really handsome and attractive man. I guess you must be 35 by now ...and I wish you all the very best and hope you have found happiness.
skipping through adolescence
You are an inspiration to me! Thank you so much for sharing your story! Needed to hear it!!
I was married 16 years faithfully! Like you i put it in the back of my mind. Divorced the same year you got married. I’m still not where I need to be but have come out to a few. I’m 51 now! I am taking one day at a time. Best of luck to you Sir.
Keep your head up Andrew - wish I’d met a guy like you when I was in my 20s. You’re marriage material
Thanks bro. Great story.
Thanks for sharing your story. I could relate to some of the things u said.
Andrew, you are to cute for. words.
That aside [wicked smile]
I have had a few experience's - relationships with LDS men, and like you're self they were just tortured souls.
Anyway.....You are still veryu young, so all my best for you to look forward, and feel assured to a great life!!!
Thanks for sharing your story, appreciate it.
Thanks for sharing Dude...
I prayed and never got an answer too bro.
thank you, Andrew
All these stories have many things in common. Basically, realization that you are different, shame, fear to be rejected and bullied, denial, inner struggle, effort to conform to the church or other people's standards, and at the end self acceptance.
Thank you for sharing your story, Andrew!
You overcame a lot of church/community teaching to get where you are. I'm proud that you were finally overcome your community standards and pursue your life as you wish. Nice work!
That was a beautiful story .
Did you ever make peace with the guy whom you suddenly stopped talking to?
Thanks! Have Fun be Free and Love
You discovered that for some reason, " I find guys REALLY HOT !"
Been there !
Great video
You can't really help how you truly feel. I get that.
No one should care because it doesn't matter, and it's none of their damn business to begin with!
I don't even see how anyone should think they need to 'come out.' Who cares what the small thinkers will think?
It's sad that so many are scared shitless of their feelings and bodies, and are compelled to afflict others with what they choose to try to impose what they think one should be due to their own fear, religion, ignorance, or maybe their own damn repressions.
Total bullshit is what that is.
Just be happy and as good as you can be to those in your path through life.
What really taught me to think this way was when a great long time male freind made a move on me, quite shocked, I had to reject it as gently as I could because he was such a great person, and I kind of knew he was probably gay anyway. But it was a hell of an awkward moment.
I remember feeling terrible when I realized the courage it must have taken for him to open up like that and be turned away.
Sadly, he disappeared, and I haven't seen him for many years.
I just hope he's okay, and happy because he absolutely deserves to be.
I can totally relate to your story. Mine is almost identical. Technically, I'm bisexual, so I married my first wife, with the idea in mind, that if I had a woman in bed with me every night, that "maybe" my homosexual attractions would "go away." Naturally, they didn't. I tried praying my homosexuality away, I tried drinking and drugging my homosexuality away, and that didn't work either. I began Prayerfully Studying the Holy Bible, and GOD revealed to me, that HE does NOT make mistakes. And that HE created me to be a bisexual, and really more "gay" than straight. And HE showed me through his word that contrary to popular "man-made religious OPINION" and "false man-made religious Interpretation" that a persons sexual orientation, is not only "not a choice" but it's also "not a sin." And it's also not something that GOD is going to "fix." Because GOD doesn't "fix" what is NOT broken. GOD Bless you on your life's journey.
so true I have done research on this and still am going a journey partially like this and concluded that it is about the emoitiol closeness bond between two people that love each other very much is what God meant to be and those that only like people sexually not emoitally are meant to stay celbercy
Sounds like this guy was only recently out to himself before making this video. I could be wrong but was sensing that he still had a lot of shame...spoke a little halting, couldn’t look into the camera, etc. vid was 3 years ago...hoping this man has done well in the interim and become more comfortable with himself. It was a lot to process in the short time between coming out to himself and making this vid...maybe happened a little too quick. I had a very similar story and becoming comfortable with my self took a while...years and years of learned negativity to get rid of. my heart goes out to him and hope he’s doing well and happy in his life now
thanks for sharing..
Thanks for ur story, its hard to grapple with ur faith in God, and ur sexually feeling. Thanks again
I can sympathise with this young man, knowing that he has been subject to indoctrination by the rigid teachings of the LDS church. I am now 89 years old, but back when I was 25 I came out to my parents who then tried to pressurise me to date a "nice girl" and everything would work out. I can remember saying at the time, "what sort of a life would the girl have with me showing no sexual interest. That stopped the discussion right there! Subsequently I met a nice guy and we were in a relationship for nearly fifty years before he died. My family eventually came to accept the situation. I am grateful that my insights as a young man prevented my having to go through these agonising thought processes.
it would be so nice if SAME SEX ATTRACTION could be so difficult if people feel it, then it must be something.... years of wasted life HIDING GOD BLESS YOU
The sooner humans throw off this whole god thing the better. This god created bacteria that cause tooth decay, and loves them.
i love how you put it, about the tooth decay, ha ha ha.
Problem is you don't see your own sin.
@@patcola7335 Big of you to notice. Smug? Superior? Saved? You have no more insight to the workings of the universe than anyone else. Quote from your bible, and I'll quote from my Superman comics - neither of them are real.
@@Leftatalbuquerque No, not superior in any way shape or form. But to ignore real history and prophecy is foolish.
@@patcola7335 the Old Testament is not history. And prophesy - on what provable science is THAT based? It's as valid as astrology. But then, you are not likely to sway from your superstitions.
thanks andrew
Andrew it's a shame that you felt like you have to throw yourself into your church like that, we are just born that way there's no other way around 😉
good video!!!!!!!!!!
Good man.
Believers will tell you that God doesn't make mistakes; he made you the thoughtful, kind, intelligent person that you are. And, he just happened to make you gay too :o) Unfortunately, some of his followers will try to tell you that you are a mistake, even an "abomination", depending on how they (mis)interpret the Bible. The problem is theirs not yours. Thank you for sharing your story. Yes, some men don't reach this point until they are in their 60's and have been married for 40 years. Your enlightenment came much sooner. Enjoy life; it is very short! Best from Indiana!
Un saluto dall' Italia!
You are very cute and despite you taken a few years to find yourself you still have time to find love.
You were never wrong or broken! Religion can screw so much up! YOU ARE FINE AND GREAT!
No other way around it you seem like such an amazing man, my God I would date you in a heartbeat you have a an amazing aura about you, it just so many amazing men from the salt lake area but you are something else you just seem so amazingI haven't finished watching your video yet I just had to comment,you're you're somebody I would love to have a conversation with!!!!😊
Bad enough to fuck up one person's life.... but worse where another innocent person's (woman's) life is concerned. Don't drink the Kool-Aid!!!
Andrew, just as an OBTW, you are not slow or out of the ordinary in any way for the way you treated your recognition of being gay; trying to bury or outgrow that ‘phase;’ hoping ‘the right girl’ could save you from your homosexual attractions; thinking that you could and should marry...all of it. Many of have walked that same path.
Years ago there was the ‘men’s movement’ in California (80s - 90s) and it was a sort of priesthood for secular guys who wanted to be close to other men of all orientations. I met many men who had married, stayed married, raised families, and were finally ready to lift the veil on their innate sexuality in their fifties and sixties.
So, relax. Be you. Love yourself. There’s a lot to love under your hat.
You’re strong. You will be fine. Look for the real you and invite that guy into your life.
Soon enough, you will find someone to genuinely love with a love you haven’t
discovered up to now. And, he will be lucky to find you.
Salt Lake, I think this is not going to go very well hopefully I’m wrong
he didn't say the word "gay" anywhere in the entire 16+ minute video. ....that's just odd.
I hate the word "same sex attracted"
Well honney I'm 41, never is late, I wish to have your brevenes to coming out, but I just think theres not reason to do it though...!
this is just so sad....
Imagine a church pretending to know what God wants and with that destroying so many lives. Shame on them.
I thank God EVERY DAY, that my gay never went away.
It took me years of dating and one broken engagement to a woman, along with reaching the age of thirty, before I was able to fully accept my homosexuality and come out. A deeply conservative and religious upbringing creates a personal hell of self-hatred when you are taught from day one that who you are is an ugly abomination. Like you, I was pleasantly surprised at the level of acceptance my family and friends gave me when I finally worked up the courage to come out. Now, at age 55, I am happily married to my wonderful husband of 12 years and life couldn’t be better! Sometimes I regret the lost years of my youth that I spent in stubborn denial and internalized homophobic torture, but, considering how good things are now, I’m convinced the path we take and where we end up happens exactly the way it should. Thanks for telling your story and best wishes to you.
When you're growing up, you hear homophobic comments and words from everyone, - family and friends. Then one day it hits you - they're talking about me! That's when the panic and shame starts. Oh my God, how do I get out of this situation? Am I gonna be like this forever? Why is this happening to me? Then you realise that you have 3 options; 1) Commit suicide. 2) Tell everyone and risk being disowned, ridiculed and even beaten up - sometimes by family. 3) Disappear, go somewhere new and start your life again as the real you. You hear people say "It's a phase, it'll pass". But then you realise that no phase lasts that long and then the realisation that you are stuck like this forever. There's no escape and no changing who you essentially are. When I came out, I had to drop a few 'friends' who suddenly didn't like me for what I had never done before. They just hated me. Getting them out of my life was the first step and I surrounded myself with people I could/can trust. My father took a very long time to accept me, even though I really felt that he never did. My mother and sisters were fine about it. My mother gave me a big hug and said "It changes nothing, you're still my baby boy" My younger sister is very protective of me and if anyone is homophobic to me in her presence, then God save their soul, she is ferocious. At the end of the day, LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO PRETEND, MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY FIRST. THEN MAKE OTHER PEOPLE HAPPY. Sometimes you have to be selfish. If someone can't accept you, cut them out of your life (That includes family members and so-called friends) Now I feel NO SHAME. I LIKE COCK - deal with it - this is my attitude now. Don't let names and words upset you. Yeah, I'm a fag - and what?!? DEAL WITH IT OR FUCK OFF!!!!!!!
As a straight female, you need to tell every girl whose heart you broke why you couldn't commit to them ' because you were and are gay. Each of them will feel SO much better.
These ppl never seem to just accept the fact that there is no good reason to keep going back to a religion that hates them...its not a god....it's man ...for lack of a better phrase ... take the good parts with you ...the hell with friends and elders that cannot see the error of their ways....that said one doesn't have to be mormon to have very similar experiences
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LDS is Latter Day Saints ?
Yes akamormons.in UTAH state salt lake city is their HQ. ALOT of 👍👍🎤🎵🎶🎼🎻🎹🎷🎺musicians.
What is his last name?
What's LDS?
Latter day saints.Aka mormons.SALT LAKE CITY State of Utah is their HQ. ALOT OF👍👍👍🎤🎵🎶🎼🎻🎸🎺🎷🎹musicians.😊
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It's "Wiring" . The end.
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He recognized that he had same sex attraction. He lived in denial. He tried running away from it by doing all the things that people deem “normal” like dating girls. Dating girls didn’t work out. He came to terms with being gay. Came out to family who were supportive. The end. I just saved you almost 17 minutes of torture. You’re welcome.
How'd you get to be so fine!
Dude, God does not create rubbish. Gay is OK
Reading your sentence here I thought it was going to go in an entirely different way. I am glad it turned out alright, haha.
He´s hot does it have instagram
Beautiful guy - but strange. You would expect him to end by saying how he's begun to date guys and how things have turned out. I'd like to know more ! All that effort directed at the girls. What about all those gay guys out there. He's a nice and attractive man.
Did you ever blame God and or mad at him for doing this to you?
I have a similar question. God knew I am gay at birth. So all the pain, rejection & loneliness...Why?
Canta Libre For myself, I’m not certain I ever blamed God as much as I suffered in many ways. Tried to pray the gay away. There was a point as a young man that came very close to suicide for many reasons.
Over many years, and from guidance from three wonderful pastors, I came to some truths and realizations. Fred isn’t broken and God doesn’t make mistakes.
It did happen and was not a good time in life. All very true.
God isn't doing anything bad to you. The people that are homophobic are giving you the massive fear of coming out. Shame on them. Not God.
OMG, I know from experience you LDS guys are a mess, if you meet one, run as fast and far as you can!
You are doing what many people do when public speaking. Using the phrase 'You know" over and over. Your story is inspiring but try to conciencessly correct that.
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